And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins. (1 Peter 4:8)

Give instruction to a youth about his way,
Even when he is old he turneth not from it. (Proverbs 22:6, YLTHB)

Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever. (1 John 2:15-17)

If your life would have guidance and strength to follow that guidance, then you will find that in the Word of God.
If you would have your marriage to be what it would be, what God would have it to be, then search the Scriptures daily.
If you would have your children to grow up and be anything but rebels, then teach them the World of God.
If you would have financial success in business, then work and operate your business according to the Word of God. -- D. James Kennedy

Contents: Chapter 7, "Family Life, Education, Church and Work" (parts 1 and 2), interactive

SINGLENESS
PRE-MARITAL COUNSEL
MARRIAGE
Family Worship
Marital Counseling
Domestic Duties
Problem Solving in Marriage
Spouse an Unbeliever
Birth Control
Abortion and the Sanctity of Life
Post-abortion Counseling
Stillborn and Miscarriage
Infertility
SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP
Sexual Wholeness
Counseling for Sex Related Problems
Gratuitous Sex, a Cause of Violence
PARENTING
Fatherhood
Motherhood
Sharing Christ With Your Children
Teaching Children
Counsel for Young Men
Counsel for Young Women
Disciplining Children
Problem Solving With Children
Counseling Children
Sex Education
Protecting Children From Dangers
Preparing Children for the World
Single Parenting
Christian Literature for Boys and Girls
FAMILY
Counseling the Family
Family Management
HOLIDAYS
CHRISTMAS
Theater, Sports, and Entertainment
TEENS
Teens and Parents
Counseling Teens
Courtship
Teens and Sex
Finding the Perfect Parent in God
Teens Coping With the World
EDUCATION
Home Schooling
Public Schools
Chapter 7 (part 1) Related WebLinks (part 1)

Part 2

Teaching
THE LOCAL CHURCH
Local Church History
The Local Church and Counseling
Church Discipline
Small Groups and the Local Church
The Laity
Churches That Abuse
Church Leadership
Reform of the Church
Church History
Interpersonal Relations in the Local Church
RESOURCES FOR STUDENTS
CHRISTIANITY IN THE WORKPLACE
LEADERSHIP
THE MILITARY
DIVORCE
Reconciliation of Marriage Partners
Avoiding Divorce
The Church and Divorce
Divorce
Children of Divorce
Rebuilding
Remarriage
Stepfamilies
Chapter 7 (part 2) Related WebLinks

Combined Interactive Contents for The Web Edition of Biblical Counsel: Resources for Renewal
http://www.lettermen2.com/combtoc.html

Chapter 7 (part 1)
Family Life, Education, Church, and Work

Ankerberg, John, and John Weldon The Myth of Safe Sex: The Devastating Consequences of Violating God's Plan

*Crawford, Dan R. (compiler), Single Adults: Resource and Recipients for Revival [10477]

*Foster, David Kyle, Sexual Healing: God's Plan for the Sanctification of Broken Lives: A Reference Manual for Ministering to Those Trapped in Sexual Sin and Brokenness (Jacksonville, FL [Mastering Life Ministries, P.O. Box 351149, Jacksonville 32235]: Mastering Life Ministries, 1997).
This is a unique work and the best resource known to the compiler offering biblical counsel for healing sexual brokenness. See "Foundations" and "Divine Intent for Sexuality" for a biblical explanation of the spiritual significance of sexuality. These two chapters alone make the purchase of the book worthwhile. Includes chapters, study guides, and exercises for Root sources for improper sexual development, Sexual identity confusion, Child sex abuse, Sexual addition, Pornography, Masturbation, voyeurism and exhibitionism, Why people remain in sexual sin and bondage, Failure and self-condemnation, A comprehensive game plan for sexual healing, and so forth. Indexed, 398 pages, includes bibliography.
Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

Andrews, Gini, Sons of Freedom: God and the Single Man (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House, 1979, c1975). 70001

Andrews, Gini, Your Half of the Apple: God and the Single Girl (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House, 1979, c1975). 70002
Foreword by Francis A. Schaeffer.

Baker, Yvonne G., Successfully Single (Denver, CO: Accent Books, 1985). [40039]

Brown, Raymond K., Reach Out to Singles: A Challenge to Ministry (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1979). 70003
"Examines the hard questions single people are asking, and attempts to provide candid and helpful answers. An important resource for pastors and those who work with single people in the church." -- Cyril J. Barber

Caldwell, Genevieve, First Person, Singular [40040]

Clarkson, Margaret, So You're Single! [40041]

Colman, Barry (editor), Sex and the Single Christian: Candid Conversations [70081]

*Havergal, Frances, Kept for the Master's Use (Grand Rapids, MI: Kregel Publications). 40001
"If ever a woman lived her whole life as if she were married to Christ, it is Frances Havergal. Her every breath was drawn for Him, and so her every utterance breathed of Him . . . You will thrill to her expressions of praise. And when she leads us to a dedicated Christian life, we find it compelling. By all means read this book. You will never forget it." -- Jay P. Green, Sr. A Christian classic.

Jepson, Sarah Ann, For the Love of Singles [40043]

Lum, Ada, Single and Human [40044]

Mowday, Lois, The Snare: Avoiding Emotional and Sexual Entanglements [70088]

Poythress, V., Marriage and Singleness; Marriage [30367]

Rinck, Margaret, Christian Men Who Hate Women [40074]

Ryle, J.C., Thoughts for Young Men: An Exhortation Directed to Those in the Prime of Life (South Pines, NC: Calvary Press, 1991). 70004A
Thoughts for Young Men by J. C. Ryle (1816-1900)
http://www.iserv.net/~mrbill/espan/young01.html

Smith, Virginia W., The Single Parent, revised, updated, and expanded (Old Tappan, NJ: Fleming H. Revell, 1983). 70005

Stafford, Tim, Find the Right One: Twenty Questions Before You Marry (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers). 70006
"A short and to-the-point booklet that could be a real help to those about to marry, or those who wonder about marriage at all." -- GCB

Stark, Jeff, Fathers Bringing Up Their Children (parts 1-5) [30410]

Stark, Jeff, Single Parenting (part 1) [30415]

Stark, Jeff, Single Parenting (part 2) [30416]

Vincent, Thomas, 1634-1678, Christ the best husband: or An invitation of young women unto Christ. Delivered in a sermon to young women. By Thomas Vincent, minister sometime of Maudlins Milkstreet, London, 1672, EEBO.

See also: Sexual relationship, Abstinence, Child abuse, Counsel for young men, Reconciliation of relationships, Forgiveness, Unforgiveness, Gratuitous sex, a cause of violence

Related WebLinks

True Love Waits
http://www.truelovewaits.com/

Sex Respect
http://www.sexrespect.com/default2.html

Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

Single Parenting WebLinks
http://rampages.onramp.net/~bevhamil/singleparentresourcece_478.html

Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

Purposefull Singleness
http://www.singleness.org/index.html

PRE-MARITAL COUNSEL

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*Bonar, Horatius, The Everlasting Righteousness or How Shall Man Be Just With God? (Carlisle, PA: The Banner of Truth Trust).
"First published in 1874, THE EVERLASTING RIGHTEOUSNESS, may be the best book on the doctrine of justification by faith alone ever written. -- John W. Robbins
"Since the seventeenth century, the church's adherence to the central doctrine of the Christian faith has been weakening; in the twentieth century it has all but disappeared. But to those who remain faithful -- to those who are called of God --justification by faith alone is the best news there could ever be: that Christ died for our sins, and we shall live forever because of Christ's righteousness.
"Justification by faith alone -- the `principal hinge of religion,' according to John Calvin, the `doctrine by which the church stands or falls,' according to Martin Luther -- is salvation. Without it, all hope is lost; with it, Heaven gained. Bonar's discussion is without equal in the English language." -- John W. Robbins
The Banner of Truth edition is available free as e-text.
The Everlasting Righteousness, Horatius Bonar
http://www.jude3.net/bertoc.htm

Defoe, Daniel, Conjugal Lewdness, or Matrimonial Whoredom

Engelsma, David, Better To Mary: Sex and Marriage in Corinthians 6 and 7

*Engelsma, David, Marriage, the Mystery of Christ and the Church (Grand Rapids, MI: Reformed Free Publishing Association). [10296]
"Engelsma is a pastor in the Protestant Reformed Church, and also is editor of their paper, The Standard Bearer. The chapters in this book were preached as sermons in the author's church at Loveland, Colorado. Engelsma sees the corruption of the sacred institution of marriage as being a cause of myriads of the evils that abound in our day. He says, `There is the bitter misery of soul that shatters those who have been unfaithful and that leads to drink, drugs, nervous breakdown, and even suicide. . . . The author does a good job of expounding Ephesians 5:31,32, `This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.' He explains that this `mystery' has to do with the intimacy and oneness of a truly married couple. And this typifies the `underlying reality of the union of Christ with His Church'." -- Jay P. Green, Sr.

