Chapter 7

Family Life, Education, Church, and Work

And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins. (1 Peter 4:8)
Give instruction to a youth about his way,
Even when he is old he turneth not from it. (Proverbs 22:6, YLTHB)
Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever. (1 John 2:15-17)
If your life would have guidance and strength to follow that guidance, then you will find that in the Word of God.
If you would have your marriage to be what it would be, what God would have it to be, then search the Scriptures daily.
If you would have your children to grow up and be anything but rebels, then teach them the Word of God.
If you would have financial success in business, then work and operate your business according to the Word of God. -- D. James Kennedy (1930-2007)

Contents: Chapter 7, "Family Life, Education, Church, and Work"

Singleness
Premarital Counsel
Marriage
Family Worship and Devotions
Personal and Family Finances, Family Businesses
Marital Counseling, Marriage Counseling
The Christian Home, Domestic Duties
Problem Solving in Marriage
Spouse an Unbeliever
Birth Control
Abortion and the Sanctity of Life
Post-abortion Counseling
Stillborn and Miscarriage
Infertility, Barrenness, Childlessness
Adoption of Children
Sexual Relationship
Sexual Wholeness
Counseling for Sex Related Problems, Illegitimacy
Gratuitous Sex, a Cause of Violence
Parenting
Fatherhood
Motherhood
Sharing Christ With Your Children
Filial Love (Love Toward Parents)
Teaching/Training Children
Counsel for Young Men
Counsel for Young Women
Disciplining Children
Problem Solving With Children
Counseling Children
Sex Ethics, Sex Education
Protecting Children From Dangers
Preparing Children for the World
Single Parenting
Christian Literature for Boys and Girls
Family
Counseling the Family
Family Management
Holidays
Christmas
Theater, Sports, and Entertainment
Teens
Teens and Parents
Counseling Teens
Courtship
Teens and Sex
Finding the Perfect Parent in God
Teens Coping With the World
Colonial Education
Education
Home Schooling
Public Schools, Public Education
DVD, Multimedia
Teaching/Training Children
The Local Church
Church History and the History of Local Churches
The Local Church and Counseling
Church Discipline
Small Groups and the Local Church
The Laity
Churches That Abuse
Church Leadership
Reform of the Church
Interpersonal Relations in the Local Church
The Church Universal, The Church Invisible
Resources for Students
Christianity in the Workplace
Leadership
The Military
Reconciliation of Marriage Partners
Avoiding Divorce
The Church and Divorce
Divorce
Children of Divorce
Rebuilding
Remarriage
Stepfamilies
Chapter 7 Related Weblinks

Combined Interactive Contents for The Web Edition of Biblical Counsel: Resources for Renewal
http://www.lettermen2.com/combtoc.html

Chapter 7
Family Life, Education, Church, and Work

Singleness

Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. (1 Corinthians 7:27)
Calvin's clarification of the inconsistency between Paul's recommendation of singleness in 1 Corinthians 7:1-2 and the words of the Lord in Genesis 2:18 may be found in his commentary on 1 Corinthians 7:1-2.
But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: but he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. (1 Corinthians 7:32,33)
Brethren, let every man, wherein he is called, therein abide with God. (1 Corinthians 7:24)
Paul's teaching on celibacy, virginity, singleness, marriage, and remarriage -- John Calvin commenting on 1 Corinthians 6:1-9 -- 1 Corinthians 7:40.
Godly and Ungodly Marriage
A life of misery is usually the lot of those who are united in marriage, or in any other way of their own choosing, with the men of the world.
But a very fruitful source of ruin to Church members is that of a young man or a young woman choosing an ungodly partner in life. They never can expect God's blessing upon it. They tell you sometimes they hope to be the means of their friends conversion. They have no right to hope such a thing; it so seldom occurs.
Those ill-assorted unions between believers and unbelievers rob our churches of more members than any other popular delinquency that I know of. Seldom, I might say almost never, do I meet with a woman professing godliness who becomes joined in wedlock to a man of the world but what she goes away. She ceases to follow Jesus, and we hear no more of her. Absorbed in the pursuits, the passions, and the pleasures of the life that now is, she is sucked under the stream and drawn into the vortex. In the romance of her courtship, she glibly said, "I shall win him;" but, in the reality of their conjugal bonds, he could coolly say, "I have won you."
If you want to wither your happiness for ever, you have only to go and be yoked with an unbeliever. I have known some Christian women who have forgotten the divine precept, and have been married to ungodly men; and I have seen godly men married to ungodly women; and mark this, my experience has not been very long, but it has been very wide. I never knew any good to come of it.
It can never conduce to the comfort of any Christian man or woman to be unequally yoked together with an unbeliever; you had far better remain in the cold of your bachelor or spinster life than warm your hands at the fire of an unhallowed marriage.
You do, in fact, give Christ up when you take that ungodly man, and you, young man, when you seek after that Christless woman; you deny your Lord and Master; so far as you can do it, you deny him, and give him up for the sake of earthly pleasures. -- C.H. Spurgeon (1834-1892), on 2 Corinthians 6:14
For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 22:30)
And Jesus said unto them, Verily I say unto you, That ye which have followed me, in the regeneration when the Son of man shall sit in the throne of his glory, ye also shall sit upon twelve thrones, judging the twelve tribes of Israel.
And every one that hath forsaken houses, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my name's sake, shall receive an hundredfold, and shall inherit everlasting life.
But many [that are] first shall be last; and the last [shall be] first. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 19:28-30)
And Jesus answering said unto them, The children of this world marry, and are given in marriage:
But they which shall be accounted worthy to obtain that world, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry, nor are given in marriage:
Neither can they die any more: for they are equal unto the angels; and are the children of God, being the children of the resurrection. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Luke 20:34-36)
And I will betroth thee unto me for ever; yea, I will betroth thee unto me in righteousness, and in judgment, and in loving kindness, and in mercies. I will even betroth thee unto me in faithfulness; and thou shalt know the Lord. (Hosea 2:19-20)
Betrothment unto the Lord! What an honor and a joy! My soul, is Jesus indeed thine by His own condescending betrothal? Then, mark it is forever. He will never break His engagement, much less sue out a divorce against a soul joined to Himself in marriage bonds.
Three times the Lord says, I will betroth thee. What words He heaps together to set forth the betrothal! Righteousness comes in to make the covenant legal; none can forbid these lawful bans. Judgment sanctions the alliance with its decree: none can see folly or error in the match. Lovingkindness warrants that this is a love union, for without love betrothal is bondage and not blessedness. Meanwhile, mercy smiles and even sings; yea, she multiplies herself into "mercies" because of the abounding grace of this holy union.
Faithfulness is the registrar and records the marriage, and the Holy Spirit says "Amen" to it as He promises to teach the betrothal heart all the sacred knowledge needful for its high destiny, What a promise! -- C.H. Spurgeon in Faith's Checkbook
Marriage is honorable in all. . . (Hebrews 13:4)
*Has Christianity Failed You? an interview of Ravi Zacharias with Danielle DuRant
"There are an awful lot of Christians walking around these days who are disappointed with their faith. They've been hurt by the church or other believers and it's affected their walk with God."
Includes rare, frank, and wise commentary on the institution of marriage.
"DD: You have spoken of this parenthesis, and you speak of three tensions in the book that leave many feeling that Christianity has failed them. One such tension is the longing for sexual fulfillment. You write, 'If marital consummation is an act of worship, and if the ultimate seduction is false worship, I would dare suggest that those who are longing for a relationship of touch and intimacy -- that lesser act of worship which is marriage -- seek the greater form of worship until the day they can legitimately participate in sexual love.' Why is the single person who is longing for marriage seen as not seeking this greater form of worship because they are also seeking the lesser form, when the married person has also longed for and is now even participating in this lesser form of worship?
"RZ: I think this must be viewed from at least three different lenses. The first lens is an understanding of what consummate relationships are and what they're not. I dare say that people who enjoy this intimacy sometimes fall into the trap of enjoying the feeling and ignoring the cost. I have met many women trapped in a wrong relationship who have told me, as crass as this may sound, that the men who seek them out are more often than not someone who has already experienced sex legitimately and then seeks for it in stolen waters. But I'll tell you, the moment the human body experiences this kind of relationship, the seduction is to have the experience without having to pay the cost. Yet it is the cost -- namely, commitment -- that actually preserves the emotional side of the relationship. If there is no commitment, the feeling is merely physical, and the emotion that gives the relationship value ultimately dies. Sex is not just a feeling; it is a commitment, which, when properly expressed, preserves the feeling. If it is improperly expressed, the feeling will die, and the person becomes diminished in the process. The second lens is an understanding of what marriage is and what marriage offers to you. This may sound shocking, but marriage is not what it's cracked up to be. In fact, I know many young people who, having observed their parents' marriages, will say they are reluctant to become married themselves. I think that marriage has suffered an awful lot because of all the false images and expectations of marriage placed before us. This may be unpopular to say, but the exhaustion of a professional life drains marriage. You cannot serve two masters. Adrenaline keeps us moving throughout the day as we work, whether it's selling shirts or automobiles or computers. When the adrenaline rush is over and you go home to your spouse and children (if you have any), there is little left in your tank to be able to give your family, and it becomes harder and harder to fulfill the obligations of marriage. And when both partners in a marriage work outside the home, the toll on the marriage is twice as great. The third lens is an understanding that this longing of sexual fulfillment is a God-planted desire in us. And with fleeting time it becomes a fleeting hope. The unrequited God-given longing for this kind of relationship is, I believe, and I say this carefully, one of the most difficult crosses to bear. This is not the Calvary you want. You find yourself asking God if there is any way to be spared from the ache of this longing and to receive the companionship you see so many others enjoying. Of course, marriage goes beyond the consummate relationship of the physical side; it means caring, cherishing, and loving. This should be what you are ultimately craving. To that person I say, as painful and perhaps flippant as it may sound, just as others who face other unmet desires, you have to learn to receive the strength from the Lord to crucify that desire and make Jesus Christ the focus of your desire to be cared for, cherished, and loved -- because only he can ultimately meet this desire, even if you are married. It's a little bit like doing a puzzle. You've got only three pieces missing out of five hundred, but you just can't make it all come together. I just say, as F.W. Boreham does, that this longing for the legitimate expression of sexual love is one of those painful things that is easier borne by a person who has never experienced it than by the one who daily lives with this sense of loss. In other words, the emotions that are part of this longing cannot be fully understood by one who has not experienced it for whatever reason.
"DD: You've expressed that in any intimate relationship there will be times of distance or even a sense of dryness. So perhaps we ought not to be surprised when we feel this in our relationship with God. What do you do during times of spiritual dryness? Are there particular authors, books, sermons, or disciplines that you turn to when you feel the passion that you long for just isn't there?
"RZ: If there is anybody who has not experienced what you have described, I really want to touch them. It's not only a common thing; it can be a frequent thing. It's like C.S. Lewis's Screwtape telling the junior devil, 'Encourage their horror of the Same Old Thing.' I think that's actually what's happened to the West right now. We've heard the gospel so much that we're experiencing the horror of the same old thing. So we buy into nonsensical notions that are actually bizarre while sounding sophisticated. They don't make any sense, but they come with mystical, new terminology, and we are wowed by them. This is why, by the way, I think people church-hop. There are no more unexpected moments at the church they've been going to, and all of a sudden, it's the same old thing -- and so they move on to something new. The human ability to remain firm in our convictions and commitments is very, very limited. That's why I think good reading, good viewing, and good friendships are good places in which to find renewal. There are so many considerations to the dryness we may experience at any given time. You may not feel well, or you may be tired -- all of this takes its toll on you. Sometimes a lack of discipline or a lack of perseverance may well be because of lack of sleep. It could be your mind, your body, is tired, and you need a vacation. You may have become stagnant because your reading material is not helping your growth process. Reading a variety of authors is a good way to light a new spark within you. I love reading biographies. I love reading authors whose language is outstanding because they quicken the imagination by just the right turn of phrase. Sometimes all it takes is one phrase to turn your life around. You have to have variety in your devotional life, in your relational life, in your church life. And it is important to remain balanced -- to keep physically healthy, to keep your viewing life enchanted so that you're looking at the right things. That's one advantage I have in my life: I'm in new places so often that I experience an enormous array of God's diversity."
https://www.rzim.org/read/just-thinking-magazine/has-christianity-failed-you
Ultimately the Seventh Commandment (Exodus 20:14), is about our fidelity to Christ. (Hosea 2:19-20; 1 Corinthians 6:15-20; James 4:4)
To fracture the Seventh Commandment is to break covenant with the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.
The sexual revolution is really a revolution against God. (Numbers 25:1-3, 29; Joshua 22:17; Psalm 106:30,31)
See: Engelsma, Marriage, the Mystery of Christ and the Church.
Calvin seems to see the Seventh as interrelated to, as summing up, all Ten Commandments of the Law.*
Although one kind of impurity is alone referred to, it is sufficiently plain, from the principle laid down, that believers are generally exhorted to chastity; for, if the Law be a perfect rule of holy living, it would be more than absurd to give a license for fornication, adultery alone being excepted. Furthermore, it is incontrovertible that God will by no means approve or excuse before this tribunal, what the common sense of mankind declares to be obscene; for, although lewdness has everywhere been rampant in every age, still the opinion could never be utterly extinguished, that fornication is a scandal and a sin. . . . [Titus 2:12; Isaiah 30:21; Matthew 19:17; Romans 13:8]
Now, if Christ and the Apostles, who are the best interpreters of the Law, declare that God's Law is violated no less by fornication than by theft, we assuredly infer, *that in this Commandment the whole genus is comprehended under a single species. . . . [Hebrews 13:4; Leviticus 21:14; Deuteronomy 23:17; Hosea 4:11; Hosea 1:2; Numbers 25:9; 1 Corinthians 10:8; Acts 15:20; 1 Corinthians 6:18; 2 Corinthians 7:1; 1 Thessalonians 4:4,5] -- John Calvin commenting on Exodus 20:14 and Deuteronomy 5:18 and context

Allberry, Sam, 7 Myths About Singleness, ISBN: 9781433561535 1433561530 9781433561542 1433561549 9781433561559 1433561557.
"This book sets forth a positive vision of singleness by responding to seven common misconceptions about singleness in the church today." -- Publisher

Andrews, Gini, Sons of Freedom: God and the Single Man.

Andrews, Gini, Your Half of the Apple: God and the Single Girl, ISBN: 0551004975 9780551004979.
Foreword by Francis A. Schaeffer.
"A realistic treatment of the problems as well as the opportunities facing single people in a couple's world. Insightful." -- Cyril J. Barber

Ankerberg, John, and John Weldon, The Myth of Safe sex: The Devastating Consequences of Violating God's Plan, ISBN: 0802456391 9780802456397. Alternate title: THE MYTH OF SAFE SEX: THE TRAGIC CONSEQUENCES OF VIOLATING GOD'S PLAN.

*Baker, Yvonne G., Successfully Single. A Christian classic.
"Another classic -- restated in modern English -- but retaining its verve and value for contemporary Christians." -- Cyril J. Barber

*Baxter, Richard (1615-1691), Compassionate Counsel to all Young men, The Mother's Catechism, The Catechizing of Families, and The Poor Man's Family Book. Available in Baxter, Richard, THE REFORMED PASTOR: BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 4, 1877611360 9781877611360.
"This is the fourth and final volume in this great set. Includes, 'The Reformed Pastor' and 25 other sermons, treatises, and catechisms. Dr. J.I. Packer says, 'For me, the great joy of this year is that it see the completion of Soli Deo Gloria's reprint of Baxter's incomparable PRACTICAL WORKS'." -- GCB
Baxter, Compassionate Counsel to all Young men, 1681.
Compassionate Counsel to all Young men (1681), by Richard Baxter
http://www.lettermen2.com/ccaym.html

Bettler, John F., God as Husband/Lover (Westminster Media).
Audio cassette POG06 [audio file].

Brown, Raymond K., Reach out to Singles: A Challenge to Ministry, ISBN: 0664242707 9780664242701.
"Examines the hard questions single people are asking, and attempts to provide candid and helpful answers. An important resource for pastors and those who work with single people in the church." -- Cyril J. Barber

Caldwell, Genevieve, First Person, Singular, ISBN: 0840730721 9780840730725.
"She [the author], sees Christian single women shortchanging themselves and encourages them to shake off the shroud of passivity and actively build new, meaningful relationships." -- Cyril J. Barber

Case, Thomas (1598-1682), The Excellent Woman, a Sermon Preached at the Funeral of Mrs. Elizabeth Scott, Dec. 16, 1658. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
"THE EXCELLENT WOMAN examines the book of Proverbs to teach of the value and character of the virtuous woman. In the forward Dr. William Sprague writes, 'This is a work that will bear to be read more than once, and each successive reading will be likely to reveal some new gem of thought, which, in the general mass of excellence, had been overlooked before. It is a book suitable for the husband to present to his wife, the mother to her daughter, and the brother to his sister; and the more widely it is circulated, the better for the country and the world'." -- Publisher

Clarkson, Margaret, So You're Single! ISBN: 0877887721 9780877887720.
"One of the best works on the subject of aloneness. Deserves widespread circulation." -- Cyril J. Barber

Coleman, Barry (editor), Sex and the Single Christian: Candid Conversations, ISBN: 0830711074 9780830711079.
"The contributors to this slender volume are all people with established reputations. The questions focus on frequently misunderstood issues of sexuality. The 'bottom line' counsel of this work is to underscore the teaching of Scripture while warning against the abuses that are prevalent in our society." -- Cyril J. Barber

Coleman, Sarah Jepson (Sarah Ann Jepson), For the Love of Singles.

*Crawford, Dan R. (compiler), Single Adults: Resource and Recipients for Revival, ISBN: 0805432361 9780805432367.
Includes bibliography.

Eisenman, Tom L., Temptations men Face, ISBN: 0830813799 9780830813797.

*Foster, David Kyle, Sexual Healing: God's Plan for the Sanctification of Broken Lives: A Reference Manual for Ministering to Those Trapped in Sexual sin and Brokenness, ISBN: 0830737154 9780830737154 0830737340 9780830737345.
This is a unique work and the best resource known to the compiler offering biblical counsel for healing sexual brokenness. See: "Foundations" and "Divine Intent for Sexuality" for a biblical explanation of the spiritual significance of sexuality. These two chapters alone make the purchase of the book worthwhile. Includes chapters, study guides, and exercises for Root sources for improper sexual development, Sexual identity confusion, Child sex abuse, Sexual addition, Pornography, Masturbation, voyeurism and exhibitionism, Why people remain in sexual sin and bondage, Failure and self-condemnation, A comprehensive game plan for sexual healing, and so forth.
Includes bibliography and index.
Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

*Havergal, Frances, Kept for the Master's use, ISBN: 080246582X. A Christian classic.
"If ever a woman lived her whole life as if she were married to Christ, it is Frances Havergal. Her every breath was drawn for Him, and so her every utterance breathed of Him . . . You will thrill to her expressions of praise. And when she leads us to a dedicated Christian life, we find it compelling. By all means read this book. You will never forget it." -- Jay P. Green, Sr. (1918-2008)
Kept for the Master's use
https://archive.org/details/keptformastersus00haverich/page/14

Lum, Ada, Single and Human, ISBN: 0877843619 9780877843610.

Mowday Rabey, Lois, The Snare: Avoiding Emotional and Sexual Entanglements, ISBN: 0891091556 9780891091554.

Powlison, David (1949-2019), and John Yenchko, Pre-engagement: Five Questions to ask Yourselves, ISBN: 0875526799 9780875526799.

Poythress V., Marriage and Singleness; Marriage (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette VP105 [audio file].

Rinck, Margaret (Josephson), Christian men who Hate Women: Healing Hurting Relationships, ISBN: 0310517516 9780310517511.

Ryle, J.C. (1816-1900), Thoughts for Young men: An Exhortation Directed to Those in the Prime of Life, ISBN: 1879737094 9781879737099.
Thoughts for Young Men
http://www.iserv.net/~mrbill/espan/young01.html

Smith, Virginia W., The Single Parent, ISBN: 0800751051 9780800751050.

Tweedie, W.K. (1803-1863), Seed-time and Harvest: or, Sow Well and Reap Well. A Book for the Young.

Tweedie, W.K. (1803-1863), Virtuous Womanhood: Christ's Work and Single Women. Available in A THEOLOGY OF THE FAMILY, an anthology.

Vincent, Thomas (1634-1678), Christ the Best Husband: or An Invitation of Young Women Unto Christ. Delivered in a Sermon to Young Women, 1672.

Whitefield, George (1714-1770), Christ the Best Husband: Or an Earnest Invitation to Young Women to Come and see Christ, preached to a Society of Young Women in Fetter-Lane.
http://www.jesus-is-lord.com/whitefie.htm

*Zacharias, Ravi (1946-2020), Has Christianity Failed you? ISBN: 9780310269557 0310269555.
Ravi Zacharias considers this to be his most important book.
"HAS CHRISTIANITY FAILED YOU? is for you, if you have struggled to understand what exactly it is you believe. Acclaimed apologist Ravi Zacharias explores the hard questions about what it means to be a follower of Jesus Christ. In his landmark new book, he addresses the struggle he hears from both skeptics and Christians: Has Christianity failed us? And can irrefutable charges be brought against it by skeptics and disappointed believers alike?
"In 2006, Ravi Zacharias International Ministries (RZIM) held an open forum at the Fox Theater in Atlanta to address the subject: 'Has Christianity Failed you?' Tickets were sold for the event and -- to the complete surprise of everyone -- the event was sold out with a capacity crowd of over 5,000. People lined up offering to buy tickets from folks in line for higher prices. Before the event, an RZIM cameraman walked the streets and asked people if they had rejected the faith they held at one time. One answered that, because of a Christian's rejection of his gay lifestyle he had done just that. Another answered that she had left her faith because she had fallen into adultery and could never live it down in the church. Others had their own reasons. Some said it was just intellectually untenable in an age of reason. They chose to come to the event to judge if there were adequate answers. It is estimated that for every one person who writes a letter or attends an event, there are one thousand who agree. If the Atlanta crowd was any indication, the question is real and troubling. Why is it that many live with silent doubt, many leaving the 'evangelical fold' for something else? Is there something wrong with the message, the communicator, the hearer . . . or is it all three? It's time to ask the hard questions of what it means to be a follower of Jesus Christ and why it seems as though God has made it so hard to continue believing. In fact, the son of a prominent U.S. Senator phoned me with that very question. 'Why has God made it so hard to believe in Him?' Such skepticism is not just representative of the hostile; it also represents many honest questioners. This book attempts to lay out the response to those within as well as those outside the Christian faith, so as to understand what it is we believe, and why it is so hard to do so. More to the point: Why it is actually so hard to deny God and still make sense out of life? In the end the answers should be both felt and real, with the added truth that God is nearer than you think. He desires that we sense Him very near to us, and not distant. But closeness comes at a cost just as any relationship of love and commitment does.
"For over thirty-five years, Ravi Zacharias has spoken all over the world in great halls and universities, notably Harvard, Princeton, and numerous universities internationally. He is listed as a Senior Research Fellow at Wycliffe Hall, Oxford University. He has appeared on CNN and other international broadcasts. The author of several books for adults and children, he powerfully mixes biblical teaching and Christian apologetics. His most recent works include WALKING FROM EAST TO WEST, A MEMOIR; THE GRAND WEAVER, AN EXPLORATION OF GOD'S INTENTION IN BOTH THE ORDINARY AND THE STARTLING ELEMENTS OF LIFE; AND THE END OF REASON, A REBUTTAL OF THE CLAIMS OF THE SO-CALLED NEW ATHEISTS. His weekly radio program, 'Let My People Think,' is broadcast on 1,692 stations worldwide, and his weekday program, 'Just Thinking,' is on 412. He is founder and chairman of the board of Ravi Zacharias International Ministries, headquartered in Atlanta, Georgia, with additional offices in Canada, Hong Kong, India, Singapore, the United Kingdom, and the United Arab Emirates. Dr. Zacharias and his wife, Margie, have three grown children and reside in Atlanta." -- Publisher
Has Christianity Failed You? [audio file], Ravi Zacharias (2019/07/20)
https://www.rzim.org/listen/let-my-people-think/has-christianity-failed-you-part-1
*Has Christianity Failed You? an interview of Ravi Zacharias with Danielle DuRant
"There are an awful lot of Christians walking around these days who are disappointed with their faith. They've been hurt by the church or other believers and it's affected their walk with God."
Includes rare, frank, and wise commentary on the institution of marriage.
https://www.rzim.org/read/just-thinking-magazine/has-christianity-failed-you

Zacharias, Ravi K., I, Isaac, take thee, Rebekah, ISBN: 0849917980 9780849917981 0849908221 9780849908224.
"I feel this book is not only good for couples but singles who desire marriage one day . . . Ravi is great at pointing to Christ as a foundation for love and all relationships." -- Reader's Comment
"His briefer message [an excerpt from the book] by the same name remains one of the most popular and requested resources from our radio (and now podcast) audiences." -- Danielle DuRant, editor of Just Thinking

See also: The sovereignty of god, The doctrine of man (human nature, total depravity), The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justification, Justifying faith, Singleness, Freedom, a gift of the grace of god, Christian character, Manhood, Courtship, Premarital counseling, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Spiritual adultery (spiritual whoredom/harlotry), Abstinence, Single parenting, Child abuse and pedophilia, Counsel for young men, Reconciliation of relationships, Forgiveness, Unforgiveness, Gratuitous sex, a cause of violence, Womanhood, Abuse, Rape, Incest, and so forth, and so on.
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Related Weblinks

Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

Respect Incorporated (formerly Sex Respect)
http://www.sexrespect.com/main.html

True Love Waits
http://www.truelovewaits.com/

Premarital Counsel

Married couples who study the sovereignty of God together sovereignly stay together.
Kindness is perhaps one of the most important characteristics to look for in a mate. Lack of kindness during courtship is a sign that marriage would probably be a mistake. The slightest unkindness can be taken as a sign that later, in marriage, they (woman or man), will harm their spouse.
Paul's teaching on celibacy, virginity, singleness, marriage, and remarriage -- John Calvin commenting on 1 Corinthians 6:1-9 -- 1 Corinthians 7:40.

*Bonar, Horatius (1808-1889), The Everlasting Righteousness, or How Shall man be Just With God? A Christian classic. Considered to be among the ten greatest books in the English language.
"First published in 1874, THE EVERLASTING RIGHTEOUSNESS, may be the best book on the doctrine of justification by faith alone ever written.
"Since the seventeenth century, the church's adherence to the central doctrine of the Christian faith has been weakening; in the twentieth century it has all but disappeared. But to those who remain faithful -- to those who are called of God -- justification by faith alone is the best news there could ever be: that Christ died for our sins, and we shall live forever because of Christ's righteousness.
"Justification by faith alone -- the 'principal hinge of religion,' according to John Calvin, the 'doctrine by which the church stands or falls,' according to Martin Luther -- is salvation. Without it, all hope is lost; with it, Heaven gained. Bonar's discussion is without equal in the English language." -- John W. Robbins
The Everlasting Righteousness, Horatius Bonar
http://books.google.com/books?id=nQMDAAAAQAAJ&ie=ISO-8859-1&output=html

Defoe, Daniel, Conjugal Lewdness or Matrimonial Whoredom: A Treatise Concerning the use and Abuse of the Marriage bed (1727), ISBN: 0820110132 9780820110134. Available in WORKS OF DANIEL DEFOE on the Puritan Hard Drive.

Engelsma, David, Better To Mary: Sex and Marriage in Corinthians 6 and 7, ISBN: 0916206491 9780916206499.
Appendix, "The remarriage of the 'innocent party' " -- a sermon.

*Engelsma, David, Marriage, the Mystery of Christ and the Church, ISBN: 0825425190 9780825425196.
"Engelsma is a pastor in the Protestant Reformed Church, and also is editor of their paper, The Standard Bearer. The chapters in this book were preached as sermons in the author's church at Loveland, Colorado. Engelsma sees the corruption of the sacred institution of marriage as being a cause of myriads of the evils that abound in our day. He says, 'There is the bitter misery of soul that shatters those who have been unfaithful and that leads to drink, drugs, nervous breakdown, and even suicide. . . . The author does a good job of expounding Ephesians 5:31,32, This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. He explains that this 'mystery' has to do with the intimacy and oneness of a truly married couple. And this typifies the 'underlying reality of the union of Christ with His Church'." -- Jay P. Green, Sr. (1918-2008)

*Eyrich, Howard, Three to Get Ready: Premarital Counseling Manual, ISBN: 1885904169 9781885904164.
"Eyrich has significantly expanded and reworked his program for conducting seven sessions of premarital counseling. Covers basics of biblical marriage, self-awareness of personal traits, communication, money, sex, wedding details. 'Some people will read this manual and ask, "What is a pastor doing discussing life insurance, budgeting, or sex?" The answer is simple. He is responsible for the spiritual welfare of his flock. . . . Life is the legitimate domain of the spiritual counselor.' Contains numerous questionnaires and personal inventories to xerox and use in counseling." -- David Powlison (1949-2019)
"A manual on premarital counseling presenting a step-by-step guide through the major areas to be covered. Chock full of practical advice. Jay Adams says: 'Here it is! The premarital counseling guide you have been waiting for'." -- Publisher

*Finley, Martha (1828-1909), Book 2: Elsie's Holidays at Roselands, ISBN: 9781888306323 1888306327.
"When Elsie's father becomes ill, she takes on the job of nurse-companion, and all goes well until Elsie, because it is the Sabbath, as a matter of conscience refuses to read to him from a secular book. The battle of wills that ensues nearly causes first her father's death, and then Elsie's. Lonely Elsie -- punished, ostracized, and then abandoned by her father -- turns to her heavenly Father for comfort and assurance. Will her father realize that Elsie's obedience to God must be paramount, and submit himself to the same Divine Authority?" -- Publisher
On an even more serious note, one moral of this story is the broader life and death struggle between Truth and Falsehood (See: Absolute truth and relativism [duality and non-duality], Epistemology of theology, the theory of knowledge, and Christian scholarship.) The consequence of conflict of will is death of the "One," or war of the "Many" (see Rushdoony, THE ONE AND THE MANY: STUDIES IN THE PHILOSOPHY OF ORDER AND ULTIMACY. Conflict of will (see Will and recalcitrance, Rebellion and lawlessness: wickedness, demonic possession, abnormal behavior, insanity, mental illness, mental retardation,) may begin when one individual (see The doctrine of man [human nature, total depravity],) or the corporate body (see Corporate faithfulness and sanctification), tries to usurping authority over others (see Power, Authority) -- tries to control and possess the other (see Tyranny, Slavery, our systems of enslavement, economic enslavement.) The means of control may be either outward or occult (see The occult, spiritism, witchcraft), deceit, repression or suppression of the truth, replacing moral and ethical absolutes with relativism (see Ethics, computer ethics, cyberethics, Medical ethics, Absolute truth and relativism [duality and non-duality], unfaithfulness to the highest ethical standards (see The ten commandments: the moral law, The holy bible), Heresy and apostasy (apostacy, old english), Spiritual adultery [spiritual whoredom/harlotry,] (see Idolatry, syncretism, Jeremiah and lamentations,) invocation of the demonic, Oaths, ensnaring vows, promises, and covenants, bonds with the ungodly Carnality and flesh pleasing: desires, pleasure, Justice, judgment, god's final judgment, the great white throne judgment, the day of the lord,) attempts to take authority over another politically or by mental malpractice (see Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, making up their own rules (see Absolute truth and relativism [duality and non-duality],) ignoring or changing constitutional or creedal documents, unjust laws for the accumulation of wealth and power, indebtedness, disenfranchisement, (see denial of freedom,) Priestcraft, pharisaism, soul-stealing, possessiveness, physical seduction and whoredom, political economic or sexual enslavement (see Sexual relationship,) and so forth, and so on.
This abuse, this soul-violence, quenches the Holy Spirit (see Owen, God's Presence With a People the Spring of Their Prosperity; With Their Special Interest in Abiding in Him.) If either side is immovable, then death is the consequence (see Soteriology, atonement, The blood of christ, Hell, and Heaven.)
How are conflicts of will resolved? By submission to the Absolute Truths of God's word, the great common denominator, Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (John 14:6)
All this bears a strain of the Gospel (see Book-length presentations of the free offer of the gospel message of salvation and the life to come: the means of grace, The westminster confession of faith.)
Book 2: Holidays at Roselands
http://archive.org/details/holidaysatrosel00finlgoog
Holidays at Roselands (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14280
Mantle Ministries (Elsie Dinsmore Series and Mildred Series)
http://www.mantlemin.com

*Garland, Diana S. Richmond, and David E. Garland, Beyond Companionship: Christians in Marriage, ISBN: 0664240186 9780664240189.
"After carefully examining New Testament sources, the authors conclude that truly Christian marriage must be a companionship of equal persons. But they go further, affirming that companionship is not enough, because Christian marriage must be an active partnership of equals working together to fulfill the divine purpose." -- David and Vera Mace

Hurley, James B., Man and Woman in Biblical Perspective, ISBN: 0310427312 9780310427315.
"A thorough, sound, Biblical, and background survey. It is valuable not only for its erudition and meticulous reasoning but for its great sensitivity in the application of Biblical principles." -- John Gerstner
Dr. Hurley is Associate Professor of Theology at Westminster Theological Seminary.
"This is an excellent study of the roles of men and women in Old Testament, New Testament, and Inter-Testamental times. Roles covered include family life, commercial, managerial, governmental and religious. Except for the inter-testamental period, the analysis sticks strictly to the scriptures and is very objective. When the subject of religious roles is discussed, the author, who is a member of the Presbyterian Church in America (PCA) denomination, is careful to define modern church offices in terms of their New Testament counterparts.
"Mr. Hurley is well qualified for this inquiry since he has a doctorate in Pauline Theology and also extensive experience in marriage counseling.
"I found the book to be very helpful as I went through the process of deciding whether ordination of women was an approved biblical practice." -- Reader's Comment

James, John Angell (1785-1859), Addresses to Young men, ISBN: 1877611972 9781877611971.
"James, the author of FEMALE PIETY, one of our bestselling books, also wrote this one for young men. Though the situations about which he wrote in the 19th century may be a bit outdated, the biblical principles and insights he brings out are as relevant today as they were a thousand years ago." -- Publisher

*James, John Angell (1785-1859), Female Piety or the Young Woman's Friend and Guide Through Life to Immortality, ISBN: 1573581038 9781573581035.
"This is another in a series of books on the family. By the author of THE CHRISTIAN FATHER'S PRESENT TO HIS CHILDREN, this is James' book on raising a godly daughter. He deals with early piety, the elevation of women by the gospel, the importance of personal religion, and how to be a good wife and mother. This is a book every parent should read to their daughters. Here is a book that girls should read to know what to become, and boys should read to know what to look for! There is a foreword by Mrs. Edna Gerstner." -- Publisher

James, John Angell (1785-1859), The Marriage Ring; or, How to Make Home Happy
"This little volume is intended as a manual for those just entering the marriage state. John Angel James was an author beloved and esteemed for his many practical writings. He remarks, 'It is an unquestionable truth that if a man be not happy at home, he cannot be happy anywhere; and he who is happy there need be miserable nowhere. The secret of happiness lies folded up in the leaves of the Bible and is carried in the bosom of religion.' He treats of the foundation of the marriage union, the family circle, the mutual and special duties of husband and wife." -- Gospel Union

James, John Angell (1785-1859), and Don Kistler, A Woman's Mission, ISBN: 1573581178 9781573581172. Available in FEMALE PIETY OR THE YOUNG WOMAN'S FRIEND AND GUIDE THROUGH LIFE TO IMMORTALITY.

*Kennedy, D. James (1930-2007), Learning to Live With the People you Love, ISBN: 0883681900 9780883681909.
Love "is sharing life together in a way that brings glory to God and enriches the lives of every family member."
Dr. Kennedy says no book he has written has brought so many comments as this one.
Read this in conjunction with Dr. Kennedy's 6-message audio cassette [audio file], series "Secrets of Successful Marriages," the audio cassette message "Why Some Marriages Fail and Others Succeed," and the 4-message audio cassette [audio file], series "The Christian Marriage Series."

Knudsen, Robert D., Ethics and Birth Control.

*Lockyer, Herbert, All the Promises of the Bible, ISBN: 0310281318.
"A devotional expositional compilation of all the promises [about 3,300 of the approximate 8,810 promises -- compiler], that are found in Scripture." -- Publisher
"Lockyer's in-depth look at the scope of God's promises arranges them in categories that cover the full array of human concerns, from the spiritual to the material and the corporate to the personal. As you come to understand God's promises and how they apply to every aspect of your life, you'll gain a trust in God that will sustain you through the worst of times and be your source of rejoicing in the best.
"Dr. Herbert Lockyer was born in London in 1886, and held pastorates in Scotland and England for 25 years before coming to the United States in 1935. In 1937 he received the honorary Doctor of Divinity degree from Northwestern Evangelical Seminary. In 1955 he returned to England where he lived for many years. He then returned to the United States where he continued to devote time to the writing ministry until his death in November of 1984." -- Publisher

Mack, Wayne A., and Nathan A. Mack, Preparing for Marriage God's way, ISBN: 1563220199: 9781563220197.
"A workbook that gives you 'seven basic tools for a successful marriage. It enables you to: [1] assess your marital readiness; [2] know the other person for what he/she really is; [3] uncover any current problems and pinpoint future ones; [4] understand the solutions for both current and future difficulties; [5] develop skills for communication and conflict resolution; [6] prevent future heartache; and [7] prepare for a satisfying, fulfilling and God-honoring marriage.' Thirteen chapters, each with a couple of pages of teaching and then questionnaires, inventories and Bible studies designed to help readers make personal application. -- David Powlison (1949-2019)
"PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE GOD'S WAY guides you to an understanding of what to do when the glow of courtship must be replaced by the daily responsibility of marriage." -- Publisher

*Marshall, Walter (1628-1680), The Gospel-Mystery of Sanctification: Growing in Holiness by Living in Union With Christ, ISBN: 189277724X. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
The Reformation Heritage Books edition is a reprint of the 1954 edition set by Oliphants and includes an introduction by Joel R. Beeke. Also includes the author's famous sermon on "The Doctrine of Justification Opened and Applied."
See the WorldCat record for various foreign language editions.
Other editions:
Marshall, Walter, The Gospel-Mystery of Sanctification, ISBN: 1597520543 9781597520546.
"This is by far the best book on the doctrine of Sanctification in print. It was originally written in the 17th century, but has been put into modern English with this edition. This book will help you better understand the Gospel and its power not only for our Justification, but our Sanctification as well." -- Reader's Comment
Marshall, Walter, The Gospel-Mystery of Sanctification, ISBN: 1589600630 9781589600638.
"Here you will read the most closely reasoned defense of scriptural sanctification to be found anywhere. . . . Fourteen directions are given to the reader, all perfected with the aim of explaining to sincere souls what sanctification is, what it is not, and how to attain a holy walk before God. . . ." -- Jay P. Green, Sr. (1918-2008)
Marshall, Walter, The Gospel-mystery of Sanctification, Opened, in Sundry Practical Directions: Suited Especially to the Case of Those who Labor Under the Guilt and Power of Indwelling Sin. To Which is Added a Sermon on Justification (1859)
http://archive.org/details/gospelmysteryofs02mars

*Miles, Herbert J., Sexual Understanding Before Marriage.
"Ranks as one of the most practical and helpful treatments on the subject. Examines attitudes and techniques essential to sexual harmony and happiness in marriage, and provides needful correctives to some of the abuses of marriage." -- GCB
"A realistic approach based on a solid moral foundation for young unmarried people." -- Cyril J. Barber

*Perkins, William (1558-1602), Christian Oeconomie, or, A Short Survey of the Right Manner of Erecting and Ordering a Familie According to the Scriptures first written in Latine by the author M.W. Perkins; And now set forth in the vulgar tongue for more common vse and benefit by Tho. Pickering . . . 1609, ISBN: 0921148623. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.

Powlison, David (1949-2019), and John Yenchko, Pre-engagement: Five Questions to ask Yourselves, ISBN: 0875526799 9780875526799.

Rank, Maureen, Dealing With the dad of Your Past, ISBN: 0871236222 9780871236227.
"Practical, biblical counsel for every woman.
"Although fathers are not the only determining influence in their daughters' lives, it is true that their impact at times may be the most ignored. Current research shows that a girl's relationship with her father is absolutely critical to her psychological, social, and spiritual development. This is grim news to a group of people whom psychologists are labelling, 'The Fatherless Generation.' Physically absent dads (the current experience of one-fourth of American children under 18), emotionally absent dads, and abusive dads are impacting daughters as well as sons.
"God as Father designed earthly fathers to model His loving care through personal involvement, warmth, discipline, and wise direction and counsel toward maturity. Where these are lacking in a daughter's life, profound effects occur. As difficult as that may be to face, that process is the only way to emotional and spiritual wholeness. It requires a sometimes painful look back and honest assessment of the dad of the past. It means coming to terms with who he really was, who he wasn't, and what can be done about it now. Through God's restoring process, daughters will be challenged to embrace the One perfect Father who is always there and allow His life-changing truth and power to 'make all things new'." -- Publisher

Ryle, J.C. (1816-1900), Examples of Holiness, ISBN: 0801076544 9780801076541.
"Selected from his book HOLINESS, published in 1879."

*Ryle, J.C. (1816-1900), Holiness: Its Nature, Hindrances, Difficulties, and Roots, ISBN: 0852341369. A Christian classic.
"Ryle, like his great masters, has no easy way to holiness to offer us, and no 'patent' method by which it can be obtained; but he invariably produces that 'hunger and thirst after righteousness' which is the only indispensable condition to being 'filled'." -- D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones
"Newly typeset edition from Evangelical Press with preface done by J.I. Packer. Complete and unabridged." -- GCB
Holiness, J.C. Ryle
http://archive.org/details/HolinessJcRyle

*Sowell, Thomas, A Conflict of Visions, ISBN: 9780465002054 0465002056.
"Controversies in politics arise from many sources, but the conflicts that endure for generations or for centuries show a remarkably consistent pattern. The analysis of this pattern is the purpose of A CONFLICT OF VISIONS. Its theme is that the enduring political controversies of the past two centuries reflect radically different visions of the nature of man. Issues as diverse as criminal justice, income distribution, or war and peace repeatedly show those with one vision lining up on one side and those with another vision lining up on the other.
"Dr. Thomas Sowell describes A CONFLICT OF VISIONS as 'the culmination of thirty years of work in the history of ideas' -- a field in which he established his professional reputation years before writing any of his well-known books on ethnicity and other social issues. Dr. Sowell and his books have received a number of awards and honors, and have been translated into several languages. He has been a consultant to three administrations of both parties, as well as scholar-in-residence at three "think tanks." He is now a Senior Fellow at the Hoover Institute in Stanford, California." -- Publisher

*Swanson, Andrew, Whom Shall I Marry? ISBN: 0851516882 9780851516882.
"Andrew Swanson writes with sensitivity on the struggles and difficulties young people from various cultures face in regard to the choice of a life mate. He writes about the ways in which God guides and directs those whose central desire is to do his will." -- Publisher

Swartley, Dick, and Anne Swartley, Right Start Premarital Program (R.H. and A.L. Swartley, 1993), (for further information contact the authors, 487 Glenwyth Rd., Wayne, PA, 19087-5304).
"Detailed instruction manuals for setting up a mentoring program in a local church to handle premarital counseling. Includes three notebooks, one for prospective couples, one for mentors, and for the pastor or counselor overseeing the premarital counseling.

Terkelsen, Helen E., Counseling the Unwed Mother.

Terkelsen, Helen E., I'm Going to Have a Baby and I'm not Married, ISBN: 0800619943.

Vincent, Thomas (1634-1678), Christ the Best Husband: or An Invitation of Young Women Unto Christ. Delivered in a Sermon to Young Women, 1672.

*Watson, Thomas (1620-1686), The Doctrine of Repentance, ISBN: 0851515215. A Christian classic. Considered to be among the ten greatest books in the English language. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
"Knowing what repentance is, and actually repenting are essentials to true Christianity. Jesus Christ himself said that if we do not repent, we will perish! It is vital, therefore, to read and study what Scripture has to say about this theme.
"Few better guides have existed in this or any other language. . . . He was a master of both Scripture and the human heart, and wrote with a simplicity and directness that keeps his work fresh and powerful for the twentieth century." -- Publisher
The Doctrine of Repentance, Thomas Watson
http://archive.org/details/TheDoctrineOfRepentance
The Doctrine of Repentance, Thomas Watson
http://ntslibrary.com/PDF%20Books/Repentance%20by%20T%20Watson.pdf
The Doctrine of Repentance, Thomas Watson
http://books.google.com/books?id=V1QCAAAACAAJ&ie=ISO-8859-1&output=html
The Doctrine of Repentance, Thomas Watson (excerpts)
http://www.fivesolas.com/watson/drepenti.htm

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Couples: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion, ISBN: 1558197133 9781558197138.

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Newlyweds: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion (Bible Promises to Treasure), ISBN: 0805493913 9780805493917.

Wilson, P. Bunny, Liberated by Submission, ISBN: 1565077202 9781565077201. Alternate title: LIBERATED THROUGH SUBMISSION.
Submission is the whole thing, submission to God, the Ultimate Judge, Lawgiver, Holiness, and submission to others. The caveat -- everyone tries to play god, and thus interferes with what God is doing, thus the need for discerning submission.
"LIBERATED THROUGH SUBMISSION has given me the boldness to stand up and say that my desire is to be a submitted wife and the reasons why. Before I read this book, I sat silently when other women exploded about the forbidden 's' word. The Bible tells us clearly to submit and I did, as an act of obedience to God, however, I did not like it. As a result of reading Bunny's book, not only do I want to submit, but I recognize that I cannot afford not to. I am now 'Liberated' because submission allows me to step back and watch God move. . . !" -- Reader's Comment

See also: The sovereignty of god, The doctrine of man (human nature, total depravity), The inspiration and infallibility of scripture (the doctrine of revelation, the doctrine of plenary inspiration, the doctrine of divine inspiration, the doctrine of verbal inspiration, theopneustia, sufficiency of scripture), The ten commandments: the moral law, The christian home, domestic duties, Trusting god, Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justification, Justifying faith, Forgiveness, Bible promises, Sanctification, Conscience, casuistry, cases of conscience, Ethics, Men and Women, Singleness, Christian liberty, Men, women and god, Premarital counseling, Marital counseling, Problem solving in marriage, Reconciliation of marriage partners, Counseling the family, Biblical counsel by subject, Reconciliation of relationships, Sexual relationship, Spiritual adultery (spiritual whoredom/harlotry), Carnality and flesh pleasing: lust, desires, ambition, Adultery, Child abuse and pedophilia, Fatherlessness, Counsel for young men, Counsel for young women, Abstinence, Christian counseling and educational foundation, Westminster media, Works of Jay Adams, and Audio cassettes, CCEF speakers, Sexual wholeness, Marriage, Singleness, Feminism, Gratuitous sex, a cause of violence, Homosexuality, lesbianism, gay, bisexual, transvestite, queer (lgbtq), Cowardice, Pseudo-christian movements: a selection of works, Works by and for women, The new age and women, Self, Self-denial, The occult, Sorcery, Women and the new age, Soul-violence, Churches that abuse, Divorce, Hostility, Incest, Rape, Sex ethics, sex education, Pornography, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Unforgiveness, and so forth, and so on.

Related Weblinks

Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation (CCEF)
1803 East Willow Grove Avenue
Glenside, PA 19038
Telephone: 215.884.7676
http://www.ccef.org/

Institute of Biblical Counseling and Discipleship (formerly CCEF West)
http://www.ibcd.org/

Institute for Nouthetic Counseling
"Study Biblical Counseling with Dr. Jay Adams."
"Here is a list of the courses we have ready:

Introduction to Biblical Counseling/Counseling Principles and Practices
The Counselor Himself
Critical Stages in Biblical Counseling
Counseling Problems
Premarital Counseling
Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage
Theology and Counseling
Church Discipline
Forgiveness
Medical Issues in Counseling I and II
Marriage and Family Counseling
We are currently working on the following:
Counseling Theories and Issues Abroad in the Church Today
Legal Issues in Counseling
Counseling Women
The Christian Counselor's Casebook Studies"

http://www.nouthetic.org

Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

National Association of Nouthetic Counselors (NANC) Library
http://www.nanc.org/Resources/NANC-Library

Marriage

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)
See the Theological Notes: "The Image of God," at Genesis 1:27 in The Reformation Study Bible.
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. (Genesis 1:27)
See the Theological Notes: "Body and Soul, Male and Female" at Genesis 2:7 in The Reformation Study Bible.
See the Theological Notes: "Marriage and Divorce," at Malachi 2:16 in The Reformation Study Bible.
For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously. (Malachi 2:16).
For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 19:5-6)
John Gill commenting on Matthew 19:6
http://www.biblestudytools.com/my-bible/#/left:passage/kjv/matthew/19:6/&right:reference/commentaries/gills-exposition-of-the-bible/matthew-19-6.html
Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins.
Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another. (1 John 4:10,11)
Marriage was the last relic of paradise left among men and Jesus hasted to honour it with His first miracle. -- C.H. Spurgeon (1834-1892)
Where there is an agreement between husband and wife, in faith and the fear of the Lord, it makes way unto a blessed success in all their duties: when it is otherwise, nothing succeeds unto their comfort. -- John Owen (1616-1683)
Married couples who study the sovereignty of God together sovereignly stay together.
When husbands and wives are well yoked, how light their load becomes! -- C.H. Spurgeon (1834-1892)
Children have a tendency to imitate their parents. A man and wife who are well yoked together (Genesis 1:27; Genesis 2:7; Genesis 2:18; Genesis 2:24; Psalm 67:1,2; Matthew 19:5-6; Ephesians 5:22-30; 1 Timothy 5:8; 1 John 4:10,11), model Christ for their children.
Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it. (Psalm 127:1a)
Godly and Ungodly Marriage
A life of misery is usually the lot of those who are united in marriage, or in any other way of their own choosing, with the men of the world.
But a very fruitful source of ruin to Church members is that of a young man or a young woman choosing an ungodly partner in life. They never can expect God's blessing upon it. They tell you sometimes they hope to be the means of their friends conversion. They have no right to hope such a thing; it so seldom occurs.
Those ill-assorted unions between believers and unbelievers rob our churches of more members than any other popular delinquency that I know of. Seldom, I might say almost never, do I meet with a woman professing godliness who becomes joined in wedlock to a man of the world but what she goes away. She ceases to follow Jesus, and we hear no more of her. Absorbed in the pursuits, the passions, and the pleasures of the life that now is, she is sucked under the stream and drawn into the vortex. In the romance of her courtship, she glibly said, "I shall win him;" but, in the reality of their conjugal bonds, he could coolly say, "I have won you."
If you want to wither your happiness for ever, you have only to go and be yoked with an unbeliever. I have known some Christian women who have forgotten the divine precept, and have been married to ungodly men; and I have seen godly men married to ungodly women; and mark this, my experience has not been very long, but it has been very wide. I never knew any good to come of it.
It can never conduce to the comfort of any Christian man or woman to be unequally yoked together with an unbeliever; you had far better remain in the cold of your bachelor or spinster life than warm your hands at the fire of an unhallowed marriage.
You do, in fact, give Christ up when you take that ungodly man, and you, young man, when you seek after that Christless woman; you deny your Lord and Master; so far as you can do it, you deny him, and give him up for the sake of earthly pleasures. -- C.H. Spurgeon (1834-1892), on 2 Corinthians 6:14
God be merciful unto us, and bless us: and cause his face to shine upon us: That thy way may be known upon earth, thy saving health among all nations. (Psalm 67:1,2)
Paul's teaching on celibacy, virginity, singleness, marriage, and remarriage -- John Calvin commenting on 1 Corinthians 6:1-9 -- 1 Corinthians 7:40.
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. (Ephesians 5:31)
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. (Hebrews 13:4)
Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it. (Ephesians 5:21,22,25)
And when all things shall be subdued unto him, then shall the Son also himself be subject unto him that put all things under him, that God may be all in all. (1 Corinthians 15:28)
Many marriages have been healed by a commitment to Christ first and to each other second. -- D. James Kennedy (1930-2007) and Jerry Newcombe, What if Jesus had Never Been Born, p. 140
Prior to the Fall in the Garden of Eden man was in perfect relationship with God and with woman, a heavenly existence. After the Fall man's relationships with God and men were broken. The only way for man and wife, and family, and society to live together happily is to pursue holiness through Christ Jesus. See: The Everlasting Righteousness, or How Shall man be Just With God? Horatius Bonar.
God's promises to married persons deepens their love for each other.
As God by creation made two of one, so again by marriage He made one of two. -- Thomas Adams
Woman takes her being from man, man takes his well-being from woman. -- Thomas Adams
All history bears witness to the fact that when vital goodness is at a low ebb, the sacred institution of marriage is held in light esteem. It is both solemn and sad to behold an exemplification of the same in our own times; as the claims of God are less and less regarded by those of high and low estate alike; the holy obligations of wedlock are gradually whittled down and then increasingly disregarded. When a country, avowedly Christian, begins to tamper with the institution of marriage it is a certain proof of its ethical decadence. -- Arthur Pink (1886-1952), The Sermon on the Mount
Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates. (Proverbs 31:30,31)
Religion [holiness -- compiler] is the root of happiness. Piety has charms which abide in all their freshness when mere fleshly beauty has given place to the wrinkles of old age. May the new household be founded in prayer, built up in holiness, and crowned with the divine blessing. -- C.H. Spurgeon commenting on Proverbs 31:30,31 in Spurgeon's Devotional Bible, p. 778
He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God? (Micah 6:8)

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), A Counseling Seminar: A 12-tape [audio file], Album for Laymen and Pastors Covering the Basic Reasons, Methods and Purpose of Nouthetic Counseling as Based on the Scriptures.
Contents: Hope and counseling (3 tapes), [audio file] -- Christian forgiveness (2 tapes), [audio file] -- Change (2 tapes), [audio file] -- The husband (2 tapes), [audio file] -- The wife (2 tapes), [audio file] -- Questions and answers.
Search the series "Jay Adams Tape Library" in WorldCat (OCLC) for a listing of 21 audio tapes [audio file].

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), Effective Communication; Disabled people; Inferiority complex; Unsaved wife; Be prepared! (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette JA406 [audio file].

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), Marriage and Family Life: Purpose of Companionship, Cleaving (part 1), (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette JA401 [audio file].

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), Marriage and Family Life (part 2): Headship, Husband's Helper, Submission (part 2) (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette JA402 [audio file].

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), Marriage and Family Life (part 3): Discipline, Motivation, Good for Evil (part 3), (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette JA403 [audio file].

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), The Role of Father in the Home (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette JAR02 [audio file].

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), The Role of Husband in the Home (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette JAR01 [audio file].

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), Role-play and Critique (part 3), (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
"Wife's Husband Dies; Mother's Baby Born Deformed; Pregnant Unwed Daughter."
Audio cassette JA212 [audio file].

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), Role-play and Critique (part 4) (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
"Husband Wants Wife-Swapping."
Audio cassette JA213 [audio file].

Baxter, Richard, A Breviate of the Life of Margaret, the Daughter of Francis Charlton of Apply in Shropshire Esq.; and Wife of Richard Baxter. For the use of all, but especially of their Kindred. There is also Published the Character of her Mother, truly described in her Published Funeral Sermon. Reprinted at her Daughter's Request, called 'The Last Word of a Believer, His passing-prayer, recommending his departing Spirit to Christ, to be received by him.

*Baxter, Richard (1615-1691), A Christian Directory: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1. Full title: A Christian Directory: or A Sum of Practical Theology, and Cases of Conscience. Directing Christians how to use Their Knowledge and Faith; How to Improve all Helps and Means, and to Perform all Duties; How to Overcome Temptations, and to Escape or Mortify Every Sin. In Four Parts.
I. Christian Ethics (or Private Duties)
II. Christian Economics (or Family Duties)
III. Christian Ecclesiastics (or Church Duties)
IV. Christian Politics (or Duties to Our Rulers and Neighbours) (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 1997, 1990, 1838, 1707, 1678, 1673), ISBN: 1877611131 9781877611131. Foreword by J.I. Packer (Soli Deo Gloria edition only). The Soli Deo Gloria publication is a facsimile reprint of the 19th century reprint by George Virtue, London, 1846. The original 1673 edition and the 1678 edition, both printed by Robert White for Nevill Simmons. Bibliographic and scriptural footnotes. A Christian classic. Considered to be among the ten greatest books in the English language. Available (less the J.I. Packer's Foreword, but searchable with an OCR-based index), on the Puritan Hard Drive.
This work is available in many editions, and in many formats.
Reformation Heritage Books has new copies of the Soli Deo Gloria edition (including the J.I. Packer Introduction), as of March 2008, even though it is generally thought to be out of print. They acquired Soli Deo Gloria from Ligonier Ministries in late 2007.
The best digital format of the reprint by George Virtue is included on the Puritan Hard Drive. It has an OCR scan in the background, meaning one can search the entire volume and copy text into another document. It also has a computer generated indexed from the OCR scan which is, of course, in Baxter's vocabulary.
A PDF image scan only of the same edition is available on the Reformation Bookshelf CD #21.
The reprint by George Virtue is available online and may be downloaded in PDF format at Christian Classics Ethereal Library.
The reprint by George Virtue appears in full preview in Google Books but may not be downloaded. So it is useful if the reader wants to become acquainted with the book. Text can be searched, but can not be copied into another document. This particular Google Books scan includes the contents in detail on pages iii-xix which is not included in the Christian Classics Ethereal Library PDF files. About five other editions from libraries are available in Google Books, and may be downloaded (August 2008).
Notice that the e-text in Google Books has the advantage of being searchable. Searching an image-based PDF file (without an OCR scan in the background), is not possible, unless the user owns software such as Abode Acrobat Pro or Kirtas BookScan Editor. They both have an OCR (optical character recognition), feature that will search an image-based PDFs (bit-map scans). Searches appear to be perfect in this work, although one must know Baxter's vocabulary. Text can be cut and pasted from image-based PDF format to OCR (character) format. This particular Google Books scan can not be cut and pasted or downloaded.
One of the older, multi-volume editions of THE WORKS OF RICHARD BAXTER is available at Monergism.com in the "Puritan Library," "Richard Baxter." A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, volume 23. It can be downloaded.
http://www.puritanlibrary.com/
Another older edition is available on microfilm (Ann Arbor, MI: University Microfilms, 1970), 1 microfilm reel, 35 mm (Early English books, 1641-1700; 343:11).
"The complete practical works of Richard Baxter are in print in four volumes entitled BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS. This volume (about 1 1/4 million words, 1028 pages), is volume one of the set. The editor's preface (1707), p. xiii, stated that the works of Richard Baxter are 'perhaps the best body of practical divinity that is extent in our own or any other tongue.' Richard Baxter lived from 1615-1691. The DIRECTORY was completed in 1665. Its scope was intended to cover all of practical theology, a summa of casuistry . . ." -- Don Kistler
"Baxter's series, which grew in range and scope as it proceeded . . . is a peak point in Puritan devotional writing, and remains a precious resource for all, in this or any age, who want to know what is involved in Biblical godliness. . . . A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY may justly be described as a landmark. It is the fullest, most thorough, and in this writer's judgment, most profound treatment of Christian spirituality and standards that has ever been attempted by an English-speaking Evangelical author. The fact that it embraces both spirituality and standards (the principles of communion with God plus the specifics of obedience to God), merits approving comment in itself; nowadays spirituality and ethics have become two distinct disciplines in the schools, and books written on either say virtually nothing about the other . . ." -- J.I. Packer
Timothy Keller calls it the greatest manual on Biblical counseling ever produced.
"There are many Puritan classics on this subject. Thomas Brooks' PRECIOUS REMEDIES FOR SATAN'S DEVICES, Thomas Goodwin's A CHILD OF LIGHT WALKING IN DARKNESS, William Bridge's A LIFTING UP FOR THE DOWNCAST, and many other similar works give evidence that the Puritans were. . . . masters at applying Biblical answers and principles to problems that can only be solved by spiritual means. No Puritan work, however, has ever approached the popularity, the scope, or the depth of Baxter's classic treatise. With the widespread interest in counseling in today's church, this reprint of Baxter's work should be a welcome addition to every pastor's library, or to anyone else who wishes to give solid Biblical answers to man's questions." -- Don Kistler
"We have long waited for a purely Biblical treatment of the spiritual ills and cures of men which is untainted by the views of psychology. Since Baxter lived about 200 years before psychology arrived, his deep work is completely void of its encroachment -- thankfully!" -- John MacArthur
"The kings men sought to arrest Richard Baxter, but he traveled ceaselessly from place to place, writing his sermons and his books even on horseback (he had an inkwell in his saddle), and preached over a wide area." -- Brian H. Edwards
"Baxter was a wonder of his age. His writings total 72 large volumes, much of it written on horseback as he traveled in his widespread preaching efforts. He seldom, if ever, edited anything he wrote. Knowing this any reader will be amazed at how well he communicated his deep love for his Savior. For 26 years he was public enemy No. 1 to the king, yet he lived to see the flight of the king in 1688." -- Jay P. Green, Sr. (1918-2008)
POOR MAN'S FAMILY BOOK (1674) and THE CATECHIZING OF FAMILIES (1683), are less detailed works and are found in THE REFORMED PASTOR: BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 4. They are more suitable for family instruction than are the detailed presentation in A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY.
"Ptacek in FAMILY WORSHIP: BIBLICAL BASIS, HISTORICAL REALITY, CURRENT NEED (pp. 51-52), supplies the following information in regard to Baxter and this book. He notes that after the Episcopalians ejected numerous 'nonconformists,' in what is know as the 'great ejection,' in 1662, 'Baxter pastored from house to house, visiting families of his parish in their homes. These visits contributed to Baxter's A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, a large and still very relevant manual of pastoral care.' Focusing on just one area of great importance, Ptacek demonstrates how this book's relevance is not limited by time or culture, though sometimes the use of specific words are. 'Published in 1673, but written 1664-65, a large book-length part of Baxter's CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY is devoted to the family. It is entitled 'Christian Economics' based on the archaic usage of the word, which reflects the proper sense of the Greek root oikonomos as the manager of a household, in the Christian case, the spiritual leader of the family. The family head is essential to Baxter's view of family worship and instruction. Baxter asserts that it is God's will that this instruction be carried out by the rulers of the families.' For a male head of the household to fail to do so, or to have another instruct in the family, is contrary to his position of authority.' This is the kind of book that can be passed on from generation to generation and still find much use in the service of the kingdom of God.
"Though relatively weak on corporate sanctification, corporate faithfulness and some important areas of doctrine (such as justification), Baxter's work on subjects related to personal piety can be of good practical use to the Christian -- if one is careful to separate out his aberrant doctrinal views and any practical errors they may lead to." -- Publisher
The following three excerpts are included as bonus free books on Reformation Bookshelf CD #28.
1. "The Duties of Parents for Their Children" from BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 1, A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, on Christian Economics, Chap. X., pp. 449-454.
2. "The Special Duties of Children Towards Their Parents" from BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 1, A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, on Christian Economics, Chap. XI., pp. 454-457.
3. "The Special Duties of Children and Youth Towards God" from BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 1, A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, on Christian Economics, Chap. XII., pp. 457-458).
A summary of currently (2012) available publications.
http://www.lettermen2.com/pwrbcd.html
Richard Baxter, from Wikipedia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Richard_Baxter

Baxter, Richard (1615-1691), The Poor Man's Family Book: 1. Teaching him how to Become a True Christian, 2. How to Live as a Christian, Towards God, Himself and Others, in all his Relations, Especially in His Family, 3. How to die as a Christian in Hope and Comfort, and so to be Glorified With Christ for Ever: In Plain Familiar Conferences Between a Teacher and a Learner. Available in THE REFORMED PASTOR: BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 4.

*Baxter, Richard, The Reformed Pastor: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 4, ISBN: 1877611360. A Christian classic.
"This is the fourth and final volume in this great set. Includes, 'Compassionate Counsel to all Young men,' 'The Reformed Pastor,' 'Poor Man's Family Book,' 'The Catechizing of Families,' and 'The Mother's Catechism,' in all 25 sermons, treatises, and catechisms. Dr. J.I. Packer says, 'For me, the great joy of this year is that it see the completion of Soli Deo Gloria's reprint of Baxter's incomparable PRACTICAL WORKS'." -- GCB
Richard Baxter, from Wikipedia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Richard_Baxter
Compassionate Counsel to all Young men (1681), by Richard Baxter
http://www.lettermen2.com/ccaym.html

Beeke, Joel, Calling of a Christian Husband, (MP3), [audio file]. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.

Beeke, Joel, Calling of a Christian Wife, (MP3), [audio file]. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.

Berry, Jo, How to Live With an Unbeliever, ISBN: 0310426227 9780310426226.
"This little booklet of 60 pages is excerpted from the author's BELOVED UNBELIEVER. Basic scriptural principles are used to show wives of unbelievers how to be a good 'helper,' act on 1 Peter 3, deal with decision making, raise children in the Lord, and love their husbands into the kingdom." -- GCB

Bilezikian, Gilbert, Beyond Sex Roles: A Guide for the Study of Female Roles in the Bible, ISBN: 0801008859 9780801008856.

Bouma, Mary LaGrand, Creative Homemaker, ISBN: 087123078X 9780871230782.

Defoe, Daniel, The Family-instructor. In Three Parts; I. Relating to Fathers and Children. II. To Masters and Servants. III. To Husbands and Wives. 4th edition, 1717, 2 volumes.

Ellis, Charles, and Norma Ellis, Heirs Together of Life: Daily Bible Readings for Husbands and Wives, ISBN: 0851513115 9780851513119.
"Short discussions on almost 200 passages from the Bible, Genesis through Revelation in sequence. Each selection is related to marriage and the home. Designed as a devotional to be used by husband and wife together." -- GCB

*Gill, John (1697-1771), Exposition of the Book of Solomon's Song: Commonly Called Canticles: Wherein the Authority of it is Established and Vindicated, Against Objections Both Ancient and Modern.
"A full, devotional, typological exposition in which the writer stresses the relationship of Christ to the believer. Originally published in 1776." -- Cyril J. Barber

Grimm, Robert, Love and Sexuality.
"A Biblically sound view of sex and marriage." -- Cyril J. Barber

*Guernsey, Dennis B., Thoroughly Married.
"A clear delineation of the way in which a proper understanding of the Bible's teaching on marriage contributes toward the development of a stable life-style, a healthier sex life, and a happier home." -- Cyril J. Barber

*Hardisty, Margaret, Forever my Love: What Every man Should Know About his Wife, ISBN: 0890810117 9780890810118.
"Excellent book for husbands on learning to live with their wives in understanding." -- Robert B. Somerville

Harris, J. Gordon, Biblical Perspectives on Aging: God and the Elderly, ISBN: 9780789035370 0789035375.
"The elderly are frequently an embarrassment to their children who do not know what to do with them. Often the responsibility for their care is placed upon one family member or they are placed in a retirement home. This book will be an important reference work and resource guide for those who seek a connection between the Biblical text and the needs of their parents." -- Cyril J. Barber

Hunt, Angela Everett, Loving Someone Else's Child, ISBN: 0842338632 9780842338639.
"Angela Hunt and her husband, Gary, are two of the most sensitive and caring people I know. Angie's book is written out of her own experience and is much needed in our fractured culture. It will be a blessing to all in need of assurance that parenting is more than biology." -- Cal Thomas

Hurley, James B., Christ as the Husband, The Church as the Bride.

Hurley, James B., Headship and Submission in Ephesians 5.

Hurley, James B., Women's Role in the Church, MP3 [audio file] (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).

*Kennedy, D. James (1930-2007), Learning to Live With the People you Love, ISBN: 0883681900 9780883681909.
Love "is sharing life together in a way that brings glory to God and enriches the lives of every family member."
Dr. Kennedy says no book he has written has brought so many comments as this one.
Read this in conjunction with Dr. Kennedy's 6-message audio cassette [audio file], series "Secrets of Successful Marriages," the audio cassette [audio file], message "Why Some Marriages Fail and Others Succeed," and the 4-message audio cassette [audio file], series "The Christian Marriage Series."

