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Family Life, Education, Church and Work

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And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins. (1 Peter 4:8)

Give instruction to a youth about his way,
Even when he is old he turneth not from it.
(Proverbs 22:6, YLTHB)

Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever. (1 John 2:15-17)

If your life would have guidance and strength to follow that guidance, then you will find that in the Word of God.
If you would have your marriage to be what it would be, what God would have it to be, then search the Scriptures daily.
If you would have your children to grow up and be anything but rebels, then teach them the World of God.
If you would have financial success in business, then work and operate your business according to the Word of God. -- D. James Kennedy



Contents: Chapter 7, "Family Life, Education, Church and Work" (parts 1 and 2), interactive


Part 1

SINGLENESS
PRE-MARITAL COUNSEL
MARRIAGE
Family Worship
Marital Counseling
Domestic Duties
Problem Solving in Marriage
Spouse an Unbeliever
Birth Control
Abortion and the Sanctity of Life
Post-abortion Counseling
Stillborn and Miscarriage
Infertility
SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP
Sexual Wholeness
Counseling for Sex Related Problems
Gratuitous Sex, a Cause of Violence
PARENTING
Fatherhood
Motherhood
Sharing Christ With Your Children
Teaching Children
Counsel for Young Men
Counsel for Young Women
Disciplining Children
Problem Solving With Children
Counseling Children
Sex Education
Protecting Children From Dangers
Preparing Children for the World
Single Parenting
Christian Literature for Boys and Girls
FAMILY
Counseling the Family
Family Management
HOLIDAYS
CHRISTMAS
Theater, Sports, and Entertainment
TEENS
Teens and Parents
Counseling Teens
Courtship
Teens and Sex
Finding the Perfect Parent in God
Teens Coping With the World
EDUCATION
Home Schooling
Public Schools
Chapter 7 (part 1) Related WebLinks (part 1)

Part 2

Teaching
THE LOCAL CHURCH
Local Church History
The Local Church and Counseling
Church Discipline
Small Groups and the Local Church
The Laity
Churches That Abuse
Church Leadership
Reform of the Church
Church History
Interpersonal Relations in the Local Church
RESOURCES FOR STUDENTS
CHRISTIANITY IN THE WORKPLACE
LEADERSHIP
THE MILITARY
DIVORCE
Reconciliation of Marriage Partners
Avoiding Divorce
The Church and Divorce
Divorce
Children of Divorce
Rebuilding
Remarriage
Stepfamilies
Chapter 7 (part 2) Related WebLinks

Combined Interactive Contents for The Web Edition of Biblical Counsel: Resources for Renewal
http://www.lettermen2.com/combtoc.html




Chapter 7 (part 1)
Family Life, Education, Church, and Work


SINGLENESS

Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. (1 Corinthians 7:27)

For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven. -- Jesus Christ (Matthew 22:30)

And Jesus answering said unto them, The children of this world marry, and are given in marriage:
But they which shall be accounted worthy to obtain that world, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry, nor are given in marriage:
Neither can they die any more: for they are equal unto the angels; and are the children of God, being the children of the resurrection.
-- Jesus Christ (Luke 20:34-36)

Marriage is honorable in all. . . (Hebrews 13:4)

But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: but he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. (1 Corinthians 7:32,33)

Brethren, let every man, wherein he is called, therein abide with God. (1 Corinthians 7:24)

And I will betroth thee unto me for ever; yea, I will betroth thee unto me in righteousness, and in judgment, and in loving kindness, and in mercies. I will even betroth thee unto me in faithfulness; and thou shalt know the Lord. -- The Lord (Hosea 2:19-20)
Betrothment unto the Lord! What an honor and a joy! My soul, is Jesus indeed thine by His own condescending betrothal? Then, mark it is forever. He will never break His engagement, much less sue out a divorce against a soul joined to Himself in marriage bonds.
Three times the Lord says, "I will betroth thee." What words He heaps together to set forth the betrothal! Righteousness comes in to make the covenant legal; none can forbid these lawful bans. Judgment sanctions the alliance with its decree: none can see folly or error in the match. Lovingkindness warrants that this is a love union, for without love betrothal is bondage and not blessedness. Meanwhile, mercy smiles and even sings; yea, she multiplies herself into "mercies" because of the abounding grace of this holy union.
Faithfulness is the registrar and records the marriage, and the Holy Spirit says "Amen" to it as He promises to teach the betrothal heart all the sacred knowledge needful for its high destiny, What a promise! -- C.H. Spurgeon in Faith's Checkbook

Utimately the Seventh Commandment is about our fidelity to Christ.

Ankerberg, John, and John Weldon The Myth of Safe Sex: The Devastating Consequences of Violating God's Plan

*Crawford, Dan R. (compiler), Single Adults: Resource and Recipients for Revival [10477]

*Foster, David Kyle, Sexual Healing: God's Plan for the Sanctification of Broken Lives: A Reference Manual for Ministering to Those Trapped in Sexual Sin and Brokenness (Jacksonville, FL [Mastering Life Ministries, P.O. Box 351149, Jacksonville 32235]: Mastering Life Ministries, 1997).
This is a unique work and the best resource known to the compiler offering biblical counsel for healing sexual brokenness. See "Foundations" and "Divine Intent for Sexuality" for a biblical explanation of the spiritual significance of sexuality. These two chapters alone make the purchase of the book worthwhile. Includes chapters, study guides, and exercises for Root sources for improper sexual development, Sexual identity confusion, Child sex abuse, Sexual addition, Pornography, Masturbation, voyeurism and exhibitionism, Why people remain in sexual sin and bondage, Failure and self-condemnation, A comprehensive game plan for sexual healing, and so forth. Indexed, 398 pages, includes bibliography.
Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

Andrews, Gini, Sons of Freedom: God and the Single Man (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House, 1979, c1975). 70001

Andrews, Gini, Your Half of the Apple: God and the Single Girl (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House, 1979, c1975). 70002
Foreword by Francis A. Schaeffer.

*Baker, Yvonne G., Successfully Single (Denver, CO: Accent Books, 1985).
"Another classic -- restated in modern English -- but retaining its verve and value for contemporary Christians." -- Cyril J. Barber

Brown, Raymond K., Reach Out to Singles: A Challenge to Ministry (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1979). 70003
"Examines the hard questions single people are asking, and attempts to provide candid and helpful answers. An important resource for pastors and those who work with single people in the church." -- Cyril J. Barber

Caldwell, Genevieve, First Person, Singular [40040]

Clarkson, Margaret, So You're Single! [40041]

Colman, Barry (editor), Sex and the Single Christian: Candid Conversations [70081]

*Havergal, Frances, Kept for the Master's Use (Grand Rapids, MI: Kregel Publications). 40001
"If ever a woman lived her whole life as if she were married to Christ, it is Frances Havergal. Her every breath was drawn for Him, and so her every utterance breathed of Him . . . You will thrill to her expressions of praise. And when she leads us to a dedicated Christian life, we find it compelling. By all means read this book. You will never forget it." -- Jay P. Green, Sr. A Christian classic.

Jepson, Sarah Ann, For the Love of Singles [40043]

Lum, Ada, Single and Human [40044]

Mowday, Lois, The Snare: Avoiding Emotional and Sexual Entanglements [70088]

Poythress, V., Marriage and Singleness; Marriage [30367]

Rinck, Margaret, Christian Men Who Hate Women [40074]

Ryle, J.C., Thoughts for Young Men: An Exhortation Directed to Those in the Prime of Life (South Pines, NC: Calvary Press, 1991). 70004A
Thoughts for Young Men by J. C. Ryle (1816-1900)
http://www.iserv.net/~mrbill/espan/young01.html

Smith, Virginia W., The Single Parent, revised, updated, and expanded (Old Tappan, NJ: Fleming H. Revell, 1983). 70005

Stafford, Tim, Find the Right One: Twenty Questions Before You Marry (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers). 70006
"A short and to-the-point booklet that could be a real help to those about to marry, or those who wonder about marriage at all." -- GCB

Stark, Jeff, Fathers Bringing Up Their Children (parts 1-5) [30410]

Stark, Jeff, Single Parenting (part 1) [30415]

Stark, Jeff, Single Parenting (part 2) [30416]

Vincent, Thomas, 1634-1678, Christ the best husband: or An invitation of young women unto Christ. Delivered in a sermon to young women. By Thomas Vincent, minister sometime of Maudlins Milkstreet, London, 1672, EEBO.

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Abstinence, Child abuse, Counsel for young men, Reconciliation of relationships, Forgiveness, Unforgiveness, Gratuitous sex, a cause of violence

Related WebLinks

Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men (1681), by Richard Baxter
http://www.lettermen2.com/ccaym.html

True Love Waits
http://www.truelovewaits.com/

Sex Respect
http://www.sexrespect.com/default2.html

Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

Single Parenting WebLinks
http://rampages.onramp.net/~bevhamil/singleparentresourcece_478.html

Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

Purposefull Singleness
http://www.singleness.org/index.html



PRE-MARITAL COUNSEL

Ankerberg, John, and John Weldon The Myth of Safe Sex: The Devastating Consequences of Violating God's Plan

*Bonar, Horatius, The Everlasting Righteousness or How Shall Man Be Just With God? (Carlisle, PA: The Banner of Truth Trust, 1993). A Christian classic.
"First published in 1874, THE EVERLASTING RIGHTEOUSNESS, may be the best book on the doctrine of justification by faith alone ever written.
"Since the seventeenth century, the church's adherence to the central doctrine of the Christian faith has been weakening; in the twentieth century it has all but disappeared. But to those who remain faithful -- to those who are called of God --justification by faith alone is the best news there could ever be: that Christ died for our sins, and we shall live forever because of Christ's righteousness.
"Justification by faith alone -- the `principal hinge of religion,' according to John Calvin, the `doctrine by which the church stands or falls,' according to Martin Luther -- is salvation. Without it, all hope is lost; with it, Heaven gained. Bonar's discussion is without equal in the English language." -- John W. Robbins
The Banner of Truth edition is available free as e-text.
The Everlasting Righteousness, Horatius Bonar
http://www.jude3.net/bertoc.htm

Defoe, Daniel, Conjugal Lewdness, or Matrimonial Whoredom

Engelsma, David, Better To Mary: Sex and Marriage in Corinthians 6 and 7

*Engelsma, David, Marriage, the Mystery of Christ and the Church (Grand Rapids, MI: Reformed Free Publishing Association). [10296]
"Engelsma is a pastor in the Protestant Reformed Church, and also is editor of their paper, The Standard Bearer. The chapters in this book were preached as sermons in the author's church at Loveland, Colorado. Engelsma sees the corruption of the sacred institution of marriage as being a cause of myriads of the evils that abound in our day. He says, `There is the bitter misery of soul that shatters those who have been unfaithful and that leads to drink, drugs, nervous breakdown, and even suicide. . . . The author does a good job of expounding Ephesians 5:31,32, `This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.' He explains that this `mystery' has to do with the intimacy and oneness of a truly married couple. And this typifies the `underlying reality of the union of Christ with His Church'." -- Jay P. Green, Sr.

*Eyrich, Howard, Three To Get Ready: Premarital Counseling Manual , second revised and expanded edition (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Book House, 1991) 20538
"A manual on premarital counseling presenting a step-by-step guide through the major areas to be covered. Chock full of practical advice. Jay Adams says: `Here it is! The premarital counseling guide you have been waiting for'."

*Finley, Martha, Book 2: Elsie's Holidays at Roselands
"When Elsie's father becomes ill, she takes on the job of nurse-companion, and all goes well until Elsie, because it is the Sabbath, as a matter of conscience refuses to read to him from a secular book. The battle of wills that ensues nearly causes first her father's death, and then Elsie's. Lonely Elsie -- punished, ostracized, and then abandoned by her father -- turns to her heavenly Father for comfort and assurance. Will her father realize that Elsie's obedience to God must be paramount, and submit himself to the same Divine Authority?" -- Publisher's Annotation
Holidays at Roselands (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14280

*Foster, David Kyle, Sexual Healing: God's Plan for the Sanctification of Broken Lives: A Reference Manual for Ministering to Those Trapped in Sexual Sin and Brokenness (Jacksonville, FL [Mastering Life Ministries, P.O. Box 351149, Jacksonville 32235]: Mastering Life Ministries, 1997).
This is a unique work and the best resource known to the compiler offering biblical counsel for healing sexual brokenness. See "Foundations" and "Divine Intent for Sexuality" for a biblical explanation of the spiritual significance of sexuality. These two chapters alone make the purchase of the book worthwhile. Includes chapters, study guides, and exercises for Root sources for improper sexual development, Sexual identity confusion, Child sex abuse, Sexual addition, Pornography, Masturbation, voyeurism and exhibitionism, Why people remain in sexual sin and bondage, Failure and self-condemnation, A comprehensive game plan for sexual healing, and so forth. Indexed, 398 pages, includes bibliography.
Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

*Garland, Diana S. Richmond, and David E. Garland, Beyond Companionship: Christians in Marriage (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1986). 40075
"After carefully examining New Testament sources, the authors conclude that truly Christian marriage must be a companionship of equal persons. But they go further, affirming that companionship is not enough, because Christian marriage must be an active partnership of equals working together to fulfill the divine purpose." -- David and Vera Mace

*Harris, Joshua, and Shannon Harris, Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtship
"Joshua Harris follows up his bestselling I KISSED DATING GOODBYE with BOY MEETS GIRL, the story of how he met and married his wife, Shannon. Where Harris's first book encouraged readers to throw off modern ideas of romantic fixation, BOY MEETS GIRL goes to the next level and urges single Christian men and women to pursue courtship, and ultimately marriage, thoughtfully and prayerfully. Knowing that many readers will balk at the idea of premeditated courtship, Harris insists that dating should not be emotional recreation but rather a careful decision rooted in obedience to God. While the anecdotes used to reveal true-to-life scenarios about dating pitfalls are somewhat elementary (and geared to those in their 20s), Harris succeeds in hammering home the point that obedience to God's word, selfless love, community, purity, and satisfaction in God are the most important aspect of any relationship. The last section of the book is particularly practical, discussing forgiveness of past sexual sin, questions to ask before tying the knot, and how an understanding of our sinful nature can lead to conflict resolution. For Harris's mere twentysomething years of life experience, his maturity and devotion to God are sincere evidence that he has indeed practiced what he has preached, resulting in a passionate relationship with the love of his life." -- Jill Heatherly

Hurley, James B., Man and Woman in Biblical Perspective [60299]
"This is an excellent study of the roles of men and women in Old Testament, New Testament and Inter-Testamental times. Roles covered include family life, commercial, managerial, governmental and religious. Except for the inter-testamental period, the analysis sticks strictly to the scriptures and is very objective. When the subject of religious roles is discussed, the author, who is a member of the Presbyterian Church in America (PCA) denomination, is careful to define modern church offices in terms of their New Testament counterparts.
"Mr. Hurley is well qualified for this inquiry since he has a doctorate in Pauline Theology and also extensive experience in marriage counseling.
"I found the book to be very helpful as I went through the process of deciding whether ordination of women was an approved biblical practice." -- Reader Comment

James, John Angell, Addresses to Young Men (Soli Deo Gloria Pubns)
"James, the author of FEMALE PIETY, one of our bestselling books, also wrote this one for young men. Though the situations about which he wrote in the 19th century may be a bit outdated, the biblical principles and insights he brings out are as relevant today as they were a thousand years ago." -- Publisher's Annotation

James, John Angell, Female Piety or the Young Woman's Friend and Guide Through Life to Immortality (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications).

*James, John Angell, The Marriage Ring
"This little volume is intended as a manual for those just entering the marriage state. John Angel James (1785-1859) was an author beloved and esteemed for his many practical writings. He remarks, `It is an unquestionable truth that if a man be not happy at home, he cannot be happy anywhere; and he who is happy there need be miserable nowhere. The secret of happiness lies folded up in the leaves of the Bible and is carried in the bosom of religion.' He treats of the foundation of the marriage union, the family circle, the mutual and special duties of husband and wife." -- Gospel Union

Kennedy, D. James, Learning to Live With the People You Love (Springdale, PA: Whitaker House, 1987). [31344]
Love "is sharing life together in a way that brings glory to God and enriches the lives of every family member." Dr. Kennedy says no book he has written has brought so many comments as this one. Read this in conjunction with Dr. Kennedy's 6-message audio cassette series "Secrets of Successful Marriages," the audio cassette message "Why Some Marriages Fail and Others Succeed," and the 4-message audio cassette series "The Christian Marriage Series."

*Lockyer, Herbert, All the Promises of the Bible
"A devotional expositional compilation of all the promises [about 3,300 of the approximate 8,810 promises - SK] that are found in Scripture." -- Synopsis
"Dr. Herbert Lockyer was born in London in 1886, and held pastorates in Scotland and England for 25 years before coming to the United States in 1935. In 1937 he received the honorary Doctor of Divinity degree from Northwestern Evangelical Seminary. In 1955 he returned to England where he lived for many years. He then returned to the United States where he continued to devote time to the writing ministry until his death in November of 1984." -- Publisher's Annotation

*Miles, Herbert J., Sexual Understanding Before Marriage [70064]

Mack, Wayne A., and Nathan A. Mack, Preparing for Marriage God's Way (New York, NY: Springer Publishing Company, Inc., 1986) 70010
"A workbook and guide for those who are going to be married. . . ." -- GCB "A workbook that gives you `seven basic tools for a successful marriage. It enables you to: [1] assess your marital readiness; [2] know the other person for what he/she really is; [3] uncover any current problems and pinpoint future ones; [4] understand the solutions for both current and future difficulties; [5] develop skills for communication and conflict resolution; [6] prevent future heartache; and [7] prepare for a satisfying, fulfilling and God-honoring marriage.' Thirteen chapters, each with a couple of pages of teaching and then questionnaires, inventories and Bible studies designed to help readers make personal application. -- David Powlison
"PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE GOD'S WAY guides you to an understanding of what to do when the glow of courtship must be replaced by the daily responsiblility of marriage." -- Ingram

*Marshall, Walter, 1628-1680, The Gospel-Mystery of Sanctification (London, England: Oliphants Press, 1956, 1692) and (Grand Rapids, MI: Reformation Heritage Books, Inc.,) 1999).
The Reformation Heritage Books edition is a reprint of the 1954 edition set by Oliphants and includes an introduction by Joel R. Beeke. Also includes the author's famous sermon on "The Doctrine of Justification Opened and Applied."
Also available from Trinity Book Service and . [10363]
"Here you will read the most closely reasoned defense of scriptural sanctification to be found anywhere. . . . Fourteen directions are given to the reader, all perfected with the aim of explaining to sincere souls what sanctification is, what it is not, and how to attain a holy walk before God. . . ." -- Jay P. Green, Sr.
The Secret of Sanctification: Union With Christ: Walter Marshall's Gospel Mystery of Sanctification, Joel R. Beeke
http://www.heritagebooks.org/browse.asp?searchMode=author&searchString=marshall&x=20&y=8
The Gospel-Mystery of Sanctification, Walter Marshall
http://www.lettermen2.com/gmswm.html

Mason, Michael, The Mystery of Marriage: As Iron Sharpens Iron (Portland, OR: Multnomah Press, 1986) 70039
"An outstanding achievement, rarely has a new book roused in me so much enthusiasm as has the combination of wisdom, depth, dignity, and glow that I find in these chapters. . . ." -- J.I. Packer
"This book stands out as a brilliant celebration of the God-ordained union between man and wife. It explores the mystical and holy nature of marriage with a depth that will forever alter how a couple relates to each other - and to God." -- Ingram

Miles, Herbert J., The Dating Game (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House, 1975). 70011

*Perkins, William, 1558-1602, Christian oeconomie, or, A short survey of the right manner of erecting and ordering a familie according to the Scriptures first written in Latine by the author M. W. Perkins ; and now set forth in the vulgar tongue for more common vse and benefit by Tho. Pickering ..., 1609, Still Waters Revival Books, EEBO.
See "Christian oeconomie, or, A short survey of the right manner of erecting and ordering a familie according to the Scriptures."
Puritan Bookshelf CD-ROM (Volume Nine)
WorldCat: 52539330.
http://www.swrb.com/Puritan/puritan-bookshelf-CDs.htm

*Powlison, David, and John Yenchko, Pre-Engagement: Five Questions to Ask Yourself (Resources for Changing Lives Series).

Rank, Maureen Dealing With the Dad of Your Past
"Practical, biblical counsel for every woman.
"Although fathers are not the only determining influence in their daughters' lives, it is true that their impact at times may be the most ignored. Current research shows that a girl's relationship with her father is absolutely critical to her psychological, social, and spiritual development. This is grim news to a group of people whom psychologists are labeling, `The Fatherless Generation.' Physically absent dads (the current experience of one-fourth of American children under 18), emotionally absent dads, and abusive dads are impacting daughters as well as sons.
"God as Father designed earthly fathers to model His loving care through personal involvement, warmth, discipline, and wise direction and counsel toward maturity. Where these are lacking in a daughter's life, profound effects occur. As difficult as that may be to face, that process is the only way to emotional and spiritual wholeness. It requires a sometimes painful look back and honest assessment of the dad of the past. It means coming to terms with who he really was, who he wasn't, and what can be done about it now. Through God's restoring process, daughters will be challenged to embrace the One perfect Father who is always there and allow His life-changing truth and power to `make all things new'." -- Publisher's Annotation

Ryle, J.C., Holiness: Its Nature, Hindrances, Difficulties, and Roots (London, England: Evangelical Press). 20431
"Ryle, like his great masters, has no easy way to holiness to offer us, and no `patent' method by which it can be obtained; but he invariably produces that `hunger and thirst after righteousness' which is the only indispensable condition to being `filled'." -- D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones
"Newly typeset edition from Evangelical Press with preface done by J.I. Packer. Complete and unabridged." -- GCB
Holiness: Its Nature, Hindrances, Difficulties, and Roots J.C. Ryle
http://www.e4.net

Stark, J., Are You Ready For Marriage? (parts 1-4) [30409]

Sowell, Thomas A Conflict of Visions (William Morrow and Co.).
"Controversies in politics arise from many sources, but the conflicts that endure for generations or for centuries show a remarkably consistent pattern. The analysis of this pattern is the purpose of A CONFLICT OF VISIONS. Its theme is that the enduring political controversies of the past two centuries reflect radically different visions of the nature of man. Issues as diverse as criminal justice, income distribution, or war and peace repeatedly show those with one vision lining up on one side and those with another vision lining up on the other.
"Dr. Thomas Sowell describes A CONFLICT OF VISIONS as `the culmination of thirty years of work in the history of ideas' -- a field in which he established his professional reputation years before writing any of his well-known books on ethnicity and other social issues. Dr. Sowell and his books have received a number of awards and honors, and have been translated into several languages. He has been a consultant to three administrations of both parties, as well as scholar-in-residence at three "think tanks." He is now a Senior Fellow at the Hoover Institute in Stanford, California." -- Book Description

*Swanson, Andrew Whom Shall I Marry?
"Andrew Swanson writes with sensitivity on the struggles and difficulties young people from various cultures face in regard to the choice of a life mate. He writes about the ways in which God guides and directs those whose central desire is to do his will." -- Publisher's Annotation

Terkelsen, Helen E., I'm Going to Have a Baby and I'm Not Married 40223

Vincent, Thomas, 1634-1678, Christ the best husband: or An invitation of young women unto Christ. Delivered in a sermon to young women. By Thomas Vincent, minister sometime of Maudlins Milkstreet, London, 1672, EEBO.

*Watson, Thomas, The Doctrine of Repentance (Puritan Paperback Series. Carlisle, PA: The Banner of Truth Trust) A Christian classic.
"Knowing what repentance is, and actually repenting are essentials to true Christianity. Jesus Christ himself said that if we do not repent, we will perish! It is vital, therefore, to read and study what Scripture has to say about this theme.
"Few better guides have existed in this or any other language. . . . He was a master of both Scripture and the human heart, and wrote with a simplicity and directness that keeps his work fresh and powerful for the twentieth century." -- Publisher's Annotation
The Doctrine of Repentance, excerpts
Online etext.
http://www.fivesolas.com/watson/drepenti.htm

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Couples: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Newlyweds: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion (Bible Promises to Treasure)

*Wilson, Bunny, Liberated by Submission
Submission is the whole thing, submission to God, the Ultimate Judge, Lawgiver, Holiness, and submission to others. The caveat -- everyone tries to play god, and thus interferes with what God is doing, thus the need for discerning submission.
"Liberated through submission has given me the boldness to stand up and say that my desire is to be a submitted wife and the reasons why. Before I read this book, I sat silently when other women exploded about the forbidden `s' word. The Bible tells us clearly to submit and I did, as an act of obedience to God, however, I did not like it. As a result of reading Bunny's book, not only do I want to submit, but I recognize that I cannot afford not to. I am now "Liberated" because submission allows me to step back and watch God move. . . ! -- Reader Comment

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Justification, Sexual relationship, Christian liberty, Men, women and god, The doctrine of man, Abuse (women), Child abuse, Fatherlessness, Abstinence, Christian counseling and educational foundation, Westminster media, Works of Jay Adams, and Audio cassettes, CCEF speakers, Child abuse, Sexual wholeness, Marriage, Singleness, Gratuitous sex, a cause of violence, Counsel for young men, Counsel for young women, Pseudo-christian movements, Soul-violence, Churches that abuse, Divorce, Hostility, Homosexuality, Incest, Rape, Sex education, Pornography

Related WebLinks

The National Association of Nouthetic Counselors Tape Library
http://www.kyrios.com/soundword/nanc.html

Nouthetic Counseling Home Page -- Competent to Counsel
http://www.lifeisworship.com/nanc/index.htm

National Association of Nouthetic Counselors (NANC)
5526 State Road 26 East
Lafayette, IN 47905

Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation
http://www.ccef.org/
Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation (CCEF)
1803 East Willow Grove Avenue
Glenside, PA 19038
Telephone: 215.884.7676

Institute of Biblical Counseling and Discipleship (formerly CCEF West)
http://www.ibcd.org/

Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org



MARRIAGE

Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it. (Psalms 127:1a)

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. (Ephesians 5:31)

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. (Hebrews 13:4)

Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it. (Ephesians 5:21,22,25)

And when all things shall be subdued unto him, then shall the Son also himself be subject unto him that put all things under him, that God may be all in all. (1 Corinthians 15:28)

God's promises to married persons deepens their love for each other.

"As God by creation made two of one, so again by marriage He made one of two." -- Thomas Adams

"Woman takes her being from man, man takes his well-being from woman." -- Thomas Adams

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates. (Religion [holiness] is the root of happiness. Piety has charms which abide in all their freshness when mere fleshly beauty has given place to the wrinkles of old age. May the new household be founded in prayer, built up in holiness, and crowned with the divine blessing.) -- C.H. Spurgeon commenting on Proverbs 31:30, 31 in Spurgeon's Devotional Bible, p. 778.

Adams, Jay E., Marriage and Family Life (part 1): Purpose of Companionship, Cleaving (part 1) [30049A]

Adams, Jay E., Marriage and Family Life (part 2): Headship, Husband's Helper, Submission (part 2) [30050]

Adams, Jay E., Marriage and Family Life (part 3): Discipline, Motivation, Good for Evil (part 3) [30051]

Adams, Jay E., Role-Play and Critique (part 3) [30066]

Adams, Jay E., Role-Play and Critique (part 4) [30067]

Adams, Jay E., The Role of Father in the Home [30084]

Adams, Jay E., The Role of Husband in the Home [30085]

Baxter, Richard, A Breviate of the Life of Margaret, the Daughter of Francis Charlton of Apply in Shropshire Esq.; and Wife of Richard Baxter. For the use of all, but especially of their Kindred. There is also Published the Character of her Mother, truly described in her Published Funeral Sermon. Reprinted at her Daughter's Request, called `The Last Word of a Believer, His passing-prayer, recommending his departing Spirit to Christ, to be received by him (London, England: Printed for B. Simmons at the Three Golden Cocks at the West-end of St. Paul's, 1681). OCLC 33455414.
Microfilmed by The Folger Shakespearian Library in 1995. FILM Fo. 4078.6 Microfilm (Washington, DC: Folger Shakespeare Library, 1995). 1 microfilm reel; 35 mm. Negative microfilm of Folger copy, B1194 (12:1, 10 ft.).

*BAXTER, RICHARD, A Christian Directory: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1. Full title: A Christian Directory: or A Sum of Practical Theology, and Cases of Conscience. Directing Christians How to Use Their Knowledge and Faith; How to Improve all Helps and Means, and to Perform all Duties; How to Overcome Temptations, and to Escape or Mortify Every Sin. In Four Parts.
I. Christian Ethics (or Private Duties)
II. Christian Economics (or Family Duties)
III. Christian Ecclesiastics (or Church Duties)
IV. Christian Politics (or Duties to Our Rulers and Neighbours)
(Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 1997, 1990, 1838, 1707, 1678, 1673). Foreword by J.I. Packer (Soli Deo Gloria edition only). The Soli Deo Gloria publication is a facsimile reprint of the 19th century reprint by George Virtue, London. The original 1673 edition and the 1678 edition, both printed by Robert White for Nevill Simmons. Bibliographic and scriptural footnotes. A Christian classic.
"The complete practical works of Richard Baxter are in print in four volumes entitled BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS. This volume (about 1 1/4 million words, 1028 pages) is volume one of the set. The editor's preface (1707), p. xiii, stated that the works of Richard Baxter are 'perhaps the best body of practical divinity that is extent in our own or any other tongue.' Richard Baxter lived from 1615-1691. The DIRECTORY was completed in 1665. Its scope was intended to cover all of practical theology, a summa of casuistry . . ." -- Don Kistler
"Baxter's series, which grew in range and scope as it proceeded . . . is a peak point in Puritan devotional writing, and remains a precious resource for all, in this or any age, who want to know what is involved in Biblical godliness. . . . A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY may justly be described as a landmark. It is the fullest, most thorough, and in this writer's judgment, most profound treatment of Christian spirituality and standards that has ever been attempted by an English-speaking Evangelical author. The fact that it embraces both spirituality and standards (the principles of communion with God plus the specifics of obedience to God) merits approving comment in itself; nowadays spirituality and ethics have become two distinct disciplines in the schools, and books written on either say virtually nothing about the other . . ." -- J.I. Packer
Timothy Keller calls it the greatest manual on Biblical counseling ever produced.
"There are many Puritan classics on this subject. Thomas Brooks' PRECIOUS REMEDIES FOR SATAN'S DEVICES, Thomas Goodwin's A CHILD OF LIGHT WALKING IN DARKNESS, William Bridge's A LIFTING UP FOR THE DOWNCAST, and many other similar works give evidence that the Puritans were. . . . masters at applying Biblical answers and principles to problems that can only be solved by spiritual means. No Puritan work, however, has ever approached the popularity, the scope, or the depth of Baxter's classic treatise. With the widespread interest in counseling in today's church, this reprint of Baxter's work should be a welcome addition to every pastor's library, or to anyone else who wishes to give solid Biblical answers to man's questions." -- Don Kistler
"We have long waited for a purely Biblical treatment of the spiritual ills and cures of men which is untainted by the views of psychology. Since Baxter lived about 200 years before psychology arrived, his deep work is completely void of its encroachment -- thankfully!" -- John MacArthur
"The kings men sought to arrest Richard Baxter, but he traveled ceaselessly from place to place, writing his sermons and his books even on horseback (he had an inkwell in his saddle) and preached over a wide area." -- Brian H. Edwards
"Baxter was a wonder of his age. His writings total 72 large volumes, much of it written on horseback as he traveled in his widespread preaching efforts. He seldom, if ever, edited anything he wrote. Knowing this any reader will be amazed at how well he communicated his deep love for his Savior. For 26 years he was public enemy No. 1 to the king, yet he lived to see the flight of the king in 1688." -- Jay P. Green, Sr.
POOR MAN'S FAMILY BOOK (1674) and THE CATECHIZING OF FAMILIES (1683), found elsewhere in BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, are less detailed works. They are more suitable for family instruction than are the detailed presentation in A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY.
" Ptacek in Family Worship (p. 51-52), supplies the following information in regard to Baxter and this book. He notes that after the Episcopalians ejected numerous `nonconformists,' in what is know as the `great ejection,' in 1662, `Baxter pastored from house to house, visiting families of his parish in their homes. These visits contributed to Baxter's A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, a large and still very relevant manual of pastoral care.' Focusing on just one area of great importance, Ptacek demonstrates how this book's relevance is not limited by time or culture, though sometimes the use of specific words are. `Published in 1673, but written 1664-65, a large book-length part of Baxter's CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY is devoted to the family. It is entitled `Christian Economics' based on the archaic usage of the word, which reflects the proper sense of the Greek root oikonomos as the manager of a household, in the Christian case, the spiritual leader of the family. The family head is essential to Baxter's view of family worship and instruction. Baxter asserts that it is God's will that this instruction be carried out by the rulers of the families.' For a male head of the household to fail to do so, or to have another instruct in the family, is contrary to his position of authority.' This is the kind of book that can be passed on from generation to generation and still find much use in the service of the kingdom of God. . . . "Though relatively weak on corporate sanctification, corporate faithfulness and some important areas of doctrine (such as justification), Baxter's work on subjects related to personal piety can be of good practical use to the Christian -- if one is careful to separate out his aberrant doctrinal views and any practical errors they may lead to." -- SWRB
This work is available in many editions, and in many formats.
Reformation Heritage Books has new copies of the Soli Deo Gloria edition as of March 2008, even though it is generally thought to be out of print. They acquired Soli Deo Gloria from Ligonier Ministries in late 2007. They may be the publisher who will eventually reprints the title.
http://www.heritagebooks.org/
The reprint by George Virtue is included on Reformation Bookshelf CD #21, ISBN: 0921148992 9780921148999.
The reprint by George Virtue is available as a Cerlox bound photocopy from Still Waters Revival Books, Edmonton, AB, Canada.
The reprint by George Virtue is available online and may be downloaded in PDF format at Christian Classics Ethereal Library.
http://www.ccel.org/ccel/baxter/practical.toc.html
The reprint by George Virtue is included in THE AMAZING CHRISTIAN LIBRARY, DVD Four, CD #21
http://www.AmazingLibrary.com
The reprint by George Virtue appears in full preview in Google Books but may not be downloaded. About five other editions from libraries are available in Google Books, and may be downloaded (August 2008).
Notice that the etext in Google Books has the advantage of being searchable. Searching an image-based PDF file is not possible, unless the user owns software such as Abode Acrobat Pro or Kirtas BookScan Editor. They both have an OCR (optical character recognition) feature that will search an image-based PDFs (bit-map scans). Searches appear to be perfect in this work, although one must know Baxter's vocabulary. Text can be cut and paste from image-based PDF format to OCR (character) format. This particular Google Books scan can not be cut and pasted or downloaded.
http://books.google.com/books?id=cyQFBOUHkaoC&dq=A+Christian+Directory+inpublisher:lettermen+inpublisher:associates&lr=&as_brr=0&ie=ISO-8859-1
One of the older, multi-volume editions of THE WORKS OF RICHARD BAXTER is available at Monergism.com in the "Puritan Library," "Richard Baxter." A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, volume 23. It can be downloaded.
http://www.puritanlibrary.com/
Another older edition is available on microfilm (Ann Arbor, MI: University Microfilms, 1970), 1 microfilm reel, 35 mm (Early English books, 1641-1700; 343:11).
The following three excerpts are included as bonus free books on Reformation Bookshelf CD #28, ISBN: 0921148267 9780921148265.
1. "The Duties of Parents for Their Children" from Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1, A Christian Directory, on Christian Economics, Chap. X., pp. 449-454.
2. "The Special Duties of Children Towards Their Parents" from Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1, A Christian Directory, on Christian Economics, Chap. XI., pp. 454-457.
3. "The Special Duties of Children and Youth Towards God" from Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1, A Christian Directory, on Christian Economics, Chap. XII., pp. 457-458).
The Richard Baxter Page
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*Baxter, Richard, The Reformed Pastor: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 4 (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 2000, 1992). A Christian classic.
"This is the fourth and final volume in this great set. Includes, [`Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men,'] `The Reformed Pastor' `Poor Man's Family Book,' `The Catechizing of Families,' and `The Mother's Catechism,' in all 25 sermons, treatises, and catechisms. Dr. J.I. Packer says, `For me, the great joy of this year is that it see the completion of Soli Deo Gloria's reprint of Baxter's incomparable PRACTICAL WORKS'." -- GCB
The Reformed Pastor, Richard Baxter
http://www.e4.net
The Richard Baxter Page
http://members.aol.com/augusteen/Baxter.html
Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men (1681), by Richard Baxter
http://www.lettermen2.com/ccaym.html

Bilezikian, Gilbert, Beyond Sex Roles: A Guide for the Study of Female Roles in the Bible [40067]

Bouma, Mary LaGrand, Creative Homemaker (Minneapolis, MN: Bethany Fellowship, 1973). 70025

Clark, Stephen B., Man and Woman in Christ: An Examination of the Roles of Men and Women in Light of Scripture and the Social Sciences [60298]

Defoe, Daniel, Conjugal Lewdness, or Matrimonial Whoredom

Engelsma, David, Marriage, the Mystery of Christ and the Church [10296]

Everett, Angela, Loving Someone Else's Child [70589]

*Garland, Diana S., Richmond Garland, and David E. Garland, Beyond Companionship: Christians in Marriage [40075]

*Gill, John, Exposition of the Song of Solomon [30636]

*Guernsey, Dennis B., Thoroughly Married (Dallas, TX: Word Publishing, 1976). 70020
"A clear delineation of the way in which a proper understanding of the Bible's teaching on marriage contributes toward the development of a stable life-style, a healthier sex life, and a happier home." -- Cyril J. Barber

Grimm, Robert, Love and Sexuality [70085]

Harris, J. Gordon, Biblical Perspectives on Aging: God and the Elderly [80071]

Hint, Keith, and Gladys Hint, We Need Each Other [20298]

Hurley, J., Christ as the Husband, The Church as the Bride [10210]

Hurley, J., Headship and Submission in Ephesians 5 [30203]

*Kennedy, D. James, Learning to Live With the People You Love (Springdale, PA: Whitaker House, 1987). [31344]
Love "is sharing life together in a way that brings glory to God and enriches the lives of every family member." Dr. Kennedy says no book he has written has brought so many comments as this one. Read this in conjunction with Dr. Kennedy's 6-message audio cassette series "Secrets of Successful Marriages," the audio cassette message "Why Some Marriages Fail and Others Succeed," and the 4-message audio cassette series "The Christian Marriage Series."

*Knight, George W., The Role Relationship of Men and Women [40071]

Mack, Wayne, Developing Deeper Unity in Marriage (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 70036
A series of six audio cassettes.

Mack, Wayne, How to Develop Deep Unity in the Marriage Relationship (Philadelphia, PA: The Presbyterian and Reformed Publishing Co.). 70037
"A manual to be used by husband and wife together. Step-by-step lessons, with appropriate exercises, take a couple through all the important scriptural aspects of marriage. Extremely helpful . . . very practical." Three units of this work are now available. Contains material useful in counseling.

Mack, Wayne, Strengthening Your Marriage (Philadelphia, PA: The Presbyterian and Reformed Publishing Co.). 70038

Mason, Michael, The Mystery of Marriage: As Iron Sharpens Iron (Portland, OR: Multnomah Press, 1986). 70039
"An outstanding achievement, rarely has a new book roused in me so much enthusiasm as has the combination of wisdom, depth, dignity, and glow that I find in these chapters
. . . . For the freshness and force with which [Mason] spells out the magnificence of marriage in God's plan I am deeply grateful." -- J.I. Packer

Miles, Herbert J., Sexual Happiness in Marriage [70087]

Miles, Herbert J., and Fern Harrington Miles, Husband-Wife Equality (Old Tappan, NJ: Fleming H. Revell, 1976). 70041

Miller, C. John, Husband and Father as Spiritual Leader (part 1) [30298]

Miller, C. John, Husband and Father as Spiritual Leader (part 2) [30299]

Miller, C. John, Puritan Style of Love and Marriage (part 1) [30306]

Miller, C. John, Puritan Style of Love and Marriage (part 2) [30307]

Miller, C. John, Woman's Role in the Home (part 1) [30309]

Miller, C. John, Woman's Role in the Home (part 2) [30310]

*Perkins, William, 1558-1602, Christian oeconomie, or, A short survey of the right manner of erecting and ordering a familie according to the Scriptures first written in Latine by the author M. W. Perkins ; and now set forth in the vulgar tongue for more common vse and benefit by Tho. Pickering ..., 1609, Still Waters Revival Books, EEBO.
See "Christian oeconomie, or, A short survey of the right manner of erecting and ordering a familie according to the Scriptures."
Puritan Bookshelf CD-ROM (Volume Nine)
WorldCat: 52539330.
http://www.swrb.com/Puritan/puritan-bookshelf-CDs.htm

Piper, Otto A., The Biblical View of Sex and Marriage (New York: Charles Scribners Sons, 1960). 90337
"After discussing the Biblical view of sex, the writer proceeds to elaborate on the standards which he deems to be necessary for an adequate sexual life. He then discusses the objectives of marriage in the light of the Scriptures." -- Cyril J. Barber

Poythress, V., Marriage and Singleness; Marriage [30367]

Price, Greg, The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family, an ongoing cassette series (audio and video), (Still Waters Revival Books).

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#1) "The Divine Institution of Marriage"

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#2) "Preparing for Marriage 1/2," contains advanced teaching on courtship.

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#3) "Preparing for Marriage 2/2," contains advanced teaching on courtship.

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#4) "Husband's Role and Duty 1/2"

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#5) "Husband's Role and Duty 2/2"

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#6) "Wife's Role and Duty 1/2"

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#7) "Wife's Role and Duty 2/2"

Price, Greg, Peacemakers at War With Sin (Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books), 1 audio cassette)
"Focusing on Matt. 5:9, 'Blessed are the peacemakers,' Price demonstrate what this portion of Scripture means by contrasting it with what it does not mean. Using this 'Turretin-like' method of proclaiming the truth some surprising results are often mined from God's Word, and this sermon is no exception. Special attention is given to marriage and family relationships, but how this verity applies to the church and the state is also covered -- the United Nations receiving its share of scathing rebukes for the false, antichristian peace it promotes. Mere external 'peace' and 'obedience' are condemned as Price sets his sights on promoting classic Puritan experimental heart Christianity. Showing that true peace only consists in reconciliation based on God's truth, the peacemaker's Scripture refers to are often judged by the carnal and disaffected to be the greatest trouble makers -- the Lord Jesus Christ being the prime example. He hated and fought against idolatry, covenant breaking and all other violations of God's law (as the greatest peacemaker that ever lived) to such an extent that those who desired the peace of the world tortured and murdered him. Prophets and wise men since have often fared no better in seeking to set forth the only true peace. Biblical peace is not based on compromise, pragmatism or the removal of Biblical (Reformation) landmarks, it is seen in this sermon to be based on truth and faithfulness. 'Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God' (James 4:4). Heresy, the false ecumenical movement of mystery Babylon, Calvin on schism, unity and numerous other points are all addressed. 'Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid' (John 14:27)." -- SWRB

Price, Greg, Wives and Biblical Submission (Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books), 1 cassette.
"The Covenanter view of authority and submission set forth with special application to husbands and wives. Directed primarily to the ladies of the covenant (but containing a good deal of exhortation to husbands), this is about as practical a sermon as you will hear. There was good reason why Puritan families were so strong and why divorce was unheard of among these Calvinists; much of it (as the listener will certainly notice) can be traced back to what Price sets forth in this sermon. If you desire a godly family and a marriage relationship analogous to that which Christ enjoys with his bride (the church) you will be pleased with the strong, uncompromising (and yet loving), biblical stand set forth here. A Price classic!" -- SWRB

Stark, J., Husbands Love Your Wives (parts 1-5) [30412]

Talley, James, and Leslie H. Stobbe, Reconcilable Differences: Mending Broken Relationships [70559]

Welch, Ed, Co-Dependency [30457]

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Couples: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Men: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Moms: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Newlyweds: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion (Bible Promises to Treasure)

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Parents

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Women: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion

Vincent, Thomas, 1634-1678, Christ the best husband: or An invitation of young women unto Christ. Delivered in a sermon to young women. By Thomas Vincent, minister sometime of Maudlins Milkstreet, London, 1672, EEBO.

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Adams, Jay, works of, Abuse, Adultery, Divorce, Family, Forgiveness, Love and counseling problems, Marriage, Problems Solving, Men and Women, Men, Women, and God, Parenting, A Selection of Works on Pseudo-Christian Movements, Secret Societies and Ungodly Alliance, Sex, Marriage

Related WebLinks

The Richard Baxter Page
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Family Worship

God be merciful unto us, and bless us: and cause his face to shine upon us: That they way may be known upon earth, thy saving health among all nations. (Psalms 67:1,2)

Family reformation is the easiest and the most likely way to a common reformation; at least to send many souls to heaven and train up multitudes for God, if it reach not to national reformation. -- Richard Baxter

Family worship was also, to the Puritans, vitally important. Every home should be a church, with the head of the house as its minister. Daily and indeed twice daily, the Puritans recommended, the family as a family should hear the word read, and pray to God. Sunday by Sunday, the family should seek to pool the profiting of its members from the public ordinances; day by day, its members should seek to encourage each other in the way of God. Parents must teach their children the Scriptures; all members of the household must be given time and a place to pray. Thus, informally, but conscientiously, the worship and service of God in the home must be carried on. -- J.I. Packer

Be sure that you keep up family religion; especially in the careful education of youth. Read the Scriptures and good books, and call upon God, and sing his praise; and recreate youth with reading the history of the church, and the lives of holy men and martyrs: instruct them in catechisms and fundamentals. . . . Above all, live in love to God and man... -- Richard Baxter

"The practice of family worship has done more for comprehensive Reformation than any other means available to man." -- SWRB

*ALEXANDER, JAMES W., Family Worship: A Biblical Duty, 1847. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22, ISBN: 0921148143 9780921148142. Alternate title: Thoughts on Family Worship (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 1990, 1847). ISBN: 1573580813 9781573580816
First printed in 1847 by the Presbyterian Board of Education.
"No minister in our church was a more accomplished scholar. The pulpit was his appropriate sphere." -- Charles Hodge
"It would be almost impossible to overemphasis the importance of daily family worship. It is a blessed privilege for those who have known it as children and/or adults. It is foundational to any lasting revival or reformation. It is a duty commanded by God in Scripture, and to neglect it is, without a doubt, sinful. The Westminster Divines made it clear, in their amazing Directory for Family Worship, that obstinacy in the sin of neglecting family worship should lead where there are faithful elders to the head of the offending house being `suspended and debarred from the Lord's supper.' This book gives the nature, warrant, and history of family worship in easy to read large print." -- SWRB
"The author's goal is `extending the domestic worship of God's people and especially in arousing the children of the covenant to honor the God of their fathers.' To fulfill this purpose, Alexander traces family worship from Eden on through the Old and New Testaments and church history. The universal voice of the Church, in its best periods, has been in favor of family worship. . . .' He demonstrates that family worship is a means of intellectual improvement: `True piety improves the understanding. . . .' " -- Robert H. Duvall

*BAXTER, RICHARD, A Christian Directory: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1. Full title: A Christian Directory: or A Sum of Practical Theology, and Cases of Conscience. Directing Christians How to Use Their Knowledge and Faith; How to Improve all Helps and Means, and to Perform all Duties; How to Overcome Temptations, and to Escape or Mortify Every Sin. In Four Parts.
I. Christian Ethics (or Private Duties)
II. Christian Economics (or Family Duties)
III. Christian Ecclesiastics (or Church Duties)
IV. Christian Politics (or Duties to Our Rulers and Neighbours)
(Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 1997, 1990, 1838, 1707, 1678, 1673). Foreword by J.I. Packer (Soli Deo Gloria edition only). The Soli Deo Gloria publication is a facsimile reprint of the 19th century reprint by George Virtue, London. The original 1673 edition and the 1678 edition, both printed by Robert White for Nevill Simmons. Bibliographic and scriptural footnotes. A Christian classic.
"The complete practical works of Richard Baxter are in print in four volumes entitled BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS. This volume (about 1 1/4 million words, 1028 pages) is volume one of the set. The editor's preface (1707), p. xiii, stated that the works of Richard Baxter are 'perhaps the best body of practical divinity that is extent in our own or any other tongue.' Richard Baxter lived from 1615-1691. The DIRECTORY was completed in 1665. Its scope was intended to cover all of practical theology, a summa of casuistry . . ." -- Don Kistler
"Baxter's series, which grew in range and scope as it proceeded . . . is a peak point in Puritan devotional writing, and remains a precious resource for all, in this or any age, who want to know what is involved in Biblical godliness. . . . A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY may justly be described as a landmark. It is the fullest, most thorough, and in this writer's judgment, most profound treatment of Christian spirituality and standards that has ever been attempted by an English-speaking Evangelical author. The fact that it embraces both spirituality and standards (the principles of communion with God plus the specifics of obedience to God) merits approving comment in itself; nowadays spirituality and ethics have become two distinct disciplines in the schools, and books written on either say virtually nothing about the other . . ." -- J.I. Packer
Timothy Keller calls it the greatest manual on Biblical counseling ever produced.
"There are many Puritan classics on this subject. Thomas Brooks' PRECIOUS REMEDIES FOR SATAN'S DEVICES, Thomas Goodwin's A CHILD OF LIGHT WALKING IN DARKNESS, William Bridge's A LIFTING UP FOR THE DOWNCAST, and many other similar works give evidence that the Puritans were. . . . masters at applying Biblical answers and principles to problems that can only be solved by spiritual means. No Puritan work, however, has ever approached the popularity, the scope, or the depth of Baxter's classic treatise. With the widespread interest in counseling in today's church, this reprint of Baxter's work should be a welcome addition to every pastor's library, or to anyone else who wishes to give solid Biblical answers to man's questions." -- Don Kistler
"We have long waited for a purely Biblical treatment of the spiritual ills and cures of men which is untainted by the views of psychology. Since Baxter lived about 200 years before psychology arrived, his deep work is completely void of its encroachment -- thankfully!" -- John MacArthur
"The kings men sought to arrest Richard Baxter, but he traveled ceaselessly from place to place, writing his sermons and his books even on horseback (he had an inkwell in his saddle) and preached over a wide area." -- Brian H. Edwards
"Baxter was a wonder of his age. His writings total 72 large volumes, much of it written on horseback as he traveled in his widespread preaching efforts. He seldom, if ever, edited anything he wrote. Knowing this any reader will be amazed at how well he communicated his deep love for his Savior. For 26 years he was public enemy No. 1 to the king, yet he lived to see the flight of the king in 1688." -- Jay P. Green, Sr.
POOR MAN'S FAMILY BOOK (1674) and THE CATECHIZING OF FAMILIES (1683), found elsewhere in BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, are less detailed works. They are more suitable for family instruction than are the detailed presentation in A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY.
" Ptacek in Family Worship (p. 51-52), supplies the following information in regard to Baxter and this book. He notes that after the Episcopalians ejected numerous `nonconformists,' in what is know as the `great ejection,' in 1662, `Baxter pastored from house to house, visiting families of his parish in their homes. These visits contributed to Baxter's A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, a large and still very relevant manual of pastoral care.' Focusing on just one area of great importance, Ptacek demonstrates how this book's relevance is not limited by time or culture, though sometimes the use of specific words are. `Published in 1673, but written 1664-65, a large book-length part of Baxter's CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY is devoted to the family. It is entitled `Christian Economics' based on the archaic usage of the word, which reflects the proper sense of the Greek root oikonomos as the manager of a household, in the Christian case, the spiritual leader of the family. The family head is essential to Baxter's view of family worship and instruction. Baxter asserts that it is God's will that this instruction be carried out by the rulers of the families.' For a male head of the household to fail to do so, or to have another instruct in the family, is contrary to his position of authority.' This is the kind of book that can be passed on from generation to generation and still find much use in the service of the kingdom of God. . . . "Though relatively weak on corporate sanctification, corporate faithfulness and some important areas of doctrine (such as justification), Baxter's work on subjects related to personal piety can be of good practical use to the Christian -- if one is careful to separate out his aberrant doctrinal views and any practical errors they may lead to." -- SWRB
This work is available in many editions, and in many formats.
Reformation Heritage Books has new copies of the Soli Deo Gloria edition as of March 2008, even though it is generally thought to be out of print. They acquired Soli Deo Gloria from Ligonier Ministries in late 2007. They may be the publisher who will eventually reprints the title.
http://www.heritagebooks.org/
The reprint by George Virtue is included on Reformation Bookshelf CD #21, ISBN: 0921148992 9780921148999.
The reprint by George Virtue is available as a Cerlox bound photocopy from Still Waters Revival Books, Edmonton, AB, Canada.
The reprint by George Virtue is available online and may be downloaded in PDF format at Christian Classics Ethereal Library.
http://www.ccel.org/ccel/baxter/practical.toc.html
The reprint by George Virtue is included in THE AMAZING CHRISTIAN LIBRARY, DVD Four, CD #21
http://www.AmazingLibrary.com
The reprint by George Virtue appears in full preview in Google Books but may not be downloaded. About five other editions from libraries are available in Google Books, and may be downloaded (August 2008).
Notice that the etext in Google Books has the advantage of being searchable. Searching an image-based PDF file is not possible, unless the user owns software such as Abode Acrobat Pro or Kirtas BookScan Editor. They both have an OCR (optical character recognition) feature that will search an image-based PDFs (bit-map scans). Searches appear to be perfect in this work, although one must know Baxter's vocabulary. Text can be cut and paste from image-based PDF format to OCR (character) format. This particular Google Books scan can not be cut and pasted or downloaded.
http://books.google.com/books?id=cyQFBOUHkaoC&dq=A+Christian+Directory+inpublisher:lettermen+inpublisher:associates&lr=&as_brr=0&ie=ISO-8859-1
One of the older, multi-volume editions of THE WORKS OF RICHARD BAXTER is available at Monergism.com in the "Puritan Library," "Richard Baxter." A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, volume 23. It can be downloaded.
http://www.puritanlibrary.com/
Another older edition is available on microfilm (Ann Arbor, MI: University Microfilms, 1970), 1 microfilm reel, 35 mm (Early English books, 1641-1700; 343:11).
The following three excerpts are included as bonus free books on Reformation Bookshelf CD #28, ISBN: 0921148267 9780921148265.
1. "The Duties of Parents for Their Children" from Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1, A Christian Directory, on Christian Economics, Chap. X., pp. 449-454.
2. "The Special Duties of Children Towards Their Parents" from Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1, A Christian Directory, on Christian Economics, Chap. XI., pp. 454-457.
3. "The Special Duties of Children and Youth Towards God" from Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1, A Christian Directory, on Christian Economics, Chap. XII., pp. 457-458).
The Richard Baxter Page
http://members.aol.com/augusteen/Baxter.html

*Baxter, Richard, The Reformed Pastor: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 4 (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 2000, 1992). A Christian classic.
"This is the fourth and final volume in this great set. Includes, [`Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men,'] `The Reformed Pastor' `Poor Man's Family Book,' `The Catechizing of Families,' and `The Mother's Catechism,' in all 25 sermons, treatises, and catechisms. Dr. J.I. Packer says, `For me, the great joy of this year is that it see the completion of Soli Deo Gloria's reprint of Baxter's incomparable PRACTICAL WORKS'." -- GCB
The Reformed Pastor, Richard Baxter
http://www.e4.net
The Richard Baxter Page
http://members.aol.com/augusteen/Baxter.html
Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men (1681), by Richard Baxter
http://www.lettermen2.com/ccaym.html

Baxter, Richard. A paraphrase on the New Testament, with notes, doctrinal and practical, fitted to the use of religious families, ... By the late Rev. Mr. Richard Baxter. ... Blackburn, 1798. (ECCO) Gale Document Number CW3317723139

*Book of Psalms for Singing (Edmonton, AB Canada: Still Waters Revival Books).
Matches all the audio cassettes and CD's of Psalm singing found in the Still Waters Revival Books catalog. Great for family worship and one of the best ways to memorize God's Word.

