Chapter 4

Works for and by Women

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Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)

A woman of worth who doth find?
Yea, far above rubies is her price.
The heart of her husband hath trusted in her,
And spoil he lacketh not.
She hath done him good, and not evil,
All days of her life. . . .
Her hand she hath spread forth to the poor,
Yea, her hands she sent forth to the needy. . . .
Strength and honour are her clothing,
And she rejoiceth at a latter day.
Her mouth she hath opened in wisdom,
And the law of kindness is on her tongue.
She is watching the ways of her household,
And bread of sloth she eateth not.
Her sons have risen up, and pronounce her happy,
Her husband, and he praiseth her,
`Many are the daughters who have done worthily,
Thou hast gone up and above them all.'
The grace is false, and the beauty is vain,
A woman fearing Jehovah, she may boast herself.
Give ye to her of the fruit of her hands,
And her works do praise her in the gates!

(Proverbs 31:10-12, 20, 25-31, YLTHB)

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates. (Religion [holiness] is the root of happiness. Piety has charms which abide in all their freshness when mere fleshly beauty has given place to the wrinkles of old age. May the new household be founded in prayer, built up in holiness, and crowned with the divine blessing.) -- C.H. Spurgeon commenting on Proverbs 31:30, 31 in Spurgeon's Devotional Bible, p. 778.



Contents

Devotions for Women
Women and Prayer
Discipleship (Women)
The Ten Commandments (Women)
Womanhood
Men and Women
Marriage (Women)
Family (Women)
Women's Health
Nursing
Home Management
Motherhood (Women)
Women and Parenting
Women in the Church
Servant Leadership (Women)
Women and Small Groups
Home Schooling (Women)
Women in the Workplace

BIBLICAL COUNSEL (WOMEN)

Works by Martha Finley
Biography of Christian Women
Other Works by Women
Chapter 4 Related WebLinks

Combined Interactive Contents for The Web Edition of Biblical Counsel: Resources for Renewal
http://www.lettermen2.com/combtoc.html




Chapter 4
Works for and by Women


Devotions for Women

*The Reformation Study Bible: The Word That Changes Lives -- the Faith That Changed The World, New King James Version (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishers, March 2001). Previous published under the title New Geneva Study Bible: Bringing the Light of the Reformation to Scripture (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishers, 1995).
"The NEW GENEVA STUDY BIBLE offers a restatement of Reformation truth for Christians today. The first Geneva Bible was a pivotal force in the Reformation. Using the everyday language of its time, it opened the pages of Scripture to readers and provided helpful notes to assist them in understanding its message. It became the family Bible of the English people, and was the Bible that the Pilgrims brought to the New World. Since that time a multitude of English translations and study Bibles have appeared, but none of these has incorporated a summary of Reformed theology." -- Thomas Nelson Publishers
Also available in digital format from Logos Bible Software.
The Reformation Study Bible in Logos Bible Software
http://www.logos.com/ebooks/details/NGSTBIB
A Review of The Reformation Study Bible
http://www.lettermen2.com/geneva.html
Readers of THE REFORMATION STUDY BIBLE should also be familiar with The Westminster Family of Documents, the doctrine of the Mediatorial Dominion of Jesus Christ, and the literature of the Covenanted Reformation.
"The Westminster Confession of Faith (1646, The Westminster Standards) and Related Works: A Study Guide"
http://www.lettermen2.com/suggest.html
The Covenanted Reformation of Scotland Short Title Listing
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr9chb.html#crsstl
Reformed Presbyterian Catechism, William L. Roberts D.D.
http://www.covenantedreformation.com/EssaysCR/RP%20Catechism/RP%20Index.html

*Carmichael, Amy, If (Fort Washington, PA: Christian Literature Crusade). 40000
"As with a good deal of Amy Carmichael's published works, this book was borne out of an intimate thought-dialogue between Amy and her Lord. Not intended to be read straight through, each page contains a brief reflection on a human response as it compares with the Divine Love demonstrated on the cross. Every entry provides ample food for meditation and self-examination in light of Calvary Love. Only a heart willfully steeled against exposure of its shortcomings will fail to be moved by these practical insights. And though her comments are often piercingly perceptive, Amy never comes across as heavy-handed or preach-y. As always, one is made to feel a kindredness of heart with the author in our earthly journey." -- Reader Comment
Said to be an all-time best-seller.

Ellis, Charles, and Norma Ellis, Heirs Together of Life: Daily Bible Readings for Husbands and Wives (Carlisle, PA: The Banner of Truth Trust). [10703]

Smith-Broersma, Margaret Devotions for Couples in Blended Families: Living and Loving as a New Family

*Spurgeon, C.H., Faith's Checkbook (Chicago, IL: Moody Press). ISBN: 0938453025.
"A promise from God may very instructively be compared to a check payable to order. It is given to the believer with the view of bestowing upon him some good thing. It is not meant that he should read it over comfortably and then have done with it. No, he is to treat the promises as a reality, as a man treats a check. He is to take the promise and endorse it with his own name by personally receiving it as true." -- C.H. Spurgeon
"In the Preface of his devotional volume containing 365 brief, experimental comments on the promises which Spurgeon has chosen, the renowned preacher tells us that so many of these promises are true because the were fulfilled in his own experience during a time of `wading in the surf of controversy,' and also when `sharp bodily pain succeeded mental depression, accompanied both by bereavement, and affliction in the person of one dear as life. Never were the promises of Jehovah so precious to me as at this hour.' Thus it was to help other sufferers that Spurgeon prepared this comforting book."
Faith's Checkbook, A Daily Devotional by C. H. Spurgeon
http://bible.christiansunite.com/faitharchive.shtmly

See also: Book length presentations of the free offer of Gospel message of salvation and the life to come: the means of grace

Related WebLinks

Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
"Click on any of the individual questions below to get the answer and Biblical references, as well as links to works by John Flavel, Thomas Watson, Thomas Boston, James Fisher, and John Whitecross, and others."
http://www.shortercatechism.com/

Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html

"Jesus Christ Himself" (Ephesians 2:20)
A sermon by C.H. Spurgeon delivered on Lord's-day morning, December 9, 1877, at the Metropolitan Tabernacle, Newington, Sermon no. 1388.
"Beyond all argument or miracle, Jesus Christ Himself is the proof of His own Gospel. And as He is the proof of it, so, Beloved, He is the marrow and essence of it. When the Apostle Paul meant that the Gospel was preached, He said, Christ is preached, for the Gospel is Christ Himself! If you want to know what Jesus taught, know Him! He is the incarnation of that Truth of God which by Him and in Him is revealed to the sons of men. Did He not, Himself say, I am the way, the truth, and the life? You have not to take down innumerable books, nor to pore over mysterious sentences of double meaning in order to know what our great Teacher has revealed. You have but to turn and gaze upon His countenance, behold His actions and note His spirit and you know His teaching. He lived what He taught. If we wish to know Him, we may hear His gentle voice saying, Come and see. Study His wounds and you understand His innermost philosophy. To know Him and the power of His Resurrection is the highest degree of spiritual learning. He is the end of the Law and the soul of the Gospel -- and when we have preached His Word to the fullest, we may close by saying, Now, of the things which we have spoken, this is the sum -- we have an High Priest who is set on the right hand of the Throne of the Majesty in the heavens."
http://www.spurgeongems.org/vols22-24/chs1388.pdf



Women and Prayer

*Bennett, Arthur (editor), The Valley of Vision: A Collection of Puritan Prayers and Devotions (Edinburgh, Scotland: The Banner of Truth Trust, 1975), ISBN: 0851518214 9780851518213.
"The prayers are taken from the works of Thomas Shepard, Thomas Watson, Richard Baxter, John Bunyan, Isaac Watts, William Williams, Philip Doddridge, William Romaine, David Brainerd, Augustus Toplady, Christmas Evans, William Jay, Henry Law, and Charles Haddon Spurgeon" -- Arthur Bennett
"Contains a wealth of insight into the practical application of Puritan theology to the Christian life. Challenging." -- Cyril J. Barber

Christenson, Evelyn, What Happens When We Pray for Our Families (Wheaton, IL: Victor Books). 40007
"When women pray, wonderful things happen--and Evelyn Christenson knows it from experience! Now she looks back over her 50 years of marriage to reveal prayer secrets that will help you pray effectively for your family. When illness or tragedy strikes, when family relationships are fractured, when children stray--prayer can make a difference! Christenson shows you how to hang on in faith and wait for what God will do . . ." -- CBD

Christenson, Evelyn, What Happens When Women Pray (Wheaton, IL: Scripture Press Publications, Inc.). 40008
"Evelyn Christenson talks about the positive, dynamic results that occur when Christians pray."

Miller, C. John, Becoming a Full-Time Woman (cont.); Prayer and Christian Womanhood (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 40010
Audio cassette CM104A.

Omartian, Stormie, Christopher Omartian, and Amanda Omartian The Power of a Praying Parent
"Because the chapters are short, you could use a chapter as a devotional each time you pray. I also appreciate the way the scripture verses are typed out so that I don't have to spend time looking each one up.
"This is an excellent gift for parents who are expecting or for a parent struggling with a teen. Because the tone is so welcoming and compassionate, I also find it's a great witnessing tool. People who may be otherwise closed to the gospels are sometimes open to anything if they think that it may help their child. I'd also recommend this book to uncles, aunts, teachers, grandparents, youth workers, basically anyone who is interested in the welfare of our children." -- Reader Comment

Schaeffer, Edith, The Life of Prayer (Wheaton, IL: Good News Publishers [Crossway Books], 1992). 10780
"Here is a distillation of Mrs. Schaeffer's lifelong experience as a prayer warrior. Filled with examples from her own life and the lives of hundreds of friends throughout the world, this heartwarming book brings the reader face to face with the life-changing power of prayer. She speaks on such difficult subjects as: Why pray if God is sovereign? and What is the relationship between prayer and suffering?" -- GCB

Watson, Carol, and Ann Baum (contributor), 365 Children's Prayers: Prayers Old and New for Today and Every Day
"This is a wondrous book on praying for it offers 365 prayers - most written by children. The prayers cover topical issues and are separated into six easy to follow categories. I have purchased many copies of this book over the years for use as gifts, for use in Sunday School, and I have two copies for personal use. An excellent choice!" -- Reader Comment

Wenhe, Mary B., How to Pray for Healing (Old Tappan, NJ: Fleming H. Revell, 1975). 40012

See also: Book length presentations of the free offer of Gospel message of salvation and the life to come: the means of grace

Related WebLinks

Nave's Topical Bible: Christ, Prayers of
http://bible.crosswalk.com/Concordances/NavesTopicalBible/ntb.cgi?number=T2807

The Blood of the Lamb, the Conquering Weapon
A sermon by C.H. Spurgeon delivered on Lord's-day morning, September 9, 1888, at the Metropolitan Tabernacle, Newington, Sermon no. 2043.
"This is the way in which you should use this plea. Say, 'My God, I am utterly unworthy, and I own it; but, I beseech thee, hear me for the honour of thy dear Son. By his agony and bloody sweat, by his cross and passion, by his precious death and burial, I beseech thee hear me! O Lord, let the blood of thine Only-begotten prevail with thee! Canst thou put aside his groans, his tears, his death, when they speak on my behalf?' If you can thus come to pleading terms with God upon this ground, you must and will prevail. Jesus must be heard in heaven. The voice of his blood is eloquent with God. If you plead the atoning sacrifice, you must overcome through the blood of the Lamb." -- C.H. Spurgeon
http://www.mountzion.org/fgb/Summer97/FgbS6-97.html



Discipleship (Women)

Let mount Zion rejoice, let the daughters of Judah be glad, because of thy judgments. (Psalms 48:11)

This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success. (Joshua 1:8)

But many that are first shall be last; and the last shall be first. -- Jesus Christ (Matthew 19:30)

*Baxter, Richard, The One Thing Necessary
A treatise on the sin of Martha.

Baxter, Richard, Walking With God [30933]

Bobgan, Deidre, Lord of the Dance: The Beauty of the Disciplined Life (Santa Barbara, CA: EastGate Publishers, 1993). 40047A
"Discipline and beauty, a striking pair . . . Spiritual disciplines for ballet lovers . . . Biblical concepts and examples freshly framed in ballet motif serve as unique reminders to walk more closely with the Lord of the Dance." -- Publisher's Annotation

*James, John Angell, Female Piety or the Young Woman's Friend and Guide Through Life to Immortality (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications).
"This is another in a series of books on the family. By the author of THE CHRISTIAN FATHER'S PRESENT TO HIS CHILDREN, this is James' book on raising a godly daughter. He deals with early piety, the elevation of women by the gospel, the importance of personal religion, and how to be a good wife and mother. This is a book every parent should read to their daughters. Here is a book that girls should read to know what to become, and boys should read to know what to look for! There is a foreword by Mrs. Edna Gerstner." -- Publisher's Annotation

Kent, Carol, How to Grow in Christ (Philadelphia, PA: The Presbyterian and Reformed Publishing Co.). [40021]
"This book candidly explores ten areas in which women struggle for fulfillment and success. It identifies three kinds of passions--twisted, honorable, and holy--that come from the way you deal with unfulfilled expectations. And it exposes the myths about `good Christian women' that conflict with what you really think and feel." -- GCB

Masters, Lavonne, Memorize and Meditate (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishers). 40054
"Masters combines practical, easy-to-use memorization methods with Biblical principles of mediation to produce a memory plan that works." -- GCB

Miller, Rosemarie, Romans (Jenkintown, PA [World Harvest, Box 2175, Jenkintown 19046]: World Harvest, 1985). 40055
An excellent study of Romans based on Ray Stedman's study of Romans. Ties in beautifully with the SONSHIP COURSE by C. John Miller and Rosemarie Miller.
World Harvest Mission
http://www.whm.org/home.htm

Whitefield, George, Christ the Best Husband: Or an Earnest Invitation to Young Women to Come and See Christ (Preached to a Society of Young Women, in Fetter-Lane.)
http://www.jesus-is-lord.com/whitefie.htm

See also: The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Book length presentations of the free offer of Gospel message of salvation and the life to come: the means of grace, Womanhood, The ten commandments (women), Sexual relationship, Works of martha finley

Related WebLinks

Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
"Click on any of the individual questions below to get the answer and Biblical references, as well as links to works by John Flavel, Thomas Watson, Thomas Boston, James Fisher, and John Whitecross, and others."
http://www.shortercatechism.com/

Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html

"The Law of a Sound Mind," Peter Masters
"By discarding the law of a sound mind (the protection provided by the reasoning faculty) Charismatics have rendered themselves highly gullible in the face of false teaching, exaggeration, and lies. They have become notably vulnerable to religious charlatans and rogues, as the 1987 crisis in American religious television (which is predominantly Charismatic) has demonstrated. Emotionalism is rampant among them, and because all are free to do whatever seems right in their own eyes, serious spiritual lawlessness is widespread. These things are the inevitable result of laying aside the objective standard of God?s Word, the faculty of judgment, and the power of selfcontrol, all of which are brought into play by the sound mind." -- Peter Masters
http://www.trinityfoundation.org/PDF/Review_272_masters.pdf



The Ten Commandments (women)

Utimately the Seventh Commandment is about our fidelity to Christ.

Davidman, Joy, Smoke on the Mountain (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1971). 40159
"The wife of C.S. Lewis interprets the Ten Commandments and passes on observations she has made concerning those who have attempted to order their lives according to the Decalogue." -- Cyril J. Barber

Klaus, Sandra, Ten to Grow On: Teaching the Ten Commandments to Today's Children (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House). 40160
"For ages 8-12. Introduction to each commandment, modern-day story which illustrates the commandment, discussion questions, memory verse activities, song suggestions, classroom activities, and reproducible puzzles." -- GCB

McNair, Mac. and Amy McNair, Ten Principles for a Successful Marriage: Practical Lessons from the Ten Commandments
"Nearly everyone has heard of the Ten Commandments, and most people can even name a few of them. Through fifty-five years of marriage Mac and Amy McNair have drawn from them the following guidelines for living together:

"A simply written, deeply personal look at marriage, Ten Principles for a Successful Marriage is a recounting of the principles that have guided the authors in their own marriage. While at first these insights may seem like simple common courtesy and common sense, the McNairs have found a great deal of profundity in this very simplicity. Inspired by the Ten Commandments, TEN PRINCIPLES FOR A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE is an intensely practical, time-tested guide to happy, successful living that could be applied to other areas of life as well." -- Publisher's Annotation
"Mac McNair is a former career Air Force officer, professor at North Carolina State University, and director of aerospace programs at the Pentagon. Currently president of McNair Associates, a management consulting firm, he also is chairman of the Executive Leadership Foundation, which seeks to apply Judeo-Christian ethics in business and society. He also is co-author of the leadership development program for the U.S. Attorney General's office. Amy McNair, a homemaker, teaches classes with Mac on the principles of successful marriage. They live near Atlanta, Georgia." -- Publisher's Annotation
Executive Leadership Foundation
http://www.commandmentsonline.com/

Miller, C. John, Christ and the 10 Commandments; Harmony in Home Through the 5th Commandment (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 40199
Audio cassette CM106.

See also: The ten commandments, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship

Related WebLinks

Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
"Click on any of the individual questions below to get the answer and Biblical references, as well as links to works by John Flavel, Thomas Watson, Thomas Boston, James Fisher, and John Whitecross, and others."
http://www.shortercatechism.com/

Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html



Womanhood

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. (Proverbs 31:30)

Let mount Zion rejoice, let the daughters of Judah be glad, because of thy judgments. (Psalms 48:11)

But many that are first shall be last; and the last shall be first. -- Jesus Christ (Matthew 19:30)

There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus. And if ye be Christ's, then are ye Abraham's seed, and heirs according to the promise. (Galatians 3:28,29)

But after all, there is no guide for the formation of female character, morally or religiously considered, like the inspired one. A woman unacquainted with the Bible, and ignorant of its contents, as affecting her own conduct, character, and history, has yet to know the finest patterns of female loveliness. The Bible is the best mirror by which most accurately to know what you are, and to become what you should be; before which you may adjust all the moral habiliments of the soul, and from which you may go forth adorned with all the beauties of holiness, clothed with the garment of purity, and decorated with the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit. -- John Angell James

*Andreola, Karen, Beautiful Girlhood
"The book deals primarily with the Christian character development, moral virtues and manners of pre-teen and teenage girls. It is one of the best-selling titles in the homeschooling community." -- Publisher's Annotation

Barnes, Emilie, Michal Sparks (illustrator), and Anne Christian Buchanan (contributor) A Little Book of Manners: Etiquette for Young Ladies
"Aimed at girls six to ten, this book introduces children to basic good manners, explaining the `whys' as well as the `hows' and stressing a loving attitude over simply following rules. Like LET'S HAVE A TEA PARTY, this book is written from the point of view of Emilie Marie, a little girl who is basically Emilie as a child -- passing along information Emilie has learned as an adult." -- Publisher's Annotation

Barnes, Emilie The Spirit of Loveliness
"This book really deserves more than a ten. Emilie Barnes has an inheritance of brilliance in ideas for the home - and this book sums them up! With lovely hand-drawn illustrations, this book is one of the best motivators for creating a beautiful home I've ever seen. The book is printed as beautifully as you could desire, and would make a wonderful gift. I love it!" -- Reader Comment

Berry, Jo, Becoming God's Special Woman: Develop Self-Worth His Way (Old Tappan, NJ: Fleming H. Revell). 40164
"Answers such questions as: Do you believe that God created you just as you are for a purpose? Would you like power to change your life? Are you moving toward God's ideal for your life?" -- GCB

Berry, Jo, Making Your Life a Ministry

Betters, Sharon W. Treasures of Encouragement: Women Helping Women in the Church (Presbyterian and Reformed Publishing Company
"Security in your relationship with Christ can lead you to reach out to others in your church, your community, and your family! Do you know someone who is hurting, depressed, lonely? This book will help you find ways to help that person -- to build one another up. What a wonderful ministry! The Ministry of Encouragement!" -- Reader Comment

Caldwell, Genevieve, First Person, Singular [40040]
"She [the author] sees Christian single women shortchanging themselves and encourages them to shake off the shroud of passivity and actively build new, meaningful relationships." -- Cyril J. Barber

Carmichael, Amy, Toward Jerusalem (Fort Washington, PA: Christian Literature Crusade). 40003
"Amy Carmichaels's collection of poetry is breathtaking. In TOWARDS JERUSALEM, Miss Carmichael shares her deep love for the Lord through her writings. They have a lyrical flow that helps you grasp the `bigger picture' of life and love. Poems such as `In Acceptance Lieth Peace' calmed and soothed my soul, and indeed did help me to see where peace shall come from. Her poems range in topic from Life issues to Love issues, but are all Christ-Centered. I was deeply touched and inspired. A good companion to read along with TOWARDS... is CANDLES IN THE DARK, another one of Miss Carmichael's inspiring books." -- Reader Comment

*Havergal, Frances, Kept for the Master's Use (Grand Rapids, MI: Kregel Publications), ISBN: 080246582X. A Christian classic.
"If ever a woman lived her whole life as if she were married to Christ, it is Frances Havergal. Her every breath was drawn for Him, and so her every utterance breathed of Him . . . You will thrill to her expressions of praise. And when she leads us to a dedicated Christian life, we find it compelling. By all means read this book. You will never forget it." -- Jay P. Green, Sr.
Kept for the Master's Use
http://books.google.com/books?id=xnoVhMW4_jIC&ie=ISO-8859-1&output=html

*Havergal, Frances, The Poems and Hymns of Christ's Sweet Singer. 40002
"All her poetry and prose is saturated with the Living Word. It has a freshness and power which only the eternal dew of heavenly truth could impart. She was know to look to the Lord long and prayerfully before putting pen to paper. She once wrote to her sister, `If I am to write to any good, a great deal of living must go into a very little writing.' Her hymns, her poetry, and her prose breathe with the fire of love to her Savior. She lived very close, devoting the most of her earnings to missions. By the time of her death one of her volumes of poetry reached its 30th edition, and another was in its 38th. She began to read the Bible at age 4 and never ceased to study it. She lived as she wrote in that famous hymn: `Take my life, and let it be, consecrated, Lord, to Thee, Take my moments and my days; Let them flow in ceaseless praise.' Readers thrill at all she writes. . . ." -- Jay P. Green, Sr.

*Hunt, Susan, Spiritual Mothering: The Titus 2 Model for Women Mentoring Women (Brentwood, TN: Legacy Communications, 1992). 40015
"This is a fine treatment of a subject very close to my heart. May older women heed the call to mother the younger, and may the younger women be teachable." -- Elisabeth Elliot
"This is a jewel of a book. By sensitively examining Paul's instructions in Titus 2, Susan Hunt calls women to powerfully affect our nation and world with the love of God--one person at a time." -- Beverly LaHaye
"Hunt has lots of experience in the area this book covers. She is very active in the PCA's W.I.C. program. The book comes with glowing recommendations by Elisabeth Elliot, Bev LaHaye, Charles Dunahoo, Connie Marshner, and Debra Evans. She believes that the church needs to restore the ministry of older women to younger women." -- GCB

Hunt, Susan, The True Woman: The Beauty and Strength of a Godly Woman (Crossway Books, January 13, 1997).
"This book challenges women to review their lives. It begins with a definition of what the Bible defines as a True Woman. Each chapter is prefaced with a real account from a Godly woman and her struggles with real life situations. It is peppered with illustrations of women who have walked with God. There are wonderful Scriptural references to help determine the Biblical purpose of women. It is a challenge to all Christian women to find out how to be a True Woman of God in today's world." -- Reader Comment

Hunter, Emily, Christian Charm Course
"Aimed at young girls, this popular study book has been used by countless homeschool families to teach young girls good manners and godly behavior. With practical guidelines for grooming, dress, politeness, conversation skills, and spiritual growth, this book will help children integrate inner beauty with outer beauty." -- Publisher's Annotation

*James, John Angell, Female Piety or the Young Woman's Friend and Guide Through Life to Immortality (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications).
"This is another in a series of books on the family. By the author of THE CHRISTIAN FATHER'S PRESENT TO HIS CHILDREN, this is James' book on raising a godly daughter. He deals with early piety, the elevation of women by the gospel, the importance of personal religion, and how to be a good wife and mother. This is a book every parent should read to their daughters. Here is a book that girls should read to know what to become, and boys should read to know what to look for! There is a foreword by Mrs. Edna Gerstner." -- Publisher's Annotation

*Kassian, Mary A., Women, Creation and the Fall (Wheaton, IL: Good News Publishers [Crossway Books]). 40016
"There isn't a better book around which lays the Scriptural foundations for the roles of men and women. Mrs Kassian firmly upholds biblical authority, and starts right at the beginning -- the creation of Adam and Even in Genesis. That is, both men and women were created in God's image, but both sinned and were both cursed.
"Kassian presents the Scriptural framework for God's order in the home and the church: benevolent male headship and female submission. As Ephesians 5:24-25 says `Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.'
"But Kassian also warns against shortcomings by both sexes, e.g. male despotism and female rebellion.
"Finally, she applies relentless logic and sound analysis of the scriptures to refute so-called 'biblical' feminism. I see this aberration in the same way as creation compromises (e.g. gap theory, day-age, theistic evolution): trying to interpret the infallible Word of God by the fallible theories of sinful human beings.
"Be sure to get her subsequent book THE FEMINIST GOSPEL: THE MOVEMENT TO UNITE FEMINISM WITH THE CHURCH. This shows, among other things, how many of the first generation of `biblical' feminists started by `reinterpreting' God's word to fit fashionable feminist theory. Later, they slid further down the slippery slope into complete apostasy.
"For a very thorough and detailed refutation of 'biblical' feminism, I recommend RECOVERING BIBLICAL MANHOOD AND WOMANHOOD by Piper and Grudem. -- Reader Comment

Kent, Carol, How to Grow in Christ (Philadelphia, PA: The Presbyterian and Reformed Publishing Co.). 40021
"This book candidly explores ten areas in which women struggle for fulfillment and success. It identifies three kinds of passions--twisted, honorable, and holy--that come from the way you deal with unfulfilled expectations. And it exposes the myths about `good Christian women' that conflict with what you really think and feel." -- GCB

Krabbendam, Henry, The Spiritual Role of the Woman (part 1) (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 40022
Audio cassette HKR01.