*Knight, George W., and Wayne A. Grudem, The Role Relationship of men and Women: New Testament Teaching, ISBN: 0802473695 9780802473691.
"One of the best works of its kind. Treats all the New Testament passages that perplex modern minds. Because so much confusion has arisen over whether or not kephale means 'source' or 'authority,' an appendix by Wayne Grundem has been added in which that issue is discussed at length. . . ." -- Cyril J. Barber
Contains material useful in counseling.

*Lloyd-Jones, David Martyn (1899-1981), Life in the Spirit in Marriage, Home and Work: An Exposition of Ephesians 5:18 -- 6:9 [Ephesians 5:18 -- Ephesians 6:9], ISBN: 080105799X 9780801057991.

Mack, Wayne, Developing Deeper Unity in Marriage (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation),
A series of six audio CDs, MP3s [audio file].

*Mack, Wayne, How to Develop Deep Unity in the Marriage Relationship: A how to Manual for Christian Growth and Development. Alternate title: STRENGTHENING YOUR MARRIAGE, and ONE PLUS ONE EQUALS ONE, ISBN: 0875523331 9780875523330.
"Eight units cover the basics of marital unity: God's purpose for marriage; wife's responsibilities; husband's responsibilities; communication; finances; sex; raising children; family religion. Each chapter has about 10 pages of outlined teaching followed by Bible study, self-analysis, and personalized response and application." -- David Powlison (1949-2019)
"A manual to be used by husband and wife together. Step-by-step lessons, with appropriate exercises, take a couple through all the important scriptural aspects of marriage. Extremely helpful . . . very practical." Three units of this work are now available. Contains material useful in counseling.

Mack, Wayne, Strengthening Your Marriage. Alternate title: HOW TO DEVELOP DEEP UNITY IN THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP: A HOW TO MANUAL FOR CHRISTIAN GROWTH AND DEVELOPMENT, ISBN: 0875523331 9780875523330.
"Eight units cover the basics of marital unity: God's purpose for marriage; wife's responsibilities; husband's responsibilities; communication; finances; sex; raising children; family religion. Each chapter has about 10 pages of outlined teaching followed by Bible study, self-analysis, and personalized response and application."

Mack, Wayne A., and Strengthening Ministries International, Counseling Observations, 2002, DVD series (Strengthening Ministries International [Center Valley, PA]), distributed by Audubon Press, Laurel, MS.

Mack, Wayne A., and Strengthening Ministries International, Child Abuse, Marriage, Depression, Financial Problems, Depression, 2 DVDs.
Mack, Wayne A., and Strengthening Ministries International, Marital Relations, Conflict, Communications, Blended Family Issues: Session 1-2 of 6, DVD.
Mack, Wayne A., and Strengthening Ministries International, Drunkenness and Marriage, 2 DVDs.
Mack, Wayne A., and Strengthening Ministries International, Depression, anxiety, panic attacks, bad theology, 2 DVDs.
Wayne Mack conducts five counseling sessions focused on the following: depression, anxiety, panic attacks, and bad theology.

Miles, Herbert Jackson, Sexual Happiness in Marriage.
"Ranks as one of the most practical and helpful treatments on the subject. Examines attitudes and techniques essential to sexual harmony and happiness in marriage, and provides needful correctives to some of the abuses of marriage." -- Cyril J. Barber

Miles, Herbert Jackson, and Fern Harrington Miles, Husband-Wife Equality, ISBN: 0800709063 9780800709068.

Miller, C. John (1928-1996), Husband and Father as Spiritual Leader (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).

Miller, C. John (1928-1996), The Puritan Style of Love and Marriage, (part 1 and 2), [audio file]. Available from the Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation.

Miller, C. John (1928-1996), The Role of Woman in the Home (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation),
World Harvest Mission
http://www.whm.org/home.htm

*Murray, John (1898-1975), Principles of Conduct, ISBN: 0802811442 9780802811448.
"This is a far-ranging book with a recurring emphasis on the majestic moral demands of Scripture and the relation of the Gospel to those demands. Scripture teaching is lucidly brought to bear on vital ethical issues such as marriage, work as a calling, capital punishment, the sanctity of truth, and the fear of God. Undoubtedly this is the foremost contemporary book in the field." -- William J. Grier

Piper, Otto A., The Biblical View of Sex and Marriage.
"After discussing the Biblical view of sex, the writer proceeds to elaborate on the standards which he deems to be necessary for an adequate sexual life. He then discusses the objectives of marriage in the light of the Scriptures." -- Cyril J. Barber

Price, Greg L., Christian Education in the Home: Help! My Daughter Wants to Date, 25 pages. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #11.
"Contrasts the non-covenantal pagan view of dating with the covenantal Christian view of Biblical courtship. Shows how the world has insidiously invaded the church (through music, TV, movies, godless public education, etc.), and how this has impacted the raising of our children. Includes a lengthy list of questions for interviewing prospective suitors and an appendix on the Biblical role of women. A very practical, unique item, laying the foundation for blessed biblical marriages." -- Publisher
See also: Price, Greg L., Dating or Courtship: Which is Biblical? (1/2), [audio file]. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.

Price, Greg L., Dating or Courtship: Which is Biblical? (1/2), [audio file]. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.

*Price, Greg L., Peacemakers at war With sin, audio cassette [audio file]. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
"Focusing on Matthew 5:9, Blessed are the peacemakers, Price demonstrate what this portion of Scripture means by contrasting it with what it does not mean. Using this 'Turretin-like' method of proclaiming the truth some surprising results are often mined from God's Word, and this sermon is no exception. Special attention is given to marriage and family relationships, but how this verity applies to the church and the state is also covered -- the United Nations receiving its share of scathing rebukes for the false, anti-Christian peace it promotes. Mere external 'peace' and 'obedience' are condemned as Price sets his sights on promoting classic Puritan experimental heart Christianity. Showing that true peace only consists in reconciliation based on God's truth, the peacemaker's Scripture refers to are often judged by the carnal and disaffected to be the greatest troublemakers -- the Lord Jesus Christ being the prime example. He hated and fought against idolatry, covenant breaking and all other violations of God's law (as the greatest peacemaker that ever lived), to such an extent that those who desired the peace of the world tortured and murdered him. Prophets and wise men since have often fared no better in seeking to set forth the only true peace. Biblical peace is not based on compromise, pragmatism or the removal of Biblical (Reformation) landmarks, it is seen in this sermon to be based on truth and faithfulness. Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God (James 4:4). Heresy, the false ecumenical movement of mystery Babylon, Calvin on schism, unity and numerous other points are all addressed. Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid." (John 14:27) -- Publisher
Peacemakers at war With sin
http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?SID=101005105926

Price, Greg L., The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family, an ongoing MP3 [audio file] and video series. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22.

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#1) "The Divine Institution of Marriage."
The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#2) "Preparing for Marriage 1/2," contains advanced teaching on courtship.
The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#3) "Preparing for Marriage 2/2," contains advanced teaching on courtship.
The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#4) "Husband's Role and Duty 1/2"
The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#5) "Husband's Role and Duty 2/2"
The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#6) "Wife's Role and Duty 1/2"
The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#7) "Wife's Role and Duty 2/2"

Price, Greg L., Wives and Biblical Submission, [audio file]. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
"The Covenanter view of authority and submission set forth with special application to husbands and wives. Directed primarily to the ladies of the covenant (but containing a good deal of exhortation to husbands), this is about as practical a sermon as you will hear. There was good reason why Puritan families were so strong and why divorce was unheard of among these Calvinists; much of it (as the listener will certainly notice), can be traced back to what Price sets forth in this sermon. If you desire a godly family and a marriage relationship analogous to that which Christ enjoys with his bride (the church), you will be pleased with the strong, uncompromising (and yet loving), biblical stand set forth here. A Price classic!" -- Publisher

Poythress V., Marriage and Singleness; Marriage (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette VP105 [audio file].

*Rogers, Daniel, Matrimonial Honor, 1642, ISBN: 9781936473007 1936473003. Retypeset and modernized.
"This rare Puritan treatise on marriage is finally back in print after over 350 years. The great importance of godly marriages is emphasized by Daniel Rogers. 'Marriage is the preservative of chastity, the seminary of the commonwealth, seed-plot of the church, pillar (under God) of the world, right-hand of providence, supporter of laws, states, orders, offices, gifts, and services: the glory of peace, the sinews of war, the maintenance of policy, the life of the dead, the solace of the living, the ambition of virginity, the foundation of countries, cities, universities, succession of families, crowns, and kingdoms; truly (besides the being of these) it is the wellbeing of them being made, and whatsoever is excellent in them, or any other thing, the very furniture of heaven (in a kind) depending thereupon.'
"Rogers begins the treatise by showing that marriage is honorable. He then instructs the reader on what is necessary for a good entrance into marriage. It is necessary that one marries in the Lord and that there is aptness and suitableness to the match. Rogers then digresses to handle two points, which are consent of parents and the marriage contract. Returning to the main point of the treatise, he discusses three joint duties of the married, which are unity in religion, chastity, and mutual consent. Rogers then proceeds to handle the respective duties of the husband and the wife. Starting with the husband, he instructs the husband in three duties, namely, that he should be a man of understanding, providence, and given to honor and respect his wife. He then handles the reflective duties of the wife in response to the three duties of the husband. Her subjection to her husband is a response to his understanding. The helpfulness of the wife is in response to the husband's providence. Finally, the husband's giving of honor or respect to the wife is reflected back on him by the wife's gracefulness. Rogers has added a lengthy appendix to the treatise regarding God's terrible judgments against the defilers of marriage, with sundry means and counsels to pursue chastity." -- Publisher

Swindoll, Charles R., Commitment: The key to Marriage, ISBN: 0930014650 9780930014650.
Contains material useful in counseling.
We believe that desirelessness on the part of both man and woman are also an important ingredient to successful marriages.
But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.
Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death. (James 1:14,15)

Talley, James, and Leslie H. Stobbe, Reconcilable Differences: Mending Broken Relationships, ISBN: 0840731965 9780840731968.
"Designed to help troubled couples regain harmony through understanding. Points the way to defusing areas of conflict, and recommends steps that will help couples rekindle lost love and reestablish lost unity. Recommended." -- Cyril J. Barber
"Is it possible for a couple whose marriage is in serious trouble or a couple who is already divorced to restore harmony -- and even love -- to their relationship? Jim Talley believes it is. RECONCILABLE DIFFERENCES shows why reconciliation is worth the effort and provides practical, biblical advice on how to resolve conflicts and develop a relationship based on mutual love, respect, and trust." -- Publisher

Vincent, Thomas (1634-1678), and Don Kistler, The Good Work Begun in the day of Grace Performed Until the day of Christ: With, Christ the Best Husband, an Invitation to Young Women Unto Christ, and The Best Gift, God's Call Upon Young men for Their Hearts, ISBN: 1573580821 9781573580823.

Welch, Edward T., Co-Dependency (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF34 [audio file].

Welch, Edward T., When People are big and God is Small: Overcoming Peer Pressure, Codependency, and the Fear of Man, ISBN: 0875526004 9780875526003.
"Overly concerned about what people think of you? Welch uncovers the spiritual dimension of people-pleasing and points the way through a true knowledge of God, ourselves, and others." -- Publisher

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Couples: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion, ISBN: 1558197133 9781558197138.

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Men: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion, ISBN: 080549328X 9780805493283.

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Moms: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion, ISBN: 1558197117 9781558197114.

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Newlyweds: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion (Bible Promises to Treasure), ISBN: 0805493913 9780805493917.

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Parents, ISBN: 1558197125 9781558197121.

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Women: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion, ISBN: 0805493298 9780805493290.

See also: The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, The doctrine of man (human nature, total depravity), Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justification, Justifying faith, Men, women, and god, Friendship, Happiness, holiness, Christ our example, Affliction, adversity, trials, suffering, chastisement, Ecclesiastes, Husband not a believer (women), Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Spiritual adultery (spiritual whoredom/harlotry), Idolatry, syncretism, Sexual wholeness, Slavery, our systems of enslavement, economic enslavement, Carnality and flesh pleasing: lust, desires, ambition, Gratuitous sex, a cause of violence, Reconciliation of relationships, Communication, Problem solving in marriage, Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justifying faith, Forgiveness, Marital counseling, Biblical counsel by subject, Counseling the family, Husband not a believer, The fatherhood of god, Works of Jay Adams, Abuse, Adultery, Divorce, Family, Love and counseling problems, Men and Women, Parenting, Feminism, Pseudo-christian movements: a selection of works, Secret Societies and Ungodly Alliance, Classic christian fiction by martha finley, and so forth and so on.
TCRB5: 381, 735, 1620-1628, 2255-2257, 2986, 3036, 3233, 3733, 3861, 3862, 3875, 3877, 4071

Related Weblinks

The Cost of Raising a Child in America: $241,080, August 15, 2013
It has been said that if a man and woman are not willing to accept the responsibilities of raising children, then they should not marry.
"The costs of raising a child from birth to age 17, including housing, food, clothing, health care, education, and other expenses, will come to $241,080 for a child born in 2012 [a college education not included -- compiler], up 2.6 percent from the year before, according to new data released by the Department of Agriculture. The annual cost for a child in a middle-income, two-parent family ranges from $12,600 to $14,700."
http://thinkprogress.org/economy/2013/08/15/2471981/cost-of-raising-a-child/

*Has Christianity Failed You? an interview of Ravi Zacharias with Danielle DuRant
"There are an awful lot of Christians walking around these days who are disappointed with their faith. They've been hurt by the church or other believers and it's affected their walk with God."
Includes rare, frank, and wise commentary on the institution of marriage.
"DD: You have spoken of this parenthesis, and you speak of three tensions in the book that leave many feeling that Christianity has failed them. One such tension is the longing for sexual fulfillment. You write, 'If marital consummation is an act of worship, and if the ultimate seduction is false worship, I would dare suggest that those who are longing for a relationship of touch and intimacy -- that lesser act of worship which is marriage -- seek the greater form of worship until the day they can legitimately participate in sexual love.' Why is the single person who is longing for marriage seen as not seeking this greater form of worship because they are also seeking the lesser form, when the married person has also longed for and is now even participating in this lesser form of worship?
"RZ: I think this must be viewed from at least three different lenses. The first lens is an understanding of what consummate relationships are and what they're not. I dare say that people who enjoy this intimacy sometimes fall into the trap of enjoying the feeling and ignoring the cost. I have met many women trapped in a wrong relationship who have told me, as crass as this may sound, that the men who seek them out are more often than not someone who has already experienced sex legitimately and then seeks for it in stolen waters. But I'll tell you, the moment the human body experiences this kind of relationship, the seduction is to have the experience without having to pay the cost. Yet it is the cost -- namely, commitment -- that actually preserves the emotional side of the relationship. If there is no commitment, the feeling is merely physical, and the emotion that gives the relationship value ultimately dies. Sex is not just a feeling; it is a commitment, which, when properly expressed, preserves the feeling. If it is improperly expressed, the feeling will die, and the person becomes diminished in the process. The second lens is an understanding of what marriage is and what marriage offers to you. This may sound shocking, but marriage is not what it's cracked up to be. In fact, I know many young people who, having observed their parents' marriages, will say they are reluctant to become married themselves. I think that marriage has suffered an awful lot because of all the false images and expectations of marriage placed before us. This may be unpopular to say, but the exhaustion of a professional life drains marriage. You cannot serve two masters. Adrenaline keeps us moving throughout the day as we work, whether it's selling shirts or automobiles or computers. When the adrenaline rush is over and you go home to your spouse and children (if you have any), there is little left in your tank to be able to give your family, and it becomes harder and harder to fulfill the obligations of marriage. And when both partners in a marriage work outside the home, the toll on the marriage is twice as great. The third lens is an understanding that this longing of sexual fulfillment is a God-planted desire in us. And with fleeting time it becomes a fleeting hope. The unrequited God-given longing for this kind of relationship is, I believe, and I say this carefully, one of the most difficult crosses to bear. This is not the Calvary you want. You find yourself asking God if there is any way to be spared from the ache of this longing and to receive the companionship you see so many others enjoying. Of course, marriage goes beyond the consummate relationship of the physical side; it means caring, cherishing, and loving. This should be what you are ultimately craving. To that person I say, as painful and perhaps flippant as it may sound, just as others who face other unmet desires, you have to learn to receive the strength from the Lord to crucify that desire and make Jesus Christ the focus of your desire to be cared for, cherished, and loved -- because only he can ultimately meet this desire, even if you are married. It's a little bit like doing a puzzle. You've got only three pieces missing out of five hundred, but you just can't make it all come together. I just say, as F.W. Boreham does, that this longing for the legitimate expression of sexual love is one of those painful things that is easier borne by a person who has never experienced it than by the one who daily lives with this sense of loss. In other words, the emotions that are part of this longing cannot be fully understood by one who has not experienced it for whatever reason.
"DD: You've expressed that in any intimate relationship there will be times of distance or even a sense of dryness. So perhaps we ought not to be surprised when we feel this in our relationship with God. What do you do during times of spiritual dryness? Are there particular authors, books, sermons, or disciplines that you turn to when you feel the passion that you long for just isn't there?
"RZ: If there is anybody who has not experienced what you have described, I really want to touch them. It's not only a common thing; it can be a frequent thing. It's like C.S. Lewis's Screwtape telling the junior devil, 'Encourage their horror of the Same Old Thing.' I think that's actually what's happened to the West right now. We've heard the gospel so much that we're experiencing the horror of the same old thing. So we buy into nonsensical notions that are actually bizarre while sounding sophisticated. They don't make any sense, but they come with mystical, new terminology, and we are wowed by them. This is why, by the way, I think people church-hop. There are no more unexpected moments at the church they've been going to, and all of a sudden, it's the same old thing -- and so they move on to something new. The human ability to remain firm in our convictions and commitments is very, very limited. That's why I think good reading, good viewing, and good friendships are good places in which to find renewal. There are so many considerations to the dryness we may experience at any given time. You may not feel well, or you may be tired -- all of this takes its toll on you. Sometimes a lack of discipline or a lack of perseverance may well be because of lack of sleep. It could be your mind, your body, is tired, and you need a vacation. You may have become stagnant because your reading material is not helping your growth process. Reading a variety of authors is a good way to light a new spark within you. I love reading biographies. I love reading authors whose language is outstanding because they quicken the imagination by just the right turn of phrase. Sometimes all it takes is one phrase to turn your life around. You have to have variety in your devotional life, in your relational life, in your church life. And it is important to remain balanced -- to keep physically healthy, to keep your viewing life enchanted so that you're looking at the right things. That's one advantage I have in my life: I'm in new places so often that I experience an enormous array of God's diversity."
https://www.rzim.org/read/just-thinking-magazine/has-christianity-failed-you

*Marriage (FGB #200)
The Excellence of Marriage, Pink, A.W. (1886-1952) | Mutual Duties of Husbands and Wives, James, John Angell (1785-1859) | A Husband's Love for his Wife, Steele, Richard (1629-1692) | A Wife's Respect for her Husband, Steele, Richard (1629-1692) | Duties That Preserve Marriage, Gouge, William (1578-1653) | Thoughts on Finding a Marriage Partner, James, John Angell (1785-1859) | The Marriage of the Lamb, Spurgeon, C.H. (1834-1892)
https://www.chapellibrary.org/book/marrfg/marriage

Reformed Presbyterian Theological Seminary
For the work of C. John Miller (1928-1996).
http://71.182.134.18:82/

Richard Baxter, from Wikipedia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Richard_Baxter

Why Sex is the Best Argument for Creation (and Against Evolution)
"I'm referring to everything from that first moment of attraction between a man and a woman, to the complementary anatomical structures and organs that work so well together, to the millions of interactions that happen on the physical/hormonal/emotional levels, to the love and pleasure of two people becoming one flesh, to cells smaller than the head of a pin contributing 1.5 billion letters of DNA each in order to form a new 3 billion-letter blueprint, to the nonstop application of that genome as it rapidly develops into over 20 trillion cells and 200 types of tissue and hundreds of organs and meters of blood vessels all interacting together, to the final moment a fully-functioning, crying, squirming baby emerges from its mother 6,480 hours later."
https://isgenesishistory.com/why-sex-is-the-best-argument-for-creation-against-evolution/

Family Worship and Devotions

God be merciful unto us, and bless us: and cause his face to shine upon us: That thy way may be known upon earth, thy saving health among all nations. (Psalm 67:1,2)
But as for me [Joshua] and my house, we will serve the LORD. (Joshua 24:15b)
In everything give thanks; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus. (1 Thessalonians 5:18)
See the Theological Notes: "The Christian Family," at Ephesians 5:22 in The Reformation Study Bible.
See the Theological Notes: "Body and Soul, Male and Female" at Genesis 2:7 in The Reformation Study Bible.
See the Theological Notes: "The Fall" at Genesis 3:6 in The Reformation Study Bible.
See the Theological Notes: "God's Covenant of Grace" at Genesis 12:1 in The Reformation Study Bible.
See the Theological Notes: "The Greatness of God," at 1 Chronicles 29:11 in The Reformation Study Bible.
Thine, O Lord is the greatness, and the power, and the glory, and the victory, and the majesty: for all that is in the heaven and in the earth is thine; thine is the kingdom, O Lord, and thou art exalted as head above all. (1 Chronicles 29:11)
He is the fountain and centre of every thing that is bright and blessed. All that we can, in our most exalted praises, attribute to him he has an unquestionable title to. His is the greatness; his greatness is immense and incomprehensible; and all others are little, are nothing, in comparison of him. His is the power, and it is almighty and irresistible; power belongs to him, and all the power of all the creatures is derived from him and depends upon him. His is the glory; for his glory is his own end and the end of the whole creation. All the glory we can give him with our hearts, lips, and lives, comes infinitely short of what is his due. His is the victory; he transcends and surpasses all, and is able to conquer and subdue all things to himself; and his victories are incontestable and uncontrollable. And his is the majesty, real and personal; with him is terrible majesty, inexpressible and inconceivable. . . . His sovereign dominion, as rightful owner and possessor of all: "All that is in the heaven, and in the earth, is thine, and at thy disposal, by the indisputable right of creation, and as supreme ruler and commander of all: thine is the kingdom, and all kings are thy subjects; for thou art head, and art to be exalted and worshipped as head above all." -- Matthew Henry (1662-1714), An Exposition of the Old and New Testaments
Family reformation is the easiest and the most likely way to a common reformation; at least to send many souls to heaven and train up multitudes for God, if it reach not to national reformation. -- Richard Baxter (1615-1691)
"The practice of family worship has done more for comprehensive Reformation than any other means available to man."
Be sure that you keep up family religion; especially in the careful education of youth. Read the Scriptures and good books, and call upon God, and sing his praise; and recreate youth with reading the history of the church, and the lives of holy men and martyrs: instruct them in catechisms and fundamentals. . . . Above all, live in love to God and man. -- Richard Baxter (1615-1691)
Family worship was also, to the Puritans, vitally important. Every home should be a church, with the head of the house as its minister. Daily and indeed twice daily, the Puritans recommended, the family as a family should hear the word read, and pray to God. Sunday by Sunday, the family should seek to pool the profiting of its members from the public ordinances; day by day, its members should seek to encourage each other in the way of God. Parents must teach their children the Scriptures; all members of the household must be given time and a place to pray. Thus, informally, but conscientiously, the worship and service of God in the home must be carried on. -- J.I. Packer
As to your families, O shine as lights there; lay out your talents as many ways as they may possibly be improvable for the good of all about you, especially those under your guardianship and charge, Exodus 20:10. By this the power of godliness must be discovered in you, and begotten and kept alive in them. The Jews have a tradition, that the fire of the altar was miraculously preserved under-ground, during the Babylonish captivity. I am sure this is the way to preserve religion alive, now the public ordinary means are ceased. Precepts are not wanting to enforce this duty upon you; Deuteronomy 4:9,10 -- 6:6,7 [Deuteronomy 6:6,7]; Exodus 12:24,26,27; Joshua 4:6,7,21,22; Psalm 78:5,6; Proverbs 22:6; Ephesians 6:4 nor yet worthy examples to encourage to it; Genesis 18:19; 1 Chronicles 28:9; Proverbs 31:20; 2 Timothy 3:15; 2 John 1,4. Aquila and Priscilla had a church in their house, 1 Corinthians 16:19. Nymphas and Philemon in theirs, Colossians 4:15, Philemon 2. "Hence it is, saith Davenant on the place, that the apostle sends a special salutation to them, by name; because of their singular piety which manifested itself in their family government." And indeed, how fresh and glorious a remembrance in the scriptures have those worthy saints unto this day, and so shall have, where-ever the gospel is preached, unto the end of the world, who have burned with an holy zeal, not only to offer up themselves, but their families also unto God! David well understood how near this duty lay to the heart of religion, when he puts his soul under the bond of such a solemn engagement to the Lord, Psalm 101:2. It doth not a little affect me to read what a learned man observes of the Jews; "Although religion be miserably deformed among them, yet it seems there are some prints of their ancient family-discipline to this day, remaining among them; for (saith he) they are so careful to teach their children in their tender years, the law, and books of Moses, and after that their Talmudica traditions, as that their skill in Judaism at 17, exceeds the knowledge of many among us in Christianity at 70." Nay, the very Jesuits boast themselves, the grand conservators of the Romish religion, in that they are catechizers. Oh let this provoke Christians! we see how light breaks out more and more in every age; as Luther said, "I see more than blessed Austin [Augustine] saw; and they that come after me will see more than I see." And we have great hopes and expectations of the young generation, that they may enter into the good land, though we should die in this wilderness, O then let us labour to prepare and make them ready for the Lord; and that not only by instructing them in the principles of religion in a catechistical way, (though that be an ordinance of God, and of singular use in its kind) but by endeavoring to the utmost, by counsels, persuasions, prayers for, and with them, to have the power of godliness wrought in their hearts, to travail with them, again in pain, till Christ be formed in them. And to this duty, these arguments among many others, may persuade. -- John Flavel (1627-1691)
There is a family in this state in which the Scriptures have been read daily for more than a quarter of a century, and in this reading the children have been interested, one after another, from the time they were old enough to speak. The father, to secure this interest, and make the service pleasant to each child, has practiced pausing here and there in the chapter, and asking this or that child to repeat the last words or lines read, selecting the easiest words for the youngest child, and perhaps asking of an older child an exposition of a verse or phrase. In this way, the constant attention of each child is secured, as neither the oldest or youngest is willing to lose a sentence, lest he should be called upon to repeat it, and not be able. -- The Christian Observer, 38.40 (6 Oct. 1859), pg. 1. Originally published in The New York Examiner
All Christians employ themselves in David's Psalms more frequently than in any other part of the Old or New Testament. The grace of the Holy Ghost hath so ordered it that they should be sung every night and day . . . Many who know not a letter can say David's Psalms by heart. . . . where men converse with God, David is the first, the midst, and the last. -- Chrysostom

*Alexander, James W. (1804-1859), Family Worship: A Biblical Duty, 1847. Alternate title: THOUGHTS ON FAMILY WORSHIP, ISBN: 1573580813 9781573580816. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22.
First printed in 1847 by the Presbyterian Board of Education.
"No minister in our church was a more accomplished scholar. The pulpit was his appropriate sphere." -- Charles Hodge
"It would be almost impossible to overemphasis the importance of daily family worship. It is a blessed privilege for those who have known it as children and/or adults. It is foundational to any lasting revival or reformation. It is a duty commanded by God in Scripture, and to neglect it is, without a doubt, sinful. The Westminster Divines made it clear, in their amazing Directory for Family Worship, that obstinacy in the sin of neglecting family worship should lead where there are faithful elders to the head of the offending house being 'suspended and debarred from the Lord's supper.' This book gives the nature, warrant, and history of family worship in easy to read large print." -- Publisher
"The author's goal is 'extending the domestic worship of God's people and especially in arousing the children of the covenant to honor the God of their fathers.' To fulfill this purpose, Alexander traces family worship from Eden on through the Old and New Testaments and church history. The universal voice of the Church, in its best periods, has been in favor of family worship. . . .' He demonstrates that family worship is a means of intellectual improvement: 'True piety improves the understanding. . . .' " -- Robert H. Duvall

*Alexander, James W. (1804-1859), Family Worship: Its Influence Over all of Life. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22.
"Some have postulated that the Reformation would have fizzled out in no time had it not been for the faithful men who led their families in daily worship. Nothing is more calculated to enhanced and abet all other spiritual duties than daily family worship. It will curtail divorce and domestic violence, both of which were unheard of among the Puritans because of their love for the use of the means of grace within this setting, and help lead many individuals and ultimately nations to Christ. This book covers the influence of family worship on the individual piety of parents and children. It shows it to be a means of intellectual improvement and a bond of domestic harmony and love. Men, if you really want to change the world, start with your own immediate sphere of influence and responsibility. Preparing your own heart before the Lord and instituting daily family worship will do more good than most can imagine! This is your commanded duty." -- Publisher

*Alexander, James W. (1804-1859), and B.M. Palmer, The Family in its Civil and Churchly Aspects: An Essay in two Parts, 2 volumes, 551 pages. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available (Alexander and Palmer), on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22, 25.
"If you are interest in family matters, you will look long and hard to find a book that matches this one. It is actually two books bound under one cover. Palmer's THE FAMILY, IN ITS CIVIL AND CHURCHLY ASPECTS (1876) and Alexander's THOUGHTS ON FAMILY WORSHIP (1847)." -- Publisher

*Baxter, Richard (1615-1691), A Christian Directory: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1. Full title: A Christian Directory: or A Sum of Practical Theology, and Cases of Conscience. Directing Christians how to use Their Knowledge and Faith; How to Improve all Helps and Means, and to Perform all Duties; How to Overcome Temptations, and to Escape or Mortify Every Sin. In Four Parts.
I. Christian Ethics (or Private Duties)
II. Christian Economics (or Family Duties)
III. Christian Ecclesiastics (or Church Duties)
IV. Christian Politics (or Duties to Our Rulers and Neighbours) (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 1997, 1990, 1838, 1707, 1678, 1673), ISBN: 1877611131 9781877611131. Foreword by J.I. Packer (Soli Deo Gloria edition only). The Soli Deo Gloria publication is a facsimile reprint of the 19th century reprint by George Virtue, London, 1846. The original 1673 edition and the 1678 edition, both printed by Robert White for Nevill Simmons. Bibliographic and scriptural footnotes. A Christian classic. Considered to be among the ten greatest books in the English language. Available (less the J.I. Packer's Foreword, but searchable with an OCR-based index), on the Puritan Hard Drive.
This work is available in many editions, and in many formats.
Reformation Heritage Books has new copies of the Soli Deo Gloria edition (including the J.I. Packer Introduction), as of March 2008, even though it is generally thought to be out of print. They acquired Soli Deo Gloria from Ligonier Ministries in late 2007.
The best digital format of the reprint by George Virtue is included on the Puritan Hard Drive. It has an OCR scan in the background, meaning one can search the entire volume and copy text into another document. It also has a computer generated indexed from the OCR scan which is, of course, in Baxter's vocabulary.
A PDF image scan only of the same edition is available on the Reformation Bookshelf CD #21.
The reprint by George Virtue is available online and may be downloaded in PDF format at Christian Classics Ethereal Library.
The reprint by George Virtue appears in full preview in Google Books but may not be downloaded. So it is useful if the reader wants to become acquainted with the book. Text can be searched, but can not be copied into another document. This particular Google Books scan includes the contents in detail on pages iii-xix which is not included in the Christian Classics Ethereal Library PDF files. About five other editions from libraries are available in Google Books, and may be downloaded (August 2008).
Notice that the e-text in Google Books has the advantage of being searchable. Searching an image-based PDF file (without an OCR scan in the background), is not possible, unless the user owns software such as Abode Acrobat Pro or Kirtas BookScan Editor. They both have an OCR (optical character recognition), feature that will search an image-based PDFs (bit-map scans). Searches appear to be perfect in this work, although one must know Baxter's vocabulary. Text can be cut and pasted from image-based PDF format to OCR (character) format. This particular Google Books scan can not be cut and pasted or downloaded.
One of the older, multi-volume editions of THE WORKS OF RICHARD BAXTER is available at Monergism.com in the "Puritan Library," "Richard Baxter." A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, volume 23. It can be downloaded.
http://www.puritanlibrary.com/
Another older edition is available on microfilm (Ann Arbor, MI: University Microfilms, 1970), 1 microfilm reel, 35 mm (Early English books, 1641-1700; 343:11).
"The complete practical works of Richard Baxter are in print in four volumes entitled BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS. This volume (about 1 1/4 million words, 1028 pages), is volume one of the set. The editor's preface (1707), p. xiii, stated that the works of Richard Baxter are 'perhaps the best body of practical divinity that is extent in our own or any other tongue.' Richard Baxter lived from 1615-1691. The DIRECTORY was completed in 1665. Its scope was intended to cover all of practical theology, a summa of casuistry . . ." -- Don Kistler
"Baxter's series, which grew in range and scope as it proceeded . . . is a peak point in Puritan devotional writing, and remains a precious resource for all, in this or any age, who want to know what is involved in Biblical godliness. . . . A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY may justly be described as a landmark. It is the fullest, most thorough, and in this writer's judgment, most profound treatment of Christian spirituality and standards that has ever been attempted by an English-speaking Evangelical author. The fact that it embraces both spirituality and standards (the principles of communion with God plus the specifics of obedience to God), merits approving comment in itself; nowadays spirituality and ethics have become two distinct disciplines in the schools, and books written on either say virtually nothing about the other . . ." -- J.I. Packer
Timothy Keller calls it the greatest manual on Biblical counseling ever produced.
"There are many Puritan classics on this subject. Thomas Brooks' PRECIOUS REMEDIES FOR SATAN'S DEVICES, Thomas Goodwin's A CHILD OF LIGHT WALKING IN DARKNESS, William Bridge's A LIFTING UP FOR THE DOWNCAST, and many other similar works give evidence that the Puritans were. . . . masters at applying Biblical answers and principles to problems that can only be solved by spiritual means. No Puritan work, however, has ever approached the popularity, the scope, or the depth of Baxter's classic treatise. With the widespread interest in counseling in today's church, this reprint of Baxter's work should be a welcome addition to every pastor's library, or to anyone else who wishes to give solid Biblical answers to man's questions." -- Don Kistler
"We have long waited for a purely Biblical treatment of the spiritual ills and cures of men which is untainted by the views of psychology. Since Baxter lived about 200 years before psychology arrived, his deep work is completely void of its encroachment -- thankfully!" -- John MacArthur
"The kings men sought to arrest Richard Baxter, but he traveled ceaselessly from place to place, writing his sermons and his books even on horseback (he had an inkwell in his saddle), and preached over a wide area." -- Brian H. Edwards
"Baxter was a wonder of his age. His writings total 72 large volumes, much of it written on horseback as he traveled in his widespread preaching efforts. He seldom, if ever, edited anything he wrote. Knowing this any reader will be amazed at how well he communicated his deep love for his Savior. For 26 years he was public enemy No. 1 to the king, yet he lived to see the flight of the king in 1688." -- Jay P. Green, Sr. (1918-2008)
POOR MAN'S FAMILY BOOK (1674) and THE CATECHIZING OF FAMILIES (1683), are less detailed works and are found in THE REFORMED PASTOR: BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 4. They are more suitable for family instruction than are the detailed presentation in A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY.
"Ptacek in FAMILY WORSHIP: BIBLICAL BASIS, HISTORICAL REALITY, CURRENT NEED (pp. 51-52), supplies the following information in regard to Baxter and this book. He notes that after the Episcopalians ejected numerous 'nonconformists,' in what is know as the 'great ejection,' in 1662, 'Baxter pastored from house to house, visiting families of his parish in their homes. These visits contributed to Baxter's A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, a large and still very relevant manual of pastoral care.' Focusing on just one area of great importance, Ptacek demonstrates how this book's relevance is not limited by time or culture, though sometimes the use of specific words are. 'Published in 1673, but written 1664-65, a large book-length part of Baxter's CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY is devoted to the family. It is entitled 'Christian Economics' based on the archaic usage of the word, which reflects the proper sense of the Greek root oikonomos as the manager of a household, in the Christian case, the spiritual leader of the family. The family head is essential to Baxter's view of family worship and instruction. Baxter asserts that it is God's will that this instruction be carried out by the rulers of the families.' For a male head of the household to fail to do so, or to have another instruct in the family, is contrary to his position of authority.' This is the kind of book that can be passed on from generation to generation and still find much use in the service of the kingdom of God.
"Though relatively weak on corporate sanctification, corporate faithfulness and some important areas of doctrine (such as justification), Baxter's work on subjects related to personal piety can be of good practical use to the Christian -- if one is careful to separate out his aberrant doctrinal views and any practical errors they may lead to." -- Publisher
The following three excerpts are included as bonus free books on Reformation Bookshelf CD #28.
1. "The Duties of Parents for Their Children" from BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 1, A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, on Christian Economics, Chap. X., pp. 449-454.
2. "The Special Duties of Children Towards Their Parents" from BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 1, A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, on Christian Economics, Chap. XI., pp. 454-457.
3. "The Special Duties of Children and Youth Towards God" from BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 1, A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, on Christian Economics, Chap. XII., pp. 457-458).
A summary of currently (2012) available publications.
http://www.lettermen2.com/pwrbcd.html
Richard Baxter, from Wikipedia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Richard_Baxter

Baxter, Richard, A Paraphrase on the New Testament, With Notes, Doctrinal and Practical, Fitted to the use of Religious Families, . . . by the Late Rev. Mr. Richard Baxter. . . . Blackburn, 1798.

Boston, Thomas (1676-1732), Personal and Family Fasting and Humiliation. Alternate title: A MEMORIAL CONCERNING PERSONAL AND FAMILY-FASTING AND HUMILIATION, PRESENTED TO SAINTS AND SINNERS. Available (THE WORKS OF THOMAS BOSTON, VOL. 11), on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available (THE WORKS OF THOMAS BOSTON, VOL. 11), on Reformation Bookshelf CD #6.

Carr, S. Wallace, The Bible and the Christian Home (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).

Cawdrey, Daniel (1588-1664), Family Reformation Promoted: In a Sermon on Joshua, chap. 24. ver. 15., and by Short Catechismes Fitted for the Three-fold Relations in a Family of 1. Children and Parents, 2. Servants and Masters, 3. Husband and Wife. [Joshua 24:15]

Chambers, Humphrey, and Samuel Man, A Divine Ballance to Weigh Religious Fasts in: Applyed to Present vse, in a Sermon Preached Before the Honourable House of Commons, in S. Margarets Westminster at their Publique Fast, Sept. 27. 1643, James 3:18.

Covenanted General Assembly of the Church of Scotland, Directions of the General Assembly Concerning Secret and Private Worship, and Mutual Edification, For Cherishing Piety, For Maintaining Unity, and Avoiding Schism and Division, 1647. Alternate title: FAMILY WORSHIP: MR. THOMAS MANTON'S EPISTLE TO THE READER OF THE WESTMINSTER CONFESSION OF FAITH AND LARGER AND SHORTER CATECHISMS.

D'Aubign�, J.H. Merle (1794-1872), Family Worship: Motives and Directions for Domestic Piety. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.

*Davies, Samuel (1723-1761, editor), et al., The Godly Family: A Series of Essays on the Duties of Parents and Children, ISBN: 1877611735 9781877611735, 341 pages.
"Gary Ezzo has collected 16 essays and sermons from 17th and 18th century pastors on ordering a godly home. The book is divided into four section: 1) The Importance of Family Religion, 2) The Duties of Parents, 3) The Duties of Children, 4) The Eternal Family. . . . All of these have been retypeset and updated for easier reading." -- Publisher
"The necessity and excellence of family religion / by Samuel Davies -- The great duty of family religion / by George Whitefield -- A plain and serious address on the important subject of family religion / by Philip Doddridge -- Parental duties illustrated / by Samuel Worcester -- The duties of parents towards their children / by Henry Venn -- Disciplining children / by Arthur Hildersham -- On the method of instructing children / by Henry Venn -- Four sermons on the religious education of children / by Philip Doddridge -- Blessings consequent upon parental fidelity / by Thomas Houston -- The duties of children to their parents / by Samuel Stennett -- The duties of children / by Henry Venn -- Heaven considered as a family / by Samuel Stennett."

Davies, Samuel (1723-1761), The Necessity and Excellence of Family Religion. Available in THE GODLY FAMILY: A SERIES OF ESSAYS ON THE DUTIES OF PARENTS AND CHILDREN. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22.
"Promotes daily family worship based on an indirect application of 1 Tim. 5:8 [1 Timothy 5:8], 'But if any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel'." -- Publisher

*Davies, Samuel (1723-1761), Sermons on the Most Useful and Important Subjects, Adapted to the Family and Closet by the Rev. Samuel Davies, A.M. Late President of the College at Princeton in New-Jersey. In Three Volumes. . . . To Which are Prefixed, A Sermon on the Death of Mr. Davies, by Samuel Finley, D.D. and Another Discourse on the Same Occasion, Together With an Elegiac Poem to the Memory of Mr. Davies, by Thomas Gibbons, D.D.

*De Graaf, Simon Gerrit, Promise and Deliverance, 4 volumes (Scarsdale, NY [Westminster Discount Book Service, P.O. Box 125H, Scarsdale 10583]: Westminster Discount Book Service, 1977). Translated from the Dutch by H. Evan Runner and Elisabeth Wichers Runner. A Christian classic.
"A landmark in interpreting the simple stories of the Bible . . . an invaluable resource for teachers, ministers, and parents." -- Christianity Today
"In Scripture, religion means covenant. By His Word, God called into being an order of creation culminating in man. By that Word He also gave man His favor and brought him into a life of conscious covenantal fellowship with Himself. As De Graaf himself puts it: 'Without covenant, there is no religion, no conscious fellowship between man and God, no exchange of love and faithfulness. Without the covenant, man would be just an instrument in God's hand. When God created man, He had more than an instrument in mind: He made a creature that could respond to Him. . . .'
"This renewed insight into Biblical revelation is the perspective undergirding De Graaf's treatment of all Bible stories. It makes his book a unique presentation of God's revelation of Himself in the covenant and keeps his interpretations of the stories from degenerating into mere moralizing. Religion is not morality." -- H. Evan Runner
"I highly recommend this book. One of the best books available." -- R.C. Sproul

Derham, A. Morgan (editor), Time for the Family, 2 volumes (Wayne, PA [Scripture Union, 150 Strafford Avenue, Wayne 19087]: Scripture Union), ISBN: 0854219870 9780854219872.
"Each volume provides six full months of Bible readings, prayers, and activity material in a lively and readable form. Designed to take just ten minutes a day."

Doolittle, Thomas, (1630-1707), How may the Duty of Daily Family Prayer be Best Managed for the Spiritual Benefit of Every one in the Family, 1675. From THE MORNING EXERCISES AT CRIPPLEGATE, ST. GILES IN THE FIELDS, AND IN SOUTHWARK: BEING DIVERS SERMONS, PREACHED A.D. MDCLIX-MDCLXXXIX BY SEVERAL MINISTERS OF THE GOSPEL IN OR NEAR LONDON. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22.

Flavel, John (1628-1691), A Warning Against Backsliding, False Worship and False Teachers. Available (THE WORKS OF JOHN FLAVEL), on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #27.
"Exposes the subtlety of false worship and false teachers and counsels all Christians to remove themselves from under ministries that practice such things. Promotes family religion and house gatherings in times of great declension and apostasy (such as ours)." -- Publisher

*Henry, Matthew (1662-1714), A Church in the House: A Sermon Concerning Family Religion, 1704. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
"Family worship is presently one of the most powerful weapons in a Christian parents arsenal of truth. Read this Puritan sermon and see why! In time past, when the churches saw the family as 'little churches' within the church, elders saw to it that family worship was practiced daily and that offenders against this Godly order were censured. Daily family worship is a monumental blessing on the one hand and a serious sin of omission, when not practiced, on the other. Though Kevin Reed was speaking of public worship in the following quotation, the directive can easily be applied to family worship also. Reed notes, 'heads of households you husbands and fathers -- it is incumbent on you to lead your family in the narrow path which leads to life. Compromise in worship is a form of apostasy, which teaches children that we love family approval more than obedience to Christ . . . You have no right to set aside biblical principles of worship.' (John Knox the Forgotten Reformer, p. 99). Furthermore, Ptacek has written that, 'the role of the head of the family was given the highest possible status by Matthew Henry. In a 1704 sermon on family religion, Henry followed Cawdrey in arguing that the head of the family holds all of the offices of Christ with respect to his household: prophet, priest and king. Henry's design for family religion is based on the exercise of these three offices. As a prophet the head of the family teaches doctrine through the reading of Scripture and catechizing. The head's priestly office is expressed in praying for his family. His exercise of discipline reflects the office of king, both in encouraging godly behaviour and discouraging sinful practices. Although Matthew Henry was the best known Puritan preacher of his time, he asserted without fear of controversy that his view of the role of the head of the family was one in which all agree.' (Family Worship, pp. 52-53). For parents, and especially fathers, this may be one of the most important works you will ever read. When family worship is practiced faithfully (and the responsibility for this rests with the head of the house primarily, and the elders of the church secondarily -- through encouragement, help and discipline of the unfaithful), nations and generations to come will be greatly influenced to bow humbly before the Lord Jesus Christ and serve Him alone!" -- Publisher

Henry, Matthew (1662-1714), Family Religion: Principles for Raising a Godly Family, ISBN: 1845503139 9781845503130.
"Be not Christians upon your knees, and unbelievers in your shops. While you seem saints in your devotions, prove not yourselves sinners in your conversations. Having begun the day in the fear of God, be in that fear all day long. Let the example you set in your families be throughout good, and by it teach them not only to read and pray, for this is half their work, but by it teach them to be meek and humble, sober and temperate, loving and peaceable, just and honest; so shall you adorn the doctrine of God our Saviour; and those who will not be won by the Word, shall be won by your conversation. Your family worship is an honour to you, see to it that neither you nor yours be in anything a disgrace to it." -- Matthew Henry in Family Religion, p. 60

Howe, John (1630-1705), The Obligations From Nature and Revelation to Family-religion and Worship Represented and Pressed in six Sermons.

Jay, William, Prayers for the use of Families, or, The Domestic Minister's Assistant. With an appendix containing a number of select and original prayers for particular occasions.

Jay, William, Short Discourses to be Read in Families, 1805.

*Manton, Thomas (1620-1677), Family Worship: Mr. Thomas Manton's Epistle to the Reader of the Westminster Confession of Faith and Larger and Shorter Catechisms. Alternate title: DIRECTIONS OF THE GENERAL ASSEMBLY CONCERNING SECRET AND PRIVATE WORSHIP AND MUTUAL EDIFICATION FOR CHERISHING PIETY, FOR MAINTAINING UNITY AND AVOIDING SCHISM AND DIVISION (1646). Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #11.
"Manton was a covenanted English Presbyterian (he swore the Solemn League and Covenant). He was also chosen to write the 'Epistle to the Reader' in THE WESTMINSTER CONFESSION OF FAITH, 1647 [sic], which speaks volumes as to his credibility among the preachers and scholars of his day." -- Publisher
Mr. Thomas Manton's Epistle to the Reader of the Westminster Confession of Faith (1646) and Larger and Shorter Catechisms
http://www.swrb.com//newslett/actualnls/famworship.htm

Palmer, B.M., and B.B. Warfield, The Family in its Offices of Instruction and Worship, 1876. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22.
"The author notes that 'from the earliest period in the history of the Church, the duty of family instruction has been emphasized as the most important of all agencies in perpetuating the knowledge of Divine truth.' Furthermore, he writes, 'each pious household is a separate fibre of those roots by which the Church of the living God takes hold upon the earth, and preserves its existence in a sinful world.' It is especially important that fathers study material like this, for if they will not lead their families in instruction and daily family worship, they have, for all intents and purposes, denied the faith. For when 1 Timothy 5:8 states, But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel, it should be taken to heart. Even if this verse refers specifically to the material aspects of life, how much more important are the spiritual duties? This book should be a great encouragement to those entrusted with these most important spiritual duties and privileges!" -- Publisher

Palmer, Samuel (1741-1813), A Collection of Family-prayers From the Devotional Writings of Baxter: Henry, Willison, Bennett, Watts, Doddridge, and others. With Various Occasional Forms, 1783.

Palmer, Samuel, The Covenanters Catechisme, or, A Brief and Familiar Analysis and Exposition of the Covenant: First delivered in sundry sermons to a particular congregation, and now resolved into questions and answers for the more publike good, 1644.

*Perkins, William (1558-1602), The Foundation of Christian Religion Gathered Into Fixed Principles (1608). Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
"Interestingly, just below the title on the front cover of this 756-page book we find the words: 'And it is to be learned of ignorant people, that they may be fit to hear sermons with profit, and to receive the Lord's Supper with comfort.' Called 'the principal architect of Elizabethan Puritanism' and 'the most important Puritan writer, Perkins was the first theologian of the reformed English church to gain an international reputation,' writes McKim. (Encyclopaedia of the Reformed Faith, p. 274)
"This hefty tome contains the following works by Perkins: 'A Golden Chain: or, The Description of Theology, Containing the order of the causes of Salvation and Damnation . . . Hereunto is adjoined the order which M. Theodore Beza used in comforting afflicted consciences;' 'An Exposition of the Symbol or Creed of the Apostles;' 'An Exposition of the Lord's Prayer, In the Way of Catechizing Serving for Ignorant People;' 'A Treatise Tending Unto a Declaration Whether a Man Be in the Estate of Damnation, or in the Estate of Grace: And if He Be in the First, How He May in Time Come Out of it: If in the Second, How He May Discern It, and Persevere in the Same to the End;' 'A Case of Conscience, the Greatest that Ever Was: How a Man May Know Whether He Be the Child of God, or No (Whereunto is added a brief discourse taken out of H. Zanchius);' 'A Direction for the Government of the Tongue According to God's Word;' 'Two Treatises: 1. On the Nature and Practice of Repentance; 2. Of the Combat of the Flesh and the Spirit;' 'A Treatise How To Live Well, In All Estates and Times, Specially When Helps and Comforts Fail;' 'The Treatise of Dying Well;' 'A Discourse of Conscience Wherein is Set Down the Nature, Properties, and Differences Thereof: as Also the Way to Get and Keep a Good Conscience;' 'A Reformed Catholic: Or, A Declaration Showing How Near We May Come to the Present Church of Rome in Sundry Points of Religion; and Wherein We Must For Ever Depart From Them -- With an Advertisement to all Favourers of the Roman Religion, Showing How the Said Religion is Against the Catholic Principles and Grounds of the Catechism;' 'A Declaration of the True Manner of Knowing Christ Crucified;' 'A Grain of Mustard Seed: Or, The Least Measure of Grace that is or Can Be Effectual to Salvation;' 'The True Gain, More in Worth then All the Goods of the World;' 'A Warning Against Idolatry of the Last Times and an Instruction Touching Religious Divine Worship;' 'A Treatise of God's Free Grace and Man's Free Will;' 'A Treatise of the Vocations, Or Callings of Men, With the Sorts and Kinds of Them, and the Right Use Thereof.'
"Several of Perkins' works have been translated into Latin, French, Dutch, and Spanish." (Darling, Cyclopaedia Bibliographica, p. 2337) -- Publisher

Price, Greg L., Family Worship, a series of audio files [audio file]. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22.
"A great introduction to the duty and privilege of daily family worship with much 'how to' instruction from Scripture. Family worship has always been a major component of all true revivals. Among the Old Testament people of God, in the days of the Apostles, during the great Reformations that took place in the 16th and 17th centuries, at the founding of the American colonies, and wherever there is a love for the Truth, daily family worship has been a sign of faithfulness to God. When it is practiced faithfully, daily family worship is one of the great blessings of covenant life; when it is ignored or set aside, it is a serious sin which has devastating consequences (and evidences and lack of true spirituality)." -- Publisher

*Pride, Mary, All the way Home: Power for Your Family to be its Best, ISBN: 0891074651 9780891074656.
"ALL THE WAY HOME is the long-awaited sequel to Mary Pride's revolutionary book, THE WAY HOME. Building on the theme of the home as the center of life, this book will change your ideas on what is possible for families today. More than a problem-solving manual, this text helps families do it right from the start." -- Publisher
"Reading Mary's book has reassured me that all scripture is valid even today. It's a pity every woman by age 15 has not been made to study these concepts, fully understand her God-given role in life and how exciting it truly can be. Now if we women of today would just pick up the baton and run the race, as Mary has clearly outlined for us in her book, God would bless our families and children again. If you are hungry to see God's hand in your life, Mary has written a beautiful book calling women back to the place God prepared for us in the beginning. Buy this and let the rebuke and encouragement draw you back to the 66 books that make up our Bible and guide our lives in the path God has laid out for us as women." -- Reader's Comment
"If you are a Christian woman who needs help redefining your purpose in life because you don't have children, BUY this book. If you are a wife and/or mother who is tired of society (violent media, TV, video, music, etc.), defining you . . . . and you/your children's wants and needs, this is the book for you too." -- Reader's Comment

*Ptacek, Kerry, Family Worship: Biblical Basis, Historical Reality, Current Need.
"The practice of family worship has done more for the comprehensive Reformation than any other means available to man. A revival of this Biblically ordained practice should be studied, prayed for, and implemented throughout all lands, at the earliest possible date. If you are serious about your faith and you would love to see the Earth full of the knowledge of the Lord as the waters cover the sea (Isaiah 11:9), then this is as good a place to start as any. . . .
"A splendid contemporary examination, full of encouragement and help in regard to this sacred duty of daily family worship. Covers God's covenants with families, looks at house churches in history, the Reformation period, American history, causes for decline in family worship, etc. Notes that 'family worship continued in the early centuries of the history of Christ's church and was revived in the Reformation, especially among Puritans and Scottish Presbyterians. The early settlers of the thirteen colonies brought family worship with them from Scotland, England, France and other countries of the Reformation. Family worship was the norm among American Presbyterians until the middle of the 19th century.' Chapters 1-6 treat Old Testament and New Testament passages relevant to family worship. Chapters 7-8 cover family worship in church history. Chapters 9-10 survey the rise and decline of family worship in America and the last two chapters argue for a revival of this practice. Explains, in easy to understand terms, not only the great spiritual benefits of family worship, but how to begin, how often it should be done, and what you should do -- according to Scripture. Regarding the sacred stewardship parents have been given by God, over their childrens lives, family worship and Christian education are basic to covenantal faithfulness to Christ. This is one of the most important books published on the family in some time. Priced as low as possible, with the hope of widest possible distribution; it is well laid out, easy to read and suitable for group or individual study. Parents, teachers and Pastors please don't miss this one!" -- Publisher

*Reformed Presbyterian Church of North America, The Book of Psalms for Singing, ISBN: 1884527108 9781884527104.
Reformed Presbyterian Church of North America, The Book of Psalms for Singing: Tune Library (Pittsburgh, PA: Crown & Covenant Publications), a CD-ROM or MP3 [audio file].
See also: McBurney, Charles, Improving Our Praise: Four Studies in Congregational Singing Using the Book of Psalms for Singing, a video [DVD] seminary.

Reformed Presbyterian Church, Scotland, Guide to Private Social Worship, Recommended by the Reformed Presbyterian Synod of Scotland in 1823, as a Directory in Conducting Prayer Meetings, 1854.

*Ryle, J.C. (1816-1900), Expository Thoughts on the Gospels, 4 volumes.
"The new 4-volume set is a preacher's handbook to the enduring truths of the Gospels. It is also a wonderful personal or family devotional guide to this portion of Scripture. Written by one of the greatest men of the Church of England in the late 1800's." -- GCB

*Smith, B.M., Family Religion, or the Domestic Relations as Regulated by Christian Principles (1859). Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22.
"Smith's family was greatly influenced by Samuel Davies. Smith himself was a friend of R.L. Dabney. As the editor notes, the importance of this book is seen in the fact that 'reform of the family would soon diffuse itself throughout the whole constitution of society, a higher tone of morals would be inspired, and not only would the moral influence of the church be enlarged, but the stability and security of the state would be perpetuated.' Or as the DIRECTORY FOR FAMILY WORSHIP, appended to the Westminster Confession, so wisely points out, 'besides the public worship in congregations, mercifully established in this land in great purity, it is expedient and necessary that secret worship of each person alone, and private worship of families, be pressed and set up; that, with national reformation, the profession and power of godliness, both personal and domestic, be advanced.' This was a prize winning essay, covering, in depth, the family and its duties." -- Publisher

*Spurgeon, C.H. (1834-1892), Spurgeon's Devotional Bible: Selected Passages From the Word of God With Running Comments, ISBN: 0852343434 0852340583. Alternate title: Originally published under the title, THE INTERPRETER: SPURGEON'S MORNING AND EVENING DEVOTIONS FROM THE BIBLE.
"For anyone who wants to restore daily devotions on an individual or family basis, SPURGEON'S DEVOTIONAL BIBLE is the perfect answer. One can read through this book in a year when morning and evening devotions are maintained. . . .
"The gist of the entire Bible is found between the covers of this book. . . . some verses [and chapters], were omitted in whole or in part, but they are always summarized in such a way that the narrative or teaching remains clear. The emphasis is always on Scripture . . ." -- Publisher
Commenting on typology is a way to convince piers of the reality and immediacy of the Gospel. The concise, succinct, erudite comments point again and again to parallels in Scripture to the life and work of Christ. For example, see the comments on the life of Joseph, on the first Passover, and on God's provision of manna for Israel in the wilderness.
This work, by a modern Puritan, is preeminently practical. Spurgeon emphasizes application of Scripture to everyday life. Key verses appear at the top of each page.
Spurgeon's discerning mind has captured essential and profound lessons. He brings together Old and New Testament passages with similar lessons. Here is little known insight that should not be ignored or overlooked.
The Bible is full of wisdom on human behavior, real psychology, and Spurgeon points out these lessons everywhere.
The text is the Authorized King James Version.
A footnote at the bottom of page 643 (Baker Book House edition), states "In this reading the first five notes are from Lange's Commentary. All through the work we have gathered from every available source." Looking at other works by Spurgeon, for example, THE TREASURY OF DAVID, and knowing that he had a huge library, it could be expected he selected freely from the works of other authors. Poetry has been added after the Bible selection and notes. It would appear the notes and poetry have not been documented for practical purposes, to make the book seamless and uncluttered. It is a drawback, however, to not know which notes and poetry was from Spurgeon's pen and which he selected from other authors.
The Interpreter: Spurgeon's Devotional Bible. Alternate title: SPURGEON'S DEVOTIONAL BIBLE: SELECTED PASSAGES FROM THE WORD OF GOD WITH RUNNING COMMENTS.
"THE INTERPRETER: SPURGEON DEVOTIONAL BIBLE contains the text of the entire Bible, along with Spurgeon's reflections on nearly every verse. This Bible, arranged topically instead of canonically, allows readers to experience the text of Scripture along with Charles Spurgeon himself. His commentary illuminates the texts, and provides notes on interpretation and application of the Bible. The Logos Bible Software edition of THE INTERPRETER: SPURGEON'S DEVOTIONAL BIBLE was originally published in London by Passmore and Alabaster from 1869-1887." -- Publisher
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C.H. Spurgeon wrote, among other things:

THE TREASURY OF DAVID, "the most important and practical work of the ages on the Psalter." -- Dr. Philip Schaff
A TREASURY OF SPURGEON ON THE LIFE AND WORK OF OUR LORD, 6 volumes, a compilation of sermons, and
FAITH'S CHECKBOOK, commenting on the promises of Scripture.

*Spurgeon, C.H. (1834-1892), The Treasury of David, 3 volumes, ISBN: 0917006259 9780917006258. A Christian classic. Considered to be among the ten greatest books in the English language. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
"The most important and practical work of the ages on the Psalter." -- Dr. Philip Schaff
"Spurgeon's own exposition appears under each verse; after that you'll find 'explanatory notes and quaint sayings' (illuminating quotes from Spurgeon's contemporaries as well as from the great Puritan expositors of the 17th and 18th centuries). Each Psalm closes with a short section of 'Hints to Preachers'." -- CBD
Recommended for daily devotions.
The Treasury of David
http://archive.spurgeon.org/treasury/treasury.php
The Treasury of David (1881)
http://archive.org/details/thetreasuryofdav00spuruoft

*Westminster Assembly (1643-1652), The Westminster Confession of Faith (1646), [completed and first printed in 1646, approved by the Assembly, August 27, 1647, Session 23 -- compiler] (Glasgow, Scotland: Free Presbyterian Publication [133 Woodlands Road, Glasgow G3 6LE], 1994), ISBN: 0902506080 (case-bound), and ISBN: 0902506358 (paperback). Among the ten greatest works in the English language. Available (THE WESTMINSTER CONFESSION OF FAITH (1646) with all its subordinate documents in searchable format) on the Puritan Hard Drive. Also available (THE WESTMINSTER CONFESSION OF FAITH (1646) with all its subordinate documents in searchable format) on Reformation Bookshelf CD #1.
Westminster Confession of Faith (1646) With Scripture Proofs
http://www.reformed.org/documents/wcf_with_proofs/
The Confession of Faith, the Larger and Shorter Catechisms, With the Scripture Proofs at Large: Together With The sum of Saving Knowledge (contained in the Holy Scriptures, and held forth in the said Confession and Catechisms), and Practical use Thereof, Covenants National and Solemn League, Acknowledgment of Sins and Engagement to Duties, Directories, Form of Church-government, &c. of Public Authority in the Church of Scotland, With Acts of Assembly and Parliament, Relative to, and Approbative of the Same (1757) [the original version of 1646, prior to the changes of the "American Version" of 1789 -- compiler]
http://archive.org/details/confessionofscot00chur
" 'The product of Puritan conflict,' stated Shedd, reaching 'a perfection of statement never elsewhere achieved.' All that learning the most profound and extensive, intellect the most acute and searching, and piety the most sincere and earnest, could accomplish, was thus concentrated in the Westminster Assembly's Confession of Faith, which may be safely termed the most perfect statement of Systematic Theology ever framed by the Christian Church,' writes Hetherington. (The History of the Westminster Assembly of Divines, p. 345).
"Concerning The Shorter Catechism, which is one of the items also included in this book, Mitchell notes: 'it is a thoroughly Calvinistic and Puritan catechism, the ripest fruit of the Assembly's thought and experience, maturing and finally fixing the definitions of theological terms to which Puritanism for half a century had been leading up and gradually coming closer and closer to in its legion of catechisms.' (Westminster Assembly: Its History and Standards, p. 431).
"THE WESTMINSTER CONFESSION OF FAITH (1646) is the greatest of all the creeds of the Christian church. The church of Christ cannot be creedless and live. Especially in an age of doubt and confusion, it is her duty to define and proclaim the one true faith. Nowhere has the Reformed church done this so effectively as in the WESTMINSTER CONFESSION, and family of documents. This book represents Reformed thinking at its purest and best. It was intended, as part of the Covenanted Reformation taking place during its compilation, to be adopted as the binding confessional standard for every individual, family, court, church, and legislature in the British Isles." -- Publisher
This is considered to be the definitive publication of the Westminster family of documents. It includes the following:

"To the Christian Reader, Especially Heads of Families"
http://www.reformed.org/documents/wcf_standards/index.html?mainframe=/documents/wcf_standards/p005-to_head_of_families.html
"Mr. Thomas Manton's Epistle to the Reader"
https://reformed.org/documents/wcf_standards/index.html
THE CONFESSION OF FAITH (1646), the full and original edition with Scripture proofs written out
http://www.reformed.org/documents/wcf_with_proofs/
THE LARGER CATECHISM with Scripture proofs written out
http://www.reformed.org/documents/wlc_w_proofs/index.html
THE SHORTER CATECHISM with Scripture proofs written out
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html
THE SUM OF SAVING KNOWLEDGE
http://www.reformed.org/master/index.html?mainframe=/documents/sum/sum.html
"The National Covenant"
http://www.reformed.org/documents/wcf_standards/index.html?mainframe=/documents/wcf_standards/p345-nat_covenant.html
"The Solemn League and Covenant"
http://www.reformed.org/documents/wcf_standards/index.html?mainframe=/documents/wcf_standards/p355-solemn_league.html
"A Solemn Acknowledgement of Publick Sins and Breaches of the Covenant; and a Solemn Engagement to all the Duties Contained Therein"
http://www.truecovenanter.com/covenants/scotland_covenant_renewal_1648.html
THE DIRECTORY FOR PUBLIC WORSHIP
http://www.reformed.org/documents/wcf_standards/index.html?mainframe=/documents/wcf_standards/p369-direct_pub_worship.html
THE FORM OF PRESBYTERIAL CHURCH GOVERNMENT
http://www.reformed.org/documents/wcf_standards/index.html?mainframe=/documents/wcf_standards/p395-form_presby_gov.html
"The Directory for Family-Worship, Approved by the General Assembly of the Church of Scotland, for Piety and Uniformity in Secret and Private Worship, and Mutual Edification"
http://www.reformed.org/documents/wcf_standards/index.html

THE WESTMINSTER CONFESSION OF FAITH (1646) is said to be the finest summary of THE HOLY BIBLE available. It is recommended for daily devotions. See the following resources:

THE SIGNIFICANCE OF THE WESTMINSTER STANDARDS AS A CREED
http://www.fpcr.org/blue_banner_articles/signific.htm
"The Complete Scripture Index to the Westminster Confession (1646), Larger and Shorter Catechisms." Alternate title: SCRIPTURE INDEX TO THE WESTMINSTER STANDARDS. Available on Library of Presbyterian Heritage Publications [and] Protestant Heritage Press CD. Also available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
Bordwine, James, A GUIDE TO THE WESTMINSTER STANDARDS: CONFESSION OF FAITH AND LARGER CATECHISM, ISBN: 0940931303 9780940931305.
Includes a unique, 100-page topical index to both the CONFESSION and the LARGER CATECHISM.
WESTMINSTER LARGER CATECHISM WITH PROOF TEXTS
http://www.reformed.org/documents/wlc_w_proofs/index.html
THE SHORTER CATECHISM WITH SCRIPTURE PROOFS
Arguably the greatest tract ever created, all factors considered.
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html
THE SHORTER CATECHISM
Free downloadable PDF file.
http://www.greenvillepresbyterian.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/shorter-catechism.pdf
Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
"Click on any of the individual questions below to get the answer and Biblical references, as well as links to works by John Flavel, Thomas Watson, Thomas Boston, James Fisher, and John Whitecross, and others."
http://www.shortercatechism.com/
Commentaries on the Westminster Standards Including the Westminster Confession of Faith, The Larger Catechism, and The Shorter Catechism
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr3ch.html#cwswcsc
The Westminster Confession of Faith (1646), (The Westminster Standards), and Related Works: A Study Guide
http://www.lettermen2.com/suggest.html
The Scottish Covenanted Reformation continued the work of The Westminster Assembly. David Steel (1803-1887), is considered to be one of the most faithful Covenanter ministers in America. Notice that the citation following is an authorized, complete edition of their final TESTIMONY.
Reformed Presbytery in North America "Steelite," David Steele (1803-1887), John Thorburn (1730?-1788), John Courtass (d. 1795), et al., ACT, DECLARATION, AND TESTIMONY, FOR THE WHOLE OF THE COVENANTED REFORMATION, AS ATTAINED TO, AND ESTABLISHED IN, BRITAIN AND IRELAND; PARTICULARLY BETWIXT THE YEARS 1638 AND 1649, INCLUSIVE. AS, ALSO, AGAINST ALL THE STEPS OF DEFECTION FROM SAID REFORMATION, WHETHER IN FORMER OR LATER TIMES, SINCE THE OVERTHROW OF THAT GLORIOUS WORK, DOWN TO THIS PRESENT DAY (1876), (Philadelphia, PA: Printed by Rue and Jones, 1876).
This is a new edition of the Ploughlandhead Testimony of 1761. It was the subordinate standard of the original "Steelite" Reformed Presbytery that was constitutes in 1840.
https://archive.org/details/actdeclarationte00refo
Church and State
Works listed here discuss the decline of the influence of Calvinism and the Covenanted Reformation in Great Britain and the United States. The various alterations to the Westminster Standards are also discussed.
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr9chc.html#churchstate
Heresies Defined and the Necessity of Heresies Explained, by George Gillespie, Scottish Commissioner to the Assembly of Divines at Westminster
http://www.truecovenanter.com/gillespie/ggilles09.html

*Westminster Assembly of Divines (1643-1652), The Directory for Family Worship, (1646). Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #18.
"It doesn't get any better than this! These are the documents approved by the General Assembly of the Church of Scotland in her purest days. Reproduced in large print for easy reading. The DIRECTORY FOR FAMILY WORSHIP lays out the Biblical path to piety and uniformity in secret and private (family) worship, for godly edification. THE DIRECTORY FOR PUBLIC WORSHIP aimed at fulfilling the Reformation goals of covenanted uniformity in religion between the churches of Christ in the kingdoms of Scotland, England and Ireland. 'Behind its production lay extensive discussion of the proper application of the Puritan regulative principle reducing elements of acceptable worship to what is prescribed or necessarily deducible from Scripture alone. . . . It contains perhaps the finest brief description of expository preaching to be found in the English language.' (Nigel Cameron, editor, Dictionary of Scottish Church History and Theology, p. 864). During the days of the Second Reformation Gillespie notes that 'the parliament heath also, by their ordinance dated the 23d of August 1645, imposed the DIRECTORY OF WORSHIP under certain mulcts and penalties to be inflicted upon such as do not observe it, or preach or write against it.' ('Miscellany Questions' in Gillespie's Works, p. 87). Oh, for the days of comprehensive, full-orbed, God honoring Reformation like that again! An indispensable document for those who are Presbyterian's. However, it can also be very helpful to all those who seek to worship the LORD in spirit and in truth, regardless of denominational affiliation. These two fine historic documents have yet to be equaled in terms of the intent and purpose for which they were originally produced." -- Publisher
The Directory for Family-Worship, Approved by the General Assembly of the Church of Scotland, for Piety and Uniformity in Secret and Private Worship, and Mutual Edification (1646)
http://www.covenanter.org/reformed/2015/7/14/the-directory-for-family-worship-approved-by-the-general-assembly-of-the-church-of-scotland-for-piety-and-uniformity-in-secret-and-private-worship-and-mutual-edification
Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html

Wooden, Keith, Teaching Children to Pray, ISBN: 0310544815 9780310544814.
"Here is a book for all parents. Children don't just know how to pray, you have to show them. This book is a good place to start." -- GCB

See also: Christ jesus the lord, God, Music, Praise, Prayer, Psalms in worship, Regulative principle of worship, The directory for family worship, Rejoicing, Thanksgiving, gratitude, Teaching/training children, Creeds, confessions and catechisms, Parenting, Sharing christ with your children, Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justification, Justifying faith, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Follow-up, Gospel tracts, The free offer of the gospel message of salvation and the life to come: the means of grace, the covenant of eternal salvation, Book-length presentations of the free offer of the gospel message of salvation and the life to come: the means of grace, Small groups, Small group evangelism, Small groups as healing agents, Small group resources, Sorcery, The occult, and so forth, and so on.
TCRB5: 1646, 1668-1672, 2823

Related Weblinks

The Covenant Family Fellowship
A number of citations from historic Reformed folk: John Knox, Matthew Henry, Jonathan Edwards, etc., covering the period from 100 AD to 1912 AD regarding family worship.
http://covenantfamily.nfshost.com/

The Directory for Family-Worship, Approved by the General Assembly of the Church of Scotland, for Piety and Uniformity in Secret and Private Worship, and Mutual Edification (1646)
http://www.covenanter.org/reformed/2015/7/14/the-directory-for-family-worship-approved-by-the-general-assembly-of-the-church-of-scotland-for-piety-and-uniformity-in-secret-and-private-worship-and-mutual-edification

Family Worship (FGB #188)
One Cause of the Decay of Religion London Baptist Confession 1677 | A Remedy for Decaying Religion, Heywood, Oliver (1629-1702) | The Nature, Warrant, and History of Family Worship, Alexander, J.W. (1804-1859) | What God is to Families, Doolittle, Thomas (1630-1707) | Motives for Family Worship, D'Aubigne, J. Merle (1794-1872) | The Word of God and Family Worship, Doolittle, Thomas (1630-1707) | Seven Reasons Families Should Pray, Doolittle, Thomas (1630-1707) | The Father and Family Worship, Alexander, J.W. (1804-1859) | Women Leading Family Worship, Howe, John (1630-1705) | Memories of Family Worship, Paton, John G. (1824-1907) | Implementing Family Worship, Beeke, Joel | Heathens and Christians, Paton, John G. (1824-1907)
https://www.chapellibrary.org/book/fworfg/family-worship

Family Worship, The Christian Home, Family Alter, Family Devotion
An online library of articles.
http://www.graceonlinelibrary.org/

J.H. Merle D'Aubign�'s Discourse on Family Worship
http://www.covenanter.org/reformed/2015/7/14/jh-merle-daubignes-discourse-on-family-worship

John L. Girardeau's Sermon on Family Religion
http://www.covenanter.org/reformed/2015/7/14/john-l-girardeaus-sermon-on-family-religion

Mr. Thomas Manton's Epistle to the Reader of the Westminster Confession of Faith (1646) and Larger and Shorter Catechisms
http://www.swrb.com//newslett/actualnls/famworship.htm
Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html

NetHymnal
Here is musical accompaniment from your computer for personal or family devotions in the home. Tunes may be identified here that can be used with THE SCOTTISH METRIC PSALTER.
"This site has over 4,800 Christian hymns and Gospel songs from many denominations. You'll find lyrics, scores, MIDI files, pictures, history, and more. To use the site effectively, you'll need speakers, a sound card, and a browser that supports JavaScript and XHTML, and can play MIDI files.
"This worship and teaching resource is provided as a public service."
http://www.cyberhymnal.org/

Philip Doddridge's Letter on Family Worship
http://www.covenanter.org/reformed/2015/7/14/philip-doddridges-letter-on-family-worship

The Religious Nurture of Children: The Reformed Faith in its Ethical Consequences in the Family, John Macleod (1872-1948)
http://www.westminsterconfession.org/godly-living/the-reformed-faith-in-its-ethical-consequences-in-the-family.php

S.G. Winchester's Book on the Importance of Family Religion
http://www.covenanter.org/reformed/2015/7/14/sg-winchesters-book-on-the-importance-of-family-religion

Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
"Click on any of the individual questions below to get the answer and Biblical references, as well as links to works by John Flavel, Thomas Watson, Thomas Boston, James Fisher, and John Whitecross, and others."
http://www.shortercatechism.com/

Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html

Personal and Family Finances, Family Businesses

Personal and Family Finances, Family Businesses
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr6ch.html#pffnncs

Marital Counseling, Marriage Counseling

And only in Christian theism is love preexistent within the Trinity, which means that love precedes human life and becomes the absolute value for us. This absolute is ultimately found only in God, and in knowing and loving God we work our way through the struggles of pain, knowing of its ultimate connection to evil and its ultimate destruction by the One who is all-good and all-loving; who in fact has given us the very basis for the words good [God] and love [live] both in concept and in language. -- Ravi Zacharias
Where there is an agreement between husband and wife, in faith and the fear of the Lord, it makes way unto a blessed success in all their duties: when it is otherwise, nothing succeeds unto their comfort. -- John Owen (1616-1683)
Paul's teaching on celibacy, virginity, singleness, marriage, and remarriage -- John Calvin commenting on 1 Corinthians 6:1-9 -- 1 Corinthians 7:40.

*Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), Christian Living in the Home, ISBN: 0801000513 9780801000515.
"His [Adam's], approach to family life is conditioned completely by the Bible. He writes, 'A truly Christian home is a place where sinners live; but it is also a place where the members of that home admit the fact and understand the problem, know what to do about it, and as a result grow by grace'." -- Jay P. Green, Sr. (1918-2008)
"This bestselling title will challenge, encourage, and aid the reader in the development of a truly Christian home. Christians will find this volume full of practical, biblical advice on Christ-centered family living, communication with family members, family guidance and discipline, living with an unbelieving spouse, and many other areas. Pastors and Christian counselors will value this work for its insight and faithfulness to God's Word." -- Publisher
"Written to check the erosion of the family as the basic foundation of society. Practical applications of Scripture to family living are given." -- GCB
A study guide is available.
Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), Christian Living in the Home: Recording for the Blind and Dyslexic.
Barker, Dorothy Anderson, and
Jay Adams, Leader's Guide for Jay E. Adams's CHRISTIAN LIVING IN THE HOME. Alternate title: CHRISTIAN LIVING IN THE HOME (STUDY GUIDE).
"Thirteen week guide for the leader of a Sunday school or Bible study class that utilizes Adams's book on marriage and family." -- David Powlison (1949-2019)

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), Solving Marriage Problems: Biblical Solutions for Christian Counselors.
"Marriage and family problems are the number one counseling problem. Too many times Christian counselors combine worldly ideas, from purely secular sources, with the Bible. Adams tries a purely Biblical approach which assumes that God speaks authoritatively on marriage." -- GCB
Includes bibliographical references.
"Practical training for counselors in how to understand and solve marriage problems. What are the basics of the biblical view of marriage? What sorts of problems destroy marriages?: [1] unbiblical concepts ('problems of error'); [2] sinful living patterns ('problems of practice']; [3] relationships with others (e.g., companions, in-laws, children, former spouse); [4] general influences in society. Gives methods for discovering and solving problems." -- David Powlison (1949-2019)

*Baxter, Richard (1615-1691), A Christian Directory: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1. Full title: A Christian Directory: or A Sum of Practical Theology, and Cases of Conscience. Directing Christians how to use Their Knowledge and Faith; How to Improve all Helps and Means, and to Perform all Duties; How to Overcome Temptations, and to Escape or Mortify Every Sin. In Four Parts.
I. Christian Ethics (or Private Duties)
II. Christian Economics (or Family Duties)
III. Christian Ecclesiastics (or Church Duties)
IV. Christian Politics (or Duties to Our Rulers and Neighbours) (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 1997, 1990, 1838, 1707, 1678, 1673), ISBN: 1877611131 9781877611131. Foreword by J.I. Packer (Soli Deo Gloria edition only). The Soli Deo Gloria publication is a facsimile reprint of the 19th century reprint by George Virtue, London, 1846. The original 1673 edition and the 1678 edition, both printed by Robert White for Nevill Simmons. Bibliographic and scriptural footnotes. A Christian classic. Considered to be among the ten greatest books in the English language. Available (less the J.I. Packer's Foreword, but searchable with an OCR-based index), on the Puritan Hard Drive.
This work is available in many editions, and in many formats.
Reformation Heritage Books has new copies of the Soli Deo Gloria edition (including the J.I. Packer Introduction), as of March 2008, even though it is generally thought to be out of print. They acquired Soli Deo Gloria from Ligonier Ministries in late 2007.
The best digital format of the reprint by George Virtue is included on the Puritan Hard Drive. It has an OCR scan in the background, meaning one can search the entire volume and copy text into another document. It also has a computer generated indexed from the OCR scan which is, of course, in Baxter's vocabulary.
A PDF image scan only of the same edition is available on the Reformation Bookshelf CD #21.
The reprint by George Virtue is available online and may be downloaded in PDF format at Christian Classics Ethereal Library.
The reprint by George Virtue appears in full preview in Google Books but may not be downloaded. So it is useful if the reader wants to become acquainted with the book. Text can be searched, but can not be copied into another document. This particular Google Books scan includes the contents in detail on pages iii-xix which is not included in the Christian Classics Ethereal Library PDF files. About five other editions from libraries are available in Google Books, and may be downloaded (August 2008).
Notice that the e-text in Google Books has the advantage of being searchable. Searching an image-based PDF file (without an OCR scan in the background), is not possible, unless the user owns software such as Abode Acrobat Pro or Kirtas BookScan Editor. They both have an OCR (optical character recognition), feature that will search an image-based PDFs (bit-map scans). Searches appear to be perfect in this work, although one must know Baxter's vocabulary. Text can be cut and pasted from image-based PDF format to OCR (character) format. This particular Google Books scan can not be cut and pasted or downloaded.
One of the older, multi-volume editions of THE WORKS OF RICHARD BAXTER is available at Monergism.com in the "Puritan Library," "Richard Baxter." A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, volume 23. It can be downloaded.
http://www.puritanlibrary.com/
Another older edition is available on microfilm (Ann Arbor, MI: University Microfilms, 1970), 1 microfilm reel, 35 mm (Early English books, 1641-1700; 343:11).
"The complete practical works of Richard Baxter are in print in four volumes entitled BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS. This volume (about 1 1/4 million words, 1028 pages), is volume one of the set. The editor's preface (1707), p. xiii, stated that the works of Richard Baxter are 'perhaps the best body of practical divinity that is extent in our own or any other tongue.' Richard Baxter lived from 1615-1691. The DIRECTORY was completed in 1665. Its scope was intended to cover all of practical theology, a summa of casuistry . . ." -- Don Kistler
"Baxter's series, which grew in range and scope as it proceeded . . . is a peak point in Puritan devotional writing, and remains a precious resource for all, in this or any age, who want to know what is involved in Biblical godliness. . . . A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY may justly be described as a landmark. It is the fullest, most thorough, and in this writer's judgment, most profound treatment of Christian spirituality and standards that has ever been attempted by an English-speaking Evangelical author. The fact that it embraces both spirituality and standards (the principles of communion with God plus the specifics of obedience to God), merits approving comment in itself; nowadays spirituality and ethics have become two distinct disciplines in the schools, and books written on either say virtually nothing about the other . . ." -- J.I. Packer
Timothy Keller calls it the greatest manual on Biblical counseling ever produced.
"There are many Puritan classics on this subject. Thomas Brooks' PRECIOUS REMEDIES FOR SATAN'S DEVICES, Thomas Goodwin's A CHILD OF LIGHT WALKING IN DARKNESS, William Bridge's A LIFTING UP FOR THE DOWNCAST, and many other similar works give evidence that the Puritans were. . . . masters at applying Biblical answers and principles to problems that can only be solved by spiritual means. No Puritan work, however, has ever approached the popularity, the scope, or the depth of Baxter's classic treatise. With the widespread interest in counseling in today's church, this reprint of Baxter's work should be a welcome addition to every pastor's library, or to anyone else who wishes to give solid Biblical answers to man's questions." -- Don Kistler
"We have long waited for a purely Biblical treatment of the spiritual ills and cures of men which is untainted by the views of psychology. Since Baxter lived about 200 years before psychology arrived, his deep work is completely void of its encroachment -- thankfully!" -- John MacArthur
"The kings men sought to arrest Richard Baxter, but he traveled ceaselessly from place to place, writing his sermons and his books even on horseback (he had an inkwell in his saddle), and preached over a wide area." -- Brian H. Edwards
"Baxter was a wonder of his age. His writings total 72 large volumes, much of it written on horseback as he traveled in his widespread preaching efforts. He seldom, if ever, edited anything he wrote. Knowing this any reader will be amazed at how well he communicated his deep love for his Savior. For 26 years he was public enemy No. 1 to the king, yet he lived to see the flight of the king in 1688." -- Jay P. Green, Sr. (1918-2008)
POOR MAN'S FAMILY BOOK (1674) and THE CATECHIZING OF FAMILIES (1683), are less detailed works and are found in THE REFORMED PASTOR: BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 4. They are more suitable for family instruction than are the detailed presentation in A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY.
"Ptacek in FAMILY WORSHIP: BIBLICAL BASIS, HISTORICAL REALITY, CURRENT NEED (pp. 51-52), supplies the following information in regard to Baxter and this book. He notes that after the Episcopalians ejected numerous 'nonconformists,' in what is know as the 'great ejection,' in 1662, 'Baxter pastored from house to house, visiting families of his parish in their homes. These visits contributed to Baxter's A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, a large and still very relevant manual of pastoral care.' Focusing on just one area of great importance, Ptacek demonstrates how this book's relevance is not limited by time or culture, though sometimes the use of specific words are. 'Published in 1673, but written 1664-65, a large book-length part of Baxter's CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY is devoted to the family. It is entitled 'Christian Economics' based on the archaic usage of the word, which reflects the proper sense of the Greek root oikonomos as the manager of a household, in the Christian case, the spiritual leader of the family. The family head is essential to Baxter's view of family worship and instruction. Baxter asserts that it is God's will that this instruction be carried out by the rulers of the families.' For a male head of the household to fail to do so, or to have another instruct in the family, is contrary to his position of authority.' This is the kind of book that can be passed on from generation to generation and still find much use in the service of the kingdom of God.
"Though relatively weak on corporate sanctification, corporate faithfulness and some important areas of doctrine (such as justification), Baxter's work on subjects related to personal piety can be of good practical use to the Christian -- if one is careful to separate out his aberrant doctrinal views and any practical errors they may lead to." -- Publisher
The following three excerpts are included as bonus free books on Reformation Bookshelf CD #28.
1. "The Duties of Parents for Their Children" from BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 1, A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, on Christian Economics, Chap. X., pp. 449-454.
2. "The Special Duties of Children Towards Their Parents" from BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 1, A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, on Christian Economics, Chap. XI., pp. 454-457.
3. "The Special Duties of Children and Youth Towards God" from BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 1, A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, on Christian Economics, Chap. XII., pp. 457-458).
A summary of currently (2012) available publications.
http://www.lettermen2.com/pwrbcd.html
Richard Baxter, from Wikipedia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Richard_Baxter

Bilezikian, Gilbert, Beyond Sex Roles: A Guide for the Study of Female Roles in the Bible, ISBN: 0801008859 9780801008856.

*Broger, John C. (developer/editor, 1915-2002), Self-Confrontation: A Manual for In-depth Discipleship: Based on the Old and New Testaments as the Only Authoritative Rule of Faith and Conduct, Alternate title: COURSE I: THE SELF-CONFRONTATION SYLLABUS FOR BIBLICAL COUNSELING TRAINING, ISBN: 0785282467 978-0785282464 and Course I: Self-Confrontation Tapes (10 cassette tapes [audio file]), (Rancho Mirage, CA: Biblical Counseling Foundation).
"Contains 24 weekly lessons intended to move a person through the change process personally as the foundation for working on becoming a counselor (Matthew 7:1-5). Intended for Sunday school and other classes or personal study. The first eight lessons lay the biblical foundation for change. The grace of the God in the gospel of Jesus Christ is spring of all true change, and it prompts a self-confrontation: 'Man's way is oriented to self: to please self, to comfort self, to rely on self, to fulfill self, to forgive self, to exalt self, and to love self. . . . [God's way], emphasizes that you are to live for Him.' The next thirteen lessons treat particular problem areas: selfishness, anger, interpersonal conflict, marriage and family, depression, fear, life-dominating sins. The final three lessons summarize and set the foundation for Course II, Biblical Counseling Training." -- David Powlison (1949-2019)
"Helps Christians solve their personal problems Biblically and equips laymen and women to counsel others Biblically within the church." Particularly valuable for its system of identifying root problems in counseling cases. Some of the material presented is from various writings by Jay E. Adams. The audio cassette tape [audio file], series by John Broger is designed to accompany the course and includes practical examples."
Biblical Counseling Foundation
http://bcfministries.org

Chapman, Gary D., and Amy Summers, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate, ISBN: 1415857318 9781415857311.
"While working as a marriage counselor for more than 30 years, he identified five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch." -- Reader's Comment

Douglas, Edward, and Sharon Douglas The Blended Family: Achieving Peace and Harmony in the Christian Home, ISBN: 1577361792 9781577361794.
"This book can give anyone married, single, remarried, or engaged a biblical view and understanding of what Christ wants to do in our homes. The authors do an exceptional job at directing the reader to God's plan and provision for marriage and family. . . . THE BLENDED FAMILY encourages trust in Christ and the word of God as the blueprint for building a strong family. . . ." -- Reader's Comment

Johnson, Rex, At Home With sex, ISBN: 0882076396 9780882076393.
"It is a great young married curriculum and can be used to help parents to educate their own children. . . . A study guide, overhead projection masters, and course outlines and suggestions are available." -- Publisher

*Kennedy, D. James (1930-2007), Learning to Live With the People you Love, ISBN: 0883681900 9780883681909.
Love "is sharing life together in a way that brings glory to God and enriches the lives of every family member."
Dr. Kennedy says no book he has written has brought so many comments as this one.
Read this in conjunction with Dr. Kennedy's 6-message audio cassette [audio file], series "Secrets of Successful Marriages," the audio cassette [audio file], message "Why Some Marriages Fail and Others Succeed," and the 4-message audio cassette [audio file], series "The Christian Marriage Series."

L'Abate, Luciano, and Bess L'Abate, How to Avoid Divorce, ISBN: 0804211183 9780804211185.

*Lloyd-Jones, David Martyn (1899-1981), Life in the Spirit in Marriage, Home and Work: An Exposition of Ephesians 5:18 -- 6:9 [Ephesians 5:18 -- Ephesians 6:9], ISBN: 080105799X 9780801057991.

Mayo, Mary Ann, A Christian Guide to Sexual Counseling: Recovering the Mystery and the Reality of "One Flesh," ISBN: 0310359902 9780310359906.
"A book to equip pastors and counselors for the task of helping couples understand and deal with sexual problems in a marriage."
Includes bibliography.

Morris, James Kenneth, Marriage Counseling: A Manual for Ministers
"A helpful manual containing the tried and tested methods used when counseling couples in conflict. Covers the entire counseling process in detail from the first interview to intermittent follow-ups. Of inestimable value." -- Cyril J. Barber

Pellauer, Mary D. (editor), Barbara Chester (editor), and Jane Boyajian (editor), Sexual Assault and Abuse: A Handbook for Clergy and Religious Professionals, ISBN: 0060665076 9780060665074.
"Illustrated with case histories this book, primarily by women (only two chapters are by men), helps counselors and therapists recognize the patterns of sexual assault and sexual abuse. From this premise the gears are switched and the contributors discuss the reasons for violence in our milieu, and the threat this poses to children, teens, and adults." -- Cyril J. Barber

Pitt, Theodore K., Premarital Counseling Handbook for Ministers, ISBN: 0817010718 9780817010713.
Includes bibliography.

Powlison, David (1949-2019), Renewing Marital Intimacy: Closing the gap Between you and Your Spouse, 23 pages, ISBN: 9781934885345 1934885347.

Powlison, David (1949-2019), Paul David Tripp, and Edward T. Welch, Domestic Abuse: How to Help, ISBN: 087552687X 9780875526874.

Powlison, David (1949-2019), and John Yenchko, Pre-engagement: Five Questions to ask Yourselves, ISBN: 0875526799 9780875526799.

Preston, John (1587-1628), Sinnes Overthrow: or, A Godly and Learned Treatise of Mortification: Wherein is excellently handled; First, the generall doctrine of mortification: and Then particularly, how to mortifie fornication. Uncleannesse. Evill concupiscence. Inordinate affection. And covetousnesse. All being the substance of severall sermons upon Colos. 3.5. Mortifie therefore your members, &c. Delivered by that late faithfull preacher, and worthie instrument of Gods glorie, John Preston, Dr. in Divinitie, chaplin in ordinarie to his Majestie, master of Emanuell Colledge in Cambridge, and sometimes preacher of Lincolns-Inne, 1635, ISSN: 00279358. [Colossians 3:5]
Preston, Sinnes Overthrow: or, A Godly and Learned Treatise of Mortification . . . All Being the Substance of Severall Sermons Upon Colos. 3. 5 [Colossians 3:5]
https://archive.org/details/siwo00pres/page/n1

Price, Greg L., Dating or Courtship: Which is Biblical? (1/2), [audio file]. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.

Rassieur, Charles L., Pastor, Our Marriage is in Trouble: A Guide to Short-term Counseling, ISBN: 0664250335 9780664250331 .
Includes bibliography.

Rogers, Daniel, Matrimonial Honor, 1642, ISBN: 9781936473007 1936473003. Retypeset and modernized.
"This rare Puritan treatise on marriage is finally back in print after over 350 years. The great importance of godly marriages is emphasized by Daniel Rogers. 'Marriage is the preservative of chastity, the seminary of the commonwealth, seed-plot of the church, pillar (under God) of the world, right-hand of providence, supporter of laws, states, orders, offices, gifts, and services: the glory of peace, the sinews of war, the maintenance of policy, the life of the dead, the solace of the living, the ambition of virginity, the foundation of countries, cities, universities, succession of families, crowns, and kingdoms; truly (besides the being of these) it is the wellbeing of them being made, and whatsoever is excellent in them, or any other thing, the very furniture of heaven (in a kind) depending thereupon.'
"Rogers begins the treatise by showing that marriage is honorable. He then instructs the reader on what is necessary for a good entrance into marriage. It is necessary that one marries in the Lord and that there is aptness and suitableness to the match. Rogers then digresses to handle two points, which are consent of parents and the marriage contract. Returning to the main point of the treatise, he discusses three joint duties of the married, which are unity in religion, chastity, and mutual consent. Rogers then proceeds to handle the respective duties of the husband and the wife. Starting with the husband, he instructs the husband in three duties, namely, that he should be a man of understanding, providence, and given to honor and respect his wife. He then handles the reflective duties of the wife in response to the three duties of the husband. Her subjection to her husband is a response to his understanding. The helpfulness of the wife is in response to the husband's providence. Finally, the husband's giving of honor or respect to the wife is reflected back on him by the wife's gracefulness. Rogers has added a lengthy appendix to the treatise regarding God's terrible judgments against the defilers of marriage, with sundry means and counsels to pursue chastity." -- Publisher

Swindoll, C.R., Commitment: The key to Marriage, ISBN: 0930014650 9780930014650.
Contains material useful in counseling.
We believe that desirelessness on the part of both man and woman are also an important ingredient to successful marriages.
But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.
Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death. (James 1:14,15)

Wheat, Ed, Before the Wedding Night: Pre-Marriage Counsel, 2 audio files [audio file].

Yoder, Andrew, Counseling and Human Sexuality: Foundations of a Biblical Approach,

See also: The sovereignty of god, The doctrine of man (human nature, total depravity), Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justification, Justifying faith, Covetousness, greed, and selfishness, The inspiration and infallibility of scripture (the doctrine of revelation, the doctrine of plenary inspiration, the doctrine of divine inspiration, the doctrine of verbal inspiration, theopneustia, sufficiency of scripture), The ten commandments: the moral law, Trusting god, Forgiveness, Bible promises, Covenant theology and the ordinance of covenanting, Sanctification, Unity and uniformity in the visible church: unity in the truth, Conscience, casuistry, cases of conscience, Ethics, Men and Women, Christian liberty, Men, women and god, Premarital counseling, Marital counseling, Problem solving in marriage, Reconciliation of marriage partners, Counseling the family, Biblical counsel by subject, Reconciliation of relationships, Sexual relationship, Spiritual adultery (spiritual whoredom/harlotry), Slavery, our systems of enslavement, economic enslavement, Carnality and flesh pleasing: lust, desires, ambition, Adultery, Child abuse and pedophilia, Fatherlessness, Counsel for young men, Counsel for young women, Abstinence, Christian counseling and educational foundation, Westminster media, Works of Jay Adams, and Audio cassettes, CCEF speakers, Child abuse and pedophilia, Sexual wholeness, Marriage, Singleness, Feminism, Gratuitous sex, a cause of violence, Homosexuality, lesbianism, gay, bisexual, transvestite, queer (lgbtq), Cowardice, Pseudo-christian movements: a selection of works, Works by and for women, The new age and women, Self, Self-denial, The occult, Sorcery, Women and the new age, Soul-violence, Churches that abuse, Divorce, Hostility, Incest, Rape, Sex ethics, sex education, Pornography, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Unforgiveness, The christian home, domestic duties, Duties of the Christian, and so forth, and so on.

Related Weblinks

Justifying Faith
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr1cha.html#justfaith

Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

Respect Incorporated (formerly Sex Respect)
http://www.sexrespect.com/main.html

True Love Waits
http://www.truelovewaits.com/

The Christian Home, Domestic Duties

Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it. (Ephesians 5:21,22,25)

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), The Role of Husband in the Home (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette JAR01 [audio file].

Adams, Richard, What are the Duties of Parents and Children; and How are They to be Managed According to Scripture? 1674. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
"This Puritan author writes, 'My business is not to discuss the entity of relations in their foundation and terms, which the philosopher is conversant about; but to discourse (on) the efficacy of the chiefest in Christian practice; that is, to inquire into the nature and management of those reciprocal offices betwixt parents and children, which if well discharged according to the sense of the divine oracles, do contribute most to the happiness of human society, and give reputation to the communion of saints.' And that 'their children may continue, and their seed shall be established before' them (Psalm 102:28)." -- Publisher

Bilezikian, Gilbert, Beyond Sex Roles: A Guide for the Study of Female Roles in the Bible, ISBN: 0801008859 9780801008856.

Candlish, Robert S., The Relative Duties of Home Life.

Cleaver, Robert, Roger Carr, Robert Cawdry, and John Dod, A Godly Forme of Houshold Gouernment: For the Ordering of Priuate Families, According to the Direction of Gods Word. Whereunto is adioyned in a more particular manner, the seuerall duties of the husband towards his wife: and the wiues dutie towards her husband: the parents dutie towards their children; and the childrens towards their parents: the masters dutie towards his seruants; and also the seruants dutie towards their masters. First gathered by R.C. and now newly perused, amended, and augmented, by Iohn Dod and Robert Cleuer.
Duties of Husband and Wife, John Dod and Robert Cleaver
http://www.westminsterconfession.org/godly-living/duties-of-husband-and-wife.php

Gouge, William (1578-1653), Of Domesticall Duties Eight Treatises. I. An Exposition of That Part of Scripture out of Which Domesticall Duties are Raised. . . . VIII. Duties of Masters. Available (MP3 format), [audio file] on the Puritan Hard Drive.
Notes: An expansion of the sermon on Ephesians in his "An exposition of the whole fifth chapter of S. Johns Gospell".

*Kennedy, D. James (1930-2007), Learning to Live With the People you Love, ISBN: 0883681900 9780883681909.
Love "is sharing life together in a way that brings glory to God and enriches the lives of every family member."
Dr. Kennedy says no book he has written has brought so many comments as this one.
Read this in conjunction with Dr. Kennedy's 6-message audio cassette series [audio file], "Secrets of Successful Marriages," the audio cassette [audio file], message "Why Some Marriages Fail and Others Succeed," and the 4-message audio cassette [audio file], series "The Christian Marriage Series."

Miller, C. John (1928-1996), The Role of Woman in the Home (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
World Harvest Mission
http://www.whm.org/home.htm

Price, Greg L., The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family, an ongoing MP3 [audio file] and video series. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22.

The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#1) "The Divine Institution of Marriage."
The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#2) "Preparing for Marriage 1/2," contains advanced teaching on courtship.
The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#3) "Preparing for Marriage 2/2," contains advanced teaching on courtship.
The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#4) "Husband's Role and Duty 1/2"
The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#5) "Husband's Role and Duty 2/2"
The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#6) "Wife's Role and Duty 1/2"
The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#7) "Wife's Role and Duty 2/2"

Steele, Richard (1629-1692), What are the Duties of Husbands and Wives Towards Each Other? 1674. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22.

Wilson, Alex, Your Green Home: A Guide to Planning a Healthy, Environmentally Friendly new Home, ISBN: 9780865715554 0865715556.

See also: Parenting, Motherhood, Fatherhood, Counseling children, Men and women, Family management, Counseling the family, Home schooling, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Duties of the Christian, and so forth, and so on.
TCRB5: 735, 1623-1625, 1627, 1630, 3861, 3865

Related Weblinks

Duties of Sons and Daughters (FGB #208)
A Prayer for Sons and Daughters, Pike, J.G. (1784-1854) | Honor Your Father and Mother, Watson, Thomas (1620-1686) | Duties of Sons and Daughters to Parents, James, John Angell (1785-1859) | Children, Authority, and Society, Lloyd-Jones, D.M. (1899-1981) | Sins of Children and Youth, Pike, J.G. (1784-1854) | Children, Seek the Good Shepherd, M'Cheyne (1813-1843) | Why Sons and Daughters Need Faith in Christ, Walker, Charles (1791-1870) | Children Walking in Truth Ryle, J.C. (1816-1900) | To the Children of Godly Parents, Spurgeon, C.H. (1834-1892)
https://www.chapellibrary.org/book/dosafg/duties-of-sons-and-daughters

Duties of Husband and Wife, John Dod and Robert Cleaver
http://www.westminsterconfession.org/godly-living/duties-of-husband-and-wife.php

*The Godly Home (FGB #170)
Family Worship, Pink, A.W. (1886-1952) | Duties of Husbands and Wives, Steele, Richard (1629-1692) | Family Duty, Bunyan, John (1628-1688) | Blood of Sprinkling and the Children, Spurgeon, C.H. (1834-1892) | Children to be Educated for Christ | Faith and the Holy Spirit, Bunyan, John (1628-1688)
https://www.chapellibrary.org/book/ghomfg/godly-home-the

Problem Solving in Marriage

And when all things shall be subdued unto him, then shall the Son also himself be subject unto him that put all things under him, that God may be all in all. (1 Corinthians 15:28)
Many marriages have been healed by a commitment to Christ first and to each other second. -- D. James Kennedy (1930-2007) and Jerry Newcombe, What if Jesus had Never Been Born, p. 140
Prior to the Fall in the Garden of Eden man was in perfect relationship with God and with woman, a heavenly existence. After the Fall man's relationships with God and men were broken. The only way for man and wife, and family, and society to live together happily is to pursue holiness through Christ Jesus. See: The Everlasting Righteousness, or How Shall man be Just With God? Horatius Bonar.
Prayer together with your spouse daily is the single most helpful thing to bring your hearts together and to bless your marriage. Alternate day-by-day praying for a few of your burdens, and then pray for your spouses burdens.
God's promises to married persons deepens their love for each other.

*Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), From Forgiven to Forgiving: Discover the Path to Biblical Forgiveness, ISBN: 1879737124 9781879737129.
"For the 'average Christian,' to shed light on all aspects of forgiveness seeking and granting, and to counter erroneous views. How do forgiven persons -- God's children -- become forgiving persons? Defines, illustrates, motivates and challenges people to deal with forgiveness issues biblically. Clear thinking is essential: 'Labels are important not only as signs of the thing they signify but also as signposts that point to solutions to the problems they categorize.' Tackles unbiblical concepts such as forgiving self, forgiving God, apologizing, 'forgive and forget'." -- David Powlison (1949-2019)
"A detailed look at forgiveness from the Bible. He finds that much of what passes for Biblical teaching on this subject just plain misses the mark." -- GCB

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), Questions and Answers: What is Marriage? Marriage and Family Problems (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette JA104 [audio file].

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), Role-play and Critique (part 1); Wife Abandoned; Potential Suicide (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette JA210 [audio file].

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), Role-Play and Critique (part 2); Wife Won't Speak; Homosexuality; Wife With Cancer (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette JA211 [audio file].

*Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), What do you do When Your Marriage Goes Sour? Alternate title: YOU CAN SWEETEN A SOUR MARRIAGE, ISBN: 0875520480 9780875520483.
"Love is not first a feeling, because God commands love: to wife, to neighbor, even to enemy. You must learn how to give. You must forgive: a promise not to use it against the person, not to talk to others, not to dwell on it yourself. The husband is responsible to take initiative in love." -- David Powlison (1949-2019)

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), You can Sweeten a Sour Marriage, ISBN: 0801000963 9780801000966. Alternate title: WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOUR MARRIAGE GOES SOUR.
"Love is not first a feeling, because God commands love: to wife, to neighbor, even to enemy. [with conditions -- compiler]. You must learn how to give. You must forgive: a promise not to use it [a wrong -- compiler], against the person, not to talk to others, not to dwell on it yourself. The husband is responsible to take initiative in love." -- David Powlison (1949-2019)

Bloem, Diane Brummel, and Robert C. Bloem, A Workshop on Bible Marriages, ISBN: 0310213916 9780310213918.

Bloem, Diane Brummel, and Robert C. Bloem, A Woman's Workshop on Bible Marriages: Leader's Manual, ISBN: 0310214017 9780310214014.

Bloem, Diane Brummel, and Robert C. Bloem, A Woman's Workshop on Bible Marriages: Student's Manual, ISBN: 0310213916 9780310213918.

*Bower, Robert K., Solving Problems in Marriage: Guidelines for Christian Couples, ISBN: 0802813380 9780802813381.
"Spells out ways in which husbands and wives can find solutions to the problems which arise in the normal course of everyday living. Practical." -- Cyril J. Barber

*Bromiley, Geoffrey W., God and Marriage, ISBN: 080281851X 9780802818515.
"Brief and to the point, these chapters deal with the Trinity and note how each member of the Godhead affects the marriage of the Christian couple and contributes toward it stability." -- Cyril J. Barber

Chesser, Barbara, 21 Myths That Can Wreck Your Marriage, ISBN: 0849931614 9780849931611 0849908205 9780849908200.

Cushenberry, Donald C., Coping With Life After Your Mate Dies, ISBN: 0801057655 9780801057656.
"For Donald and Rita Cushenberry, practical wisdom for grieving and getting on with life came from personal experience. Each has lost a spouse, grieved, and eventually found new life. This book brings comfort and helps survivors face decisions." -- Publisher

Dallas, Joe, Desires in Conflict: Answering the Struggle for Sexual Identity, ISBN: 0736912118 9780736912112.
"This book offers a workable approach to sexual and emotional sanctification illuminating the power of God's Grace at work in the sincerely repentant soul." -- GCB
Joe Dallas operates Genesis Counseling in Orange County, California, and is president of Exodus International, an organization that has helped countless thousands out of homosexuality. For more information write to the "Truths That Transform" radio program and ask for the "Joe Dallas Actions Sheet."

Friesen, DeLoss, David Friesen, and Ruby M. Friesen, Counseling and Marriage, ISBN: 084990501X 9780849905018.
Includes bibliographical references.

Gray, Edward P., Counseling to the Heart: A Training Program to Equip Women to Counsel Women (Covenant Theological Seminary, D.Min. thesis, 1990).
"This thesis describes a women-counseling-women program in the context of a local congregation. The program uses a counseling methodology based on a Biblical understanding of the heart. . . . Practical and theological implications of the program are presented. The thesis develops a Biblical foundation for counseling in the areas of marriage and divorce and presents case studies to show how the concept of heart counseling can be applied. . . ." -- Publisher

Greene, Lawrence J., Learning Disabilities and Your Child: A Survival Handbook, ISBN: 0893343242 9780893343248. Alternate title: KIDS WHO HATE SCHOOL.
"Learning disabilities don't have to stand in the way of your child's success.
"A learning disability can be at the root of your child's resistance, failure, and low self-esteem. It's no wonder that children with learning disabilities have difficulties both at home and at school, difficulties that are reflected in poor performance records.
"Lawrence J. Greene, a pioneer in the field of learning disabilities and the Executive Director of the Developmental Learning Center in San Jose, California, for seventeen years, shares his knowledge and experience in compassionate and understanding terms. He explains how to diagnose learning disabilities ranging from dyslexia and hyperactivity to language disorders and tuning out -- and how they might affect your child. He offers helpful advice on choosing the right school or program for your child and on getting the support you need. Anecdotes, where parents and children speak out, as well as step-by-step programs that you can begin right now, make this unique book a vital guide for parents and teachers of learning disabled children." -- Publisher

Hallowell, Edward M., and John J. Ratey, Delivered From Distraction: Getting the Most out of Life With Attention Deficit Disorder, ISBN: 0345442318 9780345442314.
"Medication? Maybe. Marry the right person and find the right job? A must if you are an adult suffering from ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder). So say psychiatrists Edward M. Hallowell and John J. Ratey, authors of the influential DRIVEN TO DISTRACTION, published in 1994. In their new book, DELIVERED FROM DISTRACTION, Hallowell and Ratey survey the current medical landscape concerning ADD, combining their own clinical observations with the latest research to paint a much more complex and, in many ways, positive picture of the condition than has generally been presented.
"Hallowell and Ratey embrace the idea that success in life comes more from playing to your strengths than overcoming your weaknesses. In the case of a person with ADD (child or adult), these strengths often include unusually high levels of creativity, charisma, intelligence, and energy. The authors insist that, while medication and other treatments can sometimes work wonders in reducing limitations, surrounding yourself with people who promote these positive traits, be they in your personal or professional life, is the single most important element to living well with ADD. As both Hallowell and Ratey are not only experts in the field, but "ADDers" themselves, the tips and stories they share for how to do so are fresh, funny, and far more helpful than tired arguments over drugs verse no drugs or whether there's even such a thing as ADD at all." -- Patrick Jennings
Hallowell Center and Hallowell Connections
The Hallowell Center was founded by Dr. Edward M. Hallowell and specializes in the treatment of Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), Worry/Anxiety, and Child Learning Disabilities.
http://www.drhallowell.com/

Harvard, Allen, and Margaret Harvard, Death and Rebirth of a Marriage.
"A true-to-life story about a marriage on the rocks . . . until God stepped in." -- Cyril J. Barber

Horner, Bob, and Jan Horner, Resolving Conflict in Your Marriage, ISBN: 9781602003279 1602003270.

Horner, Bob, and Jan Horner, Resolving Conflict in Marriage (Study Guide), ISBN: 084998338X 9780849983382.
"Six lessons covering: areas of potential conflict, develop transparency, listening skills, confront, forgiveness, blessing, and grow together." -- GCB

*Kennedy, D. James (1930-2007), Learning to Live With the People you Love, ISBN: 0883681900 9780883681909.
Love "is sharing life together in a way that brings glory to God and enriches the lives of every family member."
Dr. Kennedy says no book he has written has brought so many comments as this one.
Read this in conjunction with Dr. Kennedy's 6-message audio cassette [audio file], series "Secrets of Successful Marriages," the audio cassette [audio file], message "Why Some Marriages Fail and Others Succeed," and the 4-message audio cassette [audio file], series "The Christian Marriage Series."

L'Abate, Luciano, and Bess L'Abate, How to Avoid Divorce, ISBN: 0804211183 9780804211185.

*Lloyd-Jones, David Martyn (1899-1981), Life in the Spirit in Marriage, Home and Work: An Exposition of Ephesians 5:18 -- 6:9 [Ephesians 5:18 -- Ephesians 6:9], ISBN: 080105799X 9780801057991.

Luther, Martin (1483-1546), and Walter Lynne (translator), A VVatch-vvord for VVilfull VVomen. An Excellent Pithie Dialogue Betvveene two Sisters, of Contrary Dispositions: the one a Vertuous Matrone: Fearing God: The Other a VVilfull Husvvife: of Disordered Behauioure. Wherein is righte Christianly discoursed, what singuler commodity commeth by vertuous education, as otherwise what torment to a quiet man, a skowlding [and] vndiscrete woman is. Alternate title: FRUTEFUL PREDICATION OR SERMON OF D. MART. LUTH. CONCERNYNGE MATRIMONY, 1581.

Lutz, Ron, Marital Crisis and Church Discipline, MP3 [audio file]. Available on Earl Cook, Ronald E. Lutz, and the Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation, 1987 Alumni Conference, 2 MP3 files [audio file] (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
"Notes: Features the professional counseling staff of the Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation."

Mack, Wayne A., Family and Marital Problems, ISBN: 0875523579 9780875523576.

*Mack, Wayne, A Homework Manual for Biblical Counseling, Vol. I: Personal and Interpersonal Problems, ISBN: 0875523560 9780875523569.
"The counseling session is not the 'magic hour,' and this gives homework assignments that can help with a wide range of problems. Covers about 35 problems, from 'Anger' and 'Anxiety,' through 'Communication' and 'Changing Sinful Thought Patterns,' to 'Vocation' and 'Work.' Typical assignments contain Bible studies, self-analysis questions, brief teachings, and plans to solve problems with a biblical course of action." -- David Powlison (1949-2019)

*Mack, Wayne, A Homework Manual for Biblical Counseling, Vol. II: Family and Marital Problems, ISBN: 0875523579 9780875523576.
"Homework covering a wide range of marital and child-rearing issues: communication, finances, data gathering (e.g., 'Rate Your Marriage' and 'Log Lists'), ways to show love, how parents provoke children to wrath, principles of bringing up children God's way. Includes teaching outlines, self-evaluation forms and questions, plans for biblical change, Bible studies." -- David Powlison (1949-2019)
"These are tested and proven books and are most helpful for study and assignments. Great refreshers and topical studies in areas dealt with most often." -- CCEF

Mack, Wayne A., How to Develop Deep Unity in the Marriage Relationship. Unit III. One Plus one Equals one.

Mack, Wayne A., In-laws: Married With Parents, ISBN: 9781596381704 1596381701.

Mack, Wayne A., Maximum Impact: Living and Loving for God's Glory, ISBN: 9781596382046 159638204X.

Mack, Wayne A., Personal and Interpersonal Problems.

Mack, Wayne A., Preparing for Marriage God's way, ISBN: 1563220199 9781563220197.

*Mack, Wayne, Special Marriage Problems (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
A series of five audio cassettes [audio file].

Mack, Wayne A., You can Resolve Interpersonal Conflicts, ISBN: 0801061032 9780801061035.

Mack, Wayne A., and Deborah Howard, "It's not Fair!" Finding Hope When Times are Tough, ISBN: 9781596381124 1596381124.
"With wonderful insight and clarity, Wayne Mack explores the difficult issue of how to reconcile God's justice with His sovereignty. He shines the bright light of Scripture on some of the toughest questions of all, and then carefully explores the answers in a way that is easy to follow and truly helpful." -- Publisher

Mack, Wayne A., and Strengthening Ministries International, Child Abuse, Marriage, Depression, Financial Problems, Depression, 2 DVDs.
Mack, Wayne A., and Strengthening Ministries International, Marital Relations, Conflict, Communications, Blended Family Issues: Session 1-2 of 6, DVD.
Mack, Wayne A., and Strengthening Ministries International, Drunkenness and Marriage, 2 DVDs.
Mack, Wayne A., and Strengthening Ministries International, Depression, anxiety, panic attacks, bad theology, 2 DVDs.
Wayne Mack conducts five counseling sessions focused on the following: depression, anxiety, panic attacks, and bad theology.

McNair, Mac, and Amy McNair, Ten Principles for a Successful Marriage: Practical Lessons From the Ten Commandments, ISBN: 1581820224 9781581820225.
"Nearly everyone has heard of the Ten Commandments, and most people can even name a few of them. Through fifty-five years of marriage Mac and Amy McNair have drawn from them the following guidelines for living together:

Respect each other's position of authority
Have singleness of purpose in your marriage
Practice effective communication
Maintain a proper balance between work and rest
Show respect for your elders and seek counsel from those who are older and wiser
Show respect for one another and love one another
Maintain a proper physical relationship
Face financial issues together
Demonstrate honesty and integrity to one another
Be content with yourself and your marriage

"A simply written, deeply personal look at marriage, TEN PRINCIPLES FOR A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE is a recounting of the principles that have guided the authors in their own marriage. While at first these insights may seem like simple common courtesy and common sense, the McNairs have found a great deal of profundity in this very simplicity. Inspired by the Ten Commandments, TEN PRINCIPLES FOR A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE is an intensely practical, time-tested guide to happy, successful living that could be applied to other areas of life as well.
"Mac McNair is a former career Air Force officer, professor at North Carolina State University, and director of aerospace programs at the Pentagon. Currently president of McNair Associates, a management consulting firm, he also is chairman of the Executive Leadership Foundation, which seeks to apply Judeo-Christian ethics in business and society. He also is co-author of the leadership development program for the U.S. Attorney General's office. Amy McNair, a homemaker, teaches classes with Mac on the principles of successful marriage. They live near Atlanta, Georgia." -- Publisher

Powlison, David (1949-2019), Renewing Marital Intimacy: Closing the gap Between you and Your Spouse, 23 pages, ISBN: 9781934885345 1934885347.

Strom, Kay Marshall, In the Name of Submission: A Painful Look at Wife Battering, ISBN: 0880701633 9780880701631.
"A very sensitive book. The author confronts the harsh reality in the best possible way. She assesses the complex personal, ethical, and spiritual dilemmas facing the victim of abuse and offers sage suggestions to ensure her personal safety and that of any children. Practical. Recommended." -- Cyril J. Barber
"This is the first book with a Christian perspective that I read which gave a basis for ending my abusive marriage. . . . A must for any woman who questions her husband's controlling, isolating or abusive behavior, especially if she is a Christian and believes in the sanctity of marriage." -- Reader's Comment

Tripp, Paul, When Things go From bad to Worse (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF08 [audio file].

Welch, Edward T., Living With an Angry Spouse: Help for Victims of Abuse, ISBN: 9781934885352 1934885355.

See also: The sovereignty of god, The doctrine of man (human nature, total depravity), Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justification, Justifying faith, Covetousness, greed, and selfishness, The inspiration and infallibility of scripture (the doctrine of revelation, the doctrine of plenary inspiration, the doctrine of divine inspiration, the doctrine of verbal inspiration, theopneustia, sufficiency of scripture), The ten commandments: the moral law, Trusting god, Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justifying faith, Forgiveness, Bible promises, Sanctification, Conscience, casuistry, cases of conscience, Ethics, Men and Women, Christian liberty, Men, women and god, Premarital counseling, Marital counseling, Marriage, Problem solving in marriage, Reconciliation of marriage partners, Biblical counsel by subject, Counseling the family, Reconciliation of relationships, Sexual relationship, Spiritual adultery (spiritual whoredom/harlotry), Incest, Slavery, our systems of enslavement, economic enslavement, Carnality and flesh pleasing: lust, desires, ambition, Adultery, Child abuse and pedophilia, Fatherlessness, Counsel for young men, Counsel for young women, Abstinence, Christian counseling and educational foundation, Westminster media, Works of Jay Adams, and Audio cassettes, CCEF speakers, Sexual wholeness, Marriage, Singleness, Feminism, Gratuitous sex, a cause of violence, Homosexuality, lesbianism, gay, bisexual, transvestite, queer (lgbtq), Cowardice, Pseudo-christian movements: a selection of works, Works by and for women, The new age and women, Self, Self-denial, The occult, Sorcery, Women and the new age, Soul-violence, Churches that abuse, Divorce, Hostility, Incest, Rape, Sex ethics, sex education, Pornography, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Unforgiveness, The christian home, domestic duties, Duties of the Christian, and so forth, and so on.
TCRB5: 1658-1661, 1642, 3733, 4152

Related Weblinks

Biblical Principles for Solving Problems in the Family
http://www.reformed.com/pub/marriage.htm

Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation Resources Audio Archives
http://www.wts.edu/resources/login.html/

Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

Spouse an Unbeliever

For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife? (1 Corinthians 7:16)

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), Counseling Workshop: Multiple Persons; Unbeliever Doesn't Leave; Discipling Children; Obesity and Fatness, six audio cassettes or MP3s [audio file], (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette JA505 [audio file].

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), Winning Your Unsaved Husband (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette JA404 [audio file].

Berry, Jo, Beloved Unbeliever: Loving Your Husband Into the Faith, ISBN: 0310426219 9780310426219.
"This book offers new hope for the thousands of Christian wives married to unbelieving husbands. It gives guidance on communicating with your husband, determining spiritual priorities, and showing Christian behavior at home without alienating your husband. Suited for individual and group study." -- Publisher
"This ten-session book on 'loving a husband into the faith' can be used one-on-one or in a small group study." -- Publisher

Davis, Linda, How to be the Happy Wife of an Unsaved Husband, ISBN: 0883681897 9780883681893.
"In a tactful and personal way, Davis confronts the delicate and sometimes difficult issues raised when a believing woman is married to an unbelieving husband. From a strong Biblical perspective, the spiritual issues are forthrightly addressed. The man's point of view is well represented in this book." -- GCB

*Lloyd-Jones, David Martyn (1899-1981), Life in the Spirit in Marriage, Home and Work: An Exposition of Ephesians 5:18 -- 6:9 [Ephesians 5:18 -- Ephesians 6:9], ISBN: 080105799X 9780801057991.

Birth Control

Birth Control
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr2chb.html#bcontrol

Abortion and the Sanctity of Life

Abortion and the Sanctity of Life
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr2chb.html

Post-abortion Counseling

Post-abortion Counseling
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr2cha.html#postac

Stillborn and Miscarriage

Rank, Maureen, Free to Grieve: Miscarriage and Stillbirth, ISBN: 0871238063 9780871238061.
"Combining her own personal experience with extensive research, Maureen Rank offers guidance to the grieving and help in looking toward the future.
"The author, herself the survivor of four miscarriages, believes that healing can begin when these basic principles are recognized:

Grief is justifiable.
Grief is necessary.
Grief is individual.
Grief will some day end.

"Along with the sorrow of miscarriage and stillbirth come the inevitable questions: 'Why did this happen?' 'Can the problem be remedied?' and 'Should we try again?' Avoiding cold, purely medical technicalities, this book faces these questions squarely and explores options for treatment and emotional healing.
"Written from a Christian perspective and including the latest in medical technology, this book is an important resource for pastors and counselors.
"Comfort, encouragement, and sound advice for those who have suffered the losses of miscarriage and stillbirth." -- Publisher

Rue, Nancy, Handling the Heartbreak of Miscarriage, ISBN: 0898401291 9780898401295.
"An intelligent response to the private agony over a baby who didn't make it to birth. In the three decades since my own lost babies I have never read a more thorough and sensitive treatment of this common, yet always unique, experience of desolation." -- Jeanne W. Hendricks

Infertility, Barrenness, Childlessness

Bassett, William T., Counseling the Childless Couple.

Ebel, Frank J., The Christian's Filial Relationship to God

Gardner, Michelle, Adoption as a Ministry, Adoption as a Blessing, ISBN: 1579215815 9781579215811.

Regenmorter, John Van, Sylvia Van Regenmorter, and Joe S. McIlhaney Dear God, why Can't we Have a Baby?: A Guide for the Infertile Couple, ISBN: 0801093015 9780801093012.
"A Reformed pastor and his wife struggled with the infertility problem for eight years. After much ignorant advice this couple squarely faced the problem. In these pages you will find questions, answers, and sound advice. Dr. McIlhaney's comments come mainly from his book, 1250 HEALTH-CARE QUESTIONS WOMEN ASK." -- GCB

Stephenson, Lynda, Give us a Child: Coping With the Personal Crisis of Infertility, ISBN: 0060675918 9780060675912.
"Covers such topics as: your emotions when you can't have children, what are the treatments for infertility, what you should know about the new, high-tech procedures, and how to keep your marriage strong during this crisis." -- GCB

Stigger, Judith, Coping With Infertility, ISBN: 0806619562 9780806619569.
"A guide for couples, families, and counselors."

Strom, Kay Marshall, The Complete Adoption Handbook, ISBN: 0310574617 9780310574613.
"She does not 'sugar coat' adoption like it's the TV sitcom, 'The Brady Bunch,' but weaves in accounts of actual families as they made their way through adoption. Though not a technical reference book like THE ADOPTION RESOURCE BOOK by Lois Gilman (by the way, is an invaluable adoption tool), Kay Strom makes you stop and evaluate your motivations before you jump into adoption. I highly recommend this book to any Christian since she does not 'push' any particular 'religious affiliation' when she encourages one to seek the Lord for His guidance. -- Reader's Comment

Vergin, Leslie, Infertility: A Guide for Pastoral Care and Counseling,

See also: The fatherhood of god, Fatherhood, Filial love (love toward parents), Adoption of children, Infertility, barrenness (women), and so forth, and so on.
TCRB5: 1660

Adoption of Children

Melina, Lois R., Raising Adopted Children: A Manual for Adoptive Parents, ISBN: 0060960396 9780060960391.
This book "is important reading before, during, and after adopting [a child]. By replacing the myth of adoption with the realistic issues involved, it offers parents valuable insights into how to deal openly and honestly with themselves, as well as with the emotional and psychological needs of their child." -- Betty Jean Lifton

See also: Infertility, barrenness, childlessness, The fatherhood of god, Parenting, Sharing christ with your children, Women and parenting, Children of divorce, and so forth, and so on.
TCRB5: 1654

Sexual Relationship

Sexual Relationship
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr2chb.html#sex

Counseling for Sex Related Problems, Illegitimacy

For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 19:5-6)
John Gill commenting on Matthew 19:6
http://www.biblestudytools.com/my-bible/#/left:passage/kjv/matthew/19:6/&right:reference/commentaries/gills-exposition-of-the-bible/matthew-19-6.html
Illegitimate births have increased 400 percent since 1963, the historical date that marks the beginning of the sexual revolution. [Medical Institute for Sexual Health, 1990 figures]. Nearly 40 percent of babies born in the United States in 2007 were delivered by unwed mothers, according to data released last month by the National Center for Health Statistics.
Percent of all births to unmarried women: 40.7 percent. -- Data are for the U.S., 2012. Source: Births: Final Data for 2012, Table C (See link to statistics below).
All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any. Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats: but God shall destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body. And God hath both raised up the Lord, and will also raise up us by his own power.
Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.
Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's. (1 Corinthians 6:12-20)
Calvin seems to see the Seventh as interrelated to, as summing up, all Ten Commandments of the Law.*
Although one kind of impurity is alone referred to, it is sufficiently plain, from the principle laid down, that believers are generally exhorted to chastity; for, if the Law be a perfect rule of holy living, it would be more than absurd to give a license for fornication, adultery alone being excepted. Furthermore, it is incontrovertible that God will by no means approve or excuse before this tribunal, what the common sense of mankind declares to be obscene; for, although lewdness has everywhere been rampant in every age, still the opinion could never be utterly extinguished, that fornication is a scandal and a sin. . . . [Titus 2:12; Isaiah 30:21; Matthew 19:17; Romans 13:8]
Now, if Christ and the Apostles, who are the best interpreters of the Law, declare that God's Law is violated no less by fornication than by theft, we assuredly infer, *that in this Commandment the whole genus is comprehended under a single species. . . . [Hebrews 13:4; Leviticus 21:14; Deuteronomy 23:17; Hosea 4:11; Hosea 1:2; Numbers 25:9; 1 Corinthians 10:8; Acts 15:20; 1 Corinthians 6:18; 2 Corinthians 7:1; 1 Thessalonians 4:4,5] -- John Calvin commenting on Exodus 20:14 and Deuteronomy 5:18 and context
Our first love is our only love because, by definition, a man can become one flesh (Genesis 2:24; 1 Corinthians 6:15-20) with only one woman, and visa versa. Men and women have only ONE CHANCE to become one flesh. Promiscuity then is a hopelessly impossible attempt to again know that oneness which has been lost.
No sin that a person commits has more built-in pitfalls, problems, and destructiveness than sexual sin. It has broken more marriages, shattered more homes, caused more heartache and disease, and destroyed more lives than alcohol and drugs combined. It causes lying, stealing, cheating, and killing, as well as bitterness, hatred, slander, gossip, and unforgiveness.
The dangers and harm of sexual sin are nowhere presented more vividly and forcefully than in Proverbs. The lips of an adulteress drip honey, and smoother than oil is her speech (Proverbs 5:3). The basic truth applies to a prostitute or to any other woman who tries to seduce a man. It also applies to a man who tries to seduce a woman. The point is that sexual allurement is extremely enticing and powerful. It seems nice, enjoyable, and good. It promises nothing but pleasure and satisfaction. But what it ends up giving is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two -- edged sword. Her feet go down to death, her steps lay hold of Sheol. She does not ponder the path of life; her ways are unstable, she does not know it (Proverbs 5:4-6). The first characteristic of sexual sin is deceit. It never delivers what it promises. It offers great satisfaction but gives great disappointment. It claims to be real living but is really the way to death. Illicit sexual relationships are always "unstable." Nothing binds those involved except the temporary and impersonal gratification of physical impulses. That is poor cement. Another tragedy of sexual sin is that often those involved do "not know it" is unstable, do not realize perhaps for a long time that their relationship cannot be lasting. Thus they fall deeper and deeper into the pit of their doomed relationship, which makes the dissolution all the more devastating and painful.
Those who consider all sex to be basically evil, however, are as far from the truth as those who consider all sex to be basically good and permissible. God is not against sex. He created and blessed it. When used exclusively within marriage, as the Lord intends, sex is beautiful, satisfying, and stabilizing. Let your fountain be blessed, Scripture says, and rejoice in the wife of your youth. . . . Be exhilarated always with her love (Proverbs 5:18,19).
The Bible's advice for avoiding sexual involvement outside marriage is simple: stay as far away as possible from the persons and places likely to get you in trouble. Keep your way far from her, and do not go near the door of her house (Proverbs 5:8). When repeatedly enticed by Potiphar's wife, Joseph refused not only to lie beside her but even to be with her (Genesis 39:10). When she tried to force him into adultery and grabbed his coat, he left his garment in her hand and fled, and went outside (Genesis 39:12). It was not the time for argument or explanation but for flight. When we unavoidably get caught in such a situation, the only sensible thing to do is to get away from it as quickly as we can. Passion is not rational or sensible, and sexually dangerous situations should be avoided or fled, not debated. -- John MacArthur commenting on the destructiveness of sexual immorality, Christian Liberty, 1 Corinthians 6
Our virginity before marriage is a great possession.
Soon teenage daughters and sons will be sent off to college. Away from home for the first time, they will be on their own, separated from parental guidance and protection. They will be alone and eager for quick acceptance.
Girls and young men should understand that virginity is probably the most important gift and possession that we have, next to spiritual regeneration, that is, knowing Christ. The godless are blind to this fact, and often are in severe denial about sexual purity. (Colossians 3:4,5). Lose of virginity throws us into bondage, and into submission to this Fallen World. It is a stealing of our souls. Our first love is our only love. Once we have sexual relations with another, then we are never the same again.
True femininity is to know and to understand that God has a special design and plan for your life. It guarantees that a girl will know true oneness with the man of God's choosing for a partner in her life. Being a virgin until marriage assures us that God's design for our lives will be fulfilled.
One of the strategies used by the principalities and powers is to rob us of our virginity. (Ephesians 6:12). Some other strategies of the Adversary are: childhood sexual abuse, incest (the "boot camp" for prostitution), high school peer pressures, exclusive "clubs," gangs, drunkenness (especially in the company of the opposite sex), cults and cultic beliefs, the cultural influence from a godless secular humanism and its acceptance of sexual sin, the occult, sorority (and fraternity), pledging, rushing, hazing, and initiation, and so forth, and so on.
Lose of virginity is a powerful "socializing influence" in the wrong sense. It conforming us to this fallen world. It can be seen as a conditioning for later life, when we will be expected to submit in the workplace to big corporations, to political parties, and to the influence of secular and secularized institutions.
Of course, one is not able "to glorify God and enjoy him fully for ever" when under bondage. To lead a chaste, moral life, by the help of God, is to glorify God. That is beyond all comparison to the idolatry, of the secular humanistic world -- looking to man for our good.
Of course, nothing can separate those who are true to Christ from the salvation and forgiveness found in the Gospel. (Romans 8:37-39). But Christian girls (and young men), should bear in mind that the sexual sins of our youth can bear a life long influence, even after we are forgiven.
We should be on guard against the "emotionally blackmail" of the world. We should resist the temptation to become "joiners," by "selling out" to their destructive lies. (Matthew 16:24-26). Ignorance of sexual morality is a sure sign of hypocrisy. (Mark 7:20-23)
17th century Puritans were keenly aware of the social consequences of illegitimacy. (See: Sexual relationship, Gratuitous sex, a cause of violence, Homosexuality, lesbianism, gay, bisexual, transvestite, queer (lgbtq), Illegitimacy, sex related problems, counseling for, Sexually transmitted diseases, Sexual wholeness, Sex ethics, sex education, Sex ethics, sex education, Teens and sex, Prostitution, harlotry, Fatherlessness, Soul-violence, The sanctity of life, abortion, Child abuse and pedophilia, and so forth, and so on). During the ten year Protectorate of Oliver Cromwell, all manner of adultery and fornication was against the law. Suspected violators were tried on the charge "For Uncondoned Carnal Knowledge." The acronym for this legal charge has been a vulgarity for immoral sex for the last 360 years.

*Bork, Robert H., Slouching Towards Gomorrah: Modern Liberalism and American Decline, ISBN: 0060391634 9780060391638.
"In Robert H. Bork's SLOUCHING TOWARDS GOMORRAH, one of our nation's most distinguished conservative scholars offers a prophetic and unprecedented view of a culture in decline, a nation in such serious moral trouble that its very foundation is crumbling. Of our own President, Bork writes: 'Thirty years ago, Clinton's behavior would have been absolutely disqualifying. Since the 1992 election, the public has learned far more about what is known, euphemistically, as the 'character issue.' Yet none of this appears to affect Clinton's popularity. It is difficult not to conclude that something about our moral perceptions and reactions has changed profoundly. If that change is permanent, the implication for our future is bleak.'
"The root of our decline, Bork argues, is the rise of modern liberalism, which stresses the dual forces of radical egalitarianism (the equality of outcomes rather than opportunities) and radical individualism (the drastic reduction of limits to personal gratification). The roots of modern liberalism are deeply embedded in the past two and a half centuries -- and perhaps -- arise from the very nature of Western civilization itself. From the collapse of popular culture to the general weakening of intellect, from the role of the Supreme Court as an agent of modern liberalism to the trouble in religion, from the assault of radical feminism on American institutions and freedoms to the 'killing for convenience' of abortion and euthanasia, Bork has brilliantly encapsulated a nation and a culture on the brink. He courageously sounds an alarm for all Americans.
"To understand our current plight and the direction in which we are moving, Bork believes we must look to the Sixties, a decade in which the moral integrity of our nation came under full-blown assault. We have never recovered from that attack because the radicals of the Sixties have taken over or heavily modified the cultural institutions they once sought to destroy. . . .
"Robert H. Bork received his undergraduate and law degrees at the University of Chicago. He has been a partner at a major law firm, taught constitutional law as the Alexander M. Bickell Professor of Public Law at the Yale law school, served as Solicitor General and as Acting Attorney General of the United States and served as a United States Court of Appeals judge. Author of the bestselling THE TEMPTING OF AMERICA: THE POLITICAL SEDUCTION OF THE LAW, he and his wife live in Washington DC, where he is the John M. Olin Scholar in Legal Studies at the American Enterprise Institute." -- Publisher

Jackson, Mark, Newborn Child Murder: Women, Illegitimacy and the Courts in Eighteenth-Century England. ISBN: 0719046076 9780719046070.
Of course, abortion is not unprecedented. Furthermore it is not unprecedented for man's law to be lenient toward mothers who murder their own children.
"Includes trials of eighteenth-century child murder cases."

Love, Christopher (1618-1651), The Combat Between the Flesh and the Spirit. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive (MP3). Available on Reformation bookshelf CD #4, #21 (MPS), audio file.

*Owen, John (1616-1683), The Mortification of sin in Believers: Containing the necessity, nature, and means of it. With a resolution of sundry cases of conscience thereunto belonging. By John Owen, D.D. . . . A new edition London, 1783.
"I owe more to John Owen than to any other theologian, ancient or modern; and I owe more to [THE MORTIFICATION OF SIN] than to anything else he wrote." -- J.I. Packer
The Mortification of sin, an e-book
https://www.monergism.com/mortification-sin-believers-ebook-0
The Mortification of sin
https://faculty.gordon.edu/hu/bi/ted_hildebrandt/SpiritualFormation/Texts/Owen_MortificationOfSin.pdf
"John Owen's treatises on INDWELLING SIN IN BELIEVERS [in TEMPTATION AND SIN,] and THE MORTIFICATION OF SIN [see: THE MORTIFICATION OF SIN IN BELIEVERS] are, in my opinion, the most helpful writings on personal holiness ever written." -- Jerry Bridges
On the Mortification of Sin in Believers, John Owen (1 of 6), an audio file reading
http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?SID=62906111628

Putnam, Bill, Daddy, I'm Pregnant, ISBN: 0880702044 9780880702041.
Counsel from a father who had his 14 year old daughter tell him she was pregnant.