Carr, W., The Bible and the Christian Home (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 30137
Audio cassette NP138.

Derham, A. Morgan (editor), Time for the Family, 2 volumes (Wayne, PA [Scripture Union, 150 Strafford Avenue, Wayne 19087]: Scripture Union). 10612
"Each volume provides six full months of Bible readings, prayers, and activity material in a lively and readable form. Designed to take just ten minutes a day."

*De Graaf, Simon Gerrit, Promise and Deliverance, 4 volumes (Scarsdale, NY [Westminster Discount Book Service, P.O. Box 125H, Scarsdale 10583]: Westminster Discount Book Service, 1977). Translated from the Dutch by H. Evan Runner and Elisabeth Wichers Runner. A Christian classic.
"In Scripture, religion means covenant. By His Word, God called into being an order of creation culminating in man. By that Word He also gave man His favor and brought him into a life of conscious covenantal fellowship with Himself. As De Graaf himself puts it: `Without covenant, there is no religion, no conscious fellowship between man and God, no exchange of love and faithfulness. Without the covenant, man would be just an instrument in God's hand. When God created man, He had more than an instrument in mind: He made a creature that could respond to Him. . . .'
"This renewed insight into Biblical revelation is the perspective undergirding De Graaf's treatment of all Bible stories. It makes his book a unique presentation of God's revelation of Himself in the covenant and keeps his interpretations of the stories from degenerating into mere moralizing. Religion is not morality." -- H. Evan Runner
"I highly recommend this book. One of the best books available." -- R.C. Sproul
"A landmark in interpreting the simple stories of the Bible." -- Christianity Today

*Henry, Matthew, A Church in the House: A Sermon Concerning Family Religion (London, 1704), (Bound Photocopies of Rare Books Series. Edmonton, Alberta, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books).
"Family worship is presently one of the most powerful weapons in a Christian parents arsenal of truth. Read this Puritan sermon and see why! In time past, when the churches saw the family as `little churches' within the church, elders saw to it that family worship was practiced daily and that offenders against this Godly order were censured. Daily family worship is a monumental blessing on the one hand and a serious sin of omission, when not practiced, on the other. Though Kevin Reed was speaking of public worship in the following quotation, the directive can easily be applied to family worship also. Reed notes, `[h]eads of households you husbands and fathers -- it is incumbent on you to lead your family in the narrow path which leads to life. Compromise in worship is a form of apostasy, which teaches children that we love family approval more than obedience to Christ... You have no right to set aside biblical principles of worship' (John Knox the Forgotten Reformer, forthcoming, p. 99). Furthermore, Ptacek has written that, `[t]he role of the head of the family was given the highest possible status by Matthew Henry. In a 1704 sermon on family religion, Henry followed Cawdrey in arguing that the head of the family holds all of the offices of Christ with respect to his household: prophet, priest and king. Henry's design for family religion is based on the exercise of these three offices. As a prophet the head of the family teaches doctrine through the reading of Scripture and catechizing. The head's priestly office is expressed in praying for his family. His exercise of discipline reflects the office of king, both in encouraging godly behaviour and discouraging sinful practices. Although Matthew Henry was the best known Puritan preacher of his time, he asserted without fear of controversy that his view of the role of the head of the family was one in which all agree' (Family Worship, pp. 52-53). For parents, and especially fathers, this may be one of the most important works you will ever read. When family worship is practised faithfully (and the responsibility for this rests with the head of the house primarily, and the elders of the church secondarily — through encouragement, help and discipline of the unfaithful), nations and generations to come will be greatly influenced to bow humbly before the Lord Jesus Christ and serve Him alone!" -- SWRB

Palmer, B.M., The Family in its Offices of Instruction and Worship (1876), (Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books).
"The author notes that '[f]rom the earliest period in the history of the Church, the duty of family instruction has been emphasized as the most important of all agencies in perpetuating the knowledge of Divine truth' (emphasis added). Furthermore, he writes, 'each pious household is a separate fibre of those roots by which the Church of the living God takes hold upon the earth, and preserves its existence in a sinful world.' It is especially important that fathers study material like this, for if they will not lead their families in instruction and daily family worship, they have, for all intents and purposes, denied the faith. For when 1 Tim. 5:8 states, 'But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel,' it should be taken to heart. Even if this verse refers specifically to the material aspects of life, how much more important are the spiritual duties? This book should be a great encouragement to those entrusted with these most important spiritual duties and privileges!" -- SWRB

Palmer, Samuel, A Collection of family prayers: with various occasional forms, from the devotional writings of sundry authors, 1811.
Palmer, Samuel. A collection of family-prayers from the devotional writings of Baxter, ... and others. With various occasional forms. By Samuel Palmer. London, 1783. (ECCO) Gale Document Number CW3318915409

Palmer, Samuel, The Covenanters catechisme, or, A brief and familiar analysis and exposition of the Covenant: first delivered in sundry sermons to a particular congregation, and now resolved into questions and answers for the more publike good, 1644

*Price, Greg, Family Worship by Greg Price (Audio Cassette Series. Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books).
"A great introduction to the duty and privilege of daily family worship with much `how to' instruction from Scripture. Family worship has always been a major component of all true revivals. Among the Old Testament people of God, in the days of the Apostles, during the great Reformations that took place in the 16th and 17th centuries, at the founding of the American colonies, and wherever there is a love for the Truth, daily family worship has been a sign of faithfulness to God. When it is practiced faithfully, daily family worship is one of the great blessings of covenant life; when it is ignored or set aside, it is a serious sin which has devastating consequences (and evidences and lack of true spirituality)." -- SWRB
Family Worship by Greg Price (1 of 2)
http://sphynx.idontknow.com/swrb/family.ram

*Pride, Mary, All the Way Home: Power for Your Family to Be Its Best (Wheaton, IL: Good News Publishers [Crossway Books], 1989). 40122
"This is the long awaited sequel to the author's THE WAY HOME, a wonderful and revolutionary book. Here Mary Pride deals with home education, family worship, time management, and family work and play. Also ideas on starting and running a home business and investment strategies open new doors for women at home to use their talents and creativity. She shows how the family can reach out to minister to the community as well." -- GCB

*Ptacek, Kerry, Family Worship: Biblical Basis, Historical Reality, Current Need (Edmonton, AB Canada: Still Waters Revival Books, 1994). Bound photocopy.
"The practice of family worship has done more for the comprehensive Reformation than any other means available to man. A revival of this Biblically ordained practice should be studied, prayed for, and implemented throughout all lands, at the earliest possible date. If you are serious about your faith and you would love to see the Earth full of the knowledge of the Lord `as the waters cover the sea' (Isaiah 11:9), then this is as good a place to start as any." -- SWRB

Smith, B.M., Family Religion, or the Domestic Relations as Regulated by Christian Principles (1859), (Bound Photocopies of Rare Books Series. Edmonton, Alberta, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books).
"Smith's family was greatly influenced by Samuel Davies. Smith himself was a friend of R.L. Dabney. As the editor notes, the importance of this book is seen in the fact that `[r]eform of the family would soon diffuse itself throughout the whole constitution of society, a higher tone of morals would be inspired, and not only would the moral influence of the church be enlarged, but the stability and security of the state would be perpetuated.' Or as the `Directory for Family Worship,' appended to the Westminster Confession, so wisely points out, `[b]esides the public worship in congregations, mercifully established in this land in great purity, it is expedient and necessary that secret worship of each person alone, and private worship of families, be pressed and set up; that, with national reformation, the profession and power of godliness, both personal and domestic, be advanced.' This was a prize winning essay, covering, in depth, the family and its duties." -- SWRB

*Spurgeon, C.H. (1834-1892), Spurgeon's Devotional Bible (Grand Rapids: Baker Books, 1975, 1974, 1964) and Spurgeon's Devotional Bible: Selected Passages From the Word of God With Running Comments (paperback), (Evangelical Press, February 1996). Other title: The Interpreter: Spurgeon's morning and evening devotions from the Bible.
"For anyone who wants to restore daily devotions on an individual or family basis, SPURGEON'S DEVOTIONAL BIBLE is the perfect answer. One can read through this book in a year when morning and evening devotions are maintained. . . .
"The gist of the entire Bible is found between the covers of this book. . . . some verses [and chapters] were omitted in whole or in part, but they are always summarized in such a way that the narrative or teaching remains clear. The emphasis is always on Scripture . . ." -- Publisher's Annotation
This is the C.H. Spurgeon who wrote, among other things:

Commenting on typology is a way to convince piers of the reality and immediacy of the Gospel. Spurgeon's concise, succinct, erudite comments point again and again to parallels in Scripture to the life and work of Christ. For example, see his comments on the life of Joseph, on the first Passover, and on God's provision of manna for Israel in the wilderness.
This work, by a modern Puritan, is preeminently practical. Spurgeon emphasizes application of Scripture to everyday life. Key verses appear at the top of each page.
His discernment has captured essential and profound lessons. He brings together Old and New Testament passages with similar lessons. Here is little known insight that should not be ignored or overlooked.
The Bible is full of wisdom on human behavior, real psychology, and Spurgeon points out these lessons everywhere.
The text is the Authorized King James Version.
Pilgrim Publications
Sells new copies of SPURGEON'S DEVOTIONAL BIBLE.
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Power BibleCD
Includes SPURGEON'S DEVOTIONAL BIBLE. This is the only etext of the work that we know of.
http://www.powerbible.com/

*Vincent, Thomas, Shorter Catechism Explained From Scripture (Puritan Paperback Series. Carlisle, PA: The Banner of Truth Trust), 1634, EEBO. [31078]
"Forty Puritans including John Owen, Thomas Manton, Thomas Brooks and Thomas Watson recommended this useful volume as a very worth aid for family instruction. This volume gives parents very simple explanations to take their children through the Westminster Shorter Catechism."
Vincent, Thomas. An explicatory catechism: or an explanation of the Assembly's shorter catechism. ... By Thomas Vincent, ... Glasgow, 1777. (ECCO) Gale Document Number CW3319412765
A Commentary on the Shorter Catechism, Thomas Vincent, Alternate title: A Commentary on the Shorter Catechism
http://www.e4.net
Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html
Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
"Click on any of the individual questions below to get the answer and Biblical references, as well as links to works by John Flavel, Thomas Watson, Thomas Boston, James Fisher, and John Whitecross, and others."
http://www.shortercatechism.com/

*Westminster Assembly (1643-1652), The Westminster Confession of Faith (1646) (Glasgow, Scotland [Free Presbyterian Publications, 133 Woodlands Road, Glasgow G3 6LE]: Free Presbyterian Publication, 1994). ISBN 0902506080 (casebound) and ISBN 0902506358 (paperback), Still Waters Revival Books, Edmonton, Alberta, Canada.
Also available from Crown and Covenant Publications:
http://www.crownandcovenant.com/product_p/ds115.htm
" 'The product of Puritan conflict,' stated Shedd, reaching 'a perfection of statement never elsewhere achieved.' All that learning the most profound and extensive, intellect the most acute and searching, and piety the most sincere and earnest, could accomplish, was thus concentrated in the Westminster Assembly's Confession of Faith, which may be safely termed the most perfect statement of Systematic Theology ever framed by the Christian Church,' writes Hetherington (The History of the Westminster Assembly of Divines), p. 345. Concerning the Shorter Catechism, which is one of the items also included in this book, Mitchell notes: 'it is a thoroughly Calvinistic and Puritan catechism, the ripest fruit of the Assembly's thought and experience, maturing and finally fixing the definitions of theological terms to which Puritanism for half a century had been leading up and gradually coming closer and closer to in its legion of catechisms' (Westminster Assembly: Its History and Standards, p. 431). The Westminster Confession of Faith (1646) is the greatest of all the creeds of the Christian church. The church of Christ cannot be creedless and live. Especially in an age of doubt and confusion, it is her duty to define and proclaim the one true faith. Nowhere has the Reformed church done this so effectively as in the Westminster Confession and family of documents. This book represents Reformed thinking at its purest and best. It was intended, as part of the Covenanted Reformation taking place during its compilation, to be adopted as the binding confessional standard for every individual, family, court, church, and legislature in the British Isles." -- SWRB
This is considered to be the definitive publication of the Westminster family of documents. It includes the following:

  1. To the Christian Reader, Especially Heads of Families, Mr. Thomas Manton's Epistle to the Reader,
  2. The Confession of Faith (1646), the full and original edition with Scripture proofs written out,
  3. The Larger Catechism with Scripture proofs written out,
  4. The Shorter Catechism with Scripture proofs written out,
  5. The Sum of Saving Knowledge,
  6. The National Covenant,
  7. The Solemn League and Covenant,
  8. A Solemn Acknowledgement of Publick Sins and Breaches of the Covenant; and a Solemn Engagement to all the Duties Contained Therein
    CD #1, Reformation Bookshelf 30 CD Set
    http://www.swrb.com/Puritan/reformation-bookshelf-CDs.htm
  9. The Directory for the Public Worship of God,
  10. The Form of Presbyterial Church Government, and
  11. The Directory for Family Worship.
The Westminster Confession of Faith (1646) is said to be the finest summary of The Holy Bible available. It is recommended for daily devotions. Among the ten greatest works in the English language.
"The Westminster Confession of Faith (1646) (The Westminster Standards) and Related Works: A Study Guide"
http://www.lettermen2.com/suggest.html
For commentaries see the following topical listing:
"The Westminster Confession of Faith (1646) (The Westminster Standards) and Related Works"
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr9cha.html#wcf
Westminster Larger Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/wlc_w_proofs/WLC_frames.html
Westminster Confession of Faith (1646) With Scripture Proofs
http://www.reformed.org/documents/wcf_with_proofs/
Scripture Index to the Westminster Standards (The complete Scripture index to the Westminster Confession, Larger and Shorter Catechisms.)
http://www.swrb.com/newslett/actualnls/index01.htm
Bordwine, James, A Guide to the Westminster Standards: Confession of Faith and Larger Catechism (Unicoi, TN: (The Trinity Foundation, 1996).
Includes a unique, 100-page topical index to both the Confession and the Catechism.
The Westminster Confession of Faith (1646) with all its subordinate documents in searchable format are found on CD #1 of the Reformation Bookshelf 30 CD Set
http://www.swrb.com/Puritan/reformation-bookshelf-CDs.htm.
Westminster Assembly and Related Documents
http://www.covenanter.org/Westminster/westminsterhome.htm
The Significance of The Westminster Standards as a Creed
http://www.fpcr.org/blue_banner_articles/signific.htm
Heresies Defined and the Necessity of Heresies Explained, by George Gillespie, Scottish Commissioner to the Assembly of Divines at Westminster
http://www.truecovenanter.com/gillespie/ggilles09.html
The Shorter Catechism With Scripture Proofs (Carlisle, PA [P.O. Box 621, Carlisle 17013, USA]: The Banner of Truth Trust).
Arguably the greatest tract ever created, all factors considered.
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html
Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
"Click on any of the individual questions below to get the answer and Biblical references, as well as links to works by John Flavel, Thomas Watson, Thomas Boston, James Fisher, and John Whitecross, and others."
http://www.shortercatechism.com/

Westminster Assembly of Divines, The Directory for Family Worship (1647) and The Directory for the Publick Worship of God (1645), (Bound Photocopy Series. Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books).
"It doesn't get any better than this! These are the documents approved by the General Assembly of the Church of Scotland in her purest days. Reproduced in large print for easy reading. The Directory for Family Worship lays out the Biblical path to piety and uniformity in secret and private (family) worship, for godly edification. The Directory for Public Worship aimed at fulfilling the Reformation goals of covenanted uniformity in religion between the churches of Christ in the kingdoms of Scotland, England and Ireland. 'Behind its production lay extensive discussion of the proper application of the Puritan regulative principle reducing elements of acceptable worship to what is prescribed or necessarily deducible from Scripture alone. . . . It contains perhaps the finest brief description of expository preaching to be found in the English language' (Cameron, editor, Dictionary of Scottish Church History, p. 864). During the days of the Second Reformation Gillespie notes that '(t)he parliament heath also, by their ordinance dated the 23d of August 1645, imposed the Directory of Worship under certain mulcts and penalties to be inflicted upon such as do not observe it, or preach or write against it' ('Miscellany Questions' in Gillespie's Works, p. 87). Oh, for the days of comprehensive, full-orbed, God honoring Reformation like that again! An indispensable document for those who are Presbyterian's. However, it can also be very helpful to all those who seek to worship the LORD in spirit and in truth, regardless of denominational affiliation. These two fine historic documents have yet to be equalled in terms of the intent and purpose for which they were originally produced." -- SWRB
The Directory For Family-Worship (1647) and The Directory for the Publick Worship of God, 1645
http://www.covenanter.org/Westminster/directoryforfamilyworship.htm
Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html

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Related WebLinks

The Directory For Family-Worship (1647) and The Directory for the Publick Worship of God, 1645
http://www.covenanter.org/Westminster/directoryforfamilyworship.htm

Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
"Click on any of the individual questions below to get the answer and Biblical references, as well as links to works by John Flavel, Thomas Watson, Thomas Boston, James Fisher, and John Whitecross, and others."
http://www.shortercatechism.com/

Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html

The Covenant Family Fellowship
http://members.aol.com/kptacek/index.html

Mr. Thomas Manton's Epistle to the Reader of the Westminster Confession of Faith (1646) and Larger and Shorter Catechisms
http://www.swrb.com//newslett/actualnls/famworship.htm
Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html

Family Worship, Kerry Ptacek
A number of citations from historic Reformed folk: John Knox, Matthew Henry, Jonathan Edwards, etc., covering the period from 100 AD to 1912 AD regarding family worship.
http://members.aol.com/kptacek/index.html

The Reformed Faith in its Ethical Consequences in the Family: Part I, John Macleod
http://members.aol.com/RSICHURCH/family1.html

Family Worship, Arthur Pink
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Pointe/4495/famworship.html

The Cyber Hymnal
Here is musical accompaniment from your computer for personal or family devotions in the home. Tunes may be identified here that can be used with THE SCOTTISH METRIC PSALTER.
"This site has over 4,800 Christian hymns and Gospel songs from many denominations. You'll find lyrics, scores, MIDI files, pictures, history, and more. To use the site effectively, you'll need speakers, a sound card, and a browser that supports JavaScript and XHTML, and can play MIDI files.
"This worship and teaching resource is provided as a public service."
http://www.cyberhymnal.org/



Marital Counseling

*BAXTER, RICHARD, A Christian Directory: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1. Full title: A Christian Directory: or A Sum of Practical Theology, and Cases of Conscience. Directing Christians How to Use Their Knowledge and Faith; How to Improve all Helps and Means, and to Perform all Duties; How to Overcome Temptations, and to Escape or Mortify Every Sin. In Four Parts.
I. Christian Ethics (or Private Duties)
II. Christian Economics (or Family Duties)
III. Christian Ecclesiastics (or Church Duties)
IV. Christian Politics (or Duties to Our Rulers and Neighbours)
(Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 1997, 1990, 1838, 1707, 1678, 1673). Foreword by J.I. Packer (Soli Deo Gloria edition only). The Soli Deo Gloria publication is a facsimile reprint of the 19th century reprint by George Virtue, London. The original 1673 edition and the 1678 edition, both printed by Robert White for Nevill Simmons. Bibliographic and scriptural footnotes. A Christian classic.
"The complete practical works of Richard Baxter are in print in four volumes entitled BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS. This volume (about 1 1/4 million words, 1028 pages) is volume one of the set. The editor's preface (1707), p. xiii, stated that the works of Richard Baxter are 'perhaps the best body of practical divinity that is extent in our own or any other tongue.' Richard Baxter lived from 1615-1691. The DIRECTORY was completed in 1665. Its scope was intended to cover all of practical theology, a summa of casuistry . . ." -- Don Kistler
"Baxter's series, which grew in range and scope as it proceeded . . . is a peak point in Puritan devotional writing, and remains a precious resource for all, in this or any age, who want to know what is involved in Biblical godliness. . . . A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY may justly be described as a landmark. It is the fullest, most thorough, and in this writer's judgment, most profound treatment of Christian spirituality and standards that has ever been attempted by an English-speaking Evangelical author. The fact that it embraces both spirituality and standards (the principles of communion with God plus the specifics of obedience to God) merits approving comment in itself; nowadays spirituality and ethics have become two distinct disciplines in the schools, and books written on either say virtually nothing about the other . . ." -- J.I. Packer
Timothy Keller calls it the greatest manual on Biblical counseling ever produced.
"There are many Puritan classics on this subject. Thomas Brooks' PRECIOUS REMEDIES FOR SATAN'S DEVICES, Thomas Goodwin's A CHILD OF LIGHT WALKING IN DARKNESS, William Bridge's A LIFTING UP FOR THE DOWNCAST, and many other similar works give evidence that the Puritans were. . . . masters at applying Biblical answers and principles to problems that can only be solved by spiritual means. No Puritan work, however, has ever approached the popularity, the scope, or the depth of Baxter's classic treatise. With the widespread interest in counseling in today's church, this reprint of Baxter's work should be a welcome addition to every pastor's library, or to anyone else who wishes to give solid Biblical answers to man's questions." -- Don Kistler
"We have long waited for a purely Biblical treatment of the spiritual ills and cures of men which is untainted by the views of psychology. Since Baxter lived about 200 years before psychology arrived, his deep work is completely void of its encroachment -- thankfully!" -- John MacArthur
"The kings men sought to arrest Richard Baxter, but he traveled ceaselessly from place to place, writing his sermons and his books even on horseback (he had an inkwell in his saddle) and preached over a wide area." -- Brian H. Edwards
"Baxter was a wonder of his age. His writings total 72 large volumes, much of it written on horseback as he traveled in his widespread preaching efforts. He seldom, if ever, edited anything he wrote. Knowing this any reader will be amazed at how well he communicated his deep love for his Savior. For 26 years he was public enemy No. 1 to the king, yet he lived to see the flight of the king in 1688." -- Jay P. Green, Sr.
POOR MAN'S FAMILY BOOK (1674) and THE CATECHIZING OF FAMILIES (1683), found elsewhere in BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, are less detailed works. They are more suitable for family instruction than are the detailed presentation in A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY.
" Ptacek in Family Worship (p. 51-52), supplies the following information in regard to Baxter and this book. He notes that after the Episcopalians ejected numerous `nonconformists,' in what is know as the `great ejection,' in 1662, `Baxter pastored from house to house, visiting families of his parish in their homes. These visits contributed to Baxter's A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, a large and still very relevant manual of pastoral care.' Focusing on just one area of great importance, Ptacek demonstrates how this book's relevance is not limited by time or culture, though sometimes the use of specific words are. `Published in 1673, but written 1664-65, a large book-length part of Baxter's CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY is devoted to the family. It is entitled `Christian Economics' based on the archaic usage of the word, which reflects the proper sense of the Greek root oikonomos as the manager of a household, in the Christian case, the spiritual leader of the family. The family head is essential to Baxter's view of family worship and instruction. Baxter asserts that it is God's will that this instruction be carried out by the rulers of the families.' For a male head of the household to fail to do so, or to have another instruct in the family, is contrary to his position of authority.' This is the kind of book that can be passed on from generation to generation and still find much use in the service of the kingdom of God. . . . "Though relatively weak on corporate sanctification, corporate faithfulness and some important areas of doctrine (such as justification), Baxter's work on subjects related to personal piety can be of good practical use to the Christian -- if one is careful to separate out his aberrant doctrinal views and any practical errors they may lead to." -- SWRB
This work is available in many editions, and in many formats.
Reformation Heritage Books has new copies of the Soli Deo Gloria edition as of March 2008, even though it is generally thought to be out of print. They acquired Soli Deo Gloria from Ligonier Ministries in late 2007. They may be the publisher who will eventually reprints the title.
http://www.heritagebooks.org/
The reprint by George Virtue is included on Reformation Bookshelf CD #21, ISBN: 0921148992 9780921148999.
The reprint by George Virtue is available as a Cerlox bound photocopy from Still Waters Revival Books, Edmonton, AB, Canada.
The reprint by George Virtue is available online and may be downloaded in PDF format at Christian Classics Ethereal Library.
http://www.ccel.org/ccel/baxter/practical.toc.html
The reprint by George Virtue is included in THE AMAZING CHRISTIAN LIBRARY, DVD Four, CD #21
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The reprint by George Virtue appears in full preview in Google Books but may not be downloaded. About five other editions from libraries are available in Google Books, and may be downloaded (August 2008).
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One of the older, multi-volume editions of THE WORKS OF RICHARD BAXTER is available at Monergism.com in the "Puritan Library," "Richard Baxter." A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, volume 23. It can be downloaded.
http://www.puritanlibrary.com/
Another older edition is available on microfilm (Ann Arbor, MI: University Microfilms, 1970), 1 microfilm reel, 35 mm (Early English books, 1641-1700; 343:11).
The following three excerpts are included as bonus free books on Reformation Bookshelf CD #28, ISBN: 0921148267 9780921148265.
1. "The Duties of Parents for Their Children" from Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1, A Christian Directory, on Christian Economics, Chap. X., pp. 449-454.
2. "The Special Duties of Children Towards Their Parents" from Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1, A Christian Directory, on Christian Economics, Chap. XI., pp. 454-457.
3. "The Special Duties of Children and Youth Towards God" from Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1, A Christian Directory, on Christian Economics, Chap. XII., pp. 457-458).
The Richard Baxter Page
http://members.aol.com/augusteen/Baxter.html

*Baxter, Richard, The Reformed Pastor: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 4 (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 2000, 1992). A Christian classic.
"This is the fourth and final volume in this great set. Includes, [`Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men,'] `The Reformed Pastor' `Poor Man's Family Book,' `The Catechizing of Families,' and `The Mother's Catechism,' in all 25 sermons, treatises, and catechisms. Dr. J.I. Packer says, `For me, the great joy of this year is that it see the completion of Soli Deo Gloria's reprint of Baxter's incomparable PRACTICAL WORKS'." -- GCB
The Reformed Pastor, Richard Baxter
http://www.e4.net
The Richard Baxter Page
http://members.aol.com/augusteen/Baxter.html
Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men (1681), by Richard Baxter
http://www.lettermen2.com/ccaym.html

*Eyrich, Howard, Three To Get Ready: Premarital Counseling Manual, second revised and expanded edition (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Book House, 1991). 20538
"A manual on premarital counseling presenting a step-by-step guide through the major areas to be covered. Chock full of practical advice. Jay Adams says: `Here it is! The premarital counseling guide you have been waiting for'."

Kennedy, D. James, Learning to Live With the People You Love (Springdale, PA: Whitaker House, 1987). [31344]
Love "is sharing life together in a way that brings glory to God and enriches the lives of every family member." Dr. Kennedy says no book he has written has brought so many comments as this one.

Mayo, Mary Ann, A Christian Guide to Sexual Counseling [40247]

Morris, James Kenneth, Marriage Counseling: A Manual for Ministers (Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice-Hall, 1965, 1960). 20539
"A helpful manual containing the tried and tested methods used when counseling couples in conflict. Covers the entire counseling process in detail from the first interview to intermittent follow-ups. Of inestimable value." -- Cyril J. Barber

Pellauer, Mary D., Barbara Chester, and Jane Boyajian (editors), Sexual Assault and Abuse: A Handbook for Clergy and Religious Professionals [40232]

Pill, Theodore K., Premarital Counseling Handbook for Ministers (Valley Forge, PA: Judson Press, c1985). 20540
Includes bibliography.

Preston, John, 1587-1628, Sinnes overthrow: or, A godly and learned treatise of mortification: wherein is excellently handled; first, the generall doctrine of mortification: and then particularly, how to mortifie fornication. Uncleannesse. Evill concupiscence. Inordinate affection. And covetousnesse. All being the substance of severall sermons upon Colos. 3.5. Mortifie therefore your members, &c. Delivered by that late faithfull preacher, and worthie instrument of Gods glorie, John Preston, Dr. in Divinitie, chaplin in ordinarie to his Majestie, master of Emanuell Colledge in Cambridge, and sometimes preacher of Lincolns-Inne, 1635, EEBO.

Rassieur, Charles L., Pastor, Our Marriage Is in Trouble: A Guide To Short-Term Counseling (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, c1988). 20541
Includes bibliography.

Stafford, Tim, Find the Right One: Twenty Questions Before You Marry [70006]

Wheat, Ed, "Before the Wedding Night: Pre-Marriage Counsel" (Springdale, AZ: Scriptural Counsel, 1982). 20542
Two audio cassette tapes.

Yoder, Andrew, Counseling and Human Sexuality: Foundations of a Biblical Approach (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Theological Seminary, D.Min. thesis, 1986). 20544
Available on microfiche from University Microfilms International, Ann Arbor, MI.

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Bible promises, Casuistry, Repentance, the key to salvation and change, Reconcililiation of relationships, Premarital counseling, Justification, Forgiveness, Sanctification, Gratuitous sex a cause of violence, Adultery, Self, Self-denial, The occult, Sorcery, Women and the new age

Related WebLinks

True Love Waits
http://www.truelovewaits.com/

Sex Respect
http://www.sexrespect.com/default2.html

Justifying Faith
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr1cha.html#justfaith

Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org



Domestic Duties

But many [that are] first shall be last; and the last [shall be] first. -- Jesus Christ (Matthew 19:28-30)

Gouge, William, 1578-1653, Of domesticall duties eight treatises. I. An exposition of that part of Scripture out of which domesticall duties are raised. ... VIII. Duties of masters (London: Printed by Iohn Haviland for William Bladen, and are to be sold at the signe of the Bible neere the great north doore of Pauls, Date: 1622), EEBO.
Notes: An expansion of the sermon on Ephesians in his "An exposition of the whole fifth chapter of S. Johns Gospell".

Kennedy, D. James, Learning to Live With the People You Love (Springdale, PA: Whitaker House, 1987). [31344]
Love "is sharing life together in a way that brings glory to God and enriches the lives of every family member." Dr. Kennedy says no book he has written has brought so many comments as this one.

*Perkins, William, 1558-1602, Christian oeconomie, or, A short survey of the right manner of erecting and ordering a familie according to the Scriptures first written in Latine by the author M. W. Perkins ; and now set forth in the vulgar tongue for more common vse and benefit by Tho. Pickering ..., 1609, Still Waters Revival Books, EEBO.
See "Christian oeconomie, or, A short survey of the right manner of erecting and ordering a familie according to the Scriptures."
Puritan Bookshelf CD-ROM (Volume Nine).
WorldCat: 52539330.
http://www.swrb.com/Puritan/puritan-bookshelf-CDs.htm

Price, Greg, The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family, an ongoing cassette series (audio and video), (Still Waters Revival Books)

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#1) "The Divine Institution of Marriage"

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#2) "Preparing for Marriage 1/2," contains advanced teaching on courtship.

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#3) "Preparing for Marriage 2/2," contains advanced teaching on courtship.

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#4) "Husband's Role and Duty 1/2"

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#5) "Husband's Role and Duty 2/2"

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#6) "Wife's Role and Duty 1/2"

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#7) "Wife's Role and Duty 2/2"

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Duties of the Christian



Problem Solving in Marriage

And when all things shall be subdued unto him, then shall the Son also himself be subject unto him that put all things under him, that God may be all in all. (1 Corinthians 15:28)

Prayer together with your spouse daily is the single most helpful thing to bring your hearts together and to bless your marriage. Alternate day-by-day praying for a few of your burdens, and then pray for your spouses burdens.

*Bower, Robert K., Solving Problems in Marriage: Guidelines for Christian Couples (Grand Rapids, MI: Wm.B. Eerdmans Publishing Co., 1971). 70055
"Spells out ways in which husbands and wives can find solutions to the problems which arise in the normal course of everyday living. Practical." -- Cyril J. Barber

*Bromiley, Geoffrey W., God and Marriage (Grand Rapids, MI: Wm.B. Eerdmans Publishing Co., 1980). 70056
"Brief and to the point, these chapters deal with the Trinity and note how each member of the Godhead affects the marriage of the Christian couple and contributes toward it stability." -- Cyril J. Barber

Kennedy, D. James, Learning to Live With the People You Love (Springdale, PA: Whitaker House, 1987). [31344]
Love "is sharing life together in a way that brings glory to God and enriches the lives of every family member." Dr. Kennedy says no book he has written has brought so many comments as this one.

*Luther, Martin, 1483-1546 and Walter Lynne (translator), A vvatch-vvord for vvilfull vvomen. An excellent pithie dialogue betvveene two sisters, of contrary dispositio[n]s: the one a vertuous matrone: fearing God: the other a vvilfull husvvife: of disordered behauioure. Wherein is righte Christianly discoursed, what singuler commodity commeth by vertuous educatio[n], as otherwise what torment to a quiet man, a skowlding [and] vndiscrete woman is. Additional Titles: Fruteful predication or sermon of D. Mart. Luth. concernynge matrimony, 1581, EEBO.
Notes: In two parts. Part 1 is a translation of Der bösen Weiber Zuchtschül. Part 2 is a translation of a sermon on matrimony by Martin Luther. Luther's sermon translated by Walter Lynne.

*Mack, Wayne, Special Marriage Problems (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 70064
A series of five audio cassettes.

McNair, Mac. and Amy McNair, Ten Principles for a Successful Marriage: Practical Lessons from the Ten Commandments
"Nearly everyone has heard of the Ten Commandments, and most people can even name a few of them. Through fifty-five years of marriage Mac and Amy McNair have drawn from them the following guidelines for living together:
?Respect each other's position of authority
Have singleness of purpose in your marriage
Practice effective communication
Maintain a proper balance between work and rest
Show respect for your elders and seek counsel from those who are older and wiser
Show respect for one another and love one another
Maintain a proper physical relationship
Face financial issues together
Demonstrate honesty and integrity to one another
Be content with yourself and your marriage
A simply written, deeply personal look at marriage, Ten Principles for a Successful Marriage is a recounting of the principles that have guided the authors in their own marriage. While at first these insights may seem like simple common courtesy and common sense, the McNairs have found a great deal of profundity in this very simplicity. Inspired by the Ten Commandments, TEN PRINCIPLES FOR A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE is an intensely practical, time-tested guide to happy, successful living that could be applied to other areas of life as well." -- Publisher's Annotation "Mac McNair is a former career Air Force officer, professor at North Carolina State University, and director of aerospace programs at the Pentagon. Currently president of McNair Associates, a management consulting firm, he also is chairman of the Executive Leadership Foundation, which seeks to apply Judeo-Christian ethics in business and society. He also is co-author of the leadership development program for the U.S. Attorney General's office. AMY McNAIR, a homemaker, teaches classes with Mac on the principles of successful marriage. They live near Atlanta, Georgia." -- Publisher's Annotation
Executive Leadership Foundation
http://www.commandmentsonline.com/

*Murray, John, Principles of Conduct [20733]

*Foster, David Kyle, Sexual Healing: God's Plan for the Sanctification of Broken Lives: A Reference Manual for Ministering to Those Trapped in Sexual Sin and Brokenness (Jacksonville, FL [Mastering Life Ministries, P.O. Box 351149, Jacksonville 32235]: Mastering Life Ministries, 1997).
This is a unique work and the best resource known to the compiler offering biblical counsel for healing sexual brokenness. See "Foundations" and "Divine Intent for Sexuality" for a biblical explanation of the spiritual significance of sexuality. These two chapters alone make the purchase of the book worthwhile. Includes chapters, study guides, and exercises for Root sources for improper sexual development, Sexual identity confusion, Child sex abuse, Sexual addition, Pornography, Masturbation, voyeurism and exhibitionism, Why people remain in sexual sin and bondage, Failure and self-condemnation, A comprehensive game plan for sexual healing, and so forth. Indexed, 398 pages, includes bibliography.
Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

Questions and Answers; What Is Marriage? Marriage and Family Problems [30062]

Adams, Jay E., Role-Play and Critique (part 1); Wife Abandoned; Potential Suicide [30064]

Adams, Jay E., Role-Play and Critique (part 2); Wife Won't Speak; Homosexuality; Wife With Cancer [30065]

Adams, Jay E., Solving Marriage Problems: Biblical Solutions for Christian Counselors [30074]

*Adams, Jay E., What Do You Do When Your Marriage Goes Sour? [30101]

Adams, Jay E., You Can Sweeten a Sour Marriage [30110]

Chesser, Barbara, 21 Myths That Can Wreck Your Marriage [40170]

Cushenberry, Donald C., Coping With Life After Your Mate Dies [80084]

Dallas, Joe, Desires in Conflict: Answering the Struggle for Sexual Identity [20837]

Friesen, DeLoss, David Friesen, and Ruby M. Friesen, RCC, Vol. 19: Counseling and Marriage (Dallas, TX: Word Books, 1989). 70061
Includes bibliographical references.

Harvard, Allen, and Margaret Harvard, Death and Rebirth of a Marriage [70563]

Lutz, Ron, Marital Crisis and Church Discipline [30274]

*Mack, Wayne, A Homework Manual for Biblical Counseling, Vol. I: Personal and Interpersonal Problems [20930]

*Mack, Wayne, A Homework Manual for Biblical Counseling, Vol. II: Family and Marital Problems (Phillipsburg, NJ: Presbyterian Reformed Publishing Co.). 20931
"These are tested and proven books and are most helpful for study and assignments. Great refreshers and topical studies in areas dealt with most often." -- CCEF

Stark, Jeff, Freedom From an Abusive Marriage [30403]

Strom, Kay Marshall, In the Name of Submission: A Painful Look at Wife Battering [20641]

Talley, James A., and Leslie H. Stobbe, Reconcilable Difference [70559]

Tripp, P., When Things Go From Bad to Worse [30437]

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Reconciliation of Relationships, Sexual relationship, Reconciliation of Marriage Partners, Men and Women, The Doctrine of Man, Justification, Forgiveness, Unforgiveness, Domestic duties, Duties of the Christian

Related WebLinks

Biblical Principles for Solving Problems in the Family
http://www.reformed.com/pub/marriage.htm

What Do You Do When Your Marriage Goes Sour?
http://www.lifeisworship.com/hbrpc/pfltmen.htm
A tract by Jay Adams.

Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org



Spouse an Unbeliever

Adams, Jay E., Counseling Workshop: Multiple Persons; Unbeliever Doesn't Leave; Discipling Children; Obesity and Fatness [30025]

Adams, Jay E., Winning Your Unsaved Husband [30105]

Berry, Jo, Beloved Unbeliever: Loving Your Husband Into the Faith [40083]

Davis, Linda, How to Be the Happy Wife of an Unsaved Husband [40085]

Stark, J., How to Live With an Unbeliever (parts 1-5) [30411]

Stark, J., How to Live With an Unbeliever (parts 6-10) [30411A]



Birth Control

*Owen, Samuel A., Letting God Plan Your Family (Wheaton, IL: Good News Publishers [Crossway Books]). 70067

Heine, Max, Children: Blessing or Burden? (Old Tappan, NJ: Chosen Books). 70069
"This author ably seeks to explore seven myths of the small family that Christians have swallowed from the culture of the world. Since the Bible says children are a blessing, why do we feel that they are such a burden? Here is a clarion call for Christians to rethink the current trends toward small families and childlessness and, instead, begin to gain a Biblical perspective. Heine raises some searching questions about birth control and whether such practices are truly honoring to God." -- GCB

Hess, Rick, and Jan Hess, A Full Quiver: Family Planning and The Lordship of Christ (Brentwood, TN: Wolgemuth and Hyatt Publishers). 70070
"I promise you, this is NOT just another Christian book! `Life-changing' and `exciting' about sum it up -- as do `Biblical,' `refreshing,' and even `entertaining.' I don't endorse this book lightly. For one thing, I have been living it for the past thirteen years, before Rick and Jan even wrote it. From our experience and the experience of thousands of families that have written to us, my husband Bill and I can confidently assert that the fruit of this teaching is GOOD. Those who don't try it may knock it, but those who are willing to work at being good stewards of those blessings know better! What an effect this book could have on our churches, communities, social institutions, and families!" -- Mary Pride

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Ethics, Medical ethics, Abstinence, Gratuitous sex



Abortion and the Sanctity of Life

See "Abortion and the Sanctity of Life" in Chapter 2 (part 2): Biblical Counsel
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr2chb.html

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship



Post-abortion Counseling

See "Post-abortion Counseling" in Chapter 2 (part 2): Biblical Counsel
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr2chb.html

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship



Stillborn and Miscarriage

Rank, Maureen, Free to Grieve: Coping With the Trauma of Miscarriage (Minneapolis, MN: Bethany House Publishers, 1985). 70071

Rue, Nancy, Handling the Heartbreak of Miscarriage (San Bernardino, CA: Here's Life Publishers, 1987). 70072
"An intelligent response to the private agony over a baby who didn't make it to birth. In the three decades since my own lost babies I have never read a more thorough and sensitive treatment of this common, yet always unique, experience of desolation." -- Jeanne W. Hendricks



Infertility

Bassett, William T., Counseling the Childless Couple (Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice-Hall, Inc., 1963). 70073

Stephenson, Lynda, Give Us a Child: Coping With the Personal Crisis of Infertility [40218]

Stigger, Judith, Coping With Infertility (Minneapolis, MN: Augsburg Publishing House, 1983). 70075
"A guide for couples, families, and counselors."

Van Regenmorter, John, Sylvia Van Regenmorter, and Joe S. McIlhaney, Jr., Dear God, Why Can't We Have a Baby? A Guide for the Infertile Couple (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Book House). 70075A
"A Reformed pastor and his wife struggled with the infertility problem for eight years. After much ignorant advice this couple squarely faced the problem. In these pages you will find questions, answers, and sound advice. Dr. McIlhaney's comments come mainly from his book, 1250 HEALTH-CARE QUESTIONS WOMEN ASK." -- GCB

Vergin, Leslie, Infertility: A Guide for Pastoral Care and Counseling (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Theological Seminary, D.Min. thesis, 1981). 70076



SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP

Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever. (1 John 2:15-17)

"Our enemies are the world, the flesh, and Satan. . . ."


Sexual Relationship: A few brief comments

Uniqueness of sexual relationship

  1. Our first love is our only love. A man "shall be joined unto his wife, and the two shall be one flesh." (Ephesians 5:31, 1 Psalms 67:1,2) There is a "mixing and blending" of both body and soul in sexual relationship (Corinthians 6:15-20). In good marriages the partners begin to think and look alike. (Proverbs 27 27:19)
  2. It is impossible to "be one flesh" with more than one person. Logically oneness is unique and can exist in only one relationship. Therefore, any other relationship will be less fulfilling than the first. The promiscuous person goes from partner to partner seeking fulfillment in a oneness that has been lost forever.
  3. Love and lust are opposites. They can not coexist together. But they are confused by the unregenerate. If a man truly loves a woman, then he will not lust after her. (1 Peter 2:11) A sign of true love is the man would not, under any circumstances, harm his true love. (1 John 2:15-17) Love "is sharing life together in a way that brings glory to God and enriches the lives of every family member." (Kennedy, Learning to Live With the People you Love) If a man lusts for a woman, then he does not truly love her, because lust is harmful. (James 4:1; 1 John 4:18; Matthew 5:28; See below: Women who cohabit are 76 times as likely to be physically abused.)
  4. The carnal world may argue that lustful, immoral sex is the most gratifying (1 John 2:15-17). Their eyes are blinded to the long term consequences of sexual sin (James 4:1; 1 Corinthians 6:18-20; Hebrew 11:25-27): lose of unique oneness and fulfillment of true love, violence (Leviticus 19:29, Five-Year Arrest Trends, All Women, 1995-1999), broken relationships, ruined lives, ruined families (Psalm 68:6; Samson and Delilah, David's sin with Bathsheba, Solomon's foreign concubine), sexually transmitted disease, and so forth, and so on. (Titus 2:11-14)
  5. When love is true, then sexual relationship is pure, spontaneous, natural, and fulfilling (Song of Solomon, The Redbook Report on Female Sexuality).
  6. Love is a commitment, not a feeling. (See Love, Pre-marital counseling, Marriage)
  7. One sign of true love is that sexual relationship is confined within the bounds of marriage (Hebrews 13:4). Sexual relationship is not fulfilling unless it is permanent.
  8. A man should not date or court a woman unless he plans to marry her, because a first encounter may eventually lead to marriage.
  9. If one is not willing to take on the responsibility of raising children, then one should not have a sexual relationship (See: Singleness, Self-denial, Abstinence, Gratuitous sex, a cause of violence, Abortion, Fatherlessness).
  10. "Information from the Barna Research Group [2001] shows that one out of four people identifying as a born-again Christian reports having cohabited." (See below: Women who cohabit are 76 times a likely to be physically abused.)
  11. If a couple cohabits, then they will never be the same again, with the one exception that they both were virgins when they cohabited, remained true to each other, and got married. After cohabiting a person is different because of the "mixing and matching" of sexual relationship, and they will never again have a completely fulfilling sexual relationship. (Ephesians 5:31)
  12. Currently (2007) the rate of divorce and the rate of abortions within the church is comparable to the rates in secular society.
  13. "Overall, 27 percent of born-again Christians have experienced divorce compared to 24 percent for the rest of Americans." (Barna Research, December, 1999) "While it may be alarming to discover that born-again Christians are more likely than others to experience a divorce, that pattern has been in place for quite some time [emphasis added]." -- George Barna, president of Barna Research Group.

    Abortion (See Abortion and the sanctity of life)

  14. A child conceived in lust may be unwanted. If that is the case, then the child may be aborted. "Two-thirds of all abortions are among never-married women." (Jones RK, Darroch JE and Henshaw SK, "Patterns in the socioeconomic characteristics of women obtaining abortions in 2000-2001," Perspectives on Sexual and Reproductive Health, 2002, 34(5):226-235.
  15. This murder of one's own child within the womb has happened more than 42 million times since 1973. "From 1973 through 2002, more than 42 million legal abortions occurred." (Finer, L.B. and S.K. Henshaw, "Estimates of U.S. abortion incidence in 2001 and 2002," The Alan Guttmacher Institute (AGI), 2005) The total number of abortions performed in the United States is undoubtable higher because these figures only represents abortions reported by licensed agencies. Illegal abortions are not reported. Current estimates [2007] are that there have been 50 million abortions in the United States since 1973. ("An estimated 46 million abortions take place around the world each year -- over 126,000 a day. According to a United Nations Population Newsletter, 20 million of these are performed illegally.)
  16. Studies show "abortion common among all women, even those thought to oppose abortion."
  17. "Based on current trends, one in three women in the U.S. will have an abortion, according to the Alan Guttmacher Institute. The majority of women older than 17 who obtained an abortion reported a religious affiliation. The highest proportion (43 percent) identified themselves as Protestant. [emphasis added] Twenty-seven percent of women having an abortion identified themselves as Catholic, and 8 percent as a member of another religion; . . . Thirteen percent identified themselves as "born-again" or evangelical, three-fourths of whom were Protestant [emphasis added]." (Rachel K. Jones, Jacqueline E. Darroch and Stanley K. Henshaw, "Patterns in the Socioeconomic Characteristics of Women Obtaining Abortions in 2000-2001," Perspectives on Sexual and Reproductive Health, Volume 34, Number 5, September/October 2002)
  18. So the most dangerous place to be in the United States is inside your mother's womb, and the abortion rate among Protestant woman (43 percent) is comparable to the rate of abortion among secular women.
  19. Men are sexually aroused primarily by sight, therefore women should dress modestly. (Matthew 5:28) To dress immodestly is to commit the sin of Bathsheba (2 Samuel 11:2). Therefore, Hollywood entertainment, motion pictures, soft pornography of the media and Madison Avenue, and hard pornography, are a particular temptation to men. (Job 31:1)
  20. Women are sexually aroused primarily by touch. Therefore, holding hands, kissing, dancing, and petting are particular temptations to women. (Proverbs 6:29)
  21. Marriage without true love is enslavement. An unregenerate young man, out of lust, may "chase a young women until she catches him." However, a man who marries for lust, and not for true love, enslaves himself. (1 John 4:18, Freedom: a gift of the grace of god, Slavery)
  22. A wedding is merely a courtesy the bride extends to the groom allowing him to make a public statement of his love and devotion to her. Once he marries her and becomes one with her in sexual relationship she "owns him." And civil law upholds this oneness.
  23. Unregenerate men, ungrounded in sound doctrine, often end up worshipping women. (1 Corinthians 7:32,33) When women are worshipped, then men are emasculated. The female characteristics are toleration, acceptance, love, abundance, nurture, generosity, gentleness, and so forth. If male leadership becomes effeminate, and if too many effeminate individuals have the vote, then society destabilizes and goes into decline. (Isaiah 3:12; 19:16; Nahum 3.13; Jeremiah 50:37; 51:30) The prime example of this is Romanism and their Maryology. (See Idolatry, Robbins, The Church Effeminate, Effeminacy, Feminism, Cowardice, The decline of american society).