Krabbendam, Henry, The Spiritual Role of the Woman (part 2) (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 40023
Audio cassette HKR02.

Langberg, D., Dignity of Women in Christ: Her Relationships (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Media). 40024
Audio cassette DWC03 and video V023.

McKinney-Hammond, Michelle, Secrets of an Irresistible Woman
"No matter where you want to go in life, you've got to have the right directions or you'll never reach your destination. No one going to LA gets on a plane that's headed for Florida, or takes directions from someone who's never been there. Therefore when it comes to relationships it only makes sense to take directions from the One who mapped out the way to true love. Since sense is not as common as some would like to think, it's safe to say that God's Word, whether you acknowledge Him or not, just makes good sense. And mama made sense too, she might not have known or explained why, but she had a point. Hopefully after absorbing the principles I share in this book, you will use you head as well as your heart, along with a good dose of spiritual discernment to arrive joyfully at your love destination." -- Michelle McKinney Hammond, the author

Miller, C. John, Becoming a Full-Time Woman; How to Enjoy Full-Time Maturity (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 40198
Audio cassette CM104.

Pape, Dorothy R., In Search of God's Ideal Woman: A Fresh Look at What the New Testament Says About Women (London, England: Mowbrays, 1978, c1976). 40028

Rice, Helen Steiner, Someone Cares (Old Tappan, NJ: Fleming H. Revell, c1972). 40005
"For millions of readers, Helen Steiner Rice's poetry is a living testimony to God's action in human lives. SOMEONE CARES, one of Mrs. Rice's most popular collections, has now sold nearly a million copies. With an updated format and stunning watercolor art by Stan Myers, this new edition promises to be a hit with Mrs. Rice's many devoted fans.
This collection includes poems on loving God, loving others, God's love and presence, and the richness of family life. SOMEONE CARES shows how important it is to find someone who does care and to become someone who cares for others. It also reassures readers of God's love and presence, encouraging them to remember that the Someone above is always with us.
"In addition to Mrs. Rice's inspiring poems, SOMEONE CARES includes a personal statement of the author's faith entitled THIS I BELIEVE. This statement clearly reveals the spiritual dimension in Mrs. Rice's life, a quality that gives her work such universal appeal.
"Helen Steiner Rice, America's best-loved inspirational poet, wrote poems to encourage readers of all ages. Her popular books have sold more than six million copies. They include SOMEBODY LOVES YOU, A BOOK OF THANKS, and BLOSSOMS OF FRIENDSHIP.
"Stan Myers is an award-winning artist and member of the prestigious National Watercolor Society. His work is included in private and corporate collections and is represented by several galleries in the Midwest." -- Reader Comment
Helen Steiner Rice is the favorite poetess of D. James Kennedy.

Sanfacon, C., Dignity of Women in Christ: Her Emotions (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Media). 40031
Audio cassette DWC02 and video V022.

Spencer, Emalyn, A Woman That Feareth the Lord (Proverbs 31) (Montgomery, AL: Presbyterian Church in America by the Committee for Christian Education and Publication). 40217

Spencer, Emalyn, With My Whole Heart

Strom, Kay Marshall, Perfect in His Eyes: A Woman's Workshop on Self Esteem

Strom, Kay Marshall, Special Women in the Bible

Van Eenwyk, F., Dignity of Women in Christ: Her Body (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 40035
Audio cassette DWC01 and video V021.

Various, Dignity of Woman in Christ (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 40036
A special set of four audio cassettes featuring: Dr. Fay Van Eenwyk, "A Woman and Her Body," Dr. Cheryl Stanfacon, "A Woman and Her Emotions," Dr. Diane Langberg, "A Woman and Her Relationships," plus a Q&A session with these women.
Audio cassette CM104.

Various, Dignity of Women in Christ: Panel Discussion (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 40037
Audio cassette DWC04 and video V024.

Whitefield, George, Christ the Best Husband: Or an Earnest Invitation to Young Women to Come and See Christ. (Preached to a Society of Young Women, in Fetter-Lane.)
http://www.jesus-is-lord.com/whitefie.htm

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Mentoring (women), Biography of christian women, Men and women, Works of martha finley

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A Sermon of John Calvin, Upon the first Epistle of Paul to Timothy, published for the benefit and edifying of the Church of God. Translated out of French into English by L.T. at London, Imprinted for G. Bishop and T. Woodcoke, 1579.
Calvin on the true calling of women.
http://truecovenanter.com/calvin/calvin_19_on_Timothy.html

Ruth Bell Graham Memorial Site
http://bgea.org/rbg_default.asp

Ruth Bell Graham a Lifetime Pilgrimage
http://www.citizen-times.com/apps/pbcs.dll/section?Category=BILLYGRAHAM02

virtuoursreality.com, A Website for All Women
http://www.virtuousreality.com/

Daughters of the King Collection

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. (Proverbs 31:30)

Let mount Zion rejoice, let the daughters of Judah be glad, because of thy judgments. (Psalms 48:11)

"The call to Christian womanhood is a noble calling. It is a holy pursuit. It is a life-long duty of service, and in the furtherance of this goal, it is important that young ladies are mindful of Whom they are called to serve: Christ, our King. It is a calling for a young girl to mature into a godly woman of purity, virtue, and a joyful spirit -- to become a faithful 'daughter of Zion' (Psalm 9:14).
"A young girl, a lady in training, understands that she is a princess and daughter of the King of Kings, as well as a princess, daughter, and ambassador of her earthly father. And as a daughter of the King, she needs to be encouraged to hold His banner high without wavering. She must walk in a manner befitting those who bear the name of Him who is the 'great King over all the earth' (Psalm 47:2).
"A father's most sacred duty is to instill in his daughter a clear vision for her noble calling before the Lord and to protect and preserve her heart as she moves from childhood to virtuous womanhood. Just as a man is called to sanctify his wife through the 'washing' of God's Word (Ephesians 5:26), so too, a father is called to present his daughter as a symbol of pure beauty through his loving guidance and care. When a father carries out his role in this way, he shows her the special place she holds before her Heavenly King, even as the Psalmist proclaimed: 'The king's daughter is all glorious within: her clothing is of wrought gold' (Psalm 45:13).
"A noble daughter's hero -- her father . . . The simplicity and beauty of trust and pure love . . .
"To help assist fathers in this endeavor, Vision Forum has assembled a set of some of our most important and heartwarming books and CDs designed to encourage young ladies and assist parents in their training as daughters of the King. These messages will challenge dads on the importance of guarding their daughters' hearts at all costs, how to shield them from the pressures of a peer-oriented society and inappropriate romantic relationships, and how to prepare them as a bride -- a godly young woman of purity for the young man of their dreams whom God is preparing. These resources will inspire the young ladies in your home, strengthening your family, equipping your daughter to be a joy to her father, while she looks to him as her hero." -- -- Doug Phillips
http://www.visionforum.com/beautifulgirlhood/productdetail.aspx?productid=27830&categoryid=53



Men and Women

But many that are first shall be last; and the last shall be first. -- Jesus Christ (Matthew 19:30)

See the Theological Notes, "Body and Soul, Male and Female," at Genesis 2:7, page 10, in The Reformation Study Bible

Many marriages have been healed by a commitment to Christ first and to each other second. -- D. James Kennedy and Jerry Newcombe, What if Jesus Had Never Been Born, p. 140

Dodd, Elizabeth D., Marriage to a Difficult Man: The `Uncommon Union' of Jonathan and Sarah Edwards (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1971). 40069
About Sarah Perrepont's marriage to Jonathan Edwards and the raising of their 11 children.

*Hardisty, Margaret, Forever My Love: What Every Man Should Know About his Wife (Irvine, CA: Harvest House Publishers, 1975). 40065
"Excellent book for husbands on learning to live with their wives in understanding."-- Robert B. Somerville

Hurley, James B., Man and Woman in Biblical Perspective [60299]
"This is an excellent study of the roles of men and women in Old Testament, New Testament and Inter-Testamental times. Roles covered include family life, commercial, managerial, governmental and religious. Except for the inter-testamental period, the analysis sticks strictly to the scriptures and is very objective. When the subject of religious roles is discussed, the author, who is a member of the Presbyterian Church in America (PCA) denomination, is careful to define modern church offices in terms of their New Testament counterparts.
"Mr. Hurley is well qualified for this inquiry since he has a doctorate in Pauline Theology and also extensive experience in marriage counseling.
"I found the book to be very helpful as I went through the process of deciding whether ordination of women was an approved biblical practice." -- Reader Comment

*Miller, C. John, Woman's Role in the Home (part 1) (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 40116
Audio cassette CMR03.
World Harvest Mission
http://www.whm.org/home.htm

*Miller, C. John, Woman's Role in the Home (part 2) (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 40117
Audio cassette CMR04.

Rank, Maureen Dealing With the Dad of Your Past
"Practical, biblical counsel for every woman.
"Although fathers are not the only determining influence in their daughters' lives, it is true that their impact at times may be the most ignored. Current research shows that a girl's relationship with her father is absolutely critical to her psychological, social, and spiritual development. This is grim news to a group of people whom psychologists are labeling, `The Fatherless Generation.' Physically absent dads (the current experience of one-fourth of American children under 18), emotionally absent dads, and abusive dads are impacting daughters as well as sons.
"God as Father designed earthly fathers to model His loving care through personal involvement, warmth, discipline, and wise direction and counsel toward maturity. Where these are lacking in a daughter's life, profound effects occur. As difficult as that may be to face, that process is the only way to emotional and spiritual wholeness. It requires a sometimes painful look back and honest assessment of the dad of the past. It means coming to terms with who he really was, who he wasn't, and what can be done about it now. Through God's restoring process, daughters will be challenged to embrace the One perfect Father who is always there and allow His life-changing truth and power to `make all things new'." -- Publisher's Annotation

Strom, Kay Marshall, Making Friends With Your Father: A Book for Daughters (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House). 40111
"Looks at how your father has affected you, how your father influences your choice of men, how to deal with problem fathers, and much more." -- GCB

Strom, Kay Marshall, Making Friends With Your Mother

Wilson, Bunny, Liberated by Submission
Submission is the whole thing, submission to God, the Ultimate Judge, Lawgiver, Holiness, and submission to others. The caveat -- everyone tries to play god, and thus interferes with what God is doing, thus the need for discerning submission.

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Fatherhood, Womanhood, Men, women and god, Fatherlessness, Works of martha finley

Related WebLinks

Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood
http://www.cbmw.org/

Ruth Bell Graham Memorial Site
http://bgea.org/rbg_default.asp

Ruth Bell Graham a Lifetime Pilgrimage
http://www.citizen-times.com/apps/pbcs.dll/section?Category=BILLYGRAHAM02

Effects of Fatherlessness, US DATA
http://fatherhood.about.com/gi/dynamic/offsite.htm?site=http://www.massey.ac.nz/%7EKBirks/gender/econ/nodad.htm



Marriage (Women)

Many marriages have been healed by a commitment to Christ first and to each other second. -- D. James Kennedy and Jerry Newcombe, What if Jesus Had Never Been Born, p. 140

*Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation, Woman's Workshop on Biblical Marriages (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Media). 40078
Audio cassettes.

*Garland, Diana S. Richmond, and David E. Garland, Beyond Companionship: Christians in Marriage (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1986). 40075
"After carefully examining New Testament sources, the authors conclude that truly Christian marriage must be a companionship of equal persons. But they go further, affirming that companionship is not enough, because Christian marriage must be an active partnership of equals working together to fulfill the divine purpose." -- David and Vera Mace

James, John Angel, The Marriage Ring
"This little volume is intended as a manual for those just entering the marriage state. John Angel James (1785-1859) was an author beloved and esteemed for his many practical writings. He remarks, `It is an unquestionable truth that if a man be not happy at home, he cannot be happy anywhere; and he who is happy there need be miserable nowhere. The secret of happiness lies folded up in the leaves of the Bible and is carried in the bosom of religion.' He treats of the foundation of the marriage union, the family circle, the mutual and special duties of husband and wife." -- Gospel Union

Luther, Martin, 1483-1546 and Walter Lynne (translator), A vvatch-vvord for vvilfull vvomen. An excellent pithie dialogue betvveene two sisters, of contrary dispositio[n]s: the one a vertuous matrone: fearing God: the other a vvilfull husvvife: of disordered behauioure. Wherein is righte Christianly discoursed, what singuler commodity commeth by vertuous educatio[n], as otherwise what torment to a quiet man, a skowlding [and] vndiscrete woman is. Additional Titles: Fruteful predication or sermon of D. Mart. Luth. concernynge matrimony, 1581, EEBO.
Notes: In two parts. Part 1 is a translation of Der b?sen Weiber Zuchtsch?l. Part 2 is a translation of a sermon on matrimony by Martin Luther. Luther's sermon translated by Walter Lynne.

Stigger, Judith, Coping With Infertility [40219]

Vincent, Thomas, 1634-1678, Christ the best husband: or An invitation of young women unto Christ. Delivered in a sermon to young women. By Thomas Vincent, minister sometime of Maudlins Milkstreet, London, 1672, EEBO.

See also: The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Reconciliation of relationships, Marriage conflict resolution, Works of martha finley

Related WebLinks

Appendix D: A Selection of Works on Pseudo-Christian Movements
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrrappd.html



Family (Women)

God be merciful unto us, and bless us: and cause his face to shine upon us: That they way may be known upon earth, thy saving health among all nations. (Psalms 67:1,2)

The Treasury of David, Psalm 67, C.H. Spurgeon
http://www.spurgeon.org/treasury/ps067.htm

But many that are first shall be last; and the last shall be first. -- Jesus Christ (Matthew 19:30)

Cleaver, Nancy, The Treasury of Family Fun (Westwood, NJ: Fleming H. Revell, 1960). 40114
"A manual on indoor and outdoor activities with ideas and projects for every month of the year." -- Cyril J. Barber

Hibbard, Ann, Family Celebrations at Birthdays and for Vacations and Other Holidays
"Here are practical tips and tested advice for planning birthdays that everyone will enjoy. Fun, memorable parties need not cost a bundle either. Hibbard helps you draw on your creativity instead of your checkbook!" -- Publisher's Annotation

*James, John Angell, A Help to Domestic Happiness (Soli Deo Gloria Publications)
"This is James' book on how to rightly order the family, which originated from sermons preached on Ephesians. James emphasizes that the chief end of every Christian parent must be the spiritual interests, religious character, and eternal salvation of their children. Here is just one quote from the book that will give an idea of its content and depth: "The secret of happiness lies folded up in the leaves of the Bible, and is carried in the bosom of religion." -- Publisher's Annotation

*MANTON, THOMAS, Family worship: Mr. Thomas Manton's epistle to the reader of the Westminster Confession of Faith and Larger and Shorter catechisms (Cerlox Bound Photocopy Series. Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books). Available (WESTMINSTER CONFESSION OF FAITH, 1646) on the forthcoming Calvinism Bookshelf CD #1. Available (THE WORKS OF THOMAS MANTON) on The Amazing Christian Library, DVD Two, CD #9, #10.
"Manton was a covenanted English Presbyterian (he swore the Solemn League and Covenant). He was also chosen to write the 'Epistle to the Reader' in THE WESTMINSTER CONFESSION OF FAITH, 1646, which speaks volumes as to his credibility among the preachers and scholars of his day." -- SWRB
Mr. Thomas Manton's Epistle to the Reader of the Westminster Confession of Faith (1646) and Larger and Shorter Catechisms
Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html

Meyer, Jerome Sydney, The Big Book of Family Games: The Most Complete Treasury of Fun-Filled Games and Activities for Family and Friends

Pittman, Grace, Hospitality With Confidence (Minneapolis, MN: Bethany House Publishers). 40118
"Author shows us how to open our hearts and homes in an efficient, graceful, and loving manner. Many effective and creative ways to practice Christian hospitality." -- GCB

*Pride, Mary, All the Way Home: Power for Your Family to Be Its Best [40122]
"ALL THE WAY HOME is the long-awaited sequel to Mary Pride's revolutionary book, THE WAY HOME. Building on the theme of the home as the center of life, this book will change your ideas on what is possible for families today. More than a problem-solving manual, this text helps families do it right from the start." -- Publisher's Annotation
"Reading Mary's book has reassured me that all scripture is valid even today. It's a pity every woman by age 15 has not been made to study these concepts, fully understand her God given role in life and how exciting it truly can be. Now if we women of today would just pick up the baton and run the race, as Mary has clearly outlined for us in her book, God would bless our families and children again. If you are hungry to see God's hand in your life, Mary has written a beautiful book calling women back to the place God prepared for us in the beginning. Buy this and let the rebuke and encouragement draw you back to the 66 books that make up our Bible and guide our lives in the path God has laid out for us as women." -- Reader Comment
"If you are a Christian woman who needs help redefining your purpose in life because you don't have children, BUY this book. If you are a wife and/or mother who is tired of society (NC17 & violent media, TV, video, music, etc) defining you....and you/your children's wants and needs, this is the book for you too." -- Reader Comment

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Homeschooling (women), Works of martha finley, Sex (women), Pornography, Sharing christ with your children, Book length presentations of the free offer of Gospel message of salvation and the life to come: the means of grace

See also: Family worship



Women's Health

Adams, Jay E., A Personal Word to Women (Nutley, NJ: Presbyterian and Reformed Publishing Co., 1975). 30003
"Biblical and practical advice to women on how to handle their menstrual period." -- Robert B. Somerville

Balch, Phyllis A., and James F., Balch, Prescription for Nutritional Healing: A Practical A-Z Reference to Drug-Free Remedies Using Vitamins, Minerals, Herbs, and Food Supplements, 3rd edition.
"PRESCRIPTION FOR NUTRITIONAL HEALING by nutritionist Phyllis A. Balch and James F. Balch, M.D., has long been considered one of the most trusted, comprehensive sources on the mind-boggling array of vitamins, minerals, herbs, and other dietary supplements now available. Working from the premise that a good diet promotes good health, this third edition of PNH still starts with the basics: consume fresh produce, grains, and lean meats; avoid foods that are processed or high in saturated fat; cook using glass, stainless steel, or iron -- never aluminum; and drink filtered water. The authors also stand by their claim that the government-prescribed recommended daily allowances are ridiculously low, and that the book's optimal daily intake for nutrients should be followed instead.
So what's new in the third edition? Along with now-accepted remedies, like zinc and echinacea for the common cold, the Balches also explore many of the newer supplements to hit the market: Same (recommended for depression and joint pain), phosphatidyl serine (mental acuity), red yeast rice (cholesterol), and 5-HTP (weight loss, insomnia, depression). You'll also find an expanded chapter on alternative therapies that encompasses Ayurvedic and traditional Chinese medicine, along with a hefty section on pain control that offers a grab bag of options such as acupuncture, biofeedback, guided imagery, chiropractic care, and massage.
Still, the bulk of the book remains the more than 250 health conditions--from everyday problems such as insect bites and bad breath to serious diseases including bulimia, cancer, and AIDS--and the nutritional protocols the Balches recommend for treatment. Since any number of supplements can be taken for the same condition, the Balches make sifting through the glut of information a little easier by separating their nutrient recommendations into four categories: essential, very important, important, and helpful. And they take a lot of the guesswork out of buying supplements by listing the brands they know and trust. Once again, the authors have squeezed in an impressive amount of information, including valuable sidebars on topics such as the dangers of aspartame; how to choose a calcium supplement; common heart problems and procedures; cancer risk factors, diagnosis, and treatments; and sports nutrition. This is not relaxing reading, but it's enormously useful. While the material can be dense, the authors still manage to present it in a straightforward manner that's understandable even for readers without a medical degree." -- Norine Dworkin

Childre, Doc Lew, and Howard Martin, The HeartMath Solution: The Institute of HeartMath's Revolutionary Program for Engaging the Power of the Heart's Intelligence (Harper SanFrancisco, August 2000).
"The Intelligent Heart. Access the power of your heart's intelligence to improve your focus and creativity, elevate your emotional clarity, lower your stress and anxiety levels, strengthen your immune system, promote your body's optimal performance, and slow the aging process." -- Publisher's Annotation
"THE HEARTMATH SOLUTION may easily be written off as a book too eccentric for widespread public consumption, and that's unfortunate. The title's a bit misleading -- it's not about cardiac care and it's not about calculus, but rather how 30 years of research have shown that the heart's 'intelligence' affects emotions and physical health -- especially when it comes to handling stress -- and specifically what you can do to balance heart rhythms, reduce stress hormones, and boost your immune system. Yes, it sounds complicated, especially when you read that cardiologists worked with physicists and psychiatrists to develop the HeartMath program. But it's worth brushing off your skepticism and exploring the concepts in the Solution, as many employees of Fortune 500 companies have already done.
"The 'intelligence' that the authors focus on refers to both the heart's 'brain,' or the 40,000 neurons found in the heart (the same number in the brain itself), and the intuitive signals the heart sends, including feelings of love, happiness, care, and appreciation. When such positive emotions are felt, they 'not only change patterns of activity in the nervous system; they also reduce the production of the stress hormone cortisol.' When there's less cortisol, there's more DHEA, the so-called fountain of youth hormone known to have anti-aging effects on many of the body's systems.
"The HeartMath Solution outlines 10 steps for harnessing the power of the heart's intelligence, including ways to manage your emotions and keep energy levels high. One of the most important is the 'Freeze-Frame' technique for calming the nervous system, improving clarity of thought and perception, and boosting productivity (which is one of the many appealing features for those Fortune 500 companies). Each step includes references to data proving its effectiveness, with handy summaries of the key points to remember at the end of each chapter. This is a book that takes a bit of scientific understanding and a lot of time to wade through, but one that could help you prevent stress from ruling your existence." -- Erica Jorgensen, Amazon.com
"Is the heart the missing link in the mind-body connection? By combining age-old philosophy with modern science, Childre and Martin make a compelling case for the idea that good health is really a triumph of heart, not mind, over matter. Citing the Institute's research on the heart's role in human health, they demonstrate that the so-called metaphorical condition of the heart -- which has long been associated with love, wisdom, courage, and happiness -- may play as important a role in mental well-being as its physical function. The HeartMath solution lies in developing what Childre and Martin call the core heart feelings (such as love, forgiveness, appreciation and care), which trigger physiological responses resulting in less stress, better brain function and a stronger immune system. Although this book is about the heart, it's written with cool intelligence and intelligibility for the head. Despite slightly off-putting names (Freeze-Frame, Cut-Thru and Lock-In), the relaxation exercises, which are being taught at corporations and at schools, are simple to do, although perhaps already too familiar to anyone who has tried other kinds of meditative techniques. Nevertheless, in presenting a clear argument for following one's heart, this book certainly breaks new ground in the holistic approach to health." -- Publishers Weekly
"Ancient cultures believed that the heart rather than the brain was the seat of emotions, vestiges of which are still apparent in descriptive phrases such as 'broken hearted,' 'cold hearted,' and many others. Recent research confirms the existence of complex communication links between these two organs as well as other systems responsible for maintaining homeostasis, and unanticipated electrical energy pathways that may mediate these activities. This book describes cutting edge approaches that can not only tune into such conversations, but also reduce stress and promote physical and mental health by influencing the dialogue." -- Paul J. Rosch, M.D., F.A.C.P., President, The American Institute of Stress
"HeartMath has had a profound influence on the lives of patients, staff, and administrators at our hospital. Specific health problems such as hypertension and arrhythmias have improved in several patients through interventions with HeartMath tools. Communication and creativity among staff members trained in these tools has taken a quantum leap. They have noticed a completely different way of looking at problems and interacting with those around them." -- Bruce Wilson, M.D., Former Director, University of Pittsburgh Heart Institute, Chairman, Medical Education Committee, Columbia Hospital, Milwaukee, WI
HeartMath. A Listmania! list by Pine Breeze (Spokane, WA USA)
http://www.amazon.com/HeartMath/lm/R2WVTSM80KYK21/ref=cm_lmt_dtpa_f_1_rdssss0/102-0530517-7595327?pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_s=listmania-center&pf_rd_r=030ZRMC9RRBR9QSV6BAE&pf_rd_t=201&pf_rd_p=253462201&pf_rd_i=157224397X

Davis, John Jefferson, The Christian's Guide to Pregnancy and Childbirth: Choosing the Best for You and Your Baby From Conception to Delivery (Wheaton, IL: Good News Publishers [Crossway Books]). 40088
"A needed book! An important book! Nothing else like it from a distinctly Christian position. Covers what to expect, prenatal diagnosis, nutrition and beauty tips, delivery methods, hospital procedures, family size, contraception, infant bonding, breast feeding, and more." -- GCB

Lush, Jean, and Pam Vredevelt (contributor), Women and Stress: A Practical Approach to Managing Tension
"Jean Lush and Pam Vredevelt examine troublesome emotions and show you how to manage your own `storage pot' of tension with practical, tried and true methods gained from research, their own experiences, and pertinent case studies." -- Publisher's Annotation

McIlhaney, Joe, and Susan Nethery, 1,001 Health-Care Questions Women Ask
"The doctor is in! And Dr. McIlhaney, frequently heard on `Focus on the Family' broadcasts, has time to provide women with up-to-date answers to their health-care questions. Now in a third edition, this respected resource continues to provide solid medical advice, reliable information about treatment options, and the latest innovations in obstetrics and gynecology." -- Publisher's Annotation
"Dr. McIlhaney, an experienced OB/GYN, is the only Christian physician to address such a wide range of questions--from general health concerns to specific situations such as infertility, abortion, and marital sexual relationships. Every aspect of female physical development is discussed in a straightforward, sensitive manner.
"Joe S. McIlhaney Jr., M.D., is president of the Medical Institute for Sexual Health. He practiced medicine, specializing in obstetrics and gynecology, for thirty years. Dr. McIlhaney is the author of SEX: WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW CAN KILL YOU and several other books. He and his wife live in Austin, Texas. Susan Nethery has written several books and lives in Milam, Texas." -- Publisher's Annotation

Mendelsohn, Robert S., How to Raise a Healthy Child: In Spite of Your Doctor
"This book explodes many of the medical myths that get passed on from doctors to parents (it also explodes the myth of doctor as all-knowing and all-powerful). It also is a source of support for parents who want to avoid constant trips to the pediatrician. Dr. Mendelsohn advocates homebirth, extended breastfeeding and questions many of the standard vaccination practices. A real voice in the wilderness concerning current medical practices!" -- Publisher's Annotation