Rassieur, Charles L., The Problem Clergymen Don't Talk About, ISBN: 0664247903 9780664247904.
The problem is the danger of sexual involvement with female counselees. Includes bibliographical references.

Smith, Robert D., Biblical Principles of Sex, 51 pages, ISBN: 1889032395 9781889032399.

Storey, Duane, Sandy Kulkin, Mary Ann Mayo, and Mayo Kulkin, Body and Soul: A Married Couple's Guide to Discovering and Understanding our Unique Sexual Personalities, ISBN: 0880707429 9780880707428.
"Combining helpful self-tests with seasoned counsel, the authors show how you and your partner can develop a relationship that is deeply fulfilling -- both physically and emotionally with Body and Soul." -- Publisher

Terkelsen, Helen E., Counseling the Unwed Mother.

Terkelsen, Helen E., I'm Going to Have a Baby and I'm not Married, ISBN: 0800619943.

Yoder, Andrew, Counseling and Human Sexuality: Foundations of a Biblical Approach,

Related Weblinks

Cardinal Apologizes Over Abuse Claims. Church to Pay Record Amount to Victims of Clergy, by Gillian Flaccus, Associated Press, Posted: 2007-07-16
"LOS ANGELES (July 16) -- After a whirlwind weekend, the negotiations that produced a landmark $660 million settlement between the Roman Catholic Archdiocese of Los Angeles and more than 500 alleged victims of clergy abuse are moving from the cathedral to the courthouse.
http://news.aol.com/story/_a/cardinal-apologizes-over-abuse-claims/20070714212509990001?ncid=NWS00010000000001

Catholic sex Abuse Cases
"According to Donald Cozzens, "by the end of the mid 1990s, it was estimated that more than half a billion dollars had been paid in jury awards, settlements and legal fees." This figure grew to about one billion dollars by 2002.[46] Roman Catholics spent $615 million on sex abuse cases in 2007.[47]"
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Catholic_sex_abuse_cases

Facts on Induced Abortion in the United States (05/2006)
Comprehensive documented statistics on legal abortions performed in the Unites States compiled by the Guttmacher Institute.
http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/fb_induced_abortion.html

Legitimacy (family law)
"Births outside marriage represent the majority in many countries of Western Europe and in many former European colonies."
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Legitimacy_(family_law)

Mastering Life Ministries
http://www.MasteringLife.org

Non-marital Birth Rates in the United States, 1940-2014
https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Nonmarital_Birth_Rates_in_the_United_States,_1940-2014.png

Respect Incorporated (formerly Sex Respect)
http://www.sexrespect.com/main.html

True Love Waits
http://www.truelovewaits.com/

Unintended Pregnancy
"Worldwide, the unintended pregnancy rate is approximately 45 percent of all pregnancies, but rates of unintended pregnancy vary in different geographic areas and among different socio-demographic groups. [Bearak J., Popinchalk A., Alkema L., Sedgh G. (April 2018). "Global, regional, and subregional trends in unintended pregnancy and its outcomes from 1990 to 2014: estimates from a Bayesian hierarchical model". The Lancet. Global Health. 6 (4): e380, e389."
"According to the Guttmacher Institute, slightly less than half (45 percent) of U.S. pregnancies in 2011 were unintended, approximately 2.8 million pregnancies per year.[4]. . . .
"Over 92 percent of abortions are the result of unintended pregnancy,[13] and unintended pregnancies result in about 800,000 abortions/year.[14] In 2001, 44 percent of unintended pregnancies resulted in births, 42 percent resulted in induced abortion, and the rest in miscarriage.[15] It is estimated that more than half of US women have had an unintended pregnancy by age 45.[16] According to one study, over one-third of living people in the US under 31 years of age (born since 1982) were the result of unintended pregnancies, a rate that has remained largely unchanged to date.[17][18]" -- Wikipedia, "Unintended pregnancy"

Unmarried Childbearing
"Percent of all births to unmarried women: 40.7 percent. . . .
"Data are for the U.S., 2012. Source: Births: Final Data for 2012, Table C."
http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/unmarry.htm

*Wisdom Guards the Heart, a sermon by Phil Johnson
"Mortify your evil thoughts -- Mortify, therefore, your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry (Colossians 3:5) -- this is a recurring theme in the Apostle Paul's writings, this idea of putting to death sin in your body, mortifying the sin. For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live. (Romans 8:13) What he's saying is this: put your evil thoughts to death. Deal with them ruthlessly. Don't allow them any breathing room. Choke the life out of them. Mortify them. Put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfill the lusts thereof. (Romans 13:14)
By the way, this is one of the marks of the true Christian. Galatians 5:24 says, And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. We haven't done it perfectly. It's a process of crucifixion, and that's a slow death, so those affections and lusts continually come back to plague us; but if you are truly a believer, then at some point and in some way, you have begun the process of crucifying these lusts and affections. . . ." -- Phil Johnson
Wisdom Guards the Heart
https://www.gracechurch.org/sermons/10356 Wisdom Guards the Heart
https://archive.org/details/podcast_biblical-counseling-institute_wisdom-guards-the-heart_1000393915063

Gratuitous Sex, a Cause of Violence

Gratuitous Sex, a Cause of Violence
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr2chb.html#gsacov

Parenting

God be merciful unto us, and bless us: and cause his face to shine upon us: That thy way may be known upon earth, thy saving health among all nations. (Psalm 67:1,2)
See the Theological Notes: "The Image of God," at Genesis 1:27 in The Reformation Study Bible.
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. (Genesis 1:27)
See the Theological Notes: "The Fall" at Genesis 3:6 in The Reformation Study Bible.
See the Theological Notes: "Angels," at Zechariah 1:9 in The Reformation Study Bible.
See the Theological Notes: "The Christian Family," at Ephesians 5:22 in The Reformation Study Bible.
And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins. (1 Peter 4:8)
It would be easy to show that all those tremendous evils which shake the foundations of civil society such as theft, murder, adultery, perjury, and the like, originate from the want of natural affection, and a failure in filial obedience. -- Samuel Stennett, The Godly Family
Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. (Psalm 127:3)
Whosoever therefore shall humble himself as this little child, the same is greatest in the kingdom of heaven.
And whoso shall receive one such little child in my name receiveth me.
But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and [that] he were drowned in the depth of the sea. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 18:4-6)
And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 25:40)
Whosoever shall receive one of such children in my name, receiveth me: and whosoever shall receive me, receiveth not me, but him that sent me. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Mark 9:37)
But Jesus called them unto him, and said, Suffer little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Luke 18:16)
At that time Abijah the son of Jeroboam fell sick.
And Jeroboam said to his wife, Arise, I pray thee, and disguise thyself, that thou be not known to be the wife of Jeroboam; and get thee to Shiloh: behold, there is Ahijah the prophet, which told me that I should be king over this people.
And take with thee ten loaves, and cracknels, and a cruse of honey, and go to him: he shall tell thee what shall become of the child. (1 Kings 14:1-3), (Bad men cannot help respecting God's true messengers. Why did not Jeroboam go to the prophets of the calves? The ungodly and those who follow false religions lose all confidence in their notions in times of necessity, and begin to look about them for better comfort. Ahijah's word had been powerful with the king before, and therefore he sent to him again. Many a sinner has a something in his conscience which bears witness to the Lord's minister, for his word has in former times been full of power.)
Go, tell Jeroboam, Thus saith the LORD God of Israel, Forasmuch as I exalted thee from among the people, and made thee prince over my people Israel,
And rent the kingdom away from the house of David, and gave it thee: and yet thou hast not been as my servant David, who kept my commandments, and who followed me with all his heart, to do that only which was right in mine eyes;
But hast done evil above all that were before thee: for thou hast gone and made thee other gods, and molten images, to provoke me to anger, and hast cast me behind thy back: (1 Kings 14:7-9), (Therefore the Lord declared that there should be no sons left of the family of Jeroboam, and none to perpetuate his name and race. The whole family was devoted to utter destruction and erasure from among the households of Israel. God knows how to punish as well as how to bless.)
And Jeroboam's wife arose, and departed, and came to Tirzah: and when she came to the threshold of the door, the child died;
And they buried him; and all Israel mourned for him, according to the word of the LORD, which he spake by the hand of his servant Ahijah the prophet. (1 Kings 14:17,18), (Upon this incident Matthew Henry remarks: "Those are good in whom are good things towards the Lord God of Israel; good inclinations, good intentions, good desires towards him. Where there is but some good thing of that kind, it will be found; God who seeks it sees it, be it never so little, and is pleased with it. A little grace goes a great way with great folks. It is so rare to find princes well affected to religion, that when they are so, they are worthy of double honour. Pious dispositions are in a peculair manner amiable and acceptable when they are found in those that are young. The divine image in miniature has a peculair lustre and beauty in it. A good child in the house of Jeroboam is a miracle of divine grace: to be there untainted is like being in the firey furnace unhurt, unsinged. Observe the care taken of him: he only of all Jeroboam's family shall be buried, and shall be lamented, as one that lived desired. Those that are distinguished by the divine grace shall be distinguished by the divine providence." In this family we trust there are some who have in them hopefuly signs of grace: let such be encouraged by observing that the Lord notices the smallest measure of grace which may be found in any one of us.) -- Matthew Henry commenting on 1 Kings 14:1-31
Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become [as] sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. And though I have [the gift of] prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed [the poor], and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.
Charity suffereth long, [and] is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
Charity never faileth: but whether [there be] prophecies, they shall fail; whether [there be] tongues, they shall cease; whether [there be] knowledge, it shall vanish away. For we know in part, and we prophesy in part. But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away. When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known. And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these [is] charity. (1 Corinthians 13)
One of the kindest things we can do is introduce a [the] biblical sin plan [forgiveness of sin and everlasting life through the substitutionary, atoning death of Christ on the cross for our sins, and His resurrection] to our families, so they can enjoy the full benefits of the Gospel [reconciliation of us all together with Christ]. If we do this, [then] we will begin to release an entire generation of people who will sin, but quickly [turn in faith to the Gospel] remove it, eliminating the lingering effects of sin [unforgiveness] which so many of us had experienced from those who had gone before us, as they tried to hide the obvious [our fallen state] in plain sight, while affecting [isolating] us generationally. We will sin before [against] our families and friends, so let's demonstrate what we are supposed to do about it [confess our sin, repent, trust in the shed Blood of Christ to wash us clean]. Let them see how we may be [are] ashamed of our sins, but we are not ashamed of the Gospel." -- Life With Coffee, Lifehack #0056
Word: "disease"; Meaning; "disturb"; Sample location: "Luke 8:49" -- from the "Glossary," 1599 Geneva Bible, Tolle Lege edition
DISEASE, n. Dizeze. [dis and ease].
1. In its primary sense, pain, uneasiness, distress, and so used by Spenser; but in this sense, obsolete.
2. The cause of pain or uneasiness . . . disorder; any state of a living body in which the natural functions of the organs are interrupted or disturbed . . . The first effect of disease is uneasiness or pain, and the ultimate effect is death. . . .
3. A disordered state of the mind or intellect, by which the reason is impaired.
4. In society, vice; corrupt state of morals. Vices are called moral diseases. A wise man converses with the wicked, as a physician with the sick, not to catch the disease, but to cure it.
5. Political or civil disorder, or vices in a state; any practice which tends to disturb the peace of society, or impede or prevent the regular administration of government.
The instability, injustice and confusion introduced into the public councils have, in truth, been the mortal diseases under which popular governments have every where perished. -- 1846 edition of An American Dictionary of the English Language
DISEASE, v.t. dizeze.
1. To interrupt or impair any or all the natural and regular functions of the several organs of a living body [i.e. robbing a neighbor of sleep -- compiler]; to afflict with pain or sickness to make morbid . . .
2. To interrupt or render imperfect the regular functions of the brain, or of the intellect; to disorder; to derange.
3. To infect; to communicate disease to, by contagion.
4. To pain; to make uneasy. -- 1828 edition of Webster's American Dictionary of the English Language
Wicked parents are the most notable servants of the devil in all the world and the bloodiest enemies to their children's souls. More souls are damned by ungodly parents, and next [to them] ungodly ministers and magistrates, than by any instruments in the world besides. -- Richard Baxter (1615-1691) in Baxter's Practical Works, vol. 1, A Christian Directory, Part II, Christian Economics: or, The Family Directory . . , Chapter X, "The Duties of Parents for Their Children," the Soli Deo Gloria Publications reprint, 1990, of the 19th century reprint by George Virtue, London, p. 451
Children's ruin is often owing very much to parents' indulgence. -- Matthew Henry (1662-1714)
Child depression rates

Child depression rates in the United States have jumped exponentially in the last decade. Between 1995 and 2002, the number of hospital visits for depression among seven-to seventeen-year-olds jumped from 1.44 million to 3.22 million. The majority of these children are girls. The number of girls under six who are taking antidepressants and similar drugs has jumped to over a million.
Over four million U.S. boys are on Ritalin or other mind- and mood-altering drugs. They are being medicated at ever younger ages, even though the FDA has not approved these drugs for these age groups. In general, the use of antipsychotic drugs for both girls and boys has jumped fivefold in the seven years between 1995 and 2002.
Increasingly, the minds of our children are growing up to be antisocial. Children diagnosed with Antisocial Personality Disorder now number in the millions. As the Carnegie-Mellon survey notes, our primary social response to the new antisocial nature of children has not been to rethink how we raise them, but rather to expand punishment and incarceration systems. A Department of Justice study reports that at our present rates of incarceration, one in twenty babies born in the United States today will spend some part of life incarcerated. As of 2004, 1 in every 138 U.S. residents was in prison.
More than seven million U.S. girls struggle now with eating disorders -- quite often their brains' serotonin levels are so askew in their high-pressure lives that they must excessively diet, vomit food, and impede their own physical maturation just to rebalance themselves.
Just under two million girls each year cut themselves with knives and other sharp objects in response to desperation and need for emotional contact.
Millions of adolescent children abuse substances and binge drink. (Boys especially fit in the latter category). These children seek emotional relief and escape from pressure through means other than healthy human contact and healthy personal growth.
Boys and girls are sleeping one to two hours less per night than their brains need for healthy growth. This lack of sleep is an underreported epidemic with profound consequences, including antisocial behavior, substance abuse, and school failure.
In the last twenty years, our children's physical weight rates have risen to nearly one in two children overweight and one in five obese. Obesity is the number one health problem among American children and is tied to many other problems: alcohol abuse, drugs, self-cutting, depression, media addiction, and listlessness.
Dr. Philip Thomas, a pediatric obesity specialist, fears "This is going to be the first generation that's going to have a lower life expectancy than its parents."
In total, even after accounting for overlap in a number of these statistics, about one-third of our children are now diagnosed with some significant mental or physical disorder." -- Michael Gurian in Nurture the Nature
Biblical counselors report that parental neglect, rejection, or abuse are the most frequent complaints of counselees.
Transgression beyond a certain point ends responsibility. Thus, in the law of the delinquent son (Deut. 21:18-21 [Deuteronomy 21:18-21]), the parents' responsibility to provide for and protect their son ended with the son's delinquency; their duty and their moral responsibility then became denunciation of and separation from their son.
As previously noted, responsibility is not a one-way street. The responsibility of parents for a child ends when that child refuses to submit to the godly authority and discipline of the parents.
The same is true of the responsibility of children for their parents. Again, it is not a one-way street. . . . Another illustration: a mother, a militant liberal or modernist in religion, made her home with her daughter and son-in-law, both devout, orthodox believers. The mother regarded the family's faith, church, and family worship with contempt, belittled it to her grandchildren and daily ridiculed her daughter for her 'ignorant, reactionary' faith. Having denied openly the authority of her son-in-law, and having denied the faith of the family, she had forfeited any right to its care and protection. The family's patient suffering was not godly. Because responsibility is a two-way street, the mother had the duty to respect the family's faith, her son-in-law's authority, and her daughter's devotion.
Thus, we may say that, not only does transgression beyond a certain point end responsibility, but fourth, if responsibility is maintained beyond that point it becomes a robbery. Where a juvenile delinquent is tolerated or protected, or a lawless parent allowed to be an affront to the family's faith and authority, the other members of the family are robbed of their due. Unconditional honor and service are due to God alone, not to man. St. Paul's admonition is 'Render therefore to all their dues: tribute to whom tribute is due, custom to whom custom; fear to whom fear; honour to whom honour.' (Rom. 13:7 [Romans 13:7]). No relationship between man and man can be absolutized. We have no absolute bond which ties us unconditionally to any man, either to obey or to love him. Marriage is dissolved by certain transgressions. The parent's duty to the child is nullified by his incorrigible conduct. The child's duty to the parent is limited by his prior obedience to God and the maintenance of God's law-order. In every human relationship, the only absolute is God's law, not man's relationship.
Fifth, not only does the absolutizing of a human relationship involve theft, in that the indulgence of a delinquent family or society member is the robbing of another, but it also involves theft Godward as well as manward. It is an infraction of God's order to indulge evil. It involves robbing one person of his due in order to reward or indulge another, and this means also the violation of God's order to continue man's disorder.
To repeat again, responsibility is not a one-way street. If the ox, an animal of limited intelligence, is accountable for his acts, then every man in his station is also responsible. In every relationship, there is responsibility on every side by every person.
Modern man is hostile to responsibility; he replaces responsibility with sensitivity, sensitivity being defined as awareness of humanity. Thus, a rebellious nun of the Immaculate Heart of Mary Sisters defies authority and declares, 'These men (church officials), have no right to make a judgment when they don't know us.' (Terrence Shea, "A Community Divided. Dissent Nuns now Face a Bigger Split -- With Rome Itself," The National Observer, Monday, November 17, 1969, p. 14). This nun had entered an order requiring authority but had refused to submit to it. Her freedom to leave and establish her own way of life was not in question. She denied the principle of any responsibility beyond that which she owed to herself. (483, 484) -- R.J. Rushdoony, Institutes of Biblical Law, pp. 481-484
Often "actions speak louder than words."

Adams, Dan, The Child Influencers: Restoring the Lost Art of Parenting, ISBN: 0962634905 9780962634901.
"Dan Adams does a great job focusing on the needs of our children and how we as parents can and should meet those needs. It is not the responsibility of the church, YMCA, day-care center, or public school to meet those needs. As parents, we need to take seriously the God-given responsibility we have been given and determine to be the main influence in our children's lives. The result of our efforts can either be rewards for a job well done, or grief from a rebellious child that was not properly guided. This book contains many insights on how to spend quantity time, not just quality time, with our children and gives many ideas on how to turn the TV set off and get our children to enjoy reading alone as well as reading together as a family, and build memories as a family that will be the root system that the child will need to withstand the "winds" later in life." -- Reader's Comment

Adams, Jay, Sibling Rivalry in the Household of God, ISBN: 0896362361 9780896362369.
"About 'the causes and effects of rivalry among brothers and sisters in Christ and what can be done about it. . . .' 'Sibling rivalry in the household of faith -- just like at home -- is due entirely to sin.' Other supposed causes are not causes but occasions for our self-centered human nature to act. The Holy Spirit gives practical guidance in His Word for solving rivalry and conflict through repentance, faith and obedience." -- David Powlison (1949-2019)

Alexander, Archibald (1772-1851), Evangelical Truth: Practical Sermons for the Christian Home, ISBN: 1932474544 9781932474541.

Block, Mary Ann, No More Ritalin: Treating ADHD Without Drugs, ISBN: 1575661268 9781575661261 9781575662398,

Brown, John (of Haddington, 1722-1787), The Fearful Shame and Contempt of Those Professed Christians, who Neglect to Raise up Spiritual Children to Jesus Christ: Being the substance of two sermons, preached, the one after the ordination of Mr. Ebenezer Brown at Inverkeithing; and the other after a sacramental occasion, at Whitburn.

*Campbell, Ross, How to Really Love Your Child, ISBN: 0882077511 9780882077512.
"This book is unique. It rightly assumes that almost all parents love their children, but few know how to express that love so their children feel and understand it. It tends to lean exclusively toward the relationship without considering discipline, and at times downplays rebellious behavior. But it remains a standard on relationship building." -- GCB

Campbell, Ross, How to Really Love Your Teenager, ISBN: 0882073419 9780882073415.

Christenson, Evelyn, What Happens When we Pray for our Families, ISBN: 0896935418 9780896935419.
LEADER'S GUIDE available.
"When women pray, wonderful things happen -- and Evelyn Christenson knows it from experience! Now she looks back over her 50 years of marriage to reveal prayer secrets that will help you pray effectively for your family. When illness or tragedy strikes, when family relationships are fractured, when children stray -- prayer can make a difference! "Christenson shows you how to hang on in faith and wait for what God will do . . ." -- CBD

Clark, Kristen, Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity, and Identity, ISBN: 9780801008450 080100845X.
"Presents a Christian perspective on femininity and female identity, maintaining that women should derive their feelings of self-worth and dignity from the teachings of Jesus Christ and a trust in God's love." -- Publisher
"GIRL DEFINED answered questions such as, 'What does it mean to be a woman? How should a career fit into our lives? Is one gender more valuable than the other? Is my sole purpose just to grow up, get married, and have kids?' . . . .
"It challenged the thinking of girls at any stage of life, and stood up to cultural norms to see what the Bible really says. "One of my favorite . . . . quotes, 'God designed us to function best when we're paddling together for a cause greater than ourselves.' . . .
"And another favorite . . . quote that sums up one of the central themes of the entire book, 'Helping others is foundational in God's design for womanhood.' . . .
I've been following Kristen and Bethany's blog, girldefined.com, for quite some time now, and have loved their posts about what biblical womanhood looks like. This book was a fantastic summarization of everything they blog about -- from gender roles, to beauty, to identity, to culture, and relationships." -- Reader's Comment

Clark, Kristen, Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships, ISBN: 9780801075568 0801075564.
"In a culture obsessed with love and romance, why is it so hard for us to find satisfying love that lasts?
"Maybe we've been looking at this thing called love all wrong.
"In this insightful, encouraging and totally candid book, sisters Kristen Clark and Bethany Baird share a radically better and refreshingly biblical approach to navigating your love life. Covering topics such as true love, purposeful relationships, sex, boundaries, and singleness, LOVE DEFINED will take you on a journey to discovering God's good and original design for romance." -- Publisher

Cook, Earl, Bringing up Your Children (part 1) (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF09 [audio file].

Cook, Earl, Bringing up Your Children (part 2) (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF12 [audio file].

Cook, Earl, Bringing up Your Children (part 3); Q&A (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF15 [audio file].

Cook, Earl, Christian Parenting (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
An 8-tape series [audio file] hosted by James Klukow. Over 45 ten-minute devotionals on the 'how tos' of raising Godly children.

Cook, Earl, Counseling Children (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette AC881 [audio file].

Cook, Earl, Fathers: Don't Provoke Your Children (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF06 [audio file].

Dabney, Robert L. (1820-1898), Parental Responsibilities. Alternate title: PARENTAL OBLIGATION. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22.

*Davis, John Jefferson, The Christian's Guide to Pregnancy and Childbirth: Choosing the Best for You and Your Baby From Conception to Delivery, ISBN: 0891073914 9780891073918.
"A needed book! An important book! Nothing else like it from a distinctly Christian position. Covers what to expect, prenatal diagnosis, nutrition and beauty tips, delivery methods, hospital procedures, family size, contraception, infant bonding, breast feeding, and more." -- GCB

*Decker, Barbara, Proverbs for Parenting: A Topical Guide for Child Raising From the Book of Proverbs, King James Version.
"An indispensable tool for parenting, this book arranges the proverbs into over 70 realistic, helpful topics. A sampling of topics covered include: trust in God, obedience, honesty, anger, self-control, temper, arguing, boasting, complaining, love, friendship, happiness, discretion, faithfulness, stewardship, work and many more." -- Publisher
An accompanying book, A COLORING BOOK OF BIBLE PROVERBS is 'a 30-page coloring book illustrating various passages from the Book of Proverbs. Can be used with or without the above hardback book'." -- GCB

De Witt, John Richard (John R. DeWitt), Amazing Love: The Parable of the Prodigal Son, ISBN: 085151328X 9780851513287.
A professor of Systematic Theology, Reformed Seminary in Jackson.

Doner, Colonel V., The Responsible Parent's Guide to TV: A Noted Expert Looks at Television's Role in Changing our Children's Values, ISBN: 0910311501 9780910311502.
"Drawn from scientific surveys, expert opinion, and insightful commentary the evidence indicates the media has become the cutting edge of a new anti-family revolution."

Dreizler, Carl, and Phil Phillips, Fun Things to do With Your Kids: The Family Book of Games, Hobbies, Trips and Activities, ISBN: 088365895X 9780883658956.
"A collection of simple, practical activities gives kids a good reason to turn off the television and spend time with their families -- putting together a photo album, visiting nearby historic spots, 'adopting' a grandparent -- and helps turn values and life skills into family fun." -- Publisher

Gurian, Michael, Nurture the Nature: Understanding and Supporting Your Child's Unique Core Personality, ISBN: 078798633X 9780787986339.
"Negative stress, in contrast, is something we need to be very careful about, especially with our children. In the most general terms, as experts at the University of Maryland Medical School wrote recently, 'When these symptoms persist, you are at risk for serious health problems. This kind of stress can exhaust your immune system. Recent research demonstrates that 90 percent of illness is stress-related.' When stress goes beyond the stimulating (positive stress), and becomes debilitating (negative stress), symptoms fall into three categories: physical, emotional, and relational." -- Publisher
Resist the Latest Parenting Fads, Says New Book NURTURE THE NATURE Encourages Parents to Determine Their Child's Core Personality
"Increasingly, the minds of our children are growing up to be antisocial. Children diagnosed with Antisocial Personality Disorder now number in the millions. As the Carnegie-Mellon survey notes, our primary social response to the new antisocial nature of children has not been to rethink how we raise them, but rather to expand punishment and incarceration systems. A Department of Justice study reports that at our present rates of incarceration, one in twenty babies born in the United States today will spend some part of life incarcerated. As of 2004, 1 in every 138 U.S. residents was in prison."
http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/NewYearNewYou/story?id=3119291&page=1

Hendricks, Howard G., The Encyclopedia of Christian Parenting, ISBN: 0800712765 9780800712761.
Includes bibliography.

Houston, Thomas (1803-1882), The Divine Commendation of Abraham: or, Parental Duties, and the Blessings Resulting From Their Faithful Performance. Alternate title: PARENTAL DUTIES. Also available in WORKS, DOCTRINAL AND PRACTICAL, volume 1. Available (WORKS, DOCTRINAL AND PRACTICAL), on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available (WORKS, DOCTRINAL AND PRACTICAL), on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22.

Huggins, Kevin, Parenting Adolescents, ISBN: 0891095799 9780891095798.
"Examines the many ties between rearing mature, Christlike kids, and developing maturity, wisdom, and Christlikeness in your own life." -- Publisher

*Hunt, Gladys M., Honey for a Child's Heart: The Imaginative use of Books in Family Life, revised edition, ISBN: 0310263816 9780310263814.
"THE IMAGINATIVE USE OF BOOKS IN FAMILY LIFE offers warm, practical advice on how to instill a love for reading in children. Extensive bibliography grouped according to ages.
"HONEY FOR A CHILD'S HEART, now in its third edition, is one of the best guides to children's books available. It is for parents who know the value of reaching their children with good books. A good book is a gateway into a wider world of wonder, beauty, delight, and adventure. But children don't stumble onto the best books by themselves. They need a parent's help. Author Gladys Hunt discusses everything from how to choose good books for your children to encouraging them to be avid readers. This edition includes an indexed and updated 85-page list of the best children's favorites, HONEY FOR A CHILD'S HEART opens new worlds of reading possibilities for children and parents alike. Are you concerned about building whole children -- children who are alive emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually? Then this book can help. Gladys Hunt deeply believes in the potential of books to assist in this building process. Her tastes are broad, her advice is rooted in experience, and her suggestions will enrich the cultural life of any home.
"Gladys Hunt is a popular and well-known writer. Among her many books are READ FOR YOUR LIFE and several volumes of the FISHERMAN BIBLE STUDY GUIDE SERIES. She lives in Grand Rapids, Michigan." -- Publisher
"There's got to be a reason a book is in its 50th printing! This book is both motivational and informative. I wrote it to encourage parents to read aloud to their children -- and to keep on reading together long after children can read for themselves. Few things bind people together as much as sharing a good book. Without ever leaving your home, you can go on fantastic adventures, meet the same people, laugh at the ridiculous together, weep together over the plight of your favorite characters and learn life lessons from the bravery or foolishness of your main characters! Everyone who has ever read a ripping good story wants to share it with someone else. C.S. Lewis was right when he said that any book worth reading at 10 should be worth reading at 50. That means as you read with your children you get to catch up on all the stories you missed when you were growing up. Reading together gives you a reservoir of experiences from which to examine life and to figure out how to live it. And the bibliography at the end of the book introduces you to books your children should have the opportunity to read Take it to the library with you." -- Gladys Hunt

Ikeler, Bernard, Parenting Your Disabled Child, ISBN: 0664240445 9780664240448.
"Assesses the process of healing that occurs 'after one is willing to share the pain with others, rather than suffer in isolation.' Anyone who has directly experienced or lived in a family with a disability will find this must reading. It provided me, as a professional, with valuable new insight into dealing with my disabled parents." -- Robin Line

Jay, William, Prayers for the use of Families, or, The Domestic Minister's Assistant. With an appendix containing a number of select and original prayers for particular occasions.

Kesler, Jay, and Virginia R. Mollenkott, The Condition of the Family in America Today and our Priorities for the 90's, an audio recording [audio file].

*Kesler, Jay (editor), Ron Beers (editor), and Lavonne Neff (editor), Parents and Children: A Guide to Solving Problems and Building Relationships, ISBN: 0896938093 9780896938090.
"Over 70 Christian leaders give practical advice on parents and children. Almost 700 double-column pages." -- GCB

Lester, Andrew D., When Children Suffer: A Sourcebook for Ministry With Children in Crisis, ISBN: 0664213278 9780664213275.
"Focuses on the significant crises in childhood. Treats issues like unresolved grief, unnecessary fear, lack of trust, a low sense of worth, distorted ideas about the person of God and the world in which they live. Well-done; makes a valuable contribution." -- Cyril J. Barber

Lewis, Margie M., and Gregg Lewis, The Hurting Parent: Help and Hope for Parents of Prodigals, ISBN: 9780310286615 0310286611,

*Lloyd-Jones, David Martyn (1899-1981), Life in the Spirit in Marriage, Home and Work: An Exposition of Ephesians 5:18 -- 6:9 [Ephesians 5:18 -- Ephesians 6:9], ISBN: 080105799X 9780801057991.

Mack, Wayne, Developing Effective Parenting (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
A series of seven audio cassettes [audio file].

Meyer, Jerome Sydney, The Big Book of Family Games: The Most Complete Treasury of Fun-filled Games and Activities for Family and Friends, ISBN: 0883650495 9780883650493.

*Miller, C. John "Jack" (1928-1996), Finding Healthy Self-Esteem Through Being Completely Forgiven (Quality Living Series. Jenkintown, PA [World Harvest, Box 2175, Jenkintown, 19046]: World Harvest, 1987).
"Do you feel inadequate? That you need to do more or be better in order to be happy and fulfilled? You may not realize it, but your biggest problem is . . . you don't feel completely forgiven."
World Harvest Mission
http://www.whm.org/home.htm

Miller, C. John (1928-1996), Husband and Father as Spiritual Leader in the Home (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).

Payne, Kim John, The Soul of Discipline: The Simplicity Parenting Approach to Warm, Firm, and Calm Guidance -- From Toddlers to Teens, ISBN: 9780345548672 0345548671.
"Payne conducted a study in which he simplified the lives of children with attention deficit disorder. Within four short months 68 per cent went from being clinically dysfunctional to clinically functional. The children also displayed a 37 percent increase in academic and cognitive aptitude, an effect not seen with commonly prescribed drugs like Ritalin. . . .
"Brilliant, wise, informative, innovative, entertaining, and urgently needed, this timely book is a godsend for all who love children, and for children themselves. It provides a doable plan for providing the kind of childhood that kids desperately need today!" -- Edward M. Hallowell, M.D., author of The Childhood Roots of Adult Happiness
Simplifying Childhood may Protect Against Mental Health Issues
http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/tracy-gillett/children-mental-health_b_9400848.html

Petty, Jim, Family Priorities for the 90s (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF20 [audio file].

Petty, Jim, Focusing Love (part 1), (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF19 [audio file].

Petty, Jim, Focusing Love (part 2), (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF21 [audio file].

Petty, Jim, Helps for Family Leaders (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF05 [audio file].

Petty, Jim, Money, Ambition and the Christian Family (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF10 [audio file].

*Ray, Bruce A., Jay Adams (foreword), Withhold not Correction, ISBN: 0875524001 9780875524009.
"If children were animals then behavioral manipulation would be appropriate. If children were innocent then diverting them into other activities when they are angry or selfish would be appropriate. But children bear the image of God, distorted by sin and correctable by the Gospel. 'The tablet is not blank: it's filled with sin.' Therefore child-rearing is a process of correction and reorientation, and it must be guided by Scripture. Contrary to how it is often viewed, 'discipline is not hate; discipline is love.' Lays out eight principles for biblical correction of children. Closes with a 'Parents' Topical Reference' to Bible passages on two dozen issues relevant to children." -- David Powlison (1949-2019)
"This is an exceptional book for the parent who seriously searches the Word of God for His will in rearing children. His constant aim is to display the Scripture bearing on his subject in order to 'bring our children into a subordinate relationship to the living God.' He uses often the term, Biblical discipline, and he applies this not only to the use of the rod to correct, but also the use of prayer with the child, the constant attention to shaping the child's character, etc. He quotes from many good authors, such as Charles Bridges and Charles Hodge. Very good!" -- Jay P. Green, Sr. (1918-2008)

Richards, Larry, You the Parent, ISBN: 0802498329 9780802498328.

Robbins, Alexandra, The Overachievers: The Secret Lives of Driven Kids, ISBN: 1401302017 9781401302016.
"A look at the world of teens [the author went to high school in the Washington metropolitan area where pressures to achieve are particularly intense. -- compiler], who face unbearable pressure to succeed explores such issues as intense stress, sports rage, parental guilt, the study drug black market, and the cutthroat college admissions process, as well as their impact on young people." -- Publisher
"THE OVERACHIEVERS is overall a great book, being very informative and providing much insight into what really goes on in the educational system. Every page keeps you wanting more, and the shockingly true facts that this book is replete with only add to this feeling. Alexandra Robbins is a fantastic investigative journalist, and she has done an excellent job documenting the struggles and challenges in the lives of multiple students. [case studies -- compiler]. Not only are the stories of the students interesting and engaging, but they each reflect a major flaw in the American educational system.
"In short, THE OVERACHIEVERS is a great book and should not be missed." -- Reader's Comment

Rushford, Patricia H., Caring for Your Sick Child, ISBN: 0800752112 9780800752118.
"A practical handbook discussing prevention of illnesses and diseases. Deals alphabetically with a variety of ailments from 'Abdominal Pain' to 'Whooping Cough.' Provides practical counsel on the symptoms, home treatment, and when to call the doctor. Recommended." -- Cyril J. Barber

*Ryle, J.C. (1816-1900), The Duties of Parents, ISBN: 1583391703 9781583391709. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22.
"Ryle said something which is as true in our day as it was in his. Without proper instruction children will not grow up to be good followers of Christ. This small book is a strong encouragement and exhortation to all parents to train up their children in the way of truth." -- GCB
The Duties of Parents
http://archive.org/details/J.C.RyleKindleBooks

*Sawin, Margaret M., Family Enrichment With Family Clusters, ISBN: 0817008306 9780817008307.
"One of the most important books to be published in recent years. Shows how small groups operating in the church can strengthen family ties." -- Cyril J. Barber

Sears, William, Christian Parenting and Child Care, ISBN: 0840732279 9780840732279.
"Few resources take the reader from the first weeks of pregnancy through the child's growing years. This one does. Each chapter is crammed with practical information, including the importance of sharing responsibilities and the need for both father and mother to become involved in the process of child-rearing. Recommended." -- Cyril J. Barber

Shaw, I., Christian Family Matters, ISBN: 1850490201 9781850490203.

Spock, Benjamin (1903-1998), and Mary Morgan, Spock on Spock: A Memoir of Growing up With the Century, ISBN: 0394578139 9780394578132.
"Spock married Mary Morgan, whom he collaborated with to write his book."
"Dr. Spock's book BABY AND CHILD CARE was a runaway success and remains a bestseller today. With over 50 million copies in print, it has become one of the world's best selling non-fiction publications (second only to the Bible in that category)." -- Publisher
Spock was considered the "father of permissiveness." However, when writing this book, he confessed, "The more people have studied different methods of bringing up children the more they have come to the conclusion that what good mothers and fathers instinctively feel like doing for their babies is the best after all."
"The weight of evidence suggests that ultimately Spock's ideas have not helped to produce more secure and well-adjusted children and adults. He saw the need for morals and values, but he failed to recognize that they stem from a godly perspective. What he never understood is that the positive changes he sought are simply unachievable on the basis of humanism." -- John Meakin and Kae Tattersall
"We went to Dr. Spock to find out how to rear children and produced the most rebellious generation of kids this country has ever seen. . . . I think that since we believe that "this is my Father's world," we ought to go to God and find out how He would like to have His world run." -- D. James Kennedy (1930-2007)

*Sprague, William B., Lectures to Young People, ISBN: 0873779479. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
"This great evangelistic tool provides parents a faithful means of presenting Gospel truth to their young people." -- Lloyd T. Sprinkle

Spurgeon, C.H., Spiritual Parenting, ISBN: 0883689596 9780883689592.
"From the depths of his God-given wisdom, Spurgeon offers encouragement and advice to parents and teachers on guiding the spiritual development of children from infancy through young adulthood." -- Publisher

Symington, Andrew (1785-1853, the older brother of William), Lectures on the Claims of the Church and Society on Young Men, 1855.

Tripp, Paul David, Age of Opportunity: A Biblical Guide to Parenting Teens, ISBN: 0875526055 9780875526058.
"With wit, wisdom, humility, and compassion, Tripp shows parents how to seize the countless opportunities to deepen communication, learn, and grow with their teenagers." -- Publisher

Tripp, Paul, War of Words: Getting to the Heart of Your Communication Struggles, 4 DVDs. Alternate title: "GETTING TO THE HEART OF COMMUNICATIONS." (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).

Tripp, Paul, Parenting (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF33 [audio file].

Tripp, Paul, Understanding Your Job Description as a Parent (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF16 [audio file].

Tripp, Paul, Shepherding a Child's Heart: Teenage Years, part: 13 of 15 [audio file], (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Lecture by Paul Tripp, pastor and author of SHEPHERDING A CHILD'S HEART.

Tripp, Paul, and Edward T. Welch, Grace Parenting in the 90's, 4 audio files [audio file].

*Tripp, Theodore A., and David Powlison (introduction), Shepherding a Child's Heart, ISBN: 0966378601 9780966378603.
"Written for parents with children of any age, this insightful book provides perspectives and procedures for shepherding your child's heart into the paths of life. SHEPHERDING A CHILD'S HEART gives fresh biblical approaches to child rearing." -- Publisher
"This is a masterful book." -- David Powlison (1949-2019)
"Solid, trustworthy, biblical help for parents." -- John MacArthur.

Van Dyken, Donald, Rediscovering Catechism: The art of Equipping Covenant Children, ISBN: 0875524648 9780875524641.

Welch, Ed, Parenting (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF29 [audio file].

Welch, Ed, Using the Gospel in Your Home (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF07 [audio file].

Whitehead, John, The Rights of Religious Persons in Public Education, ISBN: 0891077375 9780891077374.

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Grandparents: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion, ISBN: 080549331X 9780805493313.

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Newborns: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion, ISBN: 0805493328 9780805493320.

Witherspoon, Thomas D., Children of the Covenant.

Wynn, John Charles, How Christian Parents Face Family Problems.
"Contains sane counsel for troubled parents, and includes a Christian approach to child-rearing. Nontechnical." -- Cyril J. Barber

Yates, John, and Susan Yates, What Really Matters at Home: Eight Crucial Elements for Building Character in Your Family, ISBN: 1561211052 9781561211050 0849934168 9780849934162. Alternate title: RAISING KIDS WITH CHARACTER THAT LASTS.

See also: The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, Child abuse and pedophilia, Sharing christ with your children, Conscience, casuistry, cases of conscience, Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justification, Justifying faith, The christian home, domestic duties, Adoption, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Problem solving with children, Counseling children, Sex ethics, sex education, Protecting children from dangers, Preparing children for the world, Counseling the family, Sexual relationship, Spiritual adultery (spiritual whoredom/harlotry), Slavery, our systems of enslavement, economic enslavement, The free offer of the gospel message of salvation and the life to come: the means of grace, the covenant of eternal salvation, Book-length presentations of the free offer of the gospel message of salvation and the life to come: the means of grace, Protecting children from dangers, Courtship, Counsel for young men, Counsel for young women, Christian fiction, Classic christian fiction by martha finley, the elsie books series and so forth, and so on.
TCRB5: 1574, 1575, 1624, 1625, 1629-1672, 3971-3976

Related Weblinks

31-day Parenting Devotion, Rick Thomas
"Christians enjoy and benefit from the gospel because of forgiveness (See Romans 10:9,13). For example, we confessed our sin, requested forgiveness, and our kind Lord forgave us. Confession, forgiveness, and reconciliation are the stepping stones to happiness. (Deuteronomy 33:29)"
https://rickthomas.net/category/devotionals/31-day-parenting-devotion/

Americans Agree: Kids are not Being Prepared for Life
"According to a new survey from The Barna Group, however, there is one issue on which most adults agree: the nation's children are not being adequately prepared for life."
http://www.barna.org/barna-update/article/5-barna-update/197-americans-agree-kids-are-not-being-prepared-for-life

Biblical Parenthood (FGB)
Bringing up Children for God, Payson, Edward (1783-1827) | Nurture and Admonition, Lloyd-Jones, D.M. (1899-1981) | Primary Obligations of Parents, Ryle, J.C. (1816-1900) | Teaching Children About God, Doddridge, Philip (1702-1751) | Art of Balanced Discipline, The Lloyd-Jones, D.M. (1899-1981) | Teaching Children Character, Doddridge, Philip (1702-1751) | Obstacles in Bringing up Children for Christ, James, John Angell (1785-1859) | The Calamity of Ungodly Children, Lawrence, Edward (1623-1695) | Directions for Grieving Over Ungodly Children, Lawrence, Edward (1623-1695) | Unique Opportunity of Witnessing to the World Lloyd-Jones, D.M. (1899-1981)
https://www.chapellibrary.org/book/bparfg/biblical-parenthood

Martha Finley, Wikipedia entry
Lists Elsie books that are online at Project Gutenberg.
"Martha Finley (1828-1909), was a teacher and author of numerous works, the most well known being the 28 volume Elsie Dinsmore series which was published over a span of 38 years. The daughter of Presbyterian minister Dr. James Brown Finley and his wife and cousin Maria Theresa Brown Finley, she was born on April 26th, 1828 in Chillicothe, Ohio. Finley wrote many of her books under the pseudonym Martha Farquharson. She died in 1909 in Elkton, Maryland, where she moved in 1876.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Martha_Finley

How Authoritarian Parents Rear Legalistic Children, Rick Thomas
https://rickthomas.net/how-authoritarian-parents-rear-legalistic-children/

The Influence of a Godly Mother, a sermon by D. James Kennedy
"What is a mother's influence on society? Motherhood has been de-valued by our secular society. What you don't hear is how much influence mothers really have on the course of human events. James Kennedy brings light to the powerful influence of a Godly Mother on The Coral Ridge Hour."
Children who do not bond with their mother often have difficulty bonding with others in society.
http://www.truthinaction.org/sermon/INFLUENCE%20OF%20A%20GODLY%20MOTHER-1994-THE_110912.pdf

Parenting -- The Important Role of Fathers
https://rickthomas.net/podcast/ep-382-webinar-parenting-the-important-role-of-fathers/

Society for Parent-Controlled Christian Schools in Scotland, John Murray (1898-1975)
http://www.westminsterconfession.org/godly-living/society-for-parent-controlled-christian-schools-in-scotland.php

Tips on Parenting a Child From Zero to Adulthood
https://rickthomas.net/tips-on-parenting-a-child-from-zero-to-adulthood/

What is Worthwhile Under the Sun? (part 1 of 2), [audio file], Ravi Zacharias
"Why does a life focused on pleasure leave you feeling empty, and how can you deal with it? Is there a way to tell what pleasures are good and which ones are bad? Are your pleasures getting in the way of your relationships with God, or with others? Ravi Zacharias explores the problem of pleasure and what you can do about it."
http://rzim.org/let-my-people-think-broadcasts/what-is-worthwhile-under-the-sun-part-1-of-2/ What is Worthwhile Under the Sun? (part 2 of 2), [audio file], Ravi Zacharias
"Why does a life focused on pleasure leave you feeling empty, and how can you deal with it? Is there a way to tell what pleasures are good and which ones are bad? Are your pleasures getting in the way of your relationships with God, or with others? Ravi Zacharias explores the problem of pleasure and what you can do about it. That's this week on Let My People Think."
http://rzim.org/let-my-people-think-broadcasts/what-is-worthwhile-under-the-sun-part-2-of-2/

Fatherhood

As for me, this is my covenant with them, saith the LORD; My spirit that is upon thee, and my words which I have put in thy mouth, shall not depart out of thy mouth, nor out of the mouth of thy seed, nor out of the mouth of thy seed's seed, saith the LORD, from henceforth and for ever. (Isaiah 59:21)
The fathers! vex not your children, lest they be discouraged. (Colossians 4:21, YLTHB)
Remember that you have a charge of the souls in your family, and are as a priest and teacher in your own house; and therefore see that you keep them to the constant worshipping of God, especially on the Lord's day, in public and private; and that you teach them the things that concern their salvation (as in afterward directed). And pray for them daily, as well as for yourselves. -- Richard Baxter (1615-1691)
Life is ever fragrant in a home when a father, loving his Heavenly Father and striving to please Him in all his ways, so orders his home life as to give his children a beautiful conception of love, sympathy, and protection of the Father above. The greatest responsibility of any father is to reflect the character of God. -- from Lockyer, All the Promises of the Bible
The attack of the modern world system upon boys, manhood, fathers, the family, and the church is really an attack on man's God-ordained role to protect their families, subordinates, and society from evil.
Elias Boudinot, in a letter to his daughter [October 30, 1782]:
You have been instructed from your childhood in the knowledge of your lost state by nature -- the absolute necessity of a change of heart and an entire renovation of soul to the image of Jesus Christ -- of salvation through His meritorious righteousness only -- and the indispensable necessity of personal holiness without which no man shall see the Lord [Hebrews 12:14]. You are well acquainted that the most perfect and consummate doctrinal knowledge is of no avail without it operates on and sincerely affects the heart, changes the practice, and totally influences the will -- and that without the almighty power of the Spirit of God enlightening your mind, subduing your will, and continually drawing you to Himself, you can do nothing. -- Elias Boudinot, President of Congress; signed the Peace Treaty to end the American Revolution; first attorney admitted to the U.S. Supreme Court Bar; framer of the Bill of Rights; director of the U.S. Mint.
A good father is one of the most unsung, unpraised, unnoticed, and yet one of the most valuable assets in our society." -- Billy Graham
He who is the father of a host of spiritual children is unquestionably happy. He can answer all opponents by pointing to souls who have been saved by his means. Converts are emphatically the heritage of the Lord, and the reward of the preacher's soul travail. By these, under the power of the Holy Ghost, the city of the church is both built up and watched, and the Lord has the glory of it. -- C.H. Spurgeon commenting on verse 5 of Psalm 127 [Psalm 127:5], in The Treasury of David

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), The Role of Father in the Home (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette JAR02 [audio file].

Armerding, Hudson T., The Heart of Godly Leadership, ISBN: 0891076751 9780891076759.
"A former Wheaton College president brings a seasoned scriptural perspective to the subject of godly leadership, giving Biblical examples relating to delegating authority, handling success, and passing leadership on to the next generation. Tackles family, church, and society." -- GCB

Cook, Earl, Fathers: Don't Provoke Your Children (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF06 [audio file].

Dalbey, Gordon, Father and Son: The Wound, The Healing, the Call to Manhood, ISBN: 0840734506 9780840734501.

Davis, Phil, The Father I Never Knew: Finding the Perfect Parent in God, ISBN: 0891096124 9780891096122.
"Painful memories or inadequate parenting examples often rob Christians of a healthy, Biblical framework for understanding what it really means to be God's child. THE FATHER I NEVER KNEW provides an abundance of rich images and stirring analogies on God's unfailingly committed, secure, and intimate parenting." -- Publisher

Defoe, Daniel, The Family-instructor. In Three Parts; I. Relating to Fathers and Children. II. To Masters and Servants. III. To Husbands and Wives. 4th edition, 1717, 2 volumes.

Engstrom Ted W., with Norman B. Rohrer, The Fine Art of Mentoring: Passing on to Others What God has Given to You, ISBN: 0943497639 9780943497631.
"In this book the authors guide you through a careful understanding of the principles of 'mentoring' -- leading another person to Christian maturity, then helping him to understand the importance of leading someone else. An important book for today!" -- GCB

Farris, Michael P., What a Daughter Needs From her Dad: How a man Prepares his Daughter for Life, ISBN: 0764228706 9780764228704. Alternate title: HOW A MAN PREPARES HIS DAUGHTERS FOR LIFE.
"WHAT A DAUGHTER NEEDS FROM HER DAD pulls no punches, offering simple yet powerful techniques to help you be the kind of dad your daughter desperately needs. Michael Farris's insights will give you day-to-day strategies that can build character and spiritual strength in you growing daughter from infancy through the turbulent teens years and on into adulthood. Instead of glossing over common father-daughter conflicts that may arise, Farris offers solid, practical advice." -- Publisher

Flavel, John (1630-1691), Husbandry Spiritualized: or, The Heavenly use of Earthly Things, in Which Husbandmen are . . . (1824). Available in (THE WORKS OF JOHN FLAVEL), on the Puritan Hard Drive.
http://archive.org/details/husbandryspirit00flavgoog

Gangel, Kenneth O., and Jeffrey S. Gangel, Fathering Like the Father: Becoming the dad God Wants you to be, ISBN: 0801064325 9780801064326.

Henry, Matthew (1662-1714), The Catechising of Youth and Christ's Favour to Little Children Displayed (1713). Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22.
"The two sermons noted above form foundational teaching that every family should be aware of and practice. A faithful ministry and faithful parents, who catechize their children daily, will do more for true Reformation and godliness than just about any other means to this end. Here Henry also adds simple questions to each question of the Westminster Shorter Catechism to help explain it to beginners. Very practical!" -- Publisher
Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html

James, John Angell (1785-1859), The Christian Father's Present to his Children.
"This is a wonderful book by an early 19th century preacher in England encouraging fathers as they lead in their homes. Most of his writings had to do with the pastoral ministry; but this book is for fathers. The main tenet of the book is that the best gift fathers can give to their children is a godly upbringing in the fear and admonition of the Lord, firm but loving discipline to restrain evil in them, and to build a moral conscience into their children, so that even if God does not save them, their punishment will be less." -- Publisher

Miller, C. John (1928-1996), Husband and Father as Spiritual Leader in the Home (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).

Rutherford, Samuel (1600-1661), The Forlorn Son, audio file [audio file] series of 7 sermons. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #10.
Read by elder Lyndon Dohms from the book QUAINT SERMONS OF SAMUEL RUTHERFORD. The subject is the prodigal son.

Strom, Kay Marshall, Making Friends With Your Father: A Book for Daughters, ISBN: 0310548918 9780310548911.
"Looks at how your father has affected you, how your father influences your choice of men, how to deal with problem fathers, and much more." -- GCB

Strom, Kay Marshall, Making Friends With Your Mother, ISBN: 0310532515 9780310532514.

Symington, Andrew (1785-1853, the older brother of William), Lectures on the Claims of the Church and Society on Young Men, 1855.

Van Dyken, Donald, Rediscovering Catechism: The art of Equipping Covenant Children, ISBN: 0875524648 9780875524641.

Various, Proceedings of the Fourth Calvinistic Congress: Held in Edinburgh 6th to 11th July, 1938.
"Contents: Reformed faith and its ethical consequences: to the individual / E. Sebestyen; W. Childs Robinson | in the family / John Macleod | in the church / G.T. Thomson | in society / R.J.G. M'Knight | in the state / V.H. Rutgers | in economics / J.H.S. Burleigh | in art / Leon Wencelius, and P.R. Musculus | The interrelation of theology and secular knowledge / J. de Saussure | Significance of the Old Testament for the Christian life / W. Vischer | Speeches delivered at public meetings / G.D. Henderson, Auguste Lecerf, M.P. Ramsey, David Read, Dr. Kromsigt, Stewart M. Robinson, J.B. Soucek, and W.H. Hamilton."

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Dads: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion, ISBN: 1558197109 9781558197107.

See also: The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, The doctrine of man (human nature, total depravity), Sharing christ with your children, Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justification, Justifying faith, Filial love (love toward parents), Mentoring (women), Discipleship, Christian life, Family worship, Protecting children from dangers, Slavery, our systems of enslavement, economic enslavement, Preparing children for the world, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Spiritual adultery (spiritual whoredom/harlotry), Sharing christ with your children, Sex ethics, sex education, Gratuitous sex, a cause of violence, Counseling the family, Problem solving with children, Motherhood, Parenting, Counsel for young men, Counsel for young women, Teens and parents, Courtship, Home schooling, Public schools, public education, Christian scholarship, Manhood, Men, women, and god, The fatherhood of God, Finding the perfect parent in God, Pseudo-christian movements: a selection of works, Appendix c: psychology and psychiatry, and so forth, and so on.
TCRB5: 359, 1624, 1625, 1629-1672

Related Weblinks

An Analysis of how to Destroy a Family, Church, or Country, Rick Thomas
https://rickthomas.net/an-analysis-of-how-to-destroy-a-family-church-or-country/

The Consequences of Fatherlessness
http://www.fathers.com/statistics-and-research/the-consequences-of-fatherlessness/

National Fatherhood Initiative
http://fatherhood.org/

Parenting -- The Important Role of Fathers
https://rickthomas.net/podcast/ep-382-webinar-parenting-the-important-role-of-fathers/

Motherhood

The four "Servant Songs" of Isaiah are Isaiah 42:1-9; Isaiah 49:1-7; Isaiah 50:4-11; and Isaiah 52:13 -- Isaiah 53:12. See the annotations in The Reformation Study Bible.
Our Triune God has ordained that the preeminent leader of the Church is the Lord Jesus Christ, the God Man, Our Righteousness. (John 1:1-18; Matthew 19:30; Matthew 28:18-20; Isaiah 49:7; Colossians 1:16-19; Colossians 2:9,10; Hebrews 12:1,2; Revelation 5:1-14; Revelation 19:11-15; Revelation 20:11-15; Revelation 22:12, and so forth, and so on). Human leadership is also divinely ordained and tends to devolve to those who are most perfectly at one with Christ, and to those who also know the most Truth (the Apostle Paul, Saint Augustine, Martin Luther, John Calvin, Puritan leaders, The Scots Worthies, and so forth, and so on).
And Jesus said unto them, Verily I say unto you, That ye which have followed me, in the regeneration when the Son of man shall sit in the throne of his glory, ye also shall sit upon twelve thrones, judging the twelve tribes of Israel. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 19:28). See: (Matthew 19:28, 1599 Geneva Bible)
Then his master said unto him, It is well done good servant and faithful, Thou hast been faithful in little, I will make thee ruler over much: enter into thy master's joy. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 25:21) (Matthew 25:21 1599 Geneva Bible)
Then shall the King say unto them on his right hand, Come, ye blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 25:34). See: (Matthew 25:34, 1599 Geneva Bible)
And he said unto him, Well, good servant: because thou hast been faithful in a very little thing, take thou authority over ten cities. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Luke 19:17) (Luke 19:17, 1599 Geneva Bible)
Therefore I appoint unto you a kingdom, as my Father hath appointed unto me. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Luke 22:29) (Luke 22:29, 1599 Geneva Bible)
And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together. (Romans 8:17). See: (Romans 8:17, 1599 Geneva Bible)
Know ye not that we shall judge angels? how much more things that pertain to this life? (1 Corinthians 6:3). See: (1 Corinthians 6:3, 1599 Geneva Bible)
And hath raised us up together, and made us sit together in heavenly places in Christ Jesus. (Ephesians 2:6). See: (Ephesians 2:6, 1599 Geneva Bible)
To execute vengeance upon the heathen, and corrections among the people:
To bind their kings in chains, and their nobles with fetters of iron,
That they may execute upon them the judgment that is written: this honor shall be to all his Saints. Praise ye the Lord. (Psalm 149:7-9) (Psalm 149:7-9, 1599 Geneva Bible)
But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. (1 Timothy 2:12), (1 Timothy 2:12, 1599 Geneva Bible)
And he that overcometh, and keepeth my works unto the end, to him will I give power over the nations. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Revelation 2:26). See: (Revelation 2:26, 1599 Geneva Bible)
To serve God is to reign. -- Seneca (4 BC -- 65 AD)
I urge you, Madam, a nearer communion with Christ, and a growing communion. There are curtains to be opened in Christ that we have never seen before, and new layers of love in Him. I despair that I will ever make it to the far end of that love, there are so many layers in it. Therefore dig deep, and sweat, and labour. Take pains for Him, and set aside as much time as you can in each day for Him. Christ will be won with labour. -- Samuel Rutherford (1600-1661), Letters of Samuel Rutherford, Letter 104 To Lady Kenmure
Jesus saith unto her, Woman, what have I to do with thee? mine hour is not yet come. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (John 2:4)

Arndt, Elise, A Mother's Touch, ISBN: 0882071017 9780882071015.
"A mother-teacher in you home, you prepare you children for life. No one can replace your love and care in their early years. And no one else can teach them, as you can, of Jesus' love and his world." -- GCB

*Baxter, Richard (1615-1691), The Catechizing of Families, ISBN: 1877611360. Alternate title: THE CATECHIZING OF FAMILIES: A TEACHER OF HOUSHOLDERS HOW TO TEACH THEIR HOUSHOLDS: USEFUL ALSO TO SCHOOL-MASTERS AND TUTORS OF YOUTH: FOR THOSE THAT ARE PAST THE COMMON SMALL CHATECHISMS [SIC], AND WOULD GROW TO A MORE ROOTED FAITH, AND TO THE FULLER UNDERSTANDING OF ALL THAT IS COMMONLY NEEDFUL TO A SAFE, HOLY, COMFORTABLE AND PROFITABLE LIFE. Available in THE REFORMED PASTOR: BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 4.

*Baxter, Richard, The Mother's Catechism, and The Catechizing of Families in THE REFORMED PASTOR: BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 4, ISBN: 0840791011 9780840791016.
"Here are distinctively Christian perspective on everything from pregnancy and childbirth through rewarding grandmothering -- all from an experienced parent and pediatrician! -- CBD

Lush, Jean, and Pam W. Vredevelt, Mothers and Sons: Raising Boys to be men, ISBN: 0800786823 9780800786823.
"This is a great book on building emotional, spiritual, and sexual stability in your son. It provides ways to create a healthy home atmosphere and to teach your son how to work, how to be successful, how to take whining out of work, etc. . . ." -- Reader's Comment

*Miller, C. John (1928-1996), Woman's Role in the Home (part 1) (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette CMR03 [audio file].
World Harvest Mission
http://www.whm.org/home.htm

*Miller, C. John (1928-1996), Woman's Role in the Home (part 2) (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette CMR04 [audio file].

Nash, Ronald H., When a Baby Dies: Answers to Comfort Grieving Parents, ISBN: 0310225566 9780310225560.

Owen, Pat H., Idea Book for Mothers, ISBN: 0842315586 9780842315586.

Rischer, Carol, Insights for Young Mothers, ISBN: 0890814856 9780890814857.

Sprague, William Buell, The Excellent Woman as Described in the Book of Proverbs.

Van Dyken, Donald, Rediscovering Catechism: The art of Equipping Covenant Children, ISBN: 0875524648 9780875524641.

Wilde, Gary (editor), Bible Promises to Treasure for Moms: Inspiring Words for Every Occasion, ISBN: 1558197117 9781558197114.

Related Weblinks

Covenanted Motherhood, a sermon by Greg Price on Matthew 12:46-50
http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?currSection=sermonsspeaker&sermonID=19013812

Sharing Christ With Your Children

But Jesus called them unto him, and said, Suffer little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Luke 18:16)
Therefore it is apparent, that the ordinary appointed means for the first actual grace, is parents' godly instruction and education of their children. -- Richard Baxter (1615-1691)
But when once they are renewed by the Spirit of Christ, they are the charge of all the blessed Trinity, and under God the charge of angels: living or dying they are safe; for the eternal God is their portion and defense. -- Richard Baxter (1615-1691)
Jesus, My all in all (1 Corinthians 15:24-28):

When I was lost, He found me (Luke 15:6-7).
When I was in doubt, He gave me faith (John 20:25-29).
When I sinned, He forgave me (1 John 1:9).
When praying, He answers (John 16:23).
When I err, He corrects me (Matthew 8:23-27).
When tempted, He helps me say no (1 Corinthians 10:13).
When depressed, He quickens me (Psalm 119:25).
When weak, He is my strength (Philippians 4:13).
When confused, He gives me understanding (2 Timothy 2:7).
When foolish, He gives me wisdom (James 1:5-6).
When I wander, He seeks me out (Luke 19:10).
When in crises, He stands with me (Philippians 4:6-9).
When falsely accused, He vindicates me (Matthew 5:11-12).
When I hurt, He heals (Matthew 11:28-30).
When put down, He lifts me up (2 Timothy 4:16-18).
When friendless, He is my friend (John 16:1-15).
When betrayed, He is loyal (Romans 8:35-39).
When I am afraid, He gives me peace (John 14:27).
When I am bitter, He helps me forgive and forget (Colossians 3:12-17).
When I am hungry, He feeds my soul (John 6:47-51).
When I backslide, He lovingly chastens and corrects me (Hebrews 12:6).
When out of church, He draws me back in (Hebrews 12:11-14; 13:17). -- Anonymous
Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy, to the only wise God our Saviour, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and ever. Amen. (Jude 24,25)
See the Theological Notes: "Angels," at Zechariah 1:9 in The Reformation Study Bible.
We must never allow ourselves to suppose that little children's souls may be safely let alone. Their character depends exceedingly on what they see and hear during their first seven years. They are never too young to learn evil and sin. They are never too young to receive religious impressions. They think in their childish way about God, their souls, and a world to come, far sooner and far more deeply than most people are aware. They are far more ready to respond to appeals to their feeling of right and wrong than many suppose. They have each a conscience. God has mercifully not left Himself without a witness in their hearts, fallen and corrupt as their natures are. Each have a soul which will live forever in heaven or in hell. We cannot begin too soon to endeavor to bring them to Christ. -- J.C. Ryle (1816-1900)
It is startling to realize that three-fourths of all who make lasting decision for Christ in America do so by the age of 21 -- and yet, in our nation today, young people know less about Jesus than any generation in our history. -- Franklin Graham
One of the kindest things we can do is introduce a [the] biblical sin plan [forgiveness of sin and everlasting life through the substitutionary, atoning death of Christ on the cross for our sins, and His resurrection] to our families, so they can enjoy the full benefits of the Gospel [reconciliation of us all together with Christ]. If we do this, [then] we will begin to release an entire generation of people who will sin, but quickly [turn in faith to the Gospel] remove it, eliminating the lingering effects of sin [unforgiveness] which so many of us had experienced from those who had gone before us, as they tried to hide the obvious [our fallen state] in plain sight, while affecting [isolating] us generationally. We will sin before [against] our families and friends, so let's demonstrate what we are supposed to do about it [confess our sin, repent, trust in the shed Blood of Christ to wash us clean]. Let them see how we may be [are] ashamed of our sins, but we are not ashamed of the Gospel." -- Life With Coffee, Lifehack #0056
Considering how prevalent a parent's love for their child is, that love can only compound the parent's suffering in Hell when they recognize that, because of them, their child also is suffering there with them.
A Biblical Counselor tells the story of his high school son who attended church regularly with the family, but with little or no enthusiasm.
His father entered into a deal with his son to memorize verses of Scripture. The conditions: the father would select the verse, the son would memorize the verse, the father could request that he recite any verse at any time, each time he recited a verse correctly his father would pay him $5.00 (about 1976), if he failed to recite a verse correctly (word for word with the book, chapter, and verse), then he paid his father $5.00.
At first he memorized just for the money. Later he began requesting more verses. His father selected verses bearing on events in his son's life at the moment. As the number of verses grew, the father was able to request verses to be recited that spoke to the specific needs of the moment. By the time of his graduation from high school he had over 100 verses of Scripture committed to memory. The son then went to Columbia Seminary and is now a pastor. (For those who do not immediately see, this is a practical way to purchase the soul of a child, spouse, or neighbor for Christ before they barter it for a "mess of pottage.")
It is time that I now showed you how this same fight is carried on ON EARTH. Amongst men in these lower places of conflict saints overcome through the blood of the Lamb by their testimony to that blood. Every believer is to bear witness to the atoning sacrifice and its power to save. He is to tell out the doctrine; he is to emphasize it by earnest faith in it; and he is to support it and prove it by his experience of the effect of it. You cannot all speak from the pulpit, but you can all speak for Jesus as opportunity is given you. Our main business is to bear witness with the blood in the power of the Spirit. To this point we can all testify. You cannot go into all manner of deep doctrines or curious points, but you can tell to all those round about you that "There is life in a look at the Crucified One." You can bear witness to the power of the blood of Jesus in your own soul. If you do this, you will overcome men in many ways. -- C.H. Spurgeon in a sermon, The Blood of the Lamb, the Conquering Weapon

Anonymous, The Psalter: or, Psalms of David: With the Proverbs of Solomon, and Christ's Sermon on the Mount: Being an Introduction for Children to the Reading of the Holy Scriptures: Carefully Copied From the Holy Bible. With the Proverbs of Solomon, and Christ's Sermon on the Mount: Being an Introduction for Children to the Reading of the Holy Scriptures: Carefully Copied From the Holy Bible, 1784.