    Sexual sin is unique from all other transgressions

  24. Sexual sin includes:
    • incest (Proverbs 8:5,6; Mark 9:37; Philippians 4:6,7; 1 Peter 5:7; Matthew 11:28,29; Matthew 19:14; 1 Corinthians 5:1; Isaiah 26:3,4),
    • seduction,
    • lose of virginity,
    • fornication,
    • whoredom, (1 Thessalonians 4:3-8)
    • prostitution (Leviticus 19:29; Five-Year Arrest Trends, All Women, 1995-1999; Foster, Sexual Healing: God's Plan for the Sanctification of Broken Lives),
    • spreading sexually transmitted diseases (33,000 people contract a new STD everyday. Approximately 2/3 are under the age of 25. [Center for Disease Control]; AIDS is the leading killer of Americans between the ages of 25 and 44. [Center for Disease Control]),
    • illegitimate issue (Illegitimate births have increased 400% since 1963, the historical date that marks the beginning of the sexual revolution. [Medical Institute for Sexual Health]),
    • abortion (Psalm 127:3; Psalm 139:13-15; Psalm 139:13-15; Luke 1:42; Luke 1:44; Jeremiah 1:5; Isaiah 49:15; Exodus 20:13; Isaiah 49:5; Job 31:15; Psalm 22:9,10; Isaiah 44:2,24; Isaiah 40:31; Psalm 42:11),
    • murder of pregnant unwed mothers, (In a study conducted in Maryland in 2001 the leading cause of death during pregnancy was murder. Twenty-one percent of the women studied were murdered.)
    • murder of spouse (1,247 women and 440 men were killed by an intimate partner in 2000. In recent years an intimate killed about 33% of female murder victims and 4% of male murder victims. -- "Intimate Partner Violence, 1993-2001," Callie Marie Rennison, Ph.D. BJS Statistician),
    • fatherlessness, (See Fatherlessness)
    • adultery (James 4:4),
    • child abuse (Matthew 25:40; Matthew 19:14; Matthew 11:28; 1 Peter 5:7, Child abuse),
    • molestation, (Abuse, Child abuse)
    • pedophilia, ("Homosexuals are over represented in child sex offenses: Individuals from the 1 to 3 percent of the population that is sexually attracted to the same sex are committing up to one-third of the sex crimes against children." -- Timothy J. Dailey, Phd. in "Homosexuality and Child Sexual Abuse")
    • rape, ("For every 1,000 women attending their institutions, there may well be 35 incidents of rape in a given academic year (based on a victimization rate of 35.3 per 1,000 college women). For a campus with 10,000 women, this would mean the number of rapes could exceed 350. Even more broadly, when projected over the Nation's female student population of several million, these figures suggest that rape victimization is a potential problem of large proportion and of public policy interest." -- "The Sexual Victimization of College Women Research Report," U.S. Department of Justice, Office of Justice Programs, National Institute of Justice)
    • conjugal lewdness and matrimonial whoredom (Daniel Defoe, Conjugal Lewdness, or Matrimonial Whoredom),
    • pornography (Matthew 5:28, Pornography),
    • sodomy (See Homosexuality),
    • homosexuality (Psalm 106:30,31,35,37,39,40,41; Romans 1:24-27; 1 Timothy 1:10,11; 1 Corinthians 6:9; 2 Corinthians 5:17; Romans 1:16; Luke 4:18,19; John 1:12; 1 Corinthians 6:11; 1 Corinthians 10:13; Hebrews 2:18; Hebrews 4:14-16; Romans 12:1,2; Ephesians 4:22-24; 2 Corinthians 10:5; Isaiah 26:3),
    • lesbianism (See Homosexuality),
    • nudity and exhibitionism (When inexperienced strip club dancers begin performing they often end up being fired. Their female egos get so puffed up by the attention of the crowd that they begin dictating to club management how to run the club: ask for exorbitant raises, dictate their work schedule, and tell management how much to charge the customers.)
    • and so forth, and so on. (Matthew 15:18-20, Romans 1:24-27)

  25. The sexual revolution is really a revolution against God. (Numbers 25:1-3, 29; Joshua 22:17; Psalm 106:30,31)
  26. The Adversary's attack upon boys, manhood, fathers, and the family is really an attack on the God ordained role of men to be the spiritual leader, and to protect his family, his church, and his country from falsehood and evil. (See Christ our example, Manhood, Effeminacy, Feminism)
  27. Sexual sins are unique from all other transgressions. First they are sins against God, and against one's own body. (1 Corinthians 6:18-20; Psalm 51:4) But sexual sins go on to permanently affect victims' lives even after they have been repented of and forgiven. Sexual sin lives on in victims and in society. (See Abortion and the sanctity of life, Abuse, Abuse [Women], Adultery, Carnality and flesh pleasing, Child abuse, Depression, Divorce, Fatherlessness, Gratuitous sex, a cause of violence, Homosexuality, Hostility, Idolatry, Incest, Incest [Women], Pornography, Post-abortion counseling, Prostitution, Protecting children from dangers, Rape, Sex [women], Sex education, Sexual healing and wholeness, Sexually transmitted diseases, Single parenting, Singleness, Soul-violence, Suicide, Teens and Sex, Unforgiveness, Works by and for women)
  28. The emotional and psychic shock, the trauma, of adultery, incest, child sexual abuse, pedophilia, and rape leave lifetime scares on victims. Some victims are never able to trust others again. The emotional wounds are as hard to cure as chronic disease. "Many people secretly bear the scars of childhood abuse and desperately struggle with the hidden trauma that interferes with spiritual growth and normal human relationships." -- Susan Alder
  29. Adultery is a sin against the human spirit that produces traumatic results. (Proverbs 6:32-35; Proverbs 6:29; Post-traumatic stress syndrome, Sexual wholeness)
  30. Biblical counselors report that parental neglect, rejection, or abuse are the most frequent complaints of counselees. (Abuse, Abuse [Women], Child abuse, Depression, Incest, Incest [Women])
  31. Bad relationships, including sexual relationship, lead to disease and death. (1 John 3:15, Bad relationships a cause of disease and death)
  32. It is the Puritans who gave us the Christian model for family in Western culture.
  33. 17th Century Puritans were keenly aware of the social consequences of illegitimacy. (See: sexual brokenness, poverty, prostitution, sexually transmitted diseases, fatherlessness, soul-violence, abortion, child abuse, violence related to sexual sin, increased crime, illiteracy, and so forth, and so on) During the ten year Protectorate of Oliver Cromwell, all manner of adultery and fornication was against the law. Suspected violators were tried on the charge "For Uncondoned Carnal Knowledge." The acronym "FUCK" has been a vulgarity for immoral sex for the last 360 years.
  34. Uncondoned carnal knowledge (sexual sin) blasts lives and destroys souls. (Hosea 4:10; Hebrews 13:4) The vulgar acronym is often used in utter contempt.
  35. It is also a sin against the family, which is the basic unit of society. It is the breaking of our conjugal vows, "Forsaking all others, I choose thee." [The marriage blood covenant (vow) is also a covenant (vow) with God.] It is a sin against our children. One of the most flagrant causes of divorce, adultery has produced millions of children who have grown up without a father and a mother in the home, and has created enormous problems in the lives of these children. Adultery and its consequent evils are sins against the nation and society. . . ." -- D. James Kennedy and Jerry Newcombe, What if Jesus Had Never Been Born, p. 135
  36. Some conservative seminaries will not accept men who have been divorced, or men who have married a divorced woman. (Our first love is our only love. "Ultimately the Seventh Commandment (Exodus 20:14) is about our fidelity to Christ.") To fracture the Seventh Commandment is to break covenant with the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.
  37. Sexual immorality, whoredom, substance abuse, the occult, and crime, including murder, are often found together in society by law enforcement agencies.
  38. Whoredom (fornication, adultery, prostitution, homosexuality, etc.) is a major cause of violence and murder in society. (Leviticus 19:29; Intimate Partner Violence, 1993-2001; Domestic Violence: An Epidemic in American Society; Five-Year Arrest Trends, All Women, 1995-1999) "It is distressing how often death does follow adultery," -- abortion, murder of a lover, murder of a spouse, fatal "accidents," and suicide. Prior to 1960 in America the majority of murders committed where one spouse murdering either the other spouse or an adulterer. As drug abuse grew, drug related murders took the lead. (Proverbs 6:32-35; Proverbs 8:36)

    Suicide

  39. "The national suicide rate among males between the ages of 15 an 24 has nearly quadrupled over the last 60 years and the rate among females in the same age group has doubled."
  40. "Suicide is the third leading cause of death among young people ages 15 to 24. [The second leading cause on college campuses.] In 2001, 3,971 suicides were reported in this group (Anderson and Smith 2003). Of the total number of suicides among ages 15 to 24 in 2001, 86% (n=3,409) were male and 14% (n=562) were female (Anderson and Smith 2003). ("Suicide: Fact Sheet," Center for Disease Control)
  41. However, "women report attempting suicide during their lifetime about three times as often as men." (Krug et al., World report on violence and health [serial online]. 2002).
  42. The US Justice Department reports that women who live together with men are 76 times more likely to be physically abused, that is 7,600 percent more likely (2001 data).
  43. Conversely, the health of a marriage depends upon the husband and wife living together all the time. The husband must be there to care for and to protect his wife and children.
  44. "The teen birthrate in the United States is the highest of any industrialized nation, nearly twice as great as that of the United Kingdom and 15 times that of Japan. (Rebecca A. Maynard, Kids Having Kids. Robin Hood Foundation, circa 1998) One (1) million teenage girls get pregnant each year. Of that, approximately 40 percent will receive government assistance. (Rebecca A. Maynard, Kids Having Kids. Robin Hood Foundation, circa 1998)
  45. The Journal of the American Medical Association reported (early 2001) a study of 247 women who died in pregnancy in the state of Maryland. The leading cause of death during pregnancy was murder. Twenty-one percent of the women studied were murdered.
  46. Sexual sins are also sins against one's own body. (1 Corinthians 6:18-20; 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8) The human body is the temple of the living God (1 Corinthians 6:15-20). The body is to be kept chaste and pure. Fornication replaces holiness with filthiness. (1 Corinthians 6:18-20; Ephesians 5:3) Therefore, sexual sin is self-destructive.
  47. If virginity is wasted in fornication (Exodus 22:16,17), then a fulfilling sexual relationship can never be known.
  48. Sexual sin results in sexually transmitted diseases. There are over 30 known sexually transmitted diseases in the United States today (33,000 people contract a new STD everyday. Approximately 2/3 are under the age of 25. [Center for Disease Control]; 50 percent of the sexually active single adult population has, or will have, at least 1 STD in their lifetime. [CDC]), among them herpes, syphilis, and AIDs (AIDS is the leading killer of Americans between the ages of 25 and 44. [Center for Disease Control]).
  49. In short, marriage can be either the best of lots or the worst of lots. Young men and young women should be extremely careful to avoid sexual sin to protect themselves from falling into the worst of lots. (1 Corinthians 6:15-20)
  50. The Holy Spirit alone is able to keep young people (and adults) from falling into sexual sin. (1 Corinthians 10:13, 2 Thessalonians 3:3)

    Christ and Sexual Relationship

  51. Ultimately the Seventh Commandment (Exodus 20:14) is about our fidelity to Christ. (Hosea 2:19-20; James 4:4; Engelsma, Marriage, the Mystery of Christ and the Church) To fracture the Seventh Commandment is to break covenant with the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.
  52. Marriage is a threesome, Christ, the husband, and the wife. (Eyrich, Three To Get Ready) Therefore, the marriage vow is a vow with God, as well as between spouses.
  53. "Families that pray together stay together." Daily prayer together with your spouse is the single most helpful thing to bring your hearts together, and to bless your marriage.
  54. It has been said "The practice of family worship has done more for comprehensive Reformation than any other means available to man."
  55. The sexual revolution is a revolution against God. (Exodus 20:3,4,14,17)
  56. Marriage is a type of Christ's relationship to The Church. [Ephesians 5:21,22,25] The "Book of Canticles [Song of Solomon], which is the Holy of holies of the Scriptures, standing like the tree of life in the midst of the garden of inspiration. The song is highly allegorical, and describes Christ and his church as a bride and bridegroom who sing to each other and of each other." (Song of Solomon 2) Spurgeon's Devotional Bible, p. 310)
  57. In scripture we see an allegory drawn between sexual sin and apostasy, disloyalty to one's religion. Whoredom and idolatry are similar type transgressions. See the First Commandment (Exodus 20:3), the Seventh Commandment (Exodus 20:14), the Tenth Commandment (Exodus 20:17) and Christ's Summation of the Law (Matthew 22:38-40), Hosea, Ezekiel, Jeremiah. For example, we have:
  58. See the chart, Israel's Apostasy and Hosea's Marriage at Hosea 3:1, page 1364 in The Reformation Study Bible.
    "The stages of Israel's relationship with God are depicted in the prophecies of Jeremiah and Ezekiel, as well as in Hosea's relationship with Gomer."
  59. The family is one of only three divinely ordained institutions. The Church and the State are the other two.
  60. A Christian family is both a church within the church and a mission outreach in nucleus form. (Joshua 24:14,15) Parents and children model the Christian life and introduce others to Christ.
  61. God uses a Christian family to model Christ's victory over evil (John 1:29). Christian families stand as a witness to a lost and dying world (Romans 6:23) of the salvation and hope that we all have in Christ Jesus.
  62. A Christian family, with both the husband and wife in Christ, is a witness to the blessings of the True and Living God upon his people. (Psalms 127:1a; Proverbs 31:30b) It is a Lighthouse from which the message of the Gospel goes forth into society. The Christian Family shows society that Jesus is "the way, the truth, and the life," salvation, the means of Grace, the everlasting righteousness, forgiveness, justification, sanctification, and finally glorification in the life to come.
  63. This witness spreads from generation to generation as descendants establish Christian families. This is the glorious result of putting "Jesus First" in sexual relationship.
  64. Strong family ties strengthen children and enable them to be successful in society. Christian parents nurture, encourage, and teach children how to lead a Christian life. These blessings strengthen children spiritually and emotionally and enables them to, in turn, raise successful Christian families in the next generation. Consider, for example, the families of Jonathan Edwards (his descendants include a number of prominent individuals), Thomas and Margaret Craighead (Craighead, James Geddes The Craighead Family: A Genealogical Memoir of the Descendants of Rev. Thomas and Margaret Craighead, 1658-1876, Billy Graham (Billy and Ruth Graham have five children, 19 grandchildren, and 30-some great-grandchildren, 2007), Jerry Falwell, and Elsie Dinsmore, a fictional character (see the "Elsie Books" by Martha Finley), and other lesser known Christian families who daily cast light into a lost and dying world, and whose descendants include pastors, missionaries, Christian workers, educators, and professionals.
  65. The man is the spiritual leader of the family. He is responsible for discipline and protection of his family. He must have spiritual wisdom, he must be authoritative, he must be a disciplinarian. He must be strong and firm, if God is to be in control of his family, if his spouse and children are to be in the love of God. (Ephesians 5:21,22,25)
  66. As spiritual head of the family the man's role and responsibility is to protect his family, church, and society, from evil. That responsibility included protecting them from false doctrine and false teaching. (2 Corinthians 10:5; Jude 1:3)
  67. When we truly love another, then we completely lose control of them. (John 8:36)
  68. Only if a wife is in Christ will she submit to God's will in the marriage, and to the godly leadership of a husband who is in Christ. (Ephesians 5:21,22,25)
  69. Because the male is spiritual head of the family and is responsible for its success he must have the final say about who he will have as his wife.
  70. It should be kept in mind that "spiritual unity [the unity between persons having the same objective faith in the Gospel] is much more intimate than physical unity can be [it can be argued that spiritual unity transcends geographical distance and transcends temporal time to eternity. Therefore, a Christian funeral, while bittersweet, is also a great celebration. The spirit may have left the body, but there is a love among believers that transcends space and temporal time into eternity], and that such physical analogies of spiritual unity as the Lord's Supper and marriage, rather than exaggerating the intimacy of spiritual unity, do not even approach it." -- John W. Robbins commenting on Philemon 4-7 in Slavery Christianity
  71. When both spouses are in Christ, then there is a oneness in body, soul, heart, mind, and spirit that is a type of God's love for us in Christ, the sweetest thing this side of heaven.
  72. It follows logically then that God's purpose in marriage is spiritual unity. That unity is only attainable when both husband and wife share an objective faith in the Gospel. This is the unity that enables Christian families to minister to the world from generation to generation. It culminates in The Great Reunion of the elect with Christ in Paradise.
  73. God's promises to married persons deepens their love for each other.
  74. The only way for man, wife, children, and society to live together happily is to pursue holiness through Christ Jesus. (Bonar, The Everlasting Righteousness, Marshall, The Gospel Mystery of Sanctification)
  75. One sign of true love is that you would never even think of harming the object of your love. One is able to overlook and tolerate weaknesses and imperfections. That is a type of Christ's love for the Church. (1 John 3:16; 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a; Ephesians 5:21,22,25)
  76. Any man and woman who are in Christ can be successfully married if they agree to solve all their problems biblically. (Ephesians 5:21,22,25)
  77. It is the doctrine of Justification that enables a married couples to overcome problems and to build strong Christian families. Forgiveness, Justification, Sanctification, and final Glorification in heaven all come together. (see Forgiveness, Justification, Justifying faith, Sanctification, and Glorification.)
  78. Surveys have proven the sexual relationship of Christians is the most fulfilling of any members of society. A Redbook magazine survey concerning sex in modern "liberated" America conducted in 1977, in which 100,000 women responded, found that the most religious category of women were the most orgasmic women in the country. (Susan Sadd and Carol Tavris, The Redbook Report on Female Sexuality [New York, NY: Delacorte, 1977], pp. 97-106)
  79. It is an awesome thought that not only did God create man and women -- the human body in its immense complexity, but he created us with the ability to reproduce another life.
  80. The true love and oneness of husband and wife may bring another soul into the world. A soul is the most precious thing in the world (Luke 15:10; Mark 8:36) and there is great joy when a child is born.
  81. In conclusion it may be said that marriage can be either the very best of relationship, or the very worst of relationship, depending upon whether or not Christ is the third party in the marriage. (Psalms 67:1,2; Psalms 127:1a; Proverbs 31:30b; Hosea 4:6-11)
  82. Therefore, it is concluded that, in sexual relationship, in marriage, and in family, as well as in all of life, the prescription for success and fulfillment is "Jesus First."

Dedicated to Jerry Falwell (August 11, 1933 -- May 15, 2007, "Jesus First"), who was lead to confront society with the problems of pornography, abortion, and homosexuality.

Ankerberg, John, and John Weldon The Myth of Safe Sex: The Devastating Consequences of Violating God's Plan

*Christenson, Larry, The Wonderful Way That Babies Are Made [40245]

*Gill, John, Exposition of the Song of Solomon [30636]

*Owen, Samuel A., Letting God Plan Your Family [70067]

Adams, Jay E., Sex Change; Division in Eldership; Children; Suicide; Paranoia; Repression; Forgetting; Death [30070]

Ankerberg, John, and John Weldon, The Myth of Safe Sex: The Tragic Consequences of Violating God's Plan (Chicago, IL: Moody Press, 1993). 70079A

Coleman, Barry (editor), Sex and the Single Christian: Candid Conversations (Ventura, CA: Regal Books, 1986). 70081
"The contributors to this slender volume are all people with established reputations. The questions focus on frequently misunderstood issues of sexuality. The `bottom line' counsel of this work is to underscore the teaching of Scripture while warning against the abuses that are prevalent in our society." -- Cyril J. Barber

Dallas, Joe, Desires in Conflict: Answering the Struggle for Sexual Identity [20837]

Davis, John Jefferson, The Christian's Guide to Pregnancy and Childbirth: Choosing the Best for You and Your Baby From Conception to Delivery [40088]

Elliot, Elisabeth, Passion and Purity [40250]

*Foster, David Kyle, Sexual Healing: God's Plan for the Sanctification of Broken Lives: A Reference Manual for Ministering to Those Trapped in Sexual Sin and Brokenness (Jacksonville, FL [Mastering Life Ministries, P.O. Box 351149, Jacksonville 32235]: Mastering Life Ministries, 1997).
This is a unique work and the best resource known to the compiler offering biblical counsel for healing sexual brokenness. See "Foundations" and "Divine Intent for Sexuality" for a biblical explanation of the spiritual significance of sexuality. These two chapters alone make the purchase of the book worthwhile. Includes chapters, study guides, and exercises for Root sources for improper sexual development, Sexual identity confusion, Child sex abuse, Sexual addition, Pornography, Masturbation, voyeurism and exhibitionism, Why people remain in sexual sin and bondage, Failure and self-condemnation, A comprehensive game plan for sexual healing, and so forth. Indexed, 398 pages, includes bibliography.
Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

Grant, George, Grand Illusions: The Legacy of Planned Parenthood [90438]

Grenz, Stanley, Sexual Ethics: A Biblical Perspective (Dallas, TX: Word Publishing). 70084
"Grenz probes theology, ethics, and medical research to present a thorough, contemporary discussion of human sexuality from a Biblical, Christian viewpoint." -- GCB

Grimm, Robert, Love and Sexuality (New York, NY: Association Press, 1964). 70085
"A Biblically sound view of sex and marriage." -- Cyril J. Barber

Mayo, Mary Ann, Parent's Guide to Sex Education [40248]

Mayo, Mary Ann, and Joseph L. Mayo, The Sexual Woman [40248]

Miles, Herbert J., Sexual Happiness in Marriage (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House, 1967). 70087
"Ranks as one of the most practical and helpful treatments on the subject. Examines attitudes and techniques essential to sexual harmony and happiness in marriage, and provides needful correctives to some of the abuses of marriage." -- Cyril J. Barber.

Miller, C. John, A Christian View of Sexuality (part 1) [30282]

Miller, C. John, A Christian View of Sexuality (part 2) [30285]

Reisman, Judith A., Eunice V. Ray (editor), and Alfred Moreschi (illustrator) Kinsey: Crimes and Consequences the Red Queen and the Grand Scheme (Institute for Media Education).
"I found Dr. Reisman's book very informative and extremely well researched. It literally is a reference book on a scandal that was perpetrated on the American people with the help of foundations and the media. My biggest question throughout the book was why this information has not come to light before now and why something has not been done. When I read a book of this type I immediately go to the bibliography, for therein lies the veracity of the author. This book is meticulously researched. I highly recommend the book not for the subject matter, which is disturbing, but for the information that is available. It answers many questions about the declining state of our society." -- Reader Comment
Dr. Reisman gives evidence that Alfred Kinsey may have been directly involved in child sex abuse (for his "research"), and she shows that he did work closely with pedophiles, even hiding the identity of a child murderer in a police investigation. Kinsey and his atheistic, misogynist, anti-child philosophy gave credibility to an entire industry of "sexology" and sex research, not to mention the multi-billion dollar pornography industry. Hugh Hefner, founder of Playboy, credits Kinsey with opening his eyes to the joys of sex (without morality). Fifty years later, our poor children are reaping the fruits of the horrible seeds sown by Alfred Kinsey and his team of sex abusers." -- Reader Comment

Reisman, Judith A., Soft Porn Plays Hardball [40119]

Stuart, Friend, What the Bible Says About Sex (Salem, OR: Dominion Press, 1985). 70094

Thielicke, Helmut, Sex: Theological Ethics 70095
"A scholarly examination of human sexuality in light of . . . doctrines of creation and redemption."

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Selfishness, Greed, and Covetousness, A selection of works on pseudo-Christian movements, Abortion and the Sanctity of Life, Post-abortion Counseling, Abstinence, Abuse, Abuse (Women), Adams, Jay: works of, Adultery, Infatuation, Jealousy, Antichrist, Authority, Birth Control, Carnality and Flesh Pleasing, Child abuse, Prostitution, Alcoholism, Counsel for young men, Counsel for young women, Counseling for Sex Related Problems, Courtship verses dating, Depression, Divorce, Ethics, Family, Fatherhood, Fatherlessness, Forgiveness, Gambling, Gratuitous Sex, a Cause of Violence, Holiness, Effeminacy, Homosexuality, Child Abuse and Pedophilia, Hostility, Idolatry, Incest, Incest (Women), Justification, Justifying Faith, Love and counseling problems, Marriage, Manhood, Men, women, and god, Modern myths and fallacies, Organized crime, Parenting, Pornography, Post-abortion counseling, Problems solving in marriage, Prostitution, Protecting children from dangers, Pseudo-christian movements, Rape, Reconciliation of relationships, Repentance the key to salvation and change, Resources for students, Sanctification, Secret societies and ungodly alliance, Self-denial, Sexual Relationship (Women), Sex Education, Sexual healing, Sexual relationship, Sexual Wholeness, Sexually Transmitted Diseases, Sharing christ with your children, Single parenting, Singleness, Soul-violence, Spiritual warfare, Suffrage, Suffrage and reproductive rights, Suicide, Teens and Sex, The counter reformation, The doctrine of man, The ten commandments, The wisdom books, Unforgiveness, Womanhood, Women, Works by and for women, Works of jay adams, Works of martha finley

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Facts on Induced Abortion in the United States (05/2006)
Comprehensive documented statistics on legal abortions performed in the Unites States compiled by the Guttmacher Institute.
http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/fb_induced_abortion.html

Five-Year Arrest Trends, All Women, 1995-1999 (6,622 agencies)
Percentage increases in arrests of all women, select crimes. (Women under 18 only indicated by "under 18")

  1. Aggravated assault, +6.0
  2. Violent crime, +2.3
  3. Other assaults, +12.0
  4. Fraud Embezzlement, +39.7, +74.6 (under 18)
  5. Prostitution and commercialized vice, +8.4 (under 18)
  6. Sex offenses (except forcible rape and prostitution), +34.7 (under 18)
  7. Drug abuse violations, +11.4, +12.3 (under 18)
  8. Gambling, +20.1
  9. Offenses against the family and children, +7.9, +16.6 (under 18)
  10. Driving under the influence, +11.3, +48.1 (under 18)
  11. Liquor laws, +44.4, +42.3 (under 18)
  12. Drunkenness, +14.6 (under 18)
  13. Disorderly conduct, +17.0 (under 18)
  14. All other offenses (except traffic), +19.4, +20.2 (under 18)
  15. Suspicion, +18.8
  16. Curfew and loitering law violations, +13.6, +13.6 (under 18)
http://www.fbi.gov/ucr/Cius_99/99crime/99c4_04.pdf

Cardinal Apologizes Over Abuse Claims. Church to Pay Record Amount to Victims of Clergy, by Gillian Flaccus, Associated Press, Posted: 2007-07-16
"LOS ANGELES (July 16) - After a whirlwind weekend, the negotiations that produced a landmark $660 million settlement between the Roman Catholic Archdiocese of Los Angeles and more than 500 alleged victims of clergy abuse are moving from the cathedral to the courthouse.
http://news.aol.com/story/_a/cardinal-apologizes-over-abuse-claims/20070714212509990001?ncid=NWS00010000000001



Sexual Wholeness

And I will betroth thee unto me for ever; yea, I will betroth thee unto me in righteousness, and in judgment, and in loving kindness, and in mercies. I will even betroth thee unto me in faithfulness; and thou shalt know the Lord. -- The Lord (Hosea 2:19-20)
Betrothment unto the Lord! What an honor and a joy! My soul, is Jesus indeed thine by His own condescending betrothal? Then, mark it is forever. He will never break His engagement, much less sue out a divorce against a soul joined to Himself in marriage bonds.
Three times the Lord says, "I will betroth thee." What words He heaps together to set forth the betrothal! Righteousness comes in to make the covenant legal; none can forbid these lawful bans. Judgment sanctions the alliance with its decree: none can see folly or error in the match. Lovingkindness warrants that this is a love union, for without love betrothal is bondage and not blessedness. Meanwhile, mercy smiles and even sings; yea, she multiplies herself into "mercies" because of the abounding grace of this holy union.
Faithfulness is the registrar and records the marriage, and the Holy Spirit says "Amen" to it as He promises to teach the betrothal heart all the sacred knowledge needful for its high destiny, What a promise! -- C.H. Spurgeon in Faith's Checkbook

Many people secretly bear the scars of childhood abuse and desperately struggle with the hidden trauma that interferes with spiritual growth and normal human relationships. -- Susan Alder

Ankerberg, John, and John Weldon The Myth of Safe Sex: The Devastating Consequences of Violating God's Plan (Chicago, IL: Moody Press, 1993). 70079

Botkin-Maher, Jennifer, Nice Girls Don't Get Raped (San Bernardino, CA: Here's Life Publishers). 20642
"A sensitive account of physical, emotional, social, and spiritual effects of rape on a woman and her family. NICE GIRLS DON'T GET RAPED also shares Jennifer's personal walk from trauma to triumph. She guides you through the healing process to a life free from the bondage of fear." -- GCB

Coleman, Barry (editor), Sex and the Single Christian: Candid Conversations (Ventura, CA: Regal Books, 1986). 70081
"The contributors to this slender volume are all people with established reputations. The questions focus on frequently misunderstood issues of sexuality. The `bottom line' counsel of this work is to underscore the teaching of Scripture while warning against the abuses that are prevalent in our society." -- Cyril J. Barber

deParrie, Paul, Romanced to Death: Sexual Seduction of American Culture (Brentwood, TN: Wolgemuth and Hyatt Publishers, 1990). 90467
"The author exposes what he calls the `skin trade,' the commercial sexuality that has seduced America. He traces the misconception of love that has resulted in high divorce rates, promiscuity, infidelity, and abortion." -- GCB

Dallas, Joe, Desires in Conflict: Answering the Struggle for Sexual Identity (Eugene, OR: Harvest House Publishers, 1991). 20837
"This book offers a workable approach to sexual and emotional sanctification illuminating the power of God's Grace at work in the sincerely repentant soul." -- GCB
Joe Dallas operates Genesis Counseling in Orange County, California, and is president of Exodus International, an organization that has helped countless thousands out of homosexuality. For more information write to the "Truths That Transform" radio program and ask for the "Joe Dallas Actions Sheet."

*Foster, David Kyle, Sexual Healing: God's Plan for the Sanctification of Broken Lives: A Reference Manual for Ministering to Those Trapped in Sexual Sin and Brokenness (Jacksonville, FL [Mastering Life Ministries, P.O. Box 351149, Jacksonville 32235]: Mastering Life Ministries, 1997).
This is a unique work and the best resource known to the compiler offering biblical counsel for healing sexual brokenness. See "Foundations" and "Divine Intent for Sexuality" for a biblical explanation of the spiritual significance of sexuality. These two chapters alone make the purchase of the book worthwhile. Includes chapters, study guides, and exercises for Root sources for improper sexual development, Sexual identity confusion, Child sex abuse, Sexual addition, Pornography, Masturbation, voyeurism and exhibitionism, Why people remain in sexual sin and bondage, Failure and self-condemnation, A comprehensive game plan for sexual healing, and so forth. Indexed, 398 pages, includes bibliography.
Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

Grenz, Stanley, Sexual Ethics: A Biblical Perspective (Dallas, TX: Word Publishing). 70084
"Grenz probes theology, ethics, and medical research to present a thorough, contemporary discussion of human sexuality from a Biblical, Christian viewpoint." -- GCB

Grimm, Robert, Love and Sexuality (New York, NY: Association Press, 1964). 70085
"A Biblically sound view of sex and marriage." -- Cyril J. Barber

Hancock, Maxine, and Karen Burton Mains, Child Sexual Abuse: A Hope for Healing (Wheaton, IL: Harold Shaw Publishers). 20645
"This book is not only designed for survivors of early child sexual abuse but also to be used by helpers who compassionately seek to understand. A well researched book that clearly presents Christ as the one who heals. It sounds the alarm for the church and offers hope and healing for victims of sexual abuse." -- GCB

Heitritter, Lynn, and Jeanette Vought, Helping Victims of Sexual Abuse (Minneapolis, MN: Bethany House Publishers, 1989). 40186
"What women should know about sexual assault."

Hyde, Margaret O., Sexual Abuse: Let's Talk About It, revised and enlarged edition (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1987). 20638
"Draws attention to what is becoming a `national epidemic.' Points out how pastors may recognize the victims and deal with the trauma and anger of those who feel violated. Practical." -- Cyril J. Barber

Lutzer, Erwin W., Living With Your Passions: A Christian's Guide to Sexual Purity (Wheaton, IL: Scripture Press Publications, Inc., 1983). 70086
"Sexual passions have a way of demanding immediate attention. Even committed Christians need to choose between indulging sexual desire and maintaining God's standard for purity. Pastor Lutzer discusses this entire are." -- GCB

Mayo, Mary Ann, A Christian Guide to Sexual Counseling: Recovering the Mystery and the Reality of "One Flesh" (Grand Rapids, MI: Ministry Resources Library, c1987). 40247
"A book to equip pastors and counselors for the task of helping couples understand and deal with sexual problems in a marriage." Includes bibliography.

Miller, C. John, A Christian View of Sexuality (part 1) (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 30282
Audio cassette CM108.

Miller, C. John, A Christian View of Sexuality (part 2) (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 30283
Audio cassette CM108A.

Peters, David B., A Betrayal of Innocence: What Everyone Should Know About Child Sexual Abuse (Dallas, TX: Word Publishing, c1986). [20649]
"Covers what abuse is, the signs and effects it can have, what to do once abuse is discovered, how to question a child, precautionary measures every parent should take, whom to trust, whom not to trust, and how to overcome emotional trauma and live a happy life."

Stevens, R.P., Married for Good: The Lost Art of Staying Happily Married (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press).
"Preventive measures to take before the marriage begins to crumble. Show us how to have healthy, growing and permanent marriages." -- GCB

Thielicke, Helmut, Sex: Theological Ethics 70095
"A scholarly examination of human sexuality in light of . . . doctrines of creation and redemption."

Welch, Edward T., Addictions: A Banquet in the Grave: Finding Hope in the Power of the Gospel (Resources for Changing Lives). Scheduled release date, October 22, 2001.
"By emphasizing the role of the heart in the worship of self and substance, Welch forces the addict to face the grim reality that who or what he worships will control his life. When he idolizes his selfish desire for a substance, then there can only be bondage, but when he worships God more than himself, then the liberating truth of the Gospel will always set him free. As a pastor, biblical counselor, and a redeemed (not recovering) ex-heroin addict, I believe Dr. Welch has finally given every pastor, theologian, layman, and anyone caught in the bondage of idolatry/addition a biblical road map to true and lasting freedom." -- Peter Garich, Pastor of New Hope Christian Fellowship and Director of Dayspring Center for Biblical Counseling in San Diego, California

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Abstinence, Justification, Child Abuse, Sex Respect, Counseling for Sex Related Problems, Soul-violence, Incest, Rape, Sex Education, Pornography, Modern Myths and Fallacies, Homosexuality

Related WebLinks

True Love Waits
http://www.truelovewaits.com/

Sex Respect
http://www.sexrespect.com/default2.html

Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org



Counseling for Sex Related Problems

*Eyrich, Howard, Three To Get Ready: Premarital Counseling Manual, second revised and expanded edition (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Book House, 1991). 20538
"A manual on premarital counseling presenting a step-by-step guide through the major areas to be covered. Chock full of practical advice. Jay Adams says: `Here it is! The premarital counseling guide you have been waiting for'."

*Foster, David Kyle, Sexual Healing: God's Plan for the Sanctification of Broken Lives: A Reference Manual for Ministering to Those Trapped in Sexual Sin and Brokenness (Jacksonville, FL [Mastering Life Ministries, P.O. Box 351149, Jacksonville 32235]: Mastering Life Ministries, 1997).
This is a unique work and the best resource known to the compiler offering biblical counsel for healing sexual brokenness. See "Foundations" and "Divine Intent for Sexuality" for a biblical explanation of the spiritual significance of sexuality. These two chapters alone make the purchase of the book worthwhile. Includes chapters, study guides, and exercises for Root sources for improper sexual development, Sexual identity confusion, Child sex abuse, Sexual addition, Pornography, Masturbation, voyeurism and exhibitionism, Why people remain in sexual sin and bondage, Failure and self-condemnation, A comprehensive game plan for sexual healing, and so forth. Indexed, 398 pages, includes bibliography.
Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

Mayo, Mary Ann, A Christian Guide to Sexual Counseling: Recovering the Mystery and the Reality of "One Flesh" [40247]

Putnam, Bill, Daddy, I'm Pregnant (Portland, OR: Multnomah Press). 70102
Counsel from a father who had his 14 year old daughter tell him she was pregnant.

Rassieur, Charles L., The Problem Clergymen Don't Talk About (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1976). 70103
The problem is the danger of sexual involvement with female counselees. Includes bibliographical references.

Storey, Duane, Sandy Kulkin, Mary Ann Mayo, Mayo Kulkin, Body & Soul: A Married Couple's Guide to Discovering and Understanding Our Unique Sexual Personalities
"Combing helpful self-tests with seasoned counsel, the authors show how you and your partner can develop a relationship that is deeply fulfilling--both physically and emotionally with Body and Soul." -- Publisher's Annotation

Terkelsen, Helen E., I'm Going to Have a Baby and I'm Not Married 40223

Yoder, Andrew, Counseling and Human Sexuality: Foundations of a Biblical Approach [20544]

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Abstinence, Idolatry, Gratuitous sex, a cause of violence, Singleness, Suffrage, Birth control, Courtship verses dating, Carnality and flesh pleasing, Adultery, Reconciliation of relationships

Related WebLinks

True Love Waits
http://www.truelovewaits.com/

Sex Respect
http://www.sexrespect.com/default2.html

Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org



Gratuitous Sex, a Cause of Violence

Thou dost not pollute thy daughter to cause her to go a-whoring, that the land go not a-whoring, and the land hath been full of wickedness. (Leviticus 19:29, YLTHB)

But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.
A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away.
For jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance.
He will not regard any ransom; neither will he rest content, though thou givest many gifts.
(Proverbs 6:32-35)

My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children.
As they were increased, so they sinned against me: therefore will I change their glory into shame. They eat up the sin of my people, and they set their heart on their iniquity. And there shall be, like people, like priest: and I will punish them for their ways, and reward them their doings. For they shall eat, and not have enough: they shall commit whoredom, and shall not increase: because they have left off to take heed to the LORD. Whoredom and wine and new wine take away the heart.
-- The Word of the Lord (Hosea 4:6-11)

Utimately the Seventh Commandment is about our fidelity to Christ.

From whence come wars and fightings among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members? (James 4:1)

For when we were in the flesh, the motions of sins, which were by the law, did work in our members to bring forth fruit unto death.
But I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members.
(Romans 7:5,23)

Adultery is a sin against the human spirit and spiritual life which produces traumatic results. It is also a sin against the family, which is the basic unit of society. It is the breaking of our conjugal vows, "Forsaking all others, I choose thee." It is a sin against our children. One of the most flagrant causes of divorce, adultery has produced millions of children who have grown up without a father and a mother in the home, and has created enormous problems in the lives of these children. Adultery and its consequent evils are sins against the nation and society. . . . -- D. James Kennedy and Jerry Newcombe, What if Jesus Had Never Been Born, p. 135

Since 1963 [1990 data]:
1. Violent crime has increased 500 percent.
2. Illegitimate births have increased 400 percent.
3. Divorces have increased 400 percent.
4. Children living in single parent homes has increased 300 percent.
5. Child abuse has increased 340 percent (since 1976).
6. Teenage suicide has increased 200 percent.
7. SAT scores have dropped almost 80 points.-- William Bennett, in THE INDEX OF LEADING CULTURAL INDICATORS

Redbook magazine conducted a survey concerning sex in modern "liberated" America [Susan Sadd and Carol Tavris, The Redbook Report on Female Sexuality (New York, NY: Delacorte, 1977), pp. 97-106)]. . . .
What did the survey reveal? Even more astounding than the number of women that replied [100,000] were the results. They discovered that women who were sexually liberated -- the feminists, the free modern women -- were the most dissatisfied kind of person sexually. The only person less satisfied was the nymphomaniac (who most men think is just the most sexual kind of woman), who is so sexually frustrated that she runs from here to there and back and forth everywhere trying to find some satisfaction, which, alas, she never finds.
But the more religious women indicated that they had more sexual satisfaction in their lives. The most religious category (women were to judge how much a part religion played in their lives -- i.e., whether they were most religious, more religious, least religious), whom the average enlightened American male has been told by the devil are sexually repressed, were the most orgasmic women in the country. And that turns the whole lot right on its head. -- D. James Kennedy and Jerry Newcombe, What if Jesus Had Never Been Born, p. 139

"It is distressing how often death does follow adultery," -- abortion, murder of a lover, murder of a spouse, fatal "accidents," and suicide.

The US Justice Department reports that women who live together with men are 76 times more likely to be physicaly abused, that is 7,600 percent more likely (2001 data).

The Journal of the American Medical Association reported (early 2001) a study of 247 women who died in pregnancy in the state of Maryland. The leading cause of death during pregnancy was murder. Twenty-one percent of the women studied were murdered.

Uncondoned carnal knowledge blasts lives and destoys souls.

The sexual revolution is a revolution against God.

See the chart, Israel's Apostasy and Hosea's Marriage at Hosea 3:1, page 1364 in The Reformation Study Bible.
"The stages of Israel's relationship with God are depicted in the prophecies of Jeremiah and Ezekiel, as well as in Hosea's relationship with Gomer."

"Information from the Barna Research Group showing that one out of four people identifying as a born-again Christian reports having cohabited." (2001)

Ankerberg, John, and John Weldon The Myth of Safe Sex: The Devastating Consequences of Violating God's Plan

*Bennett, William, The Index of Leading Cultural Indicators (Washington, DC: The Heritage Foundation). 90643A
"Bennett's index strives to quantify the nation's cultural health.
"To illustrate what some people might consider a nebulous concept, Bennett turns to 19 tangible trends, grouped under crime, poverty, natality, family, education, drugs, and television. In most of the categories, Bennett traces changes from 1960--just before the dawn of the counterculture--to 1990."
A 26-page book published jointly by Empower America, The Heritage Foundation, and The Free Congress Foundation.

Preston, John, 1587-1628, Sinnes overthrow: or, A godly and learned treatise of mortification: wherein is excellently handled; first, the generall doctrine of mortification: and then particularly, how to mortifie fornication. Uncleannesse. Evill concupiscence. Inordinate affection. And covetousnesse. All being the substance of severall sermons upon Colos. 3.5. Mortifie therefore your members, &c. Delivered by that late faithfull preacher, and worthie instrument of Gods glorie, John Preston, Dr. in Divinitie, chaplin in ordinarie to his Majestie, master of Emanuell Colledge in Cambridge, and sometimes preacher of Lincolns-Inne, 1635, EEBO.

*Reisman, Judith A., Edward W. Eichel, John H. Court, and J. Gordon Muir (editors), Kinsey, Sex and Fraud: The Indoctrination of a People [70165]

*Rushdoony, Rousas J., The Politics of Pornography (Vallecito, CA: Ross House Books)

Botkin-Maher, Jennifer, Nice Girls Don't Get Raped [40166]

*Foster, David Kyle, Sexual Healing: God's Plan for the Sanctification of Broken Lives: A Reference Manual for Ministering to Those Trapped in Sexual Sin and Brokenness (Jacksonville, FL [Mastering Life Ministries, P.O. Box 351149, Jacksonville 32235]: Mastering Life Ministries, 1997).
This is a unique work and the best resource known to the compiler offering biblical counsel for healing sexual brokenness. See "Foundations" and "Divine Intent for Sexuality" for a biblical explanation of the spiritual significance of sexuality. These two chapters alone make the purchase of the book worthwhile. Includes chapters, study guides, and exercises for Root sources for improper sexual development, Sexual identity confusion, Child sex abuse, Sexual addition, Pornography, Masturbation, voyeurism and exhibitionism, Why people remain in sexual sin and bondage, Failure and self-condemnation, A comprehensive game plan for sexual healing, and so forth. Indexed, 398 pages, includes bibliography.
Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

Martin, Grant, Counseling in Cases of Family Violence and Abuse (Resources in Christian Counseling Series, Vol. 6. Dallas, TX: Word Publishing, 1987).

Martin, Grant L., Please Don't Hurt Me: A Sensitive Look at the Growing Problem of Abuse in Christian Homes (Wheaton, IL: Victor Books, 1987). 20639
"This adult `Bible study' elective focuses on the physical abuse of both children and adults. In each case Martin explores the origins of violence as well as how it may be stopped. This is a very commendable work for laypersons, and it is hoped that many will acquire it and read it carefully." -- Cyril J. Barber

Minnery, Tom (editor), Pornography: A Human Tragedy [20879]

Reisman, Judith A., Soft Porn Plays Hardball [40119]

Schlesinger, Benjamin, Sexual Abuse of Children: A Resource Guide and Annotated Bibliography (Toronto, Canada: University of Toronto Press, 1982). [20651] "An informative guide to the literature covering all aspects of sexual molestation -- including profiles of parents and siblings." -- Cyril J. Barber

Welch, Edward T., Addictions: A Banquet in the Grave: Finding Hope in the Power of the Gospel (Resources for Changing Lives). Scheduled release date, October 22, 2001.
"By emphasizing the role of the heart in the worship of self and substance, Welch forces the addict to face the grim reality that who or what he worships will control his life. When he idolizes his selfish desire for a substance, then there can only be bondage, but when he worships God more than himself, then the liberating truth of the Gospel will always set him free. As a pastor, biblical counselor, and a redeemed (not recovering) ex-heroin addict, I believe Dr. Welch has finally given every pastor, theologian, layman, and anyone caught in the bondage of idolatry/addition a biblical road map to true and lasting freedom." -- Peter Garich, Pastor of New Hope Christian Fellowship and Director of Dayspring Center for Biblical Counseling in San Diego, California

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Repentance, the key to salvation and change, Justification, Sanctification, Holiness, Sexual wholeness, Abstinence, Idolatry, Counsel for young men, Counsel for young women, Abuse, Child abuse, Incest, Rape, Homosexuality, Adultery, Pornography, Abortion and the sanctity of life, Divorce, Depression, Fatherlessness, Single parenting, Carnality and flesh pleasing, Sexually transmitted diseases (see Sex education), Post-abortion counseling, Reconcililiation of relationships, Counseling for sex related problems, Sex, The wisdom books, Gratuitous sex, Suffrage, Hostility

Related WebLinks

Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

True Love Waits
http://www.truelovewaits.com/

Sex Respect
http://www.sexrespect.com/default2.html

Fatherlessness
http://fatherhood.about.com/parenting/fatherhood/msubfatherless.htm?once=true&

Effects of Fatherlessness, US DATA
http://fatherhood.about.com/gi/dynamic/offsite.htm?site=http://www.massey.ac.nz/%7EKBirks/gender/econ/nodad.htm

Domestic Violence: An Epidemic in American Society
"National Statistics

http://www.walmart.com/catalog/catalog.gsp?cat=109465&path=0%3A5431%3A108754%3A109465

Five-Year Arrest Trends, All Women, 1995-1999 (6,622 agencies)
Percentage increases in arrests of all women, select crimes. (Women under 18 only indicated by "under 18")

  1. Aggravated assault, +6.0
  2. Violent crime, +2.3
  3. Other assaults, +12.0
  4. Fraud Embezzlement, +39.7, +74.6 (under 18)
  5. Prostitution and commercialized vice, +8.4 (under 18)
  6. Sex offenses (except forcible rape and prostitution), +34.7 (under 18)
  7. Drug abuse violations, +11.4, +12.3 (under 18)
  8. Gambling, +20.1
  9. Offenses against the family and children, +7.9, +16.6 (under 18)
  10. Driving under the influence, +11.3, +48.1 (under 18)
  11. Liquor laws, +44.4, +42.3 (under 18)
  12. Drunkenness, +14.6 (under 18)
  13. Disorderly conduct, +17.0 (under 18)
  14. All other offenses (except traffic), +19.4, +20.2 (under 18)
  15. Suspicion, +18.8
  16. Curfew and loitering law violations, +13.6, +13.6 (under 18)
http://www.fbi.gov/ucr/Cius_99/99crime/99c4_04.pdf

The Code of Virginia: Select Sexual Offences

  1. Obscenity
    http://leg1.state.va.us/cgi-bin/legp504.exe?000+cod+18.2-372
  2. Adultery and fornication by persons forbidden to marry: Incest
    http://leg1.state.va.us/cgi-bin/legp504.exe?000+cod+18.2-366
  3. Sexually explicit items involving children
    http://leg1.state.va.us/cgi-bin/legp504.exe?000+cod+18.2-374.1
  4. Taking indecent liberties with a child by person in custodial or supervisory relationship
    http://leg1.state.va.us/cgi-bin/legp504.exe?000+cod+18.2-370.1
  5. Crimes Against Nature
    http://www.sodomy.org/laws/virginia/sodomy.html
  6. Conspiring to cause spouse to commit adultery
    http://leg1.state.va.us/cgi-bin/legp504.exe?000+cod+18.2-367
  7. Rape
    http://www.sodomy.org/laws/virginia/rape.html
  8. Forcible Sodomy
    http://www.sodomy.org/laws/virginia/forcible_sodomy.html
  9. Fornication
    http://www.sodomy.org/laws/virginia/fornication.html
  10. Being a prostitute or prostitution
    http://leg1.state.va.us/cgi-bin/legp504.exe?000+cod+18.2-346
  11. Virginia State Law: Pandering, Taking, detaining, etc., person for prostitution, etc., or consenting thereto.
    http://leg1.state.va.us/cgi-bin/legp504.exe?000+cod+18.2-355
  12. Employment for compensation of persons convicted of certain offenses prohibited; criminal records check required; suspension or revocation of license.
    http://leg1.state.va.us/cgi-bin/legp504.exe?000+cod+32.1-126.01
  13. Lewd and lascivious cohabitation
    http://www.sodomy.org/laws/virginia/cohabitation.html
Virginia State Police Sex Offender and Crimes Against Minors Registry
http://sex-offender.vsp.state.va.us/cool-ICE/

West Virginia State Police Sex Offender Registry
http://www.wvstatepolice.com/sexoff/

Sex Offenders and Criminal Histories
http://members.aol.com/acereports/national.htm

ussearch.com
Sex offender search, State criminal search, Department of Corrections search
http://www.ussearch.com/

Family Watchdog
This national website tracks sexual offenders in your area.
"Enter an address below to view a map of registered sex offenders near you."
While this is much needed data, and we commend efforts thus far, this map will not include the following sexual offenders who should (when known) be publicly identified until they repent of their sexual crimes:

  1. sexual offenders who have not been caught, tried, and convicted (the arrest/conviction ratio for all offenses was approximately 100/25 in the mid 90s);
  2. sexual offenders who have violated parole;
  3. sexual offenders who have failed to report their address or address change;
  4. sexual offenders using an alias (The FBI "believes 1 in 6 persons with a criminal record may be using alias names and identification." -- U.S. Congress, Office of Technology Assessment, OTA-TCT-497);
  5. sexual offenders who have been convicted on some other charge;
  6. ex-convicts and inmates who have committed sodomy in prison;
  7. offenders guilty of raping their spouse and the offense has gone unreported;
  8. wives who deliberately commit adultery as part of a "pre-planned divorce," that is, who married with plans to divorce for financial gain;
  9. offenders guilty of unreported incest;
  10. offenders guilty of unreported date rape;
  11. offenders who have committed unreported sexual offenses when drunk or under the influence of drugs;
  12. offenders who have committed unreported sexual offenses with mutual consent;
  13. individual members of Alcoholics Anonymous (who are frequently ex-convicts, mentally ill, and/or mentally retarded, and prefer to be identified as alcoholics to avoid the social stigma of the other categories) or other related 10-Step addiction treatment programs who have committed unreported sexual offenses with other members, or while being a sponsor of another member;
  14. individual members of Alcoholics Anonymous and related 10 Step codependent treatment programs who use the programs as vehicles to find new sexual partners;
  15. offenders who have committed unreported sexual offenses with other members of Alcoholics Anonymous or other related 10-Step addiction treatment programs while in a codependent relationship with another member;
  16. members of Sex Addicts Anonymous who have committed unreported sexual offenses;
  17. prostitutes still at-large in society;
  18. offenders who frequent prostitutes;
  19. men and women who are self-employed in the "sex industry" (professionals deliberately practicing prostitution within the business community);
  20. individuals employed in the pornography industry, including child pornography;
  21. individuals addicted to pornography or child pornography;
  22. individuals guilty of unreported sodomy and homosexuality;
  23. unreported homosexual pedophiles ("Homosexuals are over represented in child sex offenses: Individuals from the 1 to 3 percent of the population that is sexually attracted to the same sex are committing up to one-third of the sex crimes against children." -- Timothy J. Dailey, Phd. in "Homosexuality and Child Sexual Abuse");
  24. offenders guilty of unreported rape;
  25. offenders guilty of unreported fornication;
  26. offenders guilty of unreported adultery;
  27. offenders living in licentious cohabitation;
  28. offenders who are mentally retarded and promiscuous;
  29. offenders who have sever mental illness and are promiscuous;
  30. offenders with AIDS disease;
  31. offenders with any of the 30 other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) in the United States;
  32. individuals who dabble in, or actively participate in satanic cults, or related destructive cults that practice sexual rituals;
  33. offenders who are licensed mental health care professionals (Psychiatrists, Clinical Psychologists, Psych Nurses, Medical Doctors, Counselors, Priests, Pastors, and Churchmen, and so forth) who become sexually involved with their patients, clients, counselees, or church members;
  34. individuals in the legal profession who judged in favor of legalized abortion or who aided in the legal process;
  35. individuals participating in organized crime who run and profit from most of the abortion clinics in the United States;
  36. medical professionals who perform abortions;
  37. men who have paid for abortions performed on their daughters;
  38. men who have paid for abortions performed on their sexual partners;
  39. mothers who have aborted children from their wombs (any of the 43 million abortions performed in the United States since Roe vs. Wade in 1973);
  40. individuals in the drug industry who developed "the morning after pill;"
  41. druggists who sell "the morning after pill;"
  42. women who have used "the morning after pill;"
  43. and so forth, and so on.
http://www12.familywatchdog.us/

A Redneck Resolution Against Self-Destruction
http://members.aol.com/vtpa/redneck.html



PARENTING

"Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward." (Psalm 127:3)

Whosoever therefore shall humble himself as this little child, the same is greatest in the kingdom of heaven.
And whoso shall receive one such little child in my name receiveth me.
But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and [that] he were drowned in the depth of the sea.
-- Jesus Christ (Matthew 18:4-6)

And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me. -- Jesus Christ (Matthew 25:40)

Whosoever shall receive one of such children in my name, receiveth me: and whosoever shall receive me, receiveth not me, but him that sent me. -- Jesus Christ (Mark 9:37)

But Jesus called them unto him, and said, Suffer little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God. -- Jesus Christ (Luke 18:16)

At that time Abijah the son of Jeroboam fell sick.
And Jeroboam said to his wife, Arise, I pray thee, and disguise thyself, that thou be not known to be the wife of Jeroboam; and get thee to Shiloh: behold, there is Ahijah the prophet, which told me that I should be king over this people.
And take with thee ten loaves, and cracknels, and a cruse of honey, and go to him: he shall tell thee what shall become of the child. (1 Kings 14:1-3) (Bad men cannot help respecting God's true messengers. Why did not Jeroboam go to the prophets of the calves? The ungodly and those who follow false religions lose all confidence in their notions in times of necessity, and begin to look about them for better comfort. Ahijah's word had been powerful with the king before, and therefore he sent to him again. Many a sinner has a something in his conscience which bears witness to the Lord's minister, for his word has in former times been full of power.)
Go, tell Jeroboam, Thus saith the LORD God of Israel, Forasmuch as I exalted thee from among the people, and made thee prince over my people Israel,
And rent the kingdom away from the house of David, and gave it thee: and yet thou hast not been as my servant David, who kept my commandments, and who followed me with all his heart, to do that only which was right in mine eyes;
But hast done evil above all that were before thee: for thou hast gone and made thee other gods, and molten images, to provoke me to anger, and hast cast me behind thy back: (1 Kings 14:7-9) (Therefore the Lord declared that there should be no sons left of the family of Jeroboam, and none to perpetuate his name and race. The whole family was devoted to utter destruction and erasure from among the households of Israel. God knows how to punish as well as how to bless.)
And Jeroboam's wife arose, and departed, and came to Tirzah: and when she came to the threshold of the door, the child died;
And they buried him; and all Israel mourned for him, according to the word of the LORD, which he spake by the hand of his servant Ahijah the prophet. (1 Kings 14:17,18) (Upon this incident Matthew Henry remarks: "Those are good in whom are good things towards the Lord God of Israel; good inclinations, good intentions, good desires towards him. Where there is but some good thing of that kind, it will be found; God who seeks it sees it, be it never so little, and is pleased with it. A little grace goes a great way with great folks. It is so rare to find princes well affected to religion, that when they are so, they are worthy of double honour. Pious dispositions are in a peculair manner amiable and acceptable when they are found in those that are young. The divine image in miniature has a peculair lustre and beauty in it. A good child in the house of Jeroboam is a miracle of divine grace: to be there untainted is like being in the firey furnace unhurt, unsinged. Observe the care taken of him: he only of all Jeroboam's family shall be buried, and shall be lamented, as one that lived desired. Those that are distinguished by the divine grace shall be distinguished by the divine providence." In this family we trust there are some who have in them hopefuly signs of grace: let such be encouraged by observing that the Lord notices the smallest measure of grace which may be found in any one of us.)