Mendelsohn, Robert S., Male Practice: How Doctors Manipulate Women (Chicago, IL: Contemporary Books, 1982). 40090
"A lot of practical advice is given regarding questions to ask the doctor when he suggests surgery. Includes the chapter `Fifty Drugs Every Woman Should Think Twice About Before Taking'." -- Publisher's Annotation

Omartian, Stormie, Stormie
"What a wonderful book to read for anyone who has lived with mental illness or was a member of a family with a parent that suffered from mental illness. It shows how one woman, having grown up in a two-parent household, had an absolutely horrific childhood. Her mother locked her in a closet for hours on end and continually verbally abused her as well. As she reaches adulthood, knowing how to relate to others is tough and causes much anxiety and pain. Through much error and wrong choices during her young adult years, she meets a man who tries to tell her about the love Jesus has for her. Not really understanding what it is all about, Stormie continues down the wrong path until one day she truly opens her heart up to God! Through reading this book, one is able to gain knowledge about people with mental illness as well as learn how to experience the love and forgiveness of God." -- Reader Comment

Platt, Nancy V., Pastoral Care to the Cancer Patient (Springfield, IL: Thomas, Charles C., Publisher, 1980). 40209

Sinatra, Stephen T., Jan Demarco Sinatra, and Roberta Jo Lieberman, Heart Sense for a Woman: Your Plan for Natural Prevention and Treatment (Penguin Putnam; September 1, 2001).
Heart disease presents different symptoms in women than in men. Because of gender specific symptoms it can go unrecognized in women. It has been said that within the next decade (written in 2005) gender specific physicians will become commonplace in health care.
"In this groundbreaking book, Dr. Stephen Sinatra reveals why heart disease is the #1 killer of women in America today. HEART SENSE FOR WOMEN shatters the myths that keep this a hidden epidemic and outlines a prescriptive plan for natural prevention and treatment. In this valuable resource, women will discover:

  • How to recognize early warning signs of heart attacks
  • 15 key risk factors and how to protect yourself
  • How being in touch with your emotions can lower your risk of heart disease
    "From the pros and cons of hormone replacement therapy to the 12 heart-healing food groups, from key stress management techniques to inspiring true-life stories, HEART SENSE FOR WOMEN is a book that no woman should be without." -- Publisher's Annotation

    Sneed, Sharon, and David Sneed, Prime Time: A Complete Health Guide for Women 35 to 65 (Dallas, TX: Word Publishing, 1989). 40091
    "This refreshingly upbeat handbook addresses matters of vital concern to women age 35 to 65 and offers practical tips for making those mid years and beyond truly primetime."-- Publisher's Annotation

    Well, Robert G., and Mary C. Well, Menopause and Mid-Life (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers). 40092
    "Wells clearly explains physical and emotional changes, hormonal therapy, and the various options available to mid-life women. Includes a chapter on men and their role." -- GCB

    See also: Sexual relationship, Physical health (chapter 8)



    Nursing

    Cave, Stephanie, and Deborah Mitchell (contributor), What Your Doctor May Not Tell You About Children's Vaccinations (Warner Books; September 1, 2001).
    "This book encourages parents '...to be equal partners with doctors in deciding which vaccines their children should get and when they should get them.' The way this book achieves this goal is by offering important medical information in easy to understand terms. WHAT YOUR DOCTOR MAY NOT TELL YOU... provides detailed info on the various vaccines currently required/suggested by state and federal governments; reviewing indepth the history of the diseases and related vaccines, ingredients used to make and preserve the vaccines, background studies and recent research available on a variety of the vaccines and also a risk/benefit analysis per vaccination. What this book offers (that your doctor's office may not) is a look at both sides of the vaccination issue and gives YOU a well-rounded resource package so you can best decide when/what vaccines to give your child. Factors that can influence your decision include any known allergies, reactions to previous vaccinations, family history of autoimmune diseases and more. Also a help to parents is a list of precautions parents can take when their children get vaccinated and also a recommended schedule (that differs from the government's) for childhood vaccinations. This alternative vaccination timeline allows you to operate within the guidelines of the government mandate that all children receive a certain number of shots prior to entering school, but attempts to spread out the vaccinations for minimum exposure to risk and negative side effects. Did you know many vaccines used today include ingredients such as mercury, formaldehyde, ethylene glycol (a main ingredient in antifreeze) and more? Would you consume those poisons? Of course not, but vaccine manufacturers (and the CDC and FDA) seem to think it's okay for our kids to receive these poisons ad nauseam. Fortunately, each of today's required vaccinations come with a mercury-free alternative, but many doctors are still using those with mercury and you must request the safer alternative. Research and vaccination injury reporting systems indicate possible and/or obvious links to multiple adverse effects including irreparable diseases and death, but many doctors, educators and government institutions refuse to consider those possibilities, as it may endanger the successful mass-vaccination programs currently employed in this country. Included in this book is a discussion of the possible exemptions available to parents, which may include religious, medical or philosophical, depending upon the state in which you live. If you're not willing to trust this author's approach, there's a list of multiple resources at the end of the book allowing you to do your own research and form your own further educated opinion." -- Publisher's Annotation
    "Stephanie Cave, M.D., is a family practitioner in Baton Rouge who specializes in children with autism and related disorders. She has been featured on CNN regarding children and vaccinations and testified in congressional hearings in July 2000."

    Rushford, Patricia H., Caring for Your Sick Child (Old Tappan, NJ: Fleming H. Revell, 1986). 40097
    "A practical handbook discussing prevention of illnesses and diseases. Deals alphabetically with a variety of ailments from `Abdominal Pain' to `Whooping Cough.' Provides practical counsel on the symptoms, home treatment, and when to call the doctor. Recommended." -- Cyril J. Barber

    Shelly, Judith Allen, and Arlene B. Miller, Called to Care: A Christian Theology of Nursing

    Shelly, Judith Allen, Dilemma: A Nurse's Guide for Making Ethical Decisions

    Shelly, Judith Allen, Not Just a Job: Serving Christ in Your Work

    Shelly, Judith Allen, and Arlene B. Miller, Values in Conflict: Christian Nursing in a Changing Profession



    Home Management

    *Anson, Elva, and Kathie Liden, The Complete Book of Home Management (Chicago, IL: Moody Press). 40121
    "This is a practical book for everyday living. And in the first chapter, How to Achieve Quality Living, they give the best practical advice of all: Live by the Scripture with an eye to Christ and His advice. What follows is unique. It takes up the skill of management. And the house, the time, the workload, the children, the money, and the nutrition are all discussed in a practical way. In places it is like Hints From Heloise, yet they never leave Jesus out of the picture. It is an excellent book for the family." -- Jay P. Green, Sr.

    Barnes, Emilie The Spirit of Loveliness
    "This book really deserves more than a ten. Emilie Barnes has an inheritance of brilliance in ideas for the home - and this book sums them up! With lovely hand-drawn illustrations, this book is one of the best motivators for creating a beautiful home I've ever seen. The book is printed as beautifully as you could desire, and would make a wonderful gift. I love it! -- Reader Comment

    Pittman, Grace, Hospitality With Confidence (Minneapolis, MN: Bethany House Publishers). 40125
    "The author shows us how to open our hearts and homes in an efficient, graceful, and loving manner. Many effective and creative ways to practice Christian hospitality." -- GCB

    *Pride, Mary, All the Way Home: Power for Your Family to Be Its Best (Wheaton, IL: Good News Publishers [Crossway Books], 1989). 40122
    "This is the long awaited sequel to the author's THE WAY HOME, a wonderful and revolutionary book. Here Mary Pride deals with home education, family worship, time management, and family work and play. Also ideas on starting and running a home business and investment strategies open new doors for women at home to use their talents and creativity. She shows how the family can reach out to minister to the community as well." -- GCB

    See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership



    Motherhood (Women)

    But many that are first shall be last; and the last shall be first. -- Jesus Christ (Matthew 19:30)

    Jesus saith unto her, Woman, what have I to do with thee? mine hour is not yet come. -- Jesus Christ (John 2:4)

    Arndt, Elise, A Mother's Touch (Wheaton, IL: Scripture Press Publications, Inc.). 40093
    "A mother-teacher in you home, you prepare you children for life. No one can replace your love and care in their early years. And no one else can teach them, as you can, of Jesus' love and his world." -- GCB

    Rushford, Patricia H., Caring for Your Sick Child (Old Tappan, NJ: Fleming H. Revell, 1986). 40097
    "A practical handbook discussing prevention of illnesses and diseases. Deals alphabetically with a variety of ailments from `Abdominal Pain' to `Whooping Cough.' Provides practical counsel on the symptoms, home treatment, and when to call the doctor. Recommended." -- Cyril J. Barber

    See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Book length presentations of the free offer of Gospel message of salvation and the life to come: the means of grace, Creeds, confessions, and catechisms, Motherhood, Works of martha finley
    TCRB5 (Thompson Chain Reference Bible, 5th edition, 1988 and later), 1629, 4073

    Related WebLinks

    Covenanted Motherhood, a sermon by Greg Price on Matthew 12:46-50
    http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?currSection=sermonsspeaker&sermonID=19013812

    Generation Rescue
    "The incidence of autism has increased from 1 in 10,000 in the 1970s to 1 in 150 today, an increase of over 6,000 percent. Many more children have been diagnosed with other neurodevelopmental disorders all considered to be on the same spectrum including Asperger's, ADHD/ADD, speech delay, and many other developmental delays and learning disabilities.

    During these investigations, numerous scientists from around the globe have testified before the committee, and have presented credible peer-reviewed research studies that indicated a direct link between the exposure of mercury, a widely known neurotoxin, and the increasing incidences of autism." -- Congressman Dan Burton (R-IN)
    Chairman, Subcommittee on Human Rights and Wellness, U.S. Congress
    Head of Three Year Congressional Investigation into Mercury In Medicine
    September 8, 2004
    http://www.generationrescue.org/



    Women and Parenting

    But when once they [children] are renewed by the Spirit of Christ, they are the charge of all the blessed Trinity, and under God the charge of angels: living or dying they are safe; for the eternal God is their portion and defense. -- Richard Baxter

    But Jesus called them unto him, and said, Suffer little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God. -- Jesus Christ (Luke 18:16)

    Barnes, Emilie, Michal Sparks (illustrator), Anne Christian Buchanan (contributor), A Little Book of Manners: Etiquette for Young Ladies
    "Aimed at girls six to ten, this book introduces children to basic good manners, explaining the `whys' as well as the `hows' and stressing a loving attitude over simply following rules. Like LET'S HAVE A TEA PARTY, this book is written from the point of view of Emilie Marie, a little girl who is basically Emilie as a child -- passing along information Emilie has learned as an adult." -- Synopsis
    Black, Thom, Lynda Stephenson, and Mary Chambers, Born to Fly: How to Discover and Encourage Your Child's Natural Gifts

    *Decker, Barbara, Proverbs for Parenting: A Topical Guide for Child Raising From the Book of Proverbs, 2nd edition (Boise, ID: Lynn's Bookshelf, 1989). 40099
    "Solid Biblical help. Seven major topics broken down into 75 total topics provide guidance for parents to give children." An accompanying book, A COLORING BOOK OF BIBLE PROVERBS is `a 30-page coloring book illustrating various passages from the Book of Proverbs. Can be used with or without the above hardback book'." -- GCB

    Fiddler, Carol, and Elisabeth Elliot, A Girl of Beauty
    "Addresses up-to-date issues girls face daily.
    "Family therapists are noting that children as young as 8, 9, and 10 are obsessed with their bodies and that this excessive focus hinders the normal growth and development of children. Modern psychologists are saying that we need to teach our children how to navigate through modern culture because they are, for the first time in history, learning how to behave from watching TV personae rather than real people.
    "Dealing with up-to-date issues that girls face today, this book is short, concise, and user-friendly for your fast-paced life. It covers topics girls deal with on a daily basis including: truthfulness, loyal friendships, contentment, life ambition, gossip, competition, outlook/attitude and more.
    "This book is for those who feel the pull of the world on their daughters or the special girl in their life and want a tool to aid in the teaching and training of girls in good, solid, godly character. The message that all they need to get through life is image and outward beauty is faulty and shortsighted.
    "Children, especially girls, need guidance and direction to counter this message. The recent trend for high school girls is cosmetic surgery to fix their `flaws' in hopes of finding security in themselves. Unfortunately this temporary fix will not satisfy them. They need to develop themselves as a whole person, full of godly character that gives them value as a complete person, beyond the surface exterior. Their security needs to be found not in temporary outward appearance, but in the development of inward qualities that are lasting. This book is a relationship-building book for parents and their daughters in understanding the heart of God for their identity and `whole-ness' as a person.
    "There is great versatility in using the book. Feedback I have received from those who have used it found it a fun reference for a mom/daughter Bible study. One particular group met once a week in the summer with a different mom/daughter team in charge of the fun events (roller blades, water ballons, etc.) and teaching the character topic. Another mom offered it as an after school group to all the girls in her daughter's school class and it has built camaraderie in the group. They meet once a month. One gal used it as a camp counselor for her cabin devotions.
    "A GIRL OF BEAUTY is a book you'll want to use over and over again (thick, high quality pages, spiral bound). Each time you go through it, something different and new comes out in discussion and application. We never stop learning and growing! Enjoy!" -- Carol Fiddler, the author

    Glasser, Howard, and Jennifer Easley Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured Heart Approach (Center for the Difficult Child)
    "After reading Howard Glasser and Jennifer Easley's excellent book, TRANSFORMING THE DIFFICULT CHILD, I felt a surge of hope for the more problematic children in our world. Finally, someone had discovered how to help parents manage difficult children in a positive, loving way and without medication!
    "Most of the children Glasser and Easley have worked with were taking medication when they arrived at the Nurtured Heart Approach center. These same children are no longer medicated into submission but living bright, successful lives. These children needed a little or a lot more attention than the average child but were being raised with traditional parenting skills that were rendered ineffective because of their ultra-sensitive natures. The parents of these children needed to learn to apply another set of rules to their kids to help them become the wonderful people they were destined to be.
    "The Nurtured Heart Approach is an easy, rational, beautiful and loving method of building on the successes of children while not giving energy to the negative aspects of their character. This is an approach that can be used on difficult or `normal' kids. I have begun applying these principles to my own methods of child rearing. They work quickly and magnificently! It's brilliant in its simplicity and effectiveness.
    "If you have a difficult child or even if you would like to learn a new positive, ingenious parenting approach, I urge you to read Glasser and Easley's book." -- Reader Comment

    Hyde, Margaret O., Alcohol: Drink or Drug?

    Hyde, Margaret O., Brainwashing and Other Forms of Mind Control

    Hyde, Margaret O., Gambling: Winners and Losers
    Grades 6-9. "In her latest book, Hyde focuses on gambling as a sociopolitical issue. The information is clearly laid out, with Hyde providing some basic historical perspective before exploring contemporary aspects of the subject. She looks briefly at gambling in both its legal and illegal forms, does some speculating on its rise among teens, and takes a look at the characteristics of a pathological gambler. Personal histories are concrete but too few and rather dry, and although Hyde does attempt to present both sides of the issue, her negative arguments are more fully developed. Turn to Edward Dolan's TEENAGERS AND COMPULSIVE GAMBLING (1994) for a much better, more detailed discussion of gambling among YAs; use this book as a general overview and a consciousness raiser. Unfortunately, the further readings are mostly adult." -- Stephanie Zvirin

    Klaus, Sandra, Ten to Grow On: Teaching the Ten Commandments to Today's Children [40160]

    Kopp, Ruth, Where Has Grandpa Gone? Helping Children Cope With Grief and Loss

    Lush, Jean, Mothers and Sons (Old Tappan, NJ: Fleming H. Revell). 40194
    "This is a great book on building emotional, spiritual and sexual stability in your son. It provides creative ways to create a healthy home atmosphere and to teach your son on how to work, how to be successful,how to take whining out of work etc..." -- Reader Comment

    Marshner, Connaught Coyne, Decent Exposure: How to Teach Your Children About Sex (Brentwood, TN: Wolgemuth and Hyatt Publishers). 40105
    "The key to teaching sexual responsibility is teaching . . . self control. And that teaching process starts the day your child comes home from the hospital." -- Publisher's Annotation

    Masters, Lavonne, The Bible Verse Book (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishers). 40106
    "Presents five steps to help children memorize the Scriptures and understand and apply those verses to their lives." -- GCB

    Medved, Michael and Diane Medved Saving Childhood: Protecting Our Children from the National Assault on Innocence
    "The Medveds speak for many when they say that too much of present-day U.S. culture is inimical to childhood. And it isn't just a matter of trash TV for the former PBS-TV movie reviewer and his psychologist spouse. Other culprits are sensationalized news in all media; profane and violent amusements of all sorts; too early, too explicit sex education; fostering self-esteem at the expense of learning; dire, one-sided presentation to children of such large problems as environmental degradation; gangs and other bad peer groups; and parents spending too much time at work and not enough with their kids. Nor does that exhaust the Medveds' bill of indictable particulars that, they say, together tend to make children unnecessarily fearful, cynical, and sad. Indeed, two-thirds of their lively, heartfelt book consists of their analysis of the national assault on innocence. In the remaining third, and drawing heavily upon their parenting of two daughters and a son, all still under 12, they discuss how to maintain children's innocence for its proper duration by providing psychological security, encouraging children's sense of wonder, and inculcating optimism. Chief among specific actions they advise is--ironically enough, coming from a former TV "star" --to stop watching the tube and to read instead, especially to the kids. An honorable addition to the strain of child-advocacy literature that runs from Marie Winn's CHILDREN WITHOUT CHILDHOOD (1981) to Dana Mack's ASSAULT ON PARENTHOOD (1997)." -- Ray Olson, from Booklist August 19, 1998
    "Saving Childhood offers parents and grandparents practical strategies to cope with a society that seems perversely determined to frighten and corrupt its young. Cultural critic and popular radio host Michael Medved and his wife, psychologist Diane Medved, argue that in a mistaken effort to curb problems plaguing its youth, our culture has changed from protecting childhood as a precious time of growth to hammering even the smallest youngsters with a grim, harsh, and menacing view of the world. The Medveds systematically present unassailable scientific evidence, moving anecdotes, and personal experiences of raising their three young children to explain the attack from four primary directions--media, schools, peers, and even well-intentioned parents themselves.
    "In a unique analysis the Medveds define innocence not as ignorance but as the result of three components--security, a sense of wonder and optimism. They empower parents and all who care about childhood with concrete, easily accomplished means to fend off the assault, as well as advice for handling hurdles such as the Internet, television, peer pressure, and the plague of pessimism. Saving Childhood enables us to restore and maintain for our children imagination, confidence, and hope for the future." -- Book Description

    Melina, Lois R., Raising Adopted Children: A Manual for Adoptive Parents (New York, NY: Harper and Row, 1986). 40107
    This book "is important reading before, during, and after adopting [a child]. By replacing the myth of adoption with the realistic issues involved, it offers parents valuable insights into how to deal openly and honestly with themselves, as well as with the emotional and psychological needs of their child." -- Betty Jean Lifton

    Omartian, Stormie, Christopher Omartian, and Amanda Omartian The Power of a Praying Parent
    "Because the chapters are short, you could use a chapter as a devotional each time you pray. I also appreciate the way the scripture verses are typed out so that I don't have to spend time looking each one up.
    "This is an excellent gift for parents who are expecting or for a parent struggling with a teen. Because the tone is so welcoming and compassionate, I also find it's a great witnessing tool. People who may be otherwise closed to the gospels are sometimes open to anything if they think that it may help their child. I'd also recommend this book to uncles, aunts, teachers, grandparents, youth workers, basically anyone who is interested in the welfare of our children." -- Reader Comment

    *Palmer, Peter, and Jay P. Sr. Green (editor), The Children's Bible Story Book (New York, NY: McGraw Hill, 1962)
    Said to be the best of the Bible story books.

    *Schoolland, Marian M., Leading Little Ones to God, revised 2nd edition (Grand Rapids, MI: Wm.B. Eerdmans Publishing Co., 1981). 70133
    Contains material useful in counseling.

    Strecker, Edward Adam, Their Mother's Daughters (Philadelphia, PA: J.B. Liffincott Co., 1956). 70128

    Strecker, Edward Adam, Their Mother's Sons (Philadelphia, PA: J.B. Liffincott Co., 1951). 70129
    "Two books which expose the devastating influence of a matriarchal society upon children. No parent can afford to avoid interacting with these vital books." -- Cyril J. Barber

    Strom, Kay Marshall, The Complete Adoption Handbook
    "She does not `sugar coat' adoption like it's the TV sitcom, The Brady Bunch, but weaves in accounts of actual families as they made their way through adoption. Though not a technical reference book like THE ADOPTION RESOURCE BOOK by Lois Gilman (by the way, is an invaluable adoption tool), Kay Strom makes you stop and evaluate your motivations before you jump into adoption. I highly recommend this book to any Christian since she does not `push' any particular `religious affiliation' when she encourages one to seek the Lord for His guidance. -- Reader Comment

    Terkelsen, Helen E., I'm Going to Have a Baby and I'm Not Married 40223

    Thomas, Nancy L., When Love is Not Enough: A Guide to Parenting Children with RAD - Reactive Attachment Disorder
    "When we adopted our two youngest children, we thought our training had prepared us for just about anything that might surface. We had not considered Reactive Attachment Disorder. Nancy Thomas' booklet is a must read for any parent who hopes to bring a child back from the desolation of Attachment Disorder. Her methods have restored peace and sanity to our household. Her contagious `attitude' for loving the children most people find unlovable has empowered us to reclaim our family. If you are dealing with RAD, you MUST have this book." -- Reader Comment

    Van Dyken, Donald, Rediscovering Catechism: The Art of Equipping Covenant Children

    Vander Goot, Mary, Healthy Emotions: Helping Children Grow (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Book House). 40112
    "This book is about the normal emotions of normal children. Its purpose is to help adults deal with children's emotions effectively." -- GCB

    Watson, Carol, and Ann Baum (contributor), 365 Children's Prayers: Prayers Old and New for Today and Every Day
    "This is a wondrous book on praying for it offers 365 prayers - most written by children. The prayers cover topical issues and are separated into six easy to follow categories. I have purchased many copies of this book over the years for use as gifts, for use in Sunday School, and I have two copies for personal use. An excellent choice!" -- Reader Comment

    See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Book length presentations of the free offer of Gospel message of salvation and the life to come: the means of grace, Courtship, Works of martha finley, Sex (women)

    Related WebLinks

    Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
    "Click on any of the individual questions below to get the answer and Biblical references, as well as links to works by John Flavel, Thomas Watson, Thomas Boston, James Fisher, and John Whitecross, and others."
    http://www.shortercatechism.com/

    Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
    http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html

    DrGreene.com
    "Dr. Greene is the Chief Medical Officer of A.D.A.M., the Founder and CEO of DrGreene.com, and the Pediatric Expert for AmericanBaby.com. He is on the Clinical Faculty at Stanford University School of Medicine where he sees patients and teaches Residents. He is the President of Hi-Ethics (Health Internet Ethics) and helped URAC develop its standards for eHealth accreditation. Dr. Greene has been recognized by Advance for Health Information Executives as one of the top 25 most influential forces in healthcare IT. Dr. Greene was also named Intel's Internet Health Hero for children's health. He is an author, medical expert, and a media personality.
    "Dr. Greene entered primary care pediatrics in January 1993. In 1995, he launched Dr. Greene's HouseCalls, cited by the AMA as the first physician Web site on the Internet - http://www.DrGreene.com. On his Web site, Dr. Greene answers pediatric questions submitted by readers from all over the world. DrGreene.com now receives over 14 million hits per month from parents, students, and medical professionals.
    "He is the author of THE PARENT'S COMPLETE GUIDE TO EAR INFECTIONS (People's Medical Society, 1997). He is the medical expert for three additional books, THE PARENT'S SOUP A-TO-Z GUIDE TO YOUR NEW BABY, (Contemporary Books, 1998) THE PARENT'S SOUP A-TO-Z GUIDE TO YOUR TODDLER, (Contemporary Books, 1999), THE MOTHER OF ALL BABY BOOKS, (Hungry Minds, Inc., 2002), FROM FIRST KICKS TO FIRST STEPS: NURTURING YOUR BABY'S DEVELOPMENT FROM PREGNANCY THROUGH THE FIRST YEAR OF LIFE (McGraw-Hill Companies: August 2004).
    "Alan Greene earned a Bachelor's degree in the History and Philosophy of Science from Princeton University. He graduated from medical school at University of California at San Francisco. Upon completion of his pediatric residency program at Children's Hospital Medical Center of Northern California in 1993, he served as Chief Resident. During his Chief year, Dr. Greene passed the pediatric boards in the top 5 percent of the nation.
    http://www.drgreene.org/default.cfm



    Women in the Church

    But many that are first shall be last; and the last shall be first. -- Jesus Christ (Matthew 19:30)

    Hurley, J., On Women's Role in the Church (part 1) (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 40153
    Audio cassette JH201.

    Hurley, J., On Women's Role in the Church (part 2) (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 40154
    Audio cassette JH202.