*Eyrich, Howard, Three To Get Ready: Premarital Counseling Manual , second revised and expanded edition (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Book House, 1991) 20538
"A manual on premarital counseling presenting a step-by-step guide through the major areas to be covered. Chock full of practical advice. Jay Adams says: `Here it is! The premarital counseling guide you have been waiting for'."

*Finley, Martha, Book 2: Elsie's Holidays at Roselands
"When Elsie's father becomes ill, she takes on the job of nurse-companion, and all goes well until Elsie, because it is the Sabbath, as a matter of conscience refuses to read to him from a secular book. The battle of wills that ensues nearly causes first her father's death, and then Elsie's. Lonely Elsie -- punished, ostracized, and then abandoned by her father -- turns to her heavenly Father for comfort and assurance. Will her father realize that Elsie's obedience to God must be paramount, and submit himself to the same Divine Authority?" -- Publisher's Annotation
Holidays at Roselands (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14280

*Foster, David Kyle, Sexual Healing: God's Plan for the Sanctification of Broken Lives: A Reference Manual for Ministering to Those Trapped in Sexual Sin and Brokenness (Jacksonville, FL [Mastering Life Ministries, P.O. Box 351149, Jacksonville 32235]: Mastering Life Ministries, 1997).
This is a unique work and the best resource known to the compiler offering biblical counsel for healing sexual brokenness. See "Foundations" and "Divine Intent for Sexuality" for a biblical explanation of the spiritual significance of sexuality. These two chapters alone make the purchase of the book worthwhile. Includes chapters, study guides, and exercises for Root sources for improper sexual development, Sexual identity confusion, Child sex abuse, Sexual addition, Pornography, Masturbation, voyeurism and exhibitionism, Why people remain in sexual sin and bondage, Failure and self-condemnation, A comprehensive game plan for sexual healing, and so forth. Indexed, 398 pages, includes bibliography.
Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

*Garland, Diana S. Richmond, and David E. Garland, Beyond Companionship: Christians in Marriage (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1986). 40075
"After carefully examining New Testament sources, the authors conclude that truly Christian marriage must be a companionship of equal persons. But they go further, affirming that companionship is not enough, because Christian marriage must be an active partnership of equals working together to fulfill the divine purpose." -- David and Vera Mace

*Harris, Joshua, and Shannon Harris, Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtship
"Joshua Harris follows up his bestselling I KISSED DATING GOODBYE with BOY MEETS GIRL, the story of how he met and married his wife, Shannon. Where Harris's first book encouraged readers to throw off modern ideas of romantic fixation, BOY MEETS GIRL goes to the next level and urges single Christian men and women to pursue courtship, and ultimately marriage, thoughtfully and prayerfully. Knowing that many readers will balk at the idea of premeditated courtship, Harris insists that dating should not be emotional recreation but rather a careful decision rooted in obedience to God. While the anecdotes used to reveal true-to-life scenarios about dating pitfalls are somewhat elementary (and geared to those in their 20s), Harris succeeds in hammering home the point that obedience to God's word, selfless love, community, purity, and satisfaction in God are the most important aspect of any relationship. The last section of the book is particularly practical, discussing forgiveness of past sexual sin, questions to ask before tying the knot, and how an understanding of our sinful nature can lead to conflict resolution. For Harris's mere twentysomething years of life experience, his maturity and devotion to God are sincere evidence that he has indeed practiced what he has preached, resulting in a passionate relationship with the love of his life." -- Jill Heatherly

Hurley, James B., Man and Woman in Biblical Perspective [60299]
"This is an excellent study of the roles of men and women in Old Testament, New Testament and Inter-Testamental times. Roles covered include family life, commercial, managerial, governmental and religious. Except for the inter-testamental period, the analysis sticks strictly to the scriptures and is very objective. When the subject of religious roles is discussed, the author, who is a member of the Presbyterian Church in America (PCA) denomination, is careful to define modern church offices in terms of their New Testament counterparts.
"Mr. Hurley is well qualified for this inquiry since he has a doctorate in Pauline Theology and also extensive experience in marriage counseling.
"I found the book to be very helpful as I went through the process of deciding whether ordination of women was an approved biblical practice." -- Reader Comment

James, John Angell, Addresses to Young Men (Soli Deo Gloria Pubns)
"James, the author of FEMALE PIETY, one of our bestselling books, also wrote this one for young men. Though the situations about which he wrote in the 19th century may be a bit outdated, the biblical principles and insights he brings out are as relevant today as they were a thousand years ago." -- Publisher's Annotation

James, John Angell, Female Piety or the Young Woman's Friend and Guide Through Life to Immortality (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications).

*James, John Angell, The Marriage Ring
"This little volume is intended as a manual for those just entering the marriage state. John Angel James (1785-1859) was an author beloved and esteemed for his many practical writings. He remarks, `It is an unquestionable truth that if a man be not happy at home, he cannot be happy anywhere; and he who is happy there need be miserable nowhere. The secret of happiness lies folded up in the leaves of the Bible and is carried in the bosom of religion.' He treats of the foundation of the marriage union, the family circle, the mutual and special duties of husband and wife." -- Gospel Union

Kennedy, D. James, Learning to Live With the People You Love (Springdale, PA: Whitaker House, 1987). [31344]
Love "is sharing life together in a way that brings glory to God and enriches the lives of every family member." Dr. Kennedy says no book he has written has brought so many comments as this one. Read this in conjunction with Dr. Kennedy's 6-message audio cassette series "Secrets of Successful Marriages," the audio cassette message "Why Some Marriages Fail and Others Succeed," and the 4-message audio cassette series "The Christian Marriage Series."

*Lockyer, Herbert, All the Promises of the Bible
"A devotional expositional compilation of all the promises [about 3,300 of the approximate 8,810 promises - SK] that are found in Scripture." -- Synopsis
"Dr. Herbert Lockyer was born in London in 1886, and held pastorates in Scotland and England for 25 years before coming to the United States in 1935. In 1937 he received the honorary Doctor of Divinity degree from Northwestern Evangelical Seminary. In 1955 he returned to England where he lived for many years. He then returned to the United States where he continued to devote time to the writing ministry until his death in November of 1984." -- Publisher's Annotation

*Miles, Herbert J., Sexual Understanding Before Marriage [70064]

Mack, Wayne A., and Nathan A. Mack, Preparing for Marriage God's Way (New York, NY: Springer Publishing Company, Inc., 1986) 70010
"A workbook and guide for those who are going to be married. . . ." -- GCB "A workbook that gives you `seven basic tools for a successful marriage. It enables you to: [1] assess your marital readiness; [2] know the other person for what he/she really is; [3] uncover any current problems and pinpoint future ones; [4] understand the solutions for both current and future difficulties; [5] develop skills for communication and conflict resolution; [6] prevent future heartache; and [7] prepare for a satisfying, fulfilling and God-honoring marriage.' Thirteen chapters, each with a couple of pages of teaching and then questionnaires, inventories and Bible studies designed to help readers make personal application. -- David Powlison
"PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE GOD'S WAY guides you to an understanding of what to do when the glow of courtship must be replaced by the daily responsiblility of marriage." -- Ingram

*Marshall, Walter, 1628-1680, The Gospel-Mystery of Sanctification (London, England: Oliphants Press, 1956, 1692 and Grand Rapids [Reformation Heritage Books, 2919 Leonard NE 49505] MI: Reformation Heritage Books, Inc., 1999).
The Reformation Heritage Books edition is a reprint of the 1954 edition set by Oliphants and includes an introduction by Joel R. Beeke. Also includes the author's famous sermon on "The Doctrine of Justification Opened and Applied."
Also available from Trinity Book Service and . [10363]
"Here you will read the most closely reasoned defense of scriptural sanctification to be found anywhere. . . . Fourteen directions are given to the reader, all perfected with the aim of explaining to sincere souls what sanctification is, what it is not, and how to attain a holy walk before God. . . ." -- Jay P. Green, Sr.
The Secret of Sanctification: Union With Christ: Walter Marshall's Gospel Mystery of Sanctification, Joel R. Beeke
http://www.heritagebooks.org/browse.asp?searchMode=author&searchString=marshall&x=20&y=8
The Gospel-Mystery of Sanctification, Walter Marshall
http://www.lettermen2.com/gmswm.html