"And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins." (1 Peter 4:8)

Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become [as] sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. And though I have [the gift of] prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed [the poor], and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.
Charity suffereth long, [and] is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
Charity never faileth: but whether [there be] prophecies, they shall fail; whether [there be] tongues, they shall cease; whether [there be] knowledge, it shall vanish away. For we know in part, and we prophesy in part. But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away. When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known. And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these [is] charity. (1 Corinthians 13)

Biblical counselors report that parental neglect, rejection, or abuse are the most frequent complaints of counselees.

Transgression beyond a certain point ends responsibility. Thus, in the law of the delinquent son (Deut. 21:18-21), the parents' responsibility to provide for and protect their son ended with the son's delinquency; their duty and their moral responsibility then became denunciation of and separation from their son.
As previously noted, responsibility is not a one-way street. The responsibility of parents for a child ends when that child refuses to submit to the godly authority and discipline of the parnets.
The same is true of the responsibility of children for their parents. Again, it is not a wone-way street. . . . Another illustration: a mother, a militant liberal or modernist in religion, made her home with her daughter and son-in-law, both devout, orthodox believers. The mother regarded the family's faith, church, and family worship with contempt, belittled it to her grandchildren and daily ridiculed her daughter for her `ignorant, reactionary' faith. Having denied ppenly the authority of her son-in-law, and having denied the faith of the family, she had forfeited any right to its care and protection. The family's patient suffering was not godly. Because responsibility is a two-way street, the mother had the duty to respect the family's faith, her son-in-Iaw's authority, and her daughter's devotion.
Thus, we may say that, not only does transgression beyond a certain point end responsibility, but fourth, if responsibility is maintained beyond that point it becomes a robbery. Where a juvenile delinquent is tolerated or protected, or a lawless parent allowed to be an affront to the family's faith and authority, the other members of the family are robbed of their due. Unconditional honor and service are due to God alone, not to man. St. Paul's admonition is `Render therefore to all their dues: tribute to whom tribute is due, custom to whom custom; fear to whom fear; honour to whom honour' (Rom. 13:7). No relationship between man and man can be absolutized. We have no absolute bond which ties us unconditionally to any man, either to obey or to love him. Marriage is dissolved by certain transgressions. The parent's duty to the child is nullified by his incorrigible conduct. The child's duty to the parent is limited by his prior obedience to God and the maintainence of God's law-order. In every human relationship, the only absolute is God's law, not man's relationship.
Fifth, not only does the absolutizing of a human relationship involve theft, in that the indulgence of a delinquent family or society member is the robbing of another, but it also involves theft God-ward as well as man-ward. It is an infraction of God's order to indulge evil. It involves robbing one person of his due in order to reward or indulge another, and this means also the violation of God's order to continue man's disorder.
To repeat again, responsibility is not a one-way street. If the ox, an animal of limited intelligence, is accountable for his acts, then every man in his station is also responsible. In every relationship, there is responsibility on every side by every person.
"Modern man is hostile to responsibility; he replaces responsibility with sensitivity, sensitivity being defined as awareness of humanity. Thus, a rebellious nun of the Immaculate Heart of Mary Sisters defies authority and declares, `These men (church officials) have no right to make a judgment when they don't know us.' (Terrence Shea, "A Community Divided. Dissent Nuns now Face a Bigger Splin -- With Rome Itself," The National Observer, Monday, November 17, 1969, p. 14.) This nun had entered an order requiring authority but had refused to submit to it. Her freedom to leave and establish her own way of life was not in question. She denied the principle of any responsibility beyond that which she owed to herself. (483, 484) -- Rousas John Rushdoony, Institutes of Biblical Law, pp. 481 - 484)

Adams, Dan, The Child Influencers: Restoring the Lost Art of Parenting (Cuyahoga Falls, OH: Home Team Press, 1990). [70180]
"Dan Adams does a great job focusing on the needs of our children and how we as parents can and should meet those needs. It is not the responsibility of the church, YMCA, day-care center, or public school to meet those needs. As parents, we need to take seriously the God given responsibility we have been given and determine to be the main influence in our children's lives. The result of our efforts can either be rewards for a job well done, or grief from a rebellious child that was not properly guided. This book contains many insights on how to spend quantity time, not just quality time, with our children and gives many ideas on how to turn the TV set off and get our children to enjoy reading alone as well as reading together as a family, and build memories as a family that will be the root system that the child will need to withstand the "winds" later in life." -- Reader Comments

Adams, Richard, What are the Duties of Parents and Children; and How are They to be Managed According to Scripture? (1674, reprinted 1844) (Cerlox Bound Photocopy Series. Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books, 1998).
"This Puritan author writes, `My business is not to discuss the entity of relations in their foundation and terms, which the philosopher is conversant about; but to discourse (on) the efficacy of the chiefest in Christian practice; that is, to inquire into the nature and management of those reciprocal offices betwixt parents and children, which if well discharged according to the sense of the divine oracles, do contribute most to the happiness of human society, and give reputation to the communion of saints.' And that `their children may continue, and their seed shall be established before' them (Psalm 102:28)." -- SWRB

Campbell, Ross, How to Really Love Your Teenager (Wheaton, IL: Scripture Press Publications, Inc.). 70108

Christenson, Evelyn, What Happens When We Pray for Our Families [40007]

Cook, Earl, Bringing Up Your Children (part 1) [30149]

Cook, Earl, Christian Parenting [30152]

Davis, John Jefferson, The Christian's Guide to Pregnancy and Childbirth: Choosing the Best for You and Your Baby From Conception to Delivery [40088]

Decker, Barbara, Proverbs for Parenting: A Topical Guide for Child Raising from the Book of Proverbs, King James Version
"An indispensible tool for parenting, this book arranges the proverbs into over 70 realistic, helpful topics. A sampling of topics covered include: trust in God, obedience, honesty, anger, self-control, temper, arguing, boasting, complaining, love, friendship, happiness, discretion, faithfulness, stewardship, work and many more." -- Publisher's Annotation

Doner, Colonel, The Responsible Parent's Guide to TV (Lafayette, LA: Huntington House, c1988). 70109
"Drawn from scientific surveys, expert opinion, and insightful commentary the evidence indicates the media has become the cutting edge of a new anti-family revolution."

Dreizler, Carl, and Phil Phillips (contributor) Fun Things to Do with Your Kids
"A collection of simple, practical activities gives kids a good reason to turn off the television and spend time with their families--putting together a photo album, visiting nearby historic spots, "adopting" a grandparent--and helps turn values and life skills into family fun." -- Synopsis

*Finley, Martha, Book 2: Elsie's Holidays at Roselands
"When Elsie's father becomes ill, she takes on the job of nurse-companion, and all goes well until Elsie, because it is the Sabbath, as a matter of conscience refuses to read to him from a secular book. The battle of wills that ensues nearly causes first her father's death, and then Elsie's. Lonely Elsie -- punished, ostracized, and then abandoned by her father -- turns to her heavenly Father for comfort and assurance. Will her father realize that Elsie's obedience to God must be paramount, and submit himself to the same Divine Authority?" -- Publisher's Annotation
Holidays at Roselands (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14280

Gross, Edward, Will My Children Go To Heaven (Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books).
" 'This warm and practical book appears to be mild-mannered, but it is truly a revolutionary incendiary device whose arguments could greatly help resurrect Christian families. The book's main point is to explain and revive the once dominant doctrine of covenantal succession, the view that God has promised not ambiguity but salvation to the children of faithful Christian parents. Read Gross's calm treatment of the issues before you make up your mind' (Credenda Agenda, Vol. 7, No. 5). 'a wonderful book. It not only captured my mind with its theological precision, but captured my heart as well!' (Walt Hibbard, Great Christian Books)." -- SWRB

Houston, Thomas, Parental Duties (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publishers, 1844). 70111

Ikeler, Bernard, Parenting Your Disabled Child (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1986). 70112
"Assesses the process of healing that occurs `after one is willing to share the pain with others, rather than suffer in isolation.' Anyone who has directly experienced or lived in a family with a disability will find this must reading. It provided me, as a professional, with valuable new insight into dealing with my disabled parents." -- Robin Line

Lester, Andrew D., When Children Suffer: A Sourcebook for Ministry With Children in Crisis (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1987).
"Focuses on the significant crises in childhood. Treats issues like unresolved grief, unnecessary fear, lack of trust, a low sense of worth, distorted ideas about the person of God and the world in which they live. Well-done; makes a valuable contribution." -- Cyril J. Barber

Lewis, Margie, Hurting Parents [40104]

Mack, Wayne, Developing Effective Parenting (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 70117
A series of seven audio cassettes.

Petty, Jim, Family Priorities for the 90s [30354]

Petty, Jim, Focusing Love (part 1) [30356]

Petty, Jim, Focusing Love (part 2) [30357]

Petty, Jim, Helps for Family Leaders [30358]

Petty, Jim, Money, Ambition and the Christian Family [30360]

Richards, Larry, You the Parent (Chicago, IL: Moody Press, c1974). 70118

Rushford, Patricia H., Caring for Your Sick Child [40097]

Sears, William, Christian Parenting and Child Care, revised and updated (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishers). 70119
"Few resources take the reader from the first weeks of pregnancy through the child's growing years. This one does. Each chapter is crammed with practical information, including the importance of sharing responsibilities and the need for both father and mother to become involved in the process of child-rearing. Recommended." -- Cyril J. Barber

Shaw, I., Christian Family Matters [70528]

Sprague, William B., Lectures to Young People (Harrisonburg, VA [Sprinkle Publications, P.O. Box 1094, Harrisonburg, 22803]: Sprinkle Publications).
"This great evangelistic tool provides parents a faithful means of presenting Gospel truth to their young people." -- Lloyd T. Sprinkle
Stafford, Tim, The Trouble With Parents [70301]

Tripp, Paul, Getting to the Heart of Communications [30496]

Tripp, Paul, Parenting [30434]

Tripp, Paul, Understanding Your Job Description as a Parent [30436]

Van Dyken, Donald, Rediscovering Catechism: The Art of Equipping Covenant Children

Welch, Ed, Parenting [30459]

Whitehead, John, The Rights of Religious Persons in Public Education [90499]

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Counsel for Young Men, Counsel for Young Women, Christian fiction (The Elsie Books by Martha Finley)



Fatherhood

"The fathers! vex not your children, lest they be discouraged." (Colossians 4:21, YLTHB)

Remember that you have a charge of the souls in your family, and are as a priest and teacher in your own house; and therefore see that you keep them to the constant worshipping of God, especially on the Lord's day, in public and private; and that you teach them the things that concern their salvation (as in afterward directed). And pray for them daily, as well as for yourselves. -- Richard Baxter

Life is ever fragrant in a home when a father, loving his Heavenly Father and striving to please Him in all his ways, so orders his home life as to give his children a beautiful conception of love, sympathy, and protection of the Father above. The greatest responsibility of any father is to reflect the character of God. -- from Lockyer, All the Promises of the Bible

The attack of the modern world system upon boys, manhood, fathers, the family, and the church is really an attack on man's God ordanined role to protect their families, subordinates, and society from evil.

He who is the father of a host of spiritual children is unquestionably happy. He can answer all opponents by pointing to souls who have been saved by his means. Converts are emphatically the heritage of the Lord, and the reward of the preacher's soul travail. By these, under the power of the Holy Ghost, the city of the church is both built up and watched, and the Lord has the glory of it. -- C.H. Spurgeon commenting on verse 5 of Psalm 127 in The Treasury of David

*ALEXANDER, JAMES W., Family Worship: A Biblical Duty, 1847. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22, ISBN: 0921148143 9780921148142. Alternate title: Thoughts on Family Worship (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 1990, 1847). ISBN: 1573580813 9781573580816
First printed in 1847 by the Presbyterian Board of Education.
"No minister in our church was a more accomplished scholar. The pulpit was his appropriate sphere." -- Charles Hodge
"It would be almost impossible to overemphasis the importance of daily family worship. It is a blessed privilege for those who have known it as children and/or adults. It is foundational to any lasting revival or reformation. It is a duty commanded by God in Scripture, and to neglect it is, without a doubt, sinful. The Westminster Divines made it clear, in their amazing Directory for Family Worship, that obstinacy in the sin of neglecting family worship should lead where there are faithful elders to the head of the offending house being `suspended and debarred from the Lord's supper.' This book gives the nature, warrant, and history of family worship in easy to read large print." -- SWRB
"The author's goal is `extending the domestic worship of God's people and especially in arousing the children of the covenant to honor the God of their fathers.' To fulfill this purpose, Alexander traces family worship from Eden on through the Old and New Testaments and church history. The universal voice of the Church, in its best periods, has been in favor of family worship. . . .' He demonstrates that family worship is a means of intellectual improvement: `True piety improves the understanding. . . .' " -- Robert H. Duvall

*Baxter, Richard, The Reformed Pastor: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 4 (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 2000, 1992). 30937
"This is the fourth and final volume in this great set. Includes, [`Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men,'] `The Reformed Pastor' `Poor Man's Family Book,' `The Catechizing of Families,' and `The Mother's Catechism,' in all 25 sermons, treatises, and catechisms. Dr. J.I. Packer says, `For me, the great joy of this year is that it see the completion of Soli Deo Gloria's reprint of Baxter's incomparable PRACTICAL WORKS'." -- GCB
The Reformed Pastor, Richard Baxter
http://www.e4.net
The Richard Baxter Page
http://members.aol.com/augusteen/Baxter.html
Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men (1681), by Richard Baxter
http://www.lettermen2.com/ccaym.html

Cook, E., Fathers: Don't Provoke Your Children [30482]

Dalbey, Gordon, Father and Son: The Wound, The Healing, the Call to Manhood [10207A]

Farris, Michael, How a Man Prepares His Daughters for Life
"This book offers simple, powerful techniques to help men build the best foundation for character and strong living skills in their daughters. It maps out ways around the pitfalls - the common father-daughter conflicts, the big mistakes - and helps you become more of the father you want to be." -- Book Description

*Finley, Martha, Book 2: Elsie's Holidays at Roselands
"When Elsie's father becomes ill, she takes on the job of nurse-companion, and all goes well until Elsie, because it is the Sabbath, as a matter of conscience refuses to read to him from a secular book. The battle of wills that ensues nearly causes first her father's death, and then Elsie's. Lonely Elsie -- punished, ostracized, and then abandoned by her father -- turns to her heavenly Father for comfort and assurance. Will her father realize that Elsie's obedience to God must be paramount, and submit himself to the same Divine Authority?" -- Publisher's Annotation
Holidays at Roselands (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14280

Henry, Matthew, The Catechising of Youth and Christ's Favour to Little Children Displayed (1713), (Cerlox Bound Photocopy Series. Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books).
"The two sermons noted above form foundational teaching that every family should be aware of and practice. A faithful ministry and faithful parents, who catechize their children daily, will do more for true Reformation and godliness than just about any other means to this end. Here Henry also adds simple questions to each question of the Westminster Shorter Catechism to help explain it to beginners. Very practical!" -- SWRB
Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html

Miller, C. John, Husband and Father as Spiritual Leader (part 1) [30298]

Miller, C. John, Husband and Father as Spiritual Leader (part 2) [30299]

Phillips, Douglas W. (compiler and editor), Poems for Patriarchs: The Verse and Prose of Christian Manhood ( The Vision Forum, Inc.)
"One reason men lack vision is because they lack poetry in their lives. Men no longer sing or recite inspirational verse. Our boys are no longer required to memorized the great psalms, hymns, and poems of Christian manhood.
"This should come as no surprise. The 20th century has wreaked havoc upon chivalry and manhood. The transformation of poetry from the ennobling to the coarse, the banal, or the irrelevant is as much a sign of our national loss of manhood as it is of the decline of decency and civilization. "Poetry is essential to a man's life. We should never forget that God chose to communicate through the language of poetry. A large portion of the Scripture from Psalms to The Song of Solomon -- even the book of Isaiah in the original language -- was written in verse. Why? Because poetry and song allow us to use the beauty of language to paint mental images of victory, of devotion, and of the beauty of life in Jesus Christ. . . ." -- Douglas W. Phillips

Rank, Maureen Dealing With the Dad of Your Past
"Practical, biblical counsel for every woman.
"Although fathers are not the only determining influence in their daughters' lives, it is true that their impact at times may be the most ignored. Current research shows that a girl's relationship with her father is absolutely critical to her psychological, social, and spiritual development. This is grim news to a group of people whom psychologists are labeling, `The Fatherless Generation.' Physically absent dads (the current experience of one-fourth of American children under 18), emotionally absent dads, and abusive dads are impacting daughters as well as sons.
"God as Father designed earthly fathers to model His loving care through personal involvement, warmth, discipline, and wise direction and counsel toward maturity. Where these are lacking in a daughter's life, profound effects occur. As difficult as that may be to face, that process is the only way to emotional and spiritual wholeness. It requires a sometimes painful look back and honest assessment of the dad of the past. It means coming to terms with who he really was, who he wasn't, and what can be done about it now. Through God's restoring process, daughters will be challenged to embrace the One perfect Father who is always there and allow His life-changing truth and power to `make all things new'." -- Publisher's Annotation

Stark, Jeff, Fathers Bringing Up Their Children (parts 1-5) [30410]

Van Dyken, Donald, Rediscovering Catechism: The Art of Equipping Covenant Children

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Family Worship, Sharing Christ With Your Children, Fatherhood of God, Finding the perfect parent in God, Manhood, Parenting, Suffrage

Related WebLinks

The Directory For Family-Worship (1647) and The Directory for the Publick Worship of God, 1645
http://www.covenanter.org/Westminster/directoryforfamilyworship.htm

Vision Forum's Quest for Family Renewal
http://visionforum.com/aboutvf/

The War Against Fathers by Tom Barrett Editor@ConservativeTruth.org
http://conservativetruth.org/archives/06-16-01.html

National Fatherhood Initiative http://fatherhood.org/

Fatherlessness
http://fatherhood.about.com/parenting/fatherhood/msubfatherless.htm?once=true&

Effects of Fatherlessness, US DATA
http://fatherhood.about.com/gi/dynamic/offsite.htm?site=http://www.massey.ac.nz/%7EKBirks/gender/econ/nodad.htm



Motherhood

But many [that are] first shall be last; and the last [shall be] first. -- Jesus Christ (Matthew 19:28-30)

Jesus saith unto her, Woman, what have I to do with thee? mine hour is not yet come. -- Jesus Christ (John 2:4)

Arndt, Elise, A Mother's Touch [40093]

*Baxter, Richard, The Mother's Catechism in The Reformed Pastor: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 4 (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 1992). 30937
"This is the fourth and final volume in this great set. Includes, `The Reformed Pastor' and 25 other sermons, treatises, and catechisms. Dr. J.I. Packer says, `For me, the great joy of this year is that it see the completion of Soli Deo Gloria's reprint of Baxter's incomparable PRACTICAL WORKS'." -- GCB
Includes: POOR MAN'S FAMILY BOOK, THE CATECHIZING OF FAMILIES, and THE MOTHER'S CATECHISM.
The Richard Baxter Page
http://members.aol.com/augusteen/Baxter.html
Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men (1681), by Richard Baxter
http://www.lettermen2.com/ccaym.html

Ketterman, Grace, Mothering: The Complete Guide for Mothers of All Ages (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishers). 70126A
"Here are distinctively Christian perspective on everything from pregnancy and childbirth through rewarding grandmothering -- all from an experienced parent and pediatrician! -- CBD

Lush, Jean, Mothers and Sons [40194A]

Miller, C. John, Woman's Role in the Home (part 1) [30309]

Miller, C. John, Woman's Role in the Home (part 2) [30310]

Owen, Pat H., Idea Book for Mothers (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, 1981). 70127

Rischer, Carol, Insights for Young Mothers [40110]

Strecker, Edward Adam, Their Mother's Daughters (Philadelphia, PA: J.B. Liffincott Co., 1956). 70128

Strecker, Edward Adam, Their Mother's Sons (Philadelphia, PA: J.B. Liffincott Co., 1951). 70129
"Two books which expose the devastating influence of a matriarchal society upon children. No parent can afford to avoid interacting with these vital books." -- Cyril J. Barber

Van Dyken, Donald, Rediscovering Catechism: The Art of Equipping Covenant Children

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Fatherhood, Christian fiction (The Elsie Books by Martha Finley)
TCRB5 (Thompson Chain Reference Bible, 5th edition, 1988 and later), 1629, 4073

Related WebLinks

Covenanted Motherhood, a sermon by Greg Price on Matthew 12:46-50
http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?currSection=sermonsspeaker&sermonID=19013812



Sharing Christ With Your Children

"But when once they are renewed by the Spirit of Christ, they are the charge of all the blessed Trinity, and under God the charge of angels: living or dying they are safe; for the eternal God is their portion and defense." -- Richard Baxter

Considering how prevalent a parent's love for their child is, that love can only compound the parent's suffering in Hell when they recognize that, because of them, their child also is suffering there with them.

A Biblical Counselor tells the story of his high school son who attended church regularly with the family, but with little or no enthusiasm.
His father entered into a deal with his son to memorize verses of Scripture. The conditions: the father would select the verse, the son would memorize the verse, the father could request that he recite any verse at any time, each time he recited a verse correctly his father would pay him $5.00, if he failed to recite a verse correctly (word for word with the book, chapter, and verse), then he paid his father $5.00.
At first he memorized just for the money. Later he began requesting more verses. His father selected verses bearing on events in his son's life at the moment. As the number of verses grew, the father was able to request verses to be recited that spoke to the specific needs of the moment. By the time of his graduation from high school he had over 100 verses of Scripture committed to memory. The son then went to Columbia Seminary and is now a pastor. (For those who do not immediately see, this is a practical way, of course, to purchase the soul of a child or neighbor for Christ before they barter it for a "mess of pottage" in the workplace, or to an spouse in an ungodly marriage of convenience.)

It is time that I now showed you how this same fight is carried on ON EARTH. Amongst men in these lower places of conflict saints overcome through the blood of the Lamb by their testimony to that blood. Every believer is to bear witness to the atoning sacrifice and its power to save. He is to tell out the doctrine; he is to emphasize it by earnest faith in it; and he is to support it and prove it by his experience of the effect of it. You cannot all speak from the pulpit, but you can all speak for Jesus as opportunity is given you. Our main business is to bear witness with the blood in the power of the Spirit. To this point we can all testify. You cannot go into all manner of deep doctrines or curious points, but you can tell to all those round about you that "There is life in a look at the Crucified One." You can bear witness to the power of the blood of Jesus in your own soul. If you do this, you will overcome men in many ways. -- C.H. Spurgeon in a sermon, The Blood of the Lamb, the Conquering Weapon

*Baxter, Richard, The Mother's Catechism, and The Catechizing of Families in The Reformed Pastor: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 4 (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 1992). 30937
"This is the fourth and final volume in this great set. Includes, `The Reformed Pastor' and 25 other sermons, treatises, and catechisms. Dr. J.I. Packer says, `For me, the great joy of this year is that it see the completion of Soli Deo Gloria's reprint of Baxter's incomparable PRACTICAL WORKS'." -- GCB
Includes: POOR MAN'S FAMILY BOOK, THE CATECHIZING OF FAMILIES, and THE MOTHER'S CATECHISM.
The Richard Baxter Page
http://members.aol.com/augusteen/Baxter.html
Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men (1681), by Richard Baxter
http://www.lettermen2.com/ccaym.html

*The Reformation Study Bible: The Word That Changes Lives -- the Faith That Changed The World, New King James Version (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishers, March 2001). Previous published under the title New Geneva Study Bible: Bringing the Light of the Reformation to Scripture (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishers, 1995).
"The NEW GENEVA STUDY BIBLE offers a restatement of Reformation truth for Christians today. The first Geneva Bible was a pivotal force in the Reformation. Using the everyday language of its time, it opened the pages of Scripture to readers and provided helpful notes to assist them in understanding its message. It became the family Bible of the English people, and was the Bible that the Pilgrims brought to the New World. Since that time a multitude of English translations and study Bibles have appeared, but none of these has incorporated a summary of Reformed theology." -- Thomas Nelson Publishers
Also available in digital format from Logos Bible Software.
The Reformation Study Bible in Logos Bible Software
http://www.logos.com/ebooks/details/NGSTBIB
A Review of The Reformation Study Bible
http://www.lettermen2.com/geneva.html
Readers of THE REFORMATION STUDY BIBLE should also be familiar with The Westminster Family of Documents, the doctrine of the Mediatorial Dominion of Jesus Christ, and the literature of the Covenanted Reformation.
"The Westminster Confession of Faith (1646, The Westminster Standards) and Related Works: A Study Guide"
http://www.lettermen2.com/suggest.html
The Covenanted Reformation of Scotland Short Title Listing
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr9chb.html#crsstl
Reformed Presbyterian Catechism, William L. Roberts D.D.
http://www.covenantedreformation.com/EssaysCR/RP%20Catechism/RP%20Index.html

*BOSTON, THOMAS, Commentary on the Shorter Catechism, 2 volumes (Cerlox Bound Photocopy Series. Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books, 1993, 1853). A Christian classic.
" `Two large volumes of over 1300 pages! Boston's work is the most comprehensive reference set ever penned on THE WESTMINSTER SHORTER CATECHISM. Concerning THE SHORTER CATECHISM, A.F. Mitchell states '...it is a thoroughly Calvinistic and Puritan catechism, the ripest fruit of the Assembly's thought and experience, maturing and finally fixing the definitions of theological terms to which Puritanism for half a century had been leading up and gradually coming closer and closer to in its legion of catechisms' (The Westminster Assembly...). THE SHORTER CATECHISM is the `king of the catechisms' for shear power of expression, combining logical cogency with succinctness. Boston's exposition is unrivalled; there is nothing else like it. Here you have the cream of Puritan catechisms married to the cream of clear Puritan exposition! This is likely Boston's most important work. A set that will meet numerous needs, ranging from use in family worship, Christian education and personal study, to sermon preparation - and for help in settling debated questions on the Presbytery floor. A one-of-a-kind set of books that will serve your family for generations to come!" -- SWRB
Boston's Commentary on the Westminster Confession [1646]
http://www.best.com/~covenant/
Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html
Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
"Click on any of the individual questions below to get the answer and Biblical references, as well as links to works by John Flavel, Thomas Watson, Thomas Boston, James Fisher, and John Whitecross, and others."
http://www.shortercatechism.com/

*Bunyan, John, The Pilgrim's Progress, complete and unabridged (Carlisle, PA: The Banner of Truth Trust, 1979, 1895). A Christian classic.
Said to be "the greatest book, other than Scripture, which an Englishman has given to mankind." -- GCB
The Banner of Truth Trust publication is recommended. It is facsimile reprinted from the unabridged edition of 1895 published by John C. Nimmo, Ltd. containing the original marginal notes and Scripture references and illustrated with etchings by William Strang.
"Bunyan had better insight into the human heart than modern psychology; namely, because he did not study man apart from his Creator and apart from his deep inward problem." -- Ernest Reisinger
The Pilgrim's Progress
http://www.ccel.org/b/bunyan/pilgrims_progress/title.html
Pilgrim's Progress John Bunyan (audio files)
http://www.sermonaudio.com/search.asp?SpeakerOnly=true&currSection=sermonsspeaker&keyword=John%5EBunyan

*Bunyan, John, The Pilgrim's Progress (Cassettes)
"The entire book, virtually unabridged -- rewritten for the modern ear by Jim Pappas and brought to life by 77 actors with original music and sound effects -- is now available on audio cassette." -- GCB. A Christian classic.
Pilgrim's Progress John Bunyan (audio files)
http://www.sermonaudio.com/search.asp?SpeakerOnly=true&currSection=sermonsspeaker&keyword=John%5EBunyan

*Cotton, John (editor) and The Westminster Assembly, New England Primer: Improved for the More Easy Attaining the True Reading of English. To which is added The Assembly of Divines, and Mr. Cotton's catechism. A Christian classic.
"THE NEW ENGLAND PRIMER was the first textbook ever printed in America and was used to teach reading and Bible lessons in our schools until the twentieth century. In fact, many of the Founders and their children learned to read from THE PRIMER. This pocket-size edition is an historical reprint of the 1777 version used in many schools during the Founding Era." -- Book Description
"The New England Primer was one of the greatest books ever published. It went through innumerable editions; it reflected in a marvelous way the spirit of the age that produced it, and contributed, perhaps more than any other book except the Bible, to the molding of those sturdy generations that gave to America its liberty and its institutions."
"The Founding Fathers of this country and other Americans learned to read from this little treasure. There is much that we can learn about them and the way they thought by examining its contents. The true study of history should incorporate the study of what motivated people to do the things they did. This reprint makes for great classroom discussion. It makes for an excellent addition to any American History class at all grade levels and all ages. It is pocket-size, and kids and adults love it. I highly recommend it!" -- Reader Comment
"WEBSTER'S BLUE-BACKED SPELLING BOOK and the NEW ENGLAND PRIMER were basic, foundational textbooks used in the schools of our Republic in the 18th and 19th centuries.
"These two textbooks prove our founding fathers expected moral truths to be taught in every school subject." -- Reader Comment

*De Graaf, Simon Gerrit, Promise and Deliverance, 4 volumes (Scarsdale, NY [Westminster Discount Book Service, P.O. Box 125H, Scarsdale 10583]: Westminster Discount Book Service, 1977). Translated from the Dutch by H. Evan Runner and Elisabeth Wichers Runner. A Christian classic.
"In Scripture, religion means covenant. By His Word, God called into being an order of creation culminating in man. By that Word He also gave man His favor and brought him into a life of conscious covenantal fellowship with Himself. As De Graaf himself puts it: `Without covenant, there is no religion, no conscious fellowship between man and God, no exchange of love and faithfulness. Without the covenant, man would be just an instrument in God's hand. When God created man, He had more than an instrument in mind: He made a creature that could respond to Him. . . .'
"This renewed insight into Biblical revelation is the perspective undergirding De Graaf's treatment of all Bible stories. It makes his book a unique presentation of God's revelation of Himself in the covenant and keeps his interpretations of the stories from degenerating into mere moralizing. Religion is not morality." -- H. Evan Runner
"I highly recommend this book. One of the best books available." -- R.C. Sproul
"A landmark in interpreting the simple stories of the Bible." -- Christianity Today

*Finley, Martha, Anna Hand, the Meddlesome Girl (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1868).

*Finley, Martha, Annandale: A Story of the Times of the Covenanters (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1858).

*Finley, Martha, Aunt Hetty's Fowls or, Harry at the Farm (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1876).

*Finley, Martha, Aunt Ruth, or, Persecuted not Forsaken (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1857).

*Finley, Martha, The Broken Basket (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1870).

*Finley, Martha, Brookside Farm-house: From January to December: For the Little Folks (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1865).

*Finley, Martha, Clouds and Sunshine, or, The Faith Brightened Pathway (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1859).

*Finley, Martha, Ella Clinton, or, By Their Fruits Ye Shall Know Them (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1856).

*Finley, Martha, Little Patience (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1868).

*Finley, Martha, Marion Harvie, a Tale of Persecution in the Seventeenth Century (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1857).

*Finley, Martha, Maud's two Homes (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1868).

*Finley, Martha, The Peddler of La Grave (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1875).

*Finley, Martha, The Elsie Books, 4 book set (Books 1-4) (Elkton, MD: Holly Halls Publications, 1998).
"Originally written in the late 1800's for girls and young women, the Elsie Dinsmore books were bestsellers for over thirty years. When we are introduced to Elsie in the first book she is a sweet and humble eight-year-old whose great desire in life is to be reunited with her father, whom she has never met. Her faith and her obedience to God's commandments uphold her in the great troubles she often faces, and the drama to which we are spectators is as timely for today's girls as it was for the young ladies of the 19th century. A new edition of one of GCB's best sellers, the series offers Christian values and character building examples through stories that are compelling, heartwarming, and enduring. Ages 10 and up." -- GCB
"The Elsie Books -- 28 in all -- are some of the most widely read children's stories ever written. When they first came out more than a hundred years ago, the publisher could scarcely keep them in stock. . ." -- Publisher's Annotation
"Altogether Miss Finley's novels sold more than 28,000,000 copies in the last century. This made them among the best- selling novels of all time. . ." -- Jay P. Green, Sr.

Book 1: Elsie Dinsmore (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).
"Set amid the sweet blossoms of a southern mansion, this timeless classic delves into the heart of Elsie -- by all counts, an extraordinary little girl. Share in Elsie's quest for love from her earthly father as it leads to a mature understanding of the love of her Father in Heaven. Join Elsie as she suffers through endless hours of scrutiny from Miss Day, her mean-spirited school teacher, taunting from her mischievous young Uncle Arthur, and scoldings from a cold-hearted father she so desires to please -- all with the peace and quiet countenance that comes from knowing she is God's child. This, the first of the heart-warming Elsie Books, will both challenge and inspire you." -- Publisher's Annotation
Elsie Dinsmore: Book 1 Martha Finley
http://www.hshangout.com/elsie.html

Book 2: Elsie's Holidays at Roselands (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).
"When Elsie's father becomes ill, she takes on the job of nurse-companion, and all goes well until Elsie, because it is the Sabbath, as a matter of conscience refuses to read to him from a secular book. The battle of wills that ensues nearly causes first her father's death, and then Elsie's. Lonely Elsie -- punished, ostracized, and then abandoned by her father -- turns to her heavenly Father for comfort and assurance. Will her father realize that Elsie's obedience to God must be paramount, and submit himself to the same Divine Authority?" -- Publisher's Annotation
Holidays at Roselands (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14280

Book 3: Elsie's Girlhood (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).
"Elsie's father marries her beloved Miss Rose, and after a time, Elsie acquires a younger brother and sister. Growing into a beautiful young lady who adores her father and accords him unquestioning obedience, Elsie falls in love with Bromly Egerton, a man who turns out to be a deceiving, gambling reprobate. Heartbroken, the loss affects her health as well as her spirit, and the Dinsmores decide that a sojourn in Europe is the solution. An unexpected encounter in Naples sets the stage for a romance that surprises almost everyone." -- Publisher's Annotation

Book 4: Elsie's Womanhood (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).
"As Elsie and her father prepare for her marriage to John Travilla, Elsie moves to Viamede, her mother's childhood home in Louisiana. Overseeing the plantation, Elsie observes the treatment of the slaves and strives to bring them into an awareness of God's love for them. As Mr. and Mrs. Travilla start their life together, Elsie's old boyfriend tries to bring it all to a tragic end. In a fit of jealous rage, he unsuccessfully attempts to shoot the newly married couple. Happy with her life with her new husband, Elsie experiences the wonderful joys of motherhood. Join Elsie as she moves into a wonderful and exciting new phase of her life." -- Publisher's Annotation

Book 5: Elsie's Motherhood (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).
"Knowing the blessings that have attended her dependence on God all her life, Elsie is careful to inculcate the teaching of the Scriptures in her children from the moment they can understand right from wrong." -- Publisher's Annotation

Book 6: Elsie's Children (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).
"Are Elsie's children paragons? No, they are beset with the same trials and tribulations as others, but they have a godly mother and father who are ever ready to point out their errors, and to give them scriptural answers. It is no wonder that they grow up to be wonderful witnesses to Christ, also." -- Publisher's Annotation

Book 7: Elsie's Widowhood (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries. "Elsie's husband was 15 years older, so it was not a surprise that a day would come when she would have to go alone without his dear presence. As could be expected, all accepted it as the will of God, and they set out to grow in grace because of being left without their beloved husband and father." -- Publisher's Annotation

Book 8: Grandmother Elsie (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 9: Elsie's New Relations (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 10: Elsie at Nantucket (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 11: The Two Elsies (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 12: Elsie's Kith and Kin (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 13: Elsie's Friends at Woodburn (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 14: Elsie's Christmas (Christmas With Grandma Elsie) (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 15: Elsie and the Raymonds (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 16: Yachting With the Raymonds (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 17: Elsie's Vacation (and After Events) (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 18: Elsie at Viamede (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 19: Elsie at Ion (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 20: Elsie at the World's Fair (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 21: Elsie's Journey on Inland Waters (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 22: Elsie at Home (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 23: Elsie on the Hudson (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 24: Elsie in the South (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 25: Elsie's Young Folks (in Peace and War) (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 26: Elsie's Winter Trip (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 27: Elsie and Her Loved Ones (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 28: Elsie and Her Namesakes (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

*Finley, Martha, The Mildred Series: A Companion Series of the "Elsie" Books (New York, NY: A.L. Burt Company, 1876 and Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 1: Mildred Keith (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 2: Mildred at Roselands (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 3: Mildred and Elsie (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 4: Mildred's Married Life and a Winter With Elsie Dinsmore (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 5: Mildred at Home (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 6: Mildred's Boys and Girls (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 7: Mildred's New Daughter (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Gross, Edward N., Will My Children Go To Heaven (Presbyterian and Reformed Publishing Company).
" 'This warm and practical book appears to be mild-mannered, but it is truly a revolutionary incendiary device whose arguments could greatly help resurrect Christian families. The book's main point is to explain and revive the once dominant doctrine of covenantal succession, the view that God has promised not ambiguity but salvation to the children of faithful Christian parents. Read Gross's calm treatment of the issues before you make up your mind' (Credenda Agenda, Vol. 7, No. 5). 'a wonderful book. It not only captured my mind with its theological precision, but captured my heart as well!' (Walt Hibbard, Great Christian Books)." -- SWRB

Henry, Matthew, The Catechising of Youth and Christ's Favour to Little Children Displayed (1713), (Cerlox Bound Photocopy Series. Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books).
"The two sermons noted above form foundational teaching that every family should be aware of and practice. A faithful ministry and faithful parents, who catechize their children daily, will do more for true Reformation and godliness than just about any other means to this end. Here Henry also adds simple questions to each question of the Westminster Shorter Catechism to help explain it to beginners. Very practical!" -- SWRB
Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html

*Henry, Matthew, Young Christian

Phillips, Phil, and Syvelle Phillips, Helping Your Children Walk With God

James, John Angell, The Christian Father's Present to His Children (Soli Deo Gloria Pubns, 1998).
"This is a wonderful book by an early 19th century preacher in England encouraging fathers as they lead in their homes. Most of his writings had to do with the pastoral ministry; but this book is for fathers. The main tenet of the book is that the best gift fathers can give to their children is a godly upbringing in the fear and admonition of the Lord, firm but loving discipline to restrain evil in them, and to build a moral conscience into their children, so that even if God does not save them, their punishment will be less." -- Synopsis

*Tripp, Theodore A., and David Powlison Shepherding a Child's Heart
"Written for parents with children of any age, this insightful book provides perspectives and procedures for shepherding your child's heart into the paths of life. SHEPHERDING A CHILD'S HEART gives fresh biblical approaches to child rearing." -- Synopsis

*Rogers, Judy, Judy Rogers Tapes (Jackson, MS [Judy Rogers Tapes, 5125 Robinson Road, Jackson 39204]: Judy Rogers Tapes). 70130
"Judy Rogers' tapes are one of a kind. Biblically concerned parents should obtain them at all cost!" -- Jay Adams

Rogers, Judy, "Why Can't I See God? And Other Questions Children Ask About God" (Presbyterian and Reformed Pub). 70131
Here are 20 songs for children covering the great themes of the Bible. "Judy Rogers has done the impossible . . . and it is good!" -- Mary Pride
"I thought it was a wonderful way to present the catechism to kids by putting it in a song. A great way to start teaching your children about some of those hard to understand topics." -- Listener Comment
Rogers, Judy, "Go to the Ant: Songs Taken From Proverbs for Children" (Presbyterian and Reformed Pub). 70132
Songs on Proverbs for Children and Family. "Our whole family enjoys it! Your music is filled with wonderful Biblical truths for everyone."
Rogers, Judy, Guard Your Heart
*Schoolland, Marian M., Leading Little Ones to God, revised 2nd edition (Grand Rapids, MI: Wm.B. Eerdmans Publishing Co., 1981). 70133
Contains material useful in counseling.

Sprague, William B., Lectures to Young People (Grace Abounding Ministries). [20129]
"This great evangelistic tool provides parents a faithful means of presenting Gospel truth to their young people." -- Lloyd T. Sprinkle
*Spurgeon, Charles Haddon, Come Ye Children
"A book for parents and teachers on the Christian training of children as well as the evangelization of children called by the grace of God. Contains such chapters as: "Fed my Lambs - How to Do It," "Do Not Hinder the Children," "Of Such is the Kingdom of Heaven," "The Child Timothy and His Teachers," and "Abijah's `Some Good Thing'." -- Gospel Mission
Come Ye Children, by C.H. Spurgeon
http://www.spurgeon.org/misc/cyc.htm

Carr, W., The Bible and the Christian Home (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates). [30137]
Audio cassette NP138.

Cook, Earl, Raising Godly Children (Psalm 13) (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates). 30157
Audio cassette HFTF11.

Decker, Barbara, Proverbs for Parenting: A Topical Guide for Child Raising From the Book of Proverbs [40099]

Dedrick, William, and Colleen Dedrick, The Little Book of Christian Character and Manners (Montreat, NC: Cool Spring Press, 1993). 70136
"Are you looking for a brief and thoroughly Biblical book on training children from a Reformed perspective? The sections on eating habits, table manners, cleanliness, selfrestraint, quietness, and industry are among the most helpful. You will want to use this as a `working handbook' to read and re-read in training your children."

Hill, Harold, Bible Answers for King's Kids (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House, 1984). 70137A
Compiled by Gretchen Zimmer Black with Irene Burk Harrell.

Huggins, Kevin, Parenting Adolescents [70294]

Johnson, Ron, Joseph W. Hinkle, and Charles M. Lowry, Oikos: A Practical Approach to Family Evangelism [20120]

Klaus, Sandra, Ten to Grow On: Teaching the Ten Commandments to Today's Children [40160]
"For ages 8-12. Introduction to each commandment, modern-day story which illustrates the commandment, discussion questions, memory verse activities, song suggestions, classroom activities, and reproducible puzzles." -- GCB

Martin, Mildred A., Wisdom and the Millers: Proverbs for Children, revised edition (Minerva, OH: Christian Fountain Press). 70138
"Each chapter explains and illustrates a passage from the book of Proverbs." -- CVBBS

Masters, Lavonne, The Bible Verse Book [40106]

Merrill, Dean, and Grace Merrill, Together at Home: 100 Proven Ways to Nurture You Child's Faith (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishers, 1985). 70139
"An encyclopedia of action-ideas. Creative discussions which will especially help the parents of 6-12 year olds. Nuts and bolts stuff for becoming a family by doing things together." -- GCB

Palmer, Peter, and Jay P. Green, Sr. (editor) Children's Bible Story Book
Said to be the best Bible story book for children.

Reimer, Kathie, 1001 Ways to Introduce Your Child to God [20127]
"Creative ideas to help children develop godly attitudes and healthy ways of thinking."-- Publisher's Annotation

*Ryle, J.C., The Duties of Parents (Choteau, MT: Gospel Mission Press). 70141
"Ryle said something which is as true in our day as it was in his. Without proper instruction children will not grow up to be good followers of Christ. This small book is a strong encouragement and exhortation to all parents to train up their children in the way of truth." -- GCB

*Spurgeon, Charles Haddon, A Good Start: A Book for Young Men and Women
"Spurgeon at his best for young people!
"Teaches the character forming age that faithful warning, wise counsel, and sympathetic admonition are particularly valuable. Spurgeon aims to lead them to Christ and to encourage and stimulate them in their aspirations after nobility." -- Reader's Comment

Tallach, John, They Shall Be Mine (Carlisle, PA: The Banner of Truth Trust). 20169
"A book for young people. He tells about men and women from all over the world who have proved themselves to be faithful followers of the Lord." -- GCB

Trumbull, Henry Clay, Hints on Child Training
"This book has been called the `single best volume on the subject of child training ever written.' Trumbull, who was responsible for the growth of Sunday Schools in America just after the Civil War, wrote this book at age 60 after raising eight of his own children." -- Synopsis

Tell, Bill, and Sue Tell, Well-Versed Kids [20033]
"WELL-VERSED KIDS contains 108 verses on the doctrinal and practical areas children need to be grounded in. And it comes with a parent/teacher manual to help you explain the verses to your children and guide them through the learning process. Includes everything pictured." -- Publisher's Annotation

*Van Dyken, Donald, Rediscovering Catechism: The Art of Equipping Covenant Children

*Vos, Catherine, Child's Story Bible (Wm. B. Eerdmans Publishing Co.). 70215
"Since the CHILDREN'S BIBLE STORY BOOK by Palmer is presently out of print, [Notice it is again in print, January, 2001] this by Vos is undoubtedly the best of the Bible story books. She is sound in her doctrine, restrains her imaginative additions to the Biblical record, and shows an understanding of the mind of a child." -- Jay P. Green, Sr.
"Parents themselves don't often model personal devotions because so much of the Bible is difficult to understand. Read this every night and I guarantee you'll understand your own Bible much better, and have the best basic biblical overview possible! Vos doesn't water down the Bible stories - even some of the gory details - but in a respectful, careful manner she presents nearly every bible story. We LOVE this book!" -- Reader Comment

Watson, Carol, and Ann Baum (contributor), 365 Children's Prayers: Prayers Old and New for Today and Every Day "This is a wondrous book on praying for it offers 365 prayers - most written by children. The prayers cover topical issues and are separated into six easy to follow categories. I have purchased many copies of this book over the years for use as gifts, for use in Sunday School, and I have two copies for personal use. An excellent choice!" -- Reader Comment

Welch, Ed, Using the Gospel in Your Home (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates). 30461
Audio cassette HFTF07.