    Robbins, John W., (editor) The Church Effeminate and Other Essays (Unicoi, TN: The Trinity Foundation, 2002).
    Contents: Robbins: The Church; Witherow: The Apostolic Church; Ryle: The True Church; Lloyd-Jones: The Primacy of Preaching; Adams: Preaching to the Heart; Ryle: The Fallibility of Ministers; Crampton: Exclusive Psalmody; The Geneva Service Book of 1556: Scripture and the Ordering of Worship; Miller: The Christian Education of the Children and Youth in the Presbyterian Church; Calvin: The Teachers of the Church; Clark: The Presbyterian Doctrine of Ordination; Warfield: Paul on Women Speaking in Church; Clark: The Ordination of Women; Robbins: The Church Effeminate; Luther: On the Councils and the Church; Hodge: The Relation of Church and State; Calvin: The Roman Church-State; Dostoyevsky: The Grand Inquisitor; Burroughs: Episcopacy; Witherspoon: Secrets of Church Polity; McFetridge: Calvinism and the Church; Chan: The New Babylonian Captivity of the Church; Robbins: The Reconstructionist Road to Rome; a Lasco: The Abolition of Vestments; Hanko: Ought the Church to Pray for Revival? Hodge: The Great Revival of Religion, 1740-1745; Luther: The Power of the Word; Clark: What Is Evangelism? Clark: Art and the Gospel; Calvin: The Necessity of Reforming the Church; Ryle: Idolatry; Ryle: Pharisees and Sadducees; Machen: The Good Fight of Faith; Ryle: Apostolic Fears; Machen: The Separateness of the Church; Robbins: The Sin of Signing Ecumenical Declarations; M'Crie: Fundamentalism and Ecumenism; Calvin: The Unity of the Church; Robbins: The Church Irrational; Index; Scripture Index.
    The Necessity of Reforming the Church (1543), by John Calvin
    This is an online document.
    http://www.swrb.com/newslett/actualnls/NRC_ch00.htm

    *Singer, C. Gregg, A Theological Interpretation of American History 1994 edition, 354 pages (Greenville, SC: A Press, 1994, 1981, 1975, 1974, 1964), ISBN: 0875524265 9780875524269. A Christian classic.
    This book portrays "the influence of theology and the changing doctrines in the life of the church on the pattern of American political, constitutional, social and economic development.
    "The author shows that the decline of constitutional government in this country is the result of the departure from historical Christian faith and the resulting rise of alien political philosophies. Particularly does he emphasize the intimate relationship between theological liberalism on the one hand and political, social, and economic liberalism on the other. This theological liberalism has been a major agent in the decline of the Constitution in the political life of the people and in the appearance of a highly centralized government." -- Publisher's Annotation
    "There is between the democratic philosophy and theological liberalism a basic affinity which has placed them in the same camp in many major political struggles.
    "This condition exists because theological liberalism shares the basic postulates of the democratic philosophy. . . .
    "Theological liberalism at heart has been a continuing protest against Calvinism, particularly against its insistence on the Sovereignty of God and the Total Depravity of the race. These two Biblical doctrines have often proved to be a stumbling block to theologians within the church as well as to the unbelieving world.
    "The result of theological liberalism has been the movement away from constitutionalism and away from liberty, and a movement toward collectivistic society and totalitarian regime." -- C. Gregg Singer, Theological Interpretation of American History, p. 290
    See also: "John Knox, the Scottish Covenanters, and the Westminster Assembly" (tape 3 of 5 in a series of addresses "History Notes on Presbyterianism, Reformation, and Theology") by Dr. C. Gregg Singer on SermonAudion.com
    http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?SID=12607114250
    See also:
    Dr. C. Gregg Singer at SermonAudio.com (161 messages)
    http://www.sermonaudio.com/search.asp?SpeakerOnly=true&currSection=sermonsspeaker&Keyword=Dr.^C.^Gregg^Singer

    See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship

    Related WebLinks

    Suffrage and Reproductive Rights
    http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr9chc.html#suffrage>



    Servant Leadership (Women)

    Kelley, Rhonda, A Woman's Guide to Servant Leadership: A Biblical Study for Becoming a Christlike Leader (New Hope Publishers, April 2002), ISBN: 1563094347 9781563094347.

    Fryar, Jane L., Servant Leadership: Setting Leaders Free (Christian Leadership. Concordia), ISBN: 0570067707 9780570067702.

    See also: Servant leadership



    Women and Small Groups

    But many that are first shall be last; and the last shall be first. -- Jesus Christ (Matthew 19:30)

    *Sawin, Margaret M., Family Enrichment With Family Clusters (Valley Forge, PA: Judson Press, 1979). 40307
    "One of the most important books to be published in recent years. Shows how small groups operating in the church can strengthen family ties." -- Cyril J. Barber

    See also: Small groups, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship



    Home Schooling (Women)

    My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children. As they were increased, so they sinned against me: therefore will I change their glory into shame. (Hosea 4:6,7)

    Bible-based education is the recovery of the old notion that there is wisdom from God we have access to that can be applied to every realm. That kind of education not only will help us restore life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness in this nation and around the world, but will also steer us away from the narrow underpinnings of secular humanism. -- George Grant

    *Andreola, Karen, Beautiful Girlhood
    "The book deals primarily with the Christian character development, moral virtues and manners of pre-teen and teenage girls. It is one of the best-selling titles in the homeschooling community." -- Publisher's Annotation

    *Andreola, Karen, A Charlotte Mason Companion: Personal Reflections on the Gentle Art of Learning
    "A thorough chapter-by-chapter overview of the inspiring teaching principles of Christian educator Charlotte Mason, this book reveals the practical day by day method of how to teach the Charlotte Mason way. The author offers friendly advice, and humor, along with the joys and struggles of real homeschool life. The book covers education, parenting, homeschooling and lots of encouraging advice for mothers." -- Publisher's Annotation

    Beechick, Ruth, A Biblical Psychology of Learning: How Your Mind Works (Denver, CO: Accent Books, 1982).
    "May be the finest book on the contemporary scene that explains the learning process, while allowing the Scriptures to judge the vast array of learning theories. The mode of learning the author presents and her discussion of creativity, higher thinking, and the spiritual developmental tasks are provocative. But her use of the Biblical concept of the heart marks the book with its uniqueness. It pries open a variety of areas with a new touch." -- Warren S. Benson

    Beechick, Ruth, Genesis: Finding Our Roots
    "This book was an answer to prayer! Dr. Beechick looks at Genesis with such extraordinary depth, yet the book is clearly readable (I found my 8 year old son reading it when it wasn't even assigned!) Excellent home school resource or unit of study for the family of faith." -- Reader Comment

    *Blumenfeld, Samuel, Is Public Education Necessary?
    "This book tells, for the first time, the story of how and why Americans gave up educational freedom so early in their history for the imagined benefits of state-controlled education. The author delves into a wealth of original sources to reveal how a comparative handful of secularists, who were more concerned with destroying religion than with freeing man, spearheaded the drive toward public education. Centered at Harvard, this nineteenth-century liberal elite worked tirelessly - and successfully - to put America on the road to educational statism. By exploring the very roots of the system, this book provides the missing link in our educational history." -- Publisher's Annotation

    *Cotton, John (editor) and The Westminster Assembly, New England Primer: Improved for the More Easy Attaining the True Reading of English. To which is added The Assembly of Divines, and Mr. Cotton's catechism. A Christian classic.
    "THE NEW ENGLAND PRIMER was the first textbook ever printed in America and was used to teach reading and Bible lessons in our schools until the twentieth century. In fact, many of the Founders and their children learned to read from THE PRIMER. This pocket-size edition is an historical reprint of the 1777 version used in many schools during the Founding Era." -- Book Description
    "The New England Primer was one of the greatest books ever published. It went through innumerable editions; it reflected in a marvelous way the spirit of the age that produced it, and contributed, perhaps more than any other book except the Bible, to the molding of those sturdy generations that gave to America its liberty and its institutions."
    "The Founding Fathers of this country and other Americans learned to read from this little treasure. There is much that we can learn about them and the way they thought by examining its contents. The true study of history should incorporate the study of what motivated people to do the things they did. This reprint makes for great classroom discussion. It makes for an excellent addition to any American History class at all grade levels and all ages. It is pocket-size, and kids and adults love it. I highly recommend it!" -- Reader Comment
    "WEBSTER'S BLUE-BACKED SPELLING BOOK and the NEW ENGLAND PRIMER were basic, foundational textbooks used in the schools of our Republic in the 18th and 19th centuries.
    "These two textbooks prove our founding fathers expected moral truths to be taught in every school subject." -- Reader Comment

    De Parrie, Paul, and Mary Pride, Unholy Sacrifices of the New Age

    De Parrie, Paul, and Mary Pride, Ancient Empires of the New Age

    Duffy, Cathy, 100 Top Picks For Homeschool Curriculum: Choosing The Right Curriculum And Approach For Your Child's Learning Style (B&H Publishing Group, January 2005).
    "We just got back from the 2005 Indiana state homeschool convention -- what a vast array of curriculum in their exhibit hall! It was just the place for Moms and Dads to look at what's new and compare with the old. There is so much new curricula on the market today that for many, especially those new to homeschooling, it can be rather confusing and overwhelming. Cathy Duffy's newest book 100 TOP PICKS FOR HOMESCHOOL CURRICULUM has come along at just the right time to help us sort out all our many choices." -- Reader's Comment
    "I love Cathy Duffy's dedication at the beginning of this book: 'To the thousands of dedicated homeschoolers who have resisted the impulse to imitate 'real school' and have chosen instead to figure out what is best for each of their children, even if it meant writing their own curriculum. You have made the world of homeschool curriculum far richer than the most well-funded schools in the world."
    "And what Cathy has done in her book is to help us do just that -- figure out what is best for each of our children. Under her direction, using pertinent questions and an easy-to-use chart, a homeschooling mom can determine which of the eight approaches to homeschooling would fit her child's learning style and her own overall goals and priorities for her child's education. It takes the guesswork and confusion out of homeschooling. "The largest portion of the book is taken up with Cathy's reviews of her '100 Top Picks' for homeschooling books and curricula. She gives us thorough descriptions and necessary ordering details, strengths and weaknesses of the curriculum, and her own impressions on how it would work with the different learning styles. One of the best features of this book is an amazing eight page chart putting all the information together so parents can see at a glance and compare and contrast all the details of each 'Top Pick'.
    "I would suggest that if you're having a hard time wading through all of your curriculum choices, you might consider buying 100 TOP PICKS. Keep it handy, because you'll be consulting it often." -- Laurie Bluedorn
    "I've read a lot of homeschooling books in planning for my children's education and I learned something from each one, whether I liked the book or not! This book, however, is a planner's dream! It truly has you plan from the bottom up, applying thought to aspects of homeschooling that I had not previously considered.
    "Cathy Duffy begins by having you come up with your own philosophy of education. As she puts it, 'If there were no laws requiring you to educate your child, what would you want them to learn anyway?' Wow! That question really gets to the heart of the matter for most people choosing to homeschool. Then, she has you consider your thoughts about how you want to teach and run your school (teach different ages together, work directly with your children or have them work independently, real books vs. textbooks, field trips, adhering to a schedule or remaining flexible, etc.). She has you take a sort of quiz about your preferred approaches to learning that shows which styles might appeal to you most. After leaning so heavily toward Charlotte Mason after all my reading, I was somewhat surprised to find that I have an equally high regard for unit studies and -- gasp! -- unschooling (a 'curriculum' choice that petrifies me a bit)! She describes the various homeschooling methods (traditional, Charlotte Mason, classical, unit study, unschooling, independent study, eclectic, and umbrella programs). Then, she asks you to consider your confidence/experience level, time available to teach, finances, and religious beliefs. In addition, one of the most important differences about this book is that it addresses your teaching style and your child's learning style. This is such an important consideration when deciding what curriculum to choose. I'm sad to admit that I've been so gleefully planning what I want them to learn and what I think they'll enjoy that I've given very little SERIOUS thought to their perspective about things. Not anymore...
    "Finally, the discussion of her top 100 picks begins. The curriculum choices are introduced with a chart. The format helps you pick resources that are aligned with what you now know are your homeschooling preferences. Each curriculum is ranked for the following criteria: (1) Multi-sensory/hands-on (2) structure/rules-oriented (3) logical/analytical learners (4) social activity (5) amount of parent instruction (6) independent study vs. one-on-one (7) amount of writing (8) prep time (9) grade level specific vs. multi-level (10) ease of use for teacher (11) necessity for teacher's manual (12) supportive of Charlotte Mason's philosophy (13) supportive of classical education (14) religious affiliations. Using the chart, it was easy to look for a unit study or Charlotte Mason approach that would accomodate my Wiggly Willy and my Sociable Sue who work at different grade levels.
    "Some critics of the book feel that the author leans too heavily on Christian resources so I actually did a count for those interested. Of her 100 picks, there were 15 Catholic choices, 41 Protestant choices, and 54 were religiously neutral. (They don't add up to 100 because some would work for both Protestants and Catholics, some neutrals could add religious supplements, etc.) If you consider that probably AT LEAST 50% of homeschoolers are keeping their children at home so they can offer religious instruction, I don't think those numbers are in any way out of balance.
    "If you are looking for an umbrella curriculum (one that covers all the subjects) you should know that she really goes in depth into only two, Calvert School (neutral) and Sonlight (Protestant). However, some of the unit studies she discusses could be used as a full program with a few additional choices for neglected subjects. (Only one of the seven unit study programs, Five in a Row, is religiously neutral.) If an umbrella curriculum is what you're looking for, you would be better off requesting catalogs and information from companies offering that service rather than buying this book. Otherwise, the curriculum choices included in this book fall under the following categories: (1) phonics/reading/literature (2) math (3) grammar and composition (4) spelling and vocabulary (5) history/social science (6) science (7) unit studies (8) foreign language (9) miscellaneous.
    "Her picks definitely cover a wide range of methodology. Some will appeal to you and some won't. What I find is that in researching something that is appealing (usually on Amazon), I invariably follow link after link until I wind up reading so many reviews that I more fully understand the pros and cons of each curriculum choice I make. What a wonderful thing! I would rank this book with the top four homeschooling books I have read (Rebecca Rupp's HOME LEARNING YEAR BY YEAR, Charlotte Mason's ORIGINAL HOMESCHOOLING SERIES, and Karen Andreola's A CHARLOTTE MASON COMPANION). -- Kristina J. Ivey

    *Duffy, Cathy, Government Nannies
    "Confusing stories about Goals 2000 and outcome-based education have made the front page of every newspaper in the country. It is a tangled web of `government-nanny' programs that invade the privacy of families and destroys the principle of individual responsibility. This book describes where we are heading under Goals 2000." -- Publisher's Annotation

    Greene, Lawrence J., Learning Disabilities and Your Child: A Survival Handbook (July 2001).
    Formerly entitled KIDS WHO HATE SCHOOL (1983).
    "Not only does Greene explain every possible issue related to learning disorders . . . he also presents a beautifully written and extremely moving series of case studies that will break your heart at the same time they fill you with relief." -- San Francisco Chronicle
    "Learning disabilities don't have to stand in the way of your child's success.
    "A learning disability can be at the root of your child's resistance, failure, and low self-esteem. It's no wonder that children with learning disabilities have difficulties both at home and at school, difficulties that are reflected in poor performance records.
    "Lawrence J. Greene, a pioneer in the field of learning disabilities and the Executive Director of the Developmental Learning Center in San Jose, California, for seventeen years, shares his knowledge and experience in compassionate and understanding terms. He explains how to diagnose learning disabilities ranging from dyslexia and hyperactivity to language disorders and tuning out -- and how they might affect your child. He offers helpful advice on choosing the right school or program for your child and on getting the support you need. Anecdotes, where parents and children speak out, as well as step-by-step programs that you can begin right now, make this unique book a vital guide for parents and teachers of learning disabled children." -- Publisher's Annotation

    *Hunt, Gladys M., Honey for a Child's Heart, revised edition.
    "The imaginative use of books in family life. Offers warm, practical advice on how to instill a love for reading in children. Extensive bibliography grouped according to ages." -- Publisher's Annotation
    "HONEY FOR A CHILD'S HEART, now in its third edition, is one of the best guides to children's books available. It is for parents who know the value of reaching their children with good books. A good book is a gateway into a wider world of wonder, beauty, delight, and adventure. But children don't stumble onto the best books by themselves. They need a parent's help. Author Gladys Hunt discusses everything from how to choose good books for your children to encouraging them to be avid readers. This edition includes an indexed and updated 85-page list of the best children's favorites, Honey for a Child's Heart opens new worlds of reading possibilities for children and parents alike. Are you concerned about building whole children -- children who are alive emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually? Then this book can help. Gladys Hunt deeply believes in the potential of books to assist in this building process. Her tastes are broad, her advice is rooted in experience, and her suggestions will enrich the cultural life of any home." -- Publisher's Annotation
    "There's got to be a reason a book is in its 50th printing! This book is both motivational and informative. I wrote it to encourage parents to read aloud to their children -- and to keep on reading together long after children can read for themselves. Few things bind people together as much as sharing a good book. Without ever leaving your home, you can go on fantastic adventures, meet the same people, laugh at the ridiculous together, weep together over the plight of your favorite characters and learn life lessons from the bravery or foolishness of your main characters! Everyone who has ever read a ripping good story wants to share it with someone else. C. S. Lewis was right when he said that any book worth reading at 10 should be worth reading at 50. That means as you read with your children you get to catch up on all the stories you missed when you were growing up. Reading together gives you a reservoir of experiences from which to examine life and to figure out how to live it. And the bibliography at the end of the book introduces you to books your children should have the opportunity to read Take it to the library with you." -- Gladys Hunt, e-mail: gladyshunt@cs.com.
    "Gladys Hunt is a popular and well-known writer. Among her many books are READ FOR YOUR LIFE and several volumes of the Fisherman Bible Study Guide Series. She lives in Grand Rapids, Michigan." -- Publisher's Annotation

    Hunter, Emily, Christian Charm Course
    "Aimed at young girls, this popular study book has been used by countless homeschool families to teach young girls good manners and godly behavior. With practical guidelines for grooming, dress, politeness, conversation skills, and spiritual growth, this book will help children integrate inner beauty with outer beauty." -- Publisher's Annotation

    Hunter, Emily, and Wayne Hunter, Man in Demand
    "Aimed at boys, MAN IN DEMAND has been used by countless homeschool families to teach young boys good manners and godly behavior. With practical guidelines for grooming, dress, politeness, conversation skills, and spiritual growth, the books will help children integrate inner beauty with outer beauty." -- Publisher's Annotation

    *Iserbyt, Charlotte Thompson, The Deliberate Dumbing Down of America: A Chronological Paper Trail
    "This book is the book to have. Every concerned parent in America should invest in a copy. It's the encyclopedia, in year date order, of just what has been going on in America in the public school system for years and years. It holds answers to many unanswered questions. Years of research at our fingertips and it's the size of a telephone book. It's the best inside look. It's honest, official documentation, undisputable evidence. If every parent were to read this, we could right a terrible wrong being done in public schools today. The fact she was once a Senior Policy Adviser for the US Department of Education weighs a lot on the books credibility factor." -- Reader Comment

    *Lee, Rachel Gillespie, Learning Centers for Better Christian Education (Valley Forge, PA: Judson Press, 1982). 40127
    "An able treatise in which the author advocates a new method of education in the church. Describes how to set up and administer a learning resource center. Deserves careful reading. Recommended." -- Cyril J. Barber

    Kjos, Berit, Brave New Schools
    "With concrete examples from public school material, Berit Kjos demonstrates how myths, feelings, and imagination have replaced facts, logic and history in our classrooms. You can make a positive difference in your children's education by educating yourself first." -- Publisher's Annotation

    *Lopez, Diane, Teaching Children (Wheaton, IL: Good News Publishers [Crossway Books]). 40128
    "Diane Lopez is principal of Bethany Christian School, Sierra Madre, California. This is a unique curriculum guide for grade levels K through 6. It is an excellent educational approach which naturally integrates a Christian world view and scriptural principles.. . . ." -- Jay P. Green, Sr.
    "If you have not read FOR THE CHILDREN'S SAKE or Karen Andreola's A CHARLOTTE MASON COMPANION, which cover the same ideas in more depth, they would be a good introduction to the educational principles of Charlotte Mason." -- Reader Comment

    Macaulay, Susan, For the Children's Sake: Foundations of Education for Home and School (Wheaton, IL: Good News Publishers [Crossway Books], 1984). 40132
    "This simple, practical, easy-to-use resource book will help parents and teachers enrich childhood education by extending learning opportunities to all areas of life." -- GCB

    Macaulay, Susan, and Diane Lopez, "Home Education" (Michigan City, IN [Sound Word Associates, P.O. Box 2035, Mall Station, Michigan City 46360]: Sound Word Associates). 40131
    Four audio cassettes.

    Macaulay, Susan, Something Beautiful From God (Wheaton, IL: Good News Publishers [Crossway Books], 1980). 40133
    "Just about the finest book we have for a parent to read to a child (or self-read on 4th grade and above level) concerning the wonder and beauty of birth and babies . . . accurate information . . . sound theology. Highly recommended!" -- GCB

    Pride, Mary, The Better Butter Battle (Old Wise Tales)

    *Pride, Mary, The Big Book of Home Learning, Vol. 1-3: Each Volume Is Over 500 Pages and Includes full Contact Information for Every Product Reviewed

    *Pride, Mary, The Big Book of Home Learning, Vol. 1: Getting Started: Introduces All Major Home School Methods and Answers Your Most Frequently Asked Questions

    *Pride, Mary, The Big Book of Home Learning, Vol. 2: Preschool and Elementary
    "Mary Pride has researched tons of educational products and compiled her findings for preschool and elementary products in this book. I love Pride's philosophy of teaching and trust her conclusions. She has saved me years of hunting for good educational supplies." -- Reader Comment

    *Pride, Mary, The Big Book of Home Learning, Vol. 3: Junior High Through College, Latest Information and Educational Products

    Pride, Mary, The Greenie (Old Wise Tales)
    "This book is about a boy-creature who notices air pollution around his home town. He is then befriended by The Greenie (who looks suspiciously like John Muir) and recruited into eco-activism. But the Greenie goes way too far (as do many modern groups) when he tries to prohibit eating meet, wearing leather, and even going to parks and the beach (only wildlife allowed). Finally the Greenie becomes physically ill and sees the error of his ways. Environmentalism is good when practiced sensibly and in moderation. This book provides a good way to teach children that we can be good stewards of what God has given us without going to either extreme (wasting resources or restricting our freedoms)." -- Reader Comment

    Pride, Mary, Too Many Chickens (Old Wise Tales)
    "TOO MANY CHICKENS is the story of a farm where some greedy pigs force the chickens to give them half the corn feed. Then the pigs get even greedier and force the chickens to cut way back on their egg-laying so there will be fewer chickens to eat the corn. The chickens then form a `Two-Egg Club,' except Mrs. Pinfeather and her seven chicks. When they are forced out of the farmyard, it turns into a blessing when they gorge themselves with corn in the cornfield, then return to warn the other animals of a fire approaching the farm. Thanks to them, the farm is saved. This book is a good way to teach children that all human beings are precious in God's sight, inside AND outside the womb." -- Reader Comment

    Pride, Bill, and Mary Pride, Prides' Guide to Educational Software

    *Pride, Mary, Schoolproof: How to Help Your Family Beat the System and Learn to Love Learning the Easy Natural Way 40136
    "Schoolproofing means having children who learn to read, who learn to obey authority, who learn to stand against injustice." -- GCB

    Van Dyken, Donald, Rediscovering Catechism: The Art of Equipping Covenant Children

    *Wilson, Elizabeth, Books Children Love (Wheaton, IL: Crossway Books). 70226
    With a forward by Susan Schaeffer Macaulay. "At last here is a book that will help parents open up the wonderful world of reading for their children! Here are books that embody the ideals of traditional values and a Christian world view. Only books that really catch and hold children's attention, that are finely written, and that reflect basic Biblical values have been chosen." -- GCB
    "This book is arranged by subject and reading level. There is a good variety of choices, and the books listed have all been evaluated to be wholesome and reinforce proper priorities, human relationships and good attitudes. There are wonderful classic books and newer books also. My child has enjoyed every title we have read from the booklists. -- Reader Comment

    Wilson, Elizabeth, "Choosing Children's Books" (Michigan City, IN [Sound Word Associates, P.O. Box 2035, Mall Station 46360]: Sound Word Associates). 40137
    Two audio cassettes.

    Wilson, Elizabeth, "Living Books" (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates). 70227
    Two cassettes.

    See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Home schooling (women), Works of martha finley, Some complementary works

    Related WebLinks

    Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
    "Click on any of the individual questions below to get the answer and Biblical references, as well as links to works by John Flavel, Thomas Watson, Thomas Boston, James Fisher, and John Whitecross, and others."
    http://www.shortercatechism.com/

    Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
    http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html

    Home School World, Mary Pride
    http://www.hshangout.com/wheeler.html

    Reformed Children's Books
    http://www.swrb.com/links/children.htm

    The Vision Forum, Inc.
    Working toward the restoration of the Biblical family.
    "Doug Phillips, the founder and director of Vision Forum, is a passionate communicator with a heart for home education and the restoration of Christian family and culture to the glory of God. As a constitutional attorney, Doug served six years at Home School Legal Defense Association and is director for the National Center for Home Education. Doug and his wife, Beall, have eight children. They live in San Antonio, Texas."
    http://www.visionforum.com/

    Distance Learning Resources for Homeschoolers
    http://homeschooling.about.com/cs/distancelearning/index.htm?terms=correspondence+courses

    Charlotte Mason Method
    http://homeschooling.about.com/cs/methcmason/index.htm

    The Trent Schools, Online Homeschooling
    http://www.theschools.com/



    Women in the Workplace

    Commit thy works unto the LORD, and thy thoughts shall be established. (Proverbs 16:3)

    And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ. (Colossians 3:23)

    KNOX, JOHN, The First Blast of the Trumpet Against the Monstrous Regiment [government] of Women, with the "Summary of the Second Blast" appended, Kevin Reed (editor) (Dallas, TX [Presbyterian Heritage Publications, P.O. Box 180922, 75218-0922]: Presbyterian Heritage Publications, 1993), trade paperback, 96 pages, marginal notes, scripture index, and subject index. Published without an ISBN.
    "The text of this edition is based on the definitive edition of THE WORKS OF JOHN KNOX, edited by David Laing (Edinburgh, 1895).
    "In this controversial work, John Knox contends that 'to promote a woman to bear rule, superiority, dominion, or empire above any realm, nation, or city, is repugnant to nature, contumely [insult] to God, a thing most contrary to his revealed will and approved ordinance; and finally, it is the subversion of good order, of all equity and justice'." -- Publisher's Annotation
    Subheading used in this edition:

    "The summary of the SECOND BLAST was appended originally to the APPELLATION FROM THE SENTENCE PRONOUNCED BY THE BISHOPS AND CLERGY: ADDRESSED TO THE NOBILITY AND ESTATES OF SCOTLAND (1558), published in Knox's WORKS, Vol. IV, pp. 539-40." (see the citation below) -- Publisher's Annotation
    Other publications of THE FIRST BLAST OF THE TRUMPET follow: Nelson, Martha, The Christian Woman in the Working World (Nashville, TN: Broadman Press, 1970). 40140
    "Gives an understanding of the tensions and frustrations of Christian women caught up in the turmoil of commerce and industry." -- Publisher's Annotation

    See also: The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship



    BIBLICAL COUNSEL (WOMEN)

    Adams, Jay E., Counseling Workshop: Approaches to Discipleship; Women in Biblical Counseling (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). [30022]
    Audio cassette JA502.