Mason, Michael, The Mystery of Marriage: As Iron Sharpens Iron (Portland, OR: Multnomah Press, 1986) 70039
"An outstanding achievement, rarely has a new book roused in me so much enthusiasm as has the combination of wisdom, depth, dignity, and glow that I find in these chapters. . . ." -- J.I. Packer
"This book stands out as a brilliant celebration of the God-ordained union between man and wife. It explores the mystical and holy nature of marriage with a depth that will forever alter how a couple relates to each other - and to God." -- Ingram

Miles, Herbert J., The Dating Game (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House, 1975). 70011

*Perkins, William, 1558-1602, Christian oeconomie, or, A short survey of the right manner of erecting and ordering a familie according to the Scriptures first written in Latine by the author M. W. Perkins ; and now set forth in the vulgar tongue for more common vse and benefit by Tho. Pickering ..., 1609, Still Waters Revival Books, EEBO.
See "Christian oeconomie, or, A short survey of the right manner of erecting and ordering a familie according to the Scriptures."
Puritan Bookshelf CD-ROM (Volume Nine)
http://www.swrb.com/Puritan/puritan-bookshelf-CDs.htm

*Powlison, David, and John Yenchko, Pre-Engagement: Five Questions to Ask Yourself (Resources for Changing Lives Series).

Rank, Maureen Dealing With the Dad of Your Past
"Practical, biblical counsel for every woman.
"Although fathers are not the only determining influence in their daughters' lives, it is true that their impact at times may be the most ignored. Current research shows that a girl's relationship with her father is absolutely critical to her psychological, social, and spiritual development. This is grim news to a group of people whom psychologists are labeling, `The Fatherless Generation.' Physically absent dads (the current experience of one-fourth of American children under 18), emotionally absent dads, and abusive dads are impacting daughters as well as sons.
"God as Father designed earthly fathers to model His loving care through personal involvement, warmth, discipline, and wise direction and counsel toward maturity. Where these are lacking in a daughter's life, profound effects occur. As difficult as that may be to face, that process is the only way to emotional and spiritual wholeness. It requires a sometimes painful look back and honest assessment of the dad of the past. It means coming to terms with who he really was, who he wasn't, and what can be done about it now. Through God's restoring process, daughters will be challenged to embrace the One perfect Father who is always there and allow His life-changing truth and power to `make all things new'." -- Publisher's Annotation

Ryle, J.C., Holiness: Its Nature, Hindrances, Difficulties, and Roots (London, England: Evangelical Press). 20431
"Ryle, like his great masters, has no easy way to holiness to offer us, and no `patent' method by which it can be obtained; but he invariably produces that `hunger and thirst after righteousness' which is the only indispensable condition to being `filled'." -- D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones
"Newly typeset edition from Evangelical Press with preface done by J.I. Packer. Complete and unabridged." -- GCB
Holiness: Its Nature, Hindrances, Difficulties, and Roots J.C. Ryle
http://www.e4.net

Stark, J., Are You Ready For Marriage? (parts 1-4) [30409]

Sowell, Thomas A Conflict of Visions (William Morrow and Co.).
"Controversies in politics arise from many sources, but the conflicts that endure for generations or for centuries show a remarkably consistent pattern. The analysis of this pattern is the purpose of A CONFLICT OF VISIONS. Its theme is that the enduring political controversies of the past two centuries reflect radically different visions of the nature of man. Issues as diverse as criminal justice, income distribution, or war and peace repeatedly show those with one vision lining up on one side and those with another vision lining up on the other.
"Dr. Thomas Sowell describes A CONFLICT OF VISIONS as `the culmination of thirty years of work in the history of ideas' -- a field in which he established his professional reputation years before writing any of his well-known books on ethnicity and other social issues. Dr. Sowell and his books have received a number of awards and honors, and have been translated into several languages. He has been a consultant to three administrations of both parties, as well as scholar-in-residence at three "think tanks." He is now a Senior Fellow at the Hoover Institute in Stanford, California." -- Book Description

*Swanson, Andrew Whom Shall I Marry?
"Andrew Swanson writes with sensitivity on the struggles and difficulties young people from various cultures face in regard to the choice of a life mate. He writes about the ways in which God guides and directs those whose central desire is to do his will." -- Publisher's Annotation

Terkelsen, Helen E., I'm Going to Have a Baby and I'm Not Married 40223

Vincent, Thomas, 1634-1678, Christ the best husband: or An invitation of young women unto Christ. Delivered in a sermon to young women. By Thomas Vincent, minister sometime of Maudlins Milkstreet, London, 1672, EEBO.

*Watson, Thomas, The Doctrine of Repentance (Puritan Paperback Series. Carlisle, PA: The Banner of Truth Trust), EEBO.
"Knowing what repentance is, and actually repenting are essentials to true Christianity. Jesus Christ himself said that if we do not repent, we will perish! It is vital, therefore, to read and study what Scripture has to say about this theme.
"Few better guides have existed in this or any other language. . . . He was a master of both Scripture and the human heart, and wrote with a simplicity and directness that keeps his work fresh and powerful for the twentieth century." -- Publisher's Annotation
The Doctrine of Repentance, excerpts
Online etext.
http://www.fivesolas.com/watson/drepenti.htm

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Couples: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Newlyweds: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion (Bible Promises to Treasure)

*Wilson, Bunny, Liberated by Submission
Submission is the whole thing, submission to God, the Ultimate Judge, Lawgiver, Holiness, and submission to others. The caveat -- everyone tries to play god, and thus interferes with what God is doing, thus the need for discerning submission.
"Liberated through submission has given me the boldness to stand up and say that my desire is to be a submitted wife and the reasons why. Before I read this book, I sat silently when other women exploded about the forbidden `s' word. The Bible tells us clearly to submit and I did, as an act of obedience to God, however, I did not like it. As a result of reading Bunny's book, not only do I want to submit, but I recognize that I cannot afford not to. I am now "Liberated" because submission allows me to step back and watch God move. . . ! -- Reader Comment

See also: Justification, Sexual relationship, Christian liberty, Men, women and god, The doctrine of man, Abuse (women), Child abuse, Fatherlessness, Abstinence, Christian counseling and educational foundation, Westminster media, Works of Jay Adams, and Audio cassettes, CCEF speakers, Child abuse, Sexual wholeness, Marriage, Singleness, Gratuitous sex, a cause of violence, Counsel for young men, Counsel for young women, Pseudo-christian movements, Soul-violence, Churches that abuse, Divorce, Hostility, Homosexuality, Incest, Rape, Sex education, Pornography

Related WebLinks

Nouthetic Counseling Home Page -- Competent to Counsel
http://www.lifeisworship.com/nanc/index.htm

National Association of Nouthetic Counselors (NANC)
5526 State Road 26 East
Lafayette, IN 47905

Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation
http://www.ccef.org/
Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation (CCEF)
1803 East Willow Grove Avenue
Glenside, PA 19038
Telephone: 215.884.7676

Institute of Biblical Counseling and Discipleship (formerly CCEF West)
http://www.ibcd.org/

Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

MARRIAGE

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Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it. (Psalms 127:1a)

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. (Ephesians 5:31)

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. (Hebrews 13:4)

Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it. (Ephesians 5:21,22,25)

And when all things shall be subdued unto him, then shall the Son also himself be subject unto him that put all things under him, that God may be all in all. (1 Corinthians 15:28)

God's promises to married persons deepens their love for each other.

"As God by creation made two of one, so again by marriage He made one of two." -- Thomas Adams

"Woman takes her being from man, man takes his well-being from woman." -- Thomas Adams

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates. (Religion [holiness] is the root of happiness. Piety has charms which abide in all their freshness when mere fleshly beauty has given place to the wrinkles of old age. May the new household be founded in prayer, built up in holiness, and crowned with the divine blessing.) -- C.H. Spurgeon commenting on Proverbs 31:30, 31 in Spurgeon's Devotional Bible, p. 778.