White, William R. (compiler), Stories for the Journey: A Sourcebook for Christian Storytellers [70225]

*Hoeksema, Herman Believers and Their Seed: Children in the Covenant

Witherspoon, Thomas D., Children of the Covenant (Richmond, VA: Presbyterian Committee on Publications, 1873). 70142

Wooden, Keith, Teaching Children to Pray [10785]

See also: Words of Christ appearing in The Web Edition of Biblical Counsel: Resources for Renewal, Creeds, Confessions, and Catechisms, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Christian fiction (The Elsie Books by Martha Finley), Apologetics, Believer's Position in Christ and Sonship, Book length presentations of the free offer of Gospel message of salvation and the life to come: the means of grace, Cross of Christ, Evangelism, Gospel message of salvation, Gospel message of salvation, Gospel tracts and witnessing tools, Teaching children, Grace of God, Holiness, Justification and sanctification, Knowing Christ, Prayer, Priesthood of believers, Pseudo-Christian movements, Resources for students, Revival, Sharing Christ with your children, Small group evangelism, Spiritual warfare, Student Resources
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Related WebLinks

Nave's Topical Bible: Christ, Prayers of
http://bible.crosswalk.com/Concordances/NavesTopicalBible/ntb.cgi?number=T2807

The Commandments of Jesus, J.S. McConnell (1925)
http://www.wowzone.com/commandm.htm

The Directory For Family-Worship (1647) and The Directory for the Publick Worship of God, 1645
http://www.covenanter.org/Westminster/directoryforfamilyworship.htm

Catechism for Young Children: An Introduction to the Shorter Catechism
http://www.reformed.org/documents/cat_for_young_children.html

Small Children's Catechism
http://www.reformed.org/documents/child_cat.html

Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
"Click on any of the individual questions below to get the answer and Biblical references, as well as links to works by John Flavel, Thomas Watson, Thomas Boston, James Fisher, and John Whitecross, and others."
http://www.shortercatechism.com/

Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html

Westminster Larger Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/wlc_w_proofs/WLC_frames.html

Bible Presbyterian Church Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
http://wsc.bpc.org/

Mantle Ministries (Elsie Dinsmore and Mildred Series)
http://www.mantlemin.com

A Guide for Young Christians John W. Robbins
http://www.trinityfoundation.org/reviews/

The Richard Baxter Page
Includes articles on the duties and obligations of parents and children.
http://members.aol.com/augusteen/Baxter.html

Judy Rogers Tapes
http://www.dominionwitness.com/judyrogers.htm

Psalms in Song: Music Book and Teaching Resources
http://home.earthlink.net/~apex_ps/

Young and Wise Studies for Youth
http://members.tripod.com/~pomyouch/index.html

Apostles Creed
http://www.reformed.org/documents/apostles_creed.html

Child Evangelism Fellowship
http://berean.org/cef

Dare to be a Daniel
"Did you know that most people come to faith in Jesus Christ before the age of 18? What better way to reach the next generation than through their classmates and friends who already believe. "Dare to Be a Daniel is a new training program from the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association (BGEA) to help equip boys and girls ages 9 to 14 to share their faith in Jesus with others. Through a printed booklet, a CD-ROM, this fun, interactive Web site, and other tools, youth are given simple steps they can use when telling others about Christ. We are also developing a 13-week Sunday school curriculum based on this program." http://www.daretobeadaniel.com/



Teaching Children

"Give instruction to a youth about his way,
Even when he is old he turneth not from it." (Proverbs 22:6, YLTHB)

But Jesus called them unto him, and said, Suffer little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God. -- Jesus Christ (Luke 18:16)

"For this cause we also, since the day we heard it, do not cease to pray for you, and to desire that ye might be filled with the knowledge of his will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding." (Colossians 1:9)

Let it be the principal part of your care and labour in all their educations, to make holiness appear to them the most necessary, honourable, gainful, pleasant, delightful, amiable state of life; and to keep them from apprehending it either as needless, dishonourable, hurtful, or uncomfortable. Especially draw them to the love of it, by representing it as lovely. And therefore begin with that which is easiest and most grateful to them (as the history of the Scripture, and the lives of the martyrs, and other good men, and some short, familiar lessons). For though in restraining them from sin, you must go to the highest step at first, and not think to draw them from it by allowing them the least degree; (for every degree disposeth to more, and none is to be allowed, and a general reformation is the easiest as well as absolutely necessary); yet in putting them upon the practice of religious duties, you must carry them on by degrees, and put them at first upon no more than they can bear; either upon the learning or doctrines too high and spiritual for them, or upon such duty for quality or quantity as is over-burdensome to them; for if you once turn their hearts against religion, and make it seem a slavery and a tedious life to them, you take the course to harden them against it. And therefore all children must not be used alike. . . . -- Richard Baxter

A Biblical Counselor tells the story of his high school son who attended church regularly with the family, but with little or no enthusiasm.
His father entered into a deal with his son to memorize verses of Scripture. The conditions: the father would select the verse, the son would memorize the verse, the father could request that he recite any verse at any time, each time he recited a verse correctly his father would pay him $5.00, if he failed to recite a verse correctly (word for word with the book, chapter, and verse), then he paid his father $5.00.
At first he memorized just for the money. Later he began requesting more verses. His father selected verses bearing on events in his son's life at the moment. As the number of verses grew, the father was able to request verses to be recited that spoke to the specific needs of the moment. By the time of his graduation from high school he had over 100 verses of Scripture committed to memory. The son then went to Columbia Seminary and is now a pastor. (For those who do not immediately see, this is a practical way, of course, to purchase the soul of a child or neighbor for Christ before they barter it for a "mess of pottage" in the workplace, or to an spouse in an ungodly marriage of convenience.)

*Andreola, Karen, A Charlotte Mason Companion: Personal Reflections on the Gentle Art of Learning (Charlotte Mason Research and Supply Company). "A thorough chapter-by-chapter overview of the inspiring teaching principles of Christian educator Charlotte Mason, this book reveals the practical day by day method of how to teach "the Charlotte Mason way". The author offers friendly advice, and humor, along with the joys and struggles of real homeschool life. The book covers education, parenting, homeschooling and lots of encouraging advice for mothers." -- Publisher's Annotation

*Andreola, Karen, Beautiful Girlhood
"The book deals primarily with the Christian character development, moral virtues and manners of pre-teen and teenage girls. It is one of the best-selling titles in the homeschooling community." -- Publisher's Annotation

*Baxter, Richard, Poor Man's Family Book, The Mother's Catechism, and The Catechizing of Families in The Reformed Pastor: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 4 (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 1992). 30937
"This is the fourth and final volume in this great set. Includes, `The Reformed Pastor' and 25 other sermons, treatises, and catechisms. Dr. J.I. Packer says, `For me, the great joy of this year is that it see the completion of Soli Deo Gloria's reprint of Baxter's incomparable PRACTICAL WORKS'." -- GCB
Includes: POOR MAN'S FAMILY BOOK, THE CATECHIZING OF FAMILIES, and THE MOTHER'S CATECHISM.
The Richard Baxter Page
http://members.aol.com/augusteen/Baxter.html
Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men (1681), by Richard Baxter
http://www.lettermen2.com/ccaym.html

Fugate, J. Richard, What the Bible Says About Child Training, 2nd edition (GCB Publishing Group).
"Saturated with sound biblical support, the book opens with the God-ordained concepts of creation, authority, leadership, and obedience. Fugate then links these biblical concepts to the responsibility of parents in parenting and the child's respect of authority. The author then shows how our children's response to physical authorities (parents, teachers, government) will influence his or her response to the authority of God and His Word. This book is a must for anyone striving to be a godly parent and praying for the salvation of their children! Every new Christian parent should own one! Order the 1998 edition!" -- Reader Comment

*Gregory, John Milton, The Seven Laws of Teaching [70346]

Glaspey, Terry W., Great Books of the Christian Tradition (Harvest House Pub., January 1996).
Popular Christian writer Glaspey (CHILDREN OF A GREATER GOD, Harvest House, 1995) offers not only a resourceful compilation of an ancient and contemporary Christian reading, but he also provides a rather remarkable defense of the moral values and insights generated by reading both Christian and non-Christian materials. Each of more than 500 books in Glaspey's list is characterized by a brief annotation, and he includes excerpts from the works themselves with many of his own summaries. Glaspey's comments arise out of his personal reading experience, and he is careful to warn readers of this fact at the outset. . . ." -- Library Journal
"Have used this book heavily to build my library of classics. It is an annotated book list divided into Christian, non-Christian, and Children's literature and by historical periods: The Ancient World, The Middle Ages, The Early Modern World (The Reformation, Renaissance), The Eighteenth Century, The Nineteenth Century, The Twentieth Century, and Contemporary Candidates for Greatness. Parents, such as myself, will greatly appreciate the separate chapter and list dedicated solely to Children's literature. I have used this chapter to collect quality books for my children.
"Glaspey gives you a short commentary on each book (and excerpts from some authors), and tells you how best to make use of the reading lists he provides. He also gives good reasons why Christians should read non-Christian books. Also provided is a list of ten books which he feels every Christian ought to know. Included are books by C.S. Lewis, Dostoevsky, Augustine, and Tozer among others.
"This is a book for Christian biblioholics to savor. It was through this book that I discovered some of my favorites such as A TESTAMENT OF DEVOTION by Thomas Kelly, and Christian authors such as Walker Percy, Alexander Solzhenitsyn, and Flannery O'Connor. Many books he names, Christian and non-Christian, I already knew and read and others, such as books by Norman Geisler, I was disappointed to find missing. But overall, this is an excellent resource and one that is unique. Highly recommended." -- Reader's Comment

Guroian, Vigen Tending the Heart of Virtue: How Classic Stories Awaken a Child's Moral Imagination (Oxford Univ Pr).
"Guroian is a theologian who believes that the great Western fairy tales and literary fantasies can teach children to be good. He speaks as parent and teacher as much as minister. Above all, he is a reader: he knows that a good story can do far more than hours of hectoring and sermonizing to move children with the drama of good and evil. He discusses Pinocchio, The Snow Queen, Beauty and the Beast, C. S. Lewis' Narnia series, and other classics with sensitivity and depth. . . ." -- From Booklist

G.A. Henty Collection of Books for Boys
"Hard Bound, Soft Bound, and CD-ROM editions.
"All 99 of G. A. Henty's books are now available in print and digital formats. The CDs also includes 53 short stories by Henty and 216 short stories by his contemporaries.
"Written during the latter part of the 19th Century, G. A. Henty's books were very popular and widely used in the schools of Britain and the United States during the late 19th and early 20th Centuries.
"While many children's adventure books that emphasize the traits of courage, high moral character, diligence, perseverance and other valuable personal virtues were written during this period, G. A. Henty's books are unique. Each adventure takes place within the setting of some important period in human history. From the fall of Jerusalem to the American Civil War, Henty's heroes live their adventures within exciting historical events. The reader learns much detailed history while he is being entertained and taught by exemplary heroes.
"Moreover, through his personal experiences and careful scholarship, Henty provides very detailed and accurate accounts of history.
"While one might read a section of a history book concerning, for example, the conquering of Mexico by Spain, most such accounts are dry and shallow in comparison with Henty's tale of the primary happenings and of the way of life of the people caught up in those events.
"From the French Revolution to the Great Plague of London, from the Crusades to the American Civil War, Henty readers learn in-depth history, superior vocabulary and literary techniques, and the advantages of high personal character - while they are being entertained by a master storyteller.
"The Robinson Books Henty Collection is outstanding reading for any person - young or old, regardless of educational background."
http://www.henty.com/

*Iserbyt, Charlotte Thompson, The Deliberate Dumbing Down of America: A Chronological Paper Trail
"This book is the book to have. Every concerned parent in America should invest in a copy. It's the encyclopedia, in year date order, of just what has been going on in America in the public school system for years and years. It holds answers to many unanswered questions. Years of research at our fingertips and it's the size of a telephone book. It's the best inside look. It's honest, official documentation, undisputable evidence. If every parent were to read this, we could right a terrible wrong being done in public schools today. The fact she was once a Senior Policy Advisor for the US Department of Education weighs alot on the books creditablity factor." -- Reader Comment

*BOSTON, THOMAS, Commentary on the Shorter Catechism, 2 volumes (Cerlox Bound Photocopy Series. Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books, 1993, 1853). A Christian classic.
" `Two large volumes of over 1300 pages! Boston's work is the most comprehensive reference set ever penned on THE WESTMINSTER SHORTER CATECHISM. Concerning THE SHORTER CATECHISM, A.F. Mitchell states '...it is a thoroughly Calvinistic and Puritan catechism, the ripest fruit of the Assembly's thought and experience, maturing and finally fixing the definitions of theological terms to which Puritanism for half a century had been leading up and gradually coming closer and closer to in its legion of catechisms' (The Westminster Assembly...). THE SHORTER CATECHISM is the `king of the catechisms' for shear power of expression, combining logical cogency with succinctness. Boston's exposition is unrivalled; there is nothing else like it. Here you have the cream of Puritan catechisms married to the cream of clear Puritan exposition! This is likely Boston's most important work. A set that will meet numerous needs, ranging from use in family worship, Christian education and personal study, to sermon preparation - and for help in settling debated questions on the Presbytery floor. A one-of-a-kind set of books that will serve your family for generations to come!" -- SWRB
Boston's Commentary on the Westminster Confession [1646]
http://www.best.com/~covenant/
Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html
Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
"Click on any of the individual questions below to get the answer and Biblical references, as well as links to works by John Flavel, Thomas Watson, Thomas Boston, James Fisher, and John Whitecross, and others."
http://www.shortercatechism.com/

*Cotton, John (editor) and The Westminster Assembly, New England Primer: Improved for the More Easy Attaining the True Reading of English. To which is added The Assembly of Divines, and Mr. Cotton's catechism. A Christian classic.
"THE NEW ENGLAND PRIMER was the first textbook ever printed in America and was used to teach reading and Bible lessons in our schools until the twentieth century. In fact, many of the Founders and their children learned to read from THE PRIMER. This pocket-size edition is an historical reprint of the 1777 version used in many schools during the Founding Era." -- Book Description
"The New England Primer was one of the greatest books ever published. It went through innumerable editions; it reflected in a marvelous way the spirit of the age that produced it, and contributed, perhaps more than any other book except the Bible, to the molding of those sturdy generations that gave to America its liberty and its institutions."
"The Founding Fathers of this country and other Americans learned to read from this little treasure. There is much that we can learn about them and the way they thought by examining its contents. The true study of history should incorporate the study of what motivated people to do the things they did. This reprint makes for great classroom discussion. It makes for an excellent addition to any American History class at all grade levels and all ages. It is pocket-size, and kids and adults love it. I highly recommend it!" -- Reader Comment
"WEBSTER'S BLUE-BACKED SPELLING BOOK and the NEW ENGLAND PRIMER were basic, foundational textbooks used in the schools of our Republic in the 18th and 19th centuries.
"These two textbooks prove our founding fathers expected moral truths to be taught in every school subject." -- Reader Comment

*De Graaf, Simon Gerrit, Promise and Deliverance, 4 volumes (Scarsdale, NY [Westminster Discount Book Service, P.O. Box 125H, Scarsdale 10583]: Westminster Discount Book Service, 1977). Translated from the Dutch by H. Evan Runner and Elisabeth Wichers Runner. A Christian classic.
"In Scripture, religion means covenant. By His Word, God called into being an order of creation culminating in man. By that Word He also gave man His favor and brought him into a life of conscious covenantal fellowship with Himself. As De Graaf himself puts it: `Without covenant, there is no religion, no conscious fellowship between man and God, no exchange of love and faithfulness. Without the covenant, man would be just an instrument in God's hand. When God created man, He had more than an instrument in mind: He made a creature that could respond to Him. . . .'
"This renewed insight into Biblical revelation is the perspective undergirding De Graaf's treatment of all Bible stories. It makes his book a unique presentation of God's revelation of Himself in the covenant and keeps his interpretations of the stories from degenerating into mere moralizing. Religion is not morality." -- H. Evan Runner
"I highly recommend this book. One of the best books available." -- R.C. Sproul
"A landmark in interpreting the simple stories of the Bible." -- Christianity Today

Hunter, Emily, Christian Charm Course
"Aimed at young girls, this popular study book has been used by countless homeschool families to teach young girls good manners and godly behavior. With practical guidelines for grooming, dress, politeness, coversation skills, and spiritual growth, this book will help children integrate inner beauty with outer beauty." -- Publisher's Annotation

Hunter, Emily, and Wayne Hunter, Man in Demand
"Aimed at boys, MAN IN DEMAND has been used by countless homeschool families to teach young boys good manners and godly behavior. With practical guidelines for grooming, dress, politeness, conversation skills, and spiritual growth, the books will help children integrate inner beauty with outer beauty." -- Publisher's Annotation

*Ryle, J.C., The Duties of Parents (Choteau, MT: Gospel Mission Press). 70141
"Ryle said something which is as true in our day as it was in his. Without proper instruction children will not grow up to be good followers of Christ. This small book is a strong encouragement and exhortation to all parents to train up their children in the way of truth." -- GCB

*Spurgeon, Charles Haddon, A Good Start: A Book for Young Men and Women
"Spurgeon at his best for young people!
"Teaches the character forming age that faithful warning, wise counsel, and sympathetic admonition are particularly valuable. Spurgeon aims to lead them to Christ and to encourage and stimulate them in their aspirations after nobility." -- Reader's Comment

Trumbull, Henry Clay, Hints on Child Training
"This book has been called the "single best volume on the subject of child training ever written." Trumbull, who was responsible for the growth of Sunday Schools in America just after the Civil War, wrote this book at age 60 after raising eight of his own children." -- Synopsis

Dedrick, William, and Colleen Dedrick, The Little Book of Christian Character and Manners [70136]

Froehlich, Mary Ann, Music Education in the Christian Home [10637]

Fulbright, Robert G., New Dimension in Teaching Children [70350]

Klaus, Sandra, Ten to Grow On: Teaching the Ten Commandments to Today's Children (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House). [40160]
"For ages 8-12. Includes an introduction to each commandment, modern-day story which illustrates the commandment, discussion questions, memory verse activities, song suggestions, classroom activities, and reproducible puzzles." -- GCB

Lewis, Paul, 40 Ways to Teach Your Child Values [70353]

Perks, Stephen C., The Christian Philosophy of Education Explained [70331]

Pink, Michael, Tough Questions, Straight Answers [70224]

Potter, William, The Boy's Guide to the Historical Adventures of G.A. Henty (Vocabulary of a Warrior) (The Vision Forum, Inc., July 3, 2000).
"This unique book charts Henty's works of historical fiction chronologically and provides both a plot summary and an historical overview of over 70 of his classic tales." -- Publisher's Annotation
"HOME EDUCATORS: If you are trying to put together a history-based curriculum, this volume is very helpful! You can gauge which time periods in your student's course of study need some bolstering up (or livening up) and search in this book for the proper Henty novel to introduce. For example, to bulk up our study on 'Ancient Times,' I needed a novel about Hannibal. This terrific reference book tells me to get Henty's 'The Young Carthaginian' to meet that requirement.
"Another problem it solves is that sometimes a history-based curriculum can get predictable. Everyone seems to be covering the same things and the only variance is how deeply they're studied. This guide covers all of Henty's books and makes it easy to locate his books on obscure subjects and events which you can tantalize your children with. Children seem to love citing these forgotten tales and bedazzling their peers and family with them!
"This volume will also prove invaluable to PEOPLE EDUCATING THEMSELVES. As an adult who is battling her 'learning gaps,' I just page through this reference until I find something that doesn't ring ANY bells! By reading a Henty, I enjoy a terrific adventure (which I can later discuss with my children), educate myself and, if I want to, pursue the subject more deeply later on." -- Reader Comment
"G.A. Henty wrote around 144 books. Many of the books revolve around a fictional character who interacts with real persons from that historical period. Heroism, honor, courage, and leadership are integral characteristics of the main protagonists. I have trouble putting down a Henty story. I highly recommend this resource." -- Reader Comment

Ryle, J.C., The Duties of Parents [70141]

Turnbull, H. Clay, Hints On Child Training (Brentwood, TN: Wolgemuth and Hyatt Publishers, 1990, 1890). 70143
"This is the 1890 writing by the author setting forth the same time-tested and proven methods that have helped to raise children for over 100 years."

Van Dyken, Donald, Rediscovering Catechism: The Art of Equipping Covenant Children

Venning, Ralph, Learning in Christ's School (Puritan Paperback Series. Carlisle, PA: The Banner of Truth Trust).

Wonderly, Gustava M., Training Children (Lincoln, NB: Good News Broadcasting Association, Back to the Bible Broadcast, 1959). 70144

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sharing Christ with your children, Sexual relationship, Parenting, Creeds, catechisms and confessions, Homeschooling, Christian fiction (The Elsie Books by Martha Finley), Ethics, Abstinence, Selecting covenant heads as leaders
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Counsel for Young Men

The selection of Scripture verses that follow are suggested as appropriate for young men to memorize. They may be viewed in their context with commentary at CrossWalk.com.
CrossWalk.com
http://www.biblestudytools.net/
See the Biblical counselor's story about his son found at the beginning of the topical listing "Scripture Memory Systems:"
Scripture Memory Systems
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr2cha.html#smsys

Jesus answered and said unto him, If a man love me, he will keep my words: and my Father will love him, and we will come unto him, and make our abode with him. -- Jesus Christ (John 14:23)

Then said Jesus to those Jews which believed on him, If ye continue in my word, then are ye my disciples indeed;
And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.
-- Jesus Christ (John 8:31,32)

He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him. -- Jesus Christ (John 14:21)

Remember now thy Creator in the days of thy youth, while the evil days come not, nor the years draw nigh, when thou shalt say, I have no pleasure in them. (Ecclesiastes 12:1 1)

Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed thereto according to thy word. (Psalms 119:9)

This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success. (Joshua 1:8)

My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children.
As they were increased, so they sinned against me: therefore will I change their glory into shame. (Hosea 4:6,7)

The secret of the LORD is with them that fear him; and he will shew them his covenant. (Psalms 25:14)

The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction. (Proverbs 1:7)

Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:
For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.
-- Jesus Christ (Matthew 7:7,8)

This is the stone which was set at nought of you builders, which is become the head of the corner.
Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved. (Acts 4:11,12)

The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit: a broken and a contrite heart, O God, thou wilt not despise. (Psalms 51:17)

Thus saith the LORD; Cursed be the man that trusteth in man, and maketh flesh his arm, and whose heart departeth from the LORD. (Jeremiah 17:5)

Then saith Jesus unto him, Get thee hence, Satan: for it is written, Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shalt thou serve. -- Jesus Christ (Matthew 4:10)

Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity! (Psalms 133:1)

Fret not thyself because of evildoers,
neither be thou envious against the workers of iniquity.
For they shall soon be cut down like the grass,
and wither as the green herb.
Trust in the LORD, and do good;
so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed.
Delight thyself also in the LORD;
and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.
(Psalms 37:1)

Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path. (Psalms 119:105)

Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.
And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever. (John 2:15-17)

Commit thy works unto the LORD, and thy thoughts shall be established. (Proverbs 16:3)

And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;
Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ. (Colossians 3:23)

And the spirit of the LORD shall rest upon him, the spirit of wisdom and understanding, the spirit of counsel and might, the spirit of knowledge and of the fear of the LORD; (Isaiah 11:2)

Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ; (Corinthians 10:5)

I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me. (Galatians 2:20)

Concerning the works of men, by the word of thy lips I have kept me from the paths of the destroyer. (Psalms 17:4)

But he answered and said, It is written, Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God. -- Jesus Christ (Matthew 4:4)

Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness. (Isaiah 41:10)

No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and their righteousness is of me, saith the LORD. (Isaiah 54:17)

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. (Romans 12:2)

And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me. -- Jesus Christ (Matthew 25:40)

And all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation; (Corinthians 5:18)

And now I say unto you, Refrain from these men, and let them alone: for if this counsel or this work be of men, it will come to nought:
But if it be of God, ye cannot overthrow it; lest haply ye be found even to fight against God. (Acts 5:38,39)

Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us,
Unto him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus throughout all ages, world without end. Amen. (Ephesians 3:20,21)

But many that are first shall be last; and the last shall be first. (Matthew 19:30)

Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. -- The Lord (Zechariah 4:6)

The just LORD is in the midst thereof; he will not do iniquity: every morning doth he bring his judgment to light, he faileth not; but the unjust knoweth no shame. (Zephaniah 3:5)

Thus saith the LORD; Cursed be the man that trusteth in man, and maketh flesh his arm, and whose heart departeth from the LORD. (Jeremiah 17:5)

Blessed is the man that trusteth in the LORD, and whose hope the LORD is. (Jeremiah 17:7)

He must increase, but I must decrease. (John 3:30)

To open their eyes, and to turn them from darkness to light, and from the power of Satan unto God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins, and inheritance among them which are sanctified by faith that is in me. -- Jesus Christ (Acts 26:18)

I therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you that ye walk worthy of the vocation wherewith ye are called,
With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love;
Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. (Ephesians 4:1-3)

He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city. (Proverbs 16:32)

And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins. (Peter 4:8)

Honour all men. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honour the king. (1 Peter 2:17)

But the Lord is faithful, who shall stablish you, and keep you from evil. (2 Thessalonians 3:3)

Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves. -- Jesus Christ (Matthew 10:16)

A lying tongue hateth those that are afflicted by it; and a flattering mouth worketh ruin. (Proverbs 26:28)

He that is of a proud heart stirreth up strife: but he that putteth his trust in the LORD shall be made fat. (Proverbs 28:25)

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. (Galatians 5:22,23)

I know that, whatsoever God doeth, it shall be for ever: nothing can be put to it, nor any thing taken from it: and God doeth it, that men should fear before him. (Ecclesiastes 3:14)

For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. (Hebrews 4:12)

Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin. (James 4:17)

A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.
By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another. (John 13:34,35)

This is the day which the LORD hath made; we will rejoice and be glad in it. (Psalms 118:24)

Brooks, Thomas (1608-1680), Apples of gold for young men and women, and a crown of glory for old men and women, or, The happiness of being good betimes and the honour of being an old disciple (Philadelphia: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 18-?), EEBO.

Doolittle, Thomas (1632?-1707), The young man's instructer, and the old man's remembrancer, or, Controversies and practical truths, fitted to the capacity of children, and the more ignorant sort of people (London: Printed for Thomas Parkhurst ..., 1673), EEBO.

James, John Angell, Addresses to Young Men (Soli Deo Gloria Pubns)
"James, the author of FEMALE PIETY, one of our bestselling books, also wrote this one for young men. Though the situations about which he wrote in the 19th century may be a bit outdated, the biblical principles and insights he brings out are as relevant today as they were a thousand years ago." -- Publisher's Annotation

McKnight, William J.?, The Young People's Manual, 1929

Plumer, William S. (William Swan), (1802-1880), A friendly letter to a young man (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 18--?).

*Ryle, J.C., Thoughts for Young Men: An Exhortation Directed to Those in the Prime of Life (South Pines, NC: Calvary Press, 1991). 70004A
Thoughts for Young Men by J. C. Ryle (1816-1900)
http://www.iserv.net/~mrbill/espan/young01.html

Sprague, William B., Letters of Practical Subjects to a Daughter (Harrisonburg, VA [Sprinkle Publications, P.O. Box 1094, Harrisonburg, 22803]: Sprinkle Publications).
"The counsel of this book is applicable to sons as well as daughters. . . . here is a 19th century Solomon intent upon imparting to his child a wisdom and sanctified common sense akin to the Proverbs."

Sprague, William B., Letters to Young Men Founded on the History of Joseph (Harrisonburg, VA [Sprinkle Publications, P.O. Box 1094, Harrisonburg, 22803]: Sprinkle Publications).
"Applies truth from Joseph's life to those of young men centuries later." -- Lloyd T. Sprinkle

Sprague, William B., Lectures to Young People (Harrisonburg, VA [Sprinkle Publications, P.O. Box 1094, Harrisonburg, 22803]: Sprinkle Publications).
"This great evangelistic tool provides parents a faithful means of presenting Gospel truth to their young people." -- Lloyd T. Sprinkle

Sprague, William B., Letters to Young Men Founded on the History of Joseph (Harrisonburg, VA [Sprinkle Publications, P.O. Box 1094, Harrisonburg, 22803]: Sprinkle Publications).
"Applies truth from Joseph's life to those of young men centuries later." -- Lloyd T. Sprinkle

*Spurgeon, Charles Haddon, A Good Start: A Book for Young Men and Women
"Spurgeon at his best for young people!
"Teaches the character forming age that faithful warning, wise counsel, and sympathetic admonition are particularly valuable. Spurgeon aims to lead them to Christ and to encourage and stimulate them in their aspirations after nobility." -- Reader's Comment

*Spurgeon, C.H., Come Ye Children (Pasadena, TX: Pilgrim Publications, 1975). 70149
"In this book Spurgeon provides valuable aid for parents, teachers, and youth leaders on the subject of training children." -- GCB
Come Ye Children, by C.H. Spurgeon
http://www.spurgeon.org/misc/cyc.htm

Venning, Ralph, Learning in Christ's School (Puritan Paperback Series. Carlisle, PA: The Banner of Truth Trust).

*Vincent, Thomas, 1634-1678, The best gift, or God's call upon young men for their hearts. Delivered in a sermon to young men. By Thomas Vincent, minister sometime of Maudlins Milkstreet, London, 1672, EEBO.

*Vincent, Thomas, 1634-1678, Words of advice to young men delivered in two sermons at two conventions of young men, the one Decemb. 25, 1666, the other Decemb. 25, 1667 / by Thomas Vincent ..., 1668, EEBO.

Williams, Daniel, 1643?-1716, The vanity of childhood & youth wherein the depraved nature of young people is represented and means for their reformation proposed: being some sermons preached in Hand-Alley at the request of several young men, to which is added a catechism for youth / by Daniel Williams, 1691, EEBO.

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Sharing Christ with your children, Abstinence, Christian fiction (The Elsie books by Martha Finley), Counsel for young women, Teaching children

Related WebLinks

Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men (1681), by Richard Baxter
http://www.lettermen2.com/ccaym.html

The Richard Baxter Page
Includes articles on the duties and obligations of parents and children.
http://members.aol.com/augusteen/Baxter.html

True Love Waits
http://www.truelovewaits.com/

Sex Respect
http://www.sexrespect.com/default2.html

A WARRIOR and a GENTLEMAN: G.A. Henty and the True Meaning of Manhood, Curtis Todd Adams
Curtis, age 14, was the winner of "G.A. Henty Essay Contest Winners 2003," a contest sponsored by Vision Forum
"True Christian masculinity is a fine balance of seasoned leaders hip (the tireless warrior) and selfless servanthood (the considerate gentleman). A man comprised of only one of these sides does not function as a true man ought to since his tough side is not counterbalanced with a caring side. Nineteenth century author, G.A. Henty, provides examples of masculine imbalance in too-tough characters such as the Jackson father and son (WITH LEE IN VIRGINIA) and the Spanish Inquisitors (UNDER DRAKE'S FLAG), and in too-soft characters such as the cowardly Robert Rivers (A KNIGHT OF THE WHITE CROSS). As Doug Phillips has written, "There are ten thousand road obstacles to accomplishing a godly vision, but true leadership requires an indefatigueable willingness to work for a righteous cause to the end." The heroes of G.A. Henty's novels are characterized by conquering difficult obstacles with fortitude and compassion, thereby portraying a godly vision of manhood. . . ." -- Curtis Todd Adams
http://www.visionforum.com/hottopics/essaycontests/henty2003/adams.aspx

G.A. Henty Collection of Books for Boys
"Hard Bound, Soft Bound, and CD-ROM editions.
"All 99 of G. A. Henty's books are now available in print and digital formats. The CDs also includes 53 short stories by Henty and 216 short stories by his contemporaries.
"Written during the latter part of the 19th Century, G. A. Henty's books were very popular and widely used in the schools of Britain and the United States during the late 19th and early 20th Centuries.
"While many children's adventure books that emphasize the traits of courage, high moral character, diligence, perseverance and other valuable personal virtues were written during this period, G. A. Henty's books are unique. Each adventure takes place within the setting of some important period in human history. From the fall of Jerusalem to the American Civil War, Henty's heroes live their adventures within exciting historical events. The reader learns much detailed history while he is being entertained and taught by exemplary heroes.
"Moreover, through his personal experiences and careful scholarship, Henty provides very detailed and accurate accounts of history.
"While one might read a section of a history book concerning, for example, the conquering of Mexico by Spain, most such accounts are dry and shallow in comparison with Henty's tale of the primary happenings and of the way of life of the people caught up in those events.
"From the French Revolution to the Great Plague of London, from the Crusades to the American Civil War, Henty readers learn in-depth history, superior vocabulary and literary techniques, and the advantages of high personal character - while they are being entertained by a master storyteller.
"The Robinson Books Henty Collection is outstanding reading for any person - young or old, regardless of educational background."
http://www.henty.com/



Counsel for Young Women

Let mount Zion rejoice, let the daughters of Judah be glad, because of thy judgments. (Psalms 48:11)

*Andreola, Karen, Beautiful Girlhood
"The book deals primarily with the Christian character development, moral virtues and manners of pre-teen and teenage girls. It is one of the best-selling titles in the homeschooling community." -- Publisher's Annotation

Barnes, Emilie, Michal Sparks (illustrator), Anne Christian Buchanan (contributor), A Little Book of Manners: Etiquette for Young Ladies
"Aimed at girls six to ten, this book introduces children to basic good manners, explaining the `whys' as well as the `hows' and stressing a loving attitude over simply following rules. Like LET'S HAVE A TEA PARTY, this book is written from the point of view of Emilie Marie, a little girl who is basically Emilie as a child -- passing along information Emilie has learned as an adult." -- Synopsis
Brooks, Thomas (1608-1680), Apples of gold: or, A word in season to young men and women (Philadelphia: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 18-?), EEBO..

Brooks, Thomas (1608-1680), Apples of gold for young men and women, and a crown of glory for old men and women, or, The happiness of being good betimes and the honour of being an old disciple, EEBO.

Doolittle, Thomas (1632?-1707), The young man's instructer, and the old man's remembrancer, or, Controversies and practical truths, fitted to the capacity of children, and the more ignorant sort of people (London: Printed for Thomas Parkhurst ..., 1673), EEBO.

Fiddler, Carol, and Elisabeth Elliot, A Girl of Beauty
"Addresses up-to-date issues girls face daily.
"Family therapists are noting that children as young as 8, 9, and 10 are obsessed with their bodies and that this excessive focus hinders the normal growth and development of children. Modern psychologists are saying that we need to teach our children how to navigate through modern culture because they are, for the first time in history, learning how to behave from watching TV personae rather than real people.
"Dealing with up-to-date issues that girls face today, this book is short, concise, and user-friendly for your fast-paced life. It covers topics girls deal with on a daily basis including: truthfulness, loyal friendships, contentment, life ambition, gossip, competition, outlook/attitude and more.
"This book is for those who feel the pull of the world on their daughters or the special girl in their life and want a tool to aid in the teaching and training of girls in good, solid, godly character. The message that all they need to get through life is image and outward beauty is faulty and shortsighted.
"Children, especially girls, need guidance and direction to counter this message. The recent trend for high school girls is cosmetic surgery to fix their `flaws' in hopes of finding security in themselves. Unfortunately this temporary fix will not satisfy them. They need to develop themselves as a whole person, full of godly character that gives them value as a complete person, beyond the surface exterior. Their security needs to be found not in temporary outward appearance, but in the development of inward qualities that are lasting. This book is a relationship-building book for parents and their daughters in understanding the heart of God for their identity and `whole-ness' as a person.
"There is great versatility in using the book. Feedback I have received from those who have used it found it a fun reference for a mom/daughter Bible study. One particular group met once a week in the summer with a different mom/daughter team in charge of the fun events (roller blades, water ballons, etc.) and teaching the character topic. Another mom offered it as an after school group to all the girls in her daughter's school class and it has built camaraderie in the group. They meet once a month. One gal used it as a camp counselor for her cabin devotions.
"A GIRL OF BEAUTY is a book you'll want to use over and over again (thick, high quality pages, spiral bound). Each time you go through it, something different and new comes out in discussion and application. We never stop learning and growing! Enjoy!" -- Carol Fiddler, the author

*Finley, Martha, The Elsie Books, 4 book set (Books 1-4) (Elkton, MD: Holly Halls Publications, 1998).
"Originally written in the late 1800's for girls and young women, the Elsie Dinsmore books were bestsellers for over thirty years. When we are introduced to Elsie in the first book she is a sweet and humble eight-year-old whose great desire in life is to be reunited with her father, whom she has never met. Her faith and her obedience to God's commandments uphold her in the great troubles she often faces, and the drama to which we are spectators is as timely for today's girls as it was for the young ladies of the 19th century. A new edition of one of GCB's best sellers, the series offers Christian values and character building examples through stories that are compelling, heartwarming, and enduring. Ages 10 and up." -- GCB
"The Elsie Books -- 28 in all -- are some of the most widely read children's stories ever written. When they first came out more than a hundred years ago, the publisher could scarcely keep them in stock. . ." -- Publisher's Annotation
"Altogether Miss Finley's novels sold more than 28,000,000 copies in the last century. This made them among the best- selling novels of all time. . ." -- Jay P. Green, Sr.
Elsie Dinsmore: Book 1 Martha Finley
http://www.hshangout.com/elsie.html

*James, John Angell, Female Piety or the Young Woman's Friend and Guide Through Life to Immortality (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications).

Sprague, William B., Letters of Practical Subjects to a Daughter (Harrisonburg, VA [Sprinkle Publications, P.O. Box 1094, Harrisonburg, 22803]: Sprinkle Publications).
"The counsel of this book is applicable to sons as well as daughters. . . . here is a 19th century Solomon intent upon imparting to his child a wisdom and sanctified common sense akin to the Proverbs."

Sprague, William B., Lectures to Young People (Harrisonburg, VA [Sprinkle Publications, P.O. Box 1094, Harrisonburg, 22803]: Sprinkle Publications).
"This great evangelistic tool provides parents a faithful means of presenting Gospel truth to their young people." -- Lloyd T. Sprinkle

*Spurgeon, Charles Haddon, A Good Start: A Book for Young Men and Women
"Spurgeon at his best for young people!
"Teaches the character forming age that faithful warning, wise counsel, and sympathetic admonition are particularly valuable. Spurgeon aims to lead them to Christ and to encourage and stimulate them in their aspirations after nobility." -- Reader's Comment

Venning, Ralph, Learning in Christ's School (Puritan Paperback Series. Carlisle, PA: The Banner of Truth Trust).

Whitefield, George, Christ the Best Husband: Or an Earnest Invitation to Young Women to Come and See Christ. (Preached to a Society of Young Women, in Fetter-Lane.)
http://www.jesus-is-lord.com/whitefie.htm

Vincent, Thomas, 1634-1678, Christ the best husband: or An invitation of young women unto Christ. Delivered in a sermon to young women. By Thomas Vincent, minister sometime of Maudlins Milkstreet, London, 1672, EEBO.

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Sharing Christ with your children, Abstinence, Christian fiction (and The Elsie books by Martha Finley)

Related WebLinks

Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men (1681), by Richard Baxter
http://www.lettermen2.com/ccaym.html

The Richard Baxter Page
Includes articles on the duties and obligations of parents and children.
http://members.aol.com/augusteen/Baxter.html

Ruth Bell Graham Memorial Site
http://bgea.org/rbg_default.asp

Ruth Bell Graham a Lifetime Pilgrimage
http://www.citizen-times.com/apps/pbcs.dll/section?Category=BILLYGRAHAM02

True Love Waits
http://www.truelovewaits.com/

Sex Respect
http://www.sexrespect.com/default2.html

virtuoursreality.com, A Website for All Women
http://www.virtuousreality.com/

A Guide for Young Christians John W. Robbins
http://www.trinityfoundation.org/reviews/

Daughters of the King Collection

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. (Proverbs 31:30)

Let mount Zion rejoice, let the daughters of Judah be glad, because of thy judgments. (Psalms 48:11)

"The call to Christian womanhood is a noble calling. It is a holy pursuit. It is a life-long duty of service, and in the furtherance of this goal, it is important that young ladies are mindful of Whom they are called to serve: Christ, our King. It is a calling for a young girl to mature into a godly woman of purity, virtue, and a joyful spirit -- to become a faithful 'daughter of Zion' (Psalm 9:14).
"A young girl, a lady in training, understands that she is a princess and daughter of the King of Kings, as well as a princess, daughter, and ambassador of her earthly father. And as a daughter of the King, she needs to be encouraged to hold His banner high without wavering. She must walk in a manner befitting those who bear the name of Him who is the 'great King over all the earth' (Psalm 47:2).
"A father's most sacred duty is to instill in his daughter a clear vision for her noble calling before the Lord and to protect and preserve her heart as she moves from childhood to virtuous womanhood. Just as a man is called to sanctify his wife through the 'washing' of God's Word (Ephesians 5:26), so too, a father is called to present his daughter as a symbol of pure beauty through his loving guidance and care. When a father carries out his role in this way, he shows her the special place she holds before her Heavenly King, even as the Psalmist proclaimed: 'The king's daughter is all glorious within: her clothing is of wrought gold' (Psalm 45:13).
"A noble daughter's hero -- her father . . . The simplicity and beauty of trust and pure love . . .
"To help assist fathers in this endeavor, Vision Forum has assembled a set of some of our most important and heartwarming books and CDs designed to encourage young ladies and assist parents in their training as daughters of the King. These messages will challenge dads on the importance of guarding their daughters' hearts at all costs, how to shield them from the pressures of a peer-oriented society and inappropriate romantic relationships, and how to prepare them as a bride -- a godly young woman of purity for the young man of their dreams whom God is preparing. These resources will inspire the young ladies in your home, strengthening your family, equipping your daughter to be a joy to her father, while she looks to him as her hero." -- -- Doug Phillips
http://www.visionforum.com/beautifulgirlhood/productdetail.aspx?productid=27830&categoryid=53



Disciplining Children

*Adams, Jay E., Christian Living in the Home [30000]

*Hoeksema, Anthony, Withhold Not Correction (Grand Rapids, MI: Reformed Free Publishing Association). 70145

*Ray, Bruce, Withold Not Correction (Philadelphia, PA: The Presbyterian and Reformed Publishing Co., 1978). 70146
"This is an exceptional book for the parent who seriously searches the Word of God for His will in rearing children. His constant aim is to display the Scripture bearing on his subject in order to `bring our children into a subordinate relationship to the living God.' He uses often the term, Biblical discipline, and he applies this not only to the use of the rod to correct, but also the use of prayer with the child, the constant attention to shaping the child's character, etc. He quotes from many good authors, such as Charles Bridges and Charles Hodge. Very good!" -- Jay P. Green, Sr.

Adams, Jay E., Counseling Workshop: Multiple Persons; Unbeliever Doesn't Leave; Discipling Children; Obesity and Fatness [30025]

Black, J., Helping Parents Make Discipline Work [30129]

Campbell, Ross, Kids Who Follow, Kids Who Don't (Wheaton, IL: Scripture Press Publications, Inc.). 70147

Cook, Earl, Blessing Children Through Discipline (part 1) [30147]

Cook, Earl, Blessing Children Through Discipline (part 2) [30148]

Cook, Earl, Bringing Up Your Children (part 1) [30149]

Cook, Earl, Bringing Up Your Children (part 2) [30150]

Cook, Earl, Bringing Up Your Children (part 3); Q&A [30151]

Fennema, Jack, Nurturing Children in the Lord: A Study Guide for Teachers on Developing a Biblical Approach to Discipline [70349]

*Spurgeon, C.H., Come Ye Children (Pasadena, TX: Pilgrim Publications, 1975). 70149
"In this book Spurgeon provides valuable aid for parents, teachers, and youth leaders on the subject of training children." -- GCB
Come Ye Children, by C.H. Spurgeon
http://www.spurgeon.org/misc/cyc.htm

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship

Related WebLinks

Disciplining Children
Commentary by Dennis L. Finnan.
"Witness today, the almost limitless number of young adults who have grown up under the teachings of Dr. Benjamin Spock, who for a generation past taught parents that a child must never be physically disciplined for any reason. Yes, a whole generation has since arisen by these anti-Christian humanistic teachings, to the detriment of society. Amazingly, Dr. Spock has since retracted his own approval of what he wrote, but in spite of this, his books still sell with great popularity." -- Dennis L. Finnan
The more people have studied different methods of bringing up children the more they have come to the conclusion that what good mothers and fathers instinctively feel like doing for their babies is the best after all. -- Benjamin McLane Spock (May 2, 1903 -- March 15, 1998) from his autobiography
http://www.christian-parents.net/Children/C110_Disciplining_Children.htm



Problem Solving With Children

*Borthwick, Paul, But You Don't Understand (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishers, 1986). 70150
"Borthwick gives solid advice on the everyday problems faced by parents of teenagers. In some ways, this is a bigger challenge than dealing with acute crises. It is in the day-in and day-out jousting over issues like honesty, morality, trust, and forgiveness, that Christian life patterns are shaped." -- Terry C. Muck

*Finley, Martha, Book 2: Elsie's Holidays at Roselands
"When Elsie's father becomes ill, she takes on the job of nurse-companion, and all goes well until Elsie, because it is the Sabbath, as a matter of conscience refuses to read to him from a secular book. The battle of wills that ensues nearly causes first her father's death, and then Elsie's. Lonely Elsie -- punished, ostracized, and then abandoned by her father -- turns to her heavenly Father for comfort and assurance. Will her father realize that Elsie's obedience to God must be paramount, and submit himself to the same Divine Authority?" -- Publisher's Annotation
Holidays at Roselands (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14280

Kesler, Jay, Ron Beers, and Lavonne Neff (editors), Parents and Children: A Guide to Solving Problems and Building Relationships (Wheaton, IL: Scripture Press Publications, Inc.). 70152
"Over 70 Christian leaders give practical advice on parents and children. Almost 700 double-column pages." -- GCB

Strom, Kay Marshall, Making Friends With Your Father: A Book for Daughters [40111]

Vander Goot, Mary, Healthy Emotions: Helping Children Grow [40112]



Counseling Children

"Children obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord." (Ephesians 6:1,4)

*Schoolland, Marian M., Leading Little Ones to God, revised 2nd edition (Grand Rapids, MI: Wm.B. Eerdmans Publishing Co., 1981). 70133
Contains material useful in counseling.

*Scott, Buddy, Counseling Teenagers
"A complete text and tape instruction manual from a man who has dealt with hundreds of delinquent teens. A most useful Biblical treatment. Recommended as helpful by the Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation."

*Voshell, Dorothy, Whom Shall I Marry? [40076]

Adams, Jay E., Accepting Retarded Children; Handling Troubles; and etc. [30009]

Adams, Jay E., Role-Play and Critique (part 3) [30066]

Adams, Jay E., Sex Change; Division in Eldership; Children; Suicide; Paranoia; Repression; Forgetting; Death [30070]

Adams, Jay E., Sibling Rivalry in the Household of God [30073]

Barger, Eric, From Rock To Rock (Lafayette, LA: Huntington House, c1990). 70153
"Eric Barger, for twenty years involved in the Rock music industry, offers solid, Biblical counsel for parents and teens wondering what to do about Rock music. Includes the first Music Rating System classifying 1500 groups and artists." -- Publisher's Annotation

Baxter, Richard. Compassionate warning and advice to all, especially to young persons. Being the gift of the author, Richard Baxter. London, 1708. (ECCO) Gale Document Number CW3311416184

Burns, R., How to Get Students Involved in Serving Others [30136]

Byrd, Walter, RCC, Vol. 22: Counseling and Children [70154]

Carder, Dave, et al., Secrets of Your Family Tree: Healing for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families [20296]

Cook, Earl, Counseling Children (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates). 30153
Audio cassette AC881.

Fennema, Jack, Nurturing Children in the Lord (Philadelphia, PA: The Presbyterian and Reformed Publishing Co., 1978). 70155
Sharing Christ with your children. Contains material useful in counseling.

Greene, Lawrence J., Learning Disabilities and Your Child: A Survival Handbook (July 2001).
Formerly entitled KIDS WHO HATE SCHOOL (1983).
"Not only does Greene explain every possible issue related to learning disorders . . . he also presents a beautifully written and extremely moving series of case studies that will break your heart at the same time they fill you with relief." -- San Francisco Chronicle
"Learning disabilities don't have to stand in the way of your child's success.
"A learning disability can be at the root of your child's resistance, failure, and low self-esteem. It's no wonder that children with learning disabilities have difficulties both at home and at school, difficulties that are reflected in poor performance records.
"Lawrence J. Greene, a pioneer in the field of learning disabilities and the Executive Director of the Developmental Learning Center in San Jose, California, for seventeen years, shares his knowledge and experience in compassionate and understanding terms. He explains how to diagnose learning disabilities ranging from dyslexia and hyperactivity to language disorders and tuning out -- and how they might affect your child. He offers helpful advice on choosing the right school or program for your child and on getting the support you need. Anecdotes, where parents and children speak out, as well as step-by-step programs that you can begin right now, make this unique book a vital guide for parents and teachers of learning disabled children." -- Publisher's Annotation

Lester, Andrew D., When Children Suffer: A Sourcebook for Ministry With Children in Crisis (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1987).
"Focuses on the significant crises in childhood. Treats issues like unresolved grief, unnecessary fear, lack of trust, a low sense of worth, distorted ideas about the person of God and the world in which they live. Well-done; makes a valuable contribution." -- Cyril J. Barber

McAllister, Dawson, Straight Talk About Friends and Peer Pressure (Waco, TX: Word Books, 1987). 70157
"Discusses the influence friends and peers have on our walk with God, and our reaction to that influence. Two tapes are each divided into five sessions, accompanied by a study guide."

McElhinney, Glenn R., A Nouthetic Approach to Counseling Elementary School-age Children (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Theological Seminary, D.Min. thesis, 1986).
Includes bibliography.

McIlhaney, Joe S., Jr., Sexuality and Sexually Transmitted Diseases [70177]

Miller, C. John, Youth Evangelism: Dealing With Depression and Suicide [30313]

Paul, James L. (editor), The Exceptional Child: A Guidebook for Churches and Community Agencies [70390]

Spotts, Dwight, and David Veerman, Reaching Out to Troubled Youth (Wheaton, IL: Victor Books, 1986). 70160
"A very important book that those who work with children and youth will find extremely helpful. The material is arranged topically, shows evidence of extensive research, and provides helpful quotations of relevant material. A valuable resource." -- Cyril J. Barber

Sprague, William B., Letters on Practical Subjects to a Daughter [70308]

Sturkie, Joan, and Siang-Yang Tan, Peer Counseling in Youth Groups: Equipping Your Kids to Help Each Other [40222]

Terkelsen, Helen E., I'm Going to Have a Baby and I'm Not Married [40223]

Van Dyken, Donald, Rediscovering Catechism: The Art of Equipping Covenant Children

Wilson, Earl D., A Silence to be Broken: Hope for Those Caught in the Web of Incest (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers).
"A difficult subject is handled in a sensitive way thus providing compassion and relief for those who have been gripped with this problem. Sources of help are offered as well as what the church can do. Wilson writes with a contagious confidence in God's redemptive power, and it give us hope." -- GCB

Wynn, John Charles, How Christian Parents Face Family Problems (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1955). 70162
"Contains sane counsel for troubled parents, and includes a Christian approach to child-rearing. Nontechnical." -- Cyril J. Barber

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sharing Christ With Your Children, Sexual relationship



Sex Education

*Christenson, Larry, The Wonderful Way That Babies Are Made [40245]

*Miles, Herbert J., Sexual Understanding Before Marriage (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House, 1971). 70164
"Ranks as one of the most practical and helpful treatments on the subject. Examines attitudes and techniques essential to sexual harmony and happiness in marriage, and provides needful correctives to some of the abuses of marriage." -- GCB
"A realistic approach based on a solid moral foundation for young unmarried people." -- Cyril J. Barber

*Reisman, Judith A., Edward W. Eichel, John H. Court, and J. Gordon Muir (editors), Kinsey, Sex and Fraud: The Indoctrination of a People (Lafayette, LA: Huntington House). 70165
"Alfred Kinsey is the father of the sexual revolution. He has almost single-handedly redefined for Western civilization the terms `normal' and `abnormal' in regard to sexual behavior. The authors of this book demonstrate that Kinsey's research was the most egregious example of scientific deception in this century. He openly promoted sex between children and adults, sex between humans and animals, and homosexuality. Kinsey's philosophy is being taught in sex and AIDS education classes across the nation. This book could put an end to that." -- GCB

Johnson, Rex, At Home With Sex (Wheaton, IL: Victor Books, c1979). 70167
"It is a great young married curriculum and can be used to help parents to educate their own children. . . . A study guide, overhead projection masters, and course outlines and suggestions are available."

Marshner, Connaught Coyne, Decent Exposure: How to Teach Your Children About Sex [40105]

Mayo, Mary Ann, Parent's Guide to Sex Education [40248]

McIlhaney, Joe S., Jr., Sexuality and Sexually Transmitted Diseases (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Book House). 70177
"Without being an alarmist, McIlhaney documents why all young adults should have an enlightened fear of STD which is spreading throughout the country like firestorm." -- GCB

Reisman, Judith, "Crafting Gay Children," a study.
"Social researcher Dr. Judith Reisman says that the incidence of homosexuals molesting children is 40 times greater than the number of heterosexuals who molest children. In her study, `Crafting Gay Children,' Reisman notes that heterosexuals outnumber homosexuals by 44 to 1 in our culture. She also points out that 17-24 percent of boys are being abused by age 18 and 25 percent of girls.
"In a 1991 population study by the Department of Commerce, statistics showed that 8 million girls were abused by age 18 by heterosexual men--a ratio of 1 victim to 11 adult men. However, 6-8 million boys were abused by age 18 by 1-2 million adult homosexuals--a ratio of 3-5 victims for every homosexual adult male.
"Dr. Reisman concludes that the Boy Scouts organization is correct to ban homosexuals from membership because of the high rate of molestations committed by homosexual males. To read more on this, go to: http://bpnews.net/bpnews.asp?ID=11002

Scripture Union, "All the Right Moves" (Wayne, PA [Scripture Union, 150 Strafford Avenue, Wayne 19087]: Scripture Union).
A teaching package being taken "into school encouraging young people to think creatively about boy-girl relationships and teaching that sex is God's gift for marriage."