    Baldwin, Carol Lesser, Friendship Counseling: Biblical Foundations for Helping Others (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing, c1988). 40163
    "This book is unique in that it derives practical counseling skills from a study of who God is and how He has dealt with his people." -- GCB

    Curro, Ellen, Caring Enough to Help: Counseling at a Crisis Pregnancy Center (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Book House). 40177
    "Much valuable information for training volunteers to serve at a crisis pregnancy center is included here. The entire Christian community will see how it can make a difference by touching hurting lives." -- GCB

    Deane, Barbara, Caring For Your Aging Parents: When Love Is Not Enough (Colorado Springs, CO: NavPress). 40178
    The author is a co-founder of Christian Caregivers. "Furnishes the support and advice caregivers need to provide good care--without burning out in the process." Helpful reference lists.
    The Caregiver's Handbook
    http://www.seniormag.com/caregiver-handbook.pdf

    Denton, Wallace, The Minister's Wife as a Counselor (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1965). 40156
    Includes bibliography.

    Goddard, Hazel, Hope for Tomorrow (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishing, 1971). 40182

    Gray, Edward P., Counseling to the Heart: A Training Program to Equip Women to Counsel Women (Covenant Theological Seminary, D.Min. thesis, 1990). [20038]
    "This thesis describes a women-counseling-women program in the context of a local congregation. The program uses a counseling methodology based on a Biblical understanding of the heart. . . . Practical and theological implications of the program are presented. The thesis develops a Biblical foundation for counseling in the areas of marriage and divorce and presents case studies to show how the concept of heart counseling can be applied. . . ." -- RIM

    Heitritter, Lynn, and Jeanette Vought, Helping Victims of Sexual Abuse (Minneapolis, MN: Bethany House Publishers, 1989). 40186
    "What women should know about sexual assault." "Heitritter and Vought have done an enormous service in demonstrating the extent of the problem in the local church-They give practical, tested advice about ministry to survivors of sexual abuse-Required reading for pastors, lay leaders and others who work everyday with victims of sexual abuse." -- Dale S. Ryan, Executive Director of The Recovery Partnership Foundation, Whittier, California

    Hudson, Pamela S., Ritual Child Abuse: Discovery, Diagnosis and Treatment (Saratoga, CA: R&E Publishers, 1991). 40187
    Includes bibliographical references.

    *Hyde, Margaret O., Cry Softly! The Story of Child Abuse, revised and enlarged (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1986). 20637
    "The rising tide of child abuse makes this book a must. Deals with the reasons, as well as the treatment. Provides information on `Hotlines,' `Suggestions for Further Reading,' and `National Organizations Concerned With Child Abuse'." -- Cyril J. Barber. Includes bibliography. Indexed.

    Hyde, Margaret O., Hotline!

    Hyde, Margaret O., and Elizabeth Forsyth Suicide: The Hidden Epidemic
    "This third, updated edition explores the history, realities, and causes of suicide, and includes a list of prevention and intervention agencies. Thorough and useful. Bibliography." -- Publisher's Annotation

    Hyde, Margaret O., The Homeless: Profiling the Problem (Issues in Focus)

    Kopp, Ruth, Encounter With Terminal Illness

    Kopp, Ruth L., and Stephen Sorenson, When Someone You Love Is Dying: A Handbook for Counselors and Those Who Care (Ministry Resources Library. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House, 1985, 1980).
    "This remarkable book was first published in 1980 under the title ENCOUNTER WITH TERMINAL ILLNESS. As Haddon W. Robinson pointed out, `All life is terminal. Some arrive at the terminal before they know it. Others hear an announcement and anticipate death's coming. For such men and women going to death themselves, or traveling with others, Dr. Kopp provides practical counsel about how to make the journey'." -- Cyril J. Barber

    Kopp, Ruth, Where Has Grandpa Gone? Helping Children Cope With Grief and Loss

    Kuenning, Delores, Helping People Through Grief (Minneapolis, MN: Bethany House Publishers, 1987). 40191
    "A remarkable textbook to recommend for teaching caring people how to be helpful. It is an . . . encyclopedia of information on every conceivable form of grief. But more than that, it describes simply and directly how to respond to these griefs." -- Reader Comment
    "Illness as well as misfortune or even tragedy are a part of life. At such times people turn to their families or friends. Sometimes the counsel given is helpful, sometimes not. Kuenning believes the lay person can develop skills to help people face these vicissitudes, and in this book she shows how." -- Cyril J. Barber

    Kuenning, Delores A., Life After Vietnam: How Veterans and Their Loved Ones Heal the Psychological Wounds of War

    LeSourd, Sandra Simpson, The Compulsive Woman (Old Tappan, NJ: Fleming H. Revell, 1987). 40192
    "Mrs. LeSourd avoids psychologizing and instead gets down to specifics: obsessions with work, religion, sex, alcohol, and/or drugs, eating, gambling, and so forth.. . . ." -- Cyril J. Barber

    Lush, Jean, Emotional Phases of a Woman's Life (Old Tappan, NJ: Fleming H. Revell, 1990). 40194
    "What an incredible book! I was able to understand more about my emotional ups and downs and the changes in a woman's body that can cause them. My husband also read the book and gained a new understanding of women. He recommends it to friends more than I do." -- Reader Comment

    Lush, Jean, and Pam Vredevelt (contributor), Women and Stress: A Practical Approach to Managing Tension
    "Jean Lush and Pam Vredevelt examine troublesome emotions and show you how to manage your own `storage pot' of tension with practical, tried and true methods gained from research, their own experiences, and pertinent case studies." -- Publisher's Annotation

    Mayo, Mary Ann, A Christian Guide to Sexual Counseling: Recovering the Mystery and the Reality of "One Flesh" (Grand Rapids, MI: Ministry Resources Library, c1987). 40195
    "A book to equip pastors and counselors for the task of helping couples understand and deal with sexual problems in a marriage." Includes bibliography.

    Mayo, Mary Ann, and Joseph L. Mayo, The Sexual Woman [40246]

    Michels, Nancy, Helping Women Recover From Abortion (Minneapolis, MN: Bethany House, c1988). 40197
    "A poignant documentary of the pain-filled lives of many aborted women. It is essential reading for those who think that abortion is a solution to unplanned pregnancy and for those who would counsel the growing sisterhood of permanently scarred women - reveals the hidden horror of abortion and the healing help that is available." -- Reader Comment
    Includes bibliography.

    Moran, Margaret, Pastoral Counseling for the Deviant Girl (London, England: G. Chapman, 1968). 40200
    Includes bibliography.

    Pellauer, Mary D., Barbara Chester, and Jane Boyajian (editors), Sexual Assault and Abuse: A Handbook for Clergy and Religious Professionals [40232]

    Platt, Nancy V., Pastoral Care to the Cancer Patient (Springfield, IL: Thomas, Charles C., Publisher, 1980). 40209

    Price, Greg, Christian Education in the Home: Help! My Daughter Wants to Date (Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books).
    "Contrasts the non-covenantal pagan view of dating with the covenantal Christian view of Biblical courtship. Shows how the world has insidiously invaded the church (through music, TV, movies, godless public education, etc.) and how this has impacted the raising of our children. Includes a lengthy list of questions for interviewing prospective suitors and an appendix on the Biblical role of women. A very practical, unique item, laying the foundation for blessed biblical marriages. Related item: Courtship Versus Dating by Greg Price." -- SWRB
    "Dating or Courtship: Which is Biblical?, audio cassette online by Greg Price
    http://sphynx.idontknow.com/swrb/dating.ram

    Shelly, Judith A., Caring in Crisis: Bible Studies for Helping People (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 1979). 40215

    Shelly, Judith Allen, Spiritual Dimensions of Mental Health

    Sherouse, Deborah L., Adolescent Drug and Alcohol Abuse Handbook: For Parents and Professionals [20724]

    Stephenson, Lynda, Give Us a Child: Coping With the Personal Crisis of Infertility (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House). 40218
    "Covers such topics as: your emotions when you can't have children, what are the treatments for infertility, what you should know about the new, high-tech procedures, and how to keep your marriage strong during this crisis." -- GCB

    Stigger, Judith, Coping With Infertility (Minneapolis, MN: Augsburg Publishing House, 1983). 40219
    "A guide for couples, families, and counselors."

    Strom, Kay M., Helping Women in Crisis: A Handbook for People Helpers (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House [Ministry Resources Library] 1986). 40220A
    "Covers all the bases--alcohol and drug abuse, child abuse, sexual molestation, incest, infidelity, rape, suicide, teenage pregnancy, wife abuse. Each chapter summarizes the major issues involved. This is a very helpful book, and lay counselors will appreciate the author's candor and practical ideas. Here is a work pastors can use in their lay counseling program." -- Cyril J. Barber

    Sturkie, Joan, Christian Peer Counseling: Love in Action (Dallas, TX: Word Publishers, c1989). 40221

    Sturkie, Joan, Listening With Love: True Stories from Peer Counseling
    "LWL's stories are true stories from Joan Sturkie's peer counseling classes. Topics covered are suicide, incest, pregnancy, consequences of using drugs, etc. The stories present wonderful discussion topics for your group or class. Read it for yourself and make your own assessment." -- Reader Comment

    Terkelsen, Helen E., I'm Going to Have a Baby and I'm Not Married 40223

    Umphrey, Marjorie, and William A. Green (editors), Why Don't I Feel OK? (Irvine, CA: Harvest House Publishers, 1977). 40224
    "An examination of the causes of emotional hurt, and what may be done about it." -- Cyril J. Barber

    Van Halsema, Thea, How Do We Counsel? (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 40225
    Audio cassette TVW12.

    Van Halsema, Thea, Women in Counseling (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 40226
    Audio cassette TVW11.

    Vought, Jeanette, Post-Abortion Trauma: Nine Steps to Recovery

    Zito, Julie M. (editor), New York Office of Mental Health Committee on Therapeutics Psychotherapeutic Drug Manual, 3rd edition, revised (John Wiley and Sons).
    "Contains relevant, documented information on the effectiveness and safety of the most frequently prescribed psychotherapeutic agents. Focuses on the benefit-to-risk relationship for prescribing each drug and the use of these agents in combination. In this edition chapters have been updated to include newer drugs such as clozapine and clomipramine. Drug dosage and interaction guidelines, listed in the second section, have been revised based on pilot experience of the past two years." -- Publisher's Annotation

    See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Biblical counsel (women), Courtship (women), Book length presentations of the free offer of Gospel message of salvation and the life to come: the means of grace, Works of martha finley

    Related WebLinks

    Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
    "Click on any of the individual questions below to get the answer and Biblical references, as well as links to works by John Flavel, Thomas Watson, Thomas Boston, James Fisher, and John Whitecross, and others."
    http://www.shortercatechism.com/

    Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
    http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html

    Price, Greg, "Dating or Courtship: Which is Biblical? (1/2)
    http://sphynx.idontknow.com/swrb/dating.ram



    ABORTION (WOMEN)

    *American Portrait Films, "Hard Truth: The Pro-Life Tool of the Decade" [20606]
    American Portrait Films
    We now offer (2002) over 30 Christian creation science videos, young earth creationism videos, creation science videos, and videos on other creationist topics as well as 100 other thought provoking pro life, pro family videos.
    http://www.amport.com/

    Baker, Don, Beyond Choice: The Abortion Story No One Is Telling [20612]

    *Everett, Carol, The Scarlet Lady: The Confessions of a Successful Abortionist [20616]
    "She explains how low this profession can go by falsifying pregnancy reports, using pressure tactics like how much more money it will cost for an abortion the longer they wait, and even participates in the illegal transportation and the cover up of an abortion patient's death. She even brought her daughter into this life she led. Anyone interested in how the abortion industry lies and winds its way into everyone's lives should consider this a must read!" -- Reader Comment

    *Grant, George, The Quick and the Dead: RU486 and the New Chemical Warfare Against Your Family [20622]

    *Reardon, David C., Aborted Women: Silent No More [20608]
    Reardon appears to be a Roman Catholic writer.
    "This is the book that is redefining the abortion debate. A comprehensive review of the aftereffects of abortion, this book documents:

    "This is the definitive work on post-abortion issues. Focus On The Family's Citizen magazine calls it the `standard reference book on post-abortion problems.' Booklist, the professional librarian's buying guide, rates it `highly recommended.' Librarian's World recommends it as `an excellent resource recommended for all libraries.' Pro-life reviewers are even less restrained:

    Terry, Randall A., Accessory To Murder: The Enemies, Allies, and Accomplices to the Death of Our Culture [20629]

    See also: The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Chapter 2 (part2), post-abortion counseling, abortion

    Related WebLinks

    American Portrait Films
    We now offer (2002) over 30 Christian creation science videos, young earth creationism videos, creation science videos, and videos on other creationist topics as well as 100 other thought provoking pro life, pro family videos.
    http://www.amport.com/



    Post-Abortion Counseling (Women)

    Michels, Nancy, Helping Women Recover From Abortion (Minneapolis, MN: Bethany House, c1988). 40197
    "A poignant documentary of the pain-filled lives of many aborted women. It is essential reading for those who think that abortion is a solution to unplanned pregnancy and for those who would counsel the growing sisterhood of permanently scarred women - reveals the hidden horror of abortion and the healing help that is available." -- Reader Comment
    Includes bibliography.

    Vought, Jeanette, Post-Abortion Trauma: Nine Steps to Recovery

    See also: The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Post-abortion counseling in chapter 2 (part 2)

    Related WebLinks

    The Post-Abortion Kit: Resources for Those Suffering From the Aftermath of Abortion
    "Women who have had an abortion often suffer significant physical, emotional and/or psychological consequences.
    This kit "helps women identify and overcome Post-Abortion Syndrome -- while finding healing and forgiveness."
    http://www.family.org/resources/itempg.cfm?itemid=2326&refcd=CE04KCZL&tvar=no



    Abuse (Women)

    Adams, Jay E., Q&A: Counseling Woman Whose Husband Abuses Her and Children (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). [30058]
    "How would you counsel a woman whose husband is physically abusive to his wife and children? How does inter-church discipline work?" Audio cassette JA209.

    Defoe, Daniel, Conjugal Lewdness, or Matrimonial Whoredom

    Hancock, Maxine, and Karen Burton Mains, Child Sexual Abuse: A Hope for Healing [20645] "This book is not only designed for survivors of early child sexual abuse but also to be used by helpers who compassionately seek to understand. A well researched book that clearly presents Christ as the one who heals. It sounds the alarm for the church and offers hope and healing for victims of sexual abuse." -- GCB

    Heitritter, Lynn, and Jeanette Vought, Helping Victims of Sexual Abuse [40186]

    Hudson, Pamela S., Ritual Child Abuse: Discovery, Diagnosis and Treatment (Saratoga, CA: R&E Publishers, 1991). 40187
    Includes bibliographical references.

    Hyde, Margaret O., Cry Softly! The Story of Child Abuse, revised and enlarged (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1986). 20637
    "The rising tide of child abuse makes this book a must. Deals with the reasons, as well as the treatment. Provides information on `Hotlines,' `Suggestions for Further Reading,' and `National Organizations Concerned With Child Abuse'." -- Cyril J. Barber. Includes bibliography. Indexed.

    Hyde, Margaret O., Sexual Abuse: Let's Talk About It, revised and enlarged edition (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1987). 40231
    "Draws attention to what is becoming a `national epidemic.' Points out how pastors may recognize the victims and deal with the trauma and anger of those who feel violated. Practical." -- Cyril J. Barber

    Hyde, Margaret O., and Elizabeth Held Forsyth, The Sexual Abuse of Children and Adolescents: From Infants to Adolescents
    Grades 7-12. "Opening with a statement that most children and adolescents never suffer sexual abuse, but for those who do, the emotional problems can be devastating, well-known YA nonfiction authors Hyde (author of SEXUAL ABUSE: LET'S TALK ABOUT IT [1987]), and Forsyth offer a clear, thorough, meticulously documented examination of the complex factors that cause the sexual abuse of young people, and they explain the need for educating people of all ages about it. The history of sexual abuse of children is covered in a chapter entitled `From the Ancients to the Internet,' but the bulk of the book looks more specifically at such things as abuser profiles; New Jersey's Megan's Law, which is aimed at protecting communities from sex offenders; types and success records of treatment for sex offenders; the short-and long-term effects of sexual abuse on the young victims; the issue of repressed versus false memory; and abuse prevention programs. A directory of help services is included." -- Sally Estes
    Margaret O. Hyde had written many books for youth guiding them through difficult subjects. Over 100 titles by Hyde are listed on Amazon.com

    Mawyer, Martin, Silent Shame: The Alarming Rise of Child Sexual Abuse and How to Protect Your Children From It [20648]

    Pellauer, Mary D., Barbara Chester, and Jane Boyajian (editors), Sexual Assault and Abuse: A Handbook for Clergy and Religious Professionals (San Francisco, CA: Harper and Row, 1991). 40232
    "Illustrated with case histories this book, primarily by women (only two chapters are by men), helps counselors and therapists recognize the patterns of sexual assault and sexual abuse. From this premise the gears are switched and the contributors discuss the reasons for violence in our milieu, and the threat this poses to children, teens, and adults." -- Cyril J. Barber

    Peters, David B., A Betrayal of Innocence: What Everyone Should Know About Child Sexual Abuse (Dallas, TX: Word Publishing, c1986). [20649]
    "Covers what abuse is, the signs and effects it can have, what to do once abuse is discovered, how to question a child, precautionary measures every parent should take, whom to trust, whom not to trust, and how to overcome emotional trauma and live a happy life."

    *Pride, Mary, The Child Abuse Industry [20650]
    "Mary Pride has written an insightful and prophetic book on the agenda of many who work behind a cover of child advocate while breaking up families and making the state into surrogate parents, much the way Hitler did.
    "She made the strong point in her book that those who make themselves out to be self-styled `child advocates' turn out to be the real child abusers.
    "She wrote this book long before Attorney General Janet Reno took it upon herself to rescue two dozen children from alleged child abuse at the Koresh Compound in Waco, resulting in their fiery and premature deaths. . . .
    "Mary Pride's book is still very up-to-date. All who claim to be `child advocates' in today's climate of child abuse hysteria should be considered suspect since any well-adjusted person is by common sense interested in the nurture and admonition of children." -- Reader Comment

    *Reisman, Judith A., Eunice V. Ray (editor), and Alfred Moreschi (illustrator) Kinsey: Crimes and Consequences the Red Queen and the Grand Scheme (Institute for Media Education).
    "I found Dr. Reisman's book very informative and extremely well researched. It literally is a reference book on a scandal that was perpetrated on the American people with the help of foundations and the media. My biggest question throughout the book was why this information has not come to light before now and why something has not been done. When I read a book of this type I immediately go to the bibliography, for therein lies the veracity of the author. This book is meticulously researched. I highly recommend the book not for the subject matter, which is disturbing, but for the information that is available. It answers many questions about the declining state of our society." -- Reader Comment
    "Dr. Reisman gives evidence that Alfred Kinsey may have been directly involved in child sex abuse (for his `research'), and she shows that he did work closely with pedophiles, even hiding the identity of a child murderer in a police investigation. Kinsey and his atheistic, misogynist, anti-child philosophy gave credibility to an entire industry of `sexology' and sex research, not to mention the multi-billion dollar pornography industry. Hugh Hefner, founder of Playboy, credits Kinsey with opening his eyes to the joys of sex (without morality). Fifty years later, our poor children are reaping the fruits of the horrible seeds sown by Alfred Kinsey and his team of sex abusers." -- Reader Comment

    *Reisman, Judith A., Soft Porn Plays Hardball, 40119.

    Schlesinger, Benjamin, Sexual Abuse of Children: A Resource Guide and Annotated Bibliography [20651]

    Strom, Kay Marshall, In the Name of Submission: A Painful Look at Wife Battering
    "This is the first book with a Christian perspective that I read which gave a basis for ending my abusive marriage. . . . A must for any woman who questions her husband's controlling, isolating or abusive behavior, especially if she is a Christian and believes in the sanctity of marriage." Reader Comment

    Umphrey, Marjorie, and William A. Green (editors), Why Don't I Feel OK? (Irvine, CA: Harvest House Publishers, 1977). 40224
    "An examination of the causes of emotional hurt, and what may be done about it." -- Cyril J. Barber

    See also: The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Justification

    Related WebLinks

    Justifying Faith
    http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr1cha.html#justfaith

    Massachusetts Attorney General, "The Sexual Abuse of Children in the Roman Catholic Archdiocese of Boston," Thomas F. Reilly, Massachusetts Attorney General
    "The mistreatment of children was so massive and so prolonged that it borders on the unbelievable," says the July 23 [2003] report of Massachusetts Attorney General Thomas F. Reilly. More than 1,000 minors were likely abused by priests over the past six decades."
    This is the 79-page report in its entirety.
    http://www.votf.org/ago/archdiocese.pdf

    Domestic Violence: An Epidemic in American Society
    "National Statistics

    http://www.walmart.com/catalog/catalog.gsp?cat=109465&path=0%3A5431%3A108754%3A109465



    Affliction (Women)

    Clarkson, Margaret, Destined for Glory: The Meaning of Suffering, large print edition.
    "Above all it is a wholesome book, avoiding glibness and extravagance, and retuning again and again to the sovereign God's eternal and loving purposes to make us like Christ."-- John R.W. Stott

    Clarkson, Margaret, Grace Grows Best in Winter (Grand Rapids, MI: Wm.B. Eerdmans Publishing Co.). 40234
    "This reprint of an important book on suffering comes to us with the recommendation of Joni Eareckson Tada. This was the first book that Joni read after being paralyzed. It had a great effect on her and helped her through a dark winter." -- GCB

    Dowd, Sharyn Echols, Prayer, Power and the Problem of Suffering: Mark 11:22-25 in the Context of Markan Theology (Atlanta, GA: Scholars Press, c1988). 40235
    Emory University, Ph.D. thesis, 1986. Includes bibliography.