Adams, Jay E., Marriage and Family Life (part 1): Purpose of Companionship, Cleaving (part 1) [30049A]

Adams, Jay E., Marriage and Family Life (part 2): Headship, Husband's Helper, Submission (part 2) [30050]

Adams, Jay E., Marriage and Family Life (part 3): Discipline, Motivation, Good for Evil (part 3) [30051]

Adams, Jay E., Role-Play and Critique (part 3) [30066]

Adams, Jay E., Role-Play and Critique (part 4) [30067]

Adams, Jay E., The Role of Father in the Home [30084]

Adams, Jay E., The Role of Husband in the Home [30085]

Baxter, Richard, A Breviate of the Life of Margaret, the Daughter of Francis Charlton of Apply in Shropshire Esq.; and Wife of Richard Baxter. For the use of all, but especially of their Kindred. There is also Published the Character of her Mother, truly described in her Published Funeral Sermon. Reprinted at her Daughter's Request, called `The Last Word of a Believer, His passing-prayer, recommending his departing Spirit to Christ, to be received by him (London, England: Printed for B. Simmons at the Three Golden Cocks at the West-end of St. Paul's, 1681). OCLC 33455414.
Microfilmed by The Folger Shakespearian Library in 1995. FILM Fo. 4078.6 Microfilm (Washington, DC: Folger Shakespeare Library, 1995). 1 microfilm reel; 35 mm. Negative microfilm of Folger copy, B1194 (12:1, 10 ft.).

*Baxter, Richard, A Christian Directory: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1 (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 1997, 1990, 1838, 1707, 1678, 1673), EEBO. See Reformation Bookshelf CD #21 (Still Waters Revival Books). 30934
This Soli Deo Gloria publication is a facsimile reprint of the 19th century reprint by George Virtue, London. Foreword by J.I. Packer.
The original 1673 edition and the 1678 edition, both printed by Robert White for Nevill Simmons, are available on microfilm (Ann Arbor, MI.: University Microfilms, 1970). 1 microfilm reel. 35 mm. (Early English books, 1641-1700; 343:11)
Also available in Cerlox bound photocopy from Still Waters Revival Books, Edmonton, AB, Canada.
The full title is: A Christian Directory: or A Sum of Practical Theology, and Cases of Conscience. Directing Christians How to Use Their Knowledge and Faith; How to Improve all Helps and Means, and to Perform all Duties; How to Overcome Temptations, and to Escape or Mortify Every Sin. In Four Parts.
I. Christian Ethics (or Private Duties)
II. Christian Economics (or Family Duties)
III. Christian Ecclesiastics (or Church Duties)
IV. Christian Politics (or Duties to Our Rulers and Neighbours)
"Though relatively weak on corporate sanctification, corporate faithfulness and some important areas of doctrine (such as justification), Baxter's work on subjects related to personal piety can be of good practical use to the Christian -- if one is careful to separate out his aberrant doctrinal views and any practical errors they may lead to." -- SWRB
" Ptacek in Family Worship (p. 51-52), supplies the following information in regard to Baxter and this book. He notes that after the Episcopalians ejected numerous `nonconformists,' in what is know as the `great ejection,' in 1662, `Baxter pastored from house to house, visiting families of his parish in their homes. These visits contributed to Baxter's A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, a large and still very relevant manual of pastoral care.' Focusing on just one area of great importance, Ptacek demonstrates how this book's relevance is not limited by time or culture, though sometimes the use of specific words are. `Published in 1673, but written 1664-65, a large book-length part of Baxter's CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY is devoted to the family. It is entitled `Christian Economics' based on the archaic usage of the word, which reflects the proper sense of the Greek root oikonomos as the manager of a household, in the Christian case, the spiritual leader of the family. The family head is essential to Baxter's view of family worship and instruction. Baxter asserts that it is God's will that this instruction be carried out by the rulers of the families.' For a male head of the household to fail to do so, or to have another instruct in the family, is contrary to his position of authority.' This is the kind of book that can be passed on from generation to generation and still find much use in the service of the kingdom of God." -- SWRB
The Richard Baxter Page
http://members.aol.com/augusteen/Baxter.html

Baxter, Richard. The practical works of the late reverend and pious Mr. Richard Baxter, in four volumes. With a preface; giving some account of the author, and of this edition ... Together with alphabetical tables to each volume. Vol. 4. London, 1707. 4 vols. (ECCO) Gale Document Number CW3320004273

Bilezikian, Gilbert, Beyond Sex Roles: A Guide for the Study of Female Roles in the Bible [40067]

Bouma, Mary LaGrand, Creative Homemaker (Minneapolis, MN: Bethany Fellowship, 1973). 70025

Clark, Stephen B., Man and Woman in Christ: An Examination of the Roles of Men and Women in Light of Scripture and the Social Sciences [60298]

Defoe, Daniel, Conjugal Lewdness, or Matrimonial Whoredom

Engelsma, David, Marriage, the Mystery of Christ and the Church [10296]

Everett, Angela, Loving Someone Else's Child [70589]

*Garland, Diana S., Richmond Garland, and David E. Garland, Beyond Companionship: Christians in Marriage [40075]

*Gill, John, Exposition of the Song of Solomon [30636]

*Guernsey, Dennis B., Thoroughly Married (Dallas, TX: Word Publishing, 1976). 70020
"A clear delineation of the way in which a proper understanding of the Bible's teaching on marriage contributes toward the development of a stable life-style, a healthier sex life, and a happier home." -- Cyril J. Barber

Grimm, Robert, Love and Sexuality [70085]

Harris, J. Gordon, Biblical Perspectives on Aging: God and the Elderly [80071]

Hint, Keith, and Gladys Hint, We Need Each Other [20298]

Hurley, J., Christ as the Husband, The Church as the Bride [10210]

Hurley, J., Headship and Submission in Ephesians 5 [30203]

*Kennedy, D. James, Learning to Live With the People You Love (Springdale, PA: Whitaker House, 1987). [31344]
Love "is sharing life together in a way that brings glory to God and enriches the lives of every family member." Dr. Kennedy says no book he has written has brought so many comments as this one. Read this in conjunction with Dr. Kennedy's 6-message audio cassette series "Secrets of Successful Marriages," the audio cassette message "Why Some Marriages Fail and Others Succeed," and the 4-message audio cassette series "The Christian Marriage Series."

*Knight, George W., The Role Relationship of Men and Women [40071]

Mack, Wayne, Developing Deeper Unity in Marriage (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 70036
A series of six audio cassettes.

Mack, Wayne, How to Develop Deep Unity in the Marriage Relationship (Philadelphia, PA: The Presbyterian and Reformed Publishing Co.). 70037
"A manual to be used by husband and wife together. Step-by-step lessons, with appropriate exercises, take a couple through all the important scriptural aspects of marriage. Extremely helpful . . . very practical." Three units of this work are now available. Contains material useful in counseling.

Mack, Wayne, Strengthening Your Marriage (Philadelphia, PA: The Presbyterian and Reformed Publishing Co.). 70038

Mason, Michael, The Mystery of Marriage: As Iron Sharpens Iron (Portland, OR: Multnomah Press, 1986). 70039
"An outstanding achievement, rarely has a new book roused in me so much enthusiasm as has the combination of wisdom, depth, dignity, and glow that I find in these chapters
. . . . For the freshness and force with which [Mason] spells out the magnificence of marriage in God's plan I am deeply grateful." -- J.I. Packer

Miles, Herbert J., Sexual Happiness in Marriage [70087]

Miles, Herbert J., and Fern Harrington Miles, Husband-Wife Equality (Old Tappan, NJ: Fleming H. Revell, 1976). 70041

Miller, C. John, Husband and Father as Spiritual Leader (part 1) [30298]

Miller, C. John, Husband and Father as Spiritual Leader (part 2) [30299]

Miller, C. John, Puritan Style of Love and Marriage (part 1) [30306]

Miller, C. John, Puritan Style of Love and Marriage (part 2) [30307]

Miller, C. John, Woman's Role in the Home (part 1) [30309]

Miller, C. John, Woman's Role in the Home (part 2) [30310]

*Perkins, William, 1558-1602, Christian oeconomie, or, A short survey of the right manner of erecting and ordering a familie according to the Scriptures first written in Latine by the author M. W. Perkins ; and now set forth in the vulgar tongue for more common vse and benefit by Tho. Pickering ..., 1609, Still Waters Revival Books, EEBO.
See "Christian oeconomie, or, A short survey of the right manner of erecting and ordering a familie according to the Scriptures."
Puritan Bookshelf CD-ROM (Volume Nine)
http://www.swrb.com/Puritan/puritan-bookshelf-CDs.htm

Piper, Otto A., The Biblical View of Sex and Marriage (New York: Charles Scribners Sons, 1960). 90337
"After discussing the Biblical view of sex, the writer proceeds to elaborate on the standards which he deems to be necessary for an adequate sexual life. He then discusses the objectives of marriage in the light of the Scriptures." -- Cyril J. Barber

Poythress, V., Marriage and Singleness; Marriage [30367]

Price, Greg, The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family, an ongoing cassette series (audio and video), (Still Waters Revival Books).