*Baxter, Richard, The Mother's Catechism, and The Catechizing of Families in THE REFORMED PASTOR: BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 4.
"This is the fourth and final volume in this great set. Includes, 'The Reformed Pastor' and 25 other sermons, treatises, and catechisms. Dr. J.I. Packer says, 'For me, the great joy of this year is that it see the completion of Soli Deo Gloria's reprint of Baxter's incomparable PRACTICAL WORKS'." -- GCB
Includes: POOR MAN'S FAMILY BOOK, THE CATECHIZING OF FAMILIES, and THE MOTHER'S CATECHISM.
Richard Baxter, from Wikipedia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Richard_Baxter
Compassionate Counsel to all Young men (1681), by Richard Baxter
http://www.lettermen2.com/ccaym.html

Beeke, Joel, Bringing our Children to Christ or are we Hindering our Children? a sermon. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?SID=411091044509

*[Bible], The Reformation Study Bible: The Word That Changes Lives -- the Faith That Changed The World, New King James Version (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishers, March 2001), ISBN: 0785258523 9780785258520. Previously published under the title New Geneva Study Bible: Bringing the Light of the Reformation to Scripture (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishers, 1995), ISBN: 0840710917 9780840710918.
"The NEW GENEVA STUDY BIBLE offers a restatement of Reformation truth for Christians today. The first Geneva Bible was a pivotal force in the Reformation. Using the everyday language of its time, it opened the pages of Scripture to readers and provided helpful notes to assist them in understanding its message. It became the family Bible of the English people, and was the Bible that the Pilgrims brought to the New World. Since that time a multitude of English translations and study Bibles have appeared, but none of these has incorporated a summary of Reformed theology." -- Thomas Nelson Publishers
Also available in digital format from Logos Bible Software.
Geneva Bible Notes: Reviews of the 1599 and the 1672 editions of the Notes, and of the Reformation Study Bible
http://www.lettermen2.com/geneva.html
Readers of THE REFORMATION STUDY BIBLE should also be familiar with the Geneva Bible Notes, The Westminster Family of Documents, the doctrine of the Mediatorial Dominion of Jesus Christ, and the literature of the Covenanted Reformation.
The Westminster Confession of Faith (1646, The Westminster Standards), and Related Works: A Study Guide
http://www.lettermen2.com/suggest.html
The Covenanted Reformation of Scotland Author/Title Listing
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr9chb.html#crsstl
Reformed Presbyterian Catechism, William L. Roberts D.D.
http://archive.org/details/ReformedPresbyterianCatechism

*Boston, Thomas (1676-1732), Commentary on the Shorter Catechism, 2 volumes. A Christian classic. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
" 'Two large volumes of over 1300 pages! Boston's work is the most comprehensive reference set ever penned on The Westminster Shorter Catechism. Concerning The Shorter Catechism, A.F. Mitchell states '. . . it is a thoroughly Calvinistic and Puritan catechism, the ripest fruit of the Assembly's thought and experience, maturing and finally fixing the definitions of theological terms to which Puritanism for half a century had been leading up and gradually coming closer and closer to in its legion of catechisms' (The Westminster Assembly (1643-1652) . . . ). The Shorter Catechism is the 'king of the catechisms' for shear power of expression, combining logical cogency with succinctness. Boston's exposition is unrivalled; there is nothing else like it. Here you have the cream of Puritan catechisms married to the cream of clear Puritan exposition! This is likely Boston's most important work. A set that will meet numerous needs, ranging from use in family worship, Christian education and personal study, to sermon preparation -- and for help in settling debated questions on the Presbytery floor. A one-of-a-kind set of books that will serve your family for generations to come!" -- Publisher
"It is worth while to be a Shorter Catechism boy. They grow to be men. And better than that, the are exceedingly apt to grow to be men of God." -- B.B. Warfield
Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html
Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
"Click on any of the individual questions below to get the answer and Biblical references, as well as links to works by John Flavel, Thomas Watson, Thomas Boston, James Fisher, and John Whitecross, and others."
http://www.shortercatechism.com/

Boykin, Caroline, The Well-versed Family: Raising Kids of Faith Through Do-able Scripture Memory, ISBN: 1598867687 9781598867688.

*Brown, John (of Haddington, 1722-1787), Addresses to Children Concerning Salvation. Available as a free PDF download.
"John Brown of Haddington was a minister and professor of the Associate (Burgher) Synod in Scotland in the latter part of the eighteenth century. [John Brown of Edinburgh (1784-1858) was his grandson. -- compiler] The following addresses were written in connection with two of his most popular works (both catechisms for children). They were originally delivered within the context of instructing children born to Christian parents in 'the faith which was once delivered unto the saints' (Jude 3). However, these addresses are suitable for persons of all ages and conditions, eminently adapted (by the working of God's Spirit) to bring home to the conscience the desperate condition of the soul not trusting in Christ, the glorious truth of the gospel of free salvation through His finished work, and the necessity of resting upon Him alone for salvation." -- Preface
Includes "An Address to the Rising Generation" which appeared as an appendix to TWO SHORT CATECHISMS MUTUALLY CONNECTED, and "An Address to the Young Readers of this Catechism," which appeared as a preface to AN ESSAY TOWARDS AN EASY, PLAIN, PRACTICAL, AND EXTENSIVE EXPLICATION OF THE ASSEMBLY'S SHORTER CATECHISM." -- Publisher

Bunyan, John (1628-1688), Christiana's Journey: La Peregrina. Alternate title: THE CHILD'S PILGRIM'S PROGRESS, PART SECOND: CHRISTIANA AND HER CHILDREN. Available (THE WORKS OF JOHN BUNYAN), on the Puritan Hard Drive.
This is the second part of Bunyan's, THE PILGRIM'S PROGRESS, in which Christian's wife and children make their dangerous journey, and safely arrive at the desired country. It is usually bound with PILGRIM'S PROGRESS.
Pilgrim's Page: A John Bunyan Archive
This is the complete set of THE WORKS OF JOHN BUNYAN, George Offor edition, the edition reprinted by The Banner of Truth. It is free online, and is downloadable in the following formats: HTML, RTF, TEXT, and PDF.
http://www.mountzion.org/bunyan.html

*Bunyan, John (1628-1688), The Pilgrim's Progress, complete and unabridged. A Christian classic. Considered to be among the ten greatest books in the English language. Available (THE WORKS OF JOHN BUNYAN), on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #21.
Said to be "the greatest book, other than Scripture, which an Englishman has given to mankind." -- GCB
The Banner of Truth Trust publication is recommended. It is facsimile reprinted from the unabridged edition of 1895 published by John C. Nimmo, Ltd. containing the original marginal notes and Scripture references and illustrated with etchings by William Strang.
"Bunyan had better insight into the human heart than modern psychology; namely, because he did not study man apart from his Creator and apart from his deep inward problem." -- Ernest Reisinger (1924-2018)
Pilgrim's Page: A John Bunyan Archive
This is the complete set of THE WORKS OF JOHN BUNYAN, George Offor edition, reprinted by The Banner of Truth. It is free online, and is downloadable in the following formats: HTML, RTF, TEXT, and PDF.
http://www.chapellibrary.org/literature/bunyan/
THE COMPLETE WORKS OF JOHN BUNYAN is also available at Project Gutenberg.
Pilgrim's Progress John Bunyan [audio file]
http://www.sermonaudio.com/search.asp?SpeakerOnly=true&currSection=sermonsspeaker&keyword=John%5EBunyan

*Bunyan, John (1628-1688), and Robert Philip (1791-1858), The Greatness of the Soul: and The Unspeakableness of the Loss Thereof; No way to Heaven but by Jesus Christ; The Strait Gate. Alternate title: THE GREATNESS OF THE SOUL, AND UNSPEAKABLENESS OF THE LOSS THEREOF: WITH THE CAUSES OF THE LOSING IT: FIRST PREACHED AT PINNERS HALL, AND NOW ENLARGED, AND PUBLISHED FOR GOOD. A Christian classic. Considered to be among the ten greatest books in the English language. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
"In the 1660s, Charles II, King of England, asked John Owen (1616-1683), why he went to hear the preaching of an uneducated tinker. [John Bunyan -- compiler]. Looking the King in the eye, Owen answered, 'May it please your Majesty, could I possess the tinker's ability for preaching, I would willingly relinquish all my learning'." -- Andrew Thomson, John Owen, Prince of Puritans
Owen would not have been surprised to learn that Bunyan's most influential work, PILGRIM'S PROGRESS, would be translated into more languages over the next 400 years than any book except the Bible.
The Greatness of the Soul: and The Unspeakableness of the Loss Thereof; No way to Heaven but by Jesus Christ; The Strait Gate
http://archive.org/details/greatnessofsoulu00bunyuoft
Pilgrim's Page: A John Bunyan Archive
This is the complete set of THE WORKS OF JOHN BUNYAN, George Offor edition, the edition reprinted by The Banner of Truth. It is free online, and is downloadable in the following formats: HTML, RTF, TEXT, and PDF.
http://www.mountzion.org/bunyan.html

*Bunyan, John (1628-1688), Craig John Lovik, Tim Lundeen, and Oasis Audio (firm), The Pilgrim's Progress: From This World to That Which is to Come [audio file], ISBN: 9781441622846 1441622845. A Christian classic.
"The entire book, virtually unabridged -- rewritten for the modern ear by Jim Pappas and brought to life by 77 actors with original music and sound effects -- is now available on audio cassette [audio file]." -- GCB
Pilgrim's Progress John Bunyan [audio file]
http://www.sermonaudio.com/search.asp?SpeakerOnly=true&currSection=sermonsspeaker&keyword=John%5EBunyan

Calvin, John (1509-1564), Catechism of the Church of Geneva: Being a Form of Instruction for Children in the Doctrine of Christ. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #1. Available in CALVIN'S SELECTED WORKS, TRACTS AND LETTERS.

Carr, S. Wallace, The Bible and the Christian Home (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).

Cook, Earl, Raising Godly Children (Psalm 13) (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF11 [audio file].

*Cotton, John (1584-1652, editor), and The Westminster Assembly (1643-1652), New England Primer: Improved for the More Easy Attaining the True Reading of English. To Which is Added The Assembly of Divines, and Mr. Cotton's Catechism. A Christian classic. Considered to be among the ten greatest books in the English language.
"THE NEW ENGLAND PRIMER was the first textbook ever printed in America and was used to teach reading and Bible lessons in our schools until the twentieth century. In fact, many of the Founders and their children learned to read from THE PRIMER. This pocket-size edition is an historical reprint of the 1777 version used in many schools during the Founding Era." -- Publisher
"THE NEW ENGLAND PRIMER was one of the greatest books ever published. It went through innumerable editions; it reflected in a marvelous way the spirit of the age that produced it, and contributed, perhaps more than any other book except the BIBLE, to the molding of those sturdy generations that gave to America its liberty and its institutions.
"The Founding Fathers of this country and other Americans learned to read from this little treasure. There is much that we can learn about them and the way they thought by examining its contents. The true study of history should incorporate the study of what motivated people to do the things they did. This reprint makes for great classroom discussion. It makes for an excellent addition to any American History class at all grade levels and all ages. It is pocket-size, and kids and adults love it. I highly recommend it!" -- Reader's Comment
"WEBSTER'S BLUE-BACKED SPELLING BOOK and the NEW ENGLAND PRIMER were basic, foundational textbooks used in the schools of our Republic in the 18th and 19th centuries.
"These two textbooks prove our founding fathers expected moral truths to be taught in every school subject." -- Reader's Comment
The New-England Primer Improved for the More Easy Attaining the True Reading of English: To Which is Added The Assembly of Divines, and Mr. Cotton's Catechism (1777)
http://archive.org/details/newenglandprimer00west

*Decker, Barbara, Proverbs for Parenting: A Topical Guide for Child Raising From the Book of Proverbs, King James Version, ISBN: 0961860839.
"An indispensable tool for parenting, this book arranges the proverbs into over 70 realistic, helpful topics. A sampling of topics covered include: trust in God, obedience, honesty, anger, self-control, temper, arguing, boasting, complaining, love, friendship, happiness, discretion, faithfulness, stewardship, work and many more." -- Publisher
An accompanying book, A COLORING BOOK OF BIBLE PROVERBS is 'a 30-page coloring book illustrating various passages from the Book of Proverbs. Can be used with or without the above hardback book'." -- GCB

*Fennema, Jack, Nurturing Children in the Lord: A Study Guide for Teachers on Developing a Biblical Approach to Discipline.
Sharing Christ with your children. Contains material useful in counseling.
"Such a clear-cut and Biblical approach clearly demonstrates that parents along with teachers, and NOT secular psychology, can do an excellent job of discipline if they follow the guidelines of the Word of God. . . . This 1977 book has proven its worth." -- GCB

*Finley, Martha (1828-1909), Martha Finley Ultimate Collection -- 35+ Novels in one Volume (including the complete Elsie Dinsmore Series and Mildred Keith Collection)
"Martha Finley was a teacher and author of numerous works, the most well-known being the 28-volume Elsie Dinsmore Series which was published over a span of 38 years." -- Publisher
The Elsie Books, that take Elsie from girlhood to grandmotherhood, and the Mildred Books, a 7-book series, are classic, Christian, didactic fiction.
"This carefully crafted e-book: MARTHA FINLEY ULTIMATE COLLECTION -- 35+ NOVELS IN ONE VOLUME (INCLUDING THE COMPLETE ELSIE DINSMORE SERIES AND MILDRED KEITH COLLECTION) is formatted for your eReader with a functional and detailed table of contents: Elsie Dinsmore Series: Elsie Dinsmore; Elsie's Holidays at Roselands; Elsie's Girlhood; Elsie's Womanhood; Elsie's Motherhood; Elsie's Children; Elsie's Widowhood; Grandmother Elsie; Elsie's New Relations; Elsie at Nantucket; Two Elsies; Elsie's Kith and Kin; Elsie's Friends at Woodburn; Christmas with Grandma Elsie; Elsie and the Raymonds; Elsie Yachting with the Raymonds; Elsie's Vacation; Elsie at Viamede; Elsie at Ion; Elsie at the World's Fair; Elsie's Journey on Inland Waters; Elsie at Home; Elsie on the Hudson; Elsie in the South; Elsie's Young Folks; Elsie's Winter Trip; Elsie and Her Loved Ones; Elsie and Her Namesakes; Mildred Keith Series: Mildred Keith; Mildred at Roselands; Mildred and Elsie; Mildred's Married Life; Mildred at Home; Mildred's Boys and Girls; Mildred's New Daughter; Other Novels: Edith's Sacrifice; Ella Clinton; Signing the Contract and What it Cost; The Thorn in the Nest; and The Tragedy of Wild River Valley." -- Publisher
Links to e-text for many of Martha Finley's Works
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr11ch.html#cfbmf

Haidle, Helen, and Cheri Bladholm (illustrations), What did Jesus Promise?
For ages 4-8.
"Presents sixteen selections from the Bible containing promises which Jesus spoke concerning forgiveness, prayer, giving, and heaven."

Hill, Harold, Bible Answers for King's Kids.
Compiled by Gretchen Zimmer Black with Irene Burk Harrell.

*Hoeksema, Herman Believers and Their Seed: Children in the Covenant,

Hunt, Susan, and Richie Hunt, Big Truths for Little Kids: Teaching Your Children to Live for God, ISBN: 1581341067 9781581341065.
"These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. (Deuteronomy 6:6-7a) Your children are a blessing from God. A gift that brings an abundance of joy and the privilege of teaching them God's ways. When they're young their potential to learn is amazing. And because actions and beliefs go hand in hand, the lessons they learn from you now will shape their lives forever. This wonderful book, with its easy-to-use story format, can help you teach the basic truths of the Christian faith to your children. They'll learn right along with Caleb and Cassie that God's ways are the best -- and that even as kids, they can live for His glory every day." -- Publisher

James, John Angell (1785-1859), The Christian Father's Present to his Children, ISBN: 1877611700 9781877611704.
"This is a wonderful book by an early 19th century preacher in England encouraging fathers as they lead in their homes. Most of his writings had to do with the pastoral ministry; but this book is for fathers. The main tenet of the book is that the best gift fathers can give to their children is a godly upbringing in the fear and admonition of the Lord, firm but loving discipline to restrain evil in them, and to build a moral conscience into their children, so that even if God does not save them, their punishment will be less." -- Publisher

Johnson, Ron, Joseph W. Hinkle, and Charles M. Lowry, Oikos: A Practical Approach to Family Evangelism, ISBN: 0805462341 9780805462340.

Klaus, Sandra, Ten to Grow on: Teaching the Ten Commandments to Today's Children, ISBN: 0310540615 9780310540618.
"For ages 8-12. Introduction to each commandment, modern-day story which illustrates the commandment, discussion questions, memory verse activities, song suggestions, classroom activities, and reproducible puzzles." -- GCB

Macleod, John (1872-1948), The Religious Nurture of Children: The Reformed Faith in its Ethical Consequences in the Family, John Macleod (1872-1948). Available in PROCEEDINGS OF THE FOURTH CALVINISTIC CONGRESS: HELD IN EDINBURGH 6TH TO 11TH JULY, 1938.
http://www.westminsterconfession.org/godly-living/the-reformed-faith-in-its-ethical-consequences-in-the-family.php

Masters, Lavonne, The Bible Verse Book, ISBN: 0840732295 9780840732293.
"Presents five steps to help children memorize the Scriptures and understand and apply those verses to their lives." -- GCB

Merrill, Dean, and Grace Merrill, Together at Home: 100 Proven Ways to Nurture Your Child's Faith, ISBN: 0840759932 9780840759931.
"An encyclopedia of action-ideas. Creative discussions which will especially help the parents of 6-12 year olds. Nuts and bolts stuff for becoming a family by doing things together." -- GCB

Murphy, Elspeth Campbell, God, You Fill us up With Joy: Psalm 100 for Children, ISBN: 1555130372 9781555130374.
Illustrated by Jane E. Nelson.

*Palmer, Peter, Manning De V. Lee, and Jay P. Sr. Green (editor), The Children's Bible Story Book, ISBN: 1878442899 9781878442895.
Said to be the best of the Bible story books.

Phillips, Phil, and Syvelle Phillips, Helping Your Children Walk With God, ISBN: 0840791380 9780840791382.

*Price, Greg L., Bringing our Children to Christ. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #8.

*Reimer, Kathie, 1001 Ways to Introduce Your Child to God, ISBN: 0842347577 9780842347570.
"Creative ideas to help children develop godly attitudes and healthy ways of thinking." -- Publisher

Richards, Lawrence O., It Couldn't Just Happen: Faith Building Evidences for Young People, ISBN: 0849907152 9780849907159 0849935830 9780849935831.
"An incredible book. Makes the study of astronomy and biology fascinating. Uses information from these disciplines to present the awesome wonder of creation in terms that will captivate teens (as well as those who teach them). Highly recommended." -- Cyril J. Barber

*Rogers, Judy, Judy Rogers Tapes (Jackson, MS [Judy Rogers Tapes, 5125 Robinson Road, Jackson 39204]: Judy Rogers Tapes).
"Judy Rogers' tapes are one of a kind. Biblically concerned parents should obtain them at all costs!" -- Jay E. Adams

Rogers, Judy, Pilgrim's Praise: Series of Worship and Praise Based on PILGRIM'S PROGRESS.
"A masterful series of worship and praise songs, and songs from PILGRIM'S PROGRESS by John Bunyan . . . full of sheer encouragement for Christians."
Rogers, Judy, Why Can't I see God? And Other Questions Children ask About God.
Twenty songs for children covering the great themes of the Bible. "Judy Rogers has done the impossible . . . and it is good!" -- Mary Pride
"I thought it was a wonderful way to present the catechism to kids by putting it in a song. A great way to start teaching your children about some of those hard to understand topics." -- Listener's Comment
Rogers, Judy, Go to the ant: Songs Taken From Proverbs for Children, [audio file].
"Our whole family enjoys it! Your music is filled with wonderful Biblical truths for everyone."
Rogers, Judy, Walkin' Wise.
Songs based on Psalms, Proverbs, and Ecclesiastes for teens.
"A powerful message for teens."
Rogers, Judy, Stand Up.
"Songs dealing with 'Teen' issues challenging Christian young people to deeper commitment. Songs such as 'Glorify Him' (1 Corinthians 10:31); 'That's not Love' (1 Corinthians 13)."
Rogers, Judy, Arise! Shine! New Recording!
"Heart and soul inspiring Scripture songs and hymns of praise and worship! Songs such as 'Arise! Shine!' (Isaiah 60, 2 Chronicles 7:14); 'Clap Your Hands' (Psalm 47).
Rogers, Judy, Guard Your Heart, [audio file], ISBN: 0005158524 9780005158524.
Rogers, Judy, and Trena Rogers, Straight for the heart.
Shop Judy Rogers Music Online
http://www.judyrogers.com/catalog.php?item=4&ret=judyrogers.com%2Fcatalog.php%3Fpage%3D1%26item%3D6

*Schoolland, Marian M., Leading Little Ones to God: A Child's Book of Bible Teachings, ISBN: 0802851207 9780802851208.
Contains material useful in counseling.

*Spotts, Dwight, and David Veerman, Reaching out to Troubled Youth, ISBN: 0896932966 9780896932968.
"A very important book that those who work with children and youth will find extremely helpful. The material is arranged topically, shows evidence of extensive research, and provides helpful quotations of relevant material. A valuable resource." -- Cyril J. Barber
"This double-column book is a resource tool offering facts, figures, case studies, and practical advice for reaching out to young people who hurt. Advice is offered on how to: communicate, discipline, share the hope of the Gospel, and how to deal with special problems like substance abuse, child abuse, and homosexuality." -- GCB

Spurgeon, C.H. (1834-1892), Come ye Children: A Book on the Christian Training of Children, ISBN: 0686168402 9781845505127 1845505123. Alternate title: COME YE CHILDREN PRACTICAL HELP TELLING PEOPLE ABOUT JESUS.
"In this book Spurgeon provides valuable aid for parents, teachers and youth leaders on the subject of training children." -- GCB
"A book for parents and teachers on the Christian training of children as well as the evangelization of children called by the grace of God. Contains such chapters as: "Fed my Lambs -- How to Do It," "Do Not Hinder the Children," "Of Such is the Kingdom of Heaven," "The Child Timothy and His Teachers," and "Abijah's 'Some Good Thing'." -- Gospel Mission
Come ye Children, by C.H. Spurgeon
http://archive.spurgeon.org/misc/cyc.php

*Spurgeon, Charles Haddon (1834-1892), A Good Start: A Book for Young Men and Women, ISBN: 1573580082 9781573580083.
"Spurgeon at his best for young people!
"Teaches the character forming age that faithful warning, wise counsel, and sympathetic admonition are particularly valuable. Spurgeon aims to lead them to Christ and to encourage and stimulate them in their aspirations after nobility." -- Reader's Comment

*Spurgeon, C.H. (1834-1892), Jesus Christ Himself. (Ephesians 2:20) A sermon by C.H. Spurgeon delivered on Lord's-day morning, December 9, 1877, at the Metropolitan Tabernacle, Newington, Sermon no. 1388.
"Beyond all argument or miracle, Jesus Christ Himself is the proof of His own Gospel. And as He is the proof of it, so, Beloved, He is the marrow and essence of it. When the Apostle Paul meant that the Gospel was preached, He said, Christ is preached, for the Gospel is Christ Himself! If you want to know what Jesus taught, know Him! He is the incarnation of that Truth of God which by Him and in Him is revealed to the sons of men. Did He not, Himself say, I am the way, the truth, and the life?
"You have not to take down innumerable books, nor to pore over mysterious sentences of double meaning in order to know what our great Teacher has revealed. You have but to turn and gaze upon His countenance, behold His actions and note His spirit and you know His teaching. He lived what He taught. If we wish to know Him, we may hear His gentle voice saying, Come and see. Study His wounds and you understand His innermost philosophy. To know Him and the power of His Resurrection is the highest degree of spiritual learning. He is the end of the Law and the soul of the Gospel -- and when we have preached His Word to the fullest, we may close by saying, Now, of the things which we have spoken, this is the sum -- we have an High Priest who is set on the right hand of the Throne of the Majesty in the heavens." -- C.H. Spurgeon
http://www.spurgeongems.org/vols22-24/chs1388.pdf

Stonehouse, Catherine, and Scottie May, Listening to Children on the Spiritual Journey: Guidance for Those who Teach and Nurture, ISBN: 9780801032363 0801032369.
"Through case studies, it provides insight into children's perceptions of God and how they process their faith. In addition, the book suggests how parents, teachers, and ministry leaders can more effectively relate to and work with children and pre-adolescents to nurture their faith, offering a helpful picture of adults and children on the spiritual journey together. -- Publisher

Tallach, John, They Shall be Mine, ISBN: 0851513204 9780851513201.
"A book for young people. He tells about men and women from all over the world who have proved themselves to be faithful followers of the Lord." -- GCB

Trumbull, Henry Clay, Hints on Child Training, ISBN: 188393401X 9781883934019.
"This book has been called the 'single best volume on the subject of child training ever written.' . . . This is the 1890 writing by the author setting forth the same time-tested and proven methods that have helped to raise children for over 100 years." -- Publisher

Van Dyken, Donald, Rediscovering Catechism: The art of Equipping Covenant Children, ISBN: 0875524648 9780875524641.

*Vos, Catherine, Child's Story Bible, ISBN: 0802850111 9780802850119.
"Since the CHILDREN'S BIBLE STORY BOOK by Peter Palmer is presently out of print [notice it is again in print as of February 2002 -- compiler], this by Vos is undoubtedly the best of the Bible story books. She is sound in her doctrine, restrains her imaginative additions to the Biblical record, and shows an understanding of the mind of a child." -- Jay P. Green, Sr. (1918-2008)
"Parents themselves don't often model personal devotions because so much of the Bible is difficult to understand. Read this every night and I guarantee you'll understand your own Bible much better, and have the best basic biblical overview possible! Vos doesn't water down the Bible stories -- even some of the gory details -- but in a respectful, careful manner she presents nearly every bible story. We LOVE this book!" -- Reader's Comment

Watson, Carol, and Ann Baum (contributor), 365 Children's Prayers: Prayers old and new for Today and Every day, ISBN: 0745914543 9780745914541 0745917216 9780745917214 074591912X 9780745919126 0732400104 9780732400101.
"This is a wondrous book on praying for it offers 365 prayers -- most written by children. The prayers cover topical issues and are separated into six easy to follow categories. I have purchased many copies of this book over the years for use as gifts, for use in Sunday School, and I have two copies for personal use. An excellent choice!" -- Reader's Comment

Welch, Ed, Using the Gospel in Your Home (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF07 [audio file].

White, William R. (compiler), Stories for the Journey: A Sourcebook for Christian Storytellers, ISBN: 0806623640 9780806623641.
Includes bibliography.

*Williamson, G.I., and Paul Gunter Settle, Catechism for Young Children: An Introduction to the Shorter Catechism. Alternate title: FIRST CATECHISM. ISBN: 0934688680 9780934688680.
"FIRST CATECHISM is a primer on the Christian faith in general and the Reformed faith in particular. It is intended to be used with children, beginning at the earliest age feasible.
"The structure and content are drawn from the CATECHISM FOR YOUNG CHILDREN, originally published in 1840 by Joseph P. Engels. His work was an effort to introduce and simplify the concepts of the Shorter Catechism -- one part of the Westminster Standards, which serve as the doctrinal foundation of Presbyterians worldwide.
"In this adaptation, we have incorporated changes in vocabulary, grammar and the sequence of questions to make the catechism clearer and more accessible to young children. Where possible, the more personal first- or second-person pronouns are used.
"Catechizing -- systematic instruction using simple questions and answers -- is a tried and effective tool for spiritual nurture. In the Presbyterian/Reformed tradition, this has been a common form for expressing and memorizing key elements of the Bible and our system of doctrine. The objective of FIRST CATECHISM is to make that process work better and with greater dynamic impact in the lives of the learners.
"Ideally, covenant children should begin learning the answers from FIRST CATECHISM as they begin to talk. By so doing, they will add to their vocabulary the words that reflect biblical truth and especially the doctrines of grace. This will prepare them to take on a Godward perspective toward themselves, God and his creation.
"It should be regarded as a stepping stone for young people to later study the WESTMINSTER SHORTER CATECHISM.
"FIRST CATECHISM teaches children to know, love and serve God.
"Our prayer is that the fruit will be a desire in them to fulfill man's chief end -- to glorify God and enjoy him forever." -- Preface
New First Catechism to Go: Beginning Discipleship in the Christian Faith
"Interactive PDF to use on all devices."
https://www.gcp.org/downloads/DigitalDownloads/FC2Go-website-sample.pdf

Witherspoon, Thomas D., Children of the Covenant.

See also: Creeds, Confessions, and Catechisms, Family worship, Filial love (love toward parents), Believer's Position in christ and sonship, The free offer of the gospel message of salvation and the life to come: the means of grace, the covenant of eternal salvation, Book-length presentations of the free offer of the gospel message of salvation and the life to come: the means of grace, Evangelism, Other works on the gospel, Peer counseling, one-on-one evangelism, Cross of Christ, Gospel tracts and witnessing tools, Teaching children, Classic christian fiction by martha finley, Christian fiction, Apologetics, Problem solving with children, Counseling children, Conscience, casuistry, cases of conscience, Protecting children from dangers, Preparing children for the world, Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justification, Justifying faith, Words of Christ appearing in the web edition of biblical counsel: resources for renewal, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Grace of God, Holiness, Justification and sanctification, Knowing Christ, Prayer, Priesthood of believers, Pseudo-christian movements: a selection of works, False gospels, Resources for students, Revival, Sharing christ with your children, Small group evangelism, Spiritual warfare, Student resources, and so forth, and so on.
TCRB5: 1671, 4140

Related Weblinks

Apostles Creed
http://www.reformed.org/documents/apostles_creed.html

Bible Broadcasting Network: Programs for Children
https://bbn1.bbnradio.org/english/home/categories/for-children/

Bible Presbyterian Church Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
http://shortercatechism.com/

Catechism for Young Children: An Introduction to the Shorter Catechism
http://www.reformed.org/documents/cat_for_young_children.html

Child Evangelism Fellowship
http://www.cefonline.com/

Classic Christian Fiction by Martha Finley
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr11ch.html#cfbmf

The Commandments of Jesus, J.S. McConnell (1925)
http://www.wowzone.com/commandm.htm

Dare to be a Daniel
"Did you know that most people come to faith in Jesus Christ before the age of 18? What better way to reach the next generation than through their classmates and friends who already believe.
"Dare to Be a Daniel is a new training program from the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association (BGEA) to help equip boys and girls ages 9 to 14 to share their faith in Jesus with others. Through a printed booklet, a CD-ROM, this fun, interactive Website, and other tools, youth are given simple steps they can use when telling others about Christ. We are also developing a 13-week Sunday school curriculum based on this program."
http://www.daretobeadaniel.com/

A Guide for Young Christians, John W. Robbins
http://www.trinityfoundation.org/journal.php?id=125

Judy Rogers Music Online
http://www.judyrogers.com/testimonials.html

Mantle Ministries (Elsie Dinsmore Series Series and Mildred Series)
http://www.mantlemin.com

Nave's Topical Bible -- Christ, Prayers of
http://bible.crosswalk.com/Concordances/naves-topical-bible/ntb.cgi?number=T2807

Prayers of Jesus
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prayers_of_Jesus

Richard Baxter, from Wikipedia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Richard_Baxter

Small Children's Catechism
http://www.reformed.org/documents/child_cat.html

Westminster Larger Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/wlc_w_proofs/index.html

Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html

Classic Christian Fiction by Martha Finley
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr11ch.html#cfbmf

Filial Love (Love Toward Parents)

Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins.
Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another. (1 John 4:10,11)
See the Theological Note at 1 Corinthians 13:13, "Love" in The Reformation Study Bible.
But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love. (1 Corinthians 13:13)
Charity never faileth. (1 Corinthians 13:8a)
It would be easy to show that all those tremendous evils which shake the foundations of civil society such as theft, murder, adultery, perjury, and the like, originate from the want of natural affection, and a failure in filial obedience. -- Samuel Stennett, The Godly Family
The Elsie Books 28-book series by Martha Finley, in its original, unabridged text, is probably the best fictional model of the Christian family ever written.
Likewise, the example of Elsie's life is one of the best models for Christian girls.
Filial love, the love of a child for their parents, is one of the themes of the series.
Recommended for ages 10 and up. Martha Finley wrote them originally for girls, but they are enjoyed by boys and adults alike.
Notice the original text of this series is becoming available free in Project Gutenberg e-text. We have added links to the e-text as of May 2007.

Ebel, Frank J., The Christian's Filial Relationship to God

*Finley, Martha (1828-1909, aka Martha Farquharson, Galic for Finley), The Elsie Books, 4-book set (Holly Hall Publications, 1997), ISBN: 1888306351 9781888306354.
"Originally written in the late 1800's for girls and young women, the Elsie Dinsmore books were bestsellers for over thirty years. When we are introduced to Elsie in the first book she is a sweet and humble eight-year-old whose great desire in life is to be reunited with her father, whom she has never met. Her faith and her obedience to God's commandments uphold her in the great troubles she often faces, and the drama to which we are spectators is as timely for today's girls as it was for the young ladies of the 19th century. A new edition of one of GCB's best sellers, the series offers Christian values and character building examples through stories that are compelling, heartwarming, and enduring. Ages 10 and up." -- GCB
"The Elsie Books -- 28 in all -- are some of the most widely read children's stories ever written. When they first came out more than a hundred years ago, the publisher could scarcely keep them in stock. . ." -- Publisher
"Altogether Miss Finley's novels sold more than 28,000,000 copies in the last century. This made them among the bestselling novels of all time . . ." -- Jay P. Green, Sr. (1918-2008)
*Book 1: Elsie Dinsmore, ISBN: 1888306319 9781888306316.
"Set amid the sweet blossoms of a southern mansion, this timeless classic delves into the heart of Elsie -- by all counts, an extraordinary little girl. Share in Elsie's quest for love from her earthly father as it leads to a mature understanding of the love of her Father in Heaven. Join Elsie as she suffers through endless hours of scrutiny from Miss Day, her mean-spirited school teacher, taunting from her mischievous young Uncle Arthur, and scoldings from a cold-hearted father she so desires to please -- all with the peace and quiet countenance that comes from knowing she is God's child. This, the first of the heart-warming Elsie Books, will both challenge and inspire you." -- Publisher
Elsie Dinsmore: Book 1, Martha Finley
http://archive.org/details/elsiedinsmore00ferqgoog
ClassicReader.com
http://www.classicreader.com/
*Book 2: Elsie's Holidays at Roselands, ISBN: 9781888306323 1888306327.
"When Elsie's father becomes ill, she takes on the job of nurse-companion, and all goes well until Elsie, because it is the Sabbath, as a matter of conscience refuses to read to him from a secular book. The battle of wills that ensues nearly causes first her father's death, and then Elsie's. Lonely Elsie -- punished, ostracized, and then abandoned by her father -- turns to her heavenly Father for comfort and assurance. Will her father realize that Elsie's obedience to God must be paramount, and submit himself to the same Divine Authority?" -- Publisher
On an even more serious note, one moral of this story is the broader life and death struggle between Truth and Falsehood (See: Absolute truth and relativism [duality and non-duality], Epistemology of theology, the theory of knowledge, and Christian scholarship.) The consequence of conflict of will is death of the "One," or war of the "Many" (see Rushdoony, THE ONE AND THE MANY: STUDIES IN THE PHILOSOPHY OF ORDER AND ULTIMACY. Conflict of will (see Will and recalcitrance, Rebellion and lawlessness: wickedness, demonic possession, abnormal behavior, insanity, mental illness, mental retardation,) may begin when one individual (see The doctrine of man [human nature, total depravity],) or the corporate body (see Corporate faithfulness and sanctification), tries to usurping authority over others (see Power, Authority) -- tries to control and possess the other (see Tyranny, Slavery, our systems of enslavement, economic enslavement.) The means of control may be either outward or occult (see The occult, spiritism, witchcraft), deceit, repression or suppression of the truth, replacing moral and ethical absolutes with relativism (see Ethics, computer ethics, cyberethics, Medical ethics, Absolute truth and relativism [duality and non-duality], unfaithfulness to the highest ethical standards (see The ten commandments: the moral law, The holy bible), Heresy and apostasy (apostacy, old english), Spiritual adultery [spiritual whoredom/harlotry,] (see Idolatry, syncretism, Jeremiah and lamentations,) invocation of the demonic, Oaths, ensnaring vows, promises, and covenants, bonds with the ungodly Carnality and flesh pleasing: desires, pleasure, Justice, judgment, god's final judgment, the great white throne judgment, the day of the lord,) attempts to take authority over another politically or by mental malpractice (see Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, making up their own rules (see Absolute truth and relativism [duality and non-duality],) ignoring or changing constitutional or creedal documents, unjust laws for the accumulation of wealth and power, indebtedness, disenfranchisement, (see denial of freedom,) Priestcraft, pharisaism, soul-stealing, possessiveness, physical seduction and whoredom, political economic or sexual enslavement (see Sexual relationship,) and so forth, and so on.
This abuse, this soul-violence, quenches the Holy Spirit (see Owen, God's Presence With a People the Spring of Their Prosperity; With Their Special Interest in Abiding in Him.) If either side is immovable, then death is the consequence (see Soteriology, atonement, The blood of christ, Hell, and Heaven.)
How are conflicts of will resolved? By submission to the Absolute Truths of God's word, the great common denominator, Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (John 14:6)
All this bears a strain of the Gospel (see Book-length presentations of the free offer of the gospel message of salvation and the life to come: the means of grace, The westminster confession of faith.)
Book 2: Holidays at Roselands
http://archive.org/details/holidaysatrosel00finlgoog
Holidays at Roselands (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14280
Mantle Ministries (Elsie Dinsmore Series and Mildred Series)
http://www.mantlemin.com

Strom, Kay Marshall, Making Friends With Your Mother, ISBN: 0310532515 9780310532514.

See also: Sharing christ with your children, Problem solving with children, Conscience, casuistry, cases of conscience, Counseling children, Protecting children from dangers, Preparing children for the world, The fatherhood of god, Adoption into god's family, Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justification, Justifying faith, Fatherhood, Fatherlessness, Christian fiction (for all the Elsie books), Classic christian fiction by martha finley, Finding the perfect parent in god, and so forth, and so on.
TCRB5: 3971-3974

Related Weblinks

Classic Christian Fiction by Martha Finley
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr11ch.html#cfbmf

Elsie Book Reviews
http://www.amazon.com/Elsie-Dinsmore-Original-Classics-Book/dp/158182064X

*Love (FGB #159)
Increasing and Abounding in Love | The Fulfillment of the two Greatest Commandments | 20 Motives/Pleas That Christ Might Have Your Love | Brotherly Love | The Lamb Teaches you to Love | Triumph of Forbearing Love
https://www.chapellibrary.org/book/lovefg/love

Mantle Ministries (Elsie Dinsmore Series and Mildred Series)
http://www.mantlemin.com

Teaching/Training Children

And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes. And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates. (Deuteronomy 6:6-9)
I will be a SHEPHERD to you (Psalm 23:1; Psalm 80:1). Do not be afraid of evil tidings, for I am with you. My rod and My staff shall comfort you. You shall not lack, for I will feed you; you shall not wander or be lost, for I will restore you. I will cause you to lie down in green pastures, and will lead you beside the still waters (Psalm 23). I will gather you with My arm, carry you in My bosom, and will lead on as softly as the flock and the children are able to endure (Isaiah 40:11; Genesis 33:13-14). If officers are careless, I will do the work Myself. I will judge between cattle and cattle. I will seek that which was lost, and bring again that which was driven away. I will bind up that which was broken, and strengthen that which was sick; but I will destroy the fat and the strong, and will feed them with judgment (Ezekiel 34:16-17 compared with verses 2-4 [Ezekiel 34:2-4]). I will watch over My flock by night (Isaiah 27:3). Behold, I have appointed My ministers as your watchmen, as overseers who watch for your souls (Hebrews 13:17; Acts 20:28). Yes, My angels shall be your watchers, and shall keep a constant guard upon My flock (Daniel 3:17, 23; Psalm 34:7). And if the servants should sleep (Matthew 13:25, 27), My own eyes shall keep a perpetual watch by night and by day (Psalm 34:15; Psalm 33:18; 2 Chronicles 16:9). The Keeper of Israel never slumbers nor sleeps (Psalm 121:3-5), nor withdraws His eyes from the righteous (Job 36:7). I will guide you with My eye. I will never trust you out of My sight (Psalm 32:8). -- Joseph Alleine (1634-1668)
Give instruction to a youth about his way,
Even when he is old he turneth not from it. (Proverbs 22:6, YLTHB)
But Jesus called them unto him, and said, Suffer little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Luke 18:16)
The Treasury of David, Psalm 51, C.H. Spurgeon
The sacrifices of God, are a broken spirit: a broken and a contrite heart, O God, thou will not despise. (Psalm 51:17)
Children must be taught to possess their own spirits.
http://archive.spurgeon.org/treasury/ps051.php
It is impossible to estimate full influence of the reading of the Word in a home day after day and year after year. It filters into the hearts of the young. It is absorbed into their souls. It colors all their thoughts. It is wrought into the very fiber of their minds. It imbues them with its own spirit. Its holy teachings become the principles of their lives, which rule their conduct and shape all their actions. -- J.R. Miller (1840-1912)
Fill their minds with Scripture. Let the Word dwell in them richly. Give them the Bible, the whole Bible, even while they are young. -- J.C. Ryle (1816-1900)
Practice love diligently. It is one of those graces, above all, which grow by constant exercise. Strive more and more to carry it into every little detail of daily life.
Watch over your own tongue and temper throughout every hour of the day, -- and especially in your dealing with children and near relatives. Remember the character of the excellent woman: She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. (Proverbs 31:26) Remember the words of Paul: Do everything in love. (1 Corinthians 16:14)
Love should be seen in little things as well as in great ones. Remember, not least, the words of Peter: Love each other deeply; not a love which just barely is a flame, but a burning, shining fire, which everyone around us can see. (1 Peter 4:8) It may cost pains and trouble to keep these things in mind. There may be little encouragement from the example of others. But persevere. Love like this brings its own reward. -- J.C. Ryle (1816-1900)
Nothing doeth take so much with anyone, as that which is known to come from love; the greater love is discerned in your instruction, the greater success may you expect. -- Richard Baxter (1615-1691)
It is said that the best thing a husband and wife can do for their children is to set an example for them by modelling a loving relationship with their spouse.
Those by the way side are they that hear; then cometh the devil, and taketh away the word out of their hearts, lest they should believe and be saved. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Luke 8:12)
For this cause we also, since the day we heard it, do not cease to pray for you, and to desire that ye might be filled with the knowledge of his will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding. (Colossians 1:9)
Let it be the principal part of your care and labour in all their educations, to make holiness appear to them the most necessary, honourable, gainful, pleasant, delightful, amiable state of life; and to keep them from apprehending it either as needless, dishonourable, hurtful, or uncomfortable. Especially draw them to the love of it, by representing it as lovely. And therefore begin with that which is easiest and most grateful to them (as the history of the Scripture, and the lives of the martyrs, and other good men, and some short, familiar lessons). For though in restraining them from sin, you must go to the highest step at first, and not think to draw them from it by allowing them the least degree; (for every degree disposeth to more, and none is to be allowed, and a general reformation is the easiest as well as absolutely necessary); yet in putting them upon the practice of religious duties, you must carry them on by degrees, and put them at first upon no more than they can bear; either upon the learning or doctrines too high and spiritual for them, or upon such duty for quality or quantity as is over-burdensome to them; for if you once turn their hearts against religion, and make it seem a slavery and a tedious life to them, you take the course to harden them against it. And therefore all children must not be used alike. . . . -- Richard Baxter (1615-1691)
One of the kindest things we can do is introduce a [the] biblical sin plan [forgiveness of sin and everlasting life through the substitutionary, atoning death of Christ on the cross for our sins, and His resurrection] to our families, so they can enjoy the full benefits of the Gospel [reconciliation of us all together with Christ]. If we do this, [then] we will begin to release an entire generation of people who will sin, but quickly [turn in faith to the Gospel] remove it, eliminating the lingering effects of sin [unforgiveness] which so many of us had experienced from those who had gone before us, as they tried to hide the obvious [our fallen state] in plain sight, while affecting [isolating] us generationally. We will sin before [against] our families and friends, so let's demonstrate what we are supposed to do about it [confess our sin, repent, trust in the shed Blood of Christ to wash us clean]. Let them see how we may be [are] ashamed of our sins, but we are not ashamed of the Gospel." -- Life With Coffee, Lifehack #0056
Conscience is a most powerful part of our natural constitution. It cannot save our souls. It never leads a man to Christ. It is often blind, and ignorant, and misdirected.
Yet conscience often raises a mighty testimony against sin in the sinner's heart, and makes him feel that 'it is an evil and a bitter thing' to depart from God. Young people ought especially to remember this, and, remembering it, to take heed to their ways. Let them not flatter themselves that all is right, when their sins are past, and done, and forgotten by the world. Let them know that conscience can bring up each sin before the eyes of their minds, and make it bite like a serpent. -- J.C. Ryle (1816-1900)
Although the evils of the "Sunday school" are so many and so gross as to call for very severe criticisms, even from its advocates, they stubbornly refuse to see that these evils are inherent in the system itself. The following are some of the evils specified: When the parents are entering the house of public worship the children are going out; few children attend public worship; a large percentage of such scholars never become members of the church; it fails to impart adequate instruction; many of the pupils become criminals; the mass of Sunday school teachers are ignorant. There are qualifications clearly laid down in the Bible for every ecclesiastical officer, from the deacon to the minister; but it knows nothing of the "Sunday school" teacher, and therefore prescribes neither moral nor intellectual qualifications for him. As far as we know, no church court has made any rules to govern the election, installation, or qualifications of these "lawless" ones (anomoi). 2 Thessalonians 2:8: Then shall that wicked (anomos) be revealed, whom the Lord shall consume with the spirit of his mouth, and shall destroy with the brightness of his coming. -- Reformed Presbyterian Church, General Meeting, Causes of Fasting (1898)
A Biblical Counselor tells the story of his high school son who attended church regularly with the family, but with little or no enthusiasm.
His father entered into a deal with his son to memorize verses of Scripture. The conditions: the father would select the verse, the son would memorize the verse, the father could request that he recite any verse at any time, each time he recited a verse correctly his father would pay him $5.00 (about 1976), if he failed to recite a verse correctly (word for word with the book, chapter, and verse), then he paid his father $5.00.
At first he memorized just for the money. Later he began requesting more verses. His father selected verses bearing on events in his son's life at the moment. As the number of verses grew, the father was able to request verses to be recited that spoke to the specific needs of the moment. By the time of his graduation from high school he had over 100 verses of Scripture committed to memory. The son then went to Columbia Seminary and is now a pastor. (For those who do not immediately see, this is a practical way to purchase the soul of a child, spouse, or neighbor for Christ before they barter it for a "mess of pottage.")

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), Back to the Blackboard: Design for a Biblical Christian School: A Book for Parents, Teachers, and Administrators, 154 pages, ISBN: 0875520758 9780875520759.
"For parents, teachers and administrators of elementary and secondary Christian day schools (with implications for colleges and seminaries). 'Christian schools, on all levels, are little more than adaptations of pagan schools,' built on an academic model rather than a discipleship model. Educators must give God his proper weight as they design schools. A radical rethinking of education must occur: everything from abolishing grades and homework, to learning 'subjects' in the context of real life projects." -- David Powlison (1949-2019)

Adams, Richard, What are the Duties of Parents and Children; and How are They to be Managed According to Scripture? 1674. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
"This Puritan author writes, 'My business is not to discuss the entity of relations in their foundation and terms, which the philosopher is conversant about; but to discourse on the efficacy of the chiefest in Christian practice; that is, to inquire into the nature and management of those reciprocal offices betwixt parents and children, which if well discharged according to the sense of the divine oracles, do contribute most to the happiness of human society, and give reputation to the communion of saints.' And that 'their children may continue, and their seed shall be established before' them (Psalm 102:28)." -- Publisher

Alexander, Archibald (1772-1851), The Stuff of Life: Forty-two Brief Talks on Daily Duty and Religion.

Alexander, Archibald (1772-1851), Turn but a Stone Addresses to Children.

*Andreola, Karen, Beautiful Girlhood, ISBN: 1883934028 9781883934026.
"The book deals primarily with the Christian character development, moral virtues, and manners of pre-teen and teenage girls. It is one of the bestselling titles in the homeschooling community." -- Publisher

*Andreola, Karen, A Charlotte Mason Companion: Personal Reflections on the Gentle Art of Learning, ISBN: 1889209023 9781889209029.
"A thorough chapter-by-chapter overview of the inspiring teaching principles of Christian educator Charlotte Mason, this book reveals the practical day by day method of how to teach the Charlotte Mason way. The author offers friendly advice, and humor, along with the joys and struggles of real homeschool life. The book covers education, parenting, homeschooling and lots of encouraging advice for mothers." -- Publisher

Banks, Robert J. (editor), and R. Paul Stevens (editor), The Complete Book of Everyday Christianity: An A-to-Z Guide to Following Christ in Every Aspect of Life, ISBN: 083081454X 9780830814541.

Barna, George, Transforming Children Into Spiritual Champions, ISBN: 9780801018794 080101879X.

*Baxter, Richard (1615-1691), The Catechizing of Families Alternate title: THE CATECHIZING OF FAMILIES: A TEACHER OF HOUSHOLDERS HOW TO TEACH THEIR HOUSHOLDS: USEFUL ALSO TO SCHOOL-MASTERS AND TUTORS OF YOUTH: FOR THOSE THAT ARE PAST THE COMMON SMALL CHATECHISMS [SIC], AND WOULD GROW TO A MORE ROOTED FAITH, AND TO THE FULLER UNDERSTANDING OF ALL THAT IS COMMONLY NEEDFUL TO A SAFE, HOLY, COMFORTABLE AND PROFITABLE LIFE, ISBN: 1877611360. Available in THE REFORMED PASTOR: BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 4.

Beeke, Joel, Catechising our Children, (MP3), [audio file]. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.

Clark, Gordon H. (1902-1985), A Christian Philosophy of Education, ISBN: 1891777068.
"The first edition of this book was published in 1946. It sparked the contemporary interest in Christian schools. Dr. Clark has thoroughly revised and updated it, and it is needed now more than ever. Its chapters include: The need for a world-view, The christian world-view, The alternative to christian theism, Neutrality, Ethics, The christian philosophy of education, Academic matters, Kindergarten to university.
"This is a complete statement of the need for and purpose of a Christian education by one of the leading Christian educators of the twentieth century. The book is completely indexed and may be studied with profit by both teachers and students . . .
"Three appendices are included as well: The relationship of public education to christianity, A protestant world-view, and Art and the gospel." -- The Trinity Foundation

Dedrick, William, and Colleen Dedrick, The Little Book of Christian Character and Manners, ISBN: 188830622X 9781888306224.
"Are you looking for a brief and thoroughly Biblical book on training children from a Reformed perspective? The sections on eating habits, table manners, cleanliness, self-restraint, quietness, and industry are among the most helpful. You will want to use this as a 'working handbook' to read and re-read in training your children." -- Publisher

Du Plessis, Susan, and Jan Strydom, The Creators of ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) on Trial: And of Youth Violence, the Drug Culture, Teen-age Promiscuity, the Wave of Teen Suicides and Illiteracy, ISBN: 1919751076 9781919751078.

Du Plessis, Susan, and Jan Strydom, The Myth of ADHD and Other Learning Disabilities: Parenting Without Ritalin, ISBN: 1563841800 9781563841804.
"If your child has been diagnosed with ADHD or some other behavior disorder, be careful. This diagnosis might be false. . . . The authors of this book explain how parents can teach their children the skills of concentration and self-control without drugging them into submission. Book jacket." -- Publisher

Elliott, Delbert H., Handbook for Young Christians: Relating to Faith and Conduct.

Faris, Jerri, Covenanters of Scotland: A History for Children, ISBN: 1884527124 9781884527128.

Fitzpatrick, Elyse, More Than Bread: A Workbook for Women who Struggle With Eating (San Diego, CA: CCEF West [now Institute of Biblical Counseling and Discipleship]). Available from Institute of Biblical Counseling and Discipleship, 3495 College Ave., San Diego, CA, 92115; 619-582-5554.
"A workbook that addresses ungodly eating habits, both the obvious behaviors and the typical motives of the heart that produce such behavior. Addresses three main categories of sinful eating: overeating, anorexia, and bulimia." -- David Powlison (1949-2019)
Institute of Biblical Counseling and Discipleship (formerly CCEF West)
http://www.ibcd.org/

Froehlich, Mary Ann, Music Education in the Christian Home: How to Nurture the Musician in Your Child, ISBN: 1568570317 9781568570310.
" 'Music is a wonderful gift from God and an appreciation for music should have its roots in the home, but knowing where and how to begin, and what to include can often make the task less than appealing,' says the author. Helps parents to understand the importance and role of music in worship, gives an overview of music history, tells how to encourage your child musically, and discusses the role of church and school." -- GCB

Fugate, J. Richard, What the Bible Says About Child Training, 2nd edition, ISBN: 1888306513 9781888306514.
"Saturated with sound biblical support, the book opens with the God-ordained concepts of creation, authority, leadership, and obedience. Fugate then links these biblical concepts to the responsibility of parents in parenting and the child's respect of authority. The author then shows how our children's response to physical authorities (parents, teachers, government), will influence his or her response to the authority of God and His Word. This book is a must for anyone striving to be a godly parent and praying for the salvation of their children! Every new Christian parent should own one!" -- Reader's Comment

Fulbright, Robert G., New Dimension in Teaching Children, ISBN: 0805449175 9780805449174.
"This is a book designed to assist teachers in guiding their pupils into a real-life involvement with Jesus Christ." -- Cyril J. Barber

Fuller, Cheri, Unlocking Your Child's Learning Potential: How to Equip Kids to Succeed in School and Life, ISBN: 0891098348 9780891098348.

Glaspey, Terry W., Great Books of the Christian Tradition, ISBN: 1565073568 9781565073562.
Suggestions for books and reading, including ten books to get started, lists for specific time periods, short excerpts from many authors, 100 novels for group discussion, and 100 books to read with children. -- Publisher
"Have used this book heavily to build my library of classics. It is an annotated book list divided into Christian, non-Christian, and Children's literature and by historical periods: The Ancient World, The Middle Ages, The Early Modern World (The Reformation, Renaissance), The Eighteenth Century, The Nineteenth Century, The Twentieth Century, and Contemporary Candidates for Greatness. Parents, such as myself, will greatly appreciate the separate chapter and list dedicated solely to Children's literature. I have used this chapter to collect quality books for my children.
"Glaspey gives you a short commentary on each book (and excerpts from some authors), and tells you how best to make use of the reading lists he provides. He also gives good reasons why Christians should read non-Christian books. Also provided is a list of ten books which he feels every Christian ought to know. Included are books by C.S. Lewis, Dostoevsky, Augustine, and Tozer among others.
"This is a book for Christian biblioholics to savor. It was through this book that I discovered some of my favorites such as A TESTAMENT OF DEVOTION by Thomas Kelly, and Christian authors such as Walker Percy, Alexander Solzhenitsyn, and Flannery O'Connor. Many books he names, Christian and non-Christian, I already knew and read, and others, such as books by Norman Geisler, I was disappointed to find missing. But overall, this is an excellent resource and one that is unique. Highly recommended." -- Reader's Comment

Goertzel, Victor, Mildred George Goertzel, Ted George Goertzel, and Ariel Hansen, Cradles of Eminence: Childhoods of More Than Seven Hundred Famous men and Women: The Complete Original Text, ISBN: 0910707561 9780910707565 091070757X 9780910707572 (OCoLC)690828797.
This work shows how God uses adversity in life to draw out the best in individuals. Authors and subjects are, for the most part, secular.
A "newly published, updated, and expanded second edition of Ted Goertzel and Ariel Hanzen's CRADLES OF EMINENCE: CHILDHOODS OF MORE THAN 700 FAMOUS MEN AND WOMEN features the childhood biographies of more than 700 outstanding personalities. These sketches of the formative years of distinguished individuals reveal amazing insights into factors that can contribute to greatness, particularly in todays demanding and ever-changing world. Fascinating to read in its own right, and a wealth of anecdotal information about the youthful struggles of truly remarkable people including Alfred Hitchcock, Oprah Winfrey, Helen Keller, The Dalai Lama, Pablo Picasso, and many more." -- Reader's Comment
"This book is a fascinating look at the family patterns of eminent individuals across many generations. I couldn't put it down. If you like biographies, this is the ultimate collection of interesting stories." -- Reader's Comment "Do eminent adults have common childhood experiences? Did their parents help foster environments that could lead to eminence? Findings from [this book], reveal that eminent adults, in their childhoods, strongly disliked school but had families who valued education; had highly opinionated parents often with a dominating mother; grew up 'feeling different' from others. Readers are challenged to consider what factors will foster eminence in today's world of mass media and technological change." -- Publisher
"Victor Goertzel, a psychologist specializing in psychotherapy, was past president of the National Association for Gifted Children. Mildred George Goertzel directed a school for emotionally disturbed children. Ted George Goertzel is a professor and former chairperson in the sociology department at Rutgers University in Camden, NJ. Ariel Hansen is a recent graduate from Haverford College and works in the field of science journalism." -- Publisher

*Gregory, John Milton, The Seven Laws of Teaching, ISBN: 0801052726 9780801052729.
"An unabridged reprint of the 1886 edition. Each principle of education is supported by Scripture, a factor alone that makes this edition an invaluable reference tool." -- Cyril J. Barber

Guroian, Vigen, Tending the Heart of Virtue: How Classic Stories Awaken a Child's Moral Imagination, ISBN: 0195117875 9780195117875. Includes bibliography.
"Guroian illuminates the complex ways in which fairy tales and fantasies educate the moral imagination from earliest childhood. Examining a wide range of stories -- from PINOCCHIO and THE LITTLE MERMAID to CHARLOTTE'S WEB, THE VELVETEEN RABBIT, THE WIND IN THE WILLOWS, and THE NARNIA CHRONICLES -- he argues that these tales capture the meaning of morality through vivid depictions of the struggle between good and evil." -- Publisher
"Guroian demonstrates that the best children's stories combine an almost mystical love of goodness with a high degree of dramatic realism. . . ." -- Gregory Wolfe, coauthor of Books That Build Character
"Not since Chesterton have we seen such an open, affectionate, and brilliant analysis of fairy and fantasy tales. For parents, teachers, and clergy, here is a theological perspective on BEAUTY, BEAST, PINOCCHIO, BAMBI, NARNIA, THE VELVETEEN RABBIT (among others) -- all as seedlings in growing a child's garden of morals and virtues. It is a fresh, embracing, and enlightening view, and, I might add, long overdue." -- Jim Trelease, author of The Read-Aloud Handbook

*Henry, Matthew (1662-1714), The Young Christian, ISBN: 0906731569 9780906731567.
"Using Paul's letter to Titus, Henry shows us in practical way how best to live as a Christian." -- GCB

*Henty, G.A., G.A. Henty Collection of Books for Boys
"Hard bound, soft bound, and CD-ROM editions. Available at Project Gutenberg.
"All 99 of G.A. Henty's books are now available in print and digital formats. The CDs also includes 53 short stories by Henty and 216 short stories by his contemporaries.
"Written during the latter part of the 19th century, G.A. Henty's books were very popular and widely used in the schools of Britain and the United States during the late 19th and early 20th Centuries.
"While many children's adventure books that emphasize the traits of courage, high moral character, diligence, perseverance and other valuable personal virtues were written during this period, G.A. Henty's books are unique. Each adventure takes place within the setting of some important period in human history. From the fall of Jerusalem to the American Civil War, Henty's heroes live their adventures within exciting historical events. The reader learns much detailed history while he is being entertained and taught by exemplary heroes.
"Moreover, through his personal experiences and careful scholarship, Henty provides very detailed and accurate accounts of history.
"While one might read a section of a history book concerning, for example, the conquering of Mexico by Spain, most such accounts are dry and shallow in comparison with Henty's tale of the primary happenings and of the way of life of the people caught up in those events.
"From the French Revolution to the Great Plague of London, from the Crusades to the American Civil War, Henty readers learn in-depth history, superior vocabulary and literary techniques, and the advantages of high personal character -- while they are being entertained by a master storyteller.
"The Robinson Books Henty Collection is outstanding reading for any person -- young or old, regardless of educational background." -- Publisher
http://www.henty.com/
Gutenberg, Project
http://www.gutenberg.org/
ClassicReader.com
http://www.classicreader.com/
G.A. Henty, Wikipedia article
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G._A._Henty

Hoeksema, Gertrude, Peaceable Fruit for the Nurture of Covenant Youth, ISBN: 0825428211 9780825428210.

Houston, Thomas (1803-1882), Youthful Devotedness; or, The Youth of the Church Instructed in the Duties of Practical Religion. Available (WORKS: DOCTRINAL AND PRACTICAL, volume 2 only), on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available (WORKS: DOCTRINAL AND PRACTICAL, volume 2 only), on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22.

Hughes, Peggy, Getting to the Heart of Your Child, ISBN: 9780988406209 0988406209.
"GETTING TO THE HEART OF YOUR CHILD (already an award winning book, winning 1st place in the Parenting Category of The Fall 2013 Christian Writers Award), really is a must have book for all parents. Peggy Hughes, is a Licensed Professional Counselor and mother who specializes in family relationships in her private practice. She uses her professional knowledge and experience combined with their own personal family stories to deliver an insightful, practical and proven help for parents! Train up a child in the way he should go . . . You have probably heard this biblical instruction before, but what does it mean? How do you 'train' your child, and where are they suppose to 'go'? Peggy Hughes helps answer these questions and shares the vital importance of knowing your child's heart. Discover two indispensable keys to unlock your child's heart, Three building blocks to establishing a good relationship and the incredible value of good discipline." -- Publisher

Hunter, Emily, Christian Charm Course: Student's Manual, ISBN: 0890815089 9780890815083.
"Aimed at young girls, this popular study book has been used by countless homeschool families to teach young girls good manners and godly behavior. With practical guidelines for grooming, dress, politeness, conversation skills, and spiritual growth, this book will help children integrate inner beauty with outer beauty." -- Publisher

Hunter, Emily, and Wayne Hunter, Man in Demand, ISBN: 0890815100 9780890815106.
See also: MAN IN DEMAND: STUDENT TRAINING MANUAL.
"Aimed at boys, MAN IN DEMAND has been used by countless homeschool families to teach young boys good manners and Godly behavior. With practical guidelines for grooming, dress, politeness, conversation skills, and spiritual growth, the books will help children integrate inner beauty with outer beauty." -- Publisher

Hunter, Wayne, and Emily Hunter, Man in Demand: Student Training Manual, ISBN: 0890815100 9780890815106.

Jehle, Paul, Go ye Therefore and Teach: Operation Manual for Christian day School.

Lewis, Paul, 40 Ways to Teach Your Child Values: Honesty, Managing Money, Making Good Choices, Controlling TV, Courage, ISBN: 0310216990 9780310216995.

*Lloyd-Jones, David Martyn (1899-1981), Life in the Spirit in Marriage, Home and Work: An Exposition of Ephesians 5:18 -- 6:9 [Ephesians 5:18 -- Ephesians 6:9], ISBN: 080105799X 9780801057991.

*Lopez, Diane D., and Elizabeth Laraway Wilson, Teaching Children: A Curriculum Guide to What Children Need to Know at Each Level Through Grade six, ISBN: 0891074899 9780891074892.
"Diane Lopez is principal of Bethany Christian School, Sierra Madre, California. This is a unique curriculum guide for grade levels K through 6. It is an excellent educational approach which naturally integrates a Christian worldview and scriptural principles. . . ." -- Jay P. Green, Sr. (1918-2008)
"If you have not read FOR THE CHILDREN'S SAKE or Karen Andreola's A CHARLOTTE MASON COMPANION, which cover the same ideas in more depth, they would be a good introduction to the educational principles of Charlotte Mason." -- Reader's Comment

Lye, Thomas, The Assemblies Shorter Catechism Drawn out Into Distinct Propositions, and Proved by Plain, and Pertinent Texts of scripture at Large: With short rules of direction for masters of families, how to use this book to the best advantage. By Thomas Lye, M.A. and sometimes minister of the Gospel at Alhallows Lumbard-street, 1672.

Lye, Thomas, By What Scriptural Rules may Catechizing be so Managed, as That it may Become Most Universally Profitable, a sermon on Prov. xxii. 6. [Proverbs 22:6]
Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22.

Lye, Thomas, An Explanation of the Shorter Catechism Compos'd by the Assembly of Divines at Westminster, 1647: With a Plain, and Familiar Method of Instructing the Younger Sort, in That Catechism, Specially Intended for Governours of Families, and humbly submitted to the candid judgment of the godly and judicious reader, 1675.

Lye, Thomas, What may Gracious Parents Best do for the Conversion of Those Children Whose Wickedness is Occasioned by Their Sinful Severity or Indulgence? (Malachi 4:6) Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22.

*Maffet, Gregory J., Biblical Schools for Covenant Children, ISBN: 0941221008 9780941221009.
Introduction by Jay Adams.

McDowell, Stephen, Loving God With all Your Mind: Books and Films to Encourage, Inspire, and Equip in a Biblical Worldview.
"This booklet contains lists of books that will help you develop a Biblical worldview. Book lists are given for all ages including: picture books for the youngest children, literature, history, and biographies for students; resource books for adults or older children on many aspects of Biblical worldview and providential history.
"A list of movies is also presented, many with Biblical themes and principles, with most simply good, wholesome movies enjoyed by young and old."
These resources will implant Godly principles and character, teach good and great ideas, and inspire the student of any age to a life of learning and excellence." -- Publisher

McMaster (M'Master), Gilbert (1778-1854), The Parent's Assistant for the Sabbath Evening Instruction of his Children: From the Appendix to Dr. McMaster's Analysis of the Westminster Shorter Catechism.

McMaster (M'Master), Gilbert (1778-1854), The Shorter Catechism Analyzed: Containing a Distinct Exhibition of the Particular Doctrines Under Each Question, With Appropriate Proofs From Scripture. Alternate title: ANALYSIS OF THE WESTMINSTER SHORTER CATECHISM.

McPherson, Gary, The Child as Musician: A Handbook of Musical Development, ISBN: 0198530315 9780198530312.

*Morris, Benjamin Franklin, Christian Life and Character of the Civil Institutions of the United States, Developed in the Official and Historical Annals of the Republic, 1864, ISBN: 0243184069 9780243184064.
"This volume is committed to the American people, in the firm assurance that the invaluable facts which it records will be grateful to every patriotic and pious heart. In it, as from the richest mines, has been brought out the pure gold of our history. Its treasures have been gathered and placed in this casket for the instruction and benefit of the present and future. We have a noble historic life; for our ancestors were the worthies of the world. We have a noble nation, full of the evidences of the molding presence of Christian truth, and of the power and goodness of Divine wisdom in rearing up a Christian republic for all time. That this was the spirit and aim of the early founders of our institutions, the facts in this volume fully testify.
"The field through which the reader will walk, in this work, must give wider expansion to his political views, quicken the pulses of his loyalty, add to his conscious dignity as an American citizen, strengthen his confidence in our future, and impart a higher tone to his piety.
"The single object of the compiler was to link, in a connected form, the golden chain of our Christian history, and to reveal the basis on which our institutions stand.
"The documents and facts are authentic, and have been collected, with laborious diligence, from standard historical works and from the political and Christian annals of the nation. The volume is the voice of the best and wisest men of the republic. It must, therefore, have weight with the American people, and be a political and Christian thesaurus and text-book to the scholar, the teacher, the patriot, the politician, the statesman, the jurist, the legislator, the divine, and, in a word, to all classes of American citizens. The work is not speculative or theoretical, but a series of facts to unfold and establish the Christian life and character of the civil institutions of the United States, in the light of which every American citizen can trace to its source the true glory of the nation and learn to appreciate its institutions and to venerate and imitate the great and good men who founded them. . . .
"It has been a delightful task of patriotism and piety to the compiler to prepare the volume, and to lay it as a grateful offering upon the common altar of his country and of Christianity.
"It is also the ardent hope of the compiler that the facts and principles recorded in this volume, and in which, in our early struggle, all denominations of Christians uttered with such harmony their convictions that the only sure and stable basis of our civil institutions was in the Christian religion, may contribute to strengthen the union of patriotism and piety in all parts of the country, to save the nation from the perils of a wicked rebellion, and be the brightest hope of the future. . . .
"The volume is committed to the blessing of God and to the judgment and favor of the American people, in humble trust that it may aid in preserving and perpetuating to future generations the Union of the States, the integrity of the best government ever instituted by the wisdom of men, and the nationality of the American Republic." -- Rev. Byron Sunderland, D.D., late Pastor of the First Presbyterian Church of Washington City, and Chaplain to the Senate of the United States in the Thirty-Seventh Congress, from the Preface
Christian Life and Character of the Civil Institutions of the United States, 1864
https://ia800205.us.archive.org/27/items/christianlifecha00morr/christianlifecha00morr_bw.pdf

Murphy, Elspeth Campbell, God, You Fill us up With Joy: Psalm 100 for Children, ISBN: 1555130372 9781555130374.
Illustrated by Jane E. Nelson.

Owen, John (1616-1683), The Primer: Or, an Easie way to Teach Children the True Reading of English. With a Necessary Catechisme, to instruct youth in the grounds of Christian religion. Also choice places of Scripture for that purpose. Composed by John Owen, minister of the Gospel. Approved and allowed by a committee of Parliament, 1652.