    See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship



    Courtship (Women)

    And I will betroth thee unto me for ever; yea, I will betroth thee unto me in righteousness, and in judgment, and in loving kindness, and in mercies. I will even betroth thee unto me in faithfulness; and thou shalt know the Lord. (Hosea 2:19-20)
    Betrothment unto the Lord! What an honor and a joy! My soul, is Jesus indeed thine by His own condescending betrothal? Then, mark it is forever. He will never break His engagement, much less sue out a divorce against a soul joined to Himself in marriage bonds.
    Three times the Lord says, "I will betroth thee." What words He heaps together to set forth the betrothal! Righteousness comes in to make the covenant legal; none can forbid these lawful bans. Judgment sanctions the alliance with its decree: none can see folly or error in the match. Lovingkindness warrants that this is a love union, for without love betrothal is bondage and not blessedness. Meanwhile, mercy smiles and even sings; yea, she multiplies herself into "mercies" because of the abounding grace of this holy union.
    Faithfulness is the registrar and records the marriage, and the Holy Spirit says "Amen" to it as He promises to teach the betrothal heart all the sacred knowledge needful for its high destiny, What a promise! -- C.H. Spurgeon in Faith's Checkbook

    *Harris, Joshua, and Shannon Harris, Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtship
    "Joshua Harris follows up his bestselling I KISSED DATING GOODBYE with BOY MEETS GIRL, the story of how he met and married his wife, Shannon. Where Harris's first book encouraged readers to throw off modern ideas of romantic fixation, BOY MEETS GIRL goes to the next level and urges single Christian men and women to pursue courtship, and ultimately marriage, thoughtfully and prayerfully. Knowing that many readers will balk at the idea of premeditated courtship, Harris insists that dating should not be emotional recreation but rather a careful decision rooted in obedience to God. While the anecdotes used to reveal true-to-life scenarios about dating pitfalls are somewhat elementary (and geared to those in their 20s), Harris succeeds in hammering home the point that obedience to God's word, selfless love, community, purity, and satisfaction in God are the most important aspect of any relationship. The last section of the book is particularly practical, discussing forgiveness of past sexual sin, questions to ask before tying the knot, and how an understanding of our sinful nature can lead to conflict resolution. For Harris's mere twentysomething years of life experience, his maturity and devotion to God are sincere evidence that he has indeed practiced what he has preached, resulting in a passionate relationship with the love of his life." -- Jill Heatherly

    *Harris, Joshua, and Rebecca St. James I Kissed Dating Goodbye
    Countless teens today feel depressed or discouraged because they don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Many single Christians feel frustrated with cultural expectations and patterns of dating. Youth pastors and parents find themselves dealing with young adults who fall into sexual temptation or spend more energy on dating than on following God. I Kissed Dating Goodbye Drive Time Audio offers an all-new approach to dating relationships. It calls young adults away from playing the dating game and reveals how they can live a lifestyle of sincere love, true purity, and purposeful singleness. Honest and practical, this powerful book will inspire teens and young adults to remap their romantic lives in the light of God's Word. Not just a book of theory, I KISSED DATING GOODBYE Drive Time Audio includes healthy challenges to today's cultural assumptions about relationships and provides solid, biblical alternatives to society's norm." -- Publisher's Annotation
    "While most Christians agree to seek purity and save sex for marriage, few have been given a blueprint for how that should affect their view of dating and love. In I KISSED DATING GOODBYE, Joshua Harris exposes the `Seven Habits of Highly Defective Dating' and offers a realistic outline of how to have a biblical vision of marriage. Harris contends that one must begin with a new attitude, viewing love, purity, and singleness from God's perspective rather than thinking that love and romance are to be enjoyed `solely for recreation.' In such well-named chapters as `Guarding Your Heart' and `What Matters at Fifty,' Harris encourages the reader to look at one's character rather than reveling in infatuation, to regard love as a truly selfless, biblical act rather than a feeling. He refutes the concept that we are victims of `falling in love' (that it is beyond our control), saying that `God wants us to seek guidance from scriptural truth, not feeling. Smart love looks beyond personal desires and the gratification of the moment. It looks at the big picture: serving others and glorifying God.' Before you roll your eyes, moaning that this sounds terribly unromantic, know that Harris does a superb job of couching his convictions in the sincere belief that if we are purposeful in our singleness and date with integrity, a fulfilled marriage awaits us--in God's timing." -- Jill Heatherly

    McKinney-Hammond, Michelle, Secrets of an Irresistible Woman
    "No matter where you want to go in life, you've got to have the right directions or you'll never reach your destination. No one going to LA gets on a plane that's headed for Florida, or takes directions from someone who's never been there. Therefore when it comes to relationships it only makes sense to take directions from the One who mapped out the way to true love. Since sense is not as common as some would like to think, it's safe to say that God's Word, whether you acknowledge Him or not, just makes good sense. And mama made sense too, she might not have known or explained why, but she had a point. Hopefully after absorbing the principles I share in this book, you will use you head as well as your heart, along with a good dose of spiritual discernment to arrive joyfully at your love destination." -- Michelle McKinney Hammond, the author

    *Price, Greg, Christian Education in the Home: Help! My Daughter Wants to Date (Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books).
    "Contrasts the non-covenantal pagan view of dating with the covenantal Christian view of Biblical courtship. Shows how the world has insidiously invaded the church (through music, TV, movies, godless public education, etc.) and how this has impacted the raising of our children. Includes a lengthy list of questions for interviewing prospective suitors and an appendix on the Biblical role of women. A very practical, unique item, laying the foundation for blessed biblical marriages. Related item: Courtship Versus Dating by Greg Price." -- SWRB
    "Dating or Courtship: Which is Biblical?, audio cassette online by Greg Price
    http://sphynx.idontknow.com/swrb/dating.ram

    *Swanson, Andrew Whom Shall I Marry?
    "Andrew Swanson writes with sensitivity on the struggles and difficulties young people from various cultures face in regard to the choice of a life mate. He writes about the ways in which God guides and directs those whose central desire is to do his will." -- Publisher's Annotation

    *Voshell, Dorothy, Whom Shall I Marry? (Philadelphia, PA: The Presbyterian and Reformed Publishing Co.). 40076
    "Should be in every pastor's library. Excellent for counselors. Best book for those considering marriage." -- GCB

    West, Jim, Christian Courtship Verses the Dating Game (Palo Cedro, CA: Christian Worldview Ministries) [70313].
    "Important Biblical principles are considered that have nearly been lost in our day." -- GCB

    See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Courtship (chapter 7), Abstinence, Sexual wholeness, Gratuitous sex, Sexual healing, Men and women, Men, women and god, Works of martha finley


    Related WebLinks

    Price, Greg, "Dating or Courtship: Which is Biblical? (1/2)
    http://sphynx.idontknow.com/swrb/dating.ram



    Divorce (Women)

    Many marriages have been healed by a commitment to Christ first and to each other second. -- D. James Kennedy and Jerry Newcombe, What if Jesus Had Never Been Born, p. 140

    Carroll, Anne, K., Together Forever (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House, 1982). 40238
    "A guide for couples who are anticipating divorce explains the basic elements of a happy marriage, discussing the issues of poor self-esteem, acceptance, communication, power struggles, sex, and self-centered behavior." -- Publisher's Annotation

    Hunter, Brenda, Beyond Divorce: A Personal Journey (Old Tappan, NJ: Fleming H. Revell, c1978). 40240

    Johnson, Laurene, and Georglyn Rosenfeld, Divorced Kids: What You Need to Know to Help Kids Survive a Divorce [70580A]
    "Children are survivors. And parents have the potential not only to help their children survive but also to thrive -- despite the pain and upheaval of divorce. Written with honesty and sensitivity by two divorced mothers of happy, well-adjusted children, this inspiring and understanding sourcebook speaks to all of us who are divorced parents and all of us with children of any age who are learning to cope with a new way of family life. Inside, you'll find: Strategies for coping with loss, Practical solutions for visitation rights, Insightful advice on becoming a stepfamily, Methods for positive, consistent discipline over the course of the divorce, Ways to nurture and protect your child's self-esteem, and much more!" -- Publisher's Annotation

    Kehle, Mary, In the Middle: What to Do When Your Parents Divorce (Wheaton, IL: Harold Shaw Publishers). 40241
    "A book, written for children 9-13 to help them in the midst of divorce situations. Drawing on her experience as a counseling psychologist and nurse, Kehle deals with the subject with sensitivity and a deep understanding of the needs of children." -- GCB
    "Offers advice to preteens on how to cope with the emotions and other problems arising from the divorce of parents. Also discusses relationships with step-families." -- Publisher's Annotation

    See also: The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship



    Feminism (Women)

    But many that are first shall be last; and the last shall be first. -- Jesus Christ (Matthew 19:30)

    Redbook magazine conducted a survey concerning sex in modern "liberated" America [Susan Sadd and Carol Tavris, The Redbook Report on Female Sexuality (New York, NY: Delacorte, 1977), pp. 97-106)]. . . .
    What did the survey reveal? Even more astounding than the number of women that replied [100,000] were the results. They discovered that women who were sexually liberated -- the feminists, the free modern women -- were the most dissatisfied kind of person sexually. The only person less satisfied was the nymphomaniac (who most men think is just the most sexual kind of woman), who is so sexually frustrated that she runs from here to there and back and forth everywhere trying to find some satisfaction, which, alas, she never finds.
    But the more religious women indicated that they had more sexual satisfaction in their lives. The most religious category (women were to judge how much a part religion played in their lives -- i.e., whether they were most religious, more religious, least religious), whom the average enlightened American male has been told by the devil are sexually repressed, were the most orgasmic women in the country. And that turns the whole lot right on its head. -- D. James Kennedy and Jerry Newcombe, What if Jesus Had Never Been Born, p. 139

    Hunt, Gladys, Ms. Means Myself (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House, 1973).

    *Pride, Mary, The Way Home: Beyond Feminism, Back to Reality (Wheaton, IL: Good News Publishers [Crossway Books]). 40273
    "By establishing the proper relationship of a woman to God, to her husband, and to her children, THE WAY HOME is nothing less than a declaration of independence." -- GCB
    "Mary Pride was a radical feminist and an insider in the movement. She says feminism is really a religion that sees women as the measure of all things." -- Publisher's Annotation

    See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship



    Friendship (Women)

    Barnes, Emilie and Donna Otto Friends of the Heart
    "My best friend gave this to me on my birthday --it has become one of my favorite books, not only because it is about `Best Friends' but also because the message within the book carried so much meaning. I recommend this beautifully written book for anyone who shares a special friendship, a soul-mate, kindred spirits. As you read the book you can't resist picking up the phone to share the information with your best friend, and agree whole heartedly that it hit home!" -- Reader Comment

    Barnes, Emilie, Things Happen When Women Care (Eugene, OR: Harvest House Publishers). 40060
    "This insightful look at developing friendships will give you the tools you need to start on the great adventure of caring for others." -- GCB

    Brestin, Dee, The Friendships of Women (Wheaton, IL: Scripture Press Publications, Inc.). 40061
    "You will grow as she opens God's Word to reveal a pattern for friendship that can unleash and channel your gift for intimacy and help you be the redemptive agent God planned you to be." -- GCB

    Shaw, Jean, Greater Love: A Woman's Workshop on Friendship (With Leader's Guide) (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House). 40063
    "Many times we have lots of acquaintances but no special friend. Or perhaps our friendship is stagnating. Maybe we have a friendship in which we feel exploited and we want out. Shaw looks at God's Word so we can learn what the Bible says about friendship." -- GCB

    See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Woman and small groups, Mentoring (women)



    Husband not a Believer (Women)

    Adams, Jay E., Winning Your Unsaved Husband (Michigan City, IN: Sound Word Associates, 1991). 30105
    Audio cassette JA404.

    Berry, Jo, Beloved Unbeliever: Loving Your Husband Into the Faith (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Book Publishers, 1988). 40083
    This book offers new hope for the thousands of Christian wives married to unbelieving husbands. It gives guidance on communicating with your husband, determining spiritual priorities, and showing Christian behavior at home without alienating your husband. Suited for individual and group study." -- Publisher's Annotation
    "This ten-session book on `loving a husband into the faith' can be used one-on-one or in a small group study."

    Berry, Jo, How To Live With an Unbeliever (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House). 40084
    "This little booklet of 60 pages is excerpted from the author's BELOVED UNBELIEVER. Basic scriptural principles are used to show wives of unbelievers how to be a good `helper,' act on 1 Peter 3, deal with decision making, raise children in the Lord, and love their husbands into the kingdom." -- GCB

    Connie, Neal Holding on to Heaven: While Your Husband Goes Through Hell
    "This book made God's plan for marriage so clear. It provided a much needed contrast to what the world says marriage is." -- Reader Comment

    Davis, Linda, How to Be the Happy Wife of an Unsaved Husband (Springdale, PA: Whitaker House). 40085
    "In a tactful and personal way, Davis confronts the delicate and sometimes difficult issues raised when a believing woman is married to an unbelieving husband. From a strong Biblical perspective, the spiritual issues are forthrightly addressed. The man's point of view is well represented in this book." -- GCB

    See also: The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Book length presentations of the free offer of Gospel message of salvation and the life to come: the means of grace, Gospel tracts and witnessing tools

    Related WebLinks

    Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
    "Click on any of the individual questions below to get the answer and Biblical references, as well as links to works by John Flavel, Thomas Watson, Thomas Boston, James Fisher, and John Whitecross, and others."
    http://www.shortercatechism.com/

    Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
    http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html



    Incest (Women)

    *Elliott, Lynda, and Vicki Tanner, My Father's Child (Brentwood, TN: Wolgemuth and Hyatt Publishers, 1988). 40244
    Help and healing for the victims of emotional, sexual, and physical abuse.

    Imbens, Annie Fransen, Ineke De Putter Jonker, and P. McVay (translator) Christianity and Incest

    Justice, Blair, and Rita Justice, The Broken Taboo [20643]
    "The most moving thing I read in the book was of our society's refusal to admit incest happens, especially of mothers refusing to believe when it was taking place in their homes. This refusal to acknowledge that there is even anything to acknowledge is almost as great a crime as the abuse of one's own children, and the Justices put the fact squarely in the reader's lap." -- Reader Comment

    Pellauer, Mary D., Barbara Chester, and Jane Boyajian (editors), Sexual Assault and Abuse: A Handbook for Clergy and Religious Professionals [40232]

    Strom, Kay M., Helping Women in Crisis: A Handbook for People Helpers

    Wilson, Earl D., A Silence to be Broken: Hope for Those Caught in the Web of Incest (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers).
    "A difficult subject is handled in a sensitive way thus providing compassion and relief for those who have been gripped with this problem. Sources of help are offered as well as what the church can do. Wilson writes with a contagious confidence in God's redemptive power, and it give us hope." -- GCB

    See also: The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Justification



    Mentoring (Women)

    Baldwin, Carol Lesser, Friendship Counseling: Biblical Foundations for Helping Others (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing, c1988). 40163
    "This book is unique in that it derives practical counseling skills from a study of who God is and how He has dealt with his people." -- GCB

    Betters, Sharon W. Treasures of Encouragement: Women Helping Women in the Church (Presbyterian and Reformed Publishing Company
    "Security in your relationship with Christ can lead you to reach out to others in your church, your community, and your family! Do you know someone who is hurting, depressed, lonely? This book will help you find ways to help that person -- to build one another up. What a wonderful ministry! The Ministry of Encouragement!" -- Reader Comment

    *Hunt, Susan, Spiritual Mothering: The Titus 2 Model for Women Mentoring Women (Brentwood, TN: Legacy Communications, 1992). 40015
    "This is a fine treatment of a subject very close to my heart. May older women heed the call to mother the younger, and may the younger women be teachable." -- Elisabeth Elliot
    "This is a jewel of a book. By sensitively examining Paul's instructions in Titus 2, Susan Hunt calls women to powerfully affect our nation and world with the love of God--one person at a time." -- Beverly LaHaye
    "Hunt has lots of experience in the area this book covers. She is very active in the PCA's W.I.C. program. The book comes with glowing recommendations by Elisabeth Elliot, Bev LaHaye, Charles Dunahoo, Connie Marshner, and Debra Evans. She believes that the church needs to restore the ministry of older women to younger women." -- GCB

    Otto, Donna The Gentle Art of Mentoring
    "Your experience and insights make you the perfect guide for helping a younger woman navigate the waters of day-to-day living and spiritual growth. THE GENTLE ART OF MENTORING offers practical ideas for bringing blessing to both mentor and disciple." -- Publisher's Annotation

    See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Friendship (women), Book length presentations of the free offer of Gospel message of salvation and the life to come: the means of grace, Gospel tracts and witnessing tools, Sexual relationship

    Related WebLinks

    Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
    "Click on any of the individual questions below to get the answer and Biblical references, as well as links to works by John Flavel, Thomas Watson, Thomas Boston, James Fisher, and John Whitecross, and others."
    http://www.shortercatechism.com/

    Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
    http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html



    Miscarriage and Stillbirth (Women)

    Rank, Maureen, Free to Grieve: Miscarriage and Stillbirth [40210]
    "Combining her own personal experience with extensive research, Maureen Rank offers guidance to the grieving and help in looking toward the future.
    "The author, herself the survivor of four miscarriages, believes that healing can begin when these basic principles are recognized: "Along with the sorrow of miscarriage and stillbirth come the inevitable questions: `Why did this happen?' `Can the problem be remedied?' and `Should we try again?' Avoiding cold, purely medical technicalities, this book faces these questions squarely and explores options for treatment and emotional healing.
    "Written from a Christian perspective and including the latest in medical technology, this book is an important resource for pastors and counselors.
    "Comfort, encouragement, and sound advice for those who have suffered the losses of miscarriage and stillbirth." -- Publisher's Annotation

    Vredevelt, Pam W., Empty Arms: Emotional Support for Those Who Have Suffered Miscarriage or Stillbirth
    "This book was a great help to my wife and myself after the stillbirth of our son. When we started our own ministry to help those suffering from the loss of a baby, we looked at dozens of potential books to use in the ministry, and we kept coming back to this book as the most complete, compassionate work on the subject. This book stands far above most others by helping grieving parents come to terms with their loss intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually. I can't say enough about this book and the impact it has had on the lives of the people that we have given it to in our ministry." -- Reader Comment

    See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship



    The Pastor's Wife (Women)

    *Blackwood, Carolyn P., The Pastor's Wife (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1951). 40155
    "Remains the finest work of its kind. Written in a happy, optimistic style, it shows without any varnish or gloss the trials and tensions facing pastors' wives. Helpful suggestions come from years of experience in the pastorate." -- Cyril J. Barber

    Bouma, Mary LaGrand, Divorce in the Parsonage (Minneapolis, MN: Bethany House Fellowship, c1979). 70569

    Denton, Wallace, The Minister's Wife as a Counselor (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1965). 40156
    Includes bibliography.

    MacDonald, Gail, High Call, High Privilege (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers). 40157
    "Pastor's wife has found the secret of successful womanhood: Learn how to pursue a life which reflects the splendor of God, and affirms His creation under Christ." -- GCB

    White, Ruthe, What Every Pastor's Wife Should Know (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers). 40158
    "When a man enters the ministry he has usually had intensive training, and even then he has a lot to learn. But what about his wife? She also needs all the advice she can get. The author specializes in just that kind of help and advice." -- GCB

    See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship



    Women and the New Age

    Buehrer, Eric, The New Age Masquerade: The Hidden Agenda in Your Child's Classroom [70181A]
    "This is one book the New Agers will not want the public to read." -- Johanna Michaelson
    "There is a growing New Age trend sweeping public schools. This trend is known as `global education.' Few books even touch on this dimension of New Age philosophy, yet the public schools are where our culture is the most vulnerable. Eric Buehrer presents a fully documented expose of the infiltration by the New Age into the public school system. He reveals what teachers are teaching and specific examples, both from small town schools as well as from large urban districts. Must reading!" -- GCB

    Heine, Susanne, Matriarchs, Goddesses and Images of God: A Critique of a Feminist Theology (Minneapolis, MN: Augsburg, c1988). 40284
    A sequel to WOMEN AND EARLY CHRISTIANITY. Originally published as CHRISTIANITY AND THE GODDESSES (London, England: SCM Press, c1988). Includes bibliography and indexes.

    Kjos, Berit, Your Child and the New Age (Wheaton, IL: Scripture Press Publications, Inc.). 40282

    Kjos, Berit, Brave New Schools
    "With concrete examples from public school material, Berit Kjos demonstrates how myths, feelings, and imagination have replaced facts, logic and history in our classrooms. You can make a positive difference in your children's education by educating yourself first." -- Publisher's Annotation

    Kjos, Berit, Under the Spell of Mother Earth (Wheaton, IL: Scripture Press Publications, Inc., 1992). 40283
    Foreword by Evelyn Christenson. "Concern for the environment has joined with mysticism to spark a return to ancient forms of nature worship. Paganism is on the rise, and the `Earth Goddess' is beckoning. Indeed, pagan beliefs are subtly entering peoples' lives through media, schools, and even the church." -- Publisher's Annotation

    *Marrs, Wanda, New Age Lies To Women (Austin, TX [Living Truth Publishers, 8103 Shiloh Court, Austin 78745]: Living Truth Publishers, 1989). 40281
    "The first [book] to completely reveal the New Age campaign to deceive and seduce women. . . . She also explains how the New Age has successfully been able to damage and hurt women psychologically, break up marriages, lure our children into Satanism, cults and the occult, kill unborn babies, and undermine women's faith in God. Must reading for every woman in America!" -- Publisher's Annotation. Bibliographic footnotes.

    Singer, Margaret Thaler, Cults In Our Midst (Jossey-Bass, 1995).
    Said to be one of the best secular refutation of cults and cult psychology.

    Sire, James W., Shirley MacLaine and the New Age Movement (A Viewpoint Pamphlet. Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press). 40287
    "Focusing on Shirley MacLaine as a representative of the New Age, James W. Sire offers an insightful analysis of this growing religious movement. He shows how New Age thought lacks logical consistency, how it differs from traditional Eastern thought, and how it distorts Christian beliefs. Sire is a senior editor at InterVarisity Press and has written several books, including THE UNIVERSE NEXT DOOR and SCRIPTURE TWISTING." -- Publisher's Annotation

    *Tucker, Ruth, Another Gospel: Alternative Religions and the New Age Movement
    "A comprehensive survey of all the major alternative religions in the United States, including the new groups since the 1960s.
    "Crystals, shamans, guided imagery, healing meditation -- why have these New Age ideas been so eagerly accepted by so many North Americans? Why were Mormonism, Christian Science, and Baha'i so warmly welcomed earlier? Ruth A. Tucker's Another Gospel: Alternative Religions and the New Age Movement explains how these and other alternative religious movements appear to meet people's needs. Tucker's overview illumines the personalities whose alleged revelations spawned historical heresies in all the major cults in the United States. She highlights important controversies within each movement as it aims for religious respectability. Her visits to cult centers and interviews with key members and scholars yield fascinating details, such as why Mormons prohibit hot drinks and how Charles Fillmore, Unity Church founder, rewrote Psalm 23: `The Lord is my banker; my credit is good . . .' ANOTHER GOSPEL pinpoints how the doctrines and practices of a dozen contemporary groups, as well as the New Age Movement, deviate from orthodox Christianity. It shows how to reach out to cult members. For example, `It's a myth that Jehovah's Witnesses know their Bible well, are argumentative, and never leave their religion.' Appendices describe lesser-known cults (Swedenborgianism, Rosicrucianism, etc.) and provide, where available, cults' statements of belief.
    "Ruth A. Tucker (Ph.D. Northern Illinois University) has taught alternative religions at both the graduate and the undergraduate levels, most recently as Visiting Professor at Trinity Evangelical Divinity School in Deerfield, IL. She has written several books, including FROM JERUSALEM TO IRIAN JAYA, GUARDIANS OF THE GREAT COMMISSION, and DAUGHTERS OF THE CHURCH (with Walter L. Liefield)." -- Publisher's Annotation

    See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Book length presentations of the free offer of Gospel message of salvation and the life to come: the means of grace, Gospel tracts and witnessing tools

    Related WebLinks

    Appendix D: A Selection of Works on Pseudo-Christian Movements
    http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrrappd.html



    Rape (Women)

    Botkin-Maher, Jennifer, Nice Girls Don't Get Raped (San Bernardino, CA: Here's Life Publishers). 20642
    "A sensitive account of physical, emotional, social, and spiritual effects of rape on a woman and her family. NICE GIRLS DON'T GET RAPED also shares Jennifer's personal walk from trauma to triumph. She guides you through the healing process to a life free from the bondage of fear." -- GCB

    Pellauer, Mary D., Barbara Chester, and Jane Boyajian (editors), Sexual Assault and Abuse: A Handbook for Clergy and Religious Professionals [40232]

    Strom, Kay M., Helping Women in Crisis: A Handbook for People Helpers

    See also: Justification, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship

    Related WebLinks

    "Gratuitous Sex a Cause of Violence" in Chapter 7 (part 1): "Family Life, Education, Church and Work"
    http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr7cha.html



    Sexual Relationship (Women)

    Sexual Relationship: A few brief comments

    Uniqueness of sexual relationship

    1. Our first love is our only love. A man "shall be joined unto his wife, and the two shall be one flesh." (Ephesians 5:31, 1 Psalms 67:1,2) There is a "mixing and blending" of both body and soul in sexual relationship (Corinthians 6:15-20). In good marriages the partners begin to think and look alike. (Proverbs 27 27:19)
    2. It is impossible to "be one flesh" with more than one person. Logically oneness is unique and can exist in only one relationship. Therefore, any other relationship will be less fulfilling than the first. The promiscuous person goes from partner to partner seeking fulfillment in a oneness that has been lost forever.
    3. Love and lust are opposites. They can not coexist together. But they are confused by the unregenerate. If a man truly loves a woman, then he will not lust after her. (1 Peter 2:11) A sign of true love is the man would not, under any circumstances, harm his true love. (1 John 2:15-17) Love "is sharing life together in a way that brings glory to God and enriches the lives of every family member." (Kennedy, Learning to Live With the People you Love) If a man lusts for a woman, then he does not truly love her, because lust is harmful. (James 4:1; 1 John 4:18; Matthew 5:28; See below: Women who cohabit are 76 times as likely to be physically abused.)
    4. The carnal world may argue that lustful, immoral sex is the most gratifying (1 John 2:15-17). Their eyes are blinded to the long term consequences of sexual sin (James 4:1; 1 Corinthians 6:18-20; Hebrew 11:25-27): lose of unique oneness and fulfillment of true love, violence (Leviticus 19:29, Five-Year Arrest Trends, All Women, 1995-1999), broken relationships, ruined lives, ruined families (Psalm 68:6; Samson and Delilah, David's sin with Bathsheba, Solomon's foreign concubine), sexually transmitted disease, and so forth, and so on. (Titus 2:11-14)
    5. When love is true, then sexual relationship is pure, spontaneous, natural, and fulfilling (Song of Solomon, The Redbook Report on Female Sexuality).
    6. Love is a commitment, not a feeling. (See Love, Pre-marital counseling, Marriage)
    7. One sign of true love is that sexual relationship is confined within the bounds of marriage (Hebrews 13:4). Sexual relationship is not fulfilling unless it is permanent.
    8. A man should not date or court a woman unless he plans to marry her, because a first encounter may eventually lead to marriage.
    9. If one is not willing to take on the responsibility of raising children, then one should not have a sexual relationship (See: Singleness, Self-denial, Abstinence, Gratuitous sex, a cause of violence, Abortion, Fatherlessness).
    10. "Information from the Barna Research Group [2001] shows that one out of four people identifying as a born-again Christian reports having cohabited." (See below: Women who cohabit are 76 times a likely to be physically abused.)
    11. If a couple cohabits, then they will never be the same again, with the one exception that they both were virgins when they cohabited, remained true to each other, and got married. After cohabiting a person is different because of the "mixing and matching" of sexual relationship, and they will never again have a completely fulfilling sexual relationship. (Ephesians 5:31)
    12. Currently (2007) the rate of divorce and the rate of abortions within the church is comparable to the rates in secular society.
    13. "Overall, 27 percent of born-again Christians have experienced divorce compared to 24 percent for the rest of Americans." (Barna Research, December, 1999) "While it may be alarming to discover that born-again Christians are more likely than others to experience a divorce, that pattern has been in place for quite some time [emphasis added]." -- George Barna, president of Barna Research Group.