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#1) "The Divine Institution of Marriage"

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#2) "Preparing for Marriage 1/2," contains advanced teaching on courtship.

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#3) "Preparing for Marriage 2/2," contains advanced teaching on courtship.

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#4) "Husband's Role and Duty 1/2"

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#5) "Husband's Role and Duty 2/2"

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#6) "Wife's Role and Duty 1/2"

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#7) "Wife's Role and Duty 2/2"

Price, Greg, Peacemakers at War With Sin (Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books), 1 audio cassette)
"Focusing on Matt. 5:9, 'Blessed are the peacemakers,' Price demonstrate what this portion of Scripture means by contrasting it with what it does not mean. Using this 'Turretin-like' method of proclaiming the truth some surprising results are often mined from God's Word, and this sermon is no exception. Special attention is given to marriage and family relationships, but how this verity applies to the church and the state is also covered -- the United Nations receiving its share of scathing rebukes for the false, antichristian peace it promotes. Mere external 'peace' and 'obedience' are condemned as Price sets his sights on promoting classic Puritan experimental heart Christianity. Showing that true peace only consists in reconciliation based on God's truth, the peacemaker's Scripture refers to are often judged by the carnal and disaffected to be the greatest trouble makers -- the Lord Jesus Christ being the prime example. He hated and fought against idolatry, covenant breaking and all other violations of God's law (as the greatest peacemaker that ever lived) to such an extent that those who desired the peace of the world tortured and murdered him. Prophets and wise men since have often fared no better in seeking to set forth the only true peace. Biblical peace is not based on compromise, pragmatism or the removal of Biblical (Reformation) landmarks, it is seen in this sermon to be based on truth and faithfulness. 'Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God' (James 4:4). Heresy, the false ecumenical movement of mystery Babylon, Calvin on schism, unity and numerous other points are all addressed. 'Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid' (John 14:27)." -- SWRB

Price, Greg, Wives and Biblical Submission (Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books), 1 cassette.
"The Covenanter view of authority and submission set forth with special application to husbands and wives. Directed primarily to the ladies of the covenant (but containing a good deal of exhortation to husbands), this is about as practical a sermon as you will hear. There was good reason why Puritan families were so strong and why divorce was unheard of among these Calvinists; much of it (as the listener will certainly notice) can be traced back to what Price sets forth in this sermon. If you desire a godly family and a marriage relationship analogous to that which Christ enjoys with his bride (the church) you will be pleased with the strong, uncompromising (and yet loving), biblical stand set forth here. A Price classic!" -- SWRB

Stark, J., Husbands Love Your Wives (parts 1-5) [30412]

Talley, James, and Leslie H. Stobbe, Reconcilable Differences: Mending Broken Relationships [70559]

Welch, Ed, Co-Dependency [30457]

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Couples: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Men: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Moms: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Newlyweds: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion (Bible Promises to Treasure)

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Parents

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Women: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion

Vincent, Thomas, 1634-1678, Christ the best husband: or An invitation of young women unto Christ. Delivered in a sermon to young women. By Thomas Vincent, minister sometime of Maudlins Milkstreet, London, 1672, EEBO.

See also: Sexual relationship, Adams, Jay, works of, Abuse, Adultery, Divorce, Family, Forgiveness, Love and counseling problems, Marriage, Problems Solving, Men and Women, Men, Women, and God, Parenting, A Selection of Works on Pseudo-Christian Movements, Secret Societies and Ungodly Alliance, Sex, Marriage

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Family Worship

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*Baxter, Richard, A Christian Directory: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1 (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 1997, 1990, 1838, 1707, 1678, 1673), EEBO. See Reformation Bookshelf CD #21 (Still Waters Revival Books). 30934
This Soli Deo Gloria publication is a facsimile reprint of the 19th century reprint by George Virtue, London. Foreword by J.I. Packer.
The original 1673 edition and the 1678 edition, both printed by Robert White for Nevill Simmons, are available on microfilm (Ann Arbor, MI.: University Microfilms, 1970). 1 microfilm reel. 35 mm. (Early English books, 1641-1700; 343:11)
Also available in Cerlox bound photocopy from Still Waters Revival Books, Edmonton, AB, Canada.
The full title is: A Christian Directory: or A Sum of Practical Theology, and Cases of Conscience. Directing Christians How to Use Their Knowledge and Faith; How to Improve all Helps and Means, and to Perform all Duties; How to Overcome Temptations, and to Escape or Mortify Every Sin. In Four Parts.
I. Christian Ethics (or Private Duties)
II. Christian Economics (or Family Duties)
III. Christian Ecclesiastics (or Church Duties)
IV. Christian Politics (or Duties to Our Rulers and Neighbours)
"Though relatively weak on corporate sanctification, corporate faithfulness and some important areas of doctrine (such as justification), Baxter's work on subjects related to personal piety can be of good practical use to the Christian -- if one is careful to separate out his aberrant doctrinal views and any practical errors they may lead to." -- SWRB
" Ptacek in Family Worship (p. 51-52), supplies the following information in regard to Baxter and this book. He notes that after the Episcopalians ejected numerous `nonconformists,' in what is know as the `great ejection,' in 1662, `Baxter pastored from house to house, visiting families of his parish in their homes. These visits contributed to Baxter's A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, a large and still very relevant manual of pastoral care.' Focusing on just one area of great importance, Ptacek demonstrates how this book's relevance is not limited by time or culture, though sometimes the use of specific words are. `Published in 1673, but written 1664-65, a large book-length part of Baxter's CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY is devoted to the family. It is entitled `Christian Economics' based on the archaic usage of the word, which reflects the proper sense of the Greek root oikonomos as the manager of a household, in the Christian case, the spiritual leader of the family. The family head is essential to Baxter's view of family worship and instruction. Baxter asserts that it is God's will that this instruction be carried out by the rulers of the families.' For a male head of the household to fail to do so, or to have another instruct in the family, is contrary to his position of authority.' This is the kind of book that can be passed on from generation to generation and still find much use in the service of the kingdom of God." -- SWRB
The Richard Baxter Page
http://members.aol.com/augusteen/Baxter.html

Baxter, Richard. The practical works of the late reverend and pious Mr. Richard Baxter, in four volumes. With a preface; giving some account of the author, and of this edition ... Together with alphabetical tables to each volume. Vol. 4. London, 1707. 4 vols. (ECCO) Gale Document Number CW3320004273

Baxter, Richard. A paraphrase on the New Testament, with notes, doctrinal and practical, fitted to the use of religious families, ... By the late Rev. Mr. Richard Baxter. ... Blackburn, 1798. (ECCO) Gale Document Number CW3317723139

*Book of Psalms for Singing (Edmonton, AB Canada: Still Waters Revival Books).
Matches all the audio cassettes and CD's of Psalm singing found in the Still Waters Revival Books catalog. Great for family worship and one of the best ways to memorize God's Word.

Carr, W., The Bible and the Christian Home (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 30137
Audio cassette NP138.

Derham, A. Morgan (editor), Time for the Family, 2 volumes (Wayne, PA [Scripture Union, 150 Strafford Avenue, Wayne 19087]: Scripture Union). 10612
"Each volume provides six full months of Bible readings, prayers, and activity material in a lively and readable form. Designed to take just ten minutes a day."