Stafford, Tim, A Love Story: Questions and Answers on Sex (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers). 70179
"Answers questions about sexual behavior for young people. Covers: waiting, getting a date, how far you can go, masturbation, homosexuality, dating non-Christians, handling fear, guilt, shame, peer pressure, and more." -- GCB

Wilson, Earl D., A Silence to be Broken: Hope for Those Caught in the Web of Incest (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers).
"A difficult subject is handled in a sensitive way thus providing compassion and relief for those who have been gripped with this problem. Sources of help are offered as well as what the church can do. Wilson writes with a contagious confidence in God's redemptive power, and it give us hope." -- GCB

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Abstinence, Gratuitous sex a cause of violence, Sexually transmitted diseases, Abuse, Child abuse, Incest, Rape, Abortion, Post-abortion counseling

Related WebLinks

True Love Waits
http://www.truelovewaits.com/

Sex Respect
http://www.sexrespect.com/default2.html



Protecting Children From Dangers

Christenson, Evelyn, Battling the Prince of Darkness: Rescuing Captives From Satan's Kingdom (Wheaton, IL: Victor Books, c1990). [40171]
"When you study Evelyn Christenson's new book you'll learn about the recent explosion of Satanic activity--and about the Prince of the Kingdom of Darkness. But this book isn't just about problems; it's about the one and only solution--Jesus Christ. And it's about evangelism--the very best strategy for defeating Satan." -- Publisher's Annotation. A leader's guide is available. Ideal for group study.

Duffy, Cathy, Government Nannies "Confusing stories about Goals 2000 and outcome-based education have made the front page of every newspaper in the country. It is a tangled web of `government-nanny' programs that invade the privacy of families and destroys the principle of individual responsibility. This book describes where we are heading under Goals 2000." -- Publisher's Annotation

Grant, George, The Family Under Siege: What the New Social Engineers Have in Mind for You and Your Children (Bethany House).
"As many Christian families sense their values being undermined, Grant offers a fast-paced, well-researched look at some of the major powers at work--groups like the ACLU, NEA, National Organization of Women--to show how new social agendas of these groups are gaining control over the most sacred areas of life." -- Synopsis

*Hassan, Steven, Combating Cult Mind Control: The #1 Best-Selling Guide to Protection, Rescue and Recovery From Destructive Cults. [D1123]

Adams, Dan, The Child Influencers: Restoring the Lost Art of Parenting (Cuyahoga Falls, OH: Home Team Press, 1990). [70180]
"Dan Adams does a great job focusing on the needs of our children and how we as parents can and should meet those needs. It is not the responsibility of the church, YMCA, day-care center, or public school to meet those needs. As parents, we need to take seriously the God given responsibility we have been given and determine to be the main influence in our children's lives. The result of our efforts can either be rewards for a job well done, or grief from a rebellious child that was not properly guided. This book contains many insights on how to spend quantity time, not just quality time, with our children and gives many ideas on how to turn the TV set off and get our children to enjoy reading alone as well as reading together as a family, and build memories as a family that will be the root system that the child will need to withstand the "winds" later in life." -- Reader Comments

Buehrer, Eric, The New Age Masquerade: The Hidden Agenda in Your Child's Classroom 70181A
"This is one book the New Agers will not want the public to read." -- Johanna Michaelson
"There is a growing New Age trend sweeping public schools. This trend is known as `global education.' Few books even touch on this dimension of New Age philosophy, yet the public schools are where our culture is the most vulnerable. Eric Buehrer presents a fully documented expose of the infiltration by the New Age into the public school system. He reveals what teachers are teaching and specific examples, both from small town schools as well as from large urban districts. Must reading!" -- GCB

DeMoss, Robert G., Jr., Learn to Discern (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House). 70182
"Movie and record companies spend billions each year to seduce your kids. They're creative. They're smart. They know what they're doing. To protect your children read this very frank book." -- GCB

Enroth, Ronald, Youth, Brainwashing and Extremist Cults [20838]

Hexham, Irving, Karla Poewe, and J.I. Packer, Understanding Cults and New Religions (Grand Rapids, MI: Wm.B. Eerdmans Publishing Co.).
"This book is designed to help Christian laymen, pastors, youth workers, and students understand cults from a social, psychological, and religious perspective. . . ." -- GCB

Hyde, Margaret O., Alcohol: Drink or Drug?

Hyde, Margaret O., Brainwashing and Other Forms of Mind Control

Hyde, Margaret O., Cry Softly! The Story of Child Abuse, revised and enlarged (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1986). 20637
"The rising tide of child abuse makes this book a must. Deals with the reasons, as well as the treatment. Provides information on `Hotlines,' `Suggestions for Further Reading,' and `National Organizations Concerned With Child Abuse'." -- Cyril J. Barber. Includes bibliography. Indexed.

Hyde, Margaret O., Gambling: Winners and Losers Grades 6-9. "In her latest book, Hyde focuses on gambling as a sociopolitical issue. The information is clearly laid out, with Hyde providing some basic historical perspective before exploring contemporary aspects of the subject. She looks briefly at gambling in both its legal and illegal forms, does some speculating on its rise among teens, and takes a look at the characteristics of a pathological gambler. Personal histories are concrete but too few and rather dry, and although Hyde does attempt to present both sides of the issue, her negative arguments are more fully developed. Turn to Edward Dolan's TEENAGERS AND COMPULSIVE GAMBLING (1994) for a much better, more detailed discussion of gambling among YAs; use this book as a general overview and a consciousness raiser. Unfortunately, the further readings are mostly adult." -- Stephanie Zvirin

Hyde, Margaret O., and Elizabeth Held Forsyth, The Sexual Abuse of Children and Adolescents: From Infants to Adolescents
Grades 7-12. "Opening with a statement that most children and adolescents never suffer sexual abuse, but for those who do, the emotional problems can be devastating, well-known YA nonfiction authors Hyde (author of SEXUAL ABUSE: LET'S TALK ABOUT IT [1987]), and Forsyth offer a clear, thorough, meticulously documented examination of the complex factors that cause the sexual abuse of young people, and they explain the need for educating people of all ages about it. The history of sexual abuse of children is covered in a chapter entitled `From the Ancients to the Internet,' but the bulk of the book looks more specifically at such things as abuser profiles; New Jersey's Megan's Law, which is aimed at protecting communities from sex offenders; types and success records of treatment for sex offenders; the short-and long-term effects of sexual abuse on the young victims; the issue of repressed versus false memory; and abuse prevention programs. A directory of help services is included." -- Sally Estes
Margaret O. Hyde had written many books for youth guiding them through difficult subjects. Over 100 titles by Hyde are listed on Amazon.com

Hyde, Margaret O., and Elizabeth Forsyth Suicide: The Hidden Epidemic
"This third, updated edition explores the history, realities, and causes of suicide, and includes a list of prevention and intervention agencies. Thorough and useful. Bibliography." -- Publisher's Annotation

Hyde, Margaret O., VD: The Silent Epidemic

Kjos, Berit, Your Child and the New Age (Wheaton, IL: Scripture Press Publications, Inc.). 70183

Maddux, Bob, The Fantasy Explosion (Ventura, CA: Regal Books). 70186
"This book will make you aware of how you and your family are being exploited by pornography and teenage sex films, music videos, occult films, toys, soap operas and romantic novels, role-playing games, and comic books. The book will challenge you to new and creative action by offering positive suggestions." -- GCB

Mawyer, Martin, Silent Shame: The Alarming Rise of Child Sexual Abuse and How to Protect Your Children From It [20648]

Medved, Michael, Hollywood vs. America: Popular Culture and the War Against Traditional Values (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House, 1992). 90321
"The author exposes the attacks by the motion picture industry, television, and music stars against the church and Christians. He expresses our frustrations. He not only suggests a way out for Hollywood, but also concrete suggestions for concerned citizens who want to protect themselves and their children." -- GCB

Medved, Michael and Diane Medved Saving Childhood: Protecting Our Children from the National Assault on Innocence
"The Medveds speak for many when they say that too much of present-day U.S. culture is inimical to childhood. And it isn't just a matter of trash TV for the former PBS-TV movie reviewer and his psychologist spouse. Other culprits are sensationalized news in all media; profane and violent amusements of all sorts; too early, too explicit sex education; fostering self-esteem at the expense of learning; dire, one-sided presentation to children of such large problems as environmental degradation; gangs and other bad peer groups; and parents spending too much time at work and not enough with their kids. Nor does that exhaust the Medveds' bill of indictable particulars that, they say, together tend to make children unnecessarily fearful, cynical, and sad. Indeed, two-thirds of their lively, heartfelt book consists of their analysis of the national assault on innocence. In the remaining third, and drawing heavily upon their parenting of two daughters and a son, all still under 12, they discuss how to maintain children's innocence for its proper duration by providing psychological security, encouraging children's sense of wonder, and inculcating optimism. Chief among specific actions they advise is--ironically enough, coming from a former TV "star" --to stop watching the tube and to read instead, especially to the kids. An honorable addition to the strain of child-advocacy literature that runs from Marie Winn's Children without Childhood (1981) to Dana Mack's ASSAULT ON PARENTHOOD (1997)." -- Ray Olson, from Booklist August 19, 1998
"Saving Childhood offers parents and grandparents practical strategies to cope with a society that seems perversely determined to frighten and corrupt its young. Cultural critic and popular radio host Michael Medved and his wife, psychologist Diane Medved, argue that in a mistaken effort to curb problems plaguing its youth, our culture has changed from protecting childhood as a precious time of growth to hammering even the smallest youngsters with a grim, harsh, and menacing view of the world. The Medveds systematically present unassailable scientific evidence, moving anecdotes, and personal experiences of raising their three young children to explain the attack from four primary directions--media, schools, peers, and even well-intentioned parents themselves.
"In a unique analysis the Medveds define innocence not as ignorance but as the result of three components--security, a sense of wonder and optimism. They empower parents and all who care about childhood with concrete, easily accomplished means to fend off the assault, as well as advice for handling hurdles such as the Internet, television, peer pressure, and the plague of pessimism. Saving Childhood enables us to restore and maintain for our children imagination, confidence, and hope for the future." -- Book Description

Michaelsen, Johanna, Like Lambs to the Slaughter: Your Child and the Occult [D1117]

Morey, Robert, How to Keep Your Kids Drug Free [20717]

Phillips, Phil, Dinosaurs: The Bible, Barney and Beyond (Starburst Pub).
"In-depth look at evolution, creation science, and dinosaurs in the media and toys." -- Book Description

Phillips, Phil, Halloween and Satanism (Starburst Pub).

Phillips, Phil, Saturday Morning Mind Control [20859]

Phillips, Phil, 52 Things for Your Kids to Do Instead of Watching TV
"I have read all of Mr. Phillips' books, and they all reflect a massive amount of research and dedication to exposing so-called kids' shows or toys for what they really are: ways for Satan to infiltrate young kids' minds and desensitize them to violence and occult. Of course there are good toys and shows out there, but you really have to hunt for them. To help you with that, I would recommend Mr. Phillips' other book which describes the 52 best toys and games for kids. . . ." -- Reader Comment

Phillips, Phil, Turmoil in the Toybox [D1105]

Reisman, Judith, "Crafting Gay Children," a study.
"Social researcher Dr. Judith Reisman says that the incidence of homosexuals molesting children is 40 times greater than the number of heterosexuals who molest children. In her study, `Crafting Gay Children,' Reisman notes that heterosexuals outnumber homosexuals by 44 to 1 in our culture. She also points out that 17-24 percent of boys are being abused by age 18 and 25 percent of girls.
"In a 1991 population study by the Department of Commerce, statistics showed that 8 million girls were abused by age 18 by heterosexual men--a ratio of 1 victim to 11 adult men. However, 6-8 million boys were abused by age 18 by 1-2 million adult homosexuals--a ratio of 3-5 victims for every homosexual adult male.
"Dr. Reisman concludes that the Boy Scouts organization is correct to ban homosexuals from membership because of the high rate of molestations committed by homosexual males. To read more on this, go to: http://bpnews.net/bpnews.asp?ID=11002

Reisman, Judith A., Soft Porn Plays Hardball [40119]

Richman, Sheldon, Separating School and State: How to Liberate America's Families (The Future of Freedom Foundation).
"Yes, that's School and State in the title, not Church and State. Richman pulled his oldest child out of public school and has since seen to all his children's home schooling, or, as he prefers to call it, unschooling. Here he sounds with new vigor the alarm for an old cause -- divorcing education and political power. That cause maintains that public schools are coercively financed and administered, regard children as property of the state, undermine parental love and authority, and contradict the entrepreneurial spirit most conducive to economic and social freedom. Richman reargues these positions in the light of the present U.S. predicament, in the process providing, in two chapters worth the book's price, historical summaries of both the proponents and the opponents of public schooling from the late eighteenth century to the present. He concludes with criticism of such current proposed reforms as charter schools and vouchers and with envisioning the benefits of a free market in education and education without schools. This is educational polemics at their most bracing." -- Ray Olson, from Booklist

Richman, Sheldon, Separating School and State (The Future of Freedom Foundation).

Sanders, Bill, Tough Turf: A Teen Survival Manual [70323]

Sciacca, Fran, Generation at Risk, revised and expanded (Chicago, IL: Moody Press). 70187
"For those who want to understand what is happening to the younger generation, and why and how we should respond." -- GCB

Stafford, Tim, Find the Right One: Twenty Questions Before You Marry [70006]

Thoburn, Robert, The Children Trap [90361]

Van Dyken, Donald, Rediscovering Catechism: The Art of Equipping Covenant Children

Weldon, John, Playing With Fire: Dungeons and Dragons, Tunnels and Trolls, Chivalry and Sorcery and Other Fantasy Games (Chicago, IL: Moody Press, 1984). 70188

Wildmon, Donald E., The Case Against Pornography (Wheaton, IL: Scripture Press Publications, Inc.). 90380
"Wildmon is executive Director of the National Federation for Decency. When you finish reading this book you will know why pornography must be stopped. There is a note of hope: As an American citizen you can do something about it!" -- GCB

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sharing Christ With Your Children, Sexual relationship, Child abuse, Suicide, Gambling, Abstinence, Christian fiction (The Elsie Books by Martha Finley), A selection of works on pseudo-Christian movements, Sex education, Spiritual warfare, Resources for students

Related WebLinks

Family Watchdog
This national website tracks sexual offenders in your area.
"Enter an address below to view a map of registered sex offenders near you."
While this is much needed data, and we commend efforts thus far, this map will not include the following sexual offenders who should (when known) be publicly identified until they repent of their sexual crimes:
  1. sexual offenders who have not been caught, tried, and convicted (the arrest/conviction ratio for all offenses was approximately 100/25 in the mid 90s);
  2. sexual offenders who have violated parole;
  3. sexual offenders who have failed to report their address or address change;
  4. sexual offenders using an alias (The FBI "believes 1 in 6 persons with a criminal record may be using alias names and identification." -- U.S. Congress, Office of Technology Assessment, OTA-TCT-497);
  5. sexual offenders who have been convicted on some other charge;
  6. ex-convicts and inmates who have committed sodomy in prison;
  7. offenders guilty of raping their spouse and the offense has gone unreported;
  8. wives who deliberately commit adultery as part of a "pre-planned divorce," that is, who married with plans to divorce for financial gain;
  9. offenders guilty of unreported incest;
  10. offenders guilty of unreported date rape;
  11. offenders who have committed unreported sexual offenses when drunk or under the influence of drugs;
  12. offenders who have committed unreported sexual offenses with mutual consent;
  13. individual members of Alcoholics Anonymous (who are frequently ex-convicts, mentally ill, and/or mentally retarded, and prefer to be identified as alcoholics to avoid the social stigma of the other categories) or other related 10-Step addiction treatment programs who have committed unreported sexual offenses with other members, or while being a sponsor of another member;
  14. individual members of Alcoholics Anonymous and related 10 Step codependent treatment programs who use the programs as vehicles to find new sexual partners;
  15. offenders who have committed unreported sexual offenses with other members of Alcoholics Anonymous or other related 10-Step addiction treatment programs while in a codependent relationship with another member;
  16. members of Sex Addicts Anonymous who have committed unreported sexual offenses;
  17. prostitutes still at-large in society;
  18. offenders who frequent prostitutes;
  19. men and women who are self-employed in the "sex industry" (professionals deliberately practicing prostitution within the business community);
  20. individuals employed in the pornography industry, including child pornography;
  21. individuals addicted to pornography or child pornography;
  22. individuals guilty of unreported sodomy and homosexuality;
  23. unreported homosexual pedophiles ("Homosexuals are over represented in child sex offenses: Individuals from the 1 to 3 percent of the population that is sexually attracted to the same sex are committing up to one-third of the sex crimes against children." -- Timothy J. Dailey, Phd. in "Homosexuality and Child Sexual Abuse");
  24. offenders guilty of unreported rape;
  25. offenders guilty of unreported fornication;
  26. offenders guilty of unreported adultery;
  27. offenders living in licentious cohabitation;
  28. offenders who are mentally retarded and promiscuous;
  29. offenders who have sever mental illness and are promiscuous;
  30. offenders with AIDS disease;
  31. offenders with any of the 30 other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) in the United States;
  32. individuals who dabble in, or actively participate in satanic cults, or related destructive cults that practice sexual rituals;
  33. offenders who are licensed mental health care professionals (Psychiatrists, Clinical Psychologists, Psych Nurses, Medical Doctors, Counselors, Priests, Pastors, and Churchmen, and so forth) who become sexually involved with their patients, clients, counselees, or church members;
  34. individuals in the legal profession who judged in favor of legalized abortion or who aided in the legal process;
  35. individuals participating in organized crime who run and profit from most of the abortion clinics in the United States;
  36. medical professionals who perform abortions;
  37. men who have paid for abortions performed on their daughters;
  38. men who have paid for abortions performed on their sexual partners;
  39. mothers who have aborted children from their wombs (any of the 43 million abortions performed in the United States since Roe vs. Wade in 1973);
  40. individuals in the drug industry who developed "the morning after pill;"
  41. druggists who sell "the morning after pill;"
  42. women who have used "the morning after pill;"
  43. and so forth, and so on.
http://www12.familywatchdog.us/

A Redneck Resolution Against Self-Destruction
http://members.aol.com/vtpa/redneck.html

Generation Rescue
"The incidence of autism has increased from 1 in 10,000 in the 1970s to 1 in 150 today, an increase of over 6,000 percent. Many more children have been diagnosed with other neurodevelopmental disorders all considered to be on the same spectrum including Asperger's, ADHD/ADD, speech delay, and many other developmental delays and learning disabilities.

During these investigations, numerous scientists from around the globe have testified before the committee, and have presented credible peer-reviewed research studies that indicated a direct link between the exposure of mercury, a widely known neurotoxin, and the increasing incidences of autism." -- Congressman Dan Burton (R-IN)
Chairman, Subcommittee on Human Rights and Wellness, U.S. Congress
Head of Three Year Congressional Investigation into Mercury In Medicine
September 8, 2004
http://www.generationrescue.org/



Preparing Children for the World

*Baxter, Richard, Poor Man's Family Book, The Mother's Catechism, and The Catechizing of Families in The Reformed Pastor: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 4 (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 1992). 30937
"This is the fourth and final volume in this great set. Includes, `The Reformed Pastor' and 25 other sermons, treatises, and catechisms. Dr. J.I. Packer says, `For me, the great joy of this year is that it see the completion of Soli Deo Gloria's reprint of Baxter's incomparable PRACTICAL WORKS'." -- GCB
Includes: POOR MAN'S FAMILY BOOK, THE CATECHIZING OF FAMILIES, and THE MOTHER'S CATECHISM.
The Richard Baxter Page
http://members.aol.com/augusteen/Baxter.html
Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men (1681), by Richard Baxter
http://www.lettermen2.com/ccaym.html

Black, Thom, Lynda Stephenson, and Mary Chambers, Born to Fly: How to Discover and Encourage Your Child's Natural Gifts

*Campbell, Ross, How to Really Love Your Child (Wheaton, IL: Scripture Press Publications, Inc.). 70189
"This book is unique. It rightly assumes that almost all parents love their children, but few know how to express that love so their children feel and understand it. It tends to lean exclusively toward the relationship without considering discipline, and at times downplays rebellious behavior. But it remains a standard on relationship building." -- GCB

Farris, Michael, How a Man Prepares His Daughters for Life
"This book offers simple, powerful techniques to help men build the best foundation for character and strong living skills in their daughters. It maps out ways around the pitfalls - the common father-daughter conflicts, the big mistakes - and helps you become more of the father you want to be." -- Book Description

*Lucas, J.R., Parenting of Champions: Raising Godly Children in an Evil Age (Brentwood, TN: Wolgemuth and Hyatt, 1990). 70190
"The evils of our culture are attacking our families from every side -- with the biggest guns aimed straight at our children. . . . First step is for parents to set a championship example, to actually become what they want their children to become." -- GCB
"This is one of the most honest, courageous parenting books you will ever read." -- CRM

Fortune, Don, and Katie Fortune, Discover Your Children's Gifts: A Parent's Handbook to Recognize and Develop Your Children's God-Given Gifts (Old Tappan, NJ: Fleming H. Revell). 70194
"Every child is blessed with extraordinary, unique gifts from God. Now you can encourage your children to become more fruitful adults by learning how to recognize and nurture each child's individual spiritual gifts. Through age-related tests ranging from pre-school through the teenage years, the sensitive, caring authors show you how to understand your children better and develop their unique abilities." -- Publisher's Annotation
"A parent's handbook to recognize and develop your children's God-given gifts. Includes a 13-week study guide." -- GCB

Garborg, Rolf, The Family Blessing: A Simple Parental Act That Will Help Your Children Feel Loved and Cherished (Dallas, TX: Word Publishing, 1990). 70195
Foreword by Gary Smalley and John Trent. "Explains exactly what it means not only to have a regular `blessing time' in your home, but also to make affirmation and encouragement the basis of all your communications."

Harris, Gregg, The Home and Family Business Workshop: A Complete Workshop for Parents and Teens on How to Start a Successful Business for Your Family [60333]

Kesler, Jay, Raising Responsible Kids: Ten Things You Can Do Now to Prepare Your Child for a Lifetime of Independence (Brentwood, TN: Wolgemuth and Hyatt Publishers). 70196
"If you wait until your child is ready for his diploma before you teach him/her responsible independence, you have waited too long. The teaching of responsibility comes gradually through specific lessons and experience. Here is help for parents in accomplishing this task -- by starting right now." -- GCB

Klaus, Sandra, Ten to Grow On: Teaching the Ten Commandments to Today's Children [40160]

Paul, James L. (editor), The Exceptional Child: A Guidebook for Churches and Community Agencies [70390]

Van Dyken, Donald, Rediscovering Catechism: The Art of Equipping Covenant Children

Yates, John, and Susan Yates, What Really Matters at Home: Eight Crucial Elements for Building Character in Your Family [60214]

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Creeds, Confessions, and Catechisms, Sexual relationship, Abstinence, Covenant Theology and Covenanting, Sharing Christ With Your Children, Christian fiction (The Elsie Books by Martha Finley)

Related WebLinks

virtuoursreality.com, A Website for All Women
http://www.virtuousreality.com/



Single Parenting

Peppler, Alice S., Single Again -- This Time With Children: A Christian Guide for the Single Parent (Minneapolis, MN: Augsburg Publishing House, 1982). 70200

Smith, Virginia W., The Single Parent, revised, updated, and expanded (Old Tappan, NJ: Fleming H. Revell, 1983). 70201

Stark, Jeff, Single Parenting (part 1) [30415]

Stark, Jeff, Single Parenting (part 2) [30416]

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Being Single, Parenting, Singleness, Women and Parenting, Singleness, Personal Finance, Counsel for Young Men, Counsel for Young Men, Christian fiction (The Elsie Books by Martha Finley)

Related WebLinks

Single Parenting WebLinks
http://rampages.onramp.net/~bevhamil/singleparentresourcece_478.html

virtuoursreality.com, A Website for All Women
http://www.virtuousreality.com/



Christian Literature for Boys and Girls

The Elsie Books 28 book set, in its original, unmodernized text, models the Christain family better probably than any other fiction. Likewise, the example of Elsie's life is one of the best models for Christian girls.
Notice the original text of this series is becoming available free in Project Gutenberg etext. We have added links to the etext as of May 2007.

Bouma, Ralph (editor), The Children's Classics (Conrad, MT: Triangle Press). [70202A]
"Each of these classics, which teach character, exalt Christ, and honor God's Word in a refreshing manner not found in more modern books . . ." -- GCB
These works were originally printed in the 18th and 19th centuries and are filled with Godly principles which build character. Triangle Press has rewritten them in children's language and proper English. Write requesting a complete listing of titles.
Bible Truths for Little Children, 5 volumes. [70203]
Family Focus on Christ [70205]
Godliness Is Great Gain [70206]
Little Daisy and the Swearing Class
Little Medicine Carrier
A Little Rebel Becomes a Saint [70209]
Rose and Thorns [70210]
Short Devotions [70211]
Spiritual Wrestling [70212]
Theobold the Iron-Hearted [70213]
The Weed With an Ill Name [70214]

*Finley, Martha, Annandale: A Story of the Times of the Covenanters (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1858).

*Finley, Martha, Anna Hand, the Meddlesome Girl (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1868).

*Finley, Martha, Aunt Hetty's Fowls or, Harry at the Farm (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1876).

*Finley, Martha, Aunt Ruth, or, Persecuted not Forsaken (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1857).

*Finley, Martha, The Broken Basket (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1870).

*Finley, Martha, Brookside Farm-house: From January to December: For the Little Folks (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1865).

*Finley, Martha, Clouds and Sunshine, or, The Faith Brightened Pathway (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1859).

*Finley, Martha, Ella Clinton, or, By Their Fruits ye Shall Know Them (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1856).

*Finley, Martha, Little Patience (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1868).

*Finley, Martha, Marion Harvie, a Tale of Persecution in the Seventeenth Century (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1857).

*Finley, Martha, Maud's two Homes (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1868).

*Finley, Martha, The Peddler of La Grave (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1875).

*Finley, Martha [aka Martha Farquharson] (1828-1909), The Elsie Books, 28 book set (Nashville, TN: Cumberland House Publishers).

*** New sets of the above are now available in the book trade (July 2003). Cumberland House has reprinted the originals in soft cover. These are not abridged or modernized. Steet price for the entire set is $120, individual books, $4.50. See:
Elsie Dinsmore Books
http://www.lvbaptist.org/Merchant2/merchant.mv?Screen=CTGY&Store_Code=BHCP&Category_Code=ED,
and Christian Book Distributors, Christianbook.com ***

*Finley, Martha [aka Martha Farquharson] (1828-1909), The Elsie Books, 4 book set (Books 1-4) (Elkton, MD: Holly Halls Publications, 1998).
"Originally written in the late 1800's for girls and young women, the Elsie Dinsmore books were bestsellers for over thirty years. When we are introduced to Elsie in the first book she is a sweet and humble eight-year-old whose great desire in life is to be reunited with her father, whom she has never met. Her faith and her obedience to God's commandments uphold her in the great troubles she often faces, and the drama to which we are spectators is as timely for today's girls as it was for the young ladies of the 19th century. A new edition of one of GCB's best sellers, the series offers Christian values and character building examples through stories that are compelling, heartwarming, and enduring. Ages 10 and up." -- GCB
"The Elsie Books -- 28 in all -- are some of the most widely read children's stories ever written. When they first came out more than a hundred years ago, the publisher could scarcely keep them in stock. . ." -- Publisher's Annotation
"Altogether Miss Finley's novels sold more than 28,000,000 copies in the last century. This made them among the best- selling novels of all time. . ." -- Jay P. Green, Sr.

Book 1: Elsie Dinsmore
"Set amid the sweet blossoms of a southern mansion, this timeless classic delves into the heart of Elsie -- by all counts, an extraordinary little girl. Share in Elsie's quest for love from her earthly father as it leads to a mature understanding of the love of her Father in Heaven. Join Elsie as she suffers through endless hours of scrutiny from Miss Day, her mean-spirited school teacher, taunting from her mischievous young Uncle Arthur, and scoldings from a cold-hearted father she so desires to please -- all with the peace and quiet countenance that comes from knowing she is God's child. This, the first of the heart-warming Elsie Books, will both challenge and inspire you." -- Publisher's Annotation
Elsie Dinsmore: Book 1 Martha Finley
http://www.hshangout.com/elsie.html
Elsie Dinsmore (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=6440

Book 2: Elsie's Holidays at Roselands
"When Elsie's father becomes ill, she takes on the job of nurse-companion, and all goes well until Elsie, because it is the Sabbath, as a matter of conscience refuses to read to him from a secular book. The battle of wills that ensues nearly causes first her father's death, and then Elsie's. Lonely Elsie -- punished, ostracized, and then abandoned by her father -- turns to her heavenly Father for comfort and assurance. Will her father realize that Elsie's obedience to God must be paramount, and submit himself to the same Divine Authority?" -- Publisher's Annotation
Holidays at Roselands (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14280

Book 3: Elsie's Girlhood
"Elsie's father marries her beloved Miss Rose, and after a time, Elsie acquires a younger brother and sister. Growing into a beautiful young lady who adores her father and accords him unquestioning obedience, Elsie falls in love with Bromly Egerton, a man who turns out to be a deceiving, gambling reprobate. Heartbroken, the loss affects her health as well as her spirit, and the Dinsmores decide that a sojourn in Europe is the solution. An unexpected encounter in Naples sets the stage for a romance that surprises almost everyone." -- Publisher's Annotation
Elsie's Girlhood (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=9963

Book 4: Elsie's Womanhood
"As Elsie and her father prepare for her marriage to John Travilla, Elsie moves to Viamede, her mother's childhood home in Louisiana. Overseeing the plantation, Elsie observes the treatment of the slaves and strives to bring them into an awareness of God's love for them. As Mr. and Mrs. Travilla start their life together, Elsie's old boyfriend tries to bring it all to a tragic end. In a fit of jealous rage, he unsuccessfully attempts to shoot the newly married couple. Happy with her life with her new husband, Elsie experiences the wonderful joys of motherhood. Join Elsie as she moves into a wonderful and exciting new phase of her life." -- Publisher's Annotation
Elsie's Womanhood (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14874

Book 5: Elsie's Motherhood
Elsie's Motherhood (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14566

Book 6: Elsie's Children
Elsie's Children (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14875

Book 7: Elsie's Widowhood

Book 8: Grandmother Elsie
Grandmother Elsie (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14883

Book 9: Elsie's New Relations
Elsie's New Relations: What They Did and How They Fared at Ion (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14909

Book 10: Elsie at Nantucket
Elsie at Nantucket (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14379

Book 11: The Two Elsies (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).
The Two Elsies (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=13379

Book 12: Kith and Kin
Elsie's Kith and Kin (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14488

Book 13: Elsie's Friends at Woodburn (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 14: Elsie's Christmas (Christmas With Grandma Elsie) (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).
Christmas With Grandma Elsie (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14534

Book 15: Elsie and the Raymonds (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 16: Yachting With the Raymonds (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 17: Elsie's Vacation (and After Events) (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).
Elsie's Vacation and After Events (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=18058

Book 18: Elsie at Viamede (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 19: Elsie at Ion (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 20: Elsie at the World's Fair (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).
Elsie at the World's Fair (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14910

Book 21: Elsie's Journey on Inland Waters (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 22: Elsie at Home (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).
Elsie at Home (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=17496

Book 23: Elsie on the Hudson (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 24: Elsie in the South (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 25: Elsie's Young Folks (in Peace and War) (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 26: Elsie's Winter Trip (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 27: Elsie and Her Loved Ones (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

Book 28: Elsie and Her Namesakes (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

*Finley, Martha [aka Martha Farquharson] (1828-1909), The Mildred Series: A Companion Series of the "Elsie" Books (New York, NY: A.L. Burt Company, 1876).

Book 1: Mildred Keith

Book 2: Mildred at Roselands

Book 3: Mildred and Elsie

Book 4: Mildred's Married Life and a Winter With Elsie Dinsmore

Book 5: Mildred at Home

Book 6: Mildred's Boys and Girls

Book 7: Mildred's New Daughter

*Haan, Sheri, Precious Moments (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Book House). 70202
"This is a delightful book aimed at pre-schoolers, and, of course, to the adults who read to their children. It is in very large print, with unique water color illustrations from Sam Butcher. There is some scene-setting to attract the attention of the child, and then there is a paraphrased version of what the Bible says. Yet despite this, and the simplified language, the stores are sound. Doctrines are taught without flinching. Sin is identified as sin, lying as lying. It is remarkably well done. It makes an ideal gift book for grandparents, parents, or children." -- Jay P. Green, Sr.

*Vos, Catherine, Child's Story Bible (Carlisle, PA: The Banner of Truth Trust). 70215
"Since the CHILDREN'S BIBLE STORY BOOK by Palmer is presently out of print [in print as of 2/23/02], this by Vos is undoubtedly the best of the Bible story books. She is sound in her doctrine, restrains her imaginative additions to the Biblical record, and shows an understanding of the mind of a child." -- Jay P. Green, Sr.

*Hunt, Gladys M., Honey for a Child's Heart, revised edition.
"The imaginative use of books in family life. Offers warm, practical advice on how to instill a love for reading in children. Extensive bibliography grouped according to ages." -- Publisher's Annotation
"HONEY FOR A CHILD'S HEART, now in its third edition, is one of the best guides to children's books available. It is for parents who know the value of reaching their children with good books. A good book is a gateway into a wider world of wonder, beauty, delight, and adventure. But children don't stumble onto the best books by themselves. They need a parent's help. Author Gladys Hunt discusses everything from how to choose good books for your children to encouraging them to be avid readers. This edition includes an indexed and updated 85-page list of the best children's favorites, Honey for a Child's Heart opens new worlds of reading possibilities for children and parents alike. Are you concerned about building whole children -- children who are alive emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually? Then this book can help. Gladys Hunt deeply believes in the potential of books to assist in this building process. Her tastes are broad, her advice is rooted in experience, and her suggestions will enrich the cultural life of any home." -- Publisher's Annotation
"There's got to be a reason a book is in its 50th printing! This book is both motivational and informative. I wrote it to encourage parents to read aloud to their children -- and to keep on reading together long after children can read for themselves. Few things bind people together as much as sharing a good book. Without ever leaving your home, you can go on fantastic adventures, meet the same people, laugh at the ridiculous together, weep together over the plight of your favorite characters and learn life lessons from the bravery or foolishness of your main characters! Everyone who has ever read a ripping good story wants to share it with someone else. C. S. Lewis was right when he said that any book worth reading at 10 should be worth reading at 50. That means as you read with your children you get to catch up on all the stories you missed when you were growing up. Reading together gives you a reservoir of experiences from which to examine life and to figure out how to live it. And the bibliography at the end of the book introduces you to books your children should have the opportunity to read Take it to the library with you." -- Gladys Hunt, e-mail: gladyshunt@cs.com.
"Gladys Hunt is a popular and well-known writer. Among her many books are READ FOR YOUR LIFE and several volumes of the Fisherman Bible Studyguide Series. She lives in Grand Rapids, Michigan." -- Publisher's Annotation

Beers, V. Gilbert, and Samuel Butcher, Precious Moments Bedtime Stories (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Book House). 70216

Beers, V. Gilbert, and Samuel Butcher, Precious Moments Stories From the Bible (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Book House). 70217

Beers, V. Gilbert (text), and Samuel J. Butcher (illustrations), Precious Moments: Throughthe-Day Stories (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Book House). 70218
"Here's a delightful collection of fantasy, daydreams, sleepytime tales . . . stories just right for daytime snuggle times or evening tuck-in routines. Spend some golden moments with your child reading and chuckling over happy, upbeat poems and stories. . . . the delicate, sensitive, and appealing Precious Moments drawings are often a story-within-astory and offer a strong, pleasant combination of text and illustration."

Beers, V. Gilbert, and Samuel Butcher, Precious Moments Through-the-Year Stories (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Book House). 70219
These are short stories for pre-school children.

Bridge, Stephanie Marie, Puritan Fairy Tales: Short Stories and Poems for Young and Old [G1013]

*De Graaf, Simon Gerrit, Promise and Deliverance, 4 volumes (Scarsdale, NY [Westminster Discount Book Service, P.O. Box 125H, Scarsdale 10583]: Westminster Discount Book Service, 1977). Translated from the Dutch by H. Evan Runner and Elisabeth Wichers Runner. A Christian classic.
"In Scripture, religion means covenant. By His Word, God called into being an order of creation culminating in man. By that Word He also gave man His favor and brought him into a life of conscious covenantal fellowship with Himself. As De Graaf himself puts it: `Without covenant, there is no religion, no conscious fellowship between man and God, no exchange of love and faithfulness. Without the covenant, man would be just an instrument in God's hand. When God created man, He had more than an instrument in mind: He made a creature that could respond to Him. . . .'
"This renewed insight into Biblical revelation is the perspective undergirding De Graaf's treatment of all Bible stories. It makes his book a unique presentation of God's revelation of Himself in the covenant and keeps his interpretations of the stories from degenerating into mere moralizing. Religion is not morality." -- H. Evan Runner
"I highly recommend this book. One of the best books available." -- R.C. Sproul
"A landmark in interpreting the simple stories of the Bible." -- Christianity Today

*Haycock, Ruth, Encyclopedia of Bible Truths (Whittier, CA: Association of Christian Schools International, c1993). Former title: ENCYCLOPEDIA OF BIBLE TRUTHS FOR SCHOOL SUBJECTS.
"Dr. Haycock's work is listed in the current ACSI product catalog for $25 for ACSI member schools. You can obtain a copy by calling the order department in Colorado Springs (800) 367-0798. This is still a very popular item at our conventions and for schools in the accreditation process." -- Bill Wilson
"With this unique resource you can help your students understand how God's Word relates to every subject. Whether the topic is Geography or Geometry, Literature or Law, this book establishes the fundamental connection between each discipline and the truth of the Scriptures. Originally published in four separate paperbacks, it is now available in a single, hardback edition. It can be used for lesson preparation, research, project completion, more!" -- GCB May be purchased in Great Britain from:
http://www.homeschool.co.uk/product/1100

L'Engle, Madeleine, with Avery Brooke, Trailing Clouds of Glory: Spiritual Values in Children's Literature (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, c1985). 70220
Includes index. For children.

*Palmer, Peter, and Jay P. Sr. Green (editor), The Children's Bible Story Book (New York, NY: McGraw Hill, 1962)
Said to be the best of the Bible story books.

Potter, William, The Boy's Guide to the Historical Adventures of G.A. Henty (Vocabulary of a Warrior) (The Vision Forum, Inc., July 3, 2000).
"This unique book charts Henty's works of historical fiction chronologically and provides both a plot summary and an historical overview of over 70 of his classic tales." -- Publisher's Annotation
"HOME EDUCATORS: If you are trying to put together a history-based curriculum, this volume is very helpful! You can gauge which time periods in your student's course of study need some bolstering up (or livening up) and search in this book for the proper Henty novel to introduce. For example, to bulk up our study on 'Ancient Times,' I needed a novel about Hannibal. This terrific reference book tells me to get Henty's 'The Young Carthaginian' to meet that requirement.
"Another problem it solves is that sometimes a history-based curriculum can get predictable. Everyone seems to be covering the same things and the only variance is how deeply they're studied. This guide covers all of Henty's books and makes it easy to locate his books on obscure subjects and events which you can tantalize your children with. Children seem to love citing these forgotten tales and bedazzling their peers and family with them!
"This volume will also prove invaluable to PEOPLE EDUCATING THEMSELVES. As an adult who is battling her 'learning gaps,' I just page through this reference until I find something that doesn't ring ANY bells! By reading a Henty, I enjoy a terrific adventure (which I can later discuss with my children), educate myself and, if I want to, pursue the subject more deeply later on." -- Reader Comment
"G.A. Henty wrote around 144 books. Many of the books revolve around a fictional character who interacts with real persons from that historical period. Heroism, honor, courage, and leadership are integral characteristics of the main protagonists. I have trouble putting down a Henty story. I highly recommend this resource." -- Reader Comment

Peretti, Frank E., Cooper Kids Adventure Series (Wheaton, IL: Good News Publishers [Crossway Books]). 70223
"These four Indiana Jones-style adventures about archaeologist Dr. Jake Cooper and his two young teens, Jay and Lila, teach kids sound values -- while keeping them glued to their seats! The slipcased softcover set includes THE DOOR IN THE DRAGON'S THROAT, ESCAPE FROM THE ISLAND OF AQUARIUS, THE TOMBS OF ANAK, and TRAPPED AT THE BOTTOM OF THE SEA." -- CBD

Pink, Michael, Tough Questions, Straight Answers (Chicago, IL: Moody Press). 70224
"A great topical arrangement of Scriptures on modern subjects that our children bump up against everyday. Just Bible passages. Highly recommended." -- CBD

White, William R. (compiler), Stories for the Journey: A Sourcebook for Christian Storytellers (Minneapolis: Augsburg Publishing House, 1988). 70225
Includes bibliography.

*Wilson, Elizabeth, Books Children Love: A Guide to the Best Children's Literature (Wheaton, IL: Crossway Books). 70226
"This excellent resource was written as a guide for parents and teachers to the very best in children's books. Hundreds of books from more than two dozen subject areas are listed, with comments intended to give the reader a clear idea of tone and content. The criteria for including each title were: that it be well written, that it readily catch the reader's interest, and that its expressed values be consistent with the Judeo-Christian ethic. This book is a perfect starting point for everyone: if you were not surrounded by books as a child, this book will be an invaluable reference, and if you were, it will be a timely reminder of forgotten favorites, and a resource for more recent titles. This book should be in the library of every teacher and parent." -- GCB
"At last here is a book that will help parents open up the wonderful world of reading for their children! Here are books that embody the ideals of traditional values and a Christian world view. Only books that really catch and hold children's attention, that are finely written, and that reflect basic Biblical values have been chosen." -- GCB

Wilson, Elizabeth, Choosing Children's Books [40137]

Wilson, Elizabeth, "Living Books" (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates). 70227
Two cassettes.

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Christian fiction (The Elsie Books by Martha Finley), Home Schooling, Some Complementary Works



FAMILY

"Now therefore fear the Lord, and serve him in sincerity and in truth: and put away the gods which your fathers served on the other side of the flood, and in Egypt; and serve ye the Lord. And if it seem evil unto you to serve the Lord, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord." (Joshua 24:14,15)

God be merciful unto us, and bless us: and cause his face to shine upon us: That they way may be known upon earth, thy saving health among all nations. (Psalms 67:1,2)

God setteth the solitary in families: he bringeth out those which are bound with chains: but the rebellious dwell in a dry land. (Psalm 68:6)

Except the Lord build the house, they labor in vain that build it. (Psalm 127:1)

For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother. -- Jesus Christ (Matthew 12:50)

But many [that are] first shall be last; and the last [shall be] first. -- Jesus Christ (Matthew 19:28-30)

And when all things shall be subdued unto him, then shall the Son also himself be subject unto him that put all things under him, that God may be all in all." (1 Corinthians 15:28)

See the Theological Notes, "The Christian Family," at Ephesians 5:22, page 1870, in The Reformation Study Bible

All bonds are easily broken and cast away (by the soul at least, if not by the body) which are not perceived to be divine. -- Richard Baxter

But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear:
Having a good conscience. . .
(I Peter 3:15, 16a)
Oh how highly we are to be concerned that our conscience be tender, and yet how little care is taken of it! What has become of the authority of conscience, when your thoughts and your passions, when your eyes and your ears and your appetite and your tongue are left unbridled and unconquered? When every servant is set up to be master, to bear rule in you, where is your conscience? When your soul is no better kept, what poverty and leanness is growing on it, what a starveling it is both in grace and peace, eaten out with lust, evaporated into vanity, sunk into sensuality, your spirit even transubstantiated into perishing flesh, ready to die away, because you have not had a tender conscience. If you have not better kept your covenant with God, when you have not performed the duties you have vowed, when your hours of prayer are so short, your sabbaths such wintry, cold days, where has your conscience been? When your God is so shamefully neglected, never hears from you even when you have nothing else to do; yea, when your corn, your cattle, your pleasures, your friends (even those you vowed to renounce), are invited into your heart to steal it away from Heaven, then where is your conscience? When you lie asleep and allow God's enemies to sow tares in your field; when you are being a busy-body in other men's affairs, while your own vineyard is not being kept; when both your heart and your house are so much out of order, where is your conscience? When you leave your wife and your children and your servants to do all that is right in their own eyes; when you take care more for your possessions than for your sons and daughters, ready to die for lack of instruction, where is your conscience? And if you have no conscience, then where is your covenant? And if you have no covenant, then where is your God and your peace? -- C.H. Spurgeon commenting on I Peter 3:15, 16a quoted in Morning and Evening II: A Second Year of Daily Devotions by C.H. Spurgeon, May 28, p. 149 found in Devotional Classics of C. H. Spurgeon.

The Elsie Books 28 book set, in its original, unmodernized text, models the Christain family better probably than any other fiction. Likewise, the example of Elsie's life is one of the best models for Christian girls.

Alexander, James W. and B.M. Palmer, The Family (reprinted 1991, 551 pages) (Cerlox Bound Photocopy Series. Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books, 1998). "If you are interest in family matters, you will look long and hard to find a book that matches this one. It is actually two books bound under one cover. Palmer's The Family, In Its Civil and Churchly Aspects (1876) and Alexander's Thoughts on Family Worship (1847)." -- SWRB

ALEXANDER, JAMES W., Family Worship: A Biblical Duty, 1847. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22, ISBN: 0921148143 9780921148142. Alternate title: Thoughts on Family Worship (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 1990, 1847). ISBN: 1573580813 9781573580816
"It would be almost impossible to overemphasis the importance of daily family worship. It is a blessed privilege for those who have known it as children and/or adults. It is foundational to any lasting revival or reformation. It is a duty commanded by God in Scripture, and to neglect it is, without a doubt, sinful. The Westminster Divines made it clear, in their amazing Directory for Family Worship, that obstinacy in the sin of neglecting family worship should lead where there are faithful elders to the head of the offending house being `suspended and debarred from the Lord's supper.' This book gives the nature, warrant, and history of family worship in easy to read large print." -- SWRB

*Alexander, James W., Family Worship: Its Influence Over All of Life. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22, ISBN: 0921148143 9780921148142.
"Some have postulated that the Reformation would have fizzled out in no time had it not been for the faithful men who led their families in daily worship. Nothing is more calculated to enhanced and abet all other spiritual duties than daily family worship. It will curtail divorce and domestic violence, both of which were unheard of among the Puritans because of their love for the use of the means of grace within this setting, and help lead many individuals and ultimately nations to Christ. This book covers the influence of family worship on the individual piety of parents and children. It shows it to be a means of intellectual improvement and a bond of domestic harmony and love. Men, if you really want to change the world, start with your own immediate sphere of influence and responsibility. Preparing your own heart before the Lord and instituting daily family worship will do more good than most can imagine! This is your commanded duty." -- SWRB

*Brandt, Henry R., and Homer E. Dowdy, Building a Christian Home (Wheaton, IL: Scripture Press Publications, Inc., 1960). 70228
"An eminently readable book on the roles and responsibilities of parents and children in the Christian home." -- Cyril J. Barber

Defoe, Daniel. The family-instructor. In three parts; I. Relating to fathers and children. II. To masters and servants. III. To husbands and wives. The fourth edition, carefully corrected … Glasgow, 1717. (ECCO) Gale Document Number CW3311227625

*Palmer, B.M., and J.W. Alexander, Your Family (Harrisonburg, VA [Sprinkle Publications, P.O. Box 1094, Harrisonburg, 22803]: Sprinkle Publications).
"Contains some of the best instruction on the family for our time." -- Lloyd T. Sprinkle

*Wilson, Carl W., Our Dance Has Turned to Death: But We Can Renew the Family and Nation! [90238]

Anderson, James O., Family Government (Philadelphia, PA: B. Jenkins, 1847). 70234

Bension-von der Ohe, Elizabeth, and Valmari M. Mason, An Annotated Bibliography of U.S. Scholarship on the History of the Family (New York, NY: AMS Press, Incorporated, 1986). 70236
"Comprehensive annotated bibliographies are worth their weight in gold. This one is extensive and covers virtually all aspects of marriage and family living. Included are dissertations, journal articles, book reviews, and replicated research. D.Min. students will find this an invaluable resource." -- Cyril J. Barber

Chartier, Jan, and Myron Chartier, Caring Together: Faith, Hope and Love in Your Family (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1986). 70240
"This book is written by a Christian couple, both seminary professors, with two children, who affirm that true spirituality can be found and expressed in ordinary, everyday life. They claim that the teaching of the Bible can be fully practiced in a modern family -- and they tell us, in detail, how to do it." -- David and Vera Mace

Christenson, Evelyn, Christian Family [40113]

Christenson, Evelyn, What Happens When We Pray for Our Families [40007]

Cleaver, Nancy, The Treasury of Family Fun [40114]

Denton, Wallace, What's Happening to Our Families? (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1963). 70241
"A constructive discussion on the structure and changing patterns of family life today. Evaluates the emasculated man and the unfulfilled woman, anxious parents, accelerated living, retirement, the demise of religious belief, and family isolation. A final section considers the new role of churches in rebuilding family life." -- Cyril J. Barber

Dodds, Elizabeth D., Marriage to a Difficult Man [40069]

Evans, Robert A., and Alice F. Evans, Louis Weeks, and Carolyn Weeks, Casebook for Christian Living: Value Formation for Families and Congregations [20936]

Garborg, Rolf, The Family Blessing: A Simple Parental Act That Will Help Your Children Feel Loved and Cherished (Dallas, TX: Word Publishing, 190). 70244
Foreword by Gary Smalley and John Trent. "Explains exactly what it means not only to have a regular `blessing time' in your home, but also to make affirmation and encouragement the basis of all your communications."

God's Word for the Family (Dallas, TX: C&D International). 70245

Hibbard, Ann, Family Celebrations: Meeting Christ in Your Holidays and Special Occasions [70268]

Johnson, Ron, Joseph W. Hinkle, and Charles M. Lowry, Oikos: A Practical Approach to Family Evangelism [20120]

*Lockyer, Herbert, All the Promises of the Bible
"A devotional expositional compilation of about 3,300 of the approximately 8,810 promises found in Scripture." -- Synopsis
"Dr. Herbert Lockyer was born in London in 1886, and held pastorates in Scotland and England for 25 years before coming to the United States in 1935. In 1937 he received the honorary Doctor of Divinity degree from Northwestern Evangelical Seminary. In 1955 he returned to England where he lived for many years. He then returned to the United States where he continued to devote time to the writing ministry until his death in November of 1984." -- Publisher's Annotation

Mack, Wayne, Your Family, God's Way (Philadelphia, PA: The Presbyterian and Reformed Publishing Co.). 70250
"Mack offers Biblical insight and practical wisdom into two crucial areas of family relationships, communication, and conflict resolution." -- GCB

Martin, Walter, "Authority or Anarchy: Crisis in the American Family" (San Juan Capistrano, CA: Christian Research Institute International). 70251
"Dr. Martin analyses the underlying problem within the structure of the American family, giving clear guidelines for husbands and wives, parents and children." An audio cassette.

Miller, David R., Breaking Free: Rescuing Families From the Clutches of Legalism (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Book House, 1992).