*Perks, Stephen C., The Christian Philosophy of Education Explained, ISBN: 0951889907 9780951889909.
"The editor of Calvinism Today magazine has written a book which, in the words of Samuel L. Blumenfeld, demonstrates with simplicity the cogent argument that the Christian and humanist worldviews are mutually exclusive, and that it is 'treason against God' to put children in the hands of non-believers for their education. Every Christian parent should read this challenging, forthright, insightful book before deciding where and how to educate his or her children." -- GCB

*Pink, Michael, Tough Questions, Straight Answers
"A great topical arrangement of Scriptures on modern subjects that our children bump up against everyday. Just Bible passages. Highly recommended." -- GCB

Potter, William, The Boy's Guide to the Historical Adventures of G.A. Henty (Vocabulary of a Warrior), ISBN: 1929241151 9781929241156.
"This unique book charts Henty's works of historical fiction chronologically and provides both a plot summary and an historical overview of over 70 of his classic tales." -- Publisher
"HOME EDUCATORS: If you are trying to put together a history-based curriculum, this volume is very helpful! You can gauge which time periods in your student's course of study need some bolstering up (or livening up), and search in this book for the proper Henty novel to introduce. For example, to bulk up our study on 'Ancient Times,' I needed a novel about Hannibal. This terrific reference book tells me to get Henty's 'The Young Carthaginian' to meet that requirement.
"Another problem it solves is that sometimes a history-based curriculum can get predictable. Everyone seems to be covering the same things and the only variance is how deeply they're studied. This guide covers all of Henty's books and makes it easy to locate his books on obscure subjects and events which you can tantalize your children with. Children seem to love citing these forgotten tales and bedazzling their peers and family with them!
"This volume will also prove invaluable to PEOPLE EDUCATING THEMSELVES. As an adult who is battling her 'learning gaps,' I just page through this reference until I find something that doesn't ring ANY bells! By reading a Henty, I enjoy a terrific adventure (which I can later discuss with my children), educate myself and, if I want to, pursue the subject more deeply later on." -- Reader's Comment
"G.A. Henty wrote around 144 books. Many of the books revolve around a fictional character who interacts with real persons from that historical period. Heroism, honor, courage, and leadership are integral characteristics of the main protagonists. I have trouble putting down a Henty story. I highly recommend this resource." -- Reader's Comment

*Pride, Mary, Schoolproof: How to Help Your Family Beat the System and Learn to Love Learning the Easy Natural way, ISBN: 0891074805 9780891074809.
"Schoolproofing means having children who learn to read, who learn to obey authority, who learn to stand against injustice." -- GCB "Mary Pride's book will help parents make sure their children get a great education, no matter what political or educational theory happens to be in vogue. Schoolproofing means having children who learn to read, who learn to obey authority, who learn to stand against injustice. Just a few of the topics covered: getting organized; motivating your students while respecting them; steps to independent learning -- including one commonly-forgotten but absolutely essential step; 20 ways to present a lesson and more. This book helps you understand why different educational philosophies work (or don't), and where we should go from here." -- Publisher

*Reimer, Kathie, 1001 Ways to Introduce Your Child to God, ISBN: 0842347577 9780842347570.
"Creative ideas to help children develop godly attitudes and healthy ways of thinking." -- Publisher

Spurgeon, C.H. (1834-1892), Come ye Children: A Book on the Christian Training of Children, ISBN: 0686168402. Alternate title: COME YE CHILDREN PRACTICAL HELP TELLING PEOPLE ABOUT JESUS.
"In this book Spurgeon provides valuable aid for parents, teachers and youth leaders on the subject of training children." -- GCB
"A book for parents and teachers on the Christian training of children as well as the evangelization of children called by the grace of God. Contains such chapters as: "Fed my Lambs -- How to Do It," "Do Not Hinder the Children," "Of Such is the Kingdom of Heaven," "The Child Timothy and His Teachers," and "Abijah's 'Some Good Thing'." -- Gospel Mission
Come ye Children, by C.H. Spurgeon
http://archive.spurgeon.org/misc/cyc.php

*Spurgeon, Charles Haddon (1834-1892), Spurgeon's Catechism: A Puritan Catechism.
Spurgeon's Catechism: A Puritan Catechism
http://storage.cloversites.com/northpointecommunitychurch1/documents/Spurgeon_Catechism.pdf

Stewart, Bruce Cameron, and The Reformed Presbyterian Church of North America. Board of Education and Publication, Covenant Family Home Training Guide, 1960.

Strydom, Jan, Susan du Plessis, and Benetta Strydom, The Bible's way to Victory Over ADHD and Other Childhood Challenges
"A free online book, providing sound answers on preventing and overcoming behavioral, emotional and learning problems, including ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder), ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder), Conduct Disorder and Tourette's Syndrome."
http://www.audiblox2000.com/onlinebook/index.htm
E-mail: benetta@mweb.co.za

Sturkie, Joan, and Siang-Yang Tan, Advanced Peer Counseling in Youth Groups: Equipping Your Kids to Help Each Other With the Tough Issues, ISBN: 0310373018 9780310373018.

Sturkie, Joan, and Siang-Yang Tan, Peer Counseling in Youth Groups: Equipping Your Kids to Help Each Other, ISBN: 031054081X 9780310540816.

*Thompson-Iserbyt, Charlotte, The Deliberate Dumbing Down of America: A Chronological Paper Trail, ISBN: 0966707109 9780966707106.
"This book is the book to have. Every concerned parent in America should invest in a copy. It's the encyclopedia, in year date order, of just what has been going on in America in the public school system for years and years. It holds answers to many unanswered questions. Years of research at our fingertips and it's the size of a telephone book. It's the best inside look. It's honest, official documentation, undisputable evidence. If every parent were to read this, we could right a terrible wrong being done in public schools today. The fact she was once a Senior Policy Advisor for the U.S. Department of Education weighs a lot on the books credibility factor." -- Reader's Comment

Van Dyken, Donald, Rediscovering Catechism: The art of Equipping Covenant Children, ISBN: 0875524648 9780875524641.

Venning, Ralph, Learning in Christ's School: Babes, Children, Youth, and Fathers, ISBN: 0851517641 9780851517643.

*Vincent, Thomas (1634-1678), Shorter Catechism Explained From Scripture. Alternate title: THE SHORTER CATECHISM OF THE WESTMINSTER ASSEMBLY EXPLAINED AND PROVED FROM SCRIPTURE, ISBN: 085151314X. A Christian classic. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
"Forty Puritans including John Owen, Thomas Manton, Thomas Brooks and Thomas Watson recommended this useful volume as a very worth aid for family instruction. This volume gives parents very simple explanations to take their children through the Westminster Shorter Catechism."
Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html
Westminster Shorter Catechism Project: Body of Divinity Contained in Sermons Upon the Assembly's Catechism by the Rev. Thomas Watson
"Click on any of the individual questions below to get the answer and Biblical references, as well as links to works by John Flavel, Thomas Watson, Thomas Boston, James Fisher, and John Whitecross, and others."
http://www.shortercatechism.com/

*Watson, Thomas (1620-1686), Body of Divinity: Contained in Sermons Upon the Westminster Assembly's Catechism, ISBN: 0851511449. A Christian classic. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
"The first book published by the Trust, this has been one of the best sellers and consistently the most useful and influential of our publications . . . It deals with the foremost doctrinal and experimental truths of the Christian faith . . . It is based on the Westminster Assembly's Shorter Catechism, in which the main principles of Christianity that lie scattered in the Scriptures are brought together and set forth in the form of question and answer. This catechism is unsurpassed for its 'terse exactitude of definition' and 'logical elaboration' of the fundamentals. . . . Watson conveys his thorough doctrinal and experimental knowledge of the truth in such an original, concise, pithy, pungent, racy, rich, and illustrative style that he is rightly regarded as the most readable of the Puritans." -- Publisher
"As an introduction to Puritan theology, as a short and sweet course in Christian doctrine, as devotional reading, and as a preacher's gold-mine, Watson's work can hardly be praised too highly." -- J.I. Packer
"Contains Watson's exposition of the Westminster Shorter Catechism, excluding the Lord's Prayer and the Ten Commandments." -- GCB
Westminster Shorter Catechism Project: Body of Divinity Contained in Sermons Upon the Assembly's Catechism by the Rev. Thomas Watson
http://www.shortercatechism.com/resources/vincent/wsc_vi_001.html?page_id=205
Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html
The Complete Scripture Index to the Westminster Confession (1646), Larger and Shorter Catechisms. Alternate title: SCRIPTURE INDEX TO THE WESTMINSTER STANDARDS. Available on Library of Presbyterian Heritage Publications and Protestant Heritage Press. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
The Complete Scripture Index to the Westminster Confession (1646), Larger and Shorter Catechisms.
http://www.swrb.com/newslett/actualnls/index01.htm
Westminster Shorter Catechism Project
"Click on any of the individual questions below to get the answer and Biblical references, as well as links to works by John Flavel, Thomas Watson, Thomas Boston, James Fisher, and John Whitecross, and others."
http://www.shortercatechism.com/
Watson, A Body of Practical Divinity Sermons on the Shorter Catechism of the Westminster Assembly, also Select Sermons on Various Subjects, Together with The Art of Divine Contentment, and Christ's Various Fulness (1859)
http://archive.org/details/bodyofpracticald00watsuoft
Bordwine, James, A Guide to the Westminster Standards: Confession of Faith and Larger Catechism (Unicoi, TN: (The Trinity Foundation, 1996), ISBN: 0940931303 9780940931305.
Includes a unique, 100-page topical index to both the Confession and the Catechism.

Whitecross, John, The Shorter Catechism Illustrated, ISBN: 1932474080 9781932474084.
The Shorter Catechism Illustrated, John Whitecross
http://www.shortercatechism.com/resources/whitecross/wsc_wh_001.html
Illustrations of the Shorter Catechism for children and youth (1864), Jonathan Cross [Whitecross -- compiler]
http://archive.org/details/illustrationsoft01crosuoft

Wileman, William, John Calvin: His Life, his Teaching, and his Influence.
Both juvenile and adult reading. Available in THE COMPLETE JOHN CALVIN COLLECTION offered by Ages Software (now defunct).
"The following pages contain an attempt to set forth in a readable and attractive form the principal features of a great life.
"While thus recording facts, the aim of the writer has been to give an honest and impartial view of those living truths of God that are commonly associated with the name of Calvin.
"He has also kept in view a desire to write what should be worthy of the attention of our young people, who are warmly invited to read what God did in days of old. -- Preface

Willard, Samuel (1639-1707), The Franklin Primer: Containing a new and Useful Selection of Moral Lessons . . . Calculated to Strike a Lasting Impression on the Tender Minds of Children.

Wonderly, Gustava M., Training Children: From the Beginning as "Unto the Lord."

Zwingli, Ulrich (1484-1531), The Christian Education of Youth.

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The Biblical Answer to the Education Crisis, an address on Deuteronomy 6:1-9, Peter Hammond
http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?SID=1231365421

Dyslexia
"As youngsters across the country settle into a new school year, some parents will receive disturbing news: little Jason or Emma has dyslexia. While this difficulty in processing written words can create challenges, it can be overcome with creativity. Two extraordinarily accomplished adults relate how their struggles with dyslexia in childhood contributed to their current achievements. Learn how parents can help children confront this challenge.
"Guests: Dr. Edward (Ned) Hallowell is a child and adult psychiatrist and the founder of The Hallowell Center for Cognitive and Emotional Health in Sudbury, MA and New York City. He is the author of DRIVEN TO DISTRACTION, DELIVERED FROM DISTRACTION, and 16 other books. The website is www.drhallowell.com. The photo is of Dr. Hallowell.
"Philip Schultz is an American poet, and winner of a Pulitzer Prize for his poetry. He is the founder and director of The Writers Studio, a private school for fiction and poetry writing based in New York City. The website is www.writerstudio.com. His most recent book, a memoir, is MY DYSLEXIA. His article for The New York Times is "Words Failed, Then Saved Me."
http://www.peoplespharmacy.com/2011/09/17/828-dyslexia/

A Guide for Young Christians, John W. Robbins
http://www.trinityfoundation.org/journal.php?id=125

Logos Research Systems, Memlok Bible Memory System Starter Kit
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Mount Olive Tape Library of Reformed Theology
This collection has been in the custody of the Greenville Presbyterian Seminary since 2006. It appears (September 8, 2016) that the Media Center at the Seminary have digitized practically none of the audio cassette and video tape addresses.
"The following listing was developed by George Calhoun, the founder of Mt. Olive Tape Library, over the course of some thirty years. This catalog reflects the personal quest of Mr. Calhoun for a balanced education in Reformed Theology. The speakers herein have been scrutinized for their faithfulness to the Bible. These tapes will enable students to pursue the study of Reformed theology at a minimum of financial expense."
"FOR YOUR INFORMATION . . . [from the introduction to the Mount Olive Tape Catalog -- compiler]
"The tapes included in this catalog are recordings of sermons and lectures given by various pastors, theologians, Bible teachers, and conference speakers who confess adherence to the broad perspectives of historic Reformed theology. We have diligently tried to screen all the materials as to their basic commitment to the Biblical perspectives reflected in the Reformed creeds and confessions.
"Since, however, no human interpreter of God's Word is infallible, it is the prayer of those responsible for sending forth these tapes that all who listen to them will cultivate the spirit of the Bereans, who 'searched the Scriptures daily to see whether these things were so.'
"Also, it should be emphasized that the tapes included in this catalog have been evaluated in terms of their basic content as they were originally given, and the inclusion of them in this catalog should not be construed as an unreserved approval of the men who originally gave them. Christians grow in grace and knowledge with the passing of time, yet it must be recognized that some turn aside from the norms of Scripture. It is our hope, therefore, that no one will attach himself to any of the men whose tapes are included in this catalog on the basis of the tapes alone. We are all commanded to be discerning toward those who would instruct us in the faith.
"Finally, it would be a tragic abuse of the intent in providing these sermons and lectures should they in any way cultivate a party spirit so clearly condemned by the Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 3. Paul reminded the Corinthians that all things were theirs -- Paul, Cephas, and Apollos included. We, too, may recognize that the various servants of Christ whose voices are heard on these tapes are God's gifts to us and that we are to follow them only insofar as they follow Christ and the clear teachings of His holy and infallible Word! Since not all men have the same gifts, learn to drink from the gifts of many men -- not just one fountain."
Dr. C. Gregg Singer, Mount Olive Tape Library lectures (MP3 [audio files]), [audio file], approximately 161 of 171
http://www.sermonaudio.com/search.asp?speakeronly=true&currsection=sermonsspeaker&keyword=Dr._C._Gregg_Singer
The Catalog of the Mount Olive Tape Library in PDF Format
http://www.lettermen2.com/olivecat.pdf
Mt. Olive Audio Library, Greenville Presbyterian Theological Seminary
http://gpts.edu/media/index.php?currpage=1&sa_action=
Greenville Seminary and Mt. Olive
http://www.sermonaudio.com/source_detail.asp?sourceid=gpts

Reformed Children's Books
http://www.swrb.com/links/children.htm

RZIM (Ravi Zacharias International Ministries) Academy
Various resources in apologetics.
http://rzimacademy.org/

SermonAudio.com
"SermonAudio.com is the largest library of audio sermons on the web from conservative Christian churches and ministries with over 438,500 FREE MP3 [audio file] sermons which can be streamed online for immediate listening or downloaded to your computer or MP3 player for listening at a later time. You can easily search through the entire sermon library by broadcaster, Bible reference, topic, speaker, date preached, language, or any keyword.
"The mission of SermonAudio.com is to help faithful, local churches broadcast their audio sermons to the maximum amount of people with the least amount of cost. Our chief purpose is for the preservation and propagation of great Bible preaching and teaching in its audio form for this generation and the next.
"Additionally, through our Transcription and Translation service, any sermon that is available on SermonAudio.com can be professionally and accurately transcribed by a real human and then machine-translated into 20 plus foreign languages."
http://www.sermonaudio.com/

The Shorter Catechism Deck
"The Shorter Catechism Deck is a card deck that incorporates all 107 questions of the Westminster Shorter Catechism (17th Century) on 54 bridge sized playing cards. The idea for this project spawned out of necessity. The Shorter Catechism is normally printed in a collection of other documents, which can often make for a rather large book. So, what we did was create something that would allow for a convenient and practical catechizing tool for at home or on the go."
https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/386341857/the-shorter-catechism-deck?ref=user_menu

*Westminster Shorter Catechism, video series
"THE WESTMINSTER SHORTER CATECHISM is a catechism written in 1646 and 1647 by the Westminster Assembly, a synod of English and Scottish theologians and laymen intended to bring the Church of England into greater conformity with the Church of Scotland. The Catechism is in a question and answer format, which had been popularized by Martin Luther as a way to help children learn the meaning of the material, rather than simply memorizing the Lord's Prayer, Ten Commandments, and Apostles' Creed as had been the practice prior to the Reformation. The catechism is composed of 107 questions and answers. Each video segment in the 'Westminster Shorter Catechism Series' is a self-contained unit for use in individual and family study. Suggested uses may include use as part of a Home School Curriculum or for discussion in Family Worship. We trust the Lord would use these lessons to enrich and bless your souls."
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCliClfWuYGWapz08HOsTQHA?app=desktop

Small Children's Catechism
http://www.reformed.org/documents/child_cat.html

Westminster Shorter Catechism With Proof Texts
http://www.reformed.org/documents/WSC_frames.html

Counsel for Young Men

This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success. (Joshua 1:8)
Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding. (Proverbs 4:7)
Hast thou not known? Hast thou not heard, that the everlasting God, the LORD, the Creator of the ends of the earth, fainteth not, neither is weary? There is no searching of his understanding. He giveth power to the faint; and to them that have no might he increaseth strength. Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall utterly fall: But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. (Isaiah 40:28-31)
Isaiah 40 "is perhaps the most famous passage in the Old Testament on God's work of creation." -- John Gill commenting on Isaiah 40:28-31
Nothing perhaps affects man's character more than the company he keeps. We catch the ways and tone of those we live and talk with, and unhappily get harm far more easily than good. Disease is infectious, but health is not.
Now if a professing Christian deliberately chooses to be intimate with those who are not friends of God and who cling to the world, his soul is sure to take harm. It is hard enough to serve Christ under any circumstances in such a world as this. But it is doubly hard to do it if we are friends of the thoughtless and ungodly. Mistakes in friendship or marriage engagements are the whole reason why some have entirely ceased to grow. Evil communications corrupt good manners. . . . The friendship of the world is enmity with God. (1 Corinthians 15:33; James 4:4) -- J.C. Ryle (1816-1900)
Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart. (2 Timothy 2:22)
Our first love is our only love because, by definition, a man can become one flesh (Genesis 2:24; 1 Corinthians 6:15-20) with only one woman, and visa versa. Men and women have only ONE CHANCE to become one flesh. Promiscuity then is a hopelessly impossible attempt to again know that oneness which has been lost.
On the contrary, he charges them with gross and voluntary ignorance, as if he had said that, by their madness, they brought down destruction on themselves. The meaning therefore is, that the people perished because they despised instruction . . . .
Hence we draw a useful doctrine; namely, that the source of all our calamities is, that we do not allow ourselves to be taught by the word of God, and this is what the Prophet chiefly intended that we should observe. . . .
So then it is a true statement, that the reason why the people endure such a variety of afflictions is, that they are ignorant of God, and will not allow themselves to be taught by him. -- John Calvin commenting on Isaiah 5:13
You only have one life, it will soon be past. Only what is done for Christ will last. -- C.T. Studd
Make your life count for eternity.
Give up your small ambitions and follow Christ! -- Peter Hammond
The selection of Scripture verses that follow are suggested as appropriate for young men to memorize. They may be viewed in their context with commentary at CrossWalk.com.
CrossWalk.com
http://www.biblestudytools.com/
See the Biblical counselor's story about his son found at the beginning of the topical listing "Scripture Memory Systems":
Scripture Memory Systems
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr2cha.html#smsys
Jesus answered and said unto him, If a man love me, he will keep my words: and my Father will love him, and we will come unto him, and make our abode with him. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (John 14:23)
Then said Jesus to those Jews which believed on him, If ye continue in my word, then are ye my disciples indeed;
And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (John 8:31,32)
He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (John 14:21)
For it seemed good to the Holy Ghost, and to us, to lay upon you no greater burden than these necessary things: That ye abstain from meats offered to idols, and from blood, and from things strangled, and from fornication: from which if ye keep yourselves, ye shall do well. Fare ye well. (Acts 15:28,29) -- From a letter written by the Apostles after they had consulted together, and declared to the church at Antioch
When my father and my mother forsake me, then the Lord will take me up. (Psalm 27:10)
Remember now thy Creator in the days of thy youth, while the evil days come not, nor the years draw nigh, when thou shalt say, I have no pleasure in them. (Ecclesiastes 12:1 1)
Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed thereto according to thy word. (Psalm 119:9)
He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God? (Micah 6:8)
This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success. (Joshua 1:8)
My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children.
As they were increased, so they sinned against me: therefore will I change their glory into shame. (Hosea 4:6,7)
The Treasury of David, Psalm 25, C.H. Spurgeon
The meek will he guide in judgment: and the meek will he teach His way.
All the paths of the LORD are mercy and truth unto such as keep his covenant and his testimonies. (Psalm 25:9,10)
The secret of the Lord is with them that fear him; and he will shew them his covenant. (Psalm 25:14)
http://archive.spurgeon.org/treasury/ps025.php
The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction. (Proverbs 1:7)
Ask and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: for every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened. Or what man is there of you, whom if his son ask bread, will he give him a stone? Or if he ask a fish, will he give him a serpent? If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him? -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 7:7-11)
This is the stone which was set at nought of you builders, which is become the head of the corner.
Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved. (Acts 4:11,12)
The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit: a broken and a contrite heart, O God, thou wilt not despise. (Psalm 51:17)
Thus saith the Lord; Cursed be the man that trusteth in man, and maketh flesh his arm, and whose heart departeth from the Lord. For he shall be like the heath in the desert, and shall not see when good cometh; but shall inhabit the parched places in the wilderness, in a salt land and not inhabited. Blessed is the man that trusteth in the Lord, and whose hope the Lord is. For he shall be as a tree planted by the waters, and that spreadeth out her roots by the river, and shall not see when heat cometh, but her leaf shall be green; and shall not be careful in the year of drought, neither shall cease from yielding fruit. (Jeremiah 17:5-8)
Then saith Jesus unto him, Get thee hence, Satan: for it is written, Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shalt thou serve. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 4:10)
Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity! (Psalm 133:1)
Fret not thyself because of evildoers,
neither be thou envious against the workers of iniquity.
For they shall soon be cut down like the grass,
and wither as the green herb.
Trust in the LORD, and do good;
so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed.
Delight thyself also in the LORD;
and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. (Psalm 37:1-4)
Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path. (Psalm 119:105)
Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.
And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever. (John 2:15-17)
Commit thy works unto the LORD, and thy thoughts shall be established. (Proverbs 16:3)
And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;
Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ. (Colossians 3:23,24)
And the spirit of the LORD shall rest upon him, the spirit of wisdom and understanding, the spirit of counsel and might, the spirit of knowledge and of the fear of the LORD. (Isaiah 11:2)
(For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ. (2 Corinthians 10:4-5, verses associated with The Trinity Foundation)
I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me. (Galatians 2:20)
Concerning the works of men, by the word of thy lips I have kept me from the paths of the destroyer. (Psalm 17:4)
But he answered and said, It is written, Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 4:4)
Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness. (Isaiah 41:10)
No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and their righteousness is of me, saith the LORD. (Isaiah 54:17)
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. (Romans 12:2)
And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 25:40)
And all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation; (Corinthians 5:18)
And now I say unto you, Refrain from these men, and let them alone: for if this counsel or this work be of men, it will come to nought:
But if it be of God, ye cannot overthrow it; lest haply ye be found even to fight against God. (Acts 5:38,39)
Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us,
Unto him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus throughout all ages, world without end. Amen. (Ephesians 3:20,21)
And Jesus said unto them, Verily I say unto you, That ye which have followed me, in the regeneration when the Son of man shall sit in the throne of his glory, ye also shall sit upon twelve thrones, judging the twelve tribes of Israel.
And every one that hath forsaken houses, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my name's sake, shall receive an hundredfold, and shall inherit everlasting life.
But many [that are] first shall be last; and the last [shall be] first. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 19:28-30)
The four "Servant Songs" of Isaiah are Isaiah 42:1-9; Isaiah 49:1-7; Isaiah 50:4-11; and Isaiah 52:13 -- Isaiah 53:12. See the annotations in The Reformation Study Bible.
Our Triune God has ordained that the preeminent leader of the Church is the Lord Jesus Christ, the God Man, Our Righteousness. (John 1:1-18; Matthew 19:30; Matthew 28:18-20; Isaiah 49:7; Colossians 1:16-19; Colossians 2:9,10; Hebrews 12:1,2; Revelation 5:1-14; Revelation 19:11-15; Revelation 20:11-15; Revelation 22:12, and so forth, and so on). Human leadership is also divinely ordained and tends to devolve to those who are most perfectly at one with Christ, and to those who also know the most Truth (the Apostle Paul, Saint Augustine, Martin Luther, John Calvin, Puritan leaders, The Scots Worthies, and so forth, and so on).
And Jesus said unto them, Verily I say unto you, That ye which have followed me, in the regeneration when the Son of man shall sit in the throne of his glory, ye also shall sit upon twelve thrones, judging the twelve tribes of Israel. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 19:28). See: (Matthew 19:28, 1599 Geneva Bible)
Then his master said unto him, It is well done good servant and faithful, Thou hast been faithful in little, I will make thee ruler over much: enter into thy master's joy. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 25:21) (Matthew 25:21 1599 Geneva Bible)
Then shall the King say unto them on his right hand, Come, ye blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 25:34). See: (Matthew 25:34, 1599 Geneva Bible)
And he said unto him, Well, good servant: because thou hast been faithful in a very little thing, take thou authority over ten cities. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Luke 19:17) (Luke 19:17, 1599 Geneva Bible)
Therefore I appoint unto you a kingdom, as my Father hath appointed unto me. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Luke 22:29) (Luke 22:29, 1599 Geneva Bible)
And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together. (Romans 8:17). See: (Romans 8:17, 1599 Geneva Bible)
Know ye not that we shall judge angels? how much more things that pertain to this life? (1 Corinthians 6:3). See: (1 Corinthians 6:3, 1599 Geneva Bible)
And hath raised us up together, and made us sit together in heavenly places in Christ Jesus. (Ephesians 2:6). See: (Ephesians 2:6, 1599 Geneva Bible)
To execute vengeance upon the heathen, and corrections among the people:
To bind their kings in chains, and their nobles with fetters of iron,
That they may execute upon them the judgment that is written: this honor shall be to all his Saints. Praise ye the Lord. (Psalm 149:7-9) (Psalm 149:7-9, 1599 Geneva Bible)
But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. (1 Timothy 2:12), (1 Timothy 2:12, 1599 Geneva Bible)
And he that overcometh, and keepeth my works unto the end, to him will I give power over the nations. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Revelation 2:26). See: (Revelation 2:26, 1599 Geneva Bible)
To serve God is to reign. -- Seneca (4 BC -- 65 AD)
Choosing rather to suffer affliction with the people of God, than to enjoy the pleasures of sin for a season;
Esteeming the reproach of Christ greater riches than the treasures in Egypt: for he had respect unto the recompence of the reward. (Hebrews 11:25-26)
This clause ought to be carefully noticed; for we here learn that we ought to shun as a deadly poison whatever cannot be enjoyed without offending God; for the pleasures of sin he calls all the allurements of the world which draw us away from God and our calling. But the comforts of our earthly life, which we are allowed by pure conscience, and God's permission to enjoy, are not included here. Let us then ever remember that we ought to know and understand what God allows us. There are indeed some things in themselves lawful, but the use of which is prohibited to us, owing to circumstances as to time, place, or other things. Hence as to all the blessings connected with the present life, what is ever to be regarded is, that they should be to us helps and aids to follow God and not hindrances. And he calls these pleasures of sin temporary or for a time, because they soon vanish away together with life itself.
"In opposition to these he sets the reproach of Christ, which all the godly ought willingly to undergo. For those whom God has chosen, he has also foreordained to be conformed to the image of his own son; not that he exercises them all by the same kind of reproaches or by the same cross, but that they are all to be so minded as not to decline to undertake the cross in common with Christ. Let every one then bear in mind, that as he is called to this fellowship he is to throw off all hindrances. Nor must we omit to say, that he reckons among the reproaches of Christ all the ignominious trials which the faithful have had to endure from the beginning of the world; for as they were the member of the same body, so they had nothing different from what we have. As all sorrows are indeed the rewards of sin, so they are also the fruits of the curse pronounced on the first man: but whatever wrongs we endure from the ungodly on account of Christ, these he regards as his own. Hence Paul gloried that he made up what was wanting as to the sufferings of Christ. Were we rightly to consider this, it would not be so grievous and bitter for us to suffer for Christ.
"He also explains more fully what he means in this clause by the reproach of Christ, by what he has previously declared when he said, that Moses chose to suffer affliction with the people of God. He could not have otherwise avowed himself as one of God's people, except he had made himself a companion to his own nation in their miseries. Since, then, this is the end, let us not separate ourselves from the body of the Church: whatever we suffer, let us know that it is consecrated on account of the head. So on the other hand he calls those things the treasures of Egypt, which no one can otherwise possess than by renouncing and forsaking the Church. For he had respect unto the recompense of the reward, or for he looked to the remuneration. He proves by the description he gives, that the magnanimity of Moses' mind was owing to faith; for he had his eyes fixed on the promise of God. For he could not have hoped that it would be better for him to be with the people of Israel than with the Egyptians, had he not trusted in the promise and in nothing else.
By faith he forsook Egypt, etc.
This may be said of his first as well as of his second departure, that is, when he brought out the people with him. He then indeed left Egypt when he fled from the house of Pharaoh. Add to this, that his going out is recorded by the Apostle before he mentions the celebration of the Passover. He seems then to speak of the flight of Moses; nor is what he adds, that he feared not the wrath of the king, any objection to this, though Moses himself relates that he was constrained to do so by fear. For if we look at the beginning of his course he did not fear, that is, when he avowed himself to be the avenger of his people. However, when I consider all the circumstances, I am inclined to regard this as his second departure; for it was then that he bravely disregarded the fierce wrath of the king, being armed with such power by God's Spirit, that he often of his own accord defied the fury of that wild beast. It was doubtless an instance of the wonderful strength of faith, that he brought out a multitude untrained for war and burdened with many encumbrances, and yet hoped that a way would be opened to him by God's hand through innumerable difficulties. He saw a most powerful king in a furious rage, and he knew that he would not cease till he had tried his utmost. But as he knew that God had commanded him to depart, he committed the event to him, nor did he doubt but that he would in dug time restrain all the assaults of the Egyptians.
As seeing him who is invisible. Nay, but he had seen God in the midst of the burning bush: this then seems to have been said improperly, and not very suitable to the present subject. I indeed allow, that Moses was strengthened in his faith by that vision, before he took in hand the glorious work of delivering the people; but I do not admit that it was such a view of God, as divested him of his bodily senses, and transferred him beyond the trials of this world. God at that time only showed him a certain symbol of his presence; but he was far from seeing God as he is. Now, the Apostle means, that Moses so endured, as though he was taken up to heaven, and had God only before his eyes; and as though he had nothing to do with men, was not exposed to the perils of this world and had no contests with Pharaoh. And yet, it is certain, that he was surrounded with so many difficulties, that he could not but think sometimes that God was far away from him, or at least, that the obstinacy of the king, furnished as it was with so many means of resistance, would at length overcome him. In short, God appeared to Moses in such a way, as still to leave room for faith; and Moses, when beset by terrors on every side, turned all his thoughts to God. He was indeed assisted to do this, by the vision which we have mentioned; but yet he saw more in God than what that symbol intimated: for he understood his power, and that absorbed all his fears and dangers. Relying on God's promise, he felt assured that the people, though then oppressed by the tyranny of the Egyptians, were already, as it were, the lords of the promised land.
We hence learn, that the true character of faith is to set God always before our eyes; secondly, that faith beholds higher and more hidden things in God than what our senses can perceive; and thirdly, that a view of God alone is sufficient to strengthen our weakness, so that we may become firmer than rocks to withstand all the assaults of Satan. It hence follows, that the weaker and the less resolute any one is, the less faith he has. -- John Calvin commenting on Hebrew 11:25-27
Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. (Zechariah 4:6)
The just Lord is in the midst thereof; he will not do iniquity: every morning doth he bring his judgment to light, he faileth not; but the unjust knoweth no shame. (Zephaniah 3:5)
Thus saith the Lord; Cursed be the man that trusteth in man, and maketh flesh his arm, and whose heart departeth from the Lord. For he shall be like the heath in the desert, and shall not see when good cometh; but shall inhabit the parched places in the wilderness, in a salt land and not inhabited. Blessed is the man that trusteth in the Lord, and whose hope the Lord is. For he shall be as a tree planted by the waters, and that spreadeth out her roots by the river, and shall not see when heat cometh, but her leaf shall be green; and shall not be careful in the year of drought, neither shall cease from yielding fruit. (Jeremiah 17:5-8)
Blessed is the man that trusteth in the LORD, and whose hope the LORD is. (Jeremiah 17:7)
He must increase, but I must decrease. (John 3:30)
To open their eyes, and to turn them from darkness to light, and from the power of Satan unto God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins, and inheritance among them which are sanctified by faith that is in me. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Acts 26:18)
I therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you that ye walk worthy of the vocation wherewith ye are called,
With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love;
Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. (Ephesians 4:1-3)
He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city. (Proverbs 16:32)
And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins. (1 Peter 4:8)
Honour all men. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honour the king. (1 Peter 2:17)
But the Lord is faithful, who shall stablish you, and keep you from evil. (2 Thessalonians 3:3)
Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 10:16)
A lying tongue hateth those that are afflicted by it; and a flattering mouth worketh ruin. (Proverbs 26:28)
He that is of a proud heart stirreth up strife: but he that putteth his trust in the LORD shall be made fat. (Proverbs 28:25)
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. (Galatians 5:22,23)
I know that, whatsoever God doeth, it shall be for ever: nothing can be put to it, nor any thing taken from it: and God doeth it, that men should fear before him. (Ecclesiastes 3:14)
For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. (Hebrews 4:12)
Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin. (James 4:17)
A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.
By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (John 13:34,35)
This is the day which the LORD hath made; we will rejoice and be glad in it. (Psalm 118:24)

Alexander, Archibald (1772-1851), Counsels of the Aged to the Young.

Alexander, James W. (1804-1859), My Brother's Keeper: Letters to a Younger Brother on the Virtues and Vices, Duties and Dangers of Youth, ISBN: 1932474668 9781932474664.

Allchin, Ronald A., Sr., Ripening Sonship: "A Wise Father's Counsel to his Son," A Study in Proverbs for Sons (Cudahy, Wisconsin: Reminder Printing, 1994), 129 pages plus appendix. Available from the author, 862 Thornton Lane, Buffalo Grove, Illinois.
"This workbook from the Proverbs is for fathers and sons to work through together. A dozen lessons tackle important areas of life: wisdom, companions, relation to parents, relations with women, the tongue, knowledge of Christ the Lord." -- David Powlison (1949-2019)

Anderson, Wayne J., How to Understand Sex: Guidelines for Students.

Baxter, Richard, Compassionate Warning and Advice to all, Especially to Young Persons. Being the Gift of the Author, Richard Baxter. London, 1708.

Bilezikian, Gilbert, Beyond Sex Roles: A Guide for the Study of Female Roles in the Bible, ISBN: 0801008859 9780801008856.

Brooks, Thomas (1608-1680), Apples of Gold for Young men and Women, and, A Crown of Glory for old men and Women. Or, the happiness of being good betimes, and the honour of being an old disciple. Clearly and fully discovered, and closely and faithfully applied. Also, the young man's objections answered, and the old man's doubts resolved. In The Works of Thomas Brooks, 1886 (1:167-284). Available (THE WORKS OF THOMAS BROOKS) on the Puritan Hard Drive.
"On whether the sins of God's true people will be brought into judgment, see chapter 5 (1:220-24)."

Clare, Austin, Our Example: Twelve Studies of the Character of our Lord, Drawn From His Precepts and Practice, for the Formation of the Christian Character.

Clare, Austin, The Young Man's Book of Piety: A Practical Manual of Christian Duties for the Formation of the Manly Character.

Doolittle, Thomas (1632?-1707), The Young Man's Instructer, and the old Man's Remembrancer, or, Controversies and Practical Truths, Fitted to the Capacity of Children, and the more ignorant sort of people: Being done in a catechetical exercise, on the Lords Day, in explaining the questions of the Reverend Assemblies Shorter catechisme . . .: Together with a practical application of the truth confirmed . . . Alternate title: THE YOUNG MAN'S INSTRUCTER, AND THE OLD MAN'S REMEMBRANCER, OR, CONTROVERSIES AND PRACTICAL TRUTHS, FITTED TO THE CAPACITY OF CHILDREN, AND THE MORE IGNORANT SORT OF PEOPLE, 1673. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.

Henry, Matthew (1662-1714), The Young Christian, ISBN: 0906731569 9780906731567.
"Using Paul's letter to Titus, Henry shows us in practical way how best to live as a Christian." -- GCB

Hunter, Wayne, and Emily Hunter, Man in Demand: Student Training Manual, ISBN: 0890815100 9780890815106.

*Lawson, George (1749-1820), Lectures on the History of Joseph.

Lawson, James R., The Character of Joseph; or, The Young Man's Model: An Address, Delivered Before the Saint John Young Men's Christian Association, on Thursday Evening, 20th March, 1856, ISBN: 0665480490 9780665480492.

Look Magazine, The Decline of the American Male.

McKnight, William John (1865-1951), A Study in Standards: Meant to be a Companion-piece to THE YOUNG PEOPLE'S MANUAL.

McKnight, William John (1865-1951), and Reformed Presbyterian Church in North America, The Young People's Manual Setting Forth in Plain Terms What we of the Reformed Presbyterian Church in North America Believe and why we Believe it, 1929.
The Young People's Manual
http://books.google.com/books?id=Cm1gHAAACAAJ&dq=The+Young+People's+Manual&hl=en&sa=X&ei=JRa5ULajAcW7iwKwyoDoCA&ved=0CDMQ6AEwAg

Plumer, William S. (William Swan, 1802-1880), A Friendly Letter to a Young man.

Powlison, David (1949-2019), and John Yenchko, Pre-engagement: Five Questions to ask Yourselves, ISBN: 0875526799 9780875526799.

Robbins, Alexandra, Fraternity: An Inside Look at a Year of College Boys Becoming Men, ISBN: 1101986743 9781101986745.
"The reader will notice similarities in the culture of college fraternities and the military, government, corporations, the workplace, and the institutionalized church." -- Reader's Comment

Rutherford, Samuel (1600-1661), The Forlorn Son, audio file series of 7 sermons. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #10.
Read by elder Lyndon Dohms from the book QUAINT SERMONS OF SAMUEL RUTHERFORD. The subject is the prodigal son.

*Schlink, Bernhard, and Carol Brown Janeway (translator), The Reader -- A Novel, 218 pages, ISBN: 0307454894 9780307454898.
This is primarily a study of the guilt of the German society over the holocaust. Interwoven with that theme it shows the long-term consequences in a man's life of youthful sexual sin.
Weinstein Company Home Entertainment, The, Stephen Daldry (director), David Hare, Anthony Minghella, Sydney Pollack, Donna Gigliotti, The Reader, 124 min., DVD.
"Based on the book DER VORLESER by Bernhard Schlink. Originally released as a motion picture in 2008. Special features: deleted scenes; Adapting a timeless masterpiece: making The reader; A conversation with David Kross and Stephen Daldry; Kate Winslet on the art of aging Hanna Schmitz; A new voice: a look at composer Nico Muhly; Coming to grips with the past: production designer Brigitte Broch; theatrical trailer." -- Publisher

Sprague, William B., Letters of Practical Subjects to a Daughter, ISBN: 0873779479. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
"The counsel of this book is applicable to sons as well as daughters. . . . here is a 19th century Solomon intent upon imparting to his child a wisdom and sanctified common sense akin to the Proverbs." -- Publisher

Sprague, William B., Letters to Young men Founded on the History of Joseph, ISBN: 1573580082 9781573580083.
"Teaches the character forming age that faithful warning, wise counsel, and sympathetic admonition are particularly valuable. Spurgeon aims to lead them to Christ and to encourage and stimulate them in their aspirations after nobility." -- Reader's Comment

Spurgeon, C.H. (1834-1892), Come ye Children: A Book on the Christian Training of Children, ISBN: 0686168402. Alternate title: COME YE CHILDREN PRACTICAL HELP TELLING PEOPLE ABOUT JESU.
"In this book Spurgeon provides valuable aid for parents, teachers and youth leaders on the subject of training children." -- GCB
"A book for parents and teachers on the Christian training of children as well as the evangelization of children called by the grace of God. Contains such chapters as: "Fed my Lambs -- How to Do It," "Do Not Hinder the Children," "Of Such is the Kingdom of Heaven," "The Child Timothy and His Teachers," and "Abijah's 'Some Good Thing'." -- Gospel Mission
Come ye Children, by C.H. Spurgeon
http://archive.spurgeon.org/misc/cyc.php

Symington, Andrew (1785-1853, the older brother of William), Lectures on the Claims of the Church and Society on Young Men, 1855.

Tweedie, W.K. (1803-1863), Seed-time and Harvest: or, Sow Well and Reap Well. A Book for the Young.

Venning, Ralph, Learning in Christ's School: Babes, Children, Youth, and Fathers, ISBN: 0851517641 9780851517643.

*Vincent, Thomas (1634-1678), The Best Gift, or God's Call Upon Young men for Their Hearts. Delivered in a Sermon to Young men. By Thomas Vincent, Minister Sometime of Maudlins Milkstreet, London, 1672.

*Vincent, Thomas (1634-1678), Words of Advice to Young men Delivered in two Sermons at two Conventions of Young men, the one Decemb. 25, 1666, the other Decemb. 25, 1667.

Williams, Daniel (1643?-1716), The Vanity of Childhood and Youth Wherein the Depraved Nature of Young People is Represented and Means for Their Reformation Proposed: Being some sermons preached in Hand-Alley at the request of several young men, to which is added a catechism for youth, 1691.

See also: The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, The doctrine of man (human nature, total depravity), Christ our example, Sex ethics, sex education, Affliction, adversity, trials, suffering, chastisement, The shorter catechism, Sharing christ with your children, Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justification, Justifying faith, Manhood, Christian character, Men, women, and god, Teens and sex, Teaching/training children, Discipleship, Christian life, Premarital counsel, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Spiritual adultery (spiritual whoredom/harlotry), Slavery, our systems of enslavement, economic enslavement, Abstinence, Counseling children, Protecting children from danger, Preparing children for the world, Christian scholarship, Home schooling, Public education, Counsel for young women, Spiritual warfare, Parenting, Christian fiction, Classic christian fiction by martha finley, the elsie books series and so forth and so on.
TCRB5: 3966-3967, *4312 (Practical Helps for Young People and Christian Workers Generally)

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20 Things I Would Tell my 20-year-old Self, Rich Thomas

Embrace your ignorance: You don't know everything. (1 Corinthians 8:2)
Find your Paul: Be a learner from those who know more than you do. (Romans 15:14)
Govern your idealism: You're not going to change the world. Be realistic. (Proverbs 16:9)
Start relational problem-solving with you: Keep the log firmly planted in your eye. (Matthew 7:3-5)
Learn to serve, not to be helped: You find true freedom in serving. (Mark 10:45)
Repent often: Be a confessional Christian. (1 John 1:7-10)
Create godly habits: Choose good habits to discipline yourself. (Hebrews 5:14)
Overlook offenses: As much as possible, don't sweat the smaller annoyances. (Romans 12:18)
Find honest friends: Surround yourself with honest truth-tellers. (Proverbs 27:6)
Marry to bless your spouse: Don't make marriage about what you want. (Ephesians 5:22-33)
Only one opinion matters: What God thinks about you is most important. (John 3:36)
Teach others after you die: Export the gospel to others who can export it to others. (2 Timothy 2:2)
Take risks: Make decisions with faith while not limiting what the Lord can do through you. (Matthew 14:28-33)
Apply what you learn: Don't be a knowledge collector with no application. (James 1:22-25)
Paint a picture: Show people what the practical Jesus looks like in real life. (1 Corinthians 11:1)
Teach yourself to reflect: Become a thinker. Train your mind to process life through a Bible lens. (Proverbs 15:28)
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Following Christ, while helping others to do the same is the best kind of life you'll ever have.
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Counsel for Young Women

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. (Proverbs 31:30)
Let mount Zion rejoice, let the daughters of Judah be glad, because of thy judgments. (Psalm 48:11)
When my father and my mother forsake me, then the Lord will take me up. (Psalm 27:10)
For it seemed good to the Holy Ghost, and to us, to lay upon you no greater burden than these necessary things: That ye abstain from meats offered to idols, and from blood, and from things strangled, and from fornication: from which if ye keep yourselves, ye shall do well. Fare ye well. (Acts 15:28,29) -- From a letter written by the Apostles after they had consulted together, and declared to the church at Antioch
Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart. (2 Timothy 2:22)

Alexander, Archibald (1772-1851), Counsels of the Aged to the Young.

Barnes, Emilie, Michal Sparks (illustrator), and Anne Christian Buchanan (contributor), A Little Book of Manners: Etiquette for Young Ladies, ISBN: 1565076788 9781565076785.
"Aimed at girls six to ten, this book introduces children to basic good manners, explaining the 'whys' as well as the 'hows' and stressing a loving attitude over simply following rules. Like LET'S HAVE A TEA PARTY, this book is written from the point of view of Emilie Marie, a little girl who is basically Emilie as a child -- passing along information Emilie has learned as an adult." -- Publisher

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Clark, Kristen, and Bethany Beal, Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discovering the Beauty and Freedom of God-defined Sexuality, ISBN: 9781493417582 1493417584.
"For the modern Christian woman living in today's sexually charged society, embracing God's design for sex and purity can often feel like an impossible pursuit. As the culture seeks to normalize things such as pornography, erotica, and casual sex, both single and married women of all ages feel immense pressure to conform. With alluring temptations constantly inviting them to join in, they might even begin to question whether God's design is truly good. They wrestle with questions like -- What is the purpose of my sexuality? -- What does it mean to pursue purity? -- Are my sexual longings good or bad? In this encouraging book, Kristen Clark and Bethany Beal share honestly about their own struggles and victories, and invite women on a personal journey to discover and reclaim a biblical vision for their sexuality. Kristen and Bethany help women understand why God's design for sexuality is good, relevant, and leads to true hope and lasting freedom." -- Publisher

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"Dealing with up-to-date issues that girls face today, this book is short, concise, and user-friendly for your fast-paced life. It covers topics girls deal with on a daily basis including: truthfulness, loyal friendships, contentment, life ambition, gossip, competition, outlook/attitude and more.
"This book is for those who feel the pull of the world on their daughters or the special girl in their life and want a tool to aid in the teaching and training of girls in good, solid, godly character. The message that all they need to get through life is image and outward beauty is faulty and shortsighted.
"Children, especially girls, need guidance and direction to counter this message. The recent trend for high school girls is cosmetic surgery to fix their 'flaws' in hopes of finding security in themselves. Unfortunately this temporary fix will not satisfy them. They need to develop themselves as a whole person, full of godly character that gives them value as a complete person, beyond the surface exterior. Their security needs to be found not in temporary outward appearance, but in the development of inward qualities that are lasting. This book is a relationship-building book for parents and their daughters in understanding the heart of God for their identity and 'whole-ness' as a person.
"There is great versatility in using the book. Feedback I have received from those who have used it found it a fun reference for a mom/daughter Bible study. One particular group met once a week in the summer with a different mom/daughter team in charge of the fun events (roller blades, water balloons, etc.), and teaching the character topic. Another mom offered it as an after school group to all the girls in her daughter's school class and it has built camaraderie in the group. They meet once a month. One gal used it as a camp counselor for her cabin devotions.
"A GIRL OF BEAUTY is a book you'll want to use over and over again (thick, high quality pages, spiral bound). Each time you go through it, something different and new comes out in discussion and application. We never stop learning and growing! Enjoy!" -- Carol Fiddler, the author

*Finley, Martha (1828-1909, aka Martha Farquharson, Galic for Finley), The Elsie Books, 4-book set (Holly Hall Publications, 1997), ISBN: 1888306351 9781888306354.
"Originally written in the late 1800's for girls and young women, the Elsie Dinsmore books were bestsellers for over thirty years. When we are introduced to Elsie in the first book she is a sweet and humble eight-year-old whose great desire in life is to be reunited with her father, whom she has never met. Her faith and her obedience to God's commandments uphold her in the great troubles she often faces, and the drama to which we are spectators is as timely for today's girls as it was for the young ladies of the 19th century. A new edition of one of GCB's best sellers, the series offers Christian values and character building examples through stories that are compelling, heartwarming, and enduring. Ages 10 and up." -- GCB
"The Elsie Books -- 28 in all -- are some of the most widely read children's stories ever written. When they first came out more than a hundred years ago, the publisher could scarcely keep them in stock. . ." -- Publisher
"Altogether Miss Finley's novels sold more than 28,000,000 copies in the last century. This made them among the bestselling novels of all time . . ." -- Jay P. Green, Sr. (1918-2008)
*Book 1: Elsie Dinsmore, ISBN: 1888306319 9781888306316.
"Set amid the sweet blossoms of a southern mansion, this timeless classic delves into the heart of Elsie -- by all counts, an extraordinary little girl. Share in Elsie's quest for love from her earthly father as it leads to a mature understanding of the love of her Father in Heaven. Join Elsie as she suffers through endless hours of scrutiny from Miss Day, her mean-spirited school teacher, taunting from her mischievous young Uncle Arthur, and scoldings from a cold-hearted father she so desires to please -- all with the peace and quiet countenance that comes from knowing she is God's child. This, the first of the heart-warming Elsie Books, will both challenge and inspire you." -- Publisher
Elsie Dinsmore: Book 1, Martha Finley
http://archive.org/details/elsiedinsmore00ferqgoog
ClassicReader.com
http://www.classicreader.com/
*Book 2: Elsie's Holidays at Roselands, ISBN: 9781888306323 1888306327.
"When Elsie's father becomes ill, she takes on the job of nurse-companion, and all goes well until Elsie, because it is the Sabbath, as a matter of conscience refuses to read to him from a secular book. The battle of wills that ensues nearly causes first her father's death, and then Elsie's. Lonely Elsie -- punished, ostracized, and then abandoned by her father -- turns to her heavenly Father for comfort and assurance. Will her father realize that Elsie's obedience to God must be paramount, and submit himself to the same Divine Authority?" -- Publisher
On an even more serious note, one moral of this story is the broader life and death struggle between Truth and Falsehood (See: Absolute truth and relativism [duality and non-duality], Epistemology of theology, the theory of knowledge, and Christian scholarship.) The consequence of conflict of will is death of the "One," or war of the "Many" (see Rushdoony, THE ONE AND THE MANY: STUDIES IN THE PHILOSOPHY OF ORDER AND ULTIMACY. Conflict of will (see Will and recalcitrance, Rebellion and lawlessness: wickedness, demonic possession, abnormal behavior, insanity, mental illness, mental retardation,) may begin when one individual (see The doctrine of man [human nature, total depravity],) or the corporate body (see Corporate faithfulness and sanctification), tries to usurping authority over others (see Power, Authority) -- tries to control and possess the other (see Tyranny, Slavery, our systems of enslavement, economic enslavement.) The means of control may be either outward or occult (see The occult, spiritism, witchcraft), deceit, repression or suppression of the truth, replacing moral and ethical absolutes with relativism (see Ethics, computer ethics, cyberethics, Medical ethics, Absolute truth and relativism [duality and non-duality], unfaithfulness to the highest ethical standards (see The ten commandments: the moral law, The holy bible), Heresy and apostasy (apostacy, old english), Spiritual adultery [spiritual whoredom/harlotry,] (see Idolatry, syncretism, Jeremiah and lamentations,) invocation of the demonic, Oaths, ensnaring vows, promises, and covenants, bonds with the ungodly (see Carnality and flesh pleasing: desires, pleasure, Justice, judgment, god's final judgment, the great white throne judgment, the day of the lord,) attempts to take authority over another politically or by mental malpractice (see Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, making up their own rules (see Absolute truth and relativism [duality and non-duality],) ignoring or changing constitutional or creedal documents, unjust laws for the accumulation of wealth and power, indebtedness, disenfranchisement, (see denial of freedom,) Priestcraft, pharisaism, soul-stealing, possessiveness, physical seduction and whoredom, political economic or sexual enslavement (see Sexual relationship,) and so forth, and so on.
This abuse, this soul-violence, quenches the Holy Spirit (see Owen, God's Presence With a People the Spring of Their Prosperity; With Their Special Interest in Abiding in Him.) If either side is immovable, then death is the consequence (see Soteriology, atonement, The blood of christ, Hell, and Heaven.)
How are conflicts of will resolved? By submission to the Absolute Truths of God's word, the great common denominator, Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (John 14:6)
All this bears a strain of the Gospel (see Book-length presentations of the free offer of the gospel message of salvation and the life to come: the means of grace, The westminster confession of faith.)
Book 2: Holidays at Roselands
http://archive.org/details/holidaysatrosel00finlgoog
Holidays at Roselands (Gutenberg text)
http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/webbin/gutbook/lookup?num=14280
Mantle Ministries (Elsie Dinsmore Series and Mildred Series)
http://www.mantlemin.com

Powlison, David (1949-2019), and John Yenchko, Pre-engagement: Five Questions to ask Yourselves, ISBN: 0875526799 9780875526799.

Tweedie, W.K. (1803-1863), Virtuous Womanhood: Christ's Work and Single Women. Available in A THEOLOGY OF THE FAMILY, an anthology.

Venning, Ralph, Learning in Christ's School: Babes, Children, Youth, and Fathers, ISBN: 0851517641 9780851517643.

Vincent, Thomas (1634-1678), Christ the Best Husband: or An Invitation of Young Women Unto Christ. Delivered in a Sermon to Young Women, 1672.

Wise, Daniel, The Young Lady's Counselor, or, Outlines and Illustrations of the Sphere, the Duties and the Dangers of Young Women, 1860.

See also: The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, The doctrine of man (human nature, total depravity), Sharing christ with your children, Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justification, Justifying faith, Sexual relationship, Spiritual adultery (spiritual whoredom/harlotry), Slavery, our systems of enslavement, economic enslavement, Christ our example, Womanhood (women), Affliction, adversity, trials, suffering, chastisement, Motherhood, Men, women, and god, Teens and sex, Christian character, Counsel for young men, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Abstinence, Christian fiction, Classic christian fiction by martha finley, the elsie books series, and so forth, and so on.
TCRB5: 381, 3968, *4312 (Practical Helps for Young People and Christian Workers Generally)

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Gateway to Joy, Elisabeth Elliot
"April 14, 2014, BBN (Bible Broadcasting Network) began re-broadcasting Gateway to Joy, Monday through Friday at 11:15 am (eastern time) on BBN radio. A listing of their stations across the U.S. can be found on their website, and if you are out of range for that network, don't fret -- daily broadcasts are available on demand here, so you can choose your own hour. . . .
"Anything, if offered to God, can and will become your gateway to joy." -- Elisabeth Elliot
http://www.elisabethelliot.org/radio.html

Girl Defined
https://www.girldefined.com/

A Guide for Young Christians, John W. Robbins
http://www.trinityfoundation.org/journal.php?id=125

Respect Incorporated (formerly Sex Respect)
http://www.sexrespect.com/main.html

Richard Baxter, from Wikipedia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Richard_Baxter

Ruth Bell Graham a Lifetime Pilgrimage
http://www.citizen-times.com/apps/pbcs.dll/section?Category=BILLYGRAHAM02

Ruth Bell Graham Memorial Site
http://bgea.org/rbg_default.asp

The top 50 Things I Want my Daughter to Know
https://rickthomas.net/50-things-i-want-my-daughter-to-know/

True Love Waits
http://www.truelovewaits.com/

Virtuousreality.com, A Website for all Women
http://www.virtuousreality.com/

Disciplining Children

Black, Jeff, Helping Parents Make Discipline Work (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette AC882 [audio file].

Campbell, Ross, Kids Who Follow, Kids Who Don't, ISBN: 0896937593 9780896937598. Alternate title: HOW TO REALLY KNOW YOUR CHILD.

Cook, Earl, Blessing Children Through Discipline (part 1) (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF17 [audio file].

Cook, Earl, Blessing Children Through Discipline (part 2) (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF18 [audio file].

Cook, Earl, Bringing up Your Children (part 1) (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF09 [audio file].

Cook, Earl, Bringing up Your Children (part 2) (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF12 [audio file].

Cook, Earl, Bringing up Your Children (part 3); Q&A (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF15 [audio file].

*Fitzpatrick, Elyse M., and Jessica Thompson, Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids With the Love of Jesus, ISBN: 9781433520099 1433520095.
"In GIVE THEM GRACE, parents will learn how to connect the benefits of the cross -- especially regeneration, adoption, and justification -- to their children's daily lives. Fitzpatrick and Thompson also discuss discipline, dealing with popular culture, and evangelism as a way of life. . . .
"We must tell our kids of the grace-giving God who freely adopts rebels and transforms them into loving sons and daughters. If this is not the message your children hear, if you are just telling them to 'be good,' then the gospel needs to transform your parenting too.
"GIVE THEM GRACE is a revolutionary perspective on parenting that shows us how to receive the gospel afresh and give grace in abundance, helping our children know the dazzling love of Jesus and respond with heartfelt obedience. -- Publisher
"So many Christian parents fall into the trap of asking the law to do in the hearts of their children what only grace can accomplish. Armed with threats, manipulation, and guilt, they attempt to create change that only the cross of Jesus Christ makes possible. It is so encouraging to read a parenting book that points parents to the grace of the cross and shows them how to be instruments of that grace in the lives of their children." -- Paul Tripp

*Lloyd-Jones, David Martyn (1899-1981), Life in the Spirit in Marriage, Home and Work: An Exposition of Ephesians 5:18 -- 6:9 [Ephesians 5:18 -- Ephesians 6:9], ISBN: 080105799X 9780801057991.

Mack, Wayne A., Your Family, God's way: Developing and Sustaining Relationships in the Home. Alternate title: BUILDING YOUR FAMILY GOD'S WAY: THE ROLE OF EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION IN THE HOME, ISBN: 0875523587 9780875523583.
"Unfolds Psalm 128's vision of godly family life. Calls on a husband and father to be first and foremost a "God-fearing" man. Calls on a wife and mother to become a "fruitful vine" because of the intimacy of her relationship with God. Calls on parents to view their children as precious "olive plants." Extensive and practical discussion of communication and problem-solving principles. Contains study and application assignments for each chapter." -- David Powlison (1949-2019)
"Mack offers Biblical insight and practical wisdom for two crucial areas of family life: communication and conflict resolution. Stories of success and application questions give hope and clear direction to all who wish to build stronger families." -- Publisher

See also: The sovereignty of god, The doctrine of man (human nature, total depravity), Sharing christ with your children, Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justification, Justifying faith, Problem solving with children, Counseling children, Protecting children from dangers, Preparing children for the world, Proverbs, Ecclesiastes, Biblical counsel by subject, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Spiritual adultery (spiritual whoredom/harlotry), Abstinence, Parenting, Child abuse and pedophilia, Fatherhood, Motherhood, Counsel for young men, Counsel for young women, Disciplining children, Counseling children, Problem solving with children, Creeds, catechisms and confessions, Homeschooling, Christian fiction, Classic christian fiction by martha finley, the elsie books series, Ethics, Anger, and so forth, and so on.
TCRB5: 1629, 1630, 3971, 3973

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Disciplining Children
"Witness today, the almost limitless number of young adults who have grown up under the teachings of Dr. Benjamin Spock, who for a generation past taught parents that a child must never be physically disciplined for any reason. Yes, a whole generation has since arisen by these anti-Christian humanistic teachings, to the detriment of society. Amazingly, Dr. Spock has since retracted his own approval of what he wrote, but in spite of this, his books still sell with great popularity." -- Dennis L. Finnan

The more people have studied different methods of bringing up children the more they have come to the conclusion that what good mothers and fathers instinctively feel like doing for their babies is the best after all. -- Benjamin McLane Spock (May 2, 1903 -- March 15, 1998), from his autobiography

http://www.christian-parents.net/Children/C110_Disciplining_Children.htm

Problem Solving With Children

Kesler, Jay (editor), Ron Beers (editor), and Lavonne Neff (editor), Parents and Children: A Guide to Solving Problems and Building Relationships, ISBN: 0896938093 9780896938090.
"Over 70 Christian leaders give practical advice on parents and children. Almost 700 double-column pages." -- GCB

*Lloyd-Jones, David Martyn (1899-1981), Life in the Spirit in Marriage, Home and Work: An Exposition of Ephesians 5:18 -- 6:9 [Ephesians 5:18 -- Ephesians 6:9], ISBN: 080105799X 9780801057991.

Strom, Kay Marshall, Making Friends With Your Mother, ISBN: 0310532515 9780310532514.

Vander Goot, Mary, Healthy Emotions: Helping Children Grow, ISBN: 0801093031 9780801093036.
"This book is about the normal emotions of normal children. Its purpose is to help adults deal with children's emotions effectively." -- GCB

Counseling Children

And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins. (1 Peter 4:8)
Children obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:1,4)
When my father and my mother forsake me, then the Lord will take me up. (Psalm 27:10)

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), Accepting Retarded Children; Handling Troubles; and etc. (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), Sex Change; Division in Eldership; Children; Suicide; Paranoia; Repression; Forgetting; Death (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette JA506 [audio file].

Alexander, Archibald (1772-1851), Difficulty of Knowing our Faults. In EVANGELICAL TRUTH: PRACTICAL SERMONS FOR THE CHRISTIAN HOME.

Barger, Eric, From Rock To Rock: The Music of the Darkness Exposed, ISBN: 0910311617 9780910311618.
"Eric Barger, for twenty years involved in the Rock music industry, offers solid, Biblical counsel for parents and teens wondering what to do about Rock music. Includes the first Music Rating System classifying 1500 groups and artists." -- Publisher

Baxter, Richard, Compassionate Warning and Advice to all, Especially to Young Persons. Being the Gift of the Author, Richard Baxter. London, 1708.

Burns, R., How to Get Students Involved in Serving Others (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette TT102 [audio file].

Byrd, Walter, Counseling and Children, ISBN: 0849905974 9780849905971.

Cook, Earl, Counseling Children (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette AC881 [audio file].

*Fitzpatrick, Elyse M., and Jessica Thompson Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids With the Love of Jesus, ISBN: 9781433520099 1433520095.
"In GIVE THEM GRACE, parents will learn how to connect the benefits of the cross -- especially regeneration, adoption, and justification -- to their children's daily lives. Fitzpatrick and Thompson also discuss discipline, dealing with popular culture, and evangelism as a way of life. . . .
"We must tell our kids of the grace-giving God who freely adopts rebels and transforms them into loving sons and daughters. If this is not the message your children hear, if you are just telling them to 'be good,' then the gospel needs to transform your parenting too.
"GIVE THEM GRACE is a revolutionary perspective on parenting that shows us how to receive the gospel afresh and give grace in abundance, helping our children know the dazzling love of Jesus and respond with heartfelt obedience. -- Publisher
"So many Christian parents fall into the trap of asking the law to do in the hearts of their children what only grace can accomplish. Armed with threats, manipulation, and guilt, they attempt to create change that only the cross of Jesus Christ makes possible. It is so encouraging to read a parenting book that points parents to the grace of the cross and shows them how to be instruments of that grace in the lives of their children." -- Paul Tripp

Greene, Lawrence J., Learning Disabilities and Your Child: A Survival Handbook, ISBN: 0893343242 9780893343248. Alternate title: KIDS WHO HATE SCHOOL (1983).
"Learning disabilities don't have to stand in the way of your child's success.
"A learning disability can be at the root of your child's resistance, failure, and low self-esteem. It's no wonder that children with learning disabilities have difficulties both at home and at school, difficulties that are reflected in poor performance records.
"Lawrence J. Greene, a pioneer in the field of learning disabilities and the Executive Director of the Developmental Learning Center in San Jose, California, for seventeen years, shares his knowledge and experience in compassionate and understanding terms. He explains how to diagnose learning disabilities ranging from dyslexia and hyperactivity to language disorders and tuning out -- and how they might affect your child. He offers helpful advice on choosing the right school or program for your child and on getting the support you need. Anecdotes, where parents and children speak out, as well as step-by-step programs that you can begin right now, make this unique book a vital guide for parents and teachers of learning disabled children." -- Publisher

Kopp, Ruth, Where has Grandpa Gone? Helping Children Cope With Grief and Loss, ISBN: 0310416116 9780310416111.

McElhinney, Glenn R., A Nouthetic Approach to Counseling Elementary School-age Children (Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Theological Seminary, D.Min. thesis, 1986).
Includes bibliography.

McIlhaney, Joe S., Jr., Sexuality and Sexually Transmitted Diseases, ISBN: 0801062748 9780801062742.
"Without being an alarmist, McIlhaney documents why all young adults should have an enlightened fear of STD which is spreading throughout the country like firestorm." -- GCB

Miller, C. John (1928-1996), Youth Evangelism: Dealing With Depression and Suicide (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette CM101 [audio file].

Paul, James L. (editor), The Exceptional Child: A Guidebook for Churches and Community Agencies

*Schoolland, Marian M., Leading Little Ones to God: A Child's Book of Bible Teachings, ISBN: 0802851207 9780802851208.
Contains material useful in counseling.

Sturkie, Joan, and Siang-Yang Tan, Advanced Peer Counseling in Youth Groups: Equipping Your Kids to Help Each Other With the Tough Issues, ISBN: 0310373018 9780310373018.

Sturkie, Joan, and Siang-Yang Tan, Peer Counseling in Youth Groups: Equipping Your Kids to Help Each Other, ISBN: 031054081X 9780310540816.

Terkelsen, Helen E., Counseling the Unwed Mother.

Terkelsen, Helen E., I'm Going to Have a Baby and I'm not Married, ISBN: 0800619943.

Tweedie, W.K. (1803-1863), Seed-time and Harvest: or, Sow Well and Reap Well. A Book for the Young.

Van Dyken, Donald, Rediscovering Catechism: The art of Equipping Covenant Children, ISBN: 0875524648 9780875524641.

*Voshell, Dorothy, Whom Shall I Marry? A Question of Vital Concern to Young Christians, Their Parents and the Church, ISBN: 0875525091 9780875525099.
"Should be in every pastor's library. Excellent for counselors. Best book for those considering marriage." -- GCB

Wilson, Earl D., A Silence to be Broken: Hope for Those Caught in the web of Incest, ISBN: 0851104975 9780851104973.
"A difficult subject is handled in a sensitive way thus providing compassion and relief for those who have been gripped with this problem. Sources of help are offered as well as what the church can do. Wilson writes with a contagious confidence in God's redemptive power, and it give us hope." -- GCB

Wynn, John Charles, How Christian Parents Face Family Problems.
"Contains sane counsel for troubled parents, and includes a Christian approach to child-rearing. Nontechnical." -- Cyril J. Barber

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Protecting Children From Dangers

For there shall arise false Christs, and false prophets, and shall shew great signs and wonders; insomuch that, if it were possible, they shall deceive the very elect. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 24:24)
He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God? (Micah 6:8)

Buehrer, Eric, The New Age Masquerade: The Hidden Agenda in Your Child's Classroom, ISBN: 1561210196 9781561210190.
"This is one book the New Agers will not want the public to read." -- Johanna Michaelsen
"There is a growing New Age trend sweeping public schools. This trend is known as 'global education.' Few books even touch on this dimension of New Age philosophy, yet the public schools are where our culture is the most vulnerable. Eric Buehrer presents a fully documented expos� of the infiltration by the New Age into the public school system. He reveals what teachers are teaching and specific examples, both from small town schools as well as from large urban districts. Must reading!" -- GCB

Christenson, Evelyn, Battling the Prince of Darkness: Rescuing Captives From Satan's Kingdom, ISBN: 0896932516 9780896932517.
"When you study Evelyn Christenson's new book you'll learn about the recent explosion of Satanic activity, and about the Prince of the Kingdom of Darkness. But this book isn't just about problems, it's about the one and only solution -- The Lord Jesus Christ. And it's about evangelism -- the very best strategy for defeating Satan." -- Publisher
Ideal for group study.