*De Graaf, Simon Gerrit, Promise and Deliverance, 4 volumes (Scarsdale, NY [Westminster Discount Book Service, P.O. Box 125H, Scarsdale 10583]: Westminster Discount Book Service, 1977). Translated from the Dutch by H. Evan Runner and Elisabeth Wichers Runner.
"In Scripture, religion means covenant. By His Word, God called into being an order of creation culminating in man. By that Word He also gave man His favor and brought him into a life of conscious covenantal fellowship with Himself. As De Graaf himself puts it: `Without covenant, there is no religion, no conscious fellowship between man and God, no exchange of love and faithfulness. Without the covenant, man would be just an instrument in God's hand. When God created man, He had more than an instrument in mind: He made a creature that could respond to Him. . . .'
"This renewed insight into Biblical revelation is the perspective undergirding De Graaf's treatment of all Bible stories. It makes his book a unique presentation of God's revelation of Himself in the covenant and keeps his interpretations of the stories from degenerating into mere moralizing. Religion is not morality." -- H. Evan Runner
"I highly recommend this book. One of the best books available." -- R.C. Sproul
"A landmark in interpreting the simple stories of the Bible." -- Christianity Today

*Henry, Matthew, A Church in the House: A Sermon Concerning Family Religion (London, 1704), (Bound Photocopies of Rare Books Series. Edmonton, Alberta, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books).
"Family worship is presently one of the most powerful weapons in a Christian parents arsenal of truth. Read this Puritan sermon and see why! In time past, when the churches saw the family as `little churches' within the church, elders saw to it that family worship was practiced daily and that offenders against this Godly order were censured. Daily family worship is a monumental blessing on the one hand and a serious sin of omission, when not practiced, on the other. Though Kevin Reed was speaking of public worship in the following quotation, the directive can easily be applied to family worship also. Reed notes, `[h]eads of households you husbands and fathers -- it is incumbent on you to lead your family in the narrow path which leads to life. Compromise in worship is a form of apostasy, which teaches children that we love family approval more than obedience to Christ... You have no right to set aside biblical principles of worship' (John Knox the Forgotten Reformer, forthcoming, p. 99). Furthermore, Ptacek has written that, `[t]he role of the head of the family was given the highest possible status by Matthew Henry. In a 1704 sermon on family religion, Henry followed Cawdrey in arguing that the head of the family holds all of the offices of Christ with respect to his household: prophet, priest and king. Henry's design for family religion is based on the exercise of these three offices. As a prophet the head of the family teaches doctrine through the reading of Scripture and catechizing. The head's priestly office is expressed in praying for his family. His exercise of discipline reflects the office of king, both in encouraging godly behaviour and discouraging sinful practices. Although Matthew Henry was the best known Puritan preacher of his time, he asserted without fear of controversy that his view of the role of the head of the family was one in which all agree' (Family Worship, pp. 52-53). For parents, and especially fathers, this may be one of the most important works you will ever read. When family worship is practised faithfully (and the responsibility for this rests with the head of the house primarily, and the elders of the church secondarily — through encouragement, help and discipline of the unfaithful), nations and generations to come will be greatly influenced to bow humbly before the Lord Jesus Christ and serve Him alone!" -- SWRB

Palmer, B.M., The Family in its Offices of Instruction and Worship (1876), (Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books).
"The author notes that '[f]rom the earliest period in the history of the Church, the duty of family instruction has been emphasized as the most important of all agencies in perpetuating the knowledge of Divine truth' (emphasis added). Furthermore, he writes, 'each pious household is a separate fibre of those roots by which the Church of the living God takes hold upon the earth, and preserves its existence in a sinful world.' It is especially important that fathers study material like this, for if they will not lead their families in instruction and daily family worship, they have, for all intents and purposes, denied the faith. For when 1 Tim. 5:8 states, 'But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel,' it should be taken to heart. Even if this verse refers specifically to the material aspects of life, how much more important are the spiritual duties? This book should be a great encouragement to those entrusted with these most important spiritual duties and privileges!" -- SWRB

Palmer, Samuel, A Collection of family prayers: with various occasional forms, from the devotional writings of sundry authors, 1811.
Palmer, Samuel. A collection of family-prayers from the devotional writings of Baxter, ... and others. With various occasional forms. By Samuel Palmer. London, 1783. (ECCO) Gale Document Number CW3318915409

Palmer, Samuel, The Covenanters catechisme, or, A brief and familiar analysis and exposition of the Covenant: first delivered in sundry sermons to a particular congregation, and now resolved into questions and answers for the more publike good, 1644

*Price, Greg, Family Worship by Greg Price (Audio Cassette Series. Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books).
"A great introduction to the duty and privilege of daily family worship with much `how to' instruction from Scripture. Family worship has always been a major component of all true revivals. Among the Old Testament people of God, in the days of the Apostles, during the great Reformations that took place in the 16th and 17th centuries, at the founding of the American colonies, and wherever there is a love for the Truth, daily family worship has been a sign of faithfulness to God. When it is practiced faithfully, daily family worship is one of the great blessings of covenant life; when it is ignored or set aside, it is a serious sin which has devastating consequences (and evidences and lack of true spirituality)." -- SWRB
Family Worship by Greg Price (1 of 2)
http://sphynx.idontknow.com/swrb/family.ram

*Pride, Mary, All the Way Home: Power for Your Family to Be Its Best (Wheaton, IL: Good News Publishers [Crossway Books], 1989). 40122
"This is the long awaited sequel to the author's THE WAY HOME, a wonderful and revolutionary book. Here Mary Pride deals with home education, family worship, time management, and family work and play. Also ideas on starting and running a home business and investment strategies open new doors for women at home to use their talents and creativity. She shows how the family can reach out to minister to the community as well." -- GCB

*Ptacek, Kerry, Family Worship: Biblical Basis, Historical Reality, Current Need (Edmonton, AB Canada: Still Waters Revival Books, 1994). Bound photocopy.
"The practice of family worship has done more for the comprehensive Reformation than any other means available to man. A revival of this Biblically ordained practice should be studied, prayed for, and implemented throughout all lands, at the earliest possible date. If you are serious about your faith and you would love to see the Earth full of the knowledge of the Lord `as the waters cover the sea' (Isaiah 11:9), then this is as good a place to start as any." -- SWRB

Smith, B.M., Family Religion, or the Domestic Relations as Regulated by Christian Principles (1859), (Bound Photocopies of Rare Books Series. Edmonton, Alberta, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books).
"Smith's family was greatly influenced by Samuel Davies. Smith himself was a friend of R.L. Dabney. As the editor notes, the importance of this book is seen in the fact that `[r]eform of the family would soon diffuse itself throughout the whole constitution of society, a higher tone of morals would be inspired, and not only would the moral influence of the church be enlarged, but the stability and security of the state would be perpetuated.' Or as the `Directory for Family Worship,' appended to the Westminster Confession, so wisely points out, `[b]esides the public worship in congregations, mercifully established in this land in great purity, it is expedient and necessary that secret worship of each person alone, and private worship of families, be pressed and set up; that, with national reformation, the profession and power of godliness, both personal and domestic, be advanced.' This was a prize winning essay, covering, in depth, the family and its duties." -- SWRB

*Spurgeon, C.H. (1834-1892), Spurgeon's Devotional Bible (Grand Rapids: Baker Books, 1975, 1974, 1964) and Spurgeon's Devotional Bible: Selected Passages From the Word of God With Running Comments (paperback), (Evangelical Press, February 1996). Other title: The Interpreter: Spurgeon's morning and evening devotions from the Bible.
"For anyone who wants to restore daily devotions on an individual or family basis, SPURGEON'S DEVOTIONAL BIBLE is the perfect answer. One can read through this book in a year when morning and evening devotions are maintained. . . .
"The gist of the entire Bible is found between the covers of this book. . . . some verses [and chapters] were omitted in whole or in part, but they are always summarized in such a way that the narrative or teaching remains clear. The emphasis is always on Scripture . . ." -- Publisher's Annotation
This is the C.H. Spurgeon who wrote, among other things:

• The Treasury of David, "the most important and practical work of the ages on the Psalter." -- Dr. Philip Schaff
• A Treasury of Spurgeon on the Life and Work of Our Lord, 6 volumes, and
• Faith's Checkbook, A Daily Devotional by C.H. Spurgeon commenting on the promises of Scripture.