Morgan, E.S., The Puritan Family: Religion and Domestic Relations [31227A]

Petty, Jim, Helps for Family Leaders [30359]

Petty, Jim, Money, Ambition and the Christian Family [30360]

Petty, Jim, Suffering in the Home [30361]

Pride, Mary, All the Way Home: Power for Your Family to Be Its Best [40122]

*Pride, Mary, Big Book of Home Learning (Wheaton, IL: Crossway Books, 1986). 40134
"Here is a complete guide to everything educational for you and your children. . . . You will find resources and information here that are not available elsewhere." -- GCB

*Pride, Mary, Next Book of Home Learning (Wheaton, IL: Good News Publishers [Crossway Books], 1988, c1987). 40135
"This new book brings us a whole new range of additional educational resources for home schoolers of all ages to complement her first book. With its broad spectrum of hard-to-find information . . . this book is an indispensable resource for home schoolers . . ." -- GCB

*Pride, Mary, Schoolproof: How to Help Your Family Beat the System and Learn to Love Learning the Easy Natural Way (Wheaton, IL: Good News Publishers [Crossway Books], 1988). 40136
"Schoolproofing means having children who learn to read, who learn to obey authority, who learn to stand against injustice." -- GCB

Shaw, I., Christian Family Matters (Bridgen, England: Evangelical Press of Wales). 70258

Smith, B.M., Family Religion (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publishers, 1859). 70259

Stark, Jeff, Bedtime Means Peacetime; From a Boring to a Thankful Home; Training Your Kids; Kids Are Great [30393]

Stark, Jeff, Christian Communications in the Home and at Work [30396]

Welch, E., Using the Gospel in Your Home [30461]

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Words of Christ Appearing in The Web Edition of Biblical Counsel: Resources for Renewal, Sexual relationship, Christian fiction (The Elsie Books by Martha Finley), The promises of Christ, Bible promises, Reconciliation of relationships

Related WebLinks

The Directory For Family-Worship (1647) and The Directory for the Publick Worship of God, 1645
http://www.covenanter.org/Westminster/directoryforfamilyworship.htm

Books on the Family From Still Waters Revival Books
http://www.swrb.com/newslett/FREEBOOK/family.htm

The Christian Family Homepage
http://www.covenanter.org/Family/familyhomepage.htm

The Elsie Books 28 book set, in its original, unmodernized text, models the Christain family better probably than any other fiction. Likewise, the example of Elsie's life is one of the best models for Christian girls.
Notice the original text of this series is becoming available free in Project Gutenberg etext. We have added links to the etext as of May 2007.
Chapter 11: Christian Fiction
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr11ch.html#cfiction



Counseling the Family

*Adams, Jay E., Christian Living in the Home [30000]

*Adams, Jay E., Christian Living in the Home (Study Guide) [30001]

*BAXTER, RICHARD, A Christian Directory: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1. Full title: A Christian Directory: or A Sum of Practical Theology, and Cases of Conscience. Directing Christians How to Use Their Knowledge and Faith; How to Improve all Helps and Means, and to Perform all Duties; How to Overcome Temptations, and to Escape or Mortify Every Sin. In Four Parts.
I. Christian Ethics (or Private Duties)
II. Christian Economics (or Family Duties)
III. Christian Ecclesiastics (or Church Duties)
IV. Christian Politics (or Duties to Our Rulers and Neighbours)
(Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 1997, 1990, 1838, 1707, 1678, 1673). Foreword by J.I. Packer (Soli Deo Gloria edition only). The Soli Deo Gloria publication is a facsimile reprint of the 19th century reprint by George Virtue, London. The original 1673 edition and the 1678 edition, both printed by Robert White for Nevill Simmons. Bibliographic and scriptural footnotes. A Christian classic.
"The complete practical works of Richard Baxter are in print in four volumes entitled BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS. This volume (about 1 1/4 million words, 1028 pages) is volume one of the set. The editor's preface (1707), p. xiii, stated that the works of Richard Baxter are 'perhaps the best body of practical divinity that is extent in our own or any other tongue.' Richard Baxter lived from 1615-1691. The DIRECTORY was completed in 1665. Its scope was intended to cover all of practical theology, a summa of casuistry . . ." -- Don Kistler
"Baxter's series, which grew in range and scope as it proceeded . . . is a peak point in Puritan devotional writing, and remains a precious resource for all, in this or any age, who want to know what is involved in Biblical godliness. . . . A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY may justly be described as a landmark. It is the fullest, most thorough, and in this writer's judgment, most profound treatment of Christian spirituality and standards that has ever been attempted by an English-speaking Evangelical author. The fact that it embraces both spirituality and standards (the principles of communion with God plus the specifics of obedience to God) merits approving comment in itself; nowadays spirituality and ethics have become two distinct disciplines in the schools, and books written on either say virtually nothing about the other . . ." -- J.I. Packer
Timothy Keller calls it the greatest manual on Biblical counseling ever produced.
"There are many Puritan classics on this subject. Thomas Brooks' PRECIOUS REMEDIES FOR SATAN'S DEVICES, Thomas Goodwin's A CHILD OF LIGHT WALKING IN DARKNESS, William Bridge's A LIFTING UP FOR THE DOWNCAST, and many other similar works give evidence that the Puritans were. . . . masters at applying Biblical answers and principles to problems that can only be solved by spiritual means. No Puritan work, however, has ever approached the popularity, the scope, or the depth of Baxter's classic treatise. With the widespread interest in counseling in today's church, this reprint of Baxter's work should be a welcome addition to every pastor's library, or to anyone else who wishes to give solid Biblical answers to man's questions." -- Don Kistler
"We have long waited for a purely Biblical treatment of the spiritual ills and cures of men which is untainted by the views of psychology. Since Baxter lived about 200 years before psychology arrived, his deep work is completely void of its encroachment -- thankfully!" -- John MacArthur
"The kings men sought to arrest Richard Baxter, but he traveled ceaselessly from place to place, writing his sermons and his books even on horseback (he had an inkwell in his saddle) and preached over a wide area." -- Brian H. Edwards
"Baxter was a wonder of his age. His writings total 72 large volumes, much of it written on horseback as he traveled in his widespread preaching efforts. He seldom, if ever, edited anything he wrote. Knowing this any reader will be amazed at how well he communicated his deep love for his Savior. For 26 years he was public enemy No. 1 to the king, yet he lived to see the flight of the king in 1688." -- Jay P. Green, Sr.
POOR MAN'S FAMILY BOOK (1674) and THE CATECHIZING OF FAMILIES (1683), found elsewhere in BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, are less detailed works. They are more suitable for family instruction than are the detailed presentation in A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY.
" Ptacek in Family Worship (p. 51-52), supplies the following information in regard to Baxter and this book. He notes that after the Episcopalians ejected numerous `nonconformists,' in what is know as the `great ejection,' in 1662, `Baxter pastored from house to house, visiting families of his parish in their homes. These visits contributed to Baxter's A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, a large and still very relevant manual of pastoral care.' Focusing on just one area of great importance, Ptacek demonstrates how this book's relevance is not limited by time or culture, though sometimes the use of specific words are. `Published in 1673, but written 1664-65, a large book-length part of Baxter's CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY is devoted to the family. It is entitled `Christian Economics' based on the archaic usage of the word, which reflects the proper sense of the Greek root oikonomos as the manager of a household, in the Christian case, the spiritual leader of the family. The family head is essential to Baxter's view of family worship and instruction. Baxter asserts that it is God's will that this instruction be carried out by the rulers of the families.' For a male head of the household to fail to do so, or to have another instruct in the family, is contrary to his position of authority.' This is the kind of book that can be passed on from generation to generation and still find much use in the service of the kingdom of God. . . . "Though relatively weak on corporate sanctification, corporate faithfulness and some important areas of doctrine (such as justification), Baxter's work on subjects related to personal piety can be of good practical use to the Christian -- if one is careful to separate out his aberrant doctrinal views and any practical errors they may lead to." -- SWRB
This work is available in many editions, and in many formats.
Reformation Heritage Books has new copies of the Soli Deo Gloria edition as of March 2008, even though it is generally thought to be out of print. They acquired Soli Deo Gloria from Ligonier Ministries in late 2007. They may be the publisher who will eventually reprints the title.
http://www.heritagebooks.org/
The reprint by George Virtue is included on Reformation Bookshelf CD #21, ISBN: 0921148992 9780921148999.
The reprint by George Virtue is available as a Cerlox bound photocopy from Still Waters Revival Books, Edmonton, AB, Canada.
The reprint by George Virtue is available online and may be downloaded in PDF format at Christian Classics Ethereal Library.
http://www.ccel.org/ccel/baxter/practical.toc.html
The reprint by George Virtue is included in THE AMAZING CHRISTIAN LIBRARY, DVD Four, CD #21
http://www.AmazingLibrary.com
The reprint by George Virtue appears in full preview in Google Books but may not be downloaded. About five other editions from libraries are available in Google Books, and may be downloaded (August 2008).
Notice that the etext in Google Books has the advantage of being searchable. Searching an image-based PDF file is not possible, unless the user owns software such as Abode Acrobat Pro or Kirtas BookScan Editor. They both have an OCR (optical character recognition) feature that will search an image-based PDFs (bit-map scans). Searches appear to be perfect in this work, although one must know Baxter's vocabulary. Text can be cut and paste from image-based PDF format to OCR (character) format. This particular Google Books scan can not be cut and pasted or downloaded.
http://books.google.com/books?id=cyQFBOUHkaoC&dq=A+Christian+Directory+inpublisher:lettermen+inpublisher:associates&lr=&as_brr=0&ie=ISO-8859-1
One of the older, multi-volume editions of THE WORKS OF RICHARD BAXTER is available at Monergism.com in the "Puritan Library," "Richard Baxter." A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, volume 23. It can be downloaded.
http://www.puritanlibrary.com/
Another older edition is available on microfilm (Ann Arbor, MI: University Microfilms, 1970), 1 microfilm reel, 35 mm (Early English books, 1641-1700; 343:11).
The following three excerpts are included as bonus free books on Reformation Bookshelf CD #28, ISBN: 0921148267 9780921148265.
1. "The Duties of Parents for Their Children" from Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1, A Christian Directory, on Christian Economics, Chap. X., pp. 449-454.
2. "The Special Duties of Children Towards Their Parents" from Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1, A Christian Directory, on Christian Economics, Chap. XI., pp. 454-457.
3. "The Special Duties of Children and Youth Towards God" from Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1, A Christian Directory, on Christian Economics, Chap. XII., pp. 457-458).
The Richard Baxter Page
http://members.aol.com/augusteen/Baxter.html

*Baxter, Richard, The Reformed Pastor: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 4 (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 2000, 1992). A Christian classic.
"This is the fourth and final volume in this great set. Includes, [`Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men,'] `The Reformed Pastor' `Poor Man's Family Book,' `The Catechizing of Families,' and `The Mother's Catechism,' in all 25 sermons, treatises, and catechisms. Dr. J.I. Packer says, `For me, the great joy of this year is that it see the completion of Soli Deo Gloria's reprint of Baxter's incomparable PRACTICAL WORKS'." -- GCB
The Reformed Pastor, Richard Baxter
http://www.e4.net
The Richard Baxter Page
http://members.aol.com/augusteen/Baxter.html
Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men (1681), by Richard Baxter
http://www.lettermen2.com/ccaym.html

*Kennedy, D. James, Learning to Live With the People You Love [31344]

Martin, Grant, Counseling in Cases of Family Violence and Abuse (Resources in Christian Counseling Series, Vol. 6. Dallas, TX: Word Publishing, 1987).

*Palmer, B.M., and J.W. Alexander, The Family [70232]

*Ryle, J.C., Home Truths, Volume I [20432]

*Ryle, J.C., Home Truths, Volume II [20433]

Adams, Jay E., The Role of Father in the Home [30084]

Adams, Jay E., The Role of Husband in the Home [30085]

Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation, "Helps for the Family" [30469]

Kavar, Louis F., Pastoral Ministry in the AIDS Era: Focus on Families and Friends of Persons With AIDS [20531]

Mack, Wayne A., Your Family God's Way: Developing and Sustaining Relationships in the Home [70250]

Martin, Grant, Counseling in Cases of Family Violence and Abuse (Resources in Christian Counseling Series, Vol. 6. Dallas, TX: Word Publishing, 1987).

Miller, C. John, Christ and the 10 Commandments; Harmony in Home Through the 5th Commandment [30291]

Miller, David R., Breaking Free: Rescuing Families From the Clutches of Legalism (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Book House, 1992).

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Words of Christ Appearing in The Web Edition of Biblical Counsel: Resources for Renewal, Sexual relationship, Biblical counsel by subject, Parenting, Topical listings of Scripture, Training in Biblical counseling, Works of Jay Adams, Counsel for Young Men, Counsel for Young Women, Christian fiction (the elsie books by Martha Finley)

Related WebLinks

Directives for Avoiding Dissension in the Home by Richard Baxter (1615-1691)
http://www.crownrights.com/fbs

Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men (1681), by Richard Baxter
http://www.lettermen2.com/ccaym.html

virtuoursreality.com, A Website for All Women
http://www.virtuousreality.com/

True Love Waits
http://www.truelovewaits.com/

Sex Respect
http://www.sexrespect.com/default2.html



Family Management

Anderson, James O., Family Government [70234]

Anson Elva, and Kathies Liden, The Complete Book of Home Management [40121]

Barna, George, The Future of the American Family (Chicago, IL: Moody Press, 1993). 70263A
"George Barna uses tons of well-interpreted statistics to outline what church leaders and concerned parents need to know about the impact on families of different influence agents, ways families can cope with negative influences, and ideas on what families might do to effectively anticipate and respond to future stress points." -- CBD

Bouma, Mary LaGrand, Creative Homemaker (Minneapolis, MN: Bethany Fellowship, 1973). 70264

Harris, Gregg, The Home and Family Business Workshop: A Complete Workshop for Parents and Teens on How to Start a Successful Business for Your Family (Gresham, OR: Christian Life Workshops). 70265
A set of seven audio cassette tapes including: The Biblical Basis for Your Family Business, How to Start Your Family Business, The Marks of Truly Christian Business People, and so forth.

Moore, Raymond, and Dorothy Moore, Minding Your Own Business (Brentwood, TN: Wolgemuth and Hyatt Publishers). 70266
"These education experts have compiled the actual experiences of families who, as families, have first structured their homes like a successful business, THEN have actually developed revenue producing home-based operations. They give creative ideas and tips that have helped families gain control, and begin to earn money, and have fun together doing it." -- GCB

Morgan, E.S., The Puritan Family: Religion and Domestic Relations [31227A]

Related WebLinks

Organic Valley Family of Farms
http://www.organicvalley.com/

Polyface, "the farm of many faces"
"Polyface, Inc. is a family owned, multi-generational, pasture-based, beyond organic, local-market farm and informational outreach in Virginia's Shenandoah Valley."
http://www.polyfacefarms.com/index.html



HOLIDAYS

"Make a joyful noise unto the Lord, all ye lands. Serve the Lord with gladness: come before his presence with singing. Know ye that the Lord he is God: it is he that hath made us, and not we ourselves; we are his people, and the sheep of his pasture. Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise: be thankful unto him, and bless his name. For the Lord is good; his mercy is everlasting; and his truth endureth to all generations." (Psalm 103)

IMP, The Pagan Invasion Series (Jeremiah Films) [110059B]
Volume 1: Halloween: Trick or Treat 70268A
Witness Inc. and Jeremiah Films Video Tapes
http://www.witnessinc.com/Videos.htm

Related WebLinks

Anti-Observance of Holy Days of Man Homepage
http://www.covenanter.org/HolyDays/xmasshomepage.htm



CHRISTMAS

Price, Greg, Christmass Condemned by Christ by Greg Price (1 of 3) (Still Waters Revival Books).
"Price shows how the teaching of the Lord Jesus Christ condemns all man-invented holy days. Scripture and history are brought to bear most specifically on the celebration of Christ-mass, demonstrating why it is a sin to celebrate this day. It is also noted that Scripture never commands the celebration of this day and that there is no evidence that Christ and the Apostles ever celebrated this day -- in fact, this sycretism of paganism and `Babylonian' Christianity was not first celebrated until 354 A.D. (when December 25 was chosen, in accord with the Pagan feast of Saturnalia, as the day of `celebration'). Price also clearly shows that to call yourself Reformed while you hold on to this Roman Catholic/Pagan monument of idolatry makes for a serious contradiction in your testimony -- as the best Reformed churches have always disciplined those (in accord with Scriptural teaching) who broke the second and fourth commandments by keeping antichristian festival days like Christ-mass, Easter, etc.. Citations from Luther, Calvin and the company of Geneva Pastors, the Church of Scotland's First Book of Discipline, the 1620 Dutch Synod, the Civil Government of Holland (1625), the U.S. Colonies and the Westminster Assembly all speak with one voice against this Romish corruption. Common objections against the classic Reformed position are also answered. `Thus saith the LORD, Learn not the way of the heathen' (Jer. 10:2). For more information see Christmas: A Biblical Critique by Kevin Reed and M. Schneider free at: http://www.swrb.com/newslett/actualnls/Xmas_ch0.htm." -- SWRB
Christmass Condemned by Christ by Greg Price (1 of 3)
http://sphynx.idontknow.com/swrb/christmass.ram

*Handel, George Frederick, "The Messiah" (various artists and recordings).
This musical composition has probably inspired more individuals to faith in Christ than any other piece of music. The complete oratorio is performed by the London Philharmonic Orchestra and Choir, conducted by John Alldis. Another critically acclaimed performance is that of the Choir of Christ's Church Cathedral, Oxford, England, accompanied by the Academy of Ancient Music, Christopher Hogwood conducting.
Also recommended is the 2 CD set, Handel - "Messiah" with Erickson, McNair, Hodgson, Humphrey, Stilwell, The Atlanta Symphony Orchestra, Robert Shaw conducting.
Highlights from Handel's "Messiah"
http://www.rsglh.org/Messiah.Highlights.rm
Handel's Messiah Text
http://www.npr.org/programs/specials/holiday2002/shawmessiah-text.html
Messiah (Complete Traditional), London Philharmonic Choir and Orchestra, John Alldis conducting
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/B000062T9E/qid=1040845852/sr=2-1/ref=sr_2_1/103-0225174-5677440
Handel - "Messiah" with Nelson, Kirkby, Watkinson, P. Elliott, D. Thomas, Academy of Ancient Music, Christopher Hogwood conducting
"This is the Messiah that started it all--the first period instrument performance recorded with a choir of men and boys. It introduced music lovers the world over to Christopher Hogwood, Emma Kirkby, and a whole host of performers who have since become ubiquitous as the "English Early Music Mafia," appearing as they do under zillions of different ensemble names on a variety of labels. Hogwood's performance still holds its own, however, as one of the finest and freshest available. A first-rate effort." --David Hurwitz
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/B000004CXU/qid=1040846214/sr=1-11/ref=sr_1_11/103-0225174-5677440?v=glance&s=classical
Handel - "Messiah" with Erickson, McNair, Hodgson, Humphrey, Stilwell, The Atlanta Symphony Orchestra with Atlanta Symphony and Chamber Chorus, Robert Shaw conducting, 2 CD set
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/B000003CT7/qid=1040838855/sr=2-1/ref=sr_2_1/103-0225174-5677440
Handel - "Messiah" with E. Farrell, Lipton, Cunningham, Warfield, The Philadelphia Orchestra, Eugene Ormandy conducting, with the Mormon Tabernacle Choir
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/B0000024OE/qid=1040845852/sr=1-10/ref=sr_1_10/103-0225174-5677440?v=glance&s=classical

SCHNEIDER, MICHAEL, Is Christmas Christian? (Cerlox Bound Photocopy Series. Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books).
"An excellent introduction to Christian opposition to Christmas.

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Holidays

Related WebLinks

Christmas: A Biblical Critique by Kevin Reed and M. Schneider
http://www.swrb.com/newslett/actualnls/Xmas_ch0.htm



Theater, Sports, and Entertainment

See: Chapter 6: "Discipleship"
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr6ch.html



TEENS

"Let no one despise thy youth, but a pattern become thou of those believing in word, in behaviour, in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity." (1 Timothy 4:12, YLTHB)

"George Barna reviewed more than a dozen national surveys related to matters of faith conducted by the Barna Research Group during 2000 and devised three lists of faith-related survey results - particularly noteworthy insights. . ."
Surveys showed the following results:

Barger, Eric, From Rock to Rock [70153]

Baucom, John Q., Fatal Choice: The Teenage Suicide Crisis [20917]

Borthwick, Paul, "But You Don't Understand" [70150]

Cook, Earl, The Teenage Puzzle (part 1) [30158]

Cook, Earl, The Teenage Puzzle (part 2) [30159]

Cook, Earl, The Teenage Puzzle (part 3) [30160]

Kesler, Jay, Raising Responsible Kids: Ten Things You Can Do Now to Prepare Your Child for a Lifetime of Independence [70196]

Morris, Harold, Twice Pardoned: An Ex-Con Talks to Parents and Teens [20165]

The Caleb Campaign Office, Caleb Issues and Answers (West Frankfort, IL [The Caleb Campaign Office, Route 4, Box 274, West Frankfort 62896]: The Caleb Campaign). 70290
This is a Christian newspaper for high school students. Boldly presents controversial issues of concern to teens, such as sexually transmitted diseases and abortion. For more information request the "Bill Jack Action Sheet" of August 21, 1991 from "Truths that Transform."

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Abstinence, Christian fiction (The Elsie Books by Martha Finley)

Related WebLinks

virtuoursreality.com, A Website for All Women
http://www.virtuousreality.com/



Teens and Parents

"Give instruction to a youth about his way,
Even when he is old he turneth not from it." (Proverbs 22:6, YLTHB)

"The fathers! vex not your children, lest they be discouraged." (Colossians 4:21, YLTHB)

Davis, Ken, How to Live With Your Parents Without Losing Your Mind! (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House, 1988). 70292
"Will teach teenagers how to change their families by making changes in themselves -- and in the way they view their parents. Ken Davis gives those teenagers hope who previously felt that nothing could be done about their difficult home situations."

Floding, M., Ministering to Parents [30180]

Johnson, Rex, Communication: Key to Your Parents (Irvine, CA: Harvest House Publishers, c1978). 70295

Kesler, Jay, Ten Mistakes Parents Make With Teenagers (And How To Avoid Them) (Brentwood, TN: Wolgemuth and Hyatt Publishers). 70297
"A very specific, practical book that provides a workable guide for parenting that is invaluable. Kesler's insights come from his many years of working with teenagers." -- GCB

Stafford, Tim (editor), The Trouble With Parents: How to Make Peace With Yours (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House, c1978). 70301

Strom, Kay Marshall, Making Friends With Your Father: A Book for Daughters [40111]

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Christian fiction (The Elsie Books by Martha Finley)



Counseling Teens

Remember now thy Creator in the days of thy youth, while the evil days come not, nor the years draw nigh, when thou shalt say, I have no pleasure in them. (Ecclesiastes 12:1 1)

Thou wilt find then that it was easier deceiving thyself than God. "For if a man think himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceiveth himself.
But let every man prove his own work, and then shall he have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another.
Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to the flesh, shall of the flesh reap corruption: but he that soweth to the Spirit, shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting. (Galatians 6:3-5,7)

*BAXTER, RICHARD, A Christian Directory: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1. Full title: A Christian Directory: or A Sum of Practical Theology, and Cases of Conscience. Directing Christians How to Use Their Knowledge and Faith; How to Improve all Helps and Means, and to Perform all Duties; How to Overcome Temptations, and to Escape or Mortify Every Sin. In Four Parts.
I. Christian Ethics (or Private Duties)
II. Christian Economics (or Family Duties)
III. Christian Ecclesiastics (or Church Duties)
IV. Christian Politics (or Duties to Our Rulers and Neighbours)
(Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 1997, 1990, 1838, 1707, 1678, 1673). Foreword by J.I. Packer (Soli Deo Gloria edition only). The Soli Deo Gloria publication is a facsimile reprint of the 19th century reprint by George Virtue, London. The original 1673 edition and the 1678 edition, both printed by Robert White for Nevill Simmons. Bibliographic and scriptural footnotes. A Christian classic.
"The complete practical works of Richard Baxter are in print in four volumes entitled BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS. This volume (about 1 1/4 million words, 1028 pages) is volume one of the set. The editor's preface (1707), p. xiii, stated that the works of Richard Baxter are 'perhaps the best body of practical divinity that is extent in our own or any other tongue.' Richard Baxter lived from 1615-1691. The DIRECTORY was completed in 1665. Its scope was intended to cover all of practical theology, a summa of casuistry . . ." -- Don Kistler
"Baxter's series, which grew in range and scope as it proceeded . . . is a peak point in Puritan devotional writing, and remains a precious resource for all, in this or any age, who want to know what is involved in Biblical godliness. . . . A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY may justly be described as a landmark. It is the fullest, most thorough, and in this writer's judgment, most profound treatment of Christian spirituality and standards that has ever been attempted by an English-speaking Evangelical author. The fact that it embraces both spirituality and standards (the principles of communion with God plus the specifics of obedience to God) merits approving comment in itself; nowadays spirituality and ethics have become two distinct disciplines in the schools, and books written on either say virtually nothing about the other . . ." -- J.I. Packer
Timothy Keller calls it the greatest manual on Biblical counseling ever produced.
"There are many Puritan classics on this subject. Thomas Brooks' PRECIOUS REMEDIES FOR SATAN'S DEVICES, Thomas Goodwin's A CHILD OF LIGHT WALKING IN DARKNESS, William Bridge's A LIFTING UP FOR THE DOWNCAST, and many other similar works give evidence that the Puritans were. . . . masters at applying Biblical answers and principles to problems that can only be solved by spiritual means. No Puritan work, however, has ever approached the popularity, the scope, or the depth of Baxter's classic treatise. With the widespread interest in counseling in today's church, this reprint of Baxter's work should be a welcome addition to every pastor's library, or to anyone else who wishes to give solid Biblical answers to man's questions." -- Don Kistler
"We have long waited for a purely Biblical treatment of the spiritual ills and cures of men which is untainted by the views of psychology. Since Baxter lived about 200 years before psychology arrived, his deep work is completely void of its encroachment -- thankfully!" -- John MacArthur
"The kings men sought to arrest Richard Baxter, but he traveled ceaselessly from place to place, writing his sermons and his books even on horseback (he had an inkwell in his saddle) and preached over a wide area." -- Brian H. Edwards
"Baxter was a wonder of his age. His writings total 72 large volumes, much of it written on horseback as he traveled in his widespread preaching efforts. He seldom, if ever, edited anything he wrote. Knowing this any reader will be amazed at how well he communicated his deep love for his Savior. For 26 years he was public enemy No. 1 to the king, yet he lived to see the flight of the king in 1688." -- Jay P. Green, Sr.
POOR MAN'S FAMILY BOOK (1674) and THE CATECHIZING OF FAMILIES (1683), found elsewhere in BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, are less detailed works. They are more suitable for family instruction than are the detailed presentation in A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY.
" Ptacek in Family Worship (p. 51-52), supplies the following information in regard to Baxter and this book. He notes that after the Episcopalians ejected numerous `nonconformists,' in what is know as the `great ejection,' in 1662, `Baxter pastored from house to house, visiting families of his parish in their homes. These visits contributed to Baxter's A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, a large and still very relevant manual of pastoral care.' Focusing on just one area of great importance, Ptacek demonstrates how this book's relevance is not limited by time or culture, though sometimes the use of specific words are. `Published in 1673, but written 1664-65, a large book-length part of Baxter's CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY is devoted to the family. It is entitled `Christian Economics' based on the archaic usage of the word, which reflects the proper sense of the Greek root oikonomos as the manager of a household, in the Christian case, the spiritual leader of the family. The family head is essential to Baxter's view of family worship and instruction. Baxter asserts that it is God's will that this instruction be carried out by the rulers of the families.' For a male head of the household to fail to do so, or to have another instruct in the family, is contrary to his position of authority.' This is the kind of book that can be passed on from generation to generation and still find much use in the service of the kingdom of God. . . . "Though relatively weak on corporate sanctification, corporate faithfulness and some important areas of doctrine (such as justification), Baxter's work on subjects related to personal piety can be of good practical use to the Christian -- if one is careful to separate out his aberrant doctrinal views and any practical errors they may lead to." -- SWRB
This work is available in many editions, and in many formats.
Reformation Heritage Books has new copies of the Soli Deo Gloria edition as of March 2008, even though it is generally thought to be out of print. They acquired Soli Deo Gloria from Ligonier Ministries in late 2007. They may be the publisher who will eventually reprints the title.
http://www.heritagebooks.org/
The reprint by George Virtue is included on Reformation Bookshelf CD #21, ISBN: 0921148992 9780921148999.
The reprint by George Virtue is available as a Cerlox bound photocopy from Still Waters Revival Books, Edmonton, AB, Canada.
The reprint by George Virtue is available online and may be downloaded in PDF format at Christian Classics Ethereal Library.
http://www.ccel.org/ccel/baxter/practical.toc.html
The reprint by George Virtue is included in THE AMAZING CHRISTIAN LIBRARY, DVD Four, CD #21
http://www.AmazingLibrary.com
The reprint by George Virtue appears in full preview in Google Books but may not be downloaded. About five other editions from libraries are available in Google Books, and may be downloaded (August 2008).
Notice that the etext in Google Books has the advantage of being searchable. Searching an image-based PDF file is not possible, unless the user owns software such as Abode Acrobat Pro or Kirtas BookScan Editor. They both have an OCR (optical character recognition) feature that will search an image-based PDFs (bit-map scans). Searches appear to be perfect in this work, although one must know Baxter's vocabulary. Text can be cut and paste from image-based PDF format to OCR (character) format. This particular Google Books scan can not be cut and pasted or downloaded.
http://books.google.com/books?id=cyQFBOUHkaoC&dq=A+Christian+Directory+inpublisher:lettermen+inpublisher:associates&lr=&as_brr=0&ie=ISO-8859-1
One of the older, multi-volume editions of THE WORKS OF RICHARD BAXTER is available at Monergism.com in the "Puritan Library," "Richard Baxter." A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, volume 23. It can be downloaded.
http://www.puritanlibrary.com/
Another older edition is available on microfilm (Ann Arbor, MI: University Microfilms, 1970), 1 microfilm reel, 35 mm (Early English books, 1641-1700; 343:11).
The following three excerpts are included as bonus free books on Reformation Bookshelf CD #28, ISBN: 0921148267 9780921148265.
1. "The Duties of Parents for Their Children" from Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1, A Christian Directory, on Christian Economics, Chap. X., pp. 449-454.
2. "The Special Duties of Children Towards Their Parents" from Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1, A Christian Directory, on Christian Economics, Chap. XI., pp. 454-457.
3. "The Special Duties of Children and Youth Towards God" from Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1, A Christian Directory, on Christian Economics, Chap. XII., pp. 457-458).
The Richard Baxter Page
http://members.aol.com/augusteen/Baxter.html

*Baxter, Richard, The Reformed Pastor: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 4 (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 2000, 1992). A Christian classic.
"This is the fourth and final volume in this great set. Includes, [`Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men,'] `The Reformed Pastor' `Poor Man's Family Book,' `The Catechizing of Families,' and `The Mother's Catechism,' in all 25 sermons, treatises, and catechisms. Dr. J.I. Packer says, `For me, the great joy of this year is that it see the completion of Soli Deo Gloria's reprint of Baxter's incomparable PRACTICAL WORKS'." -- GCB
The Reformed Pastor, Richard Baxter
http://www.e4.net
The Richard Baxter Page
http://members.aol.com/augusteen/Baxter.html
Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men (1681), by Richard Baxter
http://www.lettermen2.com/ccaym.html

*Scott, Buddy, Counseling Teenagers
"A complete text and tape instruction manual from a man who has dealt with hundreds of delinquent teens. A most useful Biblical treatment. Recommended as helpful by the Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation."

Miller, C. John, Youth Evangelism: Dealing With Depression and Suicide (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 30313
Audio cassette CM101.

Rogers, Judy, "Stand Up" (Jackson, MS [Judy Rogers Tapes, 5125 Robinson Road, Jackson 39204]: Judy Rogers Tapes). 70304
"Songs dealing with `Teen' issues challenging Christian young people to deeper commitment. Songs such as `Glorify Him' (1 Corinthians 10:31); `That's Not Love' (1 Corinthians 13)."

Rogers, Judy, "Walkin' Wise: A Powerful Message for Teens" (Jackson, MS [Judy Rogers Tapes, 5125 Robinson Road, Jackson 39204]: Judy Rogers Tapes). 70305
Songs based on Psalms, Proverbs, and Ecclesiastes for teens. "A powerful message for teens."

Sherouse, Deborah L., Adolescent Drug and Alcohol Abuse Handbook: For Parents and Professionals [20724]

Spotts, Dwight, and David Veerman, Reaching Out to Troubled Youth (Wheaton, IL: Scripture Press Publications, Inc.). 70307
"This double-column book is a resource tool offering facts, figures, case studies, and practical advice for reaching out to young people who hurt. Advice is offered on how to: communicate, discipline, share the hope of the Gospel, and how to deal with special problems like substance abuse, child abuse, and homosexuality." -- GCB

Sprague, William B., Lectures to Young People [20129]

Sprague, William B., Letters of Practical Subjects to a Daughter (Harrisonburg, VA [Sprinkle Publications, P.O. Box 1094, Harrisonburg, 22803]: Sprinkle Publications). 70308
"The counsel of this book is applicable to sons as well as daughters. . . . here is a 19th century Solomon intent upon imparting to his child a wisdom and sanctified common sense akin to the Proverbs."

Sprague, William B., Letters to Young Men Founded on the History of Joseph (Harrisonburg, VA [Sprinkle Publications, P.O. Box 1094, Harrisonburg, 22803]: Sprinkle Publications).
"Applies truth from Joseph's life to those of young men centuries later." -- Lloyd T. Sprinkle

Terkelsen, Helen E., I'm Going to Have a Baby and I'm Not Married [40223]

Wilson, Earl D., A Silence to be Broken: Hope for Those Caught in the Web of Incest

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Counsel for Young Men, Counsel for young women, Courtship, Abstinence, Christian fiction (The Elsie Books by Martha Finley), Sexually Transmitted Diseases (see Sex Education), Counseling the Family, Biblical Counsel by Subject, Parenting, Justification, Topical listings of Scripture, Training in Biblical counseling, Works of Jay Adams

Related WebLinks

Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men (1681), by Richard Baxter
http://www.lettermen2.com/ccaym.html

virtuoursreality.com, A Website for All Women
http://www.virtuousreality.com/



Courtship

*Harris, Joshua, I Kissed Dating Goodbye: A New Attitude Toward Romance and Relationships, 1997
"Tired of the game? Kiss dating goodbye. Dating. Isn't there a better way? I Kissed Dating Goodbye suggests there is. Reorder your romantic life in the light of God's Word and find more fulfillment than a date could ever give a life of sincere love, true purity and purposeful singleness" (back cover). "I don't think that I've ever read a book in which the author is more honest and real than Josh is in this one. He tackles the hard issues, the tough questions on this confusing topic of 'to date or not to date.' And he gives practical answers. Joshua Harris has a powerful way of sharing from his experience. And since he is our age (just out of the teen years himself), he knows what he's talking about. One of the things that I like the most about Josh's writing is that he brings it all back to the Bible and how we can really live what it says. And after knowing him for the last couple of years, I can truly says that he 'walks his talk'." -- Rebecca St. James, from the Foreword

*Voshell, Dorothy, Whom Shall I Marry? [40076]

Price, Greg, Christian Education in the Home: Help! My Daughter Wants to Date (Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books).
"Contrasts the non-covenantal pagan view of dating with the covenantal Christian view of Biblical courtship. Shows how the world has insidiously invaded the church (through music, TV, movies, godless public education, etc.) and how this has impacted the raising of our children. Includes a lengthy list of questions for interviewing prospective suitors and an appendix on the Biblical role of women. A very practical, unique item, laying the foundation for blessed biblical marriages. Related item: Courtship Versus Dating by Greg Price." -- SWRB
"Dating or Courtship: Which is Biblical?, audio cassette online by Greg Price
http://sphynx.idontknow.com/swrb/dating.ram

*Price, Greg, "Dating or Courtship: Which is Biblical? (1/2)
http://sphynx.idontknow.com/swrb/dating.ram

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#2) "Preparing for Marriage 1/2," contains advanced teaching on courtship.

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#3) "Preparing for Marriage 2/2," contains advanced teaching on courtship.

Stafford, Tim, Find the Right One: Twenty Questions Before You Marry [70006]

West, Jim, Christian Courtship Verses the Dating Game 70313A
"Important Biblical principles are considered that have nearly been lost in our day." -- GCB

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Abstinence, Men, women and God, Christian fiction (The Elsie Books by Martha Finley)

Related WebLinks

virtuoursreality.com, A Website for All Women
http://www.virtuousreality.com/



Teens and Sex

*Foster, David Kyle, Sexual Healing: God's Plan for the Sanctification of Broken Lives: A Reference Manual for Ministering to Those Trapped in Sexual Sin and Brokenness (Jacksonville, FL [Mastering Life Ministries, P.O. Box 351149, Jacksonville 32235]: Mastering Life Ministries, 1997).
This is a unique work and the best resource known to the compiler offering biblical counsel for healing sexual brokenness. See "Foundations" and "Divine Intent for Sexuality" for a biblical explanation of the spiritual significance of sexuality. These two chapters alone make the purchase of the book worthwhile. Includes chapters, study guides, and exercises for Root sources for improper sexual development, Sexual identity confusion, Child sex abuse, Sexual addition, Pornography, Masturbation, voyeurism and exhibitionism, Why people remain in sexual sin and bondage, Failure and self-condemnation, A comprehensive game plan for sexual healing, and so forth. Indexed, 398 pages, includes bibliography.
Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

McIlhaney, Joe S., Jr., Sexuality and Sexually Transmitted Diseases [70177]

Putnam, Bill, Daddy, I'm Pregnant [70102]

Stafford, Tim, A Love Story: Questions and Answers on Sex [70179]

Wilson, Earl D., A Silence to be Broken: Hope for Those Caught in the Web of Incest

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Courtship, Abstinence, Gratuitous Sex and Violence, Sex Education, Counsel for Young Men, Counsel for Young Women, AIDs

Related WebLinks

virtuoursreality.com, A Website for All Women
http://www.virtuousreality.com/

True Love Waits
http://www.truelovewaits.com/

Sex Respect
http://www.sexrespect.com/default2.html

Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org



Finding the Perfect Parent in God

Remember that you are entering into the way to everlasting life, and not into a place of happiness or continuance. Presently therefore set your hearts on heaven, and make it the design of all your lives, to live in heaven with Christ for ever. O happy you, if God betimes will thoroughly teach you to know what it is that must make you happy; and if at your first setting out, your end be right, and your faces be heavenward! Remember that as soon as you begin to live, you are hasting towards the end of your lives: even as a candle as soon as it beginneth to burn, and the hour-glass as soon as it is turned, is wasting, and hasting to its end; so as soon as you begin to live, your lives are in consumption, and posting towards your final hour. . . . -- Richard Baxter

Davis, Phil, The Father I Never Knew: Finding the Perfect Parent in God (Colorado Springs, CO: NavPress, 1991). 70316
"Painful memories or inadequate parenting examples often rob Christians of a healthy, Biblical framework for understanding what it really means to be God's child. THE FATHER I NEVER KNEW provides an abundance of rich images and stirring analogies on God's unfailingly committed, secure, and intimate parenting." -- Publisher's Annotation

McClung, Floyd, Jr., The Father Heart of God [10212]

Packer, J.I., Your Father Loves You: Daily Insights for Knowing God [31675]

See also: The Characteristics and Attributes of God, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership



Teens Coping With the World

*BAXTER, RICHARD, A Christian Directory: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1. Full title: A Christian Directory: or A Sum of Practical Theology, and Cases of Conscience. Directing Christians How to Use Their Knowledge and Faith; How to Improve all Helps and Means, and to Perform all Duties; How to Overcome Temptations, and to Escape or Mortify Every Sin. In Four Parts.
I. Christian Ethics (or Private Duties)
II. Christian Economics (or Family Duties)
III. Christian Ecclesiastics (or Church Duties)
IV. Christian Politics (or Duties to Our Rulers and Neighbours)
(Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 1997, 1990, 1838, 1707, 1678, 1673). Foreword by J.I. Packer (Soli Deo Gloria edition only). The Soli Deo Gloria publication is a facsimile reprint of the 19th century reprint by George Virtue, London. The original 1673 edition and the 1678 edition, both printed by Robert White for Nevill Simmons. Bibliographic and scriptural footnotes. A Christian classic.
"The complete practical works of Richard Baxter are in print in four volumes entitled BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS. This volume (about 1 1/4 million words, 1028 pages) is volume one of the set. The editor's preface (1707), p. xiii, stated that the works of Richard Baxter are 'perhaps the best body of practical divinity that is extent in our own or any other tongue.' Richard Baxter lived from 1615-1691. The DIRECTORY was completed in 1665. Its scope was intended to cover all of practical theology, a summa of casuistry . . ." -- Don Kistler
"Baxter's series, which grew in range and scope as it proceeded . . . is a peak point in Puritan devotional writing, and remains a precious resource for all, in this or any age, who want to know what is involved in Biblical godliness. . . . A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY may justly be described as a landmark. It is the fullest, most thorough, and in this writer's judgment, most profound treatment of Christian spirituality and standards that has ever been attempted by an English-speaking Evangelical author. The fact that it embraces both spirituality and standards (the principles of communion with God plus the specifics of obedience to God) merits approving comment in itself; nowadays spirituality and ethics have become two distinct disciplines in the schools, and books written on either say virtually nothing about the other . . ." -- J.I. Packer
Timothy Keller calls it the greatest manual on Biblical counseling ever produced.
"There are many Puritan classics on this subject. Thomas Brooks' PRECIOUS REMEDIES FOR SATAN'S DEVICES, Thomas Goodwin's A CHILD OF LIGHT WALKING IN DARKNESS, William Bridge's A LIFTING UP FOR THE DOWNCAST, and many other similar works give evidence that the Puritans were. . . . masters at applying Biblical answers and principles to problems that can only be solved by spiritual means. No Puritan work, however, has ever approached the popularity, the scope, or the depth of Baxter's classic treatise. With the widespread interest in counseling in today's church, this reprint of Baxter's work should be a welcome addition to every pastor's library, or to anyone else who wishes to give solid Biblical answers to man's questions." -- Don Kistler
"We have long waited for a purely Biblical treatment of the spiritual ills and cures of men which is untainted by the views of psychology. Since Baxter lived about 200 years before psychology arrived, his deep work is completely void of its encroachment -- thankfully!" -- John MacArthur
"The kings men sought to arrest Richard Baxter, but he traveled ceaselessly from place to place, writing his sermons and his books even on horseback (he had an inkwell in his saddle) and preached over a wide area." -- Brian H. Edwards
"Baxter was a wonder of his age. His writings total 72 large volumes, much of it written on horseback as he traveled in his widespread preaching efforts. He seldom, if ever, edited anything he wrote. Knowing this any reader will be amazed at how well he communicated his deep love for his Savior. For 26 years he was public enemy No. 1 to the king, yet he lived to see the flight of the king in 1688." -- Jay P. Green, Sr.
POOR MAN'S FAMILY BOOK (1674) and THE CATECHIZING OF FAMILIES (1683), found elsewhere in BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, are less detailed works. They are more suitable for family instruction than are the detailed presentation in A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY.
" Ptacek in Family Worship (p. 51-52), supplies the following information in regard to Baxter and this book. He notes that after the Episcopalians ejected numerous `nonconformists,' in what is know as the `great ejection,' in 1662, `Baxter pastored from house to house, visiting families of his parish in their homes. These visits contributed to Baxter's A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, a large and still very relevant manual of pastoral care.' Focusing on just one area of great importance, Ptacek demonstrates how this book's relevance is not limited by time or culture, though sometimes the use of specific words are. `Published in 1673, but written 1664-65, a large book-length part of Baxter's CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY is devoted to the family. It is entitled `Christian Economics' based on the archaic usage of the word, which reflects the proper sense of the Greek root oikonomos as the manager of a household, in the Christian case, the spiritual leader of the family. The family head is essential to Baxter's view of family worship and instruction. Baxter asserts that it is God's will that this instruction be carried out by the rulers of the families.' For a male head of the household to fail to do so, or to have another instruct in the family, is contrary to his position of authority.' This is the kind of book that can be passed on from generation to generation and still find much use in the service of the kingdom of God. . . . "Though relatively weak on corporate sanctification, corporate faithfulness and some important areas of doctrine (such as justification), Baxter's work on subjects related to personal piety can be of good practical use to the Christian -- if one is careful to separate out his aberrant doctrinal views and any practical errors they may lead to." -- SWRB
This work is available in many editions, and in many formats.
Reformation Heritage Books has new copies of the Soli Deo Gloria edition as of March 2008, even though it is generally thought to be out of print. They acquired Soli Deo Gloria from Ligonier Ministries in late 2007. They may be the publisher who will eventually reprints the title.
http://www.heritagebooks.org/
The reprint by George Virtue is included on Reformation Bookshelf CD #21, ISBN: 0921148992 9780921148999.
The reprint by George Virtue is available as a Cerlox bound photocopy from Still Waters Revival Books, Edmonton, AB, Canada.
The reprint by George Virtue is available online and may be downloaded in PDF format at Christian Classics Ethereal Library.
http://www.ccel.org/ccel/baxter/practical.toc.html
The reprint by George Virtue is included in THE AMAZING CHRISTIAN LIBRARY, DVD Four, CD #21
http://www.AmazingLibrary.com
The reprint by George Virtue appears in full preview in Google Books but may not be downloaded. About five other editions from libraries are available in Google Books, and may be downloaded (August 2008).
Notice that the etext in Google Books has the advantage of being searchable. Searching an image-based PDF file is not possible, unless the user owns software such as Abode Acrobat Pro or Kirtas BookScan Editor. They both have an OCR (optical character recognition) feature that will search an image-based PDFs (bit-map scans). Searches appear to be perfect in this work, although one must know Baxter's vocabulary. Text can be cut and paste from image-based PDF format to OCR (character) format. This particular Google Books scan can not be cut and pasted or downloaded.
http://books.google.com/books?id=cyQFBOUHkaoC&dq=A+Christian+Directory+inpublisher:lettermen+inpublisher:associates&lr=&as_brr=0&ie=ISO-8859-1
One of the older, multi-volume editions of THE WORKS OF RICHARD BAXTER is available at Monergism.com in the "Puritan Library," "Richard Baxter." A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, volume 23. It can be downloaded.
http://www.puritanlibrary.com/
Another older edition is available on microfilm (Ann Arbor, MI: University Microfilms, 1970), 1 microfilm reel, 35 mm (Early English books, 1641-1700; 343:11).
The following three excerpts are included as bonus free books on Reformation Bookshelf CD #28, ISBN: 0921148267 9780921148265.
1. "The Duties of Parents for Their Children" from Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1, A Christian Directory, on Christian Economics, Chap. X., pp. 449-454.
2. "The Special Duties of Children Towards Their Parents" from Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1, A Christian Directory, on Christian Economics, Chap. XI., pp. 454-457.
3. "The Special Duties of Children and Youth Towards God" from Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1, A Christian Directory, on Christian Economics, Chap. XII., pp. 457-458).
The Richard Baxter Page
http://members.aol.com/augusteen/Baxter.html

*Baxter, Richard, The Reformed Pastor: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 4 (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 2000, 1992). A Christian classic.
"This is the fourth and final volume in this great set. Includes, [`Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men,'] `The Reformed Pastor' `Poor Man's Family Book,' `The Catechizing of Families,' and `The Mother's Catechism,' in all 25 sermons, treatises, and catechisms. Dr. J.I. Packer says, `For me, the great joy of this year is that it see the completion of Soli Deo Gloria's reprint of Baxter's incomparable PRACTICAL WORKS'." -- GCB
The Reformed Pastor, Richard Baxter
http://www.e4.net
The Richard Baxter Page
http://members.aol.com/augusteen/Baxter.html
Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men (1681), by Richard Baxter
http://www.lettermen2.com/ccaym.html

Becker, Verne (editor), Surviving High School (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers). 70318
"Articles by Jay Kesler, Philip Yancey, Ruth Senter, Tim Stafford, Steve Lawhead, and others." -- GCB

Cook, Robert, It's Tough to Be a Teenager (Wheaton, IL: Scripture Press, 1955). 70322
"Written by one who is cognizant of and sympathetic with the problems of youth." -- Cyril J. Barber

Miller, C. John, Youth Evangelism: Dealing With Depression and Suicide (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 30313
Audio cassette CM101.

Sanders, Bill, Tough Turf: A Teen Survival Manual (Old Tappan, NJ: Fleming H. Revell). 70323
"Written for teenagers by a man who specializes in young people. He covers drinking, drugs, peer-pressure, and building a positive self-image." -- GCB

See also: Creeds, confessions and catechisms, Biblical counsel by subject, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Abstinence, Suicide, Christianity and the workplace, Counseling teens, Crisis counseling, Depression, Parenting, Prodigals, Pseudo-Christian movements, Reconciliation of relationships, Resources for students, Secret societies and unholy alliance, Sex, Sexually transmitted diseases (see Sex education), Suicide, Teens

Related WebLinks

Compassionate Counsel to all Young Men (1681), by Richard Baxter
http://www.lettermen2.com/ccaym.html

virtuoursreality.com, A Website for All Women
http://www.virtuousreality.com/

True Love Waits
http://www.truelovewaits.com/

Sex Respect
http://www.sexrespect.com/default2.html

Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org



EDUCATION

"The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge." (Proverbs 1:7a)

My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children. As they were increased, so they sinned against me: therefore will I change their glory into shame. (Hosea 4:6,7)

People fear the Truks, wars, and floods, for in such matters they can see what is injurious or beneficial; but what the devil has in mind no one sees or fears. Yet where we would give a florin [dollar] to defend ourselves against the Turks, we should give a hundred florins to protect us against ignorance, even if only one boy could be taught to be a truly Christian man; for the good such a man can accomplish is beyond all computation. -- Martin Luther

Let every Student be plainly instructed, and earnestly pressed to consider well, the maine end of his life and studies is, to know God and Jesus Christ which is eternall life, John 17:3, and therefore to lay Christ in the bottome, as the only foundation of all sound knowledge and Learning. And seeing the Lord only giveth wisedome, Let every one seriously set himself by prayer in secret to seeke it of him Prov. 2. (September 26, 1642) -- Rules and Precepts That Are Observed in the College at Cambridge in Massachusetts Bay (now known as Harvard University)

There is no man that ever understood the interest of mankind, of families, cities, kingdoms, churches, and of Jesus Christ the King and Saviour, but he must needs know that the right instruction, education, and sanctification of youth, is of unspeakable consequence to them all. In the place where God most blessed my labours (at Kidderminster, in Worcestershire,) my first and greatest success was upon the youth. And (which was a marvellous way of divine mercy) when God had touched the hearts of young men and girls with a love of goodness, and delightful obedience to the truth, the parents and grandfathers, who had grown old in an ignorant, worldly state, did many of them fall into liking and love of piety, induced by the love of their children, whom they perceived to be made by it much wiser and better, and more dutiful to them. -- Richard Baxter

"One hundred and six of the first 108 schools in America were founded on the Christian faith."

Cornell University interim President, Hunter R. Rawlings, used the 2005 State of the University Speech to address the ongoing matter of the conflict between religion and science, "a matter I believe is of great significance to Cornell and to the country as a whole, a matter with fundamental educational, intellectual, and political implications. The issue in question is the challenge to science posed by religiously-based opposition to evolution, described, in its current form, as 'intelligent design. . . .' This controversy raises profound questions about the nature of public discourse and what we teach in universities, and it has a profound effect on public policy.
"I believe the time has come for universities like Cornell to contribute to the nation's cultural and intellectual discourse. [In keeping with "our founder's goal of assuring greatness through diversity" and the University motto "Freedom with responsibility."-- sk] We must be willing to take on a broader role as defenders of rational thought and framers of discourse about culture and society. In this spirit, I have asked our three academic task forces, on Life in the age of the Genome, Wisdom in the age of Digital Information, and Sustainability, to consider means of confronting the following questions: how to separate information from knowledge and knowledge from ideology; how to understand and address the ethical dilemmas and anxieties that scientific discovery has produced; and how to assess the influence of secular humanism on culture and society." [The complex dilema of the aforementioned issues, is, in fact, the making of both contending parties, neither of whom, have distinguished between Truth and knowledge.-- sk]
The speech can be found at the following website:
Hunter R. Rawlings' State of the University Speech, 2005
http://www.cornell.edu/president/announcement_2005_1021.cfm
Just some historical background. These controversies are often referred to as the Warfare Myth. Cornell University was the only Ivy League university founded without a Theology Department, a controversy at the time (1865). Andrew Dickson White, the first President of Cornell, and its cofounder, refused to give students at Cornell religious tests. He wrote A HISTORY OF THE WARFARE OF SCIENCE WITH RELIGION IN CHRISTENDOM, 2 volumes (1869) "in angry response" to critics. "As noble as his intentions may have been, the resulting book is a travesty and is largely responsible for creating the common Warfare Myth that has plagued the relationship between science and faith since the nineteenth century [for the last 137 years-- sk]."
We respectfully submit to the learned and esteemed President Rawling, members of the three Academic Task Forces, faculty, and alumni of Cornell University, that the long-term, complex Warfare Myth controvery could be "brought down to size" and could best be resolved by establishing a Department of Epistemology, the "Queen of the Sciences." Epistemology is "the study or a theory of the nature and grounds of knowledge especially with reference to its limits and validity." To that end we offer a modest bibliography of some of Gordon Haddon Clark's works on Epistemology. Clark is considered by many to be the most important Philosopher of the 20th Century.
Of course, one of the attributes of our Trinitarian God is Truth. He is Truth, absolute and unchanging, the only source of Truth and the source of All Truth.
A broad overview of literature shows an evident interconnection between "absolute truth, life (temporal and eternal), moral behavior (law and order, and justice), freedom (religious, political, economic, and individual, (the definition of true religion found in the Westminster Standards and the Covenanted Reformation), social stability (peace, security, prosperity, and happiness), justification, sanctification, personal spiritual growth, social transformation, education, the arts, scientific discovery, real progress, and the realization of the Kingdom of God upon earth"
Those questioning the impact of Theology on Society are referred to the following:
A Theological Interpretation of American History
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr9chc.html#stiahis
Of course, when Theology and Society are viewed as a whole, then the responsibility for equitable judicial action becomes an imperative. This judicial imperative is the highest calling and, unfortunately, the calling that most seek to avoid. We must confront ourselves with the fact that, in some cases, the battle of science against the Truth is in reality a battle against the constraints of moral absolutes and ethics imposed by the truth of The Triune God. And we must own up to our male responsibility to exercise judicial equity in all spheres of society.
Logically any university, to be great, must teach both Truth from Theology and knowledge from science, because a society without Truth is self-destructive.
In these times we strongly urge Cornell, and her new president, Dr. David J. Skorton (July 2006), to establish a Department of Epistemology and to staff it with scholars of the caliber of Gordon H. Clark.
Furthermore, we strongly urge Cornell to add scholars of the Scottish Covenanted Reformation to their new [1990s] Department of Theology, because we believe that it is only through Covenanted Reformation that society can attain to corporate faithfulness and sanctification.

autodidact: A self-taught person.