DeMoss, Robert G., Jr., Learn to Discern, ISBN: 0310518318 9780310518310 156121096X 9781561210961.
"Movie and record companies spend billions each year to seduce your kids. They're creative. They're smart. They know what they're doing. To protect your children read this very frank book." -- GCB

*Duffy, Cathy, Government Nannies: the Cradle-to-grave Agenda of Goals 2000 and Outcome Based Education, ISBN: 1568570090 9781568570099.
"Confusing stories about Goals 2000 and outcome-based education have made the front page of every newspaper in the country. It is a tangled web of 'government-nanny' programs that invade the privacy of families and destroys the principle of individual responsibility. This book describes where we are heading under Goals 2000." -- Publisher

*Enroth, Ronald, Youth, Brainwashing and Extremist Cults, ISBN: 0310242711.
"Written to prepare parents and those who work with young people for the psychological, sociological, and pseudo-spiritual onslaughts of cultists who yearly ensnare into their totalitarian systems large numbers of America's youth. Provides timely warning." -- Cyril J. Barber

Grant, George, The Family Under Siege: What the New Social Engineers Have in Mind for you and Your Children, ISBN: 1556613504 9781556613500.
"As many Christian families sense their values being undermined, Grant offers a fast-paced, well-researched look at some of the major powers at work -- groups like the ACLU, NEA, National Organization of Women -- to show how new social agendas of these groups are gaining control over the most sacred areas of life." -- Publisher

*Hassan, Steven, Combating Cult Mind Control: The #1 Best-selling Guide to Protection, Rescue and Recovery From Destructive Cults, ISBN: 0892814225 9780892814220.
Recognize the signs of destructive organizations and protect yourself from psychological manipulation.
"Remarkably useful and important. I heartily recommend this book to anyone affected by the cult experience. Hassan's work will be valuable to health professionals, clergy, attorneys, and all those involved with cults, their members, and the families whose lives they touch." -- Louis Jolyon West, M.D., Chairman, Department of Psychiatry, UCLA School of Medicine.
Chapter 4, "Understanding Mind Control," explains how to recognize mind control activities.
Includes bibliography, bibliographical footnotes, index, and an appendix of resource organizations. Recommended as a valuable reference work. A secular author.
An Understanding of Cult Mind Control
http://www.shassan.com/

Hexham, Irving, Karla Poewe, and J.I. Packer, Understanding Cults and New Religions.
"This book is designed to help Christian laymen, pastors, youth workers, and students understand cults from a social, psychological, and religious perspective. . . ." -- GCB

Holbrook, David, The Case Against Pornography.
"Wildmon is executive Director of the National Federation for Decency. When you finish reading this book you will know why pornography must be stopped. There is a note of hope: As an American citizen you can do something about it!" -- GCB

Hyde, Margaret O., Alcohol: Drink or Drug? ISBN: 007031635X 9780070316355.

Hyde, Margaret O., Brainwashing and Other Forms of Mind Control, ISBN: 0070316392 9780070316393.

*Hyde, Margaret O., Cry Softly! The Story of Child Abuse, ISBN: 0664327230 9780664327231.
Includes bibliography and index.
"The rising tide of child abuse makes this book a must. Deals with the reasons, as well as the treatment. Provides information on 'Hotlines,' 'Suggestions for Further Reading,' and 'National Organizations Concerned With Child Abuse'." -- Cyril J. Barber

Hyde, Margaret O., Gambling: Winners and Losers, ISBN: 1562945327 9781562945329.
For grades 6-9. "In her latest book, Hyde focuses on gambling as a sociopolitical issue. The information is clearly laid out, with Hyde providing some basic historical perspective before exploring contemporary aspects of the subject. She looks briefly at gambling in both its legal and illegal forms, does some speculating on its rise among teens, and takes a look at the characteristics of a pathological gambler. Personal histories are concrete but too few and rather dry, and although Hyde does attempt to present both sides of the issue, her negative arguments are more fully developed. Turn to Edward Dolan's TEENAGERS AND COMPULSIVE GAMBLING (1994), for a much better, more detailed discussion of gambling among YAs; use this book as a general overview and a consciousness raiser. Unfortunately, the further readings are mostly adult." -- Stephanie Zvirin

Hyde, Margaret O., Sexual Abuse: Let's Talk About it, ISBN: 0664327257 9780664327255.
"Draws attention to what is becoming a 'national epidemic.' Points out how pastors may recognize the victims and deal with the trauma and anger of those who feel violated. Practical." -- Cyril J. Barber
"Discusses the sexual abuse of children, how they can protect themselves, where they can seek help, the kinds of help available, and how to increase public awareness of this problem."

Hyde, Margaret O., The Silent Epidemic [suicide -- compiler], DVD, ISBN: 0070316376 9780070316379 0070316384 9780070316386.

Hyde, Margaret O., and Elizabeth Held Forsyth, The Sexual Abuse of Children and Adolescents: From Infants to Adolescents, ISBN: 0585219478 9780585219479.
For grades 7-12. "Opening with a statement that most children and adolescents never suffer sexual abuse, but for those who do, the emotional problems can be devastating, well-known YA nonfiction authors Hyde (author of SEXUAL ABUSE: LET'S TALK ABOUT IT [1987]), and Forsyth offer a clear, thorough, meticulously documented examination of the complex factors that cause the sexual abuse of young people, and they explain the need for educating people of all ages about it. The history of sexual abuse of children is covered in a chapter entitled 'From the Ancients to the Internet,' but the bulk of the book looks more specifically at such things as abuser profiles; New Jersey's Megan's Law, which is aimed at protecting communities from sex offenders; types and success records of treatment for sex offenders; the short-and long-term effects of sexual abuse on the young victims; the issue of repressed versus false memory; and abuse prevention programs. A directory of help services is included." -- Sally Estes
Margaret O. Hyde had written many books for youth guiding them through difficult subjects. Over 100 titles by Hyde are listed on Amazon.com

Hyde, Margaret O., and Elizabeth Forsyth, Suicide: The Hidden Epidemic, ISBN: 0531102513 9780531102510.
"This third, updated edition explores the history, realities, and causes of suicide, and includes a list of prevention and intervention agencies. Thorough and useful. Bibliography." -- Publisher

Kjos, Berit, Your Child and the New Age, ISBN: 089693795X 9780896937956.

Maddux, Bob, The Fantasy Explosion.
"This book will make you aware of how you and your family are being exploited by pornography and teenage sex films, music videos, occult films, toys, soap operas and romantic novels, role-playing games, and comic books. The book will challenge you to new and creative action by offering positive suggestions." -- GCB

Mawyer, Martin, Silent Shame: The Alarming Rise of Child Sexual Abuse and how to Protect Your Children From it, ISBN: 0891074198 9780891074199.
"This informative study provides an in-depth profile of sexual abusers -- their methods, motivations, strategies, hangouts -- so that parents can understand what makes a child vulnerable to their overtures. This work provides practical steps to take to prevent children from becoming victims of sexual abuse." -- GCB

Medved, Michael, Hollywood vs. America: Popular Culture and the war Against Traditional Values, ISBN: 0060924357 9780060924355.
"The author exposes the attacks by the motion picture industry, television, and music stars against the church and Christians. He expresses our frustrations. He not only suggests a way out for Hollywood, but also concrete suggestions for concerned citizens who want to protect themselves and their children." -- GCB

Medved, Michael and Diane Medved Saving Childhood: Protecting our Children From the National Assault on Innocence, ISBN: 0060932244 9780060932244.
"SAVING CHILDHOOD offers parents and grandparents practical strategies to cope with a society that seems perversely determined to frighten and corrupt its young. Cultural critic and popular radio host Michael Medved and his wife, psychologist Diane Medved, argue that in a mistaken effort to curb problems plaguing its youth, our culture has changed from protecting childhood as a precious time of growth to hammering even the smallest youngsters with a grim, harsh, and menacing view of the world. The Medveds systematically present unassailable scientific evidence, moving anecdotes, and personal experiences of raising their three young children to explain the attack from four primary directions -- media, schools, peers, and even well-intentioned parents themselves.
"In a unique analysis, the Medveds define innocence not as ignorance but as the result of three components -- security, a sense of wonder, and optimism. They empower parents and all who care about childhood with concrete, easily accomplished means to fend off the assault, as well as advice for handling hurdles such as the Internet, television, peer pressure, and the plague of pessimism. SAVING CHILDHOOD enables us to restore and maintain for our children imagination, confidence, and hope for the future." -- Publisher

Michaelsen, Johanna, Like Lambs to the Slaughter: Your Child and the Occult, ISBN: 0890816174 9780890816172.
"Great resource for parents worried about their kids and the occult in society and schools."
"Johanna Michaelsen takes the concerned parent into the world of the innocent child by exploring and exposing the growing power of the occult in the lives of our children." -- Publisher
"Although a bit out of date by now (it was written in the 80s), Michaelsen's LIKE LAMBS TO THE SLAUGHTER provides signposts for occult influences on children that every parent should be aware of. Contrary to some of the other reviews on this page, what Michaelsen points out is both true and alarming. One may call it paranoid to consider cartoons such as the Smurfs occultic in content, but when the Smurfs feature Gargamel standing in the middle of a pentagram calling down a curse in the name of Beelzebub -- others would call it discerning. If you can get this book, get it. Though out of date, it will be helpful to you as you raise your children. I hope Michaelsen updates her work soon." -- Reader's Comment

*Morey, Robert, How to Keep Your Kids Drug Free, ISBN: 092570301X 9780925703019.
"We can highly recommend this title as the best book on the subject we offer." -- GCB

Phillips, Phil, 52 Things for Your Kids to do Instead of Watching TV, ISBN: 0840796382 9780840796387.
"I have read all of Mr. Phillips' books, and they all reflect a massive amount of research and dedication to exposing so-called kids' shows or toys for what they really are: ways for Satan to infiltrate young kids' minds and desensitize them to violence and occult. Of course there are good toys and shows out there, but you really have to hunt for them. To help you with that, I would recommend Mr. Phillips' other book which describes the 52 best toys and games for kids. . . ." -- Reader's Comment

Phillips, Phil, Dinosaurs: The Bible, Barney and Beyond, ISBN: 0914984594: 9780914984597.
"In-depth look at evolution, creation science, and dinosaurs in the media and toys." -- Publisher

Phillips, Phil, Halloween and Satanism, ISBN: 091498411X 9780914984115.
"Is Halloween for children, or is there a definite link between Halloween and Satanism? What about 'Trick or treat,' 'Jack-o-lanterns,' and 'bobbing for apples?' Do you read horoscopes? Do you play with Ouija board? Are you involved with Tarot Cards? Do you 'dabble' with tea-leaf reading, Scrying (to practice crystal gazing), Palmistry? Good luck charms? If you answered yes to any of those, then you have a 'link' to the occult." -- Publisher

Phillips, Phil, Saturday Morning Mind Control, ISBN: 0840795815 9780840795816.
"Just a little harmless cartoon-watching? No, says Phillips. Today's cartoons and children's TV shows -- along with their spinoff toys, books, and movies -- endanger a child's developing social skills, motor coordination, and worldview. 'Mind control' is not far off the mark!
"Phillips (author of TURMOIL IN THE TOYBOX), examines what TV really teaches children and outlines what parents can do to minimize its influence." -- CBD

Phillips, Phil, Turmoil in the Toybox, ISBN: 0914984047 9780914984047.
"A shocking expos� of the toy and cartoon industry that unmasks the New Age. Occult, violent, and Satanic influences that have invaded the once innocent toy box. The author also explains the importance of play, and how toys can enhance or stunt a child's development." -- GCB

Reisman, Judith, Crafting gay Children, a study.
"Social researcher Dr. Judith Reisman says that the incidence of homosexuals molesting children is 40 times greater than the number of heterosexuals who molest children. In her study, CRAFTING GAY CHILDREN, Reisman notes that heterosexuals outnumber homosexuals by 44 to 1 in our culture. She also points out that 17-24 percent of boys are being abused by age 18 and 25 percent of girls.
"In a 1991 population study by the Department of Commerce, statistics showed that 8 million girls were abused by age 18 by heterosexual men -- a ratio of 1 victim to 11 adult men. However, 6-8 million boys were abused by age 18 by 1-2 million adult homosexuals -- a ratio of 3-5 victims for every homosexual adult male.
"Dr. Reisman concludes that the Boy Scouts organization is correct to ban homosexuals from membership because of the high rate of molestations committed by homosexual males. To read more on this, go to: http://bpnews.net/bpnews.asp?ID=11002

Reisman, Judith A., Sexual Sabotage: How one mad Scientist Unleashed a Plague of Corruption and Contagion on America, ISBN: 9781935071853 1935071858.
"Alfred Kinsey's statistics on American sexual behavior was greatly skewed towards unusual sexual practices. Subsequent researchers at the Kinsey Institute have claimed that they have cleaned up the data, and found the same incidence rates. It is not possible to clean up data that was drawn from a sample that was not representative of the American people as a whole. The psychologist Abraham Maslow pointed out that Kinsey's data suffered from volunteer bias. And eminent statisticians pointed out that his statistics were invalid.
"Reisman points out that if sex outside of marriage had really been as common as Kinsey claimed, there would have been much more abortion, divorce, children born out of wedlock, and sexually transmitted diseases in the 1940s than there actually was.
"Kinsey's books did much to weaken the laws against sex outside of marriage, because it did not seem reasonable to outlaw behavior that was commonplace. Reisman documents how the American Law Institute Model Penal Code was substantially changed by the Kinsey reports. The ALI MPC frequently quoted Kinsey as a reference when reducing or eliminating penalties for sex crimes. Kinsey's assertion that children desire sex has lead to efforts to lower the age of consent. Marriage was originally a contract designed to enforce sexual exclusivity, to provide for the care of children, and to prevent women from being abandoned. Kinsey's promotion of hedonism has weakened the institution of marriage, to the detriment of women and children.
"Judith Reisman is a voice in the wilderness, repeatedly drawing attention to one of the biggest crimes of the 20th century. Alfred Kinsey lied about the sex lives of the American people, in particular, about the Greatest Generation, the people who carried America through the Great Depression and World War II. Kinsey claimed that sex outside of marriage was common, when, in fact, it was unusual. Kinsey caused the children of the greatest generation to believe that their parents were hypocrites, who preached traditional sexual morality, but practiced sexual immorality." -- Reader's Comment

*Reisman, Judith A., Soft Porn Plays Hardball, ISBN: 091031165X 9780910311656.
"Reisman demonstrates the tragic effects of 'soft porn' on women, children, and the family." -- GCB

Richman, Sheldon, Separating School and State: How to Liberate America's Families, ISBN: 0964044714.
"Sheldon Richman presents us with a fascinating story here. Why were public schools first founded? Because people were illiterate? No. Records from colonial times show that literacy rates were higher than they are now in some places. There were all kinds of instructors, schools, schoolmasters, tutors, and self-taught leaders like Benjamin Franklin, and Alexander Hamilton, at the time of the American Revolution. There was tremendous resistance, well into the 20th century against government-owned, operated, and controlled "free schools." And no wonder. We now have an established school system that manifests all the problems the Founders saw inherent in an established church. The arguments the promoters gave are presented here, and some of then are pretty scary. The goals of the public school founders had more to do with the state's interests, than children's or family's interests. The idea was to indoctrinate children with the morality preferred by "politically correct" officials of the time. Compulsory laws came in when labor unions wanted to keep kids from competing for jobs. The opponents give their side here, too. Like a lot of people, I did not know much about the history of public schools before I started reading books like this one. I have come to agree with this author. This is an excellent argument for freedom of education, and giving control back to families and parents." -- Reader's Comment

Sanders, Bill, Tough Turf: A Teen Survival Manual, ISBN: 0800752120 9780800752125.
"Written for teenagers by a man who specializes in young people. He covers drinking, drugs, peer-pressure, and building a positive self-image." -- GCB

Sciacca, Fran, Generation at Risk: What Legacy are the Baby-boomers Leaving Their kids? ISBN: 089066174X 9780890661741.
"For those who want to understand what is happening to the younger generation and why and how we should respond." -- GCB

Seabolt, Dorothy, Occult Abuse of Youth: A Guide to Protecting Children.

Thoburn, Robert L., The Children Trap: The Biblical Blueprint for Education.
"One of today's outstanding educators sees the peril our children are in. What can Christians do to avert even greater problems in the future? Why do so many Christians still believe that the public schools are neutral concerning Christianity? What should true education consist of?" -- GCB

Van Dyken, Donald, Rediscovering Catechism: The art of Equipping Covenant Children, ISBN: 0875524648 9780875524641.

Weldon, John, and James Bjornstad, Playing With Fire: Dungeons and Dragons, Tunnels and Trolls, Chivalry and Sorcery and Other Fantasy Games, ISBN: 0802404251 9780802404251.
Exposes the danger of the fantasy game Dungeons and Dragons.

See also: The sovereignty of god, The doctrine of man (human nature, total depravity), Sharing christ with your children, Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justification, Justifying faith, Forgiveness, Problem solving with children, Counseling children, Protecting children from dangers, Preparing children for the world, Proverbs, Ecclesiastes, Covetousness, greed, and selfishness, The inspiration and infallibility of scripture (the doctrine of revelation, the doctrine of plenary inspiration, the doctrine of divine inspiration, the doctrine of verbal inspiration, theopneustia, sufficiency of scripture), The ten commandments: the moral law, Trusting god, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Bible promises, Sanctification, Slavery, our systems of enslavement, economic enslavement, Conscience, casuistry, cases of conscience, Sharing christ with your children, Sexual relationship, Spiritual adultery (spiritual whoredom/harlotry), Protecting children from dangers, Teaching/training children, Problem solving with children, Ethics, computer ethics, cyberethics, Sex ethics, sex education, Conscience, casuistry, cases of conscience, Preparing Children for the World, Home schooling, Teaching/training children, Counsel to young men, Counsel to young women, Bad relationships a cause of disease and death, Anger, Parenting, Child abuse and pedophilia, Mind control, intimidation, and coercion, Bad relationships a cause of disease and death, Suicide, Gambling, Abstinence, Christian fiction, Classic christian fiction by martha finley, the elsie books series, Pseudo-christian movements: a selection of works, Spiritual warfare, Resources for students, and so forth, and so on.
TCRB5: 143, 1671

Related Weblinks

Family Watchdog
This national website tracks sexual offenders in your area.
"Enter an address below to view a map of registered sex offenders near you."
While this is much needed data, and we commend efforts thus far, this map will not include the following sexual offenders who should (when known), be publicly identified until they repent of their sexual crimes:

sexual offenders who have not been caught, tried, and convicted (the arrest/conviction ratio for all offenses was approximately 100/25 in the mid 90s);
sexual offenders who have violated parole;
sexual offenders who have failed to report their address or address change;
sexual offenders using an alias (The FBI "believes 1 in 6 persons with a criminal record may be using alias names and identification." -- U.S. Congress, Office of Technology Assessment, OTA-TCT-497);
sexual offenders who have been convicted on some other charge;
ex-convicts and inmates who have committed sodomy in prison;
offenders guilty of raping their spouse and the offense has gone unreported;
wives who deliberately commit adultery as part of a "pre-planned divorce," that is, who married with plans to divorce for financial gain;
offenders guilty of unreported incest;
offenders guilty of unreported date rape;
offenders who have committed unreported sexual offenses when drunk or under the influence of drugs;
offenders who have committed unreported sexual offenses with mutual consent;
individual members of Alcoholics Anonymous (who are frequently ex-convicts, mentally ill, and/or mentally retarded, and prefer to be identified as alcoholics to avoid the social stigma of the other categories), or other related 10-Step addiction treatment programs who have committed unreported sexual offenses with other members, or while being a sponsor of another member;
individual members of Alcoholics Anonymous and related 10 Step codependent treatment programs who use the programs as vehicles to find new sexual partners;
offenders who have committed unreported sexual offenses with other members of Alcoholics Anonymous or other related 10-Step addiction treatment programs while in a codependent relationship with another member;
members of Sex Addicts Anonymous who have committed unreported sexual offenses;
prostitutes still at-large in society;
offenders who frequent prostitutes;
men and women who are self-employed in the "sex industry" (professionals deliberately practicing prostitution within the business community);
individuals employed in the pornography industry, including child pornography;
individuals addicted to pornography or child pornography;
individuals guilty of unreported sodomy and homosexuality;
unreported homosexual pedophiles ("Homosexuals are over-represented in child sex offenses: Individuals from the 1 to 3 percent of the population that is sexually attracted to the same sex are committing up to one-third of the sex crimes against children." -- Timothy J. Dailey, Ph.D. in "Homosexuality and Child Sexual Abuse");
offenders guilty of unreported rape;
offenders guilty of unreported fornication;
offenders guilty of unreported adultery;
offenders living in licentious cohabitation;
offenders who are mentally retarded and promiscuous;
offenders who have sever mental illness and are promiscuous;
offenders with AIDS disease;
offenders with any of the 30 other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) in the United States;
individuals who dabble in, or actively participate in satanic cults, or related destructive cults that practice sexual rituals;
offenders who are licensed mental health care professionals (Psychiatrists, Clinical Psychologists, Psych Nurses, Medical Doctors, Counselors, Priests, Pastors, and Churchmen, and so forth), who become sexually involved with their patients, clients, counselees, or church members;
individuals in the legal profession who judged in favor of legalized abortion or who aided in the legal process;
individuals participating in organized crime who run and profit from most of the abortion clinics in the United States;
medical professionals who perform abortions;
men who have paid for abortions performed on their daughters;
men who have paid for abortions performed on their sexual partners;
mothers who have aborted children from their wombs (any of the 43 million abortions performed in the United States since Roe vs. Wade in 1973), [56 million American babies from 1973 to 2014, annual rate continues at 1.2 million babies a year.];
individuals in the drug industry who developed "the morning after pill";
druggists who sell "the morning after pill";
women who have used "the morning after pill";
and so forth, and so on.

http://www12.familywatchdog.us/

Generation Rescue
"The incidence of autism has increased from 1 in 10,000 in the 1970s to 1 in 150 today, an increase of over 6,000 percent. Many more children have been diagnosed with other neurodevelopmental disorders all considered to be on the same spectrum including Asperger's, ADHD/ADD, speech delay, and many other developmental delays and learning disabilities.

During these investigations, numerous scientists from around the globe have testified before the committee, and have presented credible peer-reviewed research studies that indicated a direct link between the exposure of mercury, a widely known neurotoxin, and the increasing incidences of autism." -- Congressman Dan Burton (R-IN), Chairman, Subcommittee on Human Rights and Wellness, U.S. Congress, Head of Three Year Congressional Investigation into Mercury In Medicine, September 8, 2004

http://www.generationrescue.org/

A Redneck Resolution Against Self-destruction
http://www.lettermen2.com/redneck.html

The Way of the Heathen: A Brief History of Halloween, C. Matthew McMahon
Learn not the way of the heathen. (Jeremiah 10:2)
"The Old Testament is leavened with a multitude of verses which condemn occultism and its practices, and to avoid them completely: Exodus 22:18; Leviticus 3:17; Leviticus 7:26; Leviticus 17:12-14; Leviticus 19:26, 31; Deuteronomy 12:31; 2 Kings 17:16-17; 1 Chronicles 10:13-14; 2 Chronicles 28:3-4; 2 Chronicles 33:1-6; Isaiah 8:19; Jeremiah 10:2; Ezekiel 20:31, and many others. Deuteronomy 18:9-14 is one of the more explicit pericopes covering an overview of the occult practices to disdain, When you are come into the land which Jehovah your God gives you, you shall not learn to do according to the abominations of those nations. There shall not be found among you he that makes his son or his daughter to pass through the fire, that uses divination, that uses auguries, or an enchanter, or a sorcerer, or a charmer, or one that inquires of a spirit of Python, or a soothsayer, or one that consults the dead. For every one that does these things is an abomination to Jehovah, and because of these abominations Jehovah your God does dispossess them from before you. You shall be perfect with Jehovah your God. For these nations, which you shall dispossess, hearkened unto those that use auguries, and that use divination; but as for you, Jehovah your God has not suffered you to do so. The strongest word in the Old Testament for wicked actions, besides the word 'wicked' itself, is the word 'abomination.' These practices are abominable. They are abominable whether they are just for fun, or for real. God desired that his people abhor such practices, and rid the land of those who practice such evils. Exodus 22:18, You shall not let a witch live. They were to kill them and liberate the land of the abominable practice of witchcraft and sorcery."
http://www.apuritansmind.com/the-christian-walk/a-brief-history-of-halloween-by-dr-c-mathew-mcmahon/

Preparing Children for the World

See the Theological Notes: "The Fall" at Genesis 3:6 in The Reformation Study Bible.
See the Theological Notes: "God's Covenant of Grace" at Genesis 12:1 in The Reformation Study Bible.
The happiest people in this world are those who make the Bible the rule of their lives. They read their Bibles often. They believe what the Bible says. They love that Savior, Jesus Christ, of whom the Bible speaks.
They try to obey what the Bible commands. None are so happy as these people. They cannot prevent sickness and trouble from coming to them at times. But they learn from the Bible to bear them patiently. Children, if you would get through this world happily, make the Bible your best friend. -- J.C. Ryle (1816-1900

Black, Thom, Lynda Stephenson, and Mary Chambers, Born to Fly: How to Discover and Encourage Your Child's Natural Gifts, ISBN: 0310402816.

Bradley, Reb, Born Liberal, Raised Right: How to Rescue America From Moral Decline -- One Family at a Time, ISBN: 9781935071587 1935071580.
"America has a problem. Conservatives aren't helping their kids mature past that arrested development phase also known as liberalism! In this groundbreaking book, noted speaker Reb Bradley proves that societal pressures and foolish child-raising theories that have gone mainstream are preventing parents from developing in their kids the key ingredients of maturity, including self-control. Too many children are becoming adults who are ruled purely by magical thinking, passions, emotions and desires -- the hallmarks of the liberal mindset. It's up to parents to turn their baby Bolsheviks into good citizens by helping their kids mature past their infantile liberal stage. Reb Bradley shows how." -- Publisher

Ford, Sallie Rochester, Mary Bunyan, the Dreamer's Blind Daughter: A Tale of Religious Persecution.

Fortune, Don, and Kathie Fortune, Discover Your Children's Gifts: A Parent's Handbook to Recognize and Develop Your Children's God-Given Gifts, ISBN: 0800791517 9780800791513.
"Every child is blessed with extraordinary, unique gifts from God. Now you can encourage your children to become more fruitful adults by learning how to recognize and nurture each child's individual spiritual gifts. Through age-related tests ranging from pre-school through the teenage years, the sensitive, caring authors show you how to understand your children better and develop their unique abilities." -- Publisher
Includes a 13-week study guide.

Fuller, Cheri, Unlocking Your Child's Learning Potential: How to Equip Kids to Succeed in School and Life, ISBN: 0891098348 9780891098348.

Garborg, Rolf, Gary Smalley (foreword), and John Trent (foreword), The Family Blessing: A Simple Parental act That will Help Your Children Feel Loved and Cherished, ISBN: 0849907810 9780849907814. Alternate title: THE FAMILY BLESSING: CREATING A SPIRITUAL COVERING FOR YOUR FAMILY'S FUTURE.
"Explains exactly what it means not only to have a regular 'blessing time' in your home, but also to make affirmation and encouragement the basis of all your communications." -- Publisher

Harris, Gregg, The Home and Family Business Workshop: A Complete Workshop for Parents and Teens on how to Start a Successful Business for Your Family.
This series of seven audio cassette tapes [audio file], includes: The Biblical Basis for Your Family Business, How to Start Your Family Business, The Marks of Truly Christian Business People, Home Banking and Other Strategies to Avoid Debt, Proven Business Ideas You Can Start Immediately, How to Find and Keep Your Customers, and How to Manage Yourself and Your Time.

Kesler, Jay, Raising Responsible Kids: Ten Things you can do now to Prepare Your Child for a Lifetime of Independence. Alternate title: RAISING RESPONSIBLE KIDS: HOW TO GUIDE YOUR CHILD TOWARD INDEPENDENT ADULTHOOD, ISBN: 1561210528 9781561210527 0380719762 9780380719761.
"If you wait until your child is ready for his diploma before you teach him/her responsible independence, you have waited too long. The teaching of responsibility comes gradually through specific lessons and experience. Here is help for parents in accomplishing this task -- by starting right now." -- GCB

*Lucas, J.R., Parenting of Champions: Raising Godly Children in an Evil Age, ISBN: 094349785X 9780943497853.
"The evils of our culture are attacking our families from every side -- with the biggest guns aimed straight at our children. . . . First step is for parents to set a championship example, to actually become what they want their children to become." -- GCB
"This is one of the most honest, courageous parenting books you will ever read." -- CRM

Martin, Paul R., Cult Proofing Your Kids, ISBN: 0310537614 9780310537618.
"This examination of the cult problem offers practical advice. It is a comprehensive psychological, social and evangelical treatment of the growing trend of cults. Dr Martin offers advice to institutions on developing cult education programs, and to parents on how to get children out of cults." -- Publisher

Martin, Walter, Seven Campus Curses, [audio file].
"The seven most common objections to the Christian Faith are dealt with in a hard-hitting, fast-moving expository on the existence of God, miracles, creation, Biblical inspiration, and other issues crucial to the faith." -- Publisher

Moyer, Homer E. Jr., The R.A.T. Real-World Aptitude Test: Preparing Yourself for Leaving Home, ISBN: 1931868425 9781931868426.
"Just revised with new chapters on 'Living Away from Home' and 'The Environment' -- The R.A.T. Revised is perfect for young adults leaving the nest for the first time. Do you know how many teaspoons of sugar the average 12 ounce can of soda contains? Can you change a flat tire? Can you identify the ten largest cities in the world? The R.A.T. (Real-World Aptitude Test) answers these questions and more. Divided into two parts, like the SATs, the first section contains questions in thirty different subject areas, and the second part provides answers and explanations to these life-defining questions. Subject areas include cooking, managing money, etiquette, geography, sports and many more. As a test of preparedness for the real world, the R.A.T. provides answers to some of life's most common stumbling blocks, such as how to change a flat tire or how to handle computer problems as well as facts on generalized knowledge in areas such as geography and politics. The R.A.T. is perfect for young adults leaving the nest and adults who are entering a new phase of life such as parenthood or retirement." -- Reader's Comment

Norris, Bill, What the Bible Says About Growing Old, ISBN: 0899002587 9780899002583.

Paul, James L. (editor), The Exceptional Child: A Guidebook for Churches and Community Agencies

*Spurgeon, C.H. (1834-1892), Words of Warning for Daily Life.

Van Dyken, Donald, Rediscovering Catechism: The art of Equipping Covenant Children, ISBN: 0875524648 9780875524641.

See also: The sovereignty of god, The doctrine of man (human nature, total depravity), Sharing christ with your children, Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justification, Justifying faith, The inspiration and infallibility of scripture (the doctrine of revelation, the doctrine of plenary inspiration, the doctrine of divine inspiration, the doctrine of verbal inspiration, theopneustia, sufficiency of scripture), The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, The ten commandments: the moral law, The commandments of christ, Knowing god, Trusting god, The all-sufficiency of christ, Problem solving with children, Counseling children, Protecting children from dangers, Preparing children for the world, Sexual relationship, Spiritual adultery (spiritual whoredom/harlotry), Slavery, our systems of enslavement, economic enslavement, Teaching/training children, Bad relationships a cause of disease and death, Problem solving with children, Idolatry, Sexual relationship, Spiritual adultery (spiritual whoredom/harlotry), Covetousness, greed, and selfishness, Theft, fraud, stealing: property rights and freedom, Rebellion and lawlessness: wickedness, demonic possession, substance abuse, abnormal behavior, insanity, mental illness, mental retardation, Anger, Justice, the theology of judgment, god's final judgment, the great white throne judgment, the day of the lord, Justifying faith, Forgiveness, Sanctification, The covenant faithfulness of god, The Lordship of jesus christ, Christ's kingdom, Creeds, Confessions, and Catechisms, Sexual relationship, Spiritual adultery (spiritual whoredom/harlotry), Abstinence, Conscience, casuistry, cases of conscience, Covenant Theology and Covenanting, Covenant theology and the ordinance of covenanting, The covenanted reformation, The covenanted reformation of scotland background and history, Covenanted reformation short title listing, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, The works of c. gregg singer, The one and the many, Corporate faithfulness and sanctification, Individual responsibility for corporate faithfulness and sanctification, Unfaithful reformed ministries, Secret societies, ungodly alliances, voluntary associations, Conspiracy, corruption, organized crime, Pseudo-christian movements: a selection of works, Politics, Politics, The aged, Christian fiction, Classic christian fiction by martha finley,Classic christian fiction by martha finley, the elsie books series, and so forth, and so on.

Related Weblinks

Girl Defined
https://www.girldefined.com/

Virtuousreality.com, a Website for all Women
http://www.virtuousreality.com/

Single Parenting

Jones, Robert D., Single Parents: Daily Grace for the Hardest Job, ISBN: 9781934885277 1934885274.

Peppler, Alice S., Single Again -- This Time With Children: A Christian Guide for the Single Parent, ISBN: 0806619104 9780806619101.

Smith, Virginia W., The Single Parent, ISBN: 0800751051 9780800751050.

Wilde, Gary, Bible Wisdom for Single Parents, ISBN: 0781400724 9780781400725.

Womack, Charles R., Ministry to Single Parents Through a Small Growth Group Setting.

Worth, Jill, and Christine Tufnell, Journey Through Single Parenting, ISBN: 0340651903 9780340651902.

See also: The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, The doctrine of man (human nature, total depravity), Sharing christ with your children, Teaching/training children, Conscience, casuistry, cases of conscience, Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justification, Justifying faith, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Spiritual adultery (spiritual whoredom/harlotry), Being single (women), Parenting, Child abuse and pedophilia, Singleness, Women and parenting, Personal finance, Counsel for young men, Counsel for young women, Christian fiction, Classic christian fiction by martha finley the elsie books series, and so forth, and so on.

Related Weblinks

Girl Defined
https://www.girldefined.com/

Virtuousreality.com, a Website for all Women
http://www.virtuousreality.com/

Christian Literature for Boys and Girls

The Elsie Books 28-book series in its original unmodernized text probably models the Christian family better than any other fiction. Likewise, the example of Elsie's life is one of the best models for Christian girls.
Notice the original text of this series is becoming available free in Project Gutenberg e-text. We have added links to the e-text as of May 2007.

American Sunday-School Union, Grace Raymond: or, The Evil and Cure of a Passionate Temper.

Aprile, Michael Dante, and the Aprile Family, The Character of Elsie Dinsmore (Plano, TX [Utmost Enterprises, PO Box 940205, Plano, 75094-0205]: Utmost Enterprises), ISBN: 1581822014 9781581822014. An e-text book on CD-ROM.
"This book was written by members of the Aprile family who desire, as did Elsie, to follow the Godly character traits, exemplified by Jesus Christ, in their everyday walk. . . . In this book, we have attempted to show, through Elsie's eyes, how a person, whose will is to follow the Lord, is able to take up the cross and follow Him.
"You will find that this book is good for instruction and illustration in the teaching of thirty-eight Character Traits to your children. This book can serve as a supplement to your current curriculum or some creative people might find ways to use it as a curriculum itself." -- The Aprile Family
The Character of Elsie Dinsmore (excerpts)
http://www.utmost-way.com/tcoed.htm

Beers, V. Gilbert, and Samuel Butcher, Precious Moments Bedtime Stories, ISBN: 0801009596 9780801009594.

Beers, V. Gilbert, and Samuel Butcher, Precious Moments Stories From the Bible, ISBN: 0801043115 9780801043116. Alternate title: GOOD NEWS FOR CHILDREN.

Beers, V. Gilbert (text), and Samuel J. Butcher (illustrations), Precious Moments: Through-the-Day Stories, ISBN: 0801009928 9780801009921.
"Brief story-poems heighten our awareness of the special features of wake-up time, mail time, chore time, family time, and other such times of the day, highlighting God's role in all aspects of our lives.
"Here's a delightful collection of fantasy, daydreams, sleepytime tales . . . stories just right for daytime snuggle times or evening tuck-in routines. Spend some golden moments with your child reading and chuckling over happy, upbeat poems and stories. . . . the delicate, sensitive, and appealing Precious Moments drawings are often a story-within-a-story and offer a strong, pleasant combination of text and illustration." -- Publisher

Beers, V. Gilbert, and Samuel Butcher, Precious Moments Through-the-Year Stories, ISBN: 0801009731 9780801009730.
These are short stories for pre-school children.

Bridge, Stephanie Marie, Puritan Fairy Tales: Short Stories and Poems for Young and Old.

Bouma, Ralph, et al., The Children's Classics, a series of Christian classics for children selected by Ralph Bouma.
"Each of these classics, which teach character, exalt Christ, and honor God's Word in a refreshing manner not found in more modern books . . ." -- GCB
These works were originally printed in the 18th and 19th centuries and are filled with Godly principles which build character. Triangle Press has rewritten them in children's language and proper English. Write requesting a complete listing of titles.

Bible Truths for Little Children, 5 volumes.

Bouma, Ralph, Family Focus on Christ,

Godliness is Great Gain, ISBN: 9781583390511 1583390510.

Little Daisy and the Swearing Class

Little Medicine Carrier

A Little Rebel Becomes a Saint, ISBN: 9781583390566 1583390561.

Roses and Thorns and Prison Roses, ISBN: 158339057X 9781583390573.

Bouma, Ralph, Short Devotions: 100 Messages for Daily Life,

Bouma, Ralph, Spiritual Wrestling, ISBN: 1583390170.

Baird, E. Thompson, Theobold the Iron-Hearted, ISBN: 9781583390580 1583390588.

The Weed With an ill Name.

Tampering With Temptation, ISBN: 1583390596 9781583390597.

More, Hannah, The Bible in the Wall, ISBN: 9781583390535 1583390537.

The Reward of Childhood Truth; and, The Story of Little Mary's First and Last Falsehood, ISBN: 9781583390603 158339060X.
See also: Various, Collector's Edition: A Collection of six Favorite Children's Stories With Illustrations. Published by Gospel Mission Press, Choteau, Montana.

Children's Heritage Series, The Children of the Bible.

Children's Heritage Series, The Little Girl's Treasury of Precious Things.

Faris, Jerri, Covenanters of Scotland: A History for Children, ISBN: 1884527124 9781884527128.

*Haan, Sheri, Precious Moments Storybook Treasury, ISBN: 0801044588 9780801044588. Combines two title: PRECIOUS MOMENTS BIBLE STORIES (by Sheri Dunham Haan), and PRECIOUS MOMENTS BEDTIME STORIES (formerly titled GOOD NEWS FOR CHILDREN), (by Samuel J. and Jon David Butcher, Debbie Ann and Steven Craig Wiersma).
"This is a delightful book aimed at pre-schoolers, and, of course, to the adults who read to their children. It is in very large print, with unique water color illustrations from Sam Butcher. There is some scene-setting to attract the attention of the child, and then there is a paraphrased version of what the Bible says. Yet despite this, and the simplified language, the stores are sound. Doctrines are taught without flinching. Sin is identified as sin, lying as lying. It is remarkably well done. It makes an ideal gift book for grandparents, parents, or children." -- Jay P. Green, Sr. (1918-2008)

*Haycock, Ruth, Encyclopedia of Bible Truths, in one volume, 443 pages (Colorado Springs, CO: Association of Christian Schools International, c1993). Former title: ENCYCLOPEDIA OF BIBLE TRUTHS FOR SCHOOL SUBJECTS (Purposeful Design Publications, 1979), in four volumes.
Volume 1: Social Studies, 129 pages
Volume 2: Language, Arts/English, 85 pages
Volume 3: Science/Mathematics, 107 pages
Volume 4: Fine Arts/Health, 116 pages
"This comprehensive index to the Bible is the fruit of a life's dedication and study by Dr. Ruth Haycock. Because a wide variety of subjects are covered and defined in light of Scripture, this tool will become your constant companion as you answer questions, prepare lessons, do research, and lead topical studies." -- Publisher
"With this unique resource you can help your students understand how God's Word relates to every subject. Whether the topic is Geography or Geometry, Literature or Law, this book establishes the fundamental connection between each discipline and the truth of the Scriptures. Originally published in four separate paperbacks, it is now available in a single, hardback edition. It can be used for lesson preparation, research, project completion, more!" -- GCB
"Dr. Haycock's work is listed in the current ACSI product catalog for $25 for ACSI member schools. You can obtain a copy by calling the order department in Colorado Springs (800) 367-0798. This is still a very popular item at our conventions and for schools in the accreditation process." -- Bill Wilson
May be purchased in Great Britain from:
Homeschool
http://www.homeschool.co.uk/

Kingston, William Henry Giles, Rescue at the Eleventh Hour, ISBN: 9781583391228 1583391223.

Lockman, Vic, Literature for Children -- Works of Vic Lockman
http://www.worldcat.org/search?q=au%3AVic+Lockman&qt=advanced&dblist=638

Lockman, Vic, The Westminster Shorter Catechism With Cartoons, ISBN: 0936175281 9780936175287.

Lockman, Vic, The Worship Principle: Elements and Circumstances. Alternate title: HOW SHALL WE WORSHIP GOD? A CATECHISM FOR THE WHOLE FAMILY.

*Palmer, Peter, Manning De V. Lee, and Jay P. Sr. Green (editor), The Children's Bible Story Book, ISBN: 1878442899 9781878442895.
Said to be the best of the Bible story books.

Peretti, Frank E., Cooper Kids Adventure Series, ISBN: 1581346913 9781581346916.
"These four Indiana Jones-style adventures about archaeologist Dr. Jake Cooper and his two young teens, Jay and Lila, teach kids sound values -- while keeping them glued to their seats! The slipcased softcover set includes THE DOOR IN THE DRAGON'S THROAT, ESCAPE FROM THE ISLAND OF AQUARIUS, THE TOMBS OF ANAK, and TRAPPED AT THE BOTTOM OF THE SEA." -- CBD
Frank Peretti has written many other pieces of juvenile fiction.

Pride, Mary, Baby Doe, ISBN: 0943497949 9780943497945.
Juvenile fiction.

*Richmond, Legh, The Dairyman's Daughter, ISBN: 1583391266 9781583391266. Alternate title: THE DAIRYMAN'S DAUGHTER AND OTHER PERSONAL TESTIMONIES.

Robb, G.M., Reformed Presbyterian Church of North America, and Covenanter Young People's Union, Covenant Recollections, 1959.

Ryle, J.C., The two Bears: And Other Addresses to Children.

Unknown, Aunt Margaret's Twelve Stories: To Illustrate and Impress Important Truths.

Van Zweden, Johan, Kanousky and David Brainerd, The Indian's Missionary.

Various, Collector's Edition: A Collection of six Favorite Children's Stories With Illustrations. Published by Gospel Mission Press, Choteau, Montana.

White, William R. (compiler), Stories for the Journey: A Sourcebook for Christian Storytellers, ISBN: 0806623640 9780806623641.
Includes bibliography.

Wilson, Elizabeth, Choosing Children's Books (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Two audio cassettes [audio file].

Wilson, Elizabeth, Living Books (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation). Two audio cassettes [audio file].

*Wilson, Elizabeth, and Susan Schaeffer Macaulay (foreword), Books Children Love: A Guide to the Best Children's Literature, ISBN: 0891074414 9780891074410.
"At last here is a book that will help parents open up the wonderful world of reading for their children! Here are books that embody the ideals of traditional values and a Christian worldview. Only books that really catch and hold children's attention, that are finely written, and that reflect basic Biblical values have been chosen." -- GCB
"This book is arranged by subject and reading level. There is a good variety of choices, and the books listed have all been evaluated to be wholesome and reinforce proper priorities, human relationships and good attitudes. There are wonderful classic books and newer books also. My child has enjoyed every title we have read from the book lists. -- Reader's Comment

See also: Sharing christ with your children, Christian biography, Christian fiction, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Classic christian fiction by martha finley, the elsie books series, Christian fiction, Christian biography, Home schooling, Some complementary works, Problem solving with children, Counseling children, Protecting children from dangers, Preparing children for the world, and so forth, and so on.

Related Weblinks

Literature for Children -- Works of Vic Lockman
http://www.worldcat.org/search?q=au%3AVic+Lockman&qt=advanced&dblist=638

Family

See the Theological Notes: "The Church," at Ephesians 2:19 in The Reformation Study Bible.
See the Theological Notes: "The Local Church," at Revelation 2:1 in The Reformation Study Bible.
See the Theological Notes: "The Christian Family," at Ephesians 5:22 in The Reformation Study Bible.
Except the Lord build the house, they labor in vain that build it. (Psalm 127:1)
God be merciful unto us, and bless us: and cause his face to shine upon us: That thy way may be known upon earth, thy saving health among all nations. (Psalm 67:1,2)
The Treasury of David, Psalm 67, C.H. Spurgeon
http://archive.spurgeon.org/treasury/ps067.php
Now therefore fear the Lord, and serve him in sincerity and in truth: and put away the gods which your fathers served on the other side of the flood, and in Egypt; and serve ye the Lord. And if it seem evil unto you to serve the Lord, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord. (Joshua 24:14,15)
All bonds are easily broken and cast away (by the soul at least, if not by the body), which are not perceived to be divine. -- Richard Baxter (1615-1691)
God setteth the solitary in families: he bringeth out those which are bound with chains: but the rebellious dwell in a dry land. (Psalm 68:6)
For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 12:50)
Yea, and all that will live godly in Christ Jesus shall suffer persecution. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (2 Timothy 3:12)
The four "Servant Songs" of Isaiah are Isaiah 42:1-9; Isaiah 49:1-7; Isaiah 50:4-11; and Isaiah 52:13 -- Isaiah 53:12. See the annotations in The Reformation Study Bible.
Our Triune God has ordained that the preeminent leader of the Church is the Lord Jesus Christ, the God Man, Our Righteousness. (John 1:1-18; Matthew 19:30; Matthew 28:18-20; Isaiah 49:7; Colossians 1:16-19; Colossians 2:9,10; Hebrews 12:1,2; Revelation 5:1-14; Revelation 19:11-15; Revelation 20:11-15; Revelation 22:12, and so forth, and so on). Human leadership is also divinely ordained and tends to devolve to those who are most perfectly at one with Christ, and to those who also know the most Truth (the Apostle Paul, Saint Augustine, Martin Luther, John Calvin, Puritan leaders, The Scots Worthies, and so forth, and so on).
And Jesus said unto them, Verily I say unto you, That ye which have followed me, in the regeneration when the Son of man shall sit in the throne of his glory, ye also shall sit upon twelve thrones, judging the twelve tribes of Israel. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 19:28). See: (Matthew 19:28, 1599 Geneva Bible)
Then his master said unto him, It is well done good servant and faithful, Thou hast been faithful in little, I will make thee ruler over much: enter into thy master's joy. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 25:21) (Matthew 25:21 1599 Geneva Bible)
Then shall the King say unto them on his right hand, Come, ye blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 25:34). See: (Matthew 25:34, 1599 Geneva Bible)
And he said unto him, Well, good servant: because thou hast been faithful in a very little thing, take thou authority over ten cities. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Luke 19:17) (Luke 19:17, 1599 Geneva Bible)
Therefore I appoint unto you a kingdom, as my Father hath appointed unto me. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Luke 22:29) (Luke 22:29, 1599 Geneva Bible)
And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together. (Romans 8:17). See: (Romans 8:17, 1599 Geneva Bible)
Know ye not that we shall judge angels? how much more things that pertain to this life? (1 Corinthians 6:3). See: (1 Corinthians 6:3, 1599 Geneva Bible)
And hath raised us up together, and made us sit together in heavenly places in Christ Jesus. (Ephesians 2:6). See: (Ephesians 2:6, 1599 Geneva Bible)
To execute vengeance upon the heathen, and corrections among the people:
To bind their kings in chains, and their nobles with fetters of iron,
That they may execute upon them the judgment that is written: this honor shall be to all his Saints. Praise ye the Lord. (Psalm 149:7-9) (Psalm 149:7-9, 1599 Geneva Bible)
But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. (1 Timothy 2:12), (1 Timothy 2:12, 1599 Geneva Bible)
And he that overcometh, and keepeth my works unto the end, to him will I give power over the nations. -- The Lord Jesus Christ (Revelation 2:26). See: (Revelation 2:26, 1599 Geneva Bible)
To serve God is to reign. -- Seneca (4 BC -- 65 AD)
And when all things shall be subdued unto him, then shall the Son also himself be subject unto him that put all things under him, that God may be all in all. (1 Corinthians 15:28)
But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear: Having a good conscience. . . (1 Peter 3:15, 16a)
Oh how highly we are to be concerned that our conscience be tender, and yet how little care is taken of it! What has become of the authority of conscience, when your thoughts and your passions, when your eyes and your ears and your appetite and your tongue are left unbridled and unconquered? When every servant is set up to be master, to bear rule in you, where is your conscience? When your soul is no better kept, what poverty and leanness is growing on it, what a starveling it is both in grace and peace, eaten out with lust, evaporated into vanity, sunk into sensuality, your spirit even transubstantiated into perishing flesh, ready to die away, because you have not had a tender conscience. If you have not better kept your covenant with God, when you have not performed the duties you have vowed, when your hours of prayer are so short, your sabbaths such wintry, cold days, where has your conscience been? When your God is so shamefully neglected, never hears from you even when you have nothing else to do; yea, when your corn, your cattle, your pleasures, your friends (even those you vowed to renounce), are invited into your heart to steal it away from Heaven, then where is your conscience? When you lie asleep and allow God's enemies to sow tares in your field; when you are being a busy-body in other men's affairs, while your own vineyard is not being kept; when both your heart and your house are so much out of order, where is your conscience? When you leave your wife and your children and your servants to do all that is right in their own eyes; when you take care more for your possessions than for your sons and daughters, ready to die for lack of instruction, where is your conscience? And if you have no conscience, then where is your covenant? And if you have no covenant, then where is your God and your peace? -- C.H. Spurgeon commenting on I Peter 3:15,16a [1 Peter 3:15,16a], quoted in Morning and Evening II: A Second Year of Daily Devotions by C.H. Spurgeon, May 28, p. 149 found in Devotional Classics of C.H. Spurgeon
The Elsie Books 28-book set, in its original, unabridged text, probably models the Christian family better than any other fiction. Likewise, the example of Elsie's life is one of the best models for Christian girls.

Andrew, James O., Family Government: A Treatise on Conjugal, Parental, and Filial Duties, 1847.

Barna, George, The Future of the American Family, ISBN: 0802428991 9780802428998.
"George Barna uses tons of well-interpreted statistics to outline what church leaders and concerned parents need to know about the impact on families of different influence agents, ways families can cope with negative influences, and ideas on what families might do to effectively anticipate and respond to future stress points." -- CBD

Bension-von der Ohe, Elizabeth, and Valmari M. Mason, An Annotated Bibliography of U.S. Scholarship on the History of the Family, ISBN: 0404616062 9780404616069.
"Comprehensive annotated bibliographies are worth their weight in gold. This one is extensive and covers virtually all aspects of marriage and family living. Included are dissertations, journal articles, book reviews, and replicated research. D.Min. students will find this an invaluable resource." -- Cyril J. Barber

Chartier, Jan, and Myron Chartier, Caring Together: Faith, Hope and Love in Your Family, ISBN: 0664240194 9780664240196.
"This book is written by a Christian couple, both seminary professors, with two children, who affirm that true spirituality can be found and expressed in ordinary, everyday life. They claim that the teaching of the Bible can be fully practiced in a modern family -- and they tell us, in detail, how to do it." -- David and Vera Mace

Christenson, Larry, The Christian Family.
Contains material useful in counseling.

Cleaver, Nancy, The Treasury of Family Fun; Indoor and Outdoor Activities, Ideas and Projects for Every Month of the Year.
"A manual on indoor and outdoor activities with ideas and projects for every month of the year." -- Cyril J. Barber

DeBardeleben, Martha Graves, and Jay Adams (foreword), Fear's Answers: Case History in Nouthetic Counseling, ISBN: 087552236X 9780875522364.
" 'It was the summer of 1970. I had already discarded my faith in psychology as the source of truth and remedy for the human dilemma. I was more and more finding in God's Word the answers. I was introduced to Jay Adams and his systematizing of Scripture as it applies to the problems of everyday living. I was thrilled to find that Dr. Adams' discoveries both paralleled and went far beyond my own.' Then in 1978 a 78 year old woman with pain, fear, depression, manipulation, hallucinations comes to live with the author. They speak biblically about pride, anger, fear, self-centeredness and lack of trust in God, instead of saying she needs her delusions and is too old for truth. 'What was most crucial in her recovery was that because she had a loving Savior, she could dare face the truth about herself'." -- David Powlison (1949-2019)

Defoe, Daniel, The Family-instructor. In Three Parts; I. Relating to Fathers and Children. II. To Masters and Servants. III. To Husbands and Wives. 4th edition, 1717, 2 volumes.

Denton, Wallace, What's Happening to our Families?
"A constructive discussion on the structure and changing patterns of family life today. Evaluates the emasculated man and the unfulfilled woman, anxious parents, accelerated living, retirement, the demise of religious belief, and family isolation. A final section considers the new role of churches in rebuilding family life." -- Cyril J. Barber

Dodd, Elizabeth D., Marriage to a Difficult Man: The 'Uncommon Union' of Jonathan and Sarah Edwards, ISBN: 0664209009 9780664209001.
About Sarah Perrepont's marriage to Jonathan Edwards and the raising of their 11 children.

Evans, Robert A., Alice F. Evans, Louis Weeks, and Carolyn Weeks, Casebook for Christian Living: Value Formation for Families and Congregations, ISBN: 0804220328 9780804220323.
Includes bibliographical references.

Hibbard, Ann, Family Celebrations at Birthdays and for Vacations and Other Holidays, ISBN: 080105513X 9780801055133. Alternate title: FAMILY CELEBRATIONS: MEETING CHRIST IN YOUR HOLIDAYS AND SPECIAL OCCASIONS.
"Here are practical tips and tested advice for planning birthdays that everyone will enjoy. Fun, memorable parties need not cost a bundle either. Hibbard helps you draw on your creativity instead of your checkbook!" -- Publisher

*Howe, John (1630-1705), Of Charity in Reference to Other Men's Sins, 1 Corinthians 13:5, 1681. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
"According to James Darling's CYCLOPAEDIA BIBLIOGRAPHICA, John Howe was one of the faithful English Puritan ministers who was ejected from his church in 1662. Darling adds that 'The late Robert Hall said that he had learned more from John Howe than from any other author he had ever read, and that there is an astonishing magnificence in his conceptions.' (p. 1560)
"This book is about Christians' attitudes towards the sins of other people. For example, Howe notes that some people are happy to see others sin because it makes them feel superior to those people. But it is itself sinful for a Christian to feel this way. 'What is it now to rejoice in another man's sin? Think what it is, and how impossible it is to be where the love of God hath any place. What to be glad that such a one is turning a man into a devil! A reasonable immortal soul, capable of Heaven, into a fiend of Hell! To be glad that such a soul is tearing itself off from God, is blasting its own eternal hopes, and destroying all its possibilities of a future well-being! Blessed God! How repugnant is this to Charity?' (p. 18)
" 'One would think them indeed but half men, and scarce any Christians, that can allow themselves so inhumane, and unhallowed a pleasure, as rejoicing in another's sin!
" 'Tis very unworthy of a man to take pleasure in seeing his fellowman turning beast. There is little in it of the ingenuity that belongs to humane nature, to delight in the harms of others; much less of the prudence, to make sport of a common mischief.' (p. 54)
"Rather than rejoicing over the sins of others, Christians should mourn over the sin and pray for the repentance of the offender.
"In some cases, however, charity and duty will require separation from the offender. 'We are to decline their society: i.e. when their heinous guilt appears, and while their repentance appears not. Scripture is so plain, and copious to this purpose, that it would suppose them very ignorant of the Bible, for whom it should be needful to quote texts. We must avoid them for our own sake, that we be not infected, nor be partakers in their sin, and guilt. For theirs (and so charity requires it), that they may be ashamed, which may be the means of their reduction and salvation: And (which is most considerable), for the honour of the Christian religion, that it may be vindicated, and rescued from reproach, as much as in us lies.' (pp. 41-42)
"In this respect Christians have an infallible example. 'The great God is our example, who refuses the fellowship of apostate persons, yea and churches: Departs, and withdraws his affronted Glory. It is pure, and declines all taint'." (p. 42) -- Publisher
The Whole Works of the Rev. John Howe, M.A., With a Memoir of the Author (1822), vol. 1 of 8.
http://archive.org/details/wholeworksofrevj01howeuoft

Howse, Brannon, Reclaiming a Nation at Risk: The Battle for Your Faith, Family and Freedoms.

James, John Angell (1785-1859), A Help to Domestic Happiness, ISBN: 1573580058 9781573580052.
"This is James' book on how to rightly order the family, which originated from sermons preached on Ephesians. James emphasizes that the chief end of every Christian parent must be the spiritual interests, religious character, and eternal salvation of their children. Here is just one quote from the book that will give an idea of its content and depth: "The secret of happiness lies folded up in the leaves of the Bible, and is carried in the bosom of religion." -- Publisher

Johnson, Ron, Joseph W. Hinkle, and Charles M. Lowry, Oikos: A Practical Approach to Family Evangelism, ISBN: 0805462341 9780805462340.

Mack, Wayne A., Your Family, God's way: Developing and Sustaining Relationships in the Home. Alternate title: BUILDING YOUR FAMILY GOD'S WAY: THE ROLE OF EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION IN THE HOME, ISBN: 0875523587 9780875523583.
"Mack offers Biblical insight and practical wisdom for two crucial areas of family life: communication and conflict resolution. Stories of success and application questions give hope and clear direction to all who wish to build stronger families." -- Publisher

Martin, Walter, Authority or Anarchy: Crisis in the American Family, an audio cassette [audio file], (San Juan Capistrano, CA: Christian Research Institute International).
"Dr. Martin analyses the underlying problem within the structure of the American family, giving clear guidelines for husbands and wives, parents, and children."

M'Crie, Thomas (1772-1835), John Owen, and Ralph Erskine, Calvinistic Family Library: Devoted to the Republication of Standard Calvinistic Works.

Miller, David R., Breaking Free: Rescuing Families From the Clutches of Legalism.

Morgan, Edmund Sears, The Puritan Family: Religion and Domestic Relations in Seventeenth-century New England.
"Examines the various social, political, religious, and economic aspects of marriage and the family in Puritan New England, considering household relationships and the family's place in the Puritan social order." -- Publisher

Petty, Jim, Helps for Family Leaders (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF05 [audio file].

Petty, Jim, Money, Ambition and the Christian Family (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF10 [audio file].

Petty, Jim, Suffering in the Home (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF26 [audio file].

Pollard, Jeff (editor), and Scott T. Brown (editor), A Theology of the Family, an anthology, ISBN: 9781624180460 1624180469.
"This book presents a perspective on the family largely forgotten by the modern church. There are fifty-six authors featured in this volume. Each of them gives a powerful testimony that the twenty-first century church needs to be reminded of what she used to believe about family life. These authors bring a measure of the correction and the balm necessary to heal our amnesia and return us to biblical order. . . .
"Five centuries of biblical wisdom for family life.
"A THEOLOGY OF THE FAMILY is the result of more than a decade of editorial work on the Free Grace Broadcaster." -- Publisher
An alphabetical index of "Authors featured in A THEOLOGY OF THE FAMILY," pp. 27-33.

Powlison, David (1949-2019), and Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation, What is a Dysfunctional Family? 5 MP3 files [audio file].

*Pride, Mary, The Big Book of Home Learning, 4 volumes, ISBN: 0891075488 9780891075486 0891075496 9780891075493.
Volume 1: Getting Started. Introduces all major home school methods and answers your most frequently asked questions.
Volume 2: Preschool and Elementary.
Volume 3: Junior High Through College.
Volume 4: Afterschooling and Extras.
Each volume is over 500 pages and includes full contact information for every product reviewed.
"Mary Pride has researched tons of educational products. . . . I love Pride's philosophy of teaching and trust her conclusions. She has saved me years of hunting for good educational supplies." -- Reader's Comment "Here is a complete guide to everything educational for you and your children. . . . You will find resources and information here that are not available elsewhere." -- GCB

*Pride, Mary, Next Book of Home Learning.
"This new book brings us a whole new range of additional educational resources for home schoolers of all ages to complement her first book. With its broad spectrum of hard-to-find information . . . this book is an indispensable resource for home schoolers . . ." -- GCB

Reformed Presbytery (Scotland), A Pastoral Letter to the Old Dissenters, Concerning Family and Social Duties.

Rupprecht, David, and Ruth Rupprecht, Radical Hospitality, ISBN: 0875524214 9780875524214 0875524206 9780875524207.
"An important book which is a call for believers to open their doors to people needing the love, care, and discipline of a Christian home. Biblical reasons for doing this and the experience of five families who practice hospitality are given. What is involved? What effect will it have on family members?" -- GCB

Scipione, George, The Biblical Battle for the Family: A Theology of Family Life.
"Sets the biblical view of family life in contrast to contemporary social forces that oppose such a view. Includes strategic and tactical suggestions for waging the battle successfully. Intended to establish the worldview that must undergird marriage and family counseling." -- David Powlison (1949-2019)
Institute of Biblical Counseling and Discipleship (formerly CCEF West)
http://www.ibcd.org/

Scipione, George C., Marriage and Family Counseling: Course Syllabus, 134 pages.
Introduction. Why study the family?: What is the family? -- What is marriage and family counseling? -- Why is it necessary to study and to help the family? How to study the family: The starting point is God's holy created norms found in scripture, not sinful, sociological, statistical norms -- God starts mankind's history with a family, not any other institution -- God works through families in His covenant of grace -- God made the family a symbol, analogy or model -- The family is central to the functioning of the other God-ordained institutions. The Biblical theology of the family and its relationship to theology: The family is a major key in understanding God's nature -- The family is a major key in understanding God's redemptive covenant of grace -- Modern secular views of the family, as well as contemporary evangelical views, distort God's nature and His acts in history. The history of the family: Biblical history -- General conclusions from the biblical data -- Para biblical and post biblical history. The biblical theology of the family: Biblical theology of gender roles -- Marriage -- The husband, the loving leader -- The wife, the suitable helper -- Communication in marriage -- Problem solving in marriage -- Sexuality in marriage -- Children -- Parenting -- Growth, maturity, aging -- Education of children -- Assessment and diagnosis of "dyslexia" -- Assessment and diagnosis of ADD with hyperactivity -- Finances and inheritance -- Covenantal family view of contracting marriage vs. American romantic dating -- Premarital counseling -- A biblical theology of divorce -- Divorce counseling -- Remarriage -- Physical abuse -- Pornography, adultery, etc. -- Incest -- Family worship -- Adoption. The soteriology of the family: Problems defined -- Solutions developed by the culture (psychotherapies by the culture, codependency or co-idolatry?) -- A biblical framework for marriage and family counseling. How to do marriage and family counseling: The seven key elements hold true -- Team counseling and specialists. Case studies. Questions and answers. Appendices: Appendix A (marriage enrichment weekend) -- Appendix B (the family: an annotated bibliography) -- Appendix C (requirements for the course for credit students) -- Appendix D (The Westminster Confession of Faith on marriage and divorce) -- Appendix E (Calvin: Institutes of Christian Religion, book 1, chapter 1) -- Appendix F (Van Til: A Christian Theory of Knowledge).

Shaw, I., Christian Family Matters, ISBN: 1850490201 9781850490203.

Swinnock, George (1627-1673), The Christian-man's Calling, or, A Treatise of Making Religion Ones Business wherein, the nature and necessity of it is discovered: as also, the Christian directed how he may perform it, in religious duties, natural actions, his particular vocation, his family directions, and his own recreations / by George Swinnock, 1662. Available (WORKS OF GEORGE SWINNOCK), on the Puritan Hard Drive.
Includes bibliographical references.
Swinnock, George, Works of George Swinnock, M.A (1868), volume 1 of 5.
http://archive.org/details/worksofgeorgeswi01swin

Various, God's Word for the Family, ISBN: 0849951372 9780849951374 0849951461 9780849951466.

Welch, Ed, Using the Gospel in Your Home (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF07 [audio file].

*Wilson, Carl W., Our Dance has Turned to Death: But we can Renew the Family and Nation! ISBN: 0842347828 9780842347822.
"A substantive account of the major causes of America's national decline and what each family can do about it. . . ." -- Cyril J. Barber

Wolf, Stewart, and John Bruhn, The Power of Clan: The Influence of Human Relationships on Heart Disease, new edition, ISBN: 0765804492 9780765804495.
"The notion that the quality of our social relationships may have a profound effect on our health and longevity has a long history but a short scientific past. A much publicized study that set out to show an association between social cohesion in the community and coronary heart disease mortality was begun in 1962 by Drs. Bruhn and Wolf. Their focus was on the town of Roseto, a cohesive and relatively stable Italian-American community in Pennsylvania. There the death rate from heart attacks was substantially lower than that of nearby towns. However, Roseto has changed over the years and so have its mortality statistics.
"THE POWER OF CLAN is a sequel to THE ROSETO STORY: AN ANATOMY OF HEALTH (1979). It includes the results from a follow-up survey that was done in collaboration with the Center for Social Research at Lehigh University. The authors intended to document the changes in Roseto as its people have adapted to an American lifestyle that is characterized by individualism, competitiveness, and materialism. One of the authors, Stewart Wolf, virtually acted as a participant-observer, contributing to a vivid and lively account of these changes that is supported by many anecdotes and an additional 22 pages of photographs. The book includes many tables showing demographic and health characteristics of Rosetans and their controls, and discusses potential mechanisms linking social change to increased death rates from myocardial infarction. This wealth of information provides a rich source of hypotheses and should encourage the development of sound psychometric instruments to test more rigorously the link between mutually supportive attitudes, cooperation, and health outcomes.
"THE POWER OF CLAN will stimulate and revive discussion on the effects of personal relationships on health. We are reminded of the work by J.J. Groen that urged us to adopt a more comprehensive approach to our understanding and, ultimately, control of coronary heart disease in both women and men." -- Gerdi Weidner
"Stewart Wolf was really one of the pioneers of psychosomatic medicine," noted Paul Rosch, president of the American Institute of Stress, in The Lancet. "His book on stress and hypertension is still considered a classic in the field . . . He was a marvelous cultured person who was able to bring a broad background in the humanities to his approach to patients and to teaching." -- Publisher

See also: The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, The doctrine of man (human nature, total depravity), Family worship, Sharing christ with your children, Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justification, Justifying faith, Prayer, Intercessory prayer, Problem solving with children, Counseling children, Protecting children from dangers, Preparing children for the world, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Words of christ appearing in the web edition of biblical counsel: resources for renewal, Sexual relationship, Spiritual adultery (spiritual whoredom/harlotry), Christian fiction, Classic christian fiction by martha finley, the elsie books series, The promises of Christ, Bible promises, Reconciliation of relationships, and so forth, and so on.
TCRB5: 1623-1625, 1642, 1668, 1671, 2823, 4152 (in the General Index see "Family")

Related Weblinks

Books on the Family From Still Waters Revival Books
http://www.swrb.com/newslett/FREEBOOK/family.htm

J. Wilbur Chapman's Tract on an Old-Fashioned Home
http://www.covenanter.org/reformed/2015/7/15/j-wilbur-chapmans-tract-on-an-old-fashioned-home

The Christian Family Homepage
http://www.covenanter.org/reformed/2015/6/29/family

The Elsie Books 28-book set, in its original, unabridged text, models the Christian family better probably than any other fiction. Likewise, the example of Elsie's life is one of the best models for Christian girls.
Notice the original text of this series is becoming available free in Project Gutenberg e-text. We have added links to the e-text as of May 2007.
Chapter 11: Christian Fiction
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr11ch.html#cfiction

Nave's Topical Bible -- Christ, Prayers of
http://bible.crosswalk.com/Concordances/naves-topical-bible/ntb.cgi?number=T2807

Counseling the Family

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), The Role of Father in the Home (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette JAR02 [audio file].