*Vincent, Thomas, Shorter Catechism Explained From Scripture (Puritan Paperback Series. Carlisle, PA: The Banner of Truth Trust), 1634, EEBO. [31078]
"Forty Puritans including John Owen, Thomas Manton, Thomas Brooks and Thomas Watson recommended this useful volume as a very worth aid for family instruction. This volume gives parents very simple explanations to take their children through the Westminster Shorter Catechism."
Vincent, Thomas. An explicatory catechism: or an explanation of the Assembly's shorter catechism. ... By Thomas Vincent, ... Glasgow, 1777. (ECCO) Gale Document Number CW3319412765
A Commentary on the Shorter Catechism, Thomas Vincent, Alternate title: A Commentary on the Shorter Catechism
http://www.e4.net
Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html
Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
"Click on any of the individual questions below to get the answer and Biblical references, as well as links to works by John Flavel, Thomas Watson, Thomas Boston, James Fisher, and John Whitecross, and others."
http://www.shortercatechism.com/

*Westminster Assembly, The Westminster Confession of Faith (Glasgow, Scotland [Free Presbyterian Publications, 133 Woodlands Road, Glasgow G3 6LE]: Free Presbyterian Publication, 1995). ISBN 0 902506 08 0 (casebound) and ISBN 0 902506 35 8 (paperback). Also available from Still Waters Revival Books, Edmonton, Alberta, Canada.
" 'The product of Puritan conflict,' stated Shedd, reaching 'a perfection of statement never elsewhere achieved.' All that learning the most profound and extensive, intellect the most acute and searching, and piety the most sincere and earnest, could accomplish, was thus concentrated in the Westminster Assembly's Confession of Faith, which may be safely termed the most perfect statement of Systematic Theology ever framed by the Christian Church,' writes Hetherington (The History of the Westminster Assembly of Divines, p. 345). Concerning the Shorter Catechism, which is one of the items also included in this book, Mitchell notes: 'it is a thoroughly Calvinistic and Puritan catechism, the ripest fruit of the Assembly's thought and experience, maturing and finally fixing the definitions of theological terms to which Puritanism for half a century had been leading up and gradually coming closer and closer to in its legion of catechisms' (Westminster Assembly: Its History and Standards, p. 431). The WCF is the greatest of all the creeds of the Christian church. The church of Christ cannot be creedless and live. Especially in an age of doubt and confusion, it is her duty to define and proclaim the one true faith. Nowhere has the Reformed church done this so effectively as in the Westminster family of documents. This book represents Reformed thinking at its purest and best. It was intended, as part of the Covenanted Reformation taking place during its compilation, to be adopted as the binding confessional standard for every individual, family, court, church, and legislature in the British Isles." -- SWRB
This is considered to be the definitive publication of the Westminster family of documents. Includes:

1. To the Christian Reader, Especially Heads of Families, Mr. Thomas Manton's Epistle to the Reader,
2. The Confession of Faith (1646), the full and original edition with Scripture proofs written out,
3. The Larger Catechism with Scripture proofs written out,
4. The Shorter Catechism with Scripture proofs written out,
5. The Sum of Saving Knowledge,
6. The National Covenant,
7. The Solemn League and Covenant,
8. The Directory for the Public Worship of God,
9. The Form of Presbyterial Church Government, and
10. The Directory for Family Worship.

Westminster Assembly of Divines, The Directory for Family Worship (1647) and The Directory for the Publick Worship of God (1645), (Bound Photocopy Series. Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books).
"It doesn't get any better than this! These are the documents approved by the General Assembly of the Church of Scotland in her purest days. Reproduced in large print for easy reading. The Directory for Family Worship lays out the Biblical path to piety and uniformity in secret and private (family) worship, for godly edification. The Directory for Public Worship aimed at fulfilling the Reformation goals of covenanted uniformity in religion between the churches of Christ in the kingdoms of Scotland, England and Ireland. 'Behind its production lay extensive discussion of the proper application of the Puritan regulative principle reducing elements of acceptable worship to what is prescribed or necessarily deducible from Scripture alone. . . . It contains perhaps the finest brief description of expository preaching to be found in the English language' (Cameron, editor, Dictionary of Scottish Church History, p. 864). During the days of the Second Reformation Gillespie notes that '(t)he parliament heath also, by their ordinance dated the 23d of August 1645, imposed the Directory of Worship under certain mulcts and penalties to be inflicted upon such as do not observe it, or preach or write against it' ('Miscellany Questions' in Gillespie's Works, p. 87). Oh, for the days of comprehensive, full-orbed, God honoring Reformation like that again! An indispensable document for those who are Presbyterian's. However, it can also be very helpful to all those who seek to worship the LORD in spirit and in truth, regardless of denominational affiliation. These two fine historic documents have yet to be equalled in terms of the intent and purpose for which they were originally produced." -- SWRB
The Directory For Family-Worship (1647) and The Directory for the Publick Worship of God, 1645
http://www.covenanter.org/Westminster/directoryforfamilyworship.htm
Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html

See also: Christ Jesus the Lord, God, Music, Praise, Prayer, Psalms in worship, Regulative principle of worship, Rejoicing, Thanksgiving, Follow-up, Gospel tracts, Book length presentations of the free offer of Gospel message of salvation and the life to come: the means of grace, Small groups, Small group evangelism, Small groups as healing agents, Small group resources, Sorcery, The Occult

Related WebLinks

Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
"Click on any of the individual questions below to get the answer and Biblical references, as well as links to works by John Flavel, Thomas Watson, Thomas Boston, James Fisher, and John Whitecross, and others."
http://www.shortercatechism.com/

Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html

The Covenant Family Fellowship
http://members.aol.com/kptacek/index.html

Mr. Thomas Manton's Epistle to the Reader of the Westminster Confession of Faith and Larger and Shorter Catechisms
http://www.swrb.com//newslett/actualnls/famworship.htm
Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html

Family Worship, Kerry Ptacek
A number of citations from historic Reformed folk: John Knox, Matthew Henry, Jonathan Edwards, etc., covering the period from 100 AD to 1912 AD regarding family worship.
http://members.aol.com/kptacek/index.html

The Reformed Faith in its Ethical Consequences in the Family: Part I, John Macleod
http://members.aol.com/RSICHURCH/family1.html

Family Worship, Arthur Pink
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Pointe/4495/famworship.html

The Cyber Hymnal
Here is musical accompaniment from your computer for personal or family devotions in the home. Tunes may be identified here that can be used with THE SCOTTISH METRIC PSALTER.
"This site has over 4,800 Christian hymns and Gospel songs from many denominations. You'll find lyrics, scores, MIDI files, pictures, history, and more. To use the site effectively, you'll need speakers, a sound card, and a browser that supports JavaScript and XHTML, and can play MIDI files.
"This worship and teaching resource is provided as a public service."
http://www.cyberhymnal.org/

Marital Counseling

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Baxter, Richard. The practical works of the late reverend and pious Mr. Richard Baxter, in four volumes. With a preface; giving some account of the author, and of this edition ... Together with alphabetical tables to each volume. Vol. 4. London, 1707. 4 vols. (ECCO) Gale Document Number CW3320004273

*Eyrich, Howard, Three To Get Ready: Premarital Counseling Manual, second revised and expanded edition (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Book House, 1991). 20538
"A manual on premarital counseling presenting a step-by-step guide through the major areas to be covered. Chock full of practical advice. Jay Adams says: `Here it is! The premarital counseling guide you have been waiting for'."

Kennedy, D. James, Learning to Live With the People You Love (Springdale, PA: Whitaker House, 1987). [31344]
Love "is sharing life together in a way that brings glory to God and enriches the lives of every family member." Dr. Kennedy says no book he has written has brought so many comments as this one.

Mayo, Mary Ann, A Christian Guide to Sexual Counseling [40247]

Morris, James Kenneth, Marriage Counseling: A Manual for Ministers (Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice-Hall, 1965, 1960). 20539
"A helpful manual containing the tried and tested methods used when counseling couples in conflict. Covers the entire counseling process in detail from the first interview to intermittent follow-ups. Of inestimable value." -- Cyril J. Barber

Pellauer, Mary D., Barbara Chester, and Jane Boyajian (editors), Sexual Assault and Abuse: A Handbook for Clergy and Religious Professionals [40232]

Pill, Theodore K., Premarital Counseling Handbook for Ministers (Valley Forge, PA: Judson Press, c1985). 20540
Includes bibliography.

Preston, John, 1587-1628, Sinnes overthrow: or, A godly and learned treatise of mortification: wherein is excellently handled; first, the generall doctrine of mortification: and then particularly, how to mortifie fornication. Uncleannesse. Evill concupiscence. Inordinate affection. And covetousnesse. All being the substance of severall sermons upon Colos. 3.5. Mortifie therefore your members, &c. Delivered by that late faithfull preacher, and worthie instrument of Gods glorie, John Preston, Dr. in Divinitie, chaplin in ordinarie to his Majestie, master of Emanuell Colledge in Cambridge, and sometimes preacher of Lincolns-Inne, 1635, EEBO.

Rassieur, Charles L., Pastor, Our Marriage Is in Trouble: A Guide To Short-Term Counseling (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, c1988). 20541
Includes bibliography.

Stafford, Tim, Find the Right One: Twenty Questions Before You Marry [70006]

Wheat, Ed, "Before the Wedding Night: Pre-Marriage Counsel" (Springdale, AZ: Scriptural Counsel, 1982). 20542
Two audio cassette tapes.