      Abortion (See Abortion and the sanctity of life)

    14. A child conceived in lust may be unwanted. If that is the case, then the child may be aborted. "Two-thirds of all abortions are among never-married women." (Jones RK, Darroch JE and Henshaw SK, "Patterns in the socioeconomic characteristics of women obtaining abortions in 2000-2001," Perspectives on Sexual and Reproductive Health, 2002, 34(5):226-235.
    15. This murder of one's own child within the womb has happened more than 42 million times since 1973. "From 1973 through 2002, more than 42 million legal abortions occurred." (Finer, L.B. and S.K. Henshaw, "Estimates of U.S. abortion incidence in 2001 and 2002," The Alan Guttmacher Institute (AGI), 2005) The total number of abortions performed in the United States is undoubtable higher because these figures only represents abortions reported by licensed agencies. Illegal abortions are not reported. Current estimates [2007] are that there have been 50 million abortions in the United States since 1973. ("An estimated 46 million abortions take place around the world each year -- over 126,000 a day. According to a United Nations Population Newsletter, 20 million of these are performed illegally.)
    16. Studies show "abortion common among all women, even those thought to oppose abortion."
    17. "Based on current trends, one in three women in the U.S. will have an abortion, according to the Alan Guttmacher Institute. The majority of women older than 17 who obtained an abortion reported a religious affiliation. The highest proportion (43 percent) identified themselves as Protestant. [emphasis added] Twenty-seven percent of women having an abortion identified themselves as Catholic, and 8 percent as a member of another religion; . . . Thirteen percent identified themselves as "born-again" or evangelical, three-fourths of whom were Protestant [emphasis added]." (Rachel K. Jones, Jacqueline E. Darroch and Stanley K. Henshaw, "Patterns in the Socioeconomic Characteristics of Women Obtaining Abortions in 2000-2001," Perspectives on Sexual and Reproductive Health, Volume 34, Number 5, September/October 2002)
    18. So the most dangerous place to be in the United States is inside your mother's womb, and the abortion rate among Protestant woman (43 percent) is comparable to the rate of abortion among secular women.
    19. Men are sexually aroused primarily by sight, therefore women should dress modestly. (Matthew 5:28) To dress immodestly is to commit the sin of Bathsheba (2 Samuel 11:2). Therefore, Hollywood entertainment, motion pictures, soft pornography of the media and Madison Avenue, and hard pornography, are a particular temptation to men. (Job 31:1)
    20. Women are sexually aroused primarily by touch. Therefore, holding hands, kissing, dancing, and petting are particular temptations to women. (Proverbs 6:29)
    21. Marriage without true love is enslavement. An unregenerate young man, out of lust, may "chase a young women until she catches him." However, a man who marries for lust, and not for true love, enslaves himself. (1 John 4:18, Freedom: a gift of the grace of god, Slavery)
    22. A wedding is merely a courtesy the bride extends to the groom allowing him to make a public statement of his love and devotion to her. Once he marries her and becomes one with her in sexual relationship she "owns him." And civil law upholds this oneness.
    23. Unregenerate men, ungrounded in sound doctrine, often end up worshipping women. (1 Corinthians 7:32,33) When women are worshipped, then men are emasculated. The female characteristics are toleration, acceptance, love, abundance, nurture, generosity, gentleness, and so forth. If male leadership becomes effeminate, and if too many effeminate individuals have the vote, then society destabilizes and goes into decline. (Isaiah 3:12; 19:16; Nahum 3.13; Jeremiah 50:37; 51:30) The prime example of this is Romanism and their Maryology. (See Idolatry, Robbins, The Church Effeminate, Effeminacy, Feminism, Cowardice, The decline of american society).

      Sexual sin is unique from all other transgressions

    24. Sexual sin includes:
      • incest (Proverbs 8:5,6; Mark 9:37; Philippians 4:6,7; 1 Peter 5:7; Matthew 11:28,29; Matthew 19:14; 1 Corinthians 5:1; Isaiah 26:3,4),
      • seduction,
      • lose of virginity,
      • fornication,
      • whoredom, (1 Thessalonians 4:3-8)
      • prostitution (Leviticus 19:29; Five-Year Arrest Trends, All Women, 1995-1999; Foster, Sexual Healing: God's Plan for the Sanctification of Broken Lives),
      • spreading sexually transmitted diseases (33,000 people contract a new STD everyday. Approximately 2/3 are under the age of 25. [Center for Disease Control]; AIDS is the leading killer of Americans between the ages of 25 and 44. [Center for Disease Control]),
      • illegitimate issue (Illegitimate births have increased 400% since 1963, the historical date that marks the beginning of the sexual revolution. [Medical Institute for Sexual Health]),
      • abortion (Psalm 127:3; Psalm 139:13-15; Psalm 139:13-15; Luke 1:42; Luke 1:44; Jeremiah 1:5; Isaiah 49:15; Exodus 20:13; Isaiah 49:5; Job 31:15; Psalm 22:9,10; Isaiah 44:2,24; Isaiah 40:31; Psalm 42:11),
      • murder of pregnant unwed mothers, (In a study conducted in Maryland in 2001 the leading cause of death during pregnancy was murder. Twenty-one percent of the women studied were murdered.)
      • murder of spouse (1,247 women and 440 men were killed by an intimate partner in 2000. In recent years an intimate killed about 33% of female murder victims and 4% of male murder victims. -- "Intimate Partner Violence, 1993-2001," Callie Marie Rennison, Ph.D. BJS Statistician),
      • fatherlessness, (See Fatherlessness)
      • adultery (James 4:4),
      • child abuse (Matthew 25:40; Matthew 19:14; Matthew 11:28; 1 Peter 5:7, Child abuse),
      • molestation, (Abuse, Child abuse)
      • pedophilia, ("Homosexuals are over represented in child sex offenses: Individuals from the 1 to 3 percent of the population that is sexually attracted to the same sex are committing up to one-third of the sex crimes against children." -- Timothy J. Dailey, Phd. in "Homosexuality and Child Sexual Abuse")
      • rape, ("For every 1,000 women attending their institutions, there may well be 35 incidents of rape in a given academic year (based on a victimization rate of 35.3 per 1,000 college women). For a campus with 10,000 women, this would mean the number of rapes could exceed 350. Even more broadly, when projected over the Nation's female student population of several million, these figures suggest that rape victimization is a potential problem of large proportion and of public policy interest." -- "The Sexual Victimization of College Women Research Report," U.S. Department of Justice, Office of Justice Programs, National Institute of Justice)
      • conjugal lewdness and matrimonial whoredom (Daniel Defoe, Conjugal Lewdness, or Matrimonial Whoredom),
      • pornography (Matthew 5:28, Pornography),
      • sodomy (See Homosexuality),
      • homosexuality (Psalm 106:30,31,35,37,39,40,41; Romans 1:24-27; 1 Timothy 1:10,11; 1 Corinthians 6:9; 2 Corinthians 5:17; Romans 1:16; Luke 4:18,19; John 1:12; 1 Corinthians 6:11; 1 Corinthians 10:13; Hebrews 2:18; Hebrews 4:14-16; Romans 12:1,2; Ephesians 4:22-24; 2 Corinthians 10:5; Isaiah 26:3),
      • lesbianism (See Homosexuality),
      • nudity and exhibitionism (When inexperienced strip club dancers begin performing they often end up being fired. Their female egos get so puffed up by the attention of the crowd that they begin dictating to club management how to run the club: ask for exorbitant raises, dictate their work schedule, and tell management how much to charge the customers.)
      • and so forth, and so on. (Matthew 15:18-20, Romans 1:24-27)

    25. The sexual revolution is really a revolution against God. (Numbers 25:1-3, 29; Joshua 22:17; Psalm 106:30,31)
    26. The Adversary's attack upon boys, manhood, fathers, and the family is really an attack on the God ordained role of men to be the spiritual leader, and to protect his family, his church, and his country from falsehood and evil. (See Christ our example, Manhood, Effeminacy, Feminism)
    27. Sexual sins are unique from all other transgressions. First they are sins against God, and against one's own body. (1 Corinthians 6:18-20; Psalm 51:4) But sexual sins go on to permanently affect victims' lives even after they have been repented of and forgiven. Sexual sin lives on in victims and in society. (See Abortion and the sanctity of life, Abuse, Abuse [Women], Adultery, Carnality and flesh pleasing, Child abuse, Depression, Divorce, Fatherlessness, Gratuitous sex, a cause of violence, Homosexuality, Hostility, Idolatry, Incest, Incest [Women], Pornography, Post-abortion counseling, Prostitution, Protecting children from dangers, Rape, Sex [women], Sex education, Sexual healing and wholeness, Sexually transmitted diseases, Single parenting, Singleness, Soul-violence, Suicide, Teens and Sex, Unforgiveness, Works by and for women)
    28. The emotional and psychic shock, the trauma, of adultery, incest, child sexual abuse, pedophilia, and rape leave lifetime scares on victims. Some victims are never able to trust others again. The emotional wounds are as hard to cure as chronic disease. "Many people secretly bear the scars of childhood abuse and desperately struggle with the hidden trauma that interferes with spiritual growth and normal human relationships." -- Susan Alder
    29. Adultery is a sin against the human spirit that produces traumatic results. (Proverbs 6:32-35; Proverbs 6:29; Post-traumatic stress syndrome, Sexual wholeness)
    30. Biblical counselors report that parental neglect, rejection, or abuse are the most frequent complaints of counselees. (Abuse, Abuse [Women], Child abuse, Depression, Incest, Incest [Women])
    31. Bad relationships, including sexual relationship, lead to disease and death. (1 John 3:15, Bad relationships a cause of disease and death)
    32. It is the Puritans who gave us the Christian model for family in Western culture.
    33. 17th Century Puritans were keenly aware of the social consequences of illegitimacy. (See: sexual brokenness, poverty, prostitution, sexually transmitted diseases, fatherlessness, soul-violence, abortion, child abuse, violence related to sexual sin, increased crime, illiteracy, and so forth, and so on) During the ten year Protectorate of Oliver Cromwell, all manner of adultery and fornication was against the law. Suspected violators were tried on the charge "For Uncondoned Carnal Knowledge." The acronym "FUCK" has been a vulgarity for immoral sex for the last 360 years.
    34. Uncondoned carnal knowledge (sexual sin) blasts lives and destroys souls. (Hosea 4:10; Hebrews 13:4) The vulgar acronym is often used in utter contempt.
    35. It is also a sin against the family, which is the basic unit of society. It is the breaking of our conjugal vows, "Forsaking all others, I choose thee." [The marriage blood covenant (vow) is also a covenant (vow) with God.] It is a sin against our children. One of the most flagrant causes of divorce, adultery has produced millions of children who have grown up without a father and a mother in the home, and has created enormous problems in the lives of these children. Adultery and its consequent evils are sins against the nation and society. . . ." -- D. James Kennedy and Jerry Newcombe, What if Jesus Had Never Been Born, p. 135
    36. Some conservative seminaries will not accept men who have been divorced, or men who have married a divorced woman. Our first love is our only love. "Ultimately the Seventh Commandment (Exodus 20:14) is about our fidelity to Christ." To fracture the Seventh Commandment is to break covenant with the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.
    37. Sexual immorality, whoredom, substance abuse, the occult, and crime, including murder, are often found together in society by law enforcement agencies.
    38. Whoredom (fornication, adultery, prostitution, homosexuality, etc.) is a major cause of violence and murder in society. (Leviticus 19:29; Intimate Partner Violence, 1993-2001; Domestic Violence: An Epidemic in American Society; Five-Year Arrest Trends, All Women, 1995-1999) "It is distressing how often death does follow adultery," -- abortion, murder of a lover, murder of a spouse, fatal "accidents," and suicide. Prior to 1960 in America the majority of murders committed where one spouse murdering either the other spouse or an adulterer. As drug abuse grew, drug related murders took the lead. (Proverbs 6:32-35; Proverbs 8:36)

      Suicide

    39. "The national suicide rate among males between the ages of 15 an 24 has nearly quadrupled over the last 60 years and the rate among females in the same age group has doubled."
    40. "Suicide is the third leading cause of death among young people ages 15 to 24. [The second leading cause on college campuses.] In 2001, 3,971 suicides were reported in this group (Anderson and Smith 2003). Of the total number of suicides among ages 15 to 24 in 2001, 86% (n=3,409) were male and 14% (n=562) were female (Anderson and Smith 2003). ("Suicide: Fact Sheet," Center for Disease Control)
    41. However, "women report attempting suicide during their lifetime about three times as often as men." (Krug et al., World report on violence and health [serial online]. 2002).
    42. The US Justice Department reports that women who live together with men are 76 times more likely to be physically abused, that is 7,600 percent more likely (2001 data).
    43. Conversely, the health of a marriage depends upon the husband and wife living together all the time. The husband must be there to care for and to protect his wife and children.
    44. "The teen birthrate in the United States is the highest of any industrialized nation, nearly twice as great as that of the United Kingdom and 15 times that of Japan. (Rebecca A. Maynard, Kids Having Kids. Robin Hood Foundation, circa 1998) One (1) million teenage girls get pregnant each year. Of that, approximately 40 percent will receive government assistance. (Rebecca A. Maynard, Kids Having Kids. Robin Hood Foundation, circa 1998)
    45. The Journal of the American Medical Association reported (early 2001) a study of 247 women who died in pregnancy in the state of Maryland. The leading cause of death during pregnancy was murder. Twenty-one percent of the women studied were murdered.
    46. Sexual sins are also sins against one's own body. (1 Corinthians 6:18-20; 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8) The human body is the temple of the living God (1 Corinthians 6:15-20). The body is to be kept chaste and pure. Fornication replaces holiness with filthiness. (1 Corinthians 6:18-20; Ephesians 5:3) Therefore, sexual sin is self-destructive.
    47. If virginity is wasted in fornication (Exodus 22:16,17), then a fulfilling sexual relationship can never be known.
    48. Sexual sin results in sexually transmitted diseases. There are over 30 known sexually transmitted diseases in the United States today (33,000 people contract a new STD everyday. Approximately 2/3 are under the age of 25. [Center for Disease Control]; 50 percent of the sexually active single adult population has, or will have, at least 1 STD in their lifetime. [CDC]), among them herpes, syphilis, and AIDs (AIDS is the leading killer of Americans between the ages of 25 and 44. [Center for Disease Control]).
    49. In short, marriage can be either the best of lots or the worst of lots. Young men and young women should be extremely careful to avoid sexual sin to protect themselves from falling into the worst of lots. (1 Corinthians 6:15-20)
    50. The Holy Spirit alone is able to keep young people (and adults) from falling into sexual sin. (1 Corinthians 10:13, 2 Thessalonians 3:3)

      Christ and Sexual Relationship

    51. Ultimately the Seventh Commandment (Exodus 20:14) is about our fidelity to Christ. (Hosea 2:19-20; James 4:4; Engelsma, Marriage, the Mystery of Christ and the Church) To fracture the Seventh Commandment is to break covenant with the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.
    52. Marriage is a threesome, Christ, the husband, and the wife. (Eyrich, Three To Get Ready) Therefore, the marriage vow is a vow with God, as well as between spouses.
    53. "Families that pray together stay together." Daily prayer together with your spouse is the single most helpful thing to bring your hearts together, and to bless your marriage.
    54. It has been said "The practice of family worship has done more for comprehensive Reformation than any other means available to man."
    55. The sexual revolution is a revolution against God. (Exodus 20:3,4,14,17)
    56. Marriage is a type of Christ's relationship to The Church. [Ephesians 5:21,22,25] The "Book of Canticles [Song of Solomon], which is the Holy of holies of the Scriptures, standing like the tree of life in the midst of the garden of inspiration. The song is highly allegorical, and describes Christ and his church as a bride and bridegroom who sing to each other and of each other." (Song of Solomon 2) Spurgeon's Devotional Bible, p. 310)
    57. In scripture we see an allegory drawn between sexual sin and apostasy, disloyalty to one's religion. Whoredom and idolatry are similar type transgressions. See the First Commandment (Exodus 20:3), the Seventh Commandment (Exodus 20:14), the Tenth Commandment (Exodus 20:17) and Christ's Summation of the Law (Matthew 22:38-40), Hosea, Ezekiel, Jeremiah. For example, we have:
    58. See the chart, Israel's Apostasy and Hosea's Marriage at Hosea 3:1, page 1364 in The Reformation Study Bible.
      "The stages of Israel's relationship with God are depicted in the prophecies of Jeremiah and Ezekiel, as well as in Hosea's relationship with Gomer."
    59. The family is one of only three divinely ordained institutions. The Church and the State are the other two.
    60. A Christian family is both a church within the church and a mission outreach in nucleus form. (Joshua 24:14,15) Parents and children model the Christian life and introduce others to Christ.
    61. God uses a Christian family to model Christ's victory over evil (John 1:29). Christian families stand as a witness to a lost and dying world (Romans 6:23) of the salvation and hope that we all have in Christ Jesus.
    62. A Christian family, with both the husband and wife in Christ, is a witness to the blessings of the True and Living God upon his people. (Psalms 127:1a; Proverbs 31:30b) It is a Lighthouse from which the message of the Gospel goes forth into society. The Christian Family shows society that Jesus is "the way, the truth, and the life," salvation, the means of Grace, the everlasting righteousness, forgiveness, justification, sanctification, and finally glorification in the life to come.
    63. This witness spreads from generation to generation as descendants establish Christian families. This is the glorious result of putting "Jesus First" in sexual relationship.
    64. Strong family ties strengthen children and enable them to be successful in society. Christian parents nurture, encourage, and teach children how to lead a Christian life. These blessings strengthen children spiritually and emotionally and enables them to, in turn, raise successful Christian families in the next generation. Consider, for example, the families of Jonathan Edwards (his descendants include a number of prominent individuals), Thomas and Margaret Craighead (Craighead, James Geddes The Craighead Family: A Genealogical Memoir of the Descendants of Rev. Thomas and Margaret Craighead, 1658-1876, Billy Graham (Billy and Ruth Graham have five children, 19 grandchildren, and 30-some great-grandchildren, 2007), Jerry Falwell, and Elsie Dinsmore, a fictional character (see the "Elsie Books" by Martha Finley), and other lesser known Christian families who daily cast light into a lost and dying world, and whose descendants include pastors, missionaries, Christian workers, educators, and professionals.
    65. The man is the spiritual leader of the family. He is responsible for discipline and protection of his family. He must have spiritual wisdom, he must be authoritative, he must be a disciplinarian. He must be strong and firm, if God is to be in control of his family, if his spouse and children are to be in the love of God. (Ephesians 5:21,22,25)
    66. As spiritual head of the family the man's role and responsibility is to protect his family, church, and society, from evil. That responsibility included protecting them from false doctrine and false teaching. (2 Corinthians 10:5; Jude 1:3)
    67. When we truly love another, then we completely lose control of them. (John 8:36)
    68. Only if a wife is in Christ will she submit to God's will in the marriage, and to the godly leadership of a husband who is in Christ. (Ephesians 5:21,22,25)
    69. Because the male is spiritual head of the family and is responsible for its success he must have the final say about who he will have as his wife.
    70. It should be kept in mind that "spiritual unity [the unity between persons having the same objective faith in the Gospel] is much more intimate than physical unity can be [it can be argued that spiritual unity transcends geographical distance and transcends temporal time to eternity. Therefore, a Christian funeral, while bittersweet, is also a great celebration. The spirit may have left the body, but there is a love among believers that transcends space and temporal time into eternity], and that such physical analogies of spiritual unity as the Lord's Supper and marriage, rather than exaggerating the intimacy of spiritual unity, do not even approach it." -- John W. Robbins commenting on Philemon 4-7 in Slavery Christianity
    71. When both spouses are in Christ, then there is a oneness in body, soul, heart, mind, and spirit that is a type of God's love for us in Christ, the sweetest thing this side of heaven.
    72. It follows logically then that God's purpose in marriage is spiritual unity. That unity is only attainable when both husband and wife share an objective faith in the Gospel. This is the unity that enables Christian families to minister to the world from generation to generation. It culminates in The Great Reunion of the elect with Christ in Paradise.
    73. God's promises to married persons deepens their love for each other.
    74. The only way for man, wife, children, and society to live together happily is to pursue holiness through Christ Jesus. (Bonar, The Everlasting Righteousness, Marshall, The Gospel Mystery of Sanctification)
    75. One sign of true love is that you would never even think of harming the object of your love. One is able to overlook and tolerate weaknesses and imperfections. That is a type of Christ's love for the Church. (1 John 3:16; 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a; Ephesians 5:21,22,25)
    76. Any man and woman who are in Christ can be successfully married if they agree to solve all their problems biblically. (Ephesians 5:21,22,25)
    77. It is the doctrine of Justification that enables a married couples to overcome problems and to build strong Christian families. Forgiveness, Justification, Sanctification, and final Glorification in heaven all come together. (see Forgiveness, Justification, Justifying faith, Sanctification, and Glorification.)
    78. Surveys have proven the sexual relationship of Christians is the most fulfilling of any members of society. A Redbook magazine survey concerning sex in modern "liberated" America conducted in 1977, in which 100,000 women responded, found that the most religious category of women were the most orgasmic women in the country. (Susan Sadd and Carol Tavris, The Redbook Report on Female Sexuality [New York, NY: Delacorte, 1977], pp. 97-106)
    79. It is an awesome thought that not only did God create man and women -- the human body in its immense complexity, but he created us with the ability to reproduce another life.
    80. The true love and oneness of husband and wife may bring another soul into the world. A soul is the most precious thing in the world (Luke 15:10; Mark 8:36) and there is great joy when a child is born.
    81. In conclusion it may be said that marriage can be either the very best of relationship, or the very worst of relationship, depending upon whether or not Christ is the third party in the marriage. (Psalms 67:1,2; Psalms 127:1a; Proverbs 31:30b; Hosea 4:6-11)
    82. Therefore, it is concluded that, in sexual relationship, in marriage, and in family, as well as in all of life, the prescription for success and fulfillment is "Jesus First."

    Dedicated to Jerry Falwell (August 11, 1933 -- May 15, 2007, "Jesus First"), who was lead to confront society with the problems of pornography, abortion, and homosexuality.

    *Christenson, Larry and Cheri Bladholm, The Wonderful Way That Babies Are Made (Minneapolis, MN: Bethany House Publishers). 40245
    "Here is a book that will help you teach your children about families, babies, and sexual intimacy. It is designed as a tool for parents to use in passing on to their children an attitude of joy and wonder at God's gift of life and sexuality. The information in this book is set against the backdrop of creation, so that from the very beginning a child's understanding of sex will be linked with faith, with belief in God." -- Publisher's Annotation

    Defoe, Daniel, Conjugal Lewdness, or Matrimonial Whoredom

    *Harris, Joshua, and Shannon Harris, Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtship
    "Joshua Harris follows up his bestselling I KISSED DATING GOODBYE with BOY MEETS GIRL, the story of how he met and married his wife, Shannon. Where Harris's first book encouraged readers to throw off modern ideas of romantic fixation, BOY MEETS GIRL goes to the next level and urges single Christian men and women to pursue courtship, and ultimately marriage, thoughtfully and prayerfully. Knowing that many readers will balk at the idea of premeditated courtship, Harris insists that dating should not be emotional recreation but rather a careful decision rooted in obedience to God. While the anecdotes used to reveal true-to-life scenarios about dating pitfalls are somewhat elementary (and geared to those in their 20s), Harris succeeds in hammering home the point that obedience to God's word, selfless love, community, purity, and satisfaction in God are the most important aspect of any relationship. The last section of the book is particularly practical, discussing forgiveness of past sexual sin, questions to ask before tying the knot, and how an understanding of our sinful nature can lead to conflict resolution. For Harris's mere twentysomething years of life experience, his maturity and devotion to God are sincere evidence that he has indeed practiced what he has preached, resulting in a passionate relationship with the love of his life." -- Jill Heatherly

    *Harris, Joshua, and Rebecca St. James I Kissed Dating Goodbye
    "Offering a new approach to dating relationships, calling young adults away from playing the dating game and revealing how they can live a lifestyle of sincere love, true purity, and purposeful singleness, this book will inspire teens and young adults to remap their romantic lives in the light of God's Word. It includes healthy challenges to today's cultural assumptions about relationships and provides solid, biblical alternatives to society's norm." -- Publisher's Annotation
    "Joshua Harris has a passion to glorify God through preaching and writing. He directs New Attitude Ministries and is in pastoral training at Covenant Life Church in Gaithersburg, Maryland. He is the author of the bestselling I KISSED DATING GOODBYE and is working on a follow-up book, BOY MEETS GIRL." -- Publisher's Annotation

    Hyde, Margaret O., VD: The Silent Epidemic

    Marshner, Connaught Coyne, Decent Exposure: How to Teach Your Children About Sex (Brentwood, TN: Wolgemuth and Hyatt Publishers). 40105
    "The key to teaching sexual responsibility is teaching . . . self control. And that teaching process starts the day your child comes home from the hospital." -- Publisher's Annotation

    Macaulay, Susan, Something Beautiful From God (Wheaton, IL: Good News Publishers [Crossway Books], 1980). 40133
    "Just about the finest book we have for a parent to read to a child (or self-read on 4th grade and above level) concerning the wonder and beauty of birth and babies . . . accurate information . . . sound theology. Highly recommended!" -- GCB

    Mayo, Mary Ann, A Christian Guide to Sexual Counseling: Recovering the Mystery and the Reality of "One Flesh" (Grand Rapids, MI: Ministry Resources Library, c1987). 40195
    "A book to equip pastors and counselors for the task of helping couples understand and deal with sexual problems in a marriage." Includes bibliography.