Adams, Jay E. (1929-2020), The Role of Husband in the Home (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette JAR01 [audio file].

Alexander, Archibald (1772-1851), Difficulty of Knowing our Faults. In EVANGELICAL TRUTH: PRACTICAL SERMONS FOR THE CHRISTIAN HOME.

Alexander, James W. (1804-1859), My Brother's Keeper: Letters to a Younger Brother on the Virtues and Vices, Duties and Dangers of Youth, ISBN: 1932474668 9781932474664.

Barker, Dorothy Anderson, and Jay Adams, Leader's Guide for Jay E. Adams's Christian Living in the Home.
"Thirteen week guide for the leader of a Sunday school or Bible study class that utilizes Adams's book on marriage and family." -- David Powlison (1949-2019)

*Baxter, Richard (1615-1691), A Christian Directory: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1. Full title: A Christian Directory: or A Sum of Practical Theology, and Cases of Conscience. Directing Christians how to use Their Knowledge and Faith; How to Improve all Helps and Means, and to Perform all Duties; How to Overcome Temptations, and to Escape or Mortify Every Sin. In Four Parts.
I. Christian Ethics (or Private Duties)
II. Christian Economics (or Family Duties)
III. Christian Ecclesiastics (or Church Duties)
IV. Christian Politics (or Duties to Our Rulers and Neighbours) (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 1997, 1990, 1838, 1707, 1678, 1673), ISBN: 1877611131 9781877611131. Foreword by J.I. Packer (Soli Deo Gloria edition only). The Soli Deo Gloria publication is a facsimile reprint of the 19th century reprint by George Virtue, London, 1846. The original 1673 edition and the 1678 edition, both printed by Robert White for Nevill Simmons. Bibliographic and scriptural footnotes. A Christian classic. Considered to be among the ten greatest books in the English language. Available (less the J.I. Packer's Foreword, but searchable with an OCR-based index), on the Puritan Hard Drive.
This work is available in many editions, and in many formats.
Reformation Heritage Books has new copies of the Soli Deo Gloria edition (including the J.I. Packer Introduction), as of March 2008, even though it is generally thought to be out of print. They acquired Soli Deo Gloria from Ligonier Ministries in late 2007.
The best digital format of the reprint by George Virtue is included on the Puritan Hard Drive. It has an OCR scan in the background, meaning one can search the entire volume and copy text into another document. It also has a computer generated indexed from the OCR scan which is, of course, in Baxter's vocabulary.
A PDF image scan only of the same edition is available on the Reformation Bookshelf CD #21.
The reprint by George Virtue is available online and may be downloaded in PDF format at Christian Classics Ethereal Library.
The reprint by George Virtue appears in full preview in Google Books but may not be downloaded. So it is useful if the reader wants to become acquainted with the book. Text can be searched, but can not be copied into another document. This particular Google Books scan includes the contents in detail on pages iii-xix which is not included in the Christian Classics Ethereal Library PDF files. About five other editions from libraries are available in Google Books, and may be downloaded (August 2008).
Notice that the e-text in Google Books has the advantage of being searchable. Searching an image-based PDF file (without an OCR scan in the background), is not possible, unless the user owns software such as Abode Acrobat Pro or Kirtas BookScan Editor. They both have an OCR (optical character recognition), feature that will search an image-based PDFs (bit-map scans). Searches appear to be perfect in this work, although one must know Baxter's vocabulary. Text can be cut and pasted from image-based PDF format to OCR (character) format. This particular Google Books scan can not be cut and pasted or downloaded.
One of the older, multi-volume editions of THE WORKS OF RICHARD BAXTER is available at Monergism.com in the "Puritan Library," "Richard Baxter." A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, volume 23. It can be downloaded.
http://www.puritanlibrary.com/
Another older edition is available on microfilm (Ann Arbor, MI: University Microfilms, 1970), 1 microfilm reel, 35 mm (Early English books, 1641-1700; 343:11).
"The complete practical works of Richard Baxter are in print in four volumes entitled BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS. This volume (about 1 1/4 million words, 1028 pages), is volume one of the set. The editor's preface (1707), p. xiii, stated that the works of Richard Baxter are 'perhaps the best body of practical divinity that is extent in our own or any other tongue.' Richard Baxter lived from 1615-1691. The DIRECTORY was completed in 1665. Its scope was intended to cover all of practical theology, a summa of casuistry . . ." -- Don Kistler
"Baxter's series, which grew in range and scope as it proceeded . . . is a peak point in Puritan devotional writing, and remains a precious resource for all, in this or any age, who want to know what is involved in Biblical godliness. . . . A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY may justly be described as a landmark. It is the fullest, most thorough, and in this writer's judgment, most profound treatment of Christian spirituality and standards that has ever been attempted by an English-speaking Evangelical author. The fact that it embraces both spirituality and standards (the principles of communion with God plus the specifics of obedience to God), merits approving comment in itself; nowadays spirituality and ethics have become two distinct disciplines in the schools, and books written on either say virtually nothing about the other . . ." -- J.I. Packer
Timothy Keller calls it the greatest manual on Biblical counseling ever produced.
"There are many Puritan classics on this subject. Thomas Brooks' PRECIOUS REMEDIES FOR SATAN'S DEVICES, Thomas Goodwin's A CHILD OF LIGHT WALKING IN DARKNESS, William Bridge's A LIFTING UP FOR THE DOWNCAST, and many other similar works give evidence that the Puritans were. . . . masters at applying Biblical answers and principles to problems that can only be solved by spiritual means. No Puritan work, however, has ever approached the popularity, the scope, or the depth of Baxter's classic treatise. With the widespread interest in counseling in today's church, this reprint of Baxter's work should be a welcome addition to every pastor's library, or to anyone else who wishes to give solid Biblical answers to man's questions." -- Don Kistler
"We have long waited for a purely Biblical treatment of the spiritual ills and cures of men which is untainted by the views of psychology. Since Baxter lived about 200 years before psychology arrived, his deep work is completely void of its encroachment -- thankfully!" -- John MacArthur
"The kings men sought to arrest Richard Baxter, but he traveled ceaselessly from place to place, writing his sermons and his books even on horseback (he had an inkwell in his saddle), and preached over a wide area." -- Brian H. Edwards
"Baxter was a wonder of his age. His writings total 72 large volumes, much of it written on horseback as he traveled in his widespread preaching efforts. He seldom, if ever, edited anything he wrote. Knowing this any reader will be amazed at how well he communicated his deep love for his Savior. For 26 years he was public enemy No. 1 to the king, yet he lived to see the flight of the king in 1688." -- Jay P. Green, Sr. (1918-2008)
POOR MAN'S FAMILY BOOK (1674) and THE CATECHIZING OF FAMILIES (1683), are less detailed works and are found in THE REFORMED PASTOR: BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 4. They are more suitable for family instruction than are the detailed presentation in A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY.
"Ptacek in FAMILY WORSHIP: BIBLICAL BASIS, HISTORICAL REALITY, CURRENT NEED (pp. 51-52), supplies the following information in regard to Baxter and this book. He notes that after the Episcopalians ejected numerous 'nonconformists,' in what is know as the 'great ejection,' in 1662, 'Baxter pastored from house to house, visiting families of his parish in their homes. These visits contributed to Baxter's A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, a large and still very relevant manual of pastoral care.' Focusing on just one area of great importance, Ptacek demonstrates how this book's relevance is not limited by time or culture, though sometimes the use of specific words are. 'Published in 1673, but written 1664-65, a large book-length part of Baxter's CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY is devoted to the family. It is entitled 'Christian Economics' based on the archaic usage of the word, which reflects the proper sense of the Greek root oikonomos as the manager of a household, in the Christian case, the spiritual leader of the family. The family head is essential to Baxter's view of family worship and instruction. Baxter asserts that it is God's will that this instruction be carried out by the rulers of the families.' For a male head of the household to fail to do so, or to have another instruct in the family, is contrary to his position of authority.' This is the kind of book that can be passed on from generation to generation and still find much use in the service of the kingdom of God.
"Though relatively weak on corporate sanctification, corporate faithfulness and some important areas of doctrine (such as justification), Baxter's work on subjects related to personal piety can be of good practical use to the Christian -- if one is careful to separate out his aberrant doctrinal views and any practical errors they may lead to." -- Publisher
The following three excerpts are included as bonus free books on Reformation Bookshelf CD #28.
1. "The Duties of Parents for Their Children" from BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 1, A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, on Christian Economics, Chap. X., pp. 449-454.
2. "The Special Duties of Children Towards Their Parents" from BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 1, A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, on Christian Economics, Chap. XI., pp. 454-457.
3. "The Special Duties of Children and Youth Towards God" from BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 1, A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, on Christian Economics, Chap. XII., pp. 457-458).
A summary of currently (2012) available publications.
http://www.lettermen2.com/pwrbcd.html
Richard Baxter, from Wikipedia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Richard_Baxter

Kavar, Louis F., Pastoral Ministry in the AIDS Era: Focus on Families and Friends of Persons With AIDS, ISBN: 0934104077 9780934104074.

*Kennedy, D. James (1930-2007), Learning to Live With the People you Love, ISBN: 0883681900 9780883681909.
Love "is sharing life together in a way that brings glory to God and enriches the lives of every family member."
Dr. Kennedy says no book he has written has brought so many comments as this one.
Read this in conjunction with Dr. Kennedy's 6-message audio cassette [audio file], series "Secrets of Successful Marriages," the audio cassette [audio file], message "Why Some Marriages Fail and Others Succeed," and the 4-message audio cassette [audio file], series "The Christian Marriage Series."

*Lloyd-Jones, David Martyn (1899-1981), Life in the Spirit in Marriage, Home and Work: An Exposition of Ephesians 5:18 -- 6:9 [Ephesians 5:18 -- Ephesians 6:9], ISBN: 080105799X 9780801057991.

Martin, Grant, Counseling in Cases of Family Violence and Abuse, ISBN: 0849905877 9780849905872.

Miller, C. John (1928-1996), Christ and the 10 Commandments; Harmony in Home Through the 5th Commandment (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette CM106 [audio file].

Miller, David R., Breaking Free: Rescuing Families From the Clutches of Legalism.

Minirth, Frank B., The Workaholic and his Family, ISBN: 0801061113 9780801061110.

*Ryle, J.C. (John Charles, 1816-1900), Home Truths, Volume 1. A Christian classic.
"This reprint of a classic is much needed in our day." -- CVBBS
Home Truths, Miscellaneous Addresses and Tracts, 1854
http://archive.org/details/hometruthsmisce01rylegoog

*Ryle, J.C. (John Charles, 1816-1900), Home Truths, Volume 2, ISBN: 1583391738. Alternate title: HOME TRUTHS: SECOND SERIES.
There is some confusion over the various editions of HOME TRUTHS. Apparently one edition included 8 volumes.
Home Truths, Miscellaneous Addresses and Tracts (1857)
http://archive.org/details/hometruthsmisce02rylegoog

*Ryle, J.C. (1816-1900), and J.I. Packer (foreword), Practical Religion: Being Plain Papers on the Daily Duties, Experience, Dangers and Privileges of Professing Christians, ISBN: 085234449X 9780852344491. A Christian classic. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
"PRACTICAL RELIGION is classic as a manual on the practice of Christianity -- a concise guide to the daily duties, experiences, dangers, privileges, and responsibilities faced by professing Christians. It is an excellent companion volume to J.C. Ryle's other classic, HOLINESS.
"In PRACTICAL RELIGION, Ryle expounds the great central themes of the Christian life with realism, power, and depth. This volume, along with his other works such as EXPOSITORY THOUGHTS ON THE GOSPELS, has been treasured by generations of evangelical Christians all over the world." -- Publisher
"Discusses: self-iniquity, self-exertion, reality, prayer, Bible reading, charity, zeal, happiness, formality, the world, riches and poverty, sickness, family of God, heirs of God, eternity, and others." -- GCB
Practical Religion: Being Plain Papers on the Daily Duties, Experience, Dangers, and Privileges of Professing Christians (1883)
http://archive.org/details/practicalreligio00ryle

See also: The sovereignty of god, The doctrine of man (human nature, total depravity), Sharing christ with your children, Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justification, Justifying faith, Christ our example, Affliction, adversity, trials, suffering, chastisement, Covetousness, greed, and selfishness, The inspiration and infallibility of scripture (the doctrine of revelation, the doctrine of plenary inspiration, the doctrine of divine inspiration, the doctrine of verbal inspiration, theopneustia, sufficiency of scripture), The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, The ten commandments: the moral law, Trusting god, Forgiveness, Bible promises, Sanctification, Problem solving with children, Counseling children, Protecting children from dangers, Preparing children for the world, Conscience, casuistry, cases of conscience, Ethics, Men and Women, Christian liberty, Men, women and god, Premarital counseling, Marital counseling, Problem solving in marriage, Reconciliation of marriage partners, Counseling the family, Parenting, Biblical counsel by subject, Reconciliation of relationships, Sexual relationship, Spiritual adultery (spiritual whoredom/harlotry), Slavery, our systems of enslavement, economic enslavement, Carnality and flesh pleasing: lust, desires, ambition, Adultery, Child abuse and pedophilia, Fatherlessness, Counsel for young men, Counsel for young women, Abstinence, Works of Jay Adams, Christian counseling and educational foundation, Westminster media, Works of Jay Adams, and Audio cassettes, CCEF speakers, Sexual wholeness, Marriage, Singleness, Feminism, Gratuitous sex, a cause of violence, Homosexuality, lesbianism, gay, bisexual, transvestite, queer (lgbtq), Cowardice, Pseudo-christian movements: a selection of works, Works by and for women, The new age and women, Self, Self-denial, The occult, Sorcery, Women and the new age, Soul-violence, Churches that abuse, Divorce, Hostility, Incest, Rape, Sex ethics, sex education, Pornography, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Unforgiveness, The christian home, domestic duties, Duties of the Christian, Christian fiction, Classic christian fiction by martha finley, the elsie books series, and so forth, and so on.
TCRB5: 1642, 1658-1661, 3733, 4152

Related Weblinks

Directives for Avoiding Dissension in the Home by Richard Baxter (1615-1691)
http://www.crownrights.com/fbs

Girl Defined
https://www.girldefined.com/

Respect Incorporated (formerly Sex Respect)
http://www.sexrespect.com/main.html

True Love Waits
http://www.truelovewaits.com/

Virtuousreality.com, a Website for all Women
http://www.virtuousreality.com/

Family Management

Andrew, James O., Family Government: A Treatise on Conjugal, Parental, and Filial Duties, 1847.

*Anson, Elva, and Kathie Liden, The Complete Book of Home Management, ISBN: 0802415954 9780802415950.
"This is a practical book for everyday living. And in the first chapter, 'How to Achieve Quality Living,' they give the best practical advice of all: Live by the Scripture with an eye to Christ and His advice. What follows is unique. It takes up the skill of management. And the house, the time, the workload, the children, the money, and the nutrition are all discussed in a practical way. In places it is like 'Hints From Heloise,' yet they never leave Jesus out of the picture. It is an excellent book for the family." -- Jay P. Green, Sr. (1918-2008)

Bouma, Mary LaGrand, Creative Homemaker, ISBN: 087123078X 9780871230782.

James, John Angell (1785-1859), The Widow Directed to the Widow's God, ISBN: 157358035X 9781573580359.
"In this book, James directs widows to take their sufferings to God for relief. He tenderly shows that the widow 'needs a special message of comfort from her Lord.' There are practical suggestions and helps for widows, Scriptural examples of widows, letters from widows, and letters to widows." -- Publisher

Moore, Raymond, and Dorothy Moore, Minding Your own Business, ISBN: 1561210080 9781561210084.
"These education experts have compiled the actual experiences of families who, as families, have first structured their homes like a successful business, THEN have actually developed revenue producing home-based operations. They give creative ideas and tips that have helped families gain control, and begin to earn money, and have fun together doing it." -- GCB

Petty, James C., When the Money Runs out: Hope and Help for the Financially Stressed, ISBN: 9781935273059 1935273051.

See also: Fatherhood, Manhood, The christian home, domestic duties, Christian duties, Family management (women), Personal and family finances, family businesses, Physical health, Summary and research index of key information in chapter 8: physical health and healthcare, Home management (women), Widowhood, and so forth, and so on.
TCRB5: 1630

Related Weblinks

2014 Buy Fresh, Buy Local, Shenandoah Valley
Issued annually.
http://buylocalshenvalley.org/find-it-in-the-guide/

Organic Valley Family of Farms
http://www.organicvalley.com/

Polyface, "the farm of many faces"
"Polyface, Inc. is a family owned, multi-generational, pasture-based, beyond organic, local-market farm and informational outreach in Virginia's Shenandoah Valley."
http://www.polyfacefarms.com/

Holidays

Make a joyful noise unto the Lord, all ye lands. Serve the Lord with gladness: come before his presence with singing. Know ye that the Lord he is God: it is he that hath made us, and not we ourselves; we are his people, and the sheep of his pasture. Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise: be thankful unto him, and bless his name. For the Lord is good; his mercy is everlasting; and his truth endureth to all generations. (Psalm 103)

Calderwood, David (1600-1666), and William Cowper, Reasons Against Festival Days. Alternate title: THE RE-EXAMINATION OF TWO OF THE ARTICLES ABRIDGED: TO WIT, OF THE COMMUNICANTS GESTURE IN THE ACT OF RECEAVING, EATING, AND DRINKING: AND THE OBSERVATION OF FESTIVALL DAYES. Available (Christmas and Easter, parts 1-4, MP3), [audio file] on the Puritan Hard Drive.
http://www.naphtali.com/days.htm

Gillespie, George (1613-1648), On Holy Days
http://www.naphtali.com/gghodays.htm
Gillespie, George (1613-1648), Part 1: Holy Days Take Away our Christian Liberty Proved out of the Law
http://www.naphtali.com/articles/george-gillespie/holy-days/epc-out-of-the-law/
Gillespie, George (1613-1648), Part 2: Holy Days Take Away our Christian Liberty Proved out of the Gospel
http://www.naphtali.com/articles/george-gillespie/holy-days/epc-out-of-the-gospel/

IMP, The Pagan Invasion Series (Jeremiah Films)
Volume 1: Halloween: Trick or Treat
Witness Inc. and Jeremiah Films Video Tapes, DVD.
http://www.witnessiync.com/ordering_materials.html

Unknown, Against Pagan and Roman Catholic Holy-days (Holidays), a tract. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
"A very strong and thorough testimony about why the celebration of Christmas is a violation of the commandments of God and is therefore sinful. Shows how the teaching of the Lord Jesus Christ condemns all man-invented holy days. Christmas is essentially a pagan holiday and its religious elements foster an imitation gospel which actually keeps the world from understanding the true gospel." -- Publisher
http://www.swrb.com/newslett/FREEBOOK/holyday.htm

Williamson, G.I., On the Observance of Sacred Days.

See also: Christmas, Holidays, The regulative principle of worship, Public worship, The psalms in worship, Family worship, and so forth, and so on.

Related Weblinks

Anti-Observance of Holy Days of man Homepage
http://www.covenanter.org/reformed/2015/6/29/observance-of-holy-days

The Way of the Heathen: A Brief History of Halloween, C. Matthew McMahon
Learn not the way of the heathen. (Jeremiah 10:2)
"The Old Testament is leavened with a multitude of verses which condemn occultism and its practices, and to avoid them completely: Exodus 22:18; Leviticus 3:17; Leviticus 7:26; Leviticus 17:12-14; Leviticus 19:26, 31; Deuteronomy 12:31; 2 Kings 17:16-17; 1 Chronicles 10:13-14; 2 Chronicles 28:3-4; 2 Chronicles 33:1-6; Isaiah 8:19; Jeremiah 10:2; Ezekiel 20:31, and many others. Deuteronomy 18:9-14 is one of the more explicit pericopes covering an overview of the occult practices to disdain, When you are come into the land which Jehovah your God gives you, you shall not learn to do according to the abominations of those nations. There shall not be found among you he that makes his son or his daughter to pass through the fire, that uses divination, that uses auguries, or an enchanter, or a sorcerer, or a charmer, or one that inquires of a spirit of Python, or a soothsayer, or one that consults the dead. For every one that does these things is an abomination to Jehovah, and because of these abominations Jehovah your God does dispossess them from before you. You shall be perfect with Jehovah your God. For these nations, which you shall dispossess, hearkened unto those that use auguries, and that use divination; but as for you, Jehovah your God has not suffered you to do so."
http://www.apuritansmind.com/the-christian-walk/a-brief-history-of-halloween-by-dr-c-mathew-mcmahon/

Christmas

Isaiah 9:2-7

Cawdrey, Daniel (1588-1664), Diatribe Triplex, or, A Threefold Exercitation: Concerning 1. Superstition, 2. Will-worship, 3. Christmas Festivall, With the Reverend and Learned Dr. Hammond. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.

Clowney, E., Would You Believe . . . In Christmas? (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette EC103 [audio file].

*Handel, George Frederick, "The Messiah" (various artists and recordings). This musical composition has probably inspired more individuals to faith in Christ than any other piece of music.

1. The complete oratorio is performed by The London Philharmonic Orchestra and Choir, conducted by John Alldis, 2 CDs.
This is said to be the top-selling recording of The London Philharmonic Orchestra and Choir.
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/B000062T9E/qid=1040845852/sr=2-1/ref=sr_2_1/103-0225174-5677440
2. Handel, George Frederick, Messiah (complete traditional), George Frideric Handel (composer), Christopher Hogwood (conductor), Academy of Ancient Music (orchestra), Emma Kirkby (performer), Carolyn Watkinson (performer), Judith Nelson (performer), Paul Elliott (performer), David Thomas (performer), Oxford Choir of Christ Church Cathedral (performer), 2 CDs.
"This is the 'Messiah' that started it all -- the first period instrument performance recorded with a choir of men and boys. It introduced music lovers the world over to Christopher Hogwood, Emma Kirkby, and a whole host of performers who have since become ubiquitous as the 'English Early Music Mafia,' appearing as they do under zillions of different ensemble names on a variety of labels. Hogwood's performance still holds its own, however, as one of the finest and freshest available. A first-rate effort." -- David Hurwitz
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/B000004CXU/qid=1040846214/sr=1-11/ref=sr_1_11/103-0225174-5677440?v=glance&s=classical
3. Also recommended is Handel, George Frederick, Messiah (the complete oratorio) with Erickson, McNair, Hodgson, Humphrey, Stilwell, The Atlanta Symphony Orchestra and The Atlanta Symphony Chamber Chorus, Robert Shaw conducting, 2 CDs. http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/B000003CT7/qid=1040838855/sr=2-1/ref=sr_2_1/103-0225174-5677440
4. Handel, George Frederick, Messiah With E. Farrell, Lipton, Cunningham, Warfield, The Philadelphia Orchestra, Eugene Ormandy conducting, with the Mormon Tabernacle Choir, 2 CDs.
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/B0000024OE/qid=1040845852/sr=1-10/ref=sr_1_10/103-0225174-5677440?v=glance&s=classical
See also:

Newton, John (1725-1807), Messiah: Fifty Expository Discourses on the Series of Scriptural Passages Which Form the Subject of the Celebrated Oratorio of Handel: Preached in the Years 1784 and 1785, in the Parish-church of St. Mary, Woolnoth, Lombard-street. Available in WORKS OF JOHN NEWTON.

Smith, Ruth, Charles Jennens [1700-1773]: The man Behind Handel's Messiah, (2012).
Charles Jennens compiled the text for "Messiah" and was also an editor of Shakespeare.

The unabridged lyrics to "Handel's Messiah" at:
The Free Offer of the Gospel Message of Salvation and the Life to Come: The Means of Grace
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr1cha.html#tfootgmos

*Newton, John (1725-1807), Messiah. Fifty Expository Discourses, on the Series of Scriptural Passages, Which Form the Subject of the Celebrated Oratorio of Handel, 2 volumes.

Price, Greg L., Christmass Condemned, a 3-tape [audio file], series (MP3), [audio file]. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #19.
"Price shows how the teaching of the Lord Jesus Christ condemns all man-invented holy days. Scripture and history are brought to bear most specifically on the celebration of Christ-mass, demonstrating why it is a sin to celebrate this day. It is also noted that Scripture never commands the celebration of this day and that there is no evidence that Christ and the Apostles ever celebrated this day -- in fact, this syncretism of paganism and 'Babylonian' Christianity was not first celebrated until 354 A.D. (when December 25 was chosen, in accord with the Pagan feast of Saturnalia, as the day of 'celebration'). Price also clearly shows that to call yourself Reformed while you hold on to this Roman Catholic/Pagan monument of idolatry makes for a serious contradiction in your testimony -- as the best Reformed churches have always disciplined those (in accord with Scriptural teaching), who broke the second and fourth commandments by keeping anti-Christian festival days like Christ-mass, Easter, etc. Citations from Luther, Calvin and the company of Geneva Pastors, the Church of Scotland's First Book of Discipline, the 1620 Dutch Synod, the Civil Government of Holland (1625), the U.S. Colonies and the Westminster Assembly all speak with one voice against this Romish corruption. Common objections against the classic Reformed position are also answered. Thus saith the LORD, Learn not the way of the heathen." (Jeremiah 10:2) -- Publisher

Reed, Kevin, Christmas: An Historical Survey Regarding its Origins and Opposition to it.

Schneider, Michael, Is Christmas Christian? Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
"An excellent introduction to Christian opposition to Christmas. Is Christmas Christian?
http://www.swrb.com/newslett/actualnls/Xmas_ch0.htm

See also: Holidays, Christmas, The regulative principle of worship, public worship, The religion of secular humanism: man as god, human autonomy, Hypocrisy, and so forth, and so on.

Related Weblinks

An Article From the Associate Presbyterian Magazine on Christmas
http://www.covenanter.org/reformed/2015/8/14/an-article-from-the-associate-presbyterian-magazine-on-christmas

An Article from the Reformation Advocate on Faith in Christmas
http://www.covenanter.org/reformed/2015/8/14/an-article-from-the-reformation-advocate-on-faith-in-christmas

An Article From the Reformation Advocate Magazine on Christmas Trees
http://www.covenanter.org/reformed/2015/8/14/an-article-from-the-reformation-advocate-magazine-on-christmas-trees

Christmas: A Biblical Critique by Kevin Reed and M. Schneider
http://www.swrb.com/newslett/actualnls/Xmas_ch0.htm

Increase Mather's Testimony Against That Prophane and Superstitious Custom of Christ-mass Keeping
http://www.covenanter.org/reformed/2015/8/14/increase-mathers-testimony-against-that-prophane-and-superstitious-custom-of-christ-mass-keeping

Schwertley, Brian, Historical Overview of Christmas, a sermon [audio file].
http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?SID=122505183840

Schwertley, Brian, The Regulative Principle of Worship and Christmas, a series of 13 messages, [audio file]. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.
http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?SID=7506111921

Theater, Sports, and Entertainment

Theater, Sports, and Entertainment
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr6ch.html#tsaentrtn

Teens

Let no one despise thy youth, but a pattern become thou of those believing in word, in behaviour, in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity. (1 Timothy 4:12, YLTHB)
George Barna reviewed more than a dozen national surveys related to matters of faith conducted by the Barna Research Group during 2000 and devised three lists of faith-related survey results -- particularly noteworthy insights . . ."
Surveys showed the following results:

A minority of born again adults (44 percent), and an even smaller proportion of born again teenagers (9 percent), are certain of the existence of absolute moral truth.
Fewer than one-third of all teenagers are likely to attend a Christian church once they are living independent of their parents.
Only a minority of born again teenagers (44 percent), claim that they are "absolutely committed to the Christian faith."
Baby Buster adults are widely regarded as highly spiritual, yet the share of 18-29 year olds within the born again population has dropped from 20 percent in 1991 to just 14 percent today.
Born again Christians spend seven times as much time on entertainment as they do on spiritual activities.
Although two-thirds of all teenagers say they know all the basic teachings and principles of the Christian faith, two-thirds of them reject the existence of Satan, three-fifths reject the existence of the Holy Spirit, and half believe that Jesus sinned during His lifetime. -- The Barna Research Group

Baucom, John Q., Fatal Choice: The Teenage Suicide Crisis, ISBN: 080242533X 9780802425331.
"In the face of the rising tide of teenage suicides, Baucom describes the reasons for depression, stresses, and failed expectations; self-destructiveness; and the hidden cries for help. He then furnishes a plan of action for health care professionals." -- Cyril J. Barber

*Borthwick, Paul, But you Don't Understand, ISBN: 0840795408 9780840795403.
"Borthwick gives solid advice on the everyday problems faced by parents of teenagers. In some ways, this is a bigger challenge than dealing with acute crises. It is in the day-in and day-out jousting over issues like honesty, morality, trust, and forgiveness, that Christian life patterns are shaped." -- Terry C. Muck

Cook, Earl, The Teenage Puzzle (part 1), (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
"What are the Biblical guidelines for raising Godly teenagers?" A 3-tape series of over 15 radio devotionals helping parents understand teenagers.
Audio cassette HFTF23 [audio file].

Cook, Earl, The Teenage Puzzle (part 2), (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette HFTF28 [audio file].

Cook, Earl, The Teenage Puzzle (part 3), (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).

Morris, Harold, Twice Pardoned: An Ex-Con Talks to Parents and Teens, ISBN: 0849906059 9780849906053.
"A true story in which a number of names have been changed to protect certain people. Morris had been convicted and sentenced to serve two life terms in jail. Today he is free and pardoned of his crimes and free in Christ. A truly amazing story of new birth and God's providential workings." -- GCB

Related Weblinks

The Caleb Campaign Office, Caleb Issues and Answers (West Frankfort, IL [The Caleb Campaign Office, Route 4, Box 274, West Frankfort 62896]: The Caleb Campaign).
This is a Christian newspaper for high school students. Boldly presents controversial issues of concern to teens, such as sexually transmitted diseases and abortion. For more information request the "Bill Jack Action Sheet" of August 21, 1991 from "Truths that Transform."

Girl Defined
https://www.girldefined.com/

Virtuousreality.com, a Website for all Women
http://www.virtuousreality.com/

Teens and Parents

Give instruction to a youth about his way,
Even when he is old he turneth not from it. (Proverbs 22:6, YLTHB)
The fathers! vex not your children, lest they be discouraged. (Colossians 4:21, YLTHB)

Davis, Ken, How to Live With Your Parents Without Losing Your Mind! ISBN: 0310323312 9780310323310.
"Will teach teenagers how to change their families by making changes in themselves -- and in the way they view their parents. Ken Davis gives those teenagers hope who previously felt that nothing could be done about their difficult home situations." -- Publisher

Floding, M., Ministering to Parents (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette TT106 [audio file].

Johnson, Rex, Communication: Key to Your Parents, ISBN: 0890811571 9780890811573.

Kesler, Jay, Ten Mistakes Parents Make With Teenagers (And how to Avoid Them), ISBN: 0943497175 9780943497174.
"A very specific, practical book that provides a workable guide for parenting that is invaluable. Kesler's insights come from his many years of working with teenagers." -- GCB

McPherson, John, How to Parent Your Teen Without Losing Your Mind: Questions and Answers for Parents From Today's Top Experts: From the Editors of "Christian Parenting Today" and "Campus Life," ISBN: 080549362X 9780805493627.

Strom, Kay Marshall, Making Friends With Your Mother, ISBN: 0310532515 9780310532514.

See also: Sharing christ with your children, Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justification, Justifying faith, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Spiritual adultery (spiritual whoredom/harlotry), Christian fiction, Classic christian fiction by martha finley, the elsie books series, and so forth, and so on.
TCRB5: 1629, 1634, 1635, 1644, 1648, 1672

Counseling Teens

Remember now thy Creator in the days of thy youth, while the evil days come not, nor the years draw nigh, when thou shalt say, I have no pleasure in them. (Ecclesiastes 12:1 1)
Thou wilt find then that it was easier deceiving thyself than God. For if a man think himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceiveth himself.
But let every man prove his own work, and then shall he have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another.
Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to the flesh, shall of the flesh reap corruption: but he that soweth to the Spirit, shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting. (Galatians 6:3-5,7)
Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy, to the only wise God our Saviour, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and ever. Amen. (Jude 24,25)
A Biblical Counselor tells the story of his high school son who attended church regularly with the family, but with little or no enthusiasm.
His father entered into a deal with his son to memorize verses of Scripture. The conditions: the father would select the verse, the son would memorize the verse, the father could request that he recite any verse at any time, each time he recited a verse correctly his father would pay him $5.00 (about 1976), if he failed to recite a verse correctly (word for word with the book, chapter, and verse), then he paid his father $5.00.
At first he memorized just for the money. Later he began requesting more verses. His father selected verses bearing on events in his son's life at the moment. As the number of verses grew, the father was able to request verses to be recited that spoke to the specific needs of the moment. By the time of his graduation from high school he had over 100 verses of Scripture committed to memory. The son then went to Columbia Seminary and is now a pastor. (For those who do not immediately see, this is a practical way to purchase the soul of a child, spouse, or neighbor for Christ before they barter it for a "mess of pottage.")

Alexander, Archibald (1772-1851), Difficulty of Knowing our Faults. In EVANGELICAL TRUTH: PRACTICAL SERMONS FOR THE CHRISTIAN HOME.

*Baxter, Richard (1615-1691), A Christian Directory: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1. Full title: A Christian Directory: or A Sum of Practical Theology, and Cases of Conscience. Directing Christians how to use Their Knowledge and Faith; How to Improve all Helps and Means, and to Perform all Duties; How to Overcome Temptations, and to Escape or Mortify Every Sin. In Four Parts.
I. Christian Ethics (or Private Duties)
II. Christian Economics (or Family Duties)
III. Christian Ecclesiastics (or Church Duties)
IV. Christian Politics (or Duties to Our Rulers and Neighbours) (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 1997, 1990, 1838, 1707, 1678, 1673), ISBN: 1877611131 9781877611131. Foreword by J.I. Packer (Soli Deo Gloria edition only). The Soli Deo Gloria publication is a facsimile reprint of the 19th century reprint by George Virtue, London, 1846. The original 1673 edition and the 1678 edition, both printed by Robert White for Nevill Simmons. Bibliographic and scriptural footnotes. A Christian classic. Considered to be among the ten greatest books in the English language. Available (less the J.I. Packer's Foreword, but searchable with an OCR-based index), on the Puritan Hard Drive.
This work is available in many editions, and in many formats.
Reformation Heritage Books has new copies of the Soli Deo Gloria edition (including the J.I. Packer Introduction), as of March 2008, even though it is generally thought to be out of print. They acquired Soli Deo Gloria from Ligonier Ministries in late 2007.
The best digital format of the reprint by George Virtue is included on the Puritan Hard Drive. It has an OCR scan in the background, meaning one can search the entire volume and copy text into another document. It also has a computer generated indexed from the OCR scan which is, of course, in Baxter's vocabulary.
A PDF image scan only of the same edition is available on the Reformation Bookshelf CD #21.
The reprint by George Virtue is available online and may be downloaded in PDF format at Christian Classics Ethereal Library.
The reprint by George Virtue appears in full preview in Google Books but may not be downloaded. So it is useful if the reader wants to become acquainted with the book. Text can be searched, but can not be copied into another document. This particular Google Books scan includes the contents in detail on pages iii-xix which is not included in the Christian Classics Ethereal Library PDF files. About five other editions from libraries are available in Google Books, and may be downloaded (August 2008).
Notice that the e-text in Google Books has the advantage of being searchable. Searching an image-based PDF file (without an OCR scan in the background), is not possible, unless the user owns software such as Abode Acrobat Pro or Kirtas BookScan Editor. They both have an OCR (optical character recognition), feature that will search an image-based PDFs (bit-map scans). Searches appear to be perfect in this work, although one must know Baxter's vocabulary. Text can be cut and pasted from image-based PDF format to OCR (character) format. This particular Google Books scan can not be cut and pasted or downloaded.
One of the older, multi-volume editions of THE WORKS OF RICHARD BAXTER is available at Monergism.com in the "Puritan Library," "Richard Baxter." A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, volume 23. It can be downloaded.
http://www.puritanlibrary.com/
Another older edition is available on microfilm (Ann Arbor, MI: University Microfilms, 1970), 1 microfilm reel, 35 mm (Early English books, 1641-1700; 343:11).
"The complete practical works of Richard Baxter are in print in four volumes entitled BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS. This volume (about 1 1/4 million words, 1028 pages), is volume one of the set. The editor's preface (1707), p. xiii, stated that the works of Richard Baxter are 'perhaps the best body of practical divinity that is extent in our own or any other tongue.' Richard Baxter lived from 1615-1691. The DIRECTORY was completed in 1665. Its scope was intended to cover all of practical theology, a summa of casuistry . . ." -- Don Kistler
"Baxter's series, which grew in range and scope as it proceeded . . . is a peak point in Puritan devotional writing, and remains a precious resource for all, in this or any age, who want to know what is involved in Biblical godliness. . . . A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY may justly be described as a landmark. It is the fullest, most thorough, and in this writer's judgment, most profound treatment of Christian spirituality and standards that has ever been attempted by an English-speaking Evangelical author. The fact that it embraces both spirituality and standards (the principles of communion with God plus the specifics of obedience to God), merits approving comment in itself; nowadays spirituality and ethics have become two distinct disciplines in the schools, and books written on either say virtually nothing about the other . . ." -- J.I. Packer
Timothy Keller calls it the greatest manual on Biblical counseling ever produced.
"There are many Puritan classics on this subject. Thomas Brooks' PRECIOUS REMEDIES FOR SATAN'S DEVICES, Thomas Goodwin's A CHILD OF LIGHT WALKING IN DARKNESS, William Bridge's A LIFTING UP FOR THE DOWNCAST, and many other similar works give evidence that the Puritans were. . . . masters at applying Biblical answers and principles to problems that can only be solved by spiritual means. No Puritan work, however, has ever approached the popularity, the scope, or the depth of Baxter's classic treatise. With the widespread interest in counseling in today's church, this reprint of Baxter's work should be a welcome addition to every pastor's library, or to anyone else who wishes to give solid Biblical answers to man's questions." -- Don Kistler
"We have long waited for a purely Biblical treatment of the spiritual ills and cures of men which is untainted by the views of psychology. Since Baxter lived about 200 years before psychology arrived, his deep work is completely void of its encroachment -- thankfully!" -- John MacArthur
"The kings men sought to arrest Richard Baxter, but he traveled ceaselessly from place to place, writing his sermons and his books even on horseback (he had an inkwell in his saddle), and preached over a wide area." -- Brian H. Edwards
"Baxter was a wonder of his age. His writings total 72 large volumes, much of it written on horseback as he traveled in his widespread preaching efforts. He seldom, if ever, edited anything he wrote. Knowing this any reader will be amazed at how well he communicated his deep love for his Savior. For 26 years he was public enemy No. 1 to the king, yet he lived to see the flight of the king in 1688." -- Jay P. Green, Sr. (1918-2008)
POOR MAN'S FAMILY BOOK (1674) and THE CATECHIZING OF FAMILIES (1683), are less detailed works and are found in THE REFORMED PASTOR: BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 4. They are more suitable for family instruction than are the detailed presentation in A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY.
"Ptacek in FAMILY WORSHIP: BIBLICAL BASIS, HISTORICAL REALITY, CURRENT NEED (pp. 51-52), supplies the following information in regard to Baxter and this book. He notes that after the Episcopalians ejected numerous 'nonconformists,' in what is know as the 'great ejection,' in 1662, 'Baxter pastored from house to house, visiting families of his parish in their homes. These visits contributed to Baxter's A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, a large and still very relevant manual of pastoral care.' Focusing on just one area of great importance, Ptacek demonstrates how this book's relevance is not limited by time or culture, though sometimes the use of specific words are. 'Published in 1673, but written 1664-65, a large book-length part of Baxter's CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY is devoted to the family. It is entitled 'Christian Economics' based on the archaic usage of the word, which reflects the proper sense of the Greek root oikonomos as the manager of a household, in the Christian case, the spiritual leader of the family. The family head is essential to Baxter's view of family worship and instruction. Baxter asserts that it is God's will that this instruction be carried out by the rulers of the families.' For a male head of the household to fail to do so, or to have another instruct in the family, is contrary to his position of authority.' This is the kind of book that can be passed on from generation to generation and still find much use in the service of the kingdom of God.
"Though relatively weak on corporate sanctification, corporate faithfulness and some important areas of doctrine (such as justification), Baxter's work on subjects related to personal piety can be of good practical use to the Christian -- if one is careful to separate out his aberrant doctrinal views and any practical errors they may lead to." -- Publisher
The following three excerpts are included as bonus free books on Reformation Bookshelf CD #28.
1. "The Duties of Parents for Their Children" from BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 1, A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, on Christian Economics, Chap. X., pp. 449-454.
2. "The Special Duties of Children Towards Their Parents" from BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 1, A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, on Christian Economics, Chap. XI., pp. 454-457.
3. "The Special Duties of Children and Youth Towards God" from BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 1, A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, on Christian Economics, Chap. XII., pp. 457-458).
A summary of currently (2012) available publications.
http://www.lettermen2.com/pwrbcd.html
Richard Baxter, from Wikipedia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Richard_Baxter

Miller, C. John (1928-1996), Youth Evangelism: Dealing With Depression and Suicide (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette CM101 [audio file].

Rogers, Judy, Pilgrim's Praise: Series of Worship and Praise Based on PILGRIM'S PROGRESS.
"A masterful series of worship and praise songs, and songs from PILGRIM'S PROGRESS by John Bunyan . . . full of sheer encouragement for Christians."
Rogers, Judy, Why Can't I see God? And Other Questions Children ask About God.
Twenty songs for children covering the great themes of the Bible. "Judy Rogers has done the impossible . . . and it is good!" -- Mary Pride
"I thought it was a wonderful way to present the catechism to kids by putting it in a song. A great way to start teaching your children about some of those hard to understand topics." -- Listener's Comment
Rogers, Judy, Go to the ant: Songs Taken From Proverbs for Children, [audio file].
"Our whole family enjoys it! Your music is filled with wonderful Biblical truths for everyone."
Rogers, Judy, Walkin' Wise.
Songs based on Psalms, Proverbs, and Ecclesiastes for teens.
"A powerful message for teens."
Rogers, Judy, Stand Up.
"Songs dealing with 'Teen' issues challenging Christian young people to deeper commitment. Songs such as 'Glorify Him' (1 Corinthians 10:31); 'That's not Love' (1 Corinthians 13)."
Rogers, Judy, Arise! Shine! New Recording!
"Heart and soul inspiring Scripture songs and hymns of praise and worship! Songs such as 'Arise! Shine!' (Isaiah 60, 2 Chronicles 7:14); 'Clap Your Hands' (Psalm 47).
Rogers, Judy, Guard Your Heart, [audio file], ISBN: 0005158524 9780005158524.
Rogers, Judy, and Trena Rogers, Straight for the heart.
Shop Judy Rogers Music Online
http://www.judyrogers.com/catalog.php?item=4&ret=judyrogers.com%2Fcatalog.php%3Fpage%3D1%26item%3D6

Sherouse, Deborah L., Adolescent Drug and Alcohol Abuse Handbook: For Parents and Professionals, ISBN: 0398051682 9780398051686.
"A must for parents, teachers, and pastors. Describes the symptoms of substance abuse and its effects on communication and relationships. Explains the path to recovery. Comprehensive in its treatment, with information on resources and state referral agencies." -- Cyril J. Barber

Terkelsen, Helen E., Counseling the Unwed Mother.

Terkelsen, Helen E., I'm Going to Have a Baby and I'm not Married, ISBN: 0800619943.

See also: The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, The doctrine of man (human nature, total depravity), Sharing christ with your children, Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justification, Justifying faith, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Spiritual adultery (spiritual whoredom/harlotry), Slavery, our systems of enslavement, economic enslavement, Counsel for young men, Counsel for young women, Counseling the family, Courtship, Abstinence, Christian fiction, Classic christian fiction by martha finley, Sexually transmitted diseases, Sex ethics, sex education, Counseling the family, Biblical counsel by subject, Parenting, Justifying faith, Topical listings of Scripture, Training in biblical counseling, Works of jay adams, Classic christian fiction by martha finley, and so forth, and so on.
TCRB5: 1647, 1649, 1650, 1657

Related Weblinks

Girl Defined
https://www.girldefined.com/

Virtuousreality.com, a Website for all Women
http://www.virtuousreality.com/

Courtship

Defoe, Daniel, Religious Courtship: Being Historical Discourses, on the Necessity of Marrying Religious Husbands and Wives Only, 1743. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22.

Powlison, David (1949-2019), and John Yenchko, Pre-engagement: Five Questions to ask Yourselves, ISBN: 0875526799 9780875526799.

Price, Greg L., Dating or Courtship: Which is Biblical? (1/2). Available on the Puritan Hard Drive.

Price, Greg L., The Puritan View of Marriage and the Family (#3),"Preparing for Marriage," an ongoing MP3 [audio file] and video series. Available on the Puritan Hard Drive. Available on Reformation Bookshelf CD #22.
Contains advanced teaching on courtship.

West, Jim, Christian Courtship Verses the Dating Game.
"Important Biblical principles are considered that have nearly been lost in our day." -- GCB

Wood, Stephen D., The ABC's of Choosing a Good Husband: How to Find and Marry a Great guy, ISBN: 1965856241 9781965856246.

See also: Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Spiritual adultery (spiritual whoredom/harlotry), Slavery, our systems of enslavement, economic enslavement, Abstinence, Men, women and God, Christian fiction, Classic christian fiction by martha finley, the elsie books series, and so forth, and so on.
TCRB5: 1619, 3875, 3880

Related Weblinks

Girl Defined
https://www.girldefined.com/

Virtuousreality.com, a Website for all Women
http://www.virtuousreality.com/

Teens and Sex
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr2chb.html#tnsasx

Finding the Perfect Parent in God

Remember that you are entering into the way to everlasting life, and not into a place of happiness or continuance. Presently therefore set your hearts on heaven, and make it the design of all your lives, to live in heaven with Christ for ever. O happy you, if God betimes will thoroughly teach you to know what it is that must make you happy; and if at your first setting out, your end be right, and your faces be heavenward! Remember that as soon as you begin to live, you are hasting towards the end of your lives: even as a candle as soon as it beginneth to burn, and the hour-glass as soon as it is turned, is wasting, and hasting to its end; so as soon as you begin to live, your lives are in consumption, and posting towards your final hour. . . . -- Richard Baxter (1615-1691)
When my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me up. (Psalm 27:10)

Clark, Kristen, Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity, and Identity, ISBN: 9780801008450 080100845X.
"Presents a Christian perspective on femininity and female identity, maintaining that women should derive their feelings of self-worth and dignity from the teachings of Jesus Christ and a trust in God's love." -- Publisher
"GIRL DEFINED answered questions such as, 'What does it mean to be a woman? How should a career fit into our lives? Is one gender more valuable than the other? Is my sole purpose just to grow up, get married, and have kids?' . . . .
"It challenged the thinking of girls at any stage of life, and stood up to cultural norms to see what the Bible really says.
"One of my favorite . . . . quotes, 'God designed us to function best when we're paddling together for a cause greater than ourselves.' . . .
"And another favorite . . . quote that sums up one of the central themes of the entire book, 'Helping others is foundational in God's design for womanhood.' . . .
I've been following Kristen and Bethany's blog, girldefined.com, for quite some time now, and have loved their posts about what biblical womanhood looks like. This book was a fantastic summarization of everything they blog about -- from gender roles, to beauty, to identity, to culture, and relationships." -- Reader's Comment

McClung, Floyd, Jr., The Father Heart of God, ISBN: 9780736912150 0736912150.
"You'll will discover that no problem is too great or too insignificant for your Father in Heaven. The author illustrates how the loving, compassion of God enables us to overcome insecurity and the devastating effects of some of life's most painful experiences." -- Publisher
Helpful for those who may be alienated from God in part by family problems.

Packer, J.I. (1926-2020), Your Father Loves you: Daily Insights for Knowing God, ISBN: 0877889759 9780877889755.

See also: The sovereign grace of god: his everlasting mercy and lovingkindness, The doctrine of man (human nature, total depravity), The characteristics and attributes of god, The fatherhood of god, Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justification, Justifying faith, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, and so forth, and so on.
TCRB5: 739-745, 1246, 1247

Teens Coping With the World

See the Theological Notes: "The Fall" at Genesis 3:6 in The Reformation Study Bible.
But of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God hath said, Ye shall not eat of it, neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die.
And the serpent said unto the woman, Ye shall not surely die: For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil.
And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat. And the eyes of them both were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together, and made themselves aprons. (Genesis 3:3-7)
Matthew Henry commenting on Genesis 3:6-13
https://www.biblestudytools.com/commentaries/matthew-henry-complete/genesis/3.html
John Gill commenting on Genesis 3:7
https://www.biblestudytools.com/commentaries/gills-exposition-of-the-bible/genesis-3-7.html

*Baxter, Richard (1615-1691), A Christian Directory: Baxter's Practical Works, Vol. 1. Full title: A Christian Directory: or A Sum of Practical Theology, and Cases of Conscience. Directing Christians how to use Their Knowledge and Faith; How to Improve all Helps and Means, and to Perform all Duties; How to Overcome Temptations, and to Escape or Mortify Every Sin. In Four Parts.
I. Christian Ethics (or Private Duties)
II. Christian Economics (or Family Duties)
III. Christian Ecclesiastics (or Church Duties)
IV. Christian Politics (or Duties to Our Rulers and Neighbours) (Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 1997, 1990, 1838, 1707, 1678, 1673), ISBN: 1877611131 9781877611131. Foreword by J.I. Packer (Soli Deo Gloria edition only). The Soli Deo Gloria publication is a facsimile reprint of the 19th century reprint by George Virtue, London, 1846. The original 1673 edition and the 1678 edition, both printed by Robert White for Nevill Simmons. Bibliographic and scriptural footnotes. A Christian classic. Considered to be among the ten greatest books in the English language. Available (less the J.I. Packer's Foreword, but searchable with an OCR-based index), on the Puritan Hard Drive.
This work is available in many editions, and in many formats.
Reformation Heritage Books has new copies of the Soli Deo Gloria edition (including the J.I. Packer Introduction), as of March 2008, even though it is generally thought to be out of print. They acquired Soli Deo Gloria from Ligonier Ministries in late 2007.
The best digital format of the reprint by George Virtue is included on the Puritan Hard Drive. It has an OCR scan in the background, meaning one can search the entire volume and copy text into another document. It also has a computer generated indexed from the OCR scan which is, of course, in Baxter's vocabulary.
A PDF image scan only of the same edition is available on the Reformation Bookshelf CD #21.
The reprint by George Virtue is available online and may be downloaded in PDF format at Christian Classics Ethereal Library.
The reprint by George Virtue appears in full preview in Google Books but may not be downloaded. So it is useful if the reader wants to become acquainted with the book. Text can be searched, but can not be copied into another document. This particular Google Books scan includes the contents in detail on pages iii-xix which is not included in the Christian Classics Ethereal Library PDF files. About five other editions from libraries are available in Google Books, and may be downloaded (August 2008).
Notice that the e-text in Google Books has the advantage of being searchable. Searching an image-based PDF file (without an OCR scan in the background), is not possible, unless the user owns software such as Abode Acrobat Pro or Kirtas BookScan Editor. They both have an OCR (optical character recognition), feature that will search an image-based PDFs (bit-map scans). Searches appear to be perfect in this work, although one must know Baxter's vocabulary. Text can be cut and pasted from image-based PDF format to OCR (character) format. This particular Google Books scan can not be cut and pasted or downloaded.
One of the older, multi-volume editions of THE WORKS OF RICHARD BAXTER is available at Monergism.com in the "Puritan Library," "Richard Baxter." A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, volume 23. It can be downloaded.
http://www.puritanlibrary.com/
Another older edition is available on microfilm (Ann Arbor, MI: University Microfilms, 1970), 1 microfilm reel, 35 mm (Early English books, 1641-1700; 343:11).
"The complete practical works of Richard Baxter are in print in four volumes entitled BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS. This volume (about 1 1/4 million words, 1028 pages), is volume one of the set. The editor's preface (1707), p. xiii, stated that the works of Richard Baxter are 'perhaps the best body of practical divinity that is extent in our own or any other tongue.' Richard Baxter lived from 1615-1691. The DIRECTORY was completed in 1665. Its scope was intended to cover all of practical theology, a summa of casuistry . . ." -- Don Kistler
"Baxter's series, which grew in range and scope as it proceeded . . . is a peak point in Puritan devotional writing, and remains a precious resource for all, in this or any age, who want to know what is involved in Biblical godliness. . . . A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY may justly be described as a landmark. It is the fullest, most thorough, and in this writer's judgment, most profound treatment of Christian spirituality and standards that has ever been attempted by an English-speaking Evangelical author. The fact that it embraces both spirituality and standards (the principles of communion with God plus the specifics of obedience to God), merits approving comment in itself; nowadays spirituality and ethics have become two distinct disciplines in the schools, and books written on either say virtually nothing about the other . . ." -- J.I. Packer
Timothy Keller calls it the greatest manual on Biblical counseling ever produced.
"There are many Puritan classics on this subject. Thomas Brooks' PRECIOUS REMEDIES FOR SATAN'S DEVICES, Thomas Goodwin's A CHILD OF LIGHT WALKING IN DARKNESS, William Bridge's A LIFTING UP FOR THE DOWNCAST, and many other similar works give evidence that the Puritans were. . . . masters at applying Biblical answers and principles to problems that can only be solved by spiritual means. No Puritan work, however, has ever approached the popularity, the scope, or the depth of Baxter's classic treatise. With the widespread interest in counseling in today's church, this reprint of Baxter's work should be a welcome addition to every pastor's library, or to anyone else who wishes to give solid Biblical answers to man's questions." -- Don Kistler
"We have long waited for a purely Biblical treatment of the spiritual ills and cures of men which is untainted by the views of psychology. Since Baxter lived about 200 years before psychology arrived, his deep work is completely void of its encroachment -- thankfully!" -- John MacArthur
"The kings men sought to arrest Richard Baxter, but he traveled ceaselessly from place to place, writing his sermons and his books even on horseback (he had an inkwell in his saddle), and preached over a wide area." -- Brian H. Edwards
"Baxter was a wonder of his age. His writings total 72 large volumes, much of it written on horseback as he traveled in his widespread preaching efforts. He seldom, if ever, edited anything he wrote. Knowing this any reader will be amazed at how well he communicated his deep love for his Savior. For 26 years he was public enemy No. 1 to the king, yet he lived to see the flight of the king in 1688." -- Jay P. Green, Sr. (1918-2008)
POOR MAN'S FAMILY BOOK (1674) and THE CATECHIZING OF FAMILIES (1683), are less detailed works and are found in THE REFORMED PASTOR: BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 4. They are more suitable for family instruction than are the detailed presentation in A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY.
"Ptacek in FAMILY WORSHIP: BIBLICAL BASIS, HISTORICAL REALITY, CURRENT NEED (pp. 51-52), supplies the following information in regard to Baxter and this book. He notes that after the Episcopalians ejected numerous 'nonconformists,' in what is know as the 'great ejection,' in 1662, 'Baxter pastored from house to house, visiting families of his parish in their homes. These visits contributed to Baxter's A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, a large and still very relevant manual of pastoral care.' Focusing on just one area of great importance, Ptacek demonstrates how this book's relevance is not limited by time or culture, though sometimes the use of specific words are. 'Published in 1673, but written 1664-65, a large book-length part of Baxter's CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY is devoted to the family. It is entitled 'Christian Economics' based on the archaic usage of the word, which reflects the proper sense of the Greek root oikonomos as the manager of a household, in the Christian case, the spiritual leader of the family. The family head is essential to Baxter's view of family worship and instruction. Baxter asserts that it is God's will that this instruction be carried out by the rulers of the families.' For a male head of the household to fail to do so, or to have another instruct in the family, is contrary to his position of authority.' This is the kind of book that can be passed on from generation to generation and still find much use in the service of the kingdom of God.
"Though relatively weak on corporate sanctification, corporate faithfulness and some important areas of doctrine (such as justification), Baxter's work on subjects related to personal piety can be of good practical use to the Christian -- if one is careful to separate out his aberrant doctrinal views and any practical errors they may lead to." -- Publisher
The following three excerpts are included as bonus free books on Reformation Bookshelf CD #28.
1. "The Duties of Parents for Their Children" from BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 1, A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, on Christian Economics, Chap. X., pp. 449-454.
2. "The Special Duties of Children Towards Their Parents" from BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 1, A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, on Christian Economics, Chap. XI., pp. 454-457.
3. "The Special Duties of Children and Youth Towards God" from BAXTER'S PRACTICAL WORKS, VOL. 1, A CHRISTIAN DIRECTORY, on Christian Economics, Chap. XII., pp. 457-458).
A summary of currently (2012) available publications.
http://www.lettermen2.com/pwrbcd.html
Richard Baxter, from Wikipedia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Richard_Baxter

Becker, Verne, The Campus Life Guide to Surviving High School, ISBN: 0310710014 9780310710011. Alternate title: SURVIVING HIGH SCHOOL.
"A guide to coping with the conflicts and changes of the high school years, including feelings, family relationships, and one's own body. Uses firsthand stories of people who have found God helpful." -- Publisher
"Articles by Jay Kesler, Philip Yancey, Ruth Senter, Tim Stafford, Steve Lawhead, and others." -- GCB

Cook, Robert, It's Tough to be a Teenager.
"Written by one who is cognizant of and sympathetic with the problems of youth." -- Cyril J. Barber

Miller, C. John (1928-1996), Youth Evangelism: Dealing With Depression and Suicide (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation).
Audio cassette CM101 [audio file].

See also: Creeds, confessions and catechisms, Biblical counsel by subject, Sharing christ with your children, Repentance the key to salvation and change, Justification, Justifying faith, Selection of covenant heads for positions of leadership, Sexual relationship, Spiritual adultery (spiritual whoredom/harlotry), Slavery, our systems of enslavement, economic enslavement, Abstinence, Preparing children for the world, Protecting children from dangers, Suicide, Christianity and the workplace, Counseling teens, Crisis counseling, Depression, Parenting, Prodigals, Pseudo-christian movements: a selection of works, Reconciliation of relationships, Resources for students, Secret societies and unholy alliance, Sex, Sexually transmitted diseases Sex ethics, sex education, Teens, and so forth, and so on.

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Girl Defined
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http://www.MasteringLife.org

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True Love Waits
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Virtuousreality.com, a Website for all Women
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Colonial Education

One hundred and six of the first 108 schools in America were founded on the Christian faith.
In early American history, a literate and well-educated majority of Americans thrived without a national, tax-funded educational program. In fact, few of the men who signed the Declaration of Independence and drafted the U.S. Constitution had ever seen a public school, and yet they benefitted from a free system of education vastly superior to the imagined benefits of today's state-controlled schooling.
What happened over the course of the last two and a half centuries? Why did Americans surrender the educational freedom that produced such widespread academic excellence to embrace a state of functional illiteracy under complete government control? In his seminal book Is Public Education Necessary? Samuel Blumenfeld unpacks two centuries of source material to present an accurate history of the religious and philosophical transformations that gave birth to the educational statism controlling America's children today. -- Samuel Blumenfeld in Is Public Education Necessary?

Alexander, Archibald (1772-1851), Biographical Sketches of the Founder and Principal Alumni of the Log College: Together With an Account of the Revivals of Religion Under Their Ministry, ISBN: 0851510043 9780851510040. Alternate title: THE LOG COLLEGE: BIOGRAPHICAL SKETCHES OF WILLIAM TENNENT AND HIS STUDENTS.
Biographical Sketches of the Founder and Principal Alumni of the Log College
http://archive.org/details/biographicalske00alexgoog

*Blumenfeld, Samuel, Is Public Education Necessary? ISBN: 0815958269 9780815958260.
"This book tells, for the first time, the story of how and why Americans gave up educational freedom so early in their history for the imagined benefits of state-controlled education. The author delves into a wealth of original sources to reveal how a comparative handful of secularists, who were more concerned with destroying religion than with freeing man, spearheaded the drive toward public education. Centered at Harvard, this nineteenth-century liberal elite worked tirelessly -- and successfully -- to put America on the road to educational statism. By exploring the very roots of the system, this book provides the missing link in our educational history." -- Publisher

Cremin, Lawrence A., American Education, ISBN: 0060109122 9780060109127.
"The most authoritative work on this subject is the brilliantly researched 688-page volume by Lawrence A. Cremin. . . . Dr. Cremin makes it plain there was no such thing as a secular school in colonial America. There were many kinds of schools, but all were explicitly Christian." -- Charles Hull Wolff

Cunningham, William (1805-1861), The Meaning of Religious Education.
"William Cunningham was an eminent Anglican priest and author in the late 19th and early 20th centuries.
"He was born in Edinburgh [3] on 23 December 1849 and educated at the city's Academy before becoming a scholar at Trinity College, Cambridge. He was ordained in 1873 and was a Lecturer at his old university to 1891 when he became Professor of Economics at King's College, London.[4] In 1907 he was appointed Archdeacon of Ely, a post he held until[5] his death on 10 June 1919.[6]" -- Wikipedia (William Cunningham)

Day, Heather F., Protestant Theological Education in America: A Bibliography, ISBN: 0810818426 9780810818422.

Gangel, Kenneth O., and Warren S. Benson, Christian Education: Its History and Philosophy, ISBN: 0802435610 9780802435613.
"This is a detailed look into the history of Christian Education, starting in the Old Testament and considering the impact of Greek philosophy right on through the last quarter of the 20th century. It is a historical study of the philosophical thought of education from a Christian point of view." -- GCB

McGuffey, William, McGuffey's Eclectic Readers, 1836-37, 7 volumes, ISBN: 0880620145 9780880620147.

Ringenberg, William C., The Christian College: A History of Protestant Higher Education in America, ISBN: 0802819966 9780802819963

*Singer, C. Gregg (1910-1999), From Rationalism to Irrationality: The Decline of the Western Mind From the Renaissance to the Present, ISBN: 0875524281 9780875524283 and a reprint of the P&R Publishing edition of 1979 (Wipf and Stock, 2006), 479 pp.
"Now, frankly students, this course is presented from obviously the Reformed Theology. I hold unabashedly, unashamedly to the whole of Reformed Theology as we find it specifically in the Westminster Confession of Faith (1646) and the Larger and Shorter Catechisms.
"At the same time I hold to a position in regard to Apologetics generally known as Presuppositionalism, and particularly that view held by Cornelius Van Til.
"This book is an attempt to enlarge and to broaden the scope of Van Til's own Apologetical system, and also his Epistemology. By that I mean, and I worked this book with him, so anything that I say is not to be construed as a criticism of Cornelius Van Til. I might add he wrote me a letter. He is delighted with this book. But what I did was to take his principles, both of Apologetics and of Epistemology, and apply them to all realms of modern thought.
"Dr. Van Til, for good and sufficient reason, sought to limit to the main stream of what we might call pure Philosophy, that is from Saint Thomas, well even before them, back to the Greeks, but particularly in the more modern period, from Saint Thomas Aquinas, William of Ockham (Occam), down through Descartes, the Rationalists, the Empiricists, down to Kant and Hegel, and of course Modern Philosophy and Modern Theology. Very seldom has he gone into what we might call the arena of Political Philosophy, or the arena of Social Thought, or the arena of Psychology and Psychiatry, the realm of Educational Philosophy, and into Art, Music, and so on, to the Fine Arts.
"This book is an attempt to apply his system, and show what happens when the Western mind has forsaken his principles, or the principles which he has espoused, and turned into its own way. And thus the book called FROM RATIONALISM TO IRRATIONALITY. The thesis being that the Rationalism inherent in Saint Thomas and the post-Thomists, and more particularly, and more openly, in the Philosophy of the Renaissance, and Descartes, and Spinosa, and Leibniz has, as it's gained momentum in the modern world, brought Western Culture to its knees. We are living, as I would think, in the death throws of the Western Cultures, the Western Civilization." -- Dr. C. Gregg Singer, in the introductory address to his course in Apologetics soon after FROM RATIONALISM TO IRRATIONALITY came off the press in 1979
Apologetics: #01: Classical and Medieval Thought #1
Dr. C. Gregg Singer, Apologetics, 56 min.
http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?SID=2250511453
"Locke endeavored to set forth a political philosophy which would anchor his democratic political thought on what he felt were the firm foundations of his empiricism. However, his insistence that nature has bestowed upon mankind certain basic and inalienable rights was an assumption quite contrary to his empiricism. His denial of conscience as an innate possession or quality makes it impossible for men to know that they possess the rights of life, liberty, and property. The very concept of a human right is moral in nature and has its basis of authority in the human conscience. It is thus impossible for men to know through the senses that they have these cherished human rights. Granted that it was far from Locke's intention to undermine or destroy the traditional English concept of personal rights, his empiricism removed from his political thought the necessary foundations on which a government could be built for the protection of these rights. His empiricism supported neither the idea that men have such rights nor that they are inalienable. (p. 61)
"Underlying the secular and naturalistic assumptions of the thought of the Enlightenment was a related and equally serious problem. In their political and economic thought the leaders of this era were passionately devoted to the pursuit of freedom, and yet they seemed to be completely unaware of this incompatibility between their quest for freedom on the one hand and their reliance upon natural law on the other. How can an impersonal and deterministic concept of law produce and sustain a meaningful concept of freedom? Blindly convinced that there was no problem involved in the contradiction, the leaders of the Enlightenment pushed boldly ahead in the quest for political and economic liberty. However, their failure to recognize the issues involved in this quest led not only to the disaster of the French Revolution but to the growth of the totalitarian political and economic philosophies which first appeared in Hegel and Marx during the nineteenth century and reached their culmination in the totalitarianism of the twentieth century." (p. 73) -- quoted at the blog, Imago Veritatis: Post-modern Reformed Paleo-orthodoxy
Singer used this as textbook for his course in Apologetics. Epistemology is a recurring theme throughout the textbook and the course. The series of 24 addresses on Apologetics is available free online. See: "Apologetics" under:
Works of C. Gregg Singer
http://www.lettermen2.com/bcrr3ch.html#cgsinger

*Singer, C. Gregg (1910-1999), A Theological Interpretation of American History, 1994 edition, 354 pages (Greenville, SC: A Press, 1994, 1981, 1975, 1974, 1964), ISBN: 0875524265 9780875524269. A Christian classic.
This book portrays "the influence of theology and the changing doctrines in the life of the church on the pattern of American political, constitutional, social and economic development.
"The author shows that the decline of constitutional government in this country is the result of the departure from historical Christian faith and the resulting rise of alien political philosophies. Particularly does he emphasize the intimate relationship between theological liberalism on the one hand and political, social, and economic liberalism on the other. This theological liberalism has been a major agent in the decline of the Constitution in the political life of the people and in the appearance of a highly centralized government." -- Publisher
"There is between the democratic philosophy and theological liberalism a basic affinity which has placed them in the same camp in many major political struggles.
"This condition exists because theological liberalism shares the basic postulates of the democratic philosophy. . . .
"Theological liberalism at heart has been a continuing protest against Calvinism, particularly against its insistence on the Sovereignty of God and the Total Depravity of the race. These two Biblical doctrines have often proved to be a stumbling block to theologians within the church as well as to the unbelieving world.
"The result of theological liberalism has been the movement away from constitutionalism and away from liberty, and a movement toward collectivistic society and totalitarian regime." -- C. Gregg Singer, A Theological Interpretation of American History, p. 290
See also: John Knox, the Scottish Covenanters, and the Westminster Assembly (tape 3 of 5) in a series of addresses History Notes on Presbyterianism, Reformation, and Theology by Dr. C. Gregg Singer on SermonAudio.com