Yoder, Andrew, Counseling and Human Sexuality: Foundations of a Biblical Approach (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Theological Seminary, D.Min. thesis, 1986). 20544
Available on microfiche from University Microfilms International, Ann Arbor, MI.

See also: Sexual relationship, Bible promises, Casuistry, Repentance, the key to salvation and change, Reconcililiation of relationships, Premarital counseling, Justification, Forgiveness, Sanctification, Gratuitous sex a cause of violence, Adultery, Self, Self-denial, The occult, Sorcery, Women and the new age

Related WebLinks

Sex Respect
http://www.sexrespect.com/default2.html

Justifying Faith
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr1cha.html#justfaith

Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

Domestic Duties

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Kennedy, D. James, Learning to Live With the People You Love (Springdale, PA: Whitaker House, 1987). [31344]
Love "is sharing life together in a way that brings glory to God and enriches the lives of every family member." Dr. Kennedy says no book he has written has brought so many comments as this one.

*Perkins, William, 1558-1602, Christian oeconomie, or, A short survey of the right manner of erecting and ordering a familie according to the Scriptures first written in Latine by the author M. W. Perkins ; and now set forth in the vulgar tongue for more common vse and benefit by Tho. Pickering ..., 1609, Still Waters Revival Books, EEBO.
See "Christian oeconomie, or, A short survey of the right manner of erecting and ordering a familie according to the Scriptures."
Puritan Bookshelf CD-ROM (Volume Nine)
http://www.swrb.com/Puritan/puritan-bookshelf-CDs.htm

Price, Greg, The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family, an ongoing cassette series (audio and video), (Still Waters Revival Books)

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#1) "The Divine Institution of Marriage"

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#2) "Preparing for Marriage 1/2," contains advanced teaching on courtship.

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#3) "Preparing for Marriage 2/2," contains advanced teaching on courtship.

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#4) "Husband's Role and Duty 1/2"

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#5) "Husband's Role and Duty 2/2"

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#6) "Wife's Role and Duty 1/2"

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#7) "Wife's Role and Duty 2/2"

See also: Duties of the Christian

Problem Solving in Marriage

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Kennedy, D. James, Learning to Live With the People You Love (Springdale, PA: Whitaker House, 1987). [31344]
Love "is sharing life together in a way that brings glory to God and enriches the lives of every family member." Dr. Kennedy says no book he has written has brought so many comments as this one.

*Luther, Martin, 1483-1546 and Walter Lynne (translator), A vvatch-vvord for vvilfull vvomen. An excellent pithie dialogue betvveene two sisters, of contrary dispositio[n]s: the one a vertuous matrone: fearing God: the other a vvilfull husvvife: of disordered behauioure. Wherein is righte Christianly discoursed, what singuler commodity commeth by vertuous educatio[n], as otherwise what torment to a quiet man, a skowlding [and] vndiscrete woman is. Additional Titles: Fruteful predication or sermon of D. Mart. Luth. concernynge matrimony, 1581, EEBO.
Notes: In two parts. Part 1 is a translation of Der bösen Weiber Zuchtschül. Part 2 is a translation of a sermon on matrimony by Martin Luther. Luther's sermon translated by Walter Lynne.

*Mack, Wayne, Special Marriage Problems (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 70064
A series of five audio cassettes.

McNair, Mac. and Amy McNair, Ten Principles for a Successful Marriage: Practical Lessons from the Ten Commandments
"Nearly everyone has heard of the Ten Commandments, and most people can even name a few of them. Through fifty-five years of marriage Mac and Amy McNair have drawn from them the following guidelines for living together:
?Respect each other's position of authority
Have singleness of purpose in your marriage
Practice effective communication
Maintain a proper balance between work and rest
Show respect for your elders and seek counsel from those who are older and wiser
Show respect for one another and love one another
Maintain a proper physical relationship
Face financial issues together
Demonstrate honesty and integrity to one another
Be content with yourself and your marriage
A simply written, deeply personal look at marriage, Ten Principles for a Successful Marriage is a recounting of the principles that have guided the authors in their own marriage. While at first these insights may seem like simple common courtesy and common sense, the McNairs have found a great deal of profundity in this very simplicity. Inspired by the Ten Commandments, TEN PRINCIPLES FOR A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE is an intensely practical, time-tested guide to happy, successful living that could be applied to other areas of life as well." -- Publisher's Annotation "Mac McNair is a former career Air Force officer, professor at North Carolina State University, and director of aerospace programs at the Pentagon. Currently president of McNair Associates, a management consulting firm, he also is chairman of the Executive Leadership Foundation, which seeks to apply Judeo-Christian ethics in business and society. He also is co-author of the leadership development program for the U.S. Attorney General's office. AMY McNAIR, a homemaker, teaches classes with Mac on the principles of successful marriage. They live near Atlanta, Georgia." -- Publisher's Annotation
Executive Leadership Foundation
http://www.commandmentsonline.com/

*Murray, John, Principles of Conduct [20733]

*Foster, David Kyle, Sexual Healing: God's Plan for the Sanctification of Broken Lives: A Reference Manual for Ministering to Those Trapped in Sexual Sin and Brokenness (Jacksonville, FL [Mastering Life Ministries, P.O. Box 351149, Jacksonville 32235]: Mastering Life Ministries, 1997).
This is a unique work and the best resource known to the compiler offering biblical counsel for healing sexual brokenness. See "Foundations" and "Divine Intent for Sexuality" for a biblical explanation of the spiritual significance of sexuality. These two chapters alone make the purchase of the book worthwhile. Includes chapters, study guides, and exercises for Root sources for improper sexual development, Sexual identity confusion, Child sex abuse, Sexual addition, Pornography, Masturbation, voyeurism and exhibitionism, Why people remain in sexual sin and bondage, Failure and self-condemnation, A comprehensive game plan for sexual healing, and so forth. Indexed, 398 pages, includes bibliography.
Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

Questions and Answers; What Is Marriage? Marriage and Family Problems [30062]

Adams, Jay E., Role-Play and Critique (part 1); Wife Abandoned; Potential Suicide [30064]

Adams, Jay E., Role-Play and Critique (part 2); Wife Won't Speak; Homosexuality; Wife With Cancer [30065]

Adams, Jay E., Solving Marriage Problems: Biblical Solutions for Christian Counselors [30074]

*Adams, Jay E., What Do You Do When Your Marriage Goes Sour? [30101]

Adams, Jay E., You Can Sweeten a Sour Marriage [30110]

Chesser, Barbara, 21 Myths That Can Wreck Your Marriage [40170]

Cushenberry, Donald C., Coping With Life After Your Mate Dies [80084]

Dallas, Joe, Desires in Conflict: Answering the Struggle for Sexual Identity [20837]

Friesen, DeLoss, David Friesen, and Ruby M. Friesen, RCC, Vol. 19: Counseling and Marriage (Dallas, TX: Word Books, 1989). 70061
Includes bibliographical references.

Harvard, Allen, and Margaret Harvard, Death and Rebirth of a Marriage [70563]

Lutz, Ron, Marital Crisis and Church Discipline [30274]

*Mack, Wayne, A Homework Manual for Biblical Counseling, Vol. I: Personal and Interpersonal Problems [20930]

*Mack, Wayne, A Homework Manual for Biblical Counseling, Vol. II: Family and Marital Problems (Phillipsburg, NJ: Presbyterian Reformed Publishing Co.). 20931
"These are tested and proven books and are most helpful for study and assignments. Great refreshers and topical studies in areas dealt with most often." -- CCEF

Stark, Jeff, Freedom From an Abusive Marriage [30403]

Strom, Kay Marshall, In the Name of Submission: A Painful Look at Wife Battering [20641]

Talley, James A., and Leslie H. Stobbe, Reconcilable Difference [70559]

Tripp, P., When Things Go From Bad to Worse [30437]

See also: Reconciliation of Relationships, Sexual relationship, Reconciliation of Marriage Partners, Men and Women, The Doctrine of Man, Justification, Forgiveness, Unforgiveness, Domestic duties, Duties of the Christian

Related WebLinks

What Do You Do When Your Marriage Goes Sour?
http://www.lifeisworship.com/hbrpc/pfltmen.htm
A tract by Jay Adams.

Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

Spouse an Unbeliever

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Birth Control

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Abortion and the Sanctity of Life

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See also: Sexual relationship

Post-abortion Counseling

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See also: Sexual relationship

Stillborn and Miscarriage

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Infertility

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SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP

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