    Mayo, Mary Ann, and Joseph L. Mayo, The Menopause Manager: A Safe Path for a Natural Change
    "Over the past three years, I have accumulated a small library of books on menopause, looking for answers to my many questions. This is the best of my collection. It's well researched, well written, and well indexed. Technical information is presented very clearly. The notes contain full bibliographical information for those who want to read the journals. All approaches to menopause - life style, dietary, herbal, botanical, HRT - are considered in detail, but no particular program is pushed. The authors' respect for their readers is evident throughout the book. It's a pleasure to recommend it to anyone needing information on this phase of life." -- Reader Comment

    Mayo, Mary Ann, Parent's Guide to Sex Education (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House [Pyranee Books] 1986). 40248
    "Traces the growth of a child's sexual identity. Explains in wholesome terms how parents may keep pace with their child's growing sexual awareness. Provides a competent and complete guide that should be `must' reading in every home. Recommended." -- Cyril J. Barber

    Mayo, Mary Ann, and Joseph L. Mayo, The Sexual Woman (Eugene, OR: Harvest House Publishers, 1987). 40246
    "Written to help Christian women understand their emotional and sexual makeup. . . . The authors succeed in demystifying the functioning of the human body and seek to elevate sex to the position God intended. A welcome treatise. Counselor should read it carefully. It should be in every church library." -- Cyril J. Barber

    *Reisman, Judith A., Eunice V. Ray (editor), and Alfred Moreschi (illustrator) Kinsey: Crimes and Consequences the Red Queen and the Grand Scheme (Institute for Media Education).
    "I found Dr. Reisman's book very informative and extremely well researched. It literally is a reference book on a scandal that was perpetrated on the American people with the help of foundations and the media. My biggest question throughout the book was why this information has not come to light before now and why something has not been done. When I read a book of this type I immediately go to the bibliography, for therein lies the veracity of the author. This book is meticulously researched. I highly recommend the book not for the subject matter, which is disturbing, but for the information that is available. It answers many questions about the declining state of our society." -- Reader Comment
    "Dr. Reisman gives evidence that Alfred Kinsey may have been directly involved in child sex abuse (for his `research'), and she shows that he did work closely with pedophiles, even hiding the identity of a child murderer in a police investigation. Kinsey and his atheistic, misogynist, anti-child philosophy gave credibility to an entire industry of `sexology' and sex research, not to mention the multi-billion dollar pornography industry. Hugh Hefner, founder of Playboy, credits Kinsey with opening his eyes to the joys of sex (without morality). Fifty years later, our poor children are reaping the fruits of the horrible seeds sown by Alfred Kinsey and his team of sex abusers." -- Reader Comment

    *Reisman, Judith A., Soft Porn Plays Hardball (Lafayette, LA: Huntington House). 40119
    "Reisman demonstrates the tragic effects of `soft porn' on women, children, and the family." -- GCB

    Storey, Duane, Sandy Kulkin, Mary Ann Mayo, Mayo Kulkin, Body and Soul: A Married Couple's Guide to Discovering and Understanding Our Unique Sexual Personalities
    "Combing helpful self-tests with seasoned counsel, the authors show how you and your partner can develop a relationship that is deeply fulfilling--both physically and emotionally with Body and Soul." -- Publisher's Annotation

    Terkelsen, Helen E., I'm Going to Have a Baby and I'm Not Married 40223

    See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Abuse, Rape, Incest (all in chapters 4 and 2 [part 2])

    Related WebLinks

    Five-Year Arrest Trends, All Women, 1995-1999 (6,622 agencies)
    Percentage increases in arrests of all women, select crimes. (Women under 18 only indicated by "under 18")
    1. Aggravated assault, +6.0
    2. Violent crime, +2.3
    3. Other assaults, +12.0
    4. Fraud Embezzlement, +39.7, +74.6 (under 18)
    5. Prostitution and commercialized vice, +8.4 (under 18)
    6. Sex offenses (except forcible rape and prostitution), +34.7 (under 18)
    7. Drug abuse violations, +11.4, +12.3 (under 18)
    8. Gambling, +20.1
    9. Offenses against the family and children, +7.9, +16.6 (under 18)
    10. Driving under the influence, +11.3, +48.1 (under 18)
    11. Liquor laws, +44.4, +42.3 (under 18)
    12. Drunkenness, +14.6 (under 18)
    13. Disorderly conduct, +17.0 (under 18)
    14. All other offenses (except traffic), +19.4, +20.2 (under 18)
    15. Suspicion, +18.8
    16. Curfew and loitering law violations, +13.6, +13.6 (under 18)
    http://www.fbi.gov/ucr/Cius_99/99crime/99c4_04.pdf



    Being Single (Women)

    Andrews, Gini, Your Half of the Apple: God and the Single Girl (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House, 1972). 40038
    "A realistic treatment of the problems as well as the opportunities facing single people in a couple's world. Insightful." -- Cyril J. Barber

    *Baker, Yvonne G., Successfully Single (Denver, CO: Accent Books, 1985).
    "Another classic -- restated in modern English -- but retaining its verve and value for contemporary Christians." -- Cyril J. Barber

    Caldwell, Genevieve, First Person, Singular (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishers, 1987). 40040
    "She [the author] sees Christian single women shortchanging themselves and encourages them to shake off the shroud of passivity and actively build new, meaningful relationships." -- Cyril J. Barber

    Clarkson, Margaret, So You're Single! (Wheaton, IL: Harold Shaw Publishers, 1978). 40041
    "One of the best works on the subject of aloneness. Deserves widespread circulation."-- Cyril J. Barber

    *James, John Angell, Female Piety or the Young Woman's Friend and Guide Through Life to Immortality (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications).

    *Whitefield, George, Christ the Best Husband: Or an Earnest Invitation to Young Women to Come and See Christ. (Preached to a Society of Young Women, in Fetter-Lane.)
    http://www.jesus-is-lord.com/whitefie.htm

    See also: The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Courtship, Womanhood, Sex (women), Abuse, Rape, Incest (all in chapters 4 and 2 [part 2])

    Related WebLinks

    True Love Waits
    http://www.truelovewaits.com/

    Sex Respect
    http://www.sexrespect.com/default2.html

    virtuoursreality.com, A Website for All Women
    http://www.virtuousreality.com/

    ussearch.com
    Sex offender search, State criminal search, Department of Corrections search
    http://www.ussearch.com/



    Widowhood

    James, John Angell, The Widow Directed to the Widow's God
    "In this book, James directs widows to take their sufferings to God for relief. He tenderly shows that the widow `needs a special message of comfort from her Lord.' There are practical suggestions and helps for widows, Scriptural examples of widows, letters from widows, and letters to widows." -- Publisher's Annotation

    See also: The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship



    Works by Martha Finley

    The Elsie Books 28 book set, in its original, unmodernized text, models the Christain family better probably than any other fiction. Likewise, the example of Elsie's life is one of the best models for Christian girls.
    Notice the original text of this series is becoming available free in Project Gutenberg etext. We have added links to the etext as of May 2007.

    Aprile, Elizabeth The Elsie Coloring Book (Plano, TX [Utmost Enterprises, PO Box 940205, Plano, 75094-0205]: Utmost Enterprises).
    "This coloring book is hand drawn and handmade, one-of-a-kind. This first edition has 40 pages of pictures showing character in the way that only Elsie can."

    Aprile Family, The Character of Elsie Dinsmore (Plano, TX [Utmost Enterprises, PO Box 940205, Plano, 75094-0205]: Utmost Enterprises).
    An e-text book on CD-ROM.
    "This book was written by members of the Aprile family who desire, as did Elsie, to follow the Godly character traits, exemplified by Jesus Christ, in their everyday walk. . . . In this book, we have attempted to show, through Elsie's eyes, how a person, whose will is to follow the Lord, is able to take up the cross and follow Him. "You will find that this book is good for instruction and illustration in the teaching of thirty-eight Character Traits to your children. This book can serve as a supplement to your current curriculum or some creative people might find ways to use it as a curriculum itself." -- The Aprile Family
    The Character of Elsie Dinsmore (excerpts)
    http://www.utmost-way.com/tcoed.htm

    *Finley, Martha, Anna Hand, the Meddlesome Girl (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1868).

    *Finley, Martha, Annandale: A Story of the Times of the Covenanters (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1858).

    *Finley, Martha, Aunt Hetty's Fowls or, Harry at the Farm (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1876).

    *Finley, Martha, Aunt Ruth, or, Persecuted not Forsaken (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1857).

    *Finley, Martha, The Broken Basket (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1870).

    *Finley, Martha, Brookside Farm-house: From January to December: For the Little Folks (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1865).

    *Finley, Martha, Clouds and Sunshine, or, The Faith Brightened Pathway (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1859).

    *Finley, Martha, Ella Clinton, or, By Their Fruits Ye Shall Know Them (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1856).

    *Finley, Martha, Little Patience (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1868).

    *Finley, Martha, Marion Harvie, a Tale of Persecution in the Seventeenth Century (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1857).

    *Finley, Martha, Maud's two Homes (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1868).

    *Finley, Martha, The Peddler of La Grave (Philadelphia, PA: Presbyterian Board of Publication, 1875).

    *Finley, Martha [aka Martha Farquharson] (1828-1909), The Elsie Books, 28 book set (Nashville, TN: Cumberland House Publishers).

    *** New sets of the above are now available in the book trade (July 2003). Cumberland House has reprinted the originals in soft cover. These are not abridged or modernized. Steet price for the entire set is $120, individual books, $4.50. See:
    Elsie Dinsmore Books
    http://www.lvbaptist.org/Merchant2/merchant.mv?Screen=CTGY&Store_Code=BHCP&Category_Code=ED,
    and Christian Book Distributors, Christianbook.com ***

    *Finley, Martha [aka Martha Farquharson] (1828-1909), The Elsie Books, 4 book set (Books 1-4) (Elkton, MD: Holly Halls Publications, 1998).
    "Originally written in the late 1800's for girls and young women, the Elsie Dinsmore books were bestsellers for over thirty years. When we are introduced to Elsie in the first book she is a sweet and humble eight-year-old whose great desire in life is to be reunited with her father, whom she has never met. Her faith and her obedience to God's commandments uphold her in the great troubles she often faces, and the drama to which we are spectators is as timely for today's girls as it was for the young ladies of the 19th century. A new edition of one of GCB's best sellers, the series offers Christian values and character building examples through stories that are compelling, heartwarming, and enduring. Ages 10 and up." -- GCB
    "The Elsie Books -- 28 in all -- are some of the most widely read children's stories ever written. When they first came out more than a hundred years ago, the publisher could scarcely keep them in stock. . ." -- Publisher's Annotation
    "Altogether Miss Finley's novels sold more than 28,000,000 copies in the last century. This made them among the best- selling novels of all time. . ." -- Jay P. Green, Sr.

    Book 1: Elsie Dinsmore
    "Set amid the sweet blossoms of a southern mansion, this timeless classic delves into the heart of Elsie -- by all counts, an extraordinary little girl. Share in Elsie's quest for love from her earthly father as it leads to a mature understanding of the love of her Father in Heaven. Join Elsie as she suffers through endless hours of scrutiny from Miss Day, her mean-spirited school teacher, taunting from her mischievous young Uncle Arthur, and scoldings from a cold-hearted father she so desires to please -- all with the peace and quiet countenance that comes from knowing she is God's child. This, the first of the heart-warming Elsie Books, will both challenge and inspire you." -- Publisher's Annotation
    Elsie Dinsmore: Book 1 Martha Finley
    http://www.hshangout.com/elsie.html
    Elsie Dinsmore (Gutenberg text)
    http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=6440

    Book 2: Elsie's Holidays at Roselands
    "When Elsie's father becomes ill, she takes on the job of nurse-companion, and all goes well until Elsie, because it is the Sabbath, as a matter of conscience refuses to read to him from a secular book. The battle of wills that ensues nearly causes first her father's death, and then Elsie's. Lonely Elsie -- punished, ostracized, and then abandoned by her father -- turns to her heavenly Father for comfort and assurance. Will her father realize that Elsie's obedience to God must be paramount, and submit himself to the same Divine Authority?" -- Publisher's Annotation
    Holidays at Roselands (Gutenberg text)
    http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14280

    Book 3: Elsie's Girlhood
    "Elsie's father marries her beloved Miss Rose, and after a time, Elsie acquires a younger brother and sister. Growing into a beautiful young lady who adores her father and accords him unquestioning obedience, Elsie falls in love with Bromly Egerton, a man who turns out to be a deceiving, gambling reprobate. Heartbroken, the loss affects her health as well as her spirit, and the Dinsmores decide that a sojourn in Europe is the solution. An unexpected encounter in Naples sets the stage for a romance that surprises almost everyone." -- Publisher's Annotation
    Elsie's Girlhood (Gutenberg text)
    http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=9963

    Book 4: Elsie's Womanhood
    "As Elsie and her father prepare for her marriage to John Travilla, Elsie moves to Viamede, her mother's childhood home in Louisiana. Overseeing the plantation, Elsie observes the treatment of the slaves and strives to bring them into an awareness of God's love for them. As Mr. and Mrs. Travilla start their life together, Elsie's old boyfriend tries to bring it all to a tragic end. In a fit of jealous rage, he unsuccessfully attempts to shoot the newly married couple. Happy with her life with her new husband, Elsie experiences the wonderful joys of motherhood. Join Elsie as she moves into a wonderful and exciting new phase of her life." -- Publisher's Annotation
    Elsie's Womanhood (Gutenberg text)
    http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14874

    Book 5: Elsie's Motherhood
    Elsie's Motherhood (Gutenberg text)
    http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14566

    Book 6: Elsie's Children
    Elsie's Children (Gutenberg text)
    http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14875

    Book 7: Elsie's Widowhood

    Book 8: Grandmother Elsie
    Grandmother Elsie (Gutenberg text)
    http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14883

    Book 9: Elsie's New Relations
    Elsie's New Relations: What They Did and How They Fared at Ion (Gutenberg text)
    http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14909

    Book 10: Elsie at Nantucket
    Elsie at Nantucket (Gutenberg text)
    http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14379

    Book 11: The Two Elsies (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).
    The Two Elsies (Gutenberg text)
    http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=13379

    Book 12: Kith and Kin
    Elsie's Kith and Kin (Gutenberg text)
    http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14488

    Book 13: Elsie's Friends at Woodburn (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

    Book 14: Elsie's Christmas (Christmas With Grandma Elsie) (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).
    Christmas With Grandma Elsie (Gutenberg text)
    http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14534

    Book 15: Elsie and the Raymonds (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

    Book 16: Yachting With the Raymonds (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

    Book 17: Elsie's Vacation (and After Events) (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).
    Elsie's Vacation and After Events (Gutenberg text)
    http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=18058

    Book 18: Elsie at Viamede (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

    Book 19: Elsie at Ion (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

    Book 20: Elsie at the World's Fair (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).
    Elsie at the World's Fair (Gutenberg text)
    http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14910

    Book 21: Elsie's Journey on Inland Waters (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

    Book 22: Elsie at Home (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).
    Elsie at Home (Gutenberg text)
    http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=17496

    Book 23: Elsie on the Hudson (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

    Book 24: Elsie in the South (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

    Book 25: Elsie's Young Folks (in Peace and War) (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

    Book 26: Elsie's Winter Trip (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

    Book 27: Elsie and Her Loved Ones (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

    Book 28: Elsie and Her Namesakes (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

    *Finley, Martha [aka Martha Farquharson] (1828-1909), The Mildred Series: A Companion Series of the "Elsie" Books (New York, NY: A.L. Burt Company, 1876).

    Book 1: Mildred Keith (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

    Book 2: Mildred at Roselands (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

    Book 3: Mildred and Elsie (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

    Book 4: Mildred's Married Life and a Winter With Elsie Dinsmore (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

    Book 5: Mildred at Home (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

    Book 6: Mildred's Boys and Girls (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

    Book 7: Mildred's New Daughter (Bulverde, TX: Mantle Ministries).

    Related WebLinks

    Elsie Book Reviews
    http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Park/8756/Elsie/elsiebooks.html

    Who Is Elsie Dinsmore? By Sarah Elisabeth Bereza
    http://www.elsiedinsmore.com/whoisElsie.html

    Elsie Dinsmore, by Marth Finley on Audio Cassette
    http://honeycomb.safeshopper.com/30/409.htm?103

    The Dinsmore Family Tree by Sarah Elisabeth Bereza
    http://www.elsiedinsmore.com/familyTree.html

    The Dinsmore Doll Collection
    http://www.elsiedinsmore.com/

    Who Is Mildred Keith? by Sarah Elisabeth Bereza
    http://www.elsiedinsmore.com/whoisMildred.html



    Biography of Christian Women

    *ANDERSON, JAMES, Ladies of the Covenant, 1851. (Cerlox Bound Photocopy Series. Edmonton, AB, Canada: Still Waters Revival Books). Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #10, ISBN: 0921148852 9780921148852.
    "Memoirs of distinguished Scottish female characters, embracing the period of the covenant and the persecution. The introduction notes the importance of the lives of these courageous women, when it states: `They have especially by the magnanimity with which they suffered in the cause of truth, emphatically taught us the important principle that we are in all things and at all times to do what is right; and as to the disapprobation, opposition, and persecution of men, in whatever way manifested, or to whatever extent, we are to let that take its chance, a principle, the importance of which it is difficult to over-estimate; which lies at the foundation of all that is great and good in character; which has enabled the greatest and the best men, by the blessing of God, to achieve the great purposes they have formed for advancing the highest interests of mankind, and upon which it is necessary for the good soldier of Christ to act in every age, in an age in which the church enjoys tranquillity, as well as when she suffers persecution.' Samuel Rutherford's (and others) correspondence with these exceptional Christian women is noted throughout. 494 pages of soul-stirring history!" -- SWRB

    *Bainton, Roland H., Women of the Reformation in Germany and Italy (Minneapolis, MN: Augsburg Publishing House, 1971). 40288
    "These frequently neglected women were faithful to their commitments and often displayed courage equal to that of the Reformers themselves." -- Cyril J. Barber

    Crosby, Fanny, An Autobiography (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Book House). 40290

    Dodds, Elizabeth D., Marriage to a Difficult Man (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1971). 40293
    About Sarah Perrepont's marriage to Jonathan Edwards and the raising of their 11 children.

    Houghton, Frank, Amy Carmichael of Dohnavur [100032A]
    "Amy Carmichael left the British Isles to be a missionary in India. She never came home. Dohnavur became her home and the people of India became her people. Her quiet life of service (for many years an invalid) still shines brightly. I can say that this book about Amy Carmichael changed my life.
    "I highly recommend it as well as other books by her and about her." -- Reader Comment

    *Kuyper, Abraham, Women of the New Testament (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House). 40289
    "There are thirty devotional messages, each one on a different woman mentioned in the Scriptures. Kuyper was first a theologian, and then prime minister of Holland, and with this broad experience in both Biblical lore, and in the world of people, he brings inspiring messages for the women of our day. They could be used for personal devotions, or for group study. It is an enduring book worth the price." -- Jay P. Green, Sr.

    *Kuyper, Abraham, Women of the Old Testament
    "Fifty character studies with study questions." -- Publisher's Annotation

    *The Life and Times of Selina, Countess of Huntingdon, 2 volumes (Harrisonburg, VA [Sprinkle Publications, P.O. Box 1094, Harrisonburg, 22803]: Sprinkle Publications).
    "Accounts of the Great Awakening and its men: Whitefield, Wesley, Howell Harris, etc. Shows the influence of the Countess, a friend of revival and revivalists." -- Lloyd T. Sprinkle

    Skoglund, Elizabeth R., Amma: The Life and Words of Amy Carmichael
    "The books and poems of Amy Carmichael have been a great inspiration to me through the years. . . . However, I never fully appreciated the person behind these profound and incisive thoughts until I read Elizabeth Skoglunds remarkable book AMMA: THE LIFE AND WORDS OF AMY CARMICHAEL. The author, an outstanding counselor and distinguished writer, presses her own sensitive and responsive heart next to Amys, and the result is a book dealing with the crucial issues of life today. You will meet the real Amy Carmichael and her words will give you courage and strength in suffering, pain, discouragement, spiritual burn-out, and most important of all, in how to maintain a vital trust relationship with the Lord as you live and work for Him by His power. This book will move you deeply. You will keep it close at hand and reread it often. Its crammed full of authentic hope, true comfort, and powerful inspiration." -- Reader Comment

    Tucker, Ruth A., and Walter Liefeld, Daughters of the Church: Women and Ministry From New Testament Times to the Present (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House). 40298
    "Rich in historical events and colorfully written, this fascinating account of women in the church spans nearly two thousand years of church history. It tells of events and aspirations, determination and disappointment, patience and achievement that mark the history of daughters of the church from the time of Jesus to the present. The authors have endeavored to present an objective story. The very fact that readers may find themselves surprised now and again by the prominent role of women in certain events and movements proves an inequality that historical narrative has often been guilty of. This is a book about women. It is a setting straight off the record -- a restoring of balance to history that has repeatedly played down the significance of the contributions of women to the theology, the witness, the movements, and the growth of the church. An exegetical study of relevant Scripture passages offers stimulating thought for discussion and for serious reevaluation of historical givens. This volume is enriched by pictures, appendixes, bibliography, and indexes. Like many of the women whose stories it tells, this book has a subdued strength that should not be underestimated." -- Publisher's Annotation

    Vandervelde, Frances, Women of the Bible (Grand Rapids, MI: Kregel Publications, 1985). 40299

    See also: Works of martha finley



    Other Works by Women

    *Baker, Sylvia, Evolution: Bone of Contention [90632]
    "The reason young people most often give for disbelieving the Bible is that it has been disproven in the first chapter . . ." -- D. James Kennedy

    Christenson, Evelyn, Battling the Prince of Darkness: Rescuing Captives From Satan's Kingdom (Wheaton, IL: Victor Books, c1990). 40171
    "When you study Evelyn Christenson's new book you'll learn about the recent explosion of Satanic activity--and about the Prince of the Kingdom of Darkness. But this book isn't just about problems; it's about the one and only solution--Jesus Christ. And it's about evangelism--the very best strategy for defeating Satan." -- Publisher's Annotation. A leader's guide is available. Ideal for group study.

    *Himmelfarb, Gertrude, Lord Acton: A Study in Conscience and Politics (Chicago, IL: The University of Chicago Press, 1952).
    A scholarly work on the politics of the Reformation and Counter Reformation. Includes bibliography and index.
    It was Acton who stated:

    Power tends to corrupt and absolute power corrupts absolutely. Great men are almost always bad men, even when they exercise influence and not authority: still more when you superadd the tendency or the certainty of corruption by authority. -- John Emerich Edward Dalberg, Lord Acton (1834-1902) in a letter to Mandell Creighton, April 5, 1887 quoted by Gertrude Himmelfarb in Acton, Essays on Freedom and Power, pp. 335-36 (1972)
    See also: ESSAYS ON FREEDOM AND POWER, HISTORY OF FREEDOM AND OTHER ESSAYS, LECTURES ON THE FRENCH REVOLUTION, Cambridge University Library, ACTON COLLECTION, THE CORRESPONDENCE OF LORD ACTON AND RICHARD SIMPSON, and Schuettinger, LORD ACTON: HISTORIAN OF LIBERTY

    Huck, Susan, Legal Terrorism: The Truth About the Christic Institute (Alexandria, VA: New World Publishing Limited, 1989). 40311
    "Legal terrorism is defined by the author as `a form of political warfare by the use of the law through the courts.' Its methodology is to discredit by politically motivated civil suits."

    *Kuenning, Delores A. Life After Vietnam: How Veterans and Their Loved Ones Heal the Psychological Wounds of War

    Lawhead, Alice, and Steve Lawhead, The Total Guide to College Life [70495]
    "THE TOTAL GUIDE TO COLLEGE LIFE should be required reading for all who are entering college. Much of the advice is applicable for those attending trade schools or technical institutes. The approach is no-nonsense and interesting. The book includes information on how to create part time employment, how to get into and out of classes, a crash course on time management, and a roommate survival course." -- Reader Comment

    LeSourd, Sandra Simpson, The Compulsive Woman (Old Tappan, NJ: Fleming H. Revell, 1987). 40192
    "Mrs. LeSourd avoids psychologizing and instead gets down to specifics: obsessions with work, religion, sex, alcohol, and/or drugs, eating, gambling, and so forth.. . . ." -- Cyril J. Barber

    Motter, Shirley, Louis M. Linde, The Sleep Book (Harper & Row Pub., 1974).

    Pride, Mary, Baby Doe

    Schaeffer, Edith, Forever Music (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishers, 1986). 10647
    A beautiful and unique tribute to music that stands apart by itself. It seems significant both to musicians and to those who count music appreciation as an important part of their lives.

    Stormie Omartian, Stormie
    "What a wonderful book to read for anyone who has lived with mental illness themselves or was a member of a family with a parent that suffered from mental illness. It shows how one woman, having grown up in a two-parent household, had an absolutely horrific childhood. Her mother locked her in a closet for hours on end and continually verbally abused her as well. As she reaches adulthood, knowing how to relate to others is tough and causes much anxiety and pain. Through much error and wrong choices during her young adult years, she meets a man who tries to tell her about the love Jesus has for her. Not really understanding what it is all about, Stormie continues down the wrong path until one day she truly opens her heart up to God! Through reading this book, one is able to gain knowledge about people with mental illness as well as learn how to experience the love and forgiveness of God." -- Reader Comment

    Stratford, Lauren, and Johanna Michaelson, Satans Underground: The Extraordinary Story of One Woman's Escape (Gretna, LA: Pelican Publishing Company, Incorporated). D1029
    Foreword by Johanna Michaelsen.
    "Readers from coast to coast will be shocked and distrubed by the story told here. But most of all, they will come to care deeply for the many thousands of innocent children who are faced with unspeakable horros at the hands of modern day satanists." -- Reader Comment

    See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Book length presentations of the free offer of Gospel message of salvation and the life to come: the means of grace



    Chapter 4 Related WebLinks

    The Blood of the Lamb, the Conquering Weapon
    A sermon by C.H. Spurgeon delivered on Lord's-day morning, September 9, 1888, at the Metropolitan Tabernacle, Newington, Sermon no. 2043.
    http://www.mountzion.org/fgb/Summer97/FgbS6-97.html

    A Sermon of John Calvin, Upon the first Epistle of Paul to Timothy, published for the benefit and edifying of the Church of God. Translated out of French into English by L.T. at London, Imprinted for G. Bishop and T. Woodcoke, 1579.
    Calvin on the true calling of women.
    http://truecovenanter.com/calvin/calvin_19_on_Timothy.html

    Chapter 2 (part 2): "Biblical Counsel"
    http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr2chb.html

    Books Considered To Be Among the Ten Greatest in the English Language
    http://www.lettermen2.com/tengreat.html

    Ruth Bell Graham Memorial Site
    http://bgea.org/rbg_default.asp

    Ruth Bell Graham a Lifetime Pilgrimage
    http://www.citizen-times.com/apps/pbcs.dll/section?Category=BILLYGRAHAM02

    How to Find a Book
    http://www.lettermen2.com/findbook.html

    Reformed Publishers and Booksellers Online
    http://www.lettermen2.com/refpub.html

    Chapter 7 (part 1): "Family Life, Education, Church and Work"
    http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr7cha.html
    Chapter 7 (part 2): "Family Life, Education, Church and Work"
    http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr7chb.html

    Mantle Ministries (Elsie Dinsmore and Mildred Series)
    http://www.mantlemin.com

    Sound Word Associates Library of Biblical Counselors (Westminster Media Tapes)
    http://www.soundword.com/ccon.html

    Nouthetic Counseling Home Page -- Competent to Counsel
    http://www.lifeisworship.com/nanc/index.htm
    The National Association of Nouthetic Counselors Tape Library (Westminster Media Tapes)
    http://www.kyrios.com/soundword/nanc.html
    National Association of Nouthetic Counselors (NANC)
    5526 State Road 26 East
    Lafayette, IN 47905

    Westminster Theological Seminary Bookstore (Westminster Media Tapes)
    http://www.wts.edu/bookstore/

    Christian Fiction in Chapter 11
    http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrrch11.html

    Reformed Women
    http://www.suite101.com/welcome.cfm/reformed_women

    ussearch.com
    Sex offender search, State criminal search, Department of Corrections search
    http://www.ussearch.com/


    Google Book Search



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