Adler, Mortimer, in GREAT BOOKS OF WESTERN CIVILIZATION, concluded that more problems are caused by the denial of God than by anything else -- it changes the whole tenure of life.

To the orthodox Christian, the shabby incarnations of the reigning historiographies are both absurd and offensive. They are idols, and he is forbidden to bow down to them and must indeed wage war against them. -- ~Rousas John Rushdoony

From my personal perspective, every academic discipline ultimately falls into one of two categories: theology or history. Theology is the study of the character and attributes of God. History is the providential structure and working of God's plan through time and eternity in the cosmos. Traditional academic disciplines such as mathematics, composition, and science all take place and find meaning within the context of a historical event called Creation and God's continuing, unfolding plan through history. -- Doug Phillips

THE INSTITUTES OF THE CHRISTIAN RELIGION by John Calvin is "still considered by many to be the finest explanation and defense of the Protestant Reformation available."
"The work is divided into four books: I. The Knowledge of God the Creator, II. The Knowledge of God the Redeemer in Christ, III. The Mode of Obtaining the Grace of Christ, IV. The External Means or Helps by Which God Allures Us Into Fellowship With Christ and Keeps Us in It. . . . THE INSTITUTES is praised by the secular philosopher, Will Durant, as one of the ten books that shook the world." Will Durant and his wife, Ariel, spent their lifetimes writing THE STORY OF CIVILIZATION in 11 volumes.

Beechick, Ruth, A Biblical Psychology of Learning: How Your Mind Works (Denver, CO: Accent Books, 1982).
"May be the finest book on the contemporary scene that explains the learning process, while allowing the Scriptures to judge the vast array of learning theories. The mode of learning the author presents and her discussion of creativity, higher thinking, and the spiritual developmental tasks are provocative. But her use of the Biblical concept of the heart marks the book with its uniqueness. It pries open a variety of areas with a new touch." -- Warren S. Benson

Bell, Robert, Impure Science: Fraud, Compromise, and Political Influence in Scientific Research (New York: Wiley, 1992), 320 pages.
"The author lifts the veil of secrecy from scientific research conducted in this country. He presents a shattering indictment of the scientific community from the halls of government to the research centers at major universities and corporations. Documents case after case of influence peddling, doctored research and outright fraud, and reveals how the twin forces of money and status compromise and corrupt the pursuit of scientific truth." -- Publisher's Annotation

Day, Heather F., Protestant Theological Education in America: A Bibliography (ATLA Bibliography Series, No. 15. Metuchen, NJ: Scarecrow Press, Incorporated, 1985). 70326

Gangel, Kenneth O., and Warren S. Benson, Christian Education: Its History and Philosophy (Chicago, IL: Moody Press). 70327
"This is a detailed look into the history of Christian Education, starting in the Old Testament and considering the impact of Greek philosophy right on through the last quarter of the 20th century. It is a historical study of the philosophical thought of education from a Christian point of view." -- GCB

*Harper, Norman E., Making Disciples: The Challenge of Christian Education at the End of the 20th Century (Memphis, TN: Christian Studies Center, 1981). 90204
"An important monograph calling believers back to the primary role of Christian education in the local church . . ." -- Cyril J. Barber

Holmes, Arthur F., The Idea of a Christian College (Grand Rapids, MI: Wm.B. Eerdmans Publishing Co., 1975). 70328
"In this timely treatise Holmes sets forth the sine qua non of Christian higher education: The integration of faith and learning." -- Cyril J. Barber

Jeffreys, Montague Vaughan Castelman (M.V.C Jeffreys), Truth is not Neutral: A Study of Freedom and Authority in Religious Education (Religious Education P, 1969)

Johnson, Paul M., Intellectuals: From Marx and Tolstoy to Sartre and Chomsky, revised edition, (Harper Perennial, May 1, 2007), 416 pages, ISBN-10: 0061253170 ISBN-13: 978-0061253171.
"A fascinating portrait of the minds that have shaped the modern world. In an intriguing series of case studies, Rousseau, Shelley, Marx, Ibsen, Tolstoy, Hemingway, Bertrand Russell, Brecht, Sartre, Edmund Wilson, Victor Gollancz, Lillian Hellman, Cyril Connolly, Norman Mailer, James Baldwin, Kenneth Tynan, and Noam Chomsky, among others, are revealed as intellectuals both brilliant and contradictory, magnetic and dangerous.
"Paul Johnson has written many books, including Creators, George Washington, Modern Times, and Art: A New History. He contributes a weekly essay to the Spectator and a monthly column to Forbes. He lives in London, England, and lectures all over the world." -- Publisher's Annotation
"Johnson's thesis is quite simple: the revolutionary thinkers whose ideas have shaped intellectual history over the past 250 years were, for the most part, lousy human beings. . . .
"For example, Jean-Jacques Rousseau is adored by educational theorists and his ideas and entrenched in the curricula of teachers' colleges, despite the fact that he serially abandoned every one of his children. Karl Marx was bourgeois to the core and seems to have exploited the only working-class woman he ever knew: paying her starvation wages, impregnating her and forcing her to abandon their child. Johnson lacerates the behaviour of these prominent figures, but more importantly shows how their shabby personal values foreshadow the social harm their works engendered." -- Reader's Comment Johnson's conclusion, "Above all, we must at all times remember what intellectuals habitually forget: that people matter more than concepts and must come first. The worst of all despotisms is the heartless tyranny of ideas."
"Unabomber and Harvard," Bill Steigerwald, Atlantic Monthly, 285, Part 6 (2000): 41-65.
"After a thorough study of Ted Kaczynski's college career and his writings, Chase makes a plausible case that the Unabomber was born and bred at Harvard University."
http://www.worldnetdaily.com/index.php?pageId=7368

Kelly, Kent, The Separation of Church and Freedom [90071B]

*Lee, Rachel Gillespie, Learning Centers for Better Christian Education [40127]

Leming, James S. (compiler), Foundations of Moral Education: An Annotated Bibliography (Westport, CT: Greenwood Press, 1983). 70329
"This bibliography is designed to be used in two ways. The first, through the author and subject indexes, should enable the user to identify items and subjects of interest. The second approach may be more efficient. The arrangement of the bibliography allows the user to peruse related items of interest and determine the amount of information available on a given subject. Whichever method is chosen, the information contained within these covers would help to facilitate research on the all-important issue of moral education."-- Cyril J. Barber

*Machen, Gresham J., Education, Christianity and the State (Jefferson, MD: The Trinity Foundation). [90316]
"Machen was one of the foremost educators, theologians, and defenders of Christianity in the twentieth century. The author of numerous scholarly books, Machen saw clearly that if Christianity is to survive and flourish, a system of Christian grade schools must be established. This collection of essays captures his thought on education over nearly three decades." -- The Trinity Foundation

*Maffet, Gregory J., Biblical Schools for Covenant Children (Middleburg Heights, OH: Reformed Educational Publishing and Consulting Company, 1987). 70324
Introduction by Jay Adams.

Mooremann, Phillip, The Christian Home Study Handbook, 1986, 2nd edition (Gladstone, OR: George Whitefield Publishing Co., 1985). 70330
"Ideal for those who want reliable guidance on correspondence courses. Also of value to pastors who are asked about continuing education. Includes information on video and cassette tapes, lending libraries, and available software. Well produced, reliable." -- Cyril J. Barber

*Morris, Henry Madison, Education for the Real World, 2nd edition (San Diego, CA: Master Books, 1983). 70325

*Perks, Stephen C., The Christian Philosophy of Education Explained (Whitby, England: Avant, Books, 1992). 70331
"The editor of Calvinism Today magazine has written a book which, in the words of Samuel L. Blumenfeld, demonstrates with simplicity the cogent argument that the Christian and humanist world views are mutually exclusive, and that it is `treason against God' to put children in the hands of non-believers for their education. Every Christian parent should read this challenging, forthright, insightful book before deciding where and how to educate his or her children." -- GCB

Ringenberg, William C., The Christian College: A History of Protestant Higher Education in America (Grand Rapids, MI: Wm.B. Eerdmans Publishing Co., 1984). 70332

Ryle, J.C., The Duties of Parents [70141]

Tell, Bill, and Sue Tell, Well-Versed Kids [20033]

Thoburn, Robert, The Children Trap (Fort Worth, TX: Dominion Press). 90361
"One of today's outstanding educators sees the peril our children are in. What can Christians do to avert even greater problems in the future? Why do so many Christians still believe that the public schools are neutral concerning Christianity? What should true education consist of?" -- GCB

Van Dyken, Donald, Rediscovering Catechism: The Art of Equipping Covenant Children

Wolterstorff, Nicholas P., Educating for Responsible Action [90382]

See also: Epistemology, Creeds, Confessions, and Catechisms, Home Schooling, Public Schools, Christian scholarship, The application of scripture to the corporate bodies of church and state, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Christian fiction (The Elsie Books by Martha Finley)

Related WebLinks

Epistemology
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr1cha.html#epist

The History of Calvinism
Dr. C. Gregg Singer, The Christian View of History
http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?SID=72902195726

Apologetics #24: The Recovery of Christian Theism
Dr. C. Gregg Singer, Apologetics, 58 min.
http://www.sermonaudio.com/play.asp?ID=3205142039

Christian Education

Christian Education
Dr. C. Gregg Singer, Christian Education, 24 min.
http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?SID=12160372315

#01: The History and Role of the Church in Education
Dr. C. Gregg Singer, Christian Education, 87 min.
http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?SID=1216037249

#02: A Necessary Theological Foundation for Education
Dr. C. Gregg Singer, Christian Education, 86 min.
http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?SID=1216037257

#03: The History of Educational Philosophy in America
Dr. C. Gregg Singer, Christian Education, 82 min.
http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?SID=12160372614

#04: The Theistic Basis for all Culture and Education
Dr. C. Gregg Singer, Christian Education, 54 min.
http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?SID=12170365847

Decline in Education
Dr. C. Gregg Singer, Decline of American Culture
http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?SID=9902215826

#08: Decline in Education
Dr. C. Gregg Singer, Decline of American Culture
http://www.sermonaudio.com/play.asp?ID=9902215826

The Trinity Foundation
http://trinityfoundation.org

Regulations at Yale College (1745)
Showing the centrality of Calvinism and the Westminster Confession in Colonial higher education.
http://www.constitution.org/primarysources/yale.html

Courage, Martyrdom and the Triumph of Truth a sermon on Matthew 10 by Greg Price
A defintion of Biblical courage and an exposure of the false courage of the faithless.
http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?currSection=sermonsspeaker&sermonID=11501182424



Home Schooling

My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children. As they were increased, so they sinned against me: therefore will I change their glory into shame. (Hosea 4:6,7)

That their hearts may be comforted, being united in love, and to all riches of the full assurance of the understanding, to the full knowledge of the secret of the God and Father, and of the Christ, in whom are all the treasures of the wisdom and the knowledge hid, and this I say, that no one may beguile you in enticing words, for if even in the flesh I am absent -- yet in the spirit I am with you, joying and beholding your order, and the stedfastness of your faith in regard to Christ; as, then, ye did receive Christ Jesus the Lord, in him walk ye, being rooted and built up in him, and confirmed in the faith, as ye were taught -- abounding in it in thanksgiving.
"See that no one shall be carrying you away as spoil through the philosophy and vain deceit, according to the deliverance of men, according to the rudiments of the world, and not according to Christ, because in him doth tabernacle all the fulness of the Godhead bodily, and ye are in him made full, who is the head of all principality and authority. (Colossians 2:2-10, YLTHB)

Remember still how much the happiness or misery of church, and kingdoms, and of the world, doth lie on the right or wrong educating of youth, by PARENTS, much more than our UNIVERSITIES or SCHOOLS.
Remember that your own comfort or sorrow in them lieth most on your own duty or neglect. If they prove wicked and plagues of the world, and you are the cause, it may tear your hearts. But what a joy is it to be the means of their salvation, and of their public service in the world!
Disgrace sin to them, and commend holiness by word and practice; and be yourselves what you would have them be; and pray daily for them and yourselves. The Lord bless this counsel to them and you! -- Richard Baxter

He is first of all God's judgment on our land. According to the Scriptural pattern, a sign that God is displeased with a nation is when he removes competent, righteous, valiant leaders and gives you over to weak, inept, wicked rulers. (Isaiah 3) He is also the Lord's rebuke to the Church of Jesus Christ. Conservative Christians can demonize Clinton all they like, but that doesn't remove God's warning through this corrupt administration that the Church is going the wrong way and was a major contributing factor to Clinton's rise to power. Allegorically, Bill Clinton is Balaam's donkey that God used to speak to a wayward prophet that was about to head into a collision course with the dread Sovereign of the Universe. Balaam thought by beating the donkey that would alleviate his problems. So it is today, many Christian and conservative groups who fill their coffers by beating the President think they can alleviate the problems with America by pursuing this same foolish course. Unfortunately, many of us are just as blind as Balaam when it comes to the understanding that the president is not the problem, we are. The bottom line is, Bill Clinton is God's x-ray into the heart of America that reveals the moral sickness that is plaguing our nation for abandoning God and for trashing His Laws. He is a prophetic warning that the bridge is out up ahead and we need to turn around before it is too late.
I believe it is imperative that the American people understand that Bill Clinton is not the only one being investigated and on trial here today. The truth is our entire nation is on trial. For us to even have a debate whether character counts is an admission of how far we have fallen. It is also an indictment against our inability for self-government (the very cornerstone of our Republic) the breakdown of family government, the failure of church government to be salt and light to the culture, and the abdication of civil government to uphold God's Laws. These sacred institutions that God established for our benefit and for His pleasure were to uphold what is noble and honorable amongst men and to restrain that which is base and destructive. -- Rusty Lee Thomas in
Does Character Count?

The real war of the 21st century will not be fought on foreign battlefields or in search of ubiquitous terrorists, but in the hearts of our people. If God be for us, who can be against us. -- Doug Phillips (October 2001)

*Christian Book Distributors, "CBD Home School Resources Catalog" (Peabody, MA [Christian Book Distributors, P.O. Box 7000, Peabody, 01961-7000]: Christian Book Distributors).
These catalogs include extensive listings of home schooling books. Some of the books are reviewed by Dean, Karen and Yolanda Andreola.

*Cotton, John (editor) and The Westminster Assembly, New England Primer: Improved for the More Easy Attaining the True Reading of English. To which is added The Assembly of Divines, and Mr. Cotton's catechism. A Christian classic.
"THE NEW ENGLAND PRIMER was the first textbook ever printed in America and was used to teach reading and Bible lessons in our schools until the twentieth century. In fact, many of the Founders and their children learned to read from THE PRIMER. This pocket-size edition is an historical reprint of the 1777 version used in many schools during the Founding Era." -- Book Description
"The New England Primer was one of the greatest books ever published. It went through innumerable editions; it reflected in a marvelous way the spirit of the age that produced it, and contributed, perhaps more than any other book except the Bible, to the molding of those sturdy generations that gave to America its liberty and its institutions."
"The Founding Fathers of this country and other Americans learned to read from this little treasure. There is much that we can learn about them and the way they thought by examining its contents. The true study of history should incorporate the study of what motivated people to do the things they did. This reprint makes for great classroom discussion. It makes for an excellent addition to any American History class at all grade levels and all ages. It is pocket-size, and kids and adults love it. I highly recommend it!" -- Reader Comment
"WEBSTER'S BLUE-BACKED SPELLING BOOK and the NEW ENGLAND PRIMER were basic, foundational textbooks used in the schools of our Republic in the 18th and 19th centuries.
"These two textbooks prove our founding fathers expected moral truths to be taught in every school subject." -- Reader Comment

Duffy, Cathy, 100 Top Picks For Homeschool Curriculum: Choosing The Right Curriculum And Approach For Your Child's Learning Style (B&H Publishing Group, January 2005).
"We just got back from the 2005 Indiana state homeschool convention -- what a vast array of curriculum in their exhibit hall! It was just the place for Moms and Dads to look at what's new and compare with the old. There is so much new curricula on the market today that for many, especially those new to homeschooling, it can be rather confusing and overwhelming. Cathy Duffy's newest book 100 TOP PICKS FOR HOMESCHOOL CURRICULUM has come along at just the right time to help us sort out all our many choices." -- Reader's Comment
"I love Cathy Duffy's dedication at the beginning of this book: 'To the thousands of dedicated homeschoolers who have resisted the impulse to imitate 'real school' and have chosen instead to figure out what is best for each of their children, even if it meant writing their own curriculum. You have made the world of homeschool curriculum far richer than the most well-funded schools in the world."
"And what Cathy has done in her book is to help us do just that -- figure out what is best for each of our children. Under her direction, using pertinent questions and an easy-to-use chart, a homeschooling mom can determine which of the eight approaches to homeschooling would fit her child's learning style and her own overall goals and priorities for her child's education. It takes the guesswork and confusion out of homeschooling. "The largest portion of the book is taken up with Cathy's reviews of her '100 Top Picks' for homeschooling books and curricula. She gives us thorough descriptions and necessary ordering details, strengths and weaknesses of the curriculum, and her own impressions on how it would work with the different learning styles. One of the best features of this book is an amazing eight page chart putting all the information together so parents can see at a glance and compare and contrast all the details of each 'Top Pick'.
"I would suggest that if you're having a hard time wading through all of your curriculum choices, you might consider buying 100 TOP PICKS. Keep it handy, because you'll be consulting it often." -- Laurie Bluedorn
"I've read a lot of homeschooling books in planning for my children's education and I learned something from each one, whether I liked the book or not! This book, however, is a planner's dream! It truly has you plan from the bottom up, applying thought to aspects of homeschooling that I had not previously considered.
"Cathy Duffy begins by having you come up with your own philosophy of education. As she puts it, 'If there were no laws requiring you to educate your child, what would you want them to learn anyway?' Wow! That question really gets to the heart of the matter for most people choosing to homeschool. Then, she has you consider your thoughts about how you want to teach and run your school (teach different ages together, work directly with your children or have them work independently, real books vs. textbooks, field trips, adhering to a schedule or remaining flexible, etc.). She has you take a sort of quiz about your preferred approaches to learning that shows which styles might appeal to you most. After leaning so heavily toward Charlotte Mason after all my reading, I was somewhat surprised to find that I have an equally high regard for unit studies and -- gasp! -- unschooling (a 'curriculum' choice that petrifies me a bit)! She describes the various homeschooling methods (traditional, Charlotte Mason, classical, unit study, unschooling, independent study, eclectic, and umbrella programs). Then, she asks you to consider your confidence/experience level, time available to teach, finances, and religious beliefs. In addition, one of the most important differences about this book is that it addresses your teaching style and your child's learning style. This is such an important consideration when deciding what curriculum to choose. I'm sad to admit that I've been so gleefully planning what I want them to learn and what I think they'll enjoy that I've given very little SERIOUS thought to their perspective about things. Not anymore...
"Finally, the discussion of her top 100 picks begins. The curriculum choices are introduced with a chart. The format helps you pick resources that are aligned with what you now know are your homeschooling preferences. Each curriculum is ranked for the following criteria: (1) Multi-sensory/hands-on (2) structure/rules-oriented (3) logical/analytical learners (4) social activity (5) amount of parent instruction (6) independent study vs. one-on-one (7) amount of writing (8) prep time (9) grade level specific vs. multi-level (10) ease of use for teacher (11) necessity for teacher's manual (12) supportive of Charlotte Mason's philosophy (13) supportive of classical education (14) religious affiliations. Using the chart, it was easy to look for a unit study or Charlotte Mason approach that would accomodate my Wiggly Willy and my Sociable Sue who work at different grade levels.
"Some critics of the book feel that the author leans too heavily on Christian resources so I actually did a count for those interested. Of her 100 picks, there were 15 Catholic choices, 41 Protestant choices, and 54 were religiously neutral. (They don't add up to 100 because some would work for both Protestants and Catholics, some neutrals could add religious supplements, etc.) If you consider that probably AT LEAST 50% of homeschoolers are keeping their children at home so they can offer religious instruction, I don't think those numbers are in any way out of balance.
"If you are looking for an umbrella curriculum (one that covers all the subjects) you should know that she really goes in depth into only two, Calvert School (neutral) and Sonlight (Protestant). However, some of the unit studies she discusses could be used as a full program with a few additional choices for neglected subjects. (Only one of the seven unit study programs, Five in a Row, is religiously neutral.) If an umbrella curriculum is what you're looking for, you would be better off requesting catalogs and information from companies offering that service rather than buying this book. Otherwise, the curriculum choices included in this book fall under the following categories: (1) phonics/reading/literature (2) math (3) grammar and composition (4) spelling and vocabulary (5) history/social science (6) science (7) unit studies (8) foreign language (9) miscellaneous.
"Her picks definitely cover a wide range of methodology. Some will appeal to you and some won't. What I find is that in researching something that is appealing (usually on Amazon), I invariably follow link after link until I wind up reading so many reviews that I more fully understand the pros and cons of each curriculum choice I make. What a wonderful thing! I would rank this book with the top four homeschooling books I have read (Rebecca Rupp's HOME LEARNING YEAR BY YEAR, Charlotte Mason's ORIGINAL HOMESCHOOLING SERIES, and Karen Andreola's A CHARLOTTE MASON COMPANION). -- Kristina J. Ivey

Gorder, Cheryl, and Don Hubbs, Home Education Resource Guide, 4th edition (Blue Bird Pub)
"A comprehensive resource guide for the parent-educator. `If you can afford only one resource directory, this is the one to buy'." -- Library Journal
"This title has been used by homeschoolers since 1987 and is a comprehensive guide to resources for a home education." -- Publisher's Annotation

Hubbs, Don, Home Education Resource Guide (Blue Bird Publishing, 1996).
"Provides current information on hundreds of important resources for homeschoolers. Includes lists of correspondence schools, curricula, testing services, reading and math helps, support groups, educational toys and games, many more. Mary Pride says: "Those dedicated to home schooling, especially home school leaders, will get some mileage out of the Resource Guide." -- GCB

McGuffey, William, McGuffey's Eclectic Readers, 7 volumes (Milford, MI: Mott Media, 1982, 1836-37). 70334

Owen, John, 1616-1683, The primer: or, An easie way to teach children the true reading of English. With a necessary catechisme, to instruct youth in the grounds of Christian religion. Also choice places of Scripture for that purpose. Composed by John Owen, minister of the Gospel. Approved and allowed by a committee of Parliament, 1652, EEBO.

*Perks, Stephen C., The Christian Philosophy of Education Explained [70331]

Blumenfeld, Samuel, Is Public Education Necessary?
"This book tells, for the first time, the story of how and why Americans gave up educational freedom so early in their history for the imagined benefits of state-controlled education. The author delves into a wealth of original sources to reveal how a comparative handful of secularists, who were more concerned with destroying religion than with freeing man, spearheaded the drive toward public education. Centered at Harvard, this nineteenth-century liberal elite worked tirelessly -- and successfully -- to put America on the road to educational statism. By exploring the very roots of the system, this book provides the missing link in our educational history." -- Publisher's Annotation

Carden, Allen, Puritan Christianity in America: Religion and Life in Seventeenth-Century Massachusetts [90270]

*Cremin, Lawrence A., American Education: The Colonial Experience, 1607-1782 (New York, NY: Harper and Row, 1970). 70336
"The most authoritative work on this subject is the brilliantly researched 688-page volume by Lawrence A. Cremin. . . . Dr. Cremin makes it plain there was no such thing as a secular school in colonial America. There were many kinds of schools, but all were explicitly Christian." -- Charles Hull Wolff

Froehlich, Mary Ann, Music Education in the Christian Home [10637]

Klicka, Christopher J., The Right Choice: The Incredible Failure of Public Education and the Rising Hope of Home Schooling 70339
"If you have entertained doubts about the practicality of home schooling, this exhaustive treatment of the subject by an astute lawyer and dedicated scholar will overwhelm you with convincing evidence based on the most current as well as on historical developments. His exploration of parental rights, Biblical principles, tips for lobbying, and reasons to select Christian education and home schooling over humanistic indoctrination is thorough, unbiased, and enlightening. Dr. Klicka's book will leave you shockingly informed on what is wrong with the public school today." -- D. James Kennedy

Macaulay, Susan, and Diane Lopez, Home Education [40131]

Macaulay, Susan, For the Children's Sake: Foundations of Education for Home and School [40132]

Potter, William, The Boy's Guide to the Historical Adventures of G.A. Henty (Vocabulary of a Warrior) (The Vision Forum, Inc., July 3, 2000).
"This unique book charts Henty's works of historical fiction chronologically and provides both a plot summary and an historical overview of over 70 of his classic tales." -- Publisher's Annotation
"HOME EDUCATORS: If you are trying to put together a history-based curriculum, this volume is very helpful! You can gauge which time periods in your student's course of study need some bolstering up (or livening up) and search in this book for the proper Henty novel to introduce. For example, to bulk up our study on 'Ancient Times,' I needed a novel about Hannibal. This terrific reference book tells me to get Henty's 'The Young Carthaginian' to meet that requirement.
"Another problem it solves is that sometimes a history-based curriculum can get predictable. Everyone seems to be covering the same things and the only variance is how deeply they're studied. This guide covers all of Henty's books and makes it easy to locate his books on obscure subjects and events which you can tantalize your children with. Children seem to love citing these forgotten tales and bedazzling their peers and family with them!
"This volume will also prove invaluable to PEOPLE EDUCATING THEMSELVES. As an adult who is battling her 'learning gaps,' I just page through this reference until I find something that doesn't ring ANY bells! By reading a Henty, I enjoy a terrific adventure (which I can later discuss with my children), educate myself and, if I want to, pursue the subject more deeply later on." -- Reader Comment
"G.A. Henty wrote around 144 books. Many of the books revolve around a fictional character who interacts with real persons from that historical period. Heroism, honor, courage, and leadership are integral characteristics of the main protagonists. I have trouble putting down a Henty story. I highly recommend this resource." -- Reader Comment

Pride, Mary, All the Way Home: Power for Your Family to Be Its Best [40122]

*Pride, Mary, The Big Book of Home Learning, Vol. 1-3: Each Volume Is Over 500 Pages and Includes full Contact Information for Every Product Reviewed [40134]

*Pride, Mary, The Big Book of Home Learning, Vol. 1: Getting Started: Introduces All Major Home School Methods and Answers Your Most Frequently Asked Questions

*Pride, Mary, The Big Book of Home Learning, Vol. 2: Preschool and Elementary
"Mary Pride has researched tons of educational products and compiled her findings for preschool and elementary products in this book. I love Pride's philosophy of teaching and trust her conclusions. She has saved me years of hunting for good educational supplies." -- Reader Comment

*Pride, Mary, The Big Book of Home Learning, Vol. 3: Junior High Through College, Latest Information and Educational Products

*Pride, Mary, Next Book of Home Learning (Wheaton, IL: Good News Publishers [Crossway Books], 1988, c1987). [40135]
"This new book brings us a whole new range of additional educational resources for home schoolers of all ages to complement her first book. With its broad spectrum of hard-to-find information . . . this book is an indispensable resource for home schoolers . . ." -- GCB

Pride, Mary, Schoolproof: How to Help Your Family Beat the System and Learn to Love Learning the Easy Natural Way [40136]

Whitehead, John, and Wendell Bird, Home Education and Constitutional Liberties (Wheaton, IL: Good News Publishers [Crossway Books], 1986). 70341
"The two attorneys writing this book offer advice on what the law says and extensive lists to help you get started."

Van Dyken, Donald, Rediscovering Catechism: The Art of Equipping Covenant Children

Venning, Ralph, Learning in Christ's School (Puritan Paperback Series. Carlisle, PA: The Banner of Truth Trust).

Voeller, Brad Accelerated Distance Learning ( The Vision Forum, Inc.)
"Home school graduate Brad Voeller earned his four-year, fully-accredited college degree in less than six months for less than $5,000 by applying the revolutionary techniques of accelerated distance learning. In this book, he shares with you tested approaches to learning that will allow you to earn a college degree in less than half the normal time -- for a fraction of the cost. Discover how to: receive college credit for life experiences; earn college credit quickly and easily through credit-by-examination; speed up the learning process while improving comprehension; cut study time by at least 50 percent; make a wise decision in choosing a distance-learning program; and complete college in less than half the time for less than half the cost." -- Doug Phillips

Wilson, Elizabeth, "Choosing Children's Books" [40137, 70226, 70227]

Wilson, Elizabeth, "Living Books" [70227]

Wilson, Elizabeth, Books Children Love [70226]

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, The Westminster Standards and family of documents, The larger catechism, The shorter catechism, Home schooling (Women, Chapter 4), Family worship, Christian fiction (The Elsie Books by Martha Finley), Christian biography, Christian fiction, Mind control, intimidation, and coercion, public schools

Related WebLinks

"The Theistic Basis for all Culture and Education," an address by C. Gregg Singer
http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?SID=12170365847

Mr. Thomas Manton's Epistle to the Reader of the Westminster Confession of Faith (1646) and Larger and Shorter Catechisms
http://www.swrb.com//newslett/actualnls/famworship.htm
Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html

Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
"Click on any of the individual questions below to get the answer and Biblical references, as well as links to works by John Flavel, Thomas Watson, Thomas Boston, James Fisher, and John Whitecross, and others."
http://www.shortercatechism.com/

LibraryThing
"LibraryThing is a new site for book lovers.
"It's basically two sites in one.
"LibraryThing helps you create a library-quality catalog of your books. You can do all of them or just what you're reading now.
"And because everyone catalogs online, they also catalog together. LibraryThing connects people based on the books they share."
" http://www.librarything.com/

Public School Is Not for Christians
http://www.hshangout.com/wheeler.html

The Vision Forum, Inc.
Working toward the restoration of the Biblical family.
http://www.visionforum.com/

The Puritans' Home School Curriculum
http://www.puritans.net/curriculum/

Distance Learning Resources for Homeschoolers
http://homeschooling.about.com/cs/distancelearning/index.htm?terms=correspondence+courses

Covenant Home Curriculum
http://www.covenanthome.com/

Charlotte Mason Method
http://homeschooling.about.com/cs/methcmason/index.htm

Homeschool World, Mary Pride
http://www.home-school.com/

Christian Liberty Academy Satellite Schools
http://www.homeschools.org/

Christian Home Education: Christian Home Education and Homeschooling Resource in the UK, South Africa and Australia
http://www.homeschool.co.uk/

The Robinson Self-Teach Curriculum
http://www.robinsoncurriculum.com

The Trent Schools, Online Homeschooling
http://www.theschools.com/

Baker's Guide to Distance Christian Learning
http://www.gospelcom.net/bakersguide/

ClassicReader.com
"We offer a large collection of free classic books, plays, and short stories by authors such as Dickens, Austen, Shakespeare and many others. You can read, search and even add your own annotations to any of the classic books. A selection of author biographies and portraits are also made available. All functions of this site are free to use although some functions require free registration.
"Our collection of classic stories currently contains 3284 works of literature (including 1872 short stories) by 329 authors. New works are added to the collection on a regular basis, with 10 new titles added so far this month." http://www.classicreader.com/

Gutenberg, Project
http://www.gutenberg.org/

Regulations at Yale College (1745)
Showing the centrality of Calvinism and the Westminster Confession in Colonial higher education.
http://www.constitution.org/primarysources/yale.html Homeschooling Program - Southern Baptist Convention Resolution
The resolution by the Southern Baptist Convention calling members to pull their childen out of government schools and either homeschool them or send them to Christian schools.
http://www.thesouthernbaptistacademy.org/convention_resolution.php



Public Schools

"See that no one shall be carrying you away as spoil through the philosophy and vain deceit, according to the deliverance of men, according to the rudiments of the world, and not according to Christ, because in him doth tabernacle all the fulness of the Godhead bodily, and ye are in him made full, who is the head of all principality and authority." (Colossians 2:2-10, YLTHB) -- quoted by The Trinity Foundation in Authorized King James Version

"Since about 1840, men have been putting philosophy in the place of revelation, and ideas before what God himself has so graciously been pleased to reveal." -- D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones

The great enemy of the salvation of man in my opinion never intended a more effectual means of extirpating Christianity from the world than by persuading mankind that it was improper to read The Bible at schools (July 13, 1789). -- Dr. Benjamin Rush

"Bad men cannot make good citizens. It is impossible that a nation of infidels or idolators should be a nation of freemen. It is when a people forget God that tyrants forge their chains. A vitiated [defective] state of morals, a corrupted public conscience, are incompatible with freedom." -- Patrick Henry

Cornell University interim President, Hunter R. Rawlings, used the 2005 State of the University Speech to address the ongoing matter of the conflict between religion and science, "a matter I believe is of great significance to Cornell and to the country as a whole, a matter with fundamental educational, intellectual, and political implications. The issue in question is the challenge to science posed by religiously-based opposition to evolution, described, in its current form, as 'intelligent design. . . .' This controversy raises profound questions about the nature of public discourse and what we teach in universities, and it has a profound effect on public policy.
"I believe the time has come for universities like Cornell to contribute to the nation's cultural and intellectual discourse. [In keeping with "our founder's goal of assuring greatness through diversity" and the University motto "Freedom with responsibility."-- sk] We must be willing to take on a broader role as defenders of rational thought and framers of discourse about culture and society. In this spirit, I have asked our three academic task forces, on Life in the age of the Genome, Wisdom in the age of Digital Information, and Sustainability, to consider means of confronting the following questions: how to separate information from knowledge and knowledge from ideology; how to understand and address the ethical dilemmas and anxieties that scientific discovery has produced; and how to assess the influence of secular humanism on culture and society." [The complex dilema of the aforementioned issues, is, in fact, the making of both contending parties, neither of whom, have distinguished between Truth and knowledge.-- sk]
The speech can be found at the following website:
Hunter R. Rawlings' State of the University Speech, 2005
http://www.cornell.edu/president/announcement_2005_1021.cfm
Just some historical background. These controversies are often referred to as the Warfare Myth. Cornell University was the only Ivy League university founded without a Theology Department, a controversy at the time (1865). Andrew Dickson White, the first President of Cornell, and its cofounder, refused to give students at Cornell religious tests. He wrote A HISTORY OF THE WARFARE OF SCIENCE WITH RELIGION IN CHRISTENDOM, 2 volumes (1869) "in angry response" to critics. "As noble as his intentions may have been, the resulting book is a travesty and is largely responsible for creating the common Warfare Myth that has plagued the relationship between science and faith since the nineteenth century [for the last 137 years-- sk]."
We respectfully submit to the learned and esteemed President Rawling, members of the three Academic Task Forces, faculty, and alumni of Cornell University, that the long-term, complex Warfare Myth controvery could be "brought down to size" and could best be resolved by establishing a Department of Epistemology, the "Queen of the Sciences." Epistemology is "the study or a theory of the nature and grounds of knowledge especially with reference to its limits and validity." To that end we offer a modest bibliography of some of Gordon Haddon Clark's works on Epistemology. Clark is considered by many to be the most important Philosopher of the 20th Century.
Of course, one of the attributes of our Trinitarian God is Truth. He is Truth, absolute and unchanging, the only source of Truth and the source of All Truth.
A broad overview of literature shows an evident interconnection between "absolute truth, life (temporal and eternal), moral behavior (law and order, and justice), freedom (religious, political, economic, and individual, (the definition of true religion found in the Westminster Standards and the Covenanted Reformation), social stability (peace, security, prosperity, and happiness), justification, sanctification, personal spiritual growth, social transformation, education, the arts, scientific discovery, real progress, and the realization of the Kingdom of God upon earth"
Those questioning the impact of Theology on Society are referred to the following:
A Theological Interpretation of American History
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr9chc.html#stiahis
Of course, when Theology and Society are viewed as a whole, then the responsibility for equitable judicial action becomes an imperative. This judicial imperative is the highest calling and, unfortunately, the calling that most seek to avoid. We must confront ourselves with the fact that, in some cases, the battle of science against the Truth is in reality a battle against the constraints of moral absolutes and ethics imposed by the truth of The Triune God. And we must own up to our male responsibility to exercise judicial equity in all spheres of society.
Logically any university, to be great, must teach both Truth from Theology and knowledge from science, because a society without Truth is self-destructive.
In these times we strongly urge Cornell, and her new president, Dr. David J. Skorton (July 2006), to establish a Department of Epistemology and to staff it with scholars of the caliber of Gordon H. Clark.
Furthermore, we strongly urge Cornell to add scholars of the Scottish Covenanted Reformation to their new [1990s] Department of Theology, because we believe that it is only through Covenanted Reformation that society can attain to corporate faithfulness and sanctification.

Autodidact: A self-taught person.

Adler, Mortimer, in GREAT BOOKS OF WESTERN CIVILIZATION, concluded that more problems are caused by the denial of God than by anything else -- it changes the whole tenure of life.

To the orthodox Christian, the shabby incarnations of the reigning historiographies are both absurd and offensive. They are idols, and he is forbidden to bow down to them and must indeed wage war against them. -- ~Rousas John Rushdoony

From my personal perspective, every academic discipline ultimately falls into one of two categories: theology or history. Theology is the study of the character and attributes of God. History is the providential structure and working of God's plan through time and eternity in the cosmos. Traditional academic disciplines such as mathematics, composition, and science all take place and find meaning within the context of a historical event called Creation and God's continuing, unfolding plan through history. -- Doug Phillips

THE INSTITUTES OF THE CHRISTIAN RELIGION by John Calvin is "still considered by many to be the finest explanation and defense of the Protestant Reformation available."
"The work is divided into four books: I. The Knowledge of God the Creator, II. The Knowledge of God the Redeemer in Christ, III. The Mode of Obtaining the Grace of Christ, IV. The External Means or Helps by Which God Allures Us Into Fellowship With Christ and Keeps Us in It. . . . THE INSTITUTES is praised by the secular philosopher, Will Durant, as one of the ten books that shook the world." Will Durant and his wife, Ariel, spent their lifetimes writing THE STORY OF CIVILIZATION in 11 volumes.

"Christians today are forced to support, with their tax money, the establishment of another religious faith that stands opposed to everything they believe. The new state church has taken the form of the public school, which is messianic in nature and preaches relentlessly the doctrine that the human intellect and will is the supreme moral authority. Meanwhile, the other major faith in America, Christianity, is outlawed from a major segment of American society, and is under heavy pressure even in the `private sphere,' which is becoming less and less private. To tax Christians to support a doctrine that they believe false and evil was called tyranny in George Washington's day." -- Benjamin Hart

He is first of all God's judgment on our land. According to the Scriptural pattern, a sign that God is displeased with a nation is when he removes competent, righteous, valiant leaders and gives you over to weak, inept, wicked rulers. (Isaiah 3) He is also the Lord's rebuke to the Church of Jesus Christ. Conservative Christians can demonize Clinton all they like, but that doesn't remove God's warning through this corrupt administration that the Church is going the wrong way and was a major contributing factor to Clinton's rise to power. Allegorically, Bill Clinton is Balaam's donkey that God used to speak to a wayward prophet that was about to head into a collision course with the dread Sovereign of the Universe. Balaam thought by beating the donkey that would alleviate his problems. So it is today, many Christian and conservative groups who fill their coffers by beating the President think they can alleviate the problems with America by pursuing this same foolish course. Unfortunately, many of us are just as blind as Balaam when it comes to the understanding that the president is not the problem, we are. The bottom line is, Bill Clinton is God's x-ray into the heart of America that reveals the moral sickness that is plaguing our nation for abandoning God and for trashing His Laws. He is a prophetic warning that the bridge is out up ahead and we need to turn around before it is too late.
I believe it is imperative that the American people understand that Bill Clinton is not the only one being investigated and on trial here today. The truth is our entire nation is on trial. For us to even have a debate whether character counts is an admission of how far we have fallen. It is also an indictment against our inability for self-government (the very cornerstone of our Republic) the breakdown of family government, the failure of church government to be salt and light to the culture, and the abdication of civil government to uphold God's Laws. These sacred institutions that God established for our benefit and for His pleasure were to uphold what is noble and honorable amongst men and to restrain that which is base and destructive. -- Rusty Lee Thomas in Does Character Count?

Anonymous, A Nation at Risk: The Imperative for Educational Reform, A Report to the Nation and Secretary of Education, United States Department of Education, by The National Commission on Excellence in Education (Washington, DC: U.S. Department of Education, 1983).

Blumenfeld, Samuel, Is Public Education Necessary?
"This book tells, for the first time, the story of how and why Americans gave up educational freedom so early in their history for the imagined benefits of state-controlled education. The author delves into a wealth of original sources to reveal how a comparative handful of secularists, who were more concerned with destroying religion than with freeing man, spearheaded the drive toward public education. Centered at Harvard, this nineteenth-century liberal elite worked tirelessly - and successfully - to put America on the road to educational statism. By exploring the very roots of the system, this book provides the missing link in our educational history." -- Publisher's Annotation

Clark, Gordon H., John Dewey (Unicoi, TN: The Trinity Foundation). 31279
"Few philosophers have had as great an impact on American public education as John Dewey. Yet Dewey denied that men had minds, and he believed that a person thought with his muscles -- that is why he emphasized learning by doing. This is an analysis of his educational philosophy from a Christian point of view. It may be studied with profit by teachers and parents." -- John W. Robbins

Duffy, Cathy Government Nannies
"Confusing stories about Goals 2000 and outcome-based education have made the front page of every newspaper in the country. It is a tangled web of `government-nanny' programs that invade the privacy of families and destroys the principle of individual responsibility. This book describes where we are heading under Goals 2000." -- Synopsis

Eakman, B.K., Cloning of the American Mind: Eradicating Morality through Education
"Mrs. Eakman's book is an excellent overview of various psychological schools of thought that have done more than almost any other discipline to adversely effect the modern age. As Mrs. Eakman points out, it is no accident that psychology and politics have come together in order to discover ways to manipulate attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors on a mass scale. While her book is meant to describe the ways in which psychological based curriculum, coupled with electronic data retrieval systems on the part of the State have created psychological profiling and attitude readjustment programs for all school-aged children, her book really out to be read as an expose of more sinister agendas and programs undertaken by governments in this century. The most interesting sections of the book are the ones that connect the development of 19th century materialist atheistic psychologies and 20th century totalitarian politics: the career paths of Nazi and Soviet psychologists crossing with that of such influential Foundations as the Ford and Carnegie Foundations, together with psychological programs emerging out of the Intelligence community after the War, is particularly disturbing. Mrs. Eakman connects the dots, pointing out how a particular person started off in Intelligence, made his way into academia, only to find his way to the corporate world or the media. The only draw back of her book is the absence in many places of detailed footnotes and citing of sources. However, for anyone who has actually read Kurt Lewin or Frankfurt School luminaries, it isn't hard to believe her claims. Additionally, Mrs. Eakman sometimes confuses personages and history: when referring to Dr. Albert Hoffman, the Swiss chemist who developed LSD, she claims he later became a counterculture icon known as Albert 'Abbie' Hoffman -- almost suggesting that Abbie Hoffman of the Sixties and Dr. Albert Hoffman are one and the same. She is also out of her element when discussing philosophers and leading intellectuals. At one point she claims that in Bertrand Russell in his writings about 'a certain educator, Johann Fichte' -- not realizing that Fichte was a Neo-Kantian German philosopher of the earlier 19th century. There are other snafus like these here and there but these can be easily forgiven in light of her insightful analyses and heroic overview of 20th century psychology. To some, Mrs. Eakman's book may sound like 'wacky' conspiracy theories. However, there are a number of so-called mainstream books and publications that have made the same accusations that Mrs. Eakman does and have provided histories of psychological warfare. For the skeptical, try reading Christopher Simpson's book -- published by Oxford Press." -- Reader Comment

Guthrie, John T., Responding to a Nation at Risk: Appraisal and Policy Guidelines

Howse, Brannon, An Educational Abduction: Do You Know What Your Child Is Being Taught? (New Leaf Pr).

Howse, Brannon, Reclaiming A Nation at Risk (American Family Policy Institute).
"Reclaiming A Nation At Risk makes a compelling case that America's cultural elite and government bureaucrats are sabotaging the faith, families, and freedoms of the American population. Indeed, 52% of Americans believe that government represents a threat to their basic, inalienable rights. Reclaiming A Nation At Risk directly engages the issues of who is really in control of America's schools, why we have such poor literacy and logic scores among our school age children, the preparation of American students to take their place in a socialized national workforce, how the National Education Association became so powerful and what their agenda (including Outcome Based Education) is for our children's future. Parental rights are under sag and the federal government is in the beginnings of creating a national database of the nation's children. Reclaiming A Nation At Risk discusses what will happen if the American economy collapses and the implications for religious freedom given today's alarming national trends. RECLAIMING A NATION AT RISK is `must' reading for any concerned parent needing to reclaim a child from these `agents of change.' Insightful, controversial, candid, Reclaiming A Nation At Risk deserves the widest readership possible in today's political, social, cultural, and economic climate." -- Midwest Book Review

*Machen, Gresham J., Education, Christianity and the State (Jefferson, MD: The Trinity Foundation). [90316]

Buehrer, Eric, The New Age Masquerade: The Hidden Agenda in Your Child's Classroom [70181A]

Buzzard, Lynn R. (editor), Schools: They Haven't Got a Prayer [90480]

Gabler, Mel, and Norma Gabler, What Are They Teaching Our Children? (Wheaton, IL: Victor Books, c1985). 70344
"Students often graduate from high school lacking the educational and moral foundations needed to function in today's complex world. . . . these `crusaders for better textbooks' show parents, teachers, and concerned citizens how to reverse this dangerous trend. In a rousing challenge, the Gablers claim it's not too late to restore sound educational and teaching materials to America's schools -- if we act now!"

*Kennedy, D. James with Jerry Newcombe, What if Jesus Had Never Been Born? (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishers, c1994).
Hospitals, universities, literacy and education, capitalism and free-enterprise, representative government, separation of political powers, justice and common law, civil liberties, abolition of slavery, modern science, and so forth can all be attributed to Christianity.

Nash, Ron, The Closing of the American Heart: What's Really Wrong With American Schools (Dallas, TX: Probe Books, c1990). 70345
Foreword by R.C. Sproul. Understand why America has closed her heart to godly principles in our public schools.

Perks, Stephen C., The Christian Philosophy of Education Explained (Whitby, England: Avant, Books, 1992). 70331
"The editor of Calvinism Today magazine has written a book which, in the words of Samuel L. Blumenfeld, demonstrates with simplicity the cogent argument that the Christian and humanist world views are mutually exclusive, and that it is `treason against God' to put children in the hands of non-believers for their education. Every Christian parent should read this challenging, forthright, insightful book before deciding where and how to educate his or her children." -- GCB

Richman, Sheldon, Separating School and State: How to Liberate America's Families (The Future of Freedom Foundation).
"Yes, that's School and State in the title, not Church and State. Richman pulled his oldest child out of public school and has since seen to all his children's home schooling, or, as he prefers to call it, unschooling. Here he sounds with new vigor the alarm for an old cause -- divorcing education and political power. That cause maintains that public schools are coercively financed and administered, regard children as property of the state, undermine parental love and authority, and contradict the entrepreneurial spirit most conducive to economic and social freedom. Richman reargues these positions in the light of the present U.S. predicament, in the process providing, in two chapters worth the book's price, historical summaries of both the proponents and the opponents of public schooling from the late eighteenth century to the present. He concludes with criticism of such current proposed reforms as charter schools and vouchers and with envisioning the benefits of a free market in education and education without schools. This is educational polemics at their most bracing." -- Ray Olson, from Booklist

Rushdoony, Rousas J., The Philosophy of the Christian Curriculum (Vallecito, CA: Ross House Books)
"Many--not just Christian educators--will appreciate this thoughtful study of the integration of the Christian world view with the education of our children." -- GCB

Sowell, Thomas, Inside American Education: The Decline, the Deception, the Dogmas (Free Press).
"An indictment of the American educational system criticizes the fact that the system has discarded the traditional goals of transmitting knowledge and fostering cognitive skills in favor of building self-esteem and promoting social harmony." -- Synopsis

Thompson-Iserbyt, Charlotte The Deliberate Dumbing Down of America: A Chronological Paper Trail
"This book is THE BOOK to have. EVERY CONCERNED PARENT in America should invest in a copy of it. It's the encyclopedia, IN YEAR DATE ORDER, of just what has been going on in America in the public school system, now for years and years. . . . YEARS OF RESEARCH at our fingertips -- the size of a telephone book. It's HONEST, OFFICIAL DOCUMENTATION, undisputable evidence. If every parent were to read this, we could right a terrible wrong being done in public schools today. . . . Saves me years of research AT MY FINGERTIPS. . . ." -- Reader Comment. The author was a Senior Policy Advisor for the US Dept. of Education.

USA Research, Meeting the Challenge of a Nation at Risk (Cambridge, Mass: USA Research, 1984).

USA Research (editors/publishers), A Nation at Risk: The Full Account, United States. National Commission on Excellence in Education. A Nation At Risk: The full account / the National Commission on Excellence in Education (Cambridge, Mass: USA Research, 1984).

*United States. National Commission on Excellence in Education, A Nation at Risk: The Imperative for Educational Reform: A Report to the Nation and the Secretary of Education, United States Department of Education by the National Commission on Excellence in Education (Washington, DC: The Commission: [Superintendant of Documents, U.S. Government Printing Office distributor], 1983).

Whitehead, John, The Rights of Religious Persons in Public Education [90499]

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Secular humanism, Absolute truth and relativism, Mind control, intimidation and coersion, Church and state, Covenant theology and covenanting, The decline of American society

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Epistemology
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#02: The Puritan Political Heritage
Dr. C. Gregg Singer, Puritan Heritage, 47 min.
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National Council On Bible Curriculum In Public Schools
http://www.goshen.net/Ministries/ncbcps/

Regulations at Yale College (1745)
Showing the centrality of Calvinism and the Westminster Confession in Colonial higher education.
http://www.constitution.org/primarysources/yale.html

"Would you like to see how your child's school compares with others? A new Heritage Foundation Web site may be the answer. Www.heritage.org/reportcards provides access to school rating reports not only for parents seeking information on schools they might want to put their child into, but also for those seeking more information on the school their child already is in. Compiled by Heritage education analyst Thomas Dawson and researcher Mira Zawadzki, `Report Card Report: America's Best Web Sites for School Profiles,' is a valuable resource not only for parents, but also educators and lawmakers. The Heritage report card Web site provides links to scores of Web sites that provide a range of information on schools in districts across the nation, including academic rankings, test scores, student-teacher ratios, enrollment totals, per-student expenditures, and percentages of special-education students.
Report Card Report: America's Best Web Sites for School Profiles
http://www.heritage.org/reportcards

State Schooling, Benjamin Marks
"Government schools are non-market entities. The government enforces attendance, curriculum, and financing. Praxeologically (looking at the logical implications of human action), compulsory attendance is abduction, compulsory curriculum is indoctrination, and compulsory financing is theft.
http://www.lewrockwell.com/orig5/marks3.